ASK UNCUT: "My husband is adamant he doesn't want a cat... should I just go get a cat?"

Every week, Britt & Laura take on your deepest, darkest dilemmas and unpack them (and HOPEFULLY come up with an answer for you). 

Stacey joined the show today to chat with Britt & Matty J about the future cat that her husband doesn't know about yet. 

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:10):
I heard podcasts, Heem More Kiss podcast playlist and listen
live on the free iHeart app. Now, Matt, it's Thursday,
so just to get you up to speed. I know
it's still early days for you, but we do ask
gun Cut every Thursday. That's what we do on our
podcast Life on Cup podcast.

Speaker 2 (00:26):
You know I love Ask Guncut.

Speaker 1 (00:27):
You do love it.

Speaker 2 (00:29):
I've been such a big fan since way back when.
I just love getting involved in other people's business.

Speaker 1 (00:34):
Well, this one I picked particularly for you because you
have a very lived experience. We have Stacy on the line,
who is having some issues with her partner and a cat.
Stacy just explain to everyone what the issue is.

Speaker 3 (00:49):
Okay, So we lost our family cats earlier this year,
so which was quite hard at the time, as we
all know what losing Petty's like.

Speaker 2 (00:57):
Stacy, I'm so.

Speaker 3 (00:57):
Sorry, thank you, but I feel I'm ready to get
another cat, but my husband is very much against it
around like I mentioned a couple of months ago, and
he's like, I'm not ready, Like I didn't realize how
much the loss would affect me. So I'm like, I'll
give you time. I respect that, but now I'm at
the point that I really want a cat companion. He's

(01:19):
a shift worker, so there's times like I'm home alone,
so it's like I'm having the companion around, I don't
know how to go about just going to get fun.

Speaker 2 (01:27):
Look, this is a really complicated situation. You found yourself in, Stacey,
and thank you, mate, And again my heart goes out
to you and your family regarding the loss of your cat.
Can I ask was it your boyfriend or husband?

Speaker 3 (01:41):
Husband? Husband? Cat kind of came into our lives. It
was nine years ago. We kind of have adopted in
woman to have him for a weekend, and nine years
later we still had it. So his name was syllem
s I l o M really weird. So he's called
him silly Cat.

Speaker 1 (02:01):
I'm judging it's a really weird name.

Speaker 3 (02:04):
Yeah, wasn't our choice, so we stuck with silly Cat,
but yeah, he was. It was funny because we kind
of got him right at the beginning of our relationship
as well, so it was we just moved in together,
oh probably three weeks before we kind of rescued him.

Speaker 2 (02:18):
I'm going to tell you something very important and if
I could just ask quickly before I tell you this information,
can you just take a quick seat if you're not
already seated, if that's okay. So men, and I say
this as a man, we are really dumb. Okay, we
don't know what we want.

Speaker 1 (02:34):
I'm so glad you said that.

Speaker 2 (02:36):
And sometimes we just dig our heels in for just
the sake of digging our heels in. We just want
to dig him in. We'll dig him into anything. And
I was once your husband in a sense. Laura had
a cat. She was called Lady and a Cat on
her Instagram. She had a cat, can't remember its name,
not important, and it died, was hit by a car.

(02:56):
And Laura said, I want a new cat, and I
said no, and she then went out got the cat.
And when I saw the cat, I was like, oh
my gosh, I actually did really want a cat and
I didn't know it.

Speaker 1 (03:08):
So let me just extended this conversation a little bit.
Matt said he didn't want a cat. Laura brought the
cat home. Matt was like, so cute, and then a
week later he was like, I don't want the cat anymore.

Speaker 2 (03:16):
That is an absolute lie. And Stacey, it's important for
you to stay focused on what I am saying in
this situation. I am the expert here, go out buy
any cat that you like, and I guarantee, regardless of
the breed, regardless of the sex, regardless of the name,
your husband will love this cat.

Speaker 3 (03:34):
So the end in divorce, I can come back to you, right,
I think it's guaranteed. No, I think in.

Speaker 1 (03:41):
All seriousness, like, of course you're supposed to meet in
the middle as a couple and like both agree on something.
But I would say, in this situation, your feelings and
your situation at home in terms of being alone all
the time, I think that supersedes him saying no, I
don't want one. So I think you just need to say, look,
it's really important to me, Like I feel really lonely
when you're not here. I feel like I need something

(04:01):
or someone else in the house. And if it's not
going to be someone, it can be a cat.

Speaker 3 (04:07):
That's what I'll get. That's kind of where I've tried
to like starting to lead it.

Speaker 2 (04:12):
If it doesn't and divorce, Brittany has a spare room
in her apartment, so you're totally fine.

Speaker 3 (04:17):
I'm the catface. I'm the catfree space.

Speaker 1 (04:21):
Hey, good luck, Stacy. Thank you for calling us, But
thank you so much. I do have some good news.
You might not get a cat, but you do get
some Sony earbuds just for calling us today. These are like,
these are really really good noise canceling tech clearer calls.
They're very stylish, so they're all yours just for calling
up today.

Speaker 3 (04:37):
I really appreciate it, and thank you so much for the advice.
And thank you, Mattie. You're doing a great job in
the seat, I'll tell you that much. I really appreciate
you taking the time to help me out.

Speaker 2 (04:45):
You're very welcome. Thank you. Stacy