July 23, 2025 • 16 mins
Britt & Laura chat about hook up etiquette after a woman cleaned her Bumble date's entire house. We discuss whether 16 year olds are old enough to vote, and would you break up with someone if they didn't propose within 2 years?
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Speaker 1 (00:10):
Hi Heart podcasts.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Hear more Kiss podcast playlist and listen live on the
Free iHeart app.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
Good pickup with Britt Hockley and.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Laura Ben Bady your work, our windows down, that's my
worries in the dust.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Only good fabs all down.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
I've done much, but yeah I'm not.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
I'll beg get and what I want. It don't matter where.
This is the picker.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
Hello everybody, Welcome to Wednesday. Well, Wednesday Afternoon's pick Up
with Brit Hockey and Laura Ben.
Speaker 3 (00:44):
How are we feeling this fine Wednesday? Well?
Speaker 1 (00:46):
I am.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
I brought you a really interesting frog fact yesterday.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
For sure if you guys missed.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
The show, turns out that frogs or some species fake
dead so that they don't have to mate with their
partners as in with other frogs, they don't find another
frog attractive. But I have another animal fact for you today, Bricks.
I know you're really into them. I actually do love
animal facts. I think that my phone must have been
listening to me because I came across that frog fact.
I saved it and then I shared it with you,
(01:12):
and then literally last night it was laying in bed
and that was scrabbed.
Speaker 3 (01:14):
That's how the algorithm works, and I saved it, talked
about it.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
But it's so specific. Okay, So here it is. When
female octopuses are in the mood to mate, they strangle
and they eat the male.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
Who would have thought that.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
All of these female animals out there have such clever
ways of being.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Able to like get out of it clever. That's murder. No,
I know we can't do that. Here, I get that
you can't. You're taking inspiration from the frog.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
I didn't say. I didn't say, yes, say you can
just roll over and pretend.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
To be asleep. But that's okay.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
I just my phone knows and knows where I'm at
at the moment.
Speaker 3 (01:45):
Yeah, that's that's the so where the algorithm works.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
Shut up, Remember you just had to reset.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
Your phone if you miss I know, because it was
so gross, Like the things that Laura was being fed
was like the grossest things on a body you could imagine.
It was like pimple popping video pimple popping and like
ingrowing toenails and stuff like you really were going through
it for a second.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Yeah, and now I'm into animal facts and how to
get out of mating with your partner anyway.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
I know if that's more what it is.
Speaker 3 (02:09):
It's not the animal facts, it's ways to get out
of mazing.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
Now, brit When it comes to hookups or like bringing
home potentially a one night stand or someone who you're
in the very early stages of dating, Yeah, I.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
Did have a one night stand and then I married him.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
You don't cout because I feel like you did it wrong.
I'm talking about yeah, like, what is the etiquette when
you bring them home?
Speaker 1 (02:33):
When do you ask them to leave?
Speaker 2 (02:35):
I feel like most people have good intuition and they're
like most people do leave either the night of or
they leave in the morning.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
But would you ever.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
Like leave and go to work and just let them
lay around in your bed?
Speaker 3 (02:46):
Absolutely not if I didn't know them, and it really was,
like I guess the epitome of a one night stand.
I would never leave someone I don't know in my
house alone with my staff.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
I guess it differs.
Speaker 3 (02:57):
Sometimes you when you're online dating. It might be the
first time you've met up with them, but you might
have had an online connection with them for weeks or
months or whatever, and you feel like you know them.
So maybe, but I wouldn't believing anyone in my home
that I don't know.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
Yeah, okay, I think it's weird.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
I think that you've got to at least be in
on a few dates before you get to the stage
of not a few dates, Like they've got to come
to her house a few times before you get to
the stage of like just lull around in bed for
a while and I'm going to go to work. Leave
whenever you're ready, lock the door behind you. But there
is a guy who has gone viral online because he
had a very well look. It's turned out very fortunate
for him how his date ended up leaving after he said.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
She could stay around for a bit longer. Have listened
to this.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
So I had a bumble date last night and I
left at four am this morning and just told her
to lock up?
Speaker 1 (03:39):
Did she clean my bathroom? Makes my bed? And the
kicker is she done all like ninety percent of my
laundry and I hate doing laundry.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
So I don't know if I've done something right, maybe
done something wrong, Maybe she felt sorry for.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
Me, or I'd give a second date. Who knows, but
that was definitely the best one over. Oh you're getting
a second date. Some chick's not doing that for you
and never see.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
You have to see this video. She hasn't just like tidy.
She's deep cleaned the bars through. She has folded every
piece of his wardrobe that was like left out. All
of his laundry is folded in piles on the bed.
She's completely vacuumed, made the bed like the house is pristine.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
I would love that.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
I would love someone to come and clean my house.
Where I think I would draw the line is the washing,
like a I no one touching my dirty clothes.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
No one's going through my stuff.
Speaker 3 (04:28):
You're not sniffing my unders, like get your head out
of my dirty clothes, buss.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
I just think it.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
Firstly, you've peaked too early, girlfriend, Like what standard are
you setting for yourself? What does that say? There is
no need. I think the absolute most that you need
to do is like pull the covers up and kind
of make shift, make the bed and then get out
of there.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
That's it.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
You're not responsible for their living arrangements I have.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
I will put my hand up and say I have
done this in my younger years when I was like
in the early throes of dating, not only like the
first time you.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
Did clean someone house for free after a one night stand.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
No, because I never had a one night stand, but
in those really early days, and it comes back to
this really cooked idea that women always have that we
need to please and you need to be like look
after somebody, and the only way they're going to like
you is if they think you're exceptional at everything, and like,
I would not do that right now. It'll clean your
own stuff, That's what I would say. But back then
I was like, oh, he'll be so tough if he
(05:19):
gets home, and like, I've cleaned his room in his house,
and I think now I wouldn't. It makes me just
vomited my mouth thinking about it.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
But I did it.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
Only memory I have of this, and it is not
a good one, is I remember I'd been on a
couple of days with this guy and the similar situation.
A couple of days it was early doors and he'd
come home to my house and I was like, you
can stay. And I'd gone to work in the morning
because I opened a retail shop at that time, and
he had nowhere to be, and I came home in
(05:47):
the afternoon expecting, like I don't think you expect much,
but like, you know, you don't expect it to be
worse than when you left it. And he had gone
to the toilet and not flushed, And I still remember
a poop that he just left a pooh sitting in
the toilet the entire day, the entire day.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
Surely that's not intentional.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
That has to be It has to be a mistake.
Speaker 3 (06:07):
No, it has to be like you've taken a phone
call last minute and forgot its way. No one is
taking a dump being like I know how to get
a second date, I'm gonna leave a pooh in the toil.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
Or maybe he's just someone who just doesn't normally flush,
Maybe he just forgets he does his own.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
People don't know he was going to come back. You
do a poop festa in your bar.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
Couldn't even tell you that man's name, But I still
remember he left a shit in my toilet and didn't flush.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
It is her poop boy, Laura.
Speaker 3 (06:32):
There's a huge conversation coming out of the UK at
the moment, and it has come over here to Australia
because we often follow suit with what the UK does.
But basically the Prime Minister, Sir Kiir Starmer, has said
that he's going to lower the voting age in the
UK for the next election.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
Do you think he's popular with the young uns? Is
that why? Maybe?
Speaker 3 (06:51):
I don't know, But from there're awing the age from
eighteen to sixteen years old. Now the vote is not
going to be compulsory, but they're allowed to do it,
and this is kickstarted a bit of a divide between
young people and people, you know, in the older demographic.
Some people are saying one hundred percent and if you're
old enough to work and you're old enough to pay taxes,
(07:12):
you're old enough to contribute to the way you see
your government. And I would want to agree with that,
But then there's another bunch of people saying, well, hang on, technically,
brains aren't even fully developed. Do they quite have the
life experience? Yet you're not able to buy a lottery ticket,
we're seeing you're not capable enough to be able to
drink alcohol, but you can vote for the government. So
(07:33):
there's I don't know, this is divide between two sides.
How do you feel about lowering the voting age to sixteen?
Speaker 2 (07:39):
I mean, firstly, is it not compulsory because it's like
just the sixteen to eighteen or is it just voting
in the UK is not compulsory anyway.
Speaker 3 (07:45):
Voting in the UK isn't compulsory, gotcha. And I guess
the way I feel is, I do think that you
should be able to vote at sixteen, and I like
the fact that it's not compulsory because we don't have
that choice.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
Yeah, look, I'm not against it. I think it's truefold though,
right Like, if sixteen year olds are working, if they're
paying taxes, I mean, they're the ones who are going
to have to live in the in the world or
the country for a lot longer than the really old
people who are also voting, So I guess like they
should have a say in the government that is going
to be making decisions for their welfare.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
The only thing is is that I also think that.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
Maybe politics should be more taught in school so that
kids have a better literacy for it, because the problem
is is for a sixteen year old, unless they are
seeking out that information themselves, and unless they're educating themselves
on their government policies and politics and everything else, which
may not be happening at that age, then I wonder like, well,
are they making informed choices? And I think it's it's
probably a bit of a stretch to be like.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
Sixteen year olds don't have fully formed brains.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
There's fully fledged adults who don't have fully formed brains either,
but they're still you know, our sixteen.
Speaker 3 (08:48):
Year olds whose brains are more formed than yeah, And.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
So I think that that's an unfair stance.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
But I think making sure that information is readily available
that you know, people who are sixteen have and I
guess like, if it's an opt in situation, that they
can be really informed in the decisions that they're making.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
I think that's so important. Though. Well, there's a lot.
Speaker 3 (09:07):
Of videos going aroud online just on Instagram reels that
people have gone and just stopped randoms on the street
of all ages.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
But there's a lot of young.
Speaker 3 (09:13):
Kids that they stopped to us in their own opinions,
and some of them said no, like, don't give us
that responsibility.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
There's no way we're ready.
Speaker 3 (09:20):
But then there was one that stands out for me.
But he just said, I absolutely want to be able
to vote. I think we should be able to vote
because we are interested in contributing to our future. And
then he said, having said that, will we be influenced
by our parents?
Speaker 1 (09:34):
Absolutely, And that is.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
A risk you're going to take right like and I
even think about us growing up. I used to say
to my parents when I was younger, who are you
voting for? And then I just go vote for them
when I didn't have the wealth of knowledge. But he said,
the only reason we've being influenced by our parents is
because we're not taught enough at school. So come back
into this full circle loop. The thing is there is
so much information online now accessible to everyone that wasn't
(09:58):
around when we were sixteen.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
Yeah, but I think on the flip side of this,
and I absolutely don't want to be ages with this
at all, because you know, I think you've worked so
hard to contribute to the country that you li in.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
You have a right to.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
Vote up until the age that you're not able to
vote anymore. But there are people in their eighties who
will still be voting and they're not going to be
here to see the world that they're contributing to or
the country that they're voting for. So is someone who is,
like you know, rearing and getting near to the end
of their life. Is their opinion on the country more
important than someone who's going to spend their entire life
(10:30):
living in it, In which case, I'm kind of like,
maybe it's maybe it is important to let people who
are slightly younger have more of an input. But I
absolutely come back to the education piece that I'm like,
I just don't want anyone who's uneducated or doesn't is
just doing it for the sake of doing it. Voting
and maybe the whole non compulsory thing is quite an
important part of this. Whereas in Australia voting is compulsory,
(10:53):
it means people who are educated on it are voting.
People who are not educated of voting, people are doing
donkey votes, people are doing all kinds of things, Whereas
over there, the people who are voting are people who
are considered, who at least have an opinion, I would.
Speaker 3 (11:05):
Say, oh, who have made the choice to say yeah,
I care enough to do research and physically get up
and go and vote. And I think that's the difference
if it is brought in in Australia, I would only
want it here if it wasn't compulsory from sixteen to eighteen.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
Yeah, I mean, well, look, it's an interesting one. We'll
see if it actually plays out here. Britt, do you
think it is ever okay to give someone an ultimatum
around marriage, And what I mean by that is if
you are if you are currently dating and you want
your partner to propose to you, is it okay to
give them a time frame ultimatum as to when they
(11:40):
need to propose by.
Speaker 3 (11:41):
I cannot hear the word ultimatum with that in my
head saying old tomato. I don't know why altimatum?
Speaker 1 (11:47):
I think like, how long is it the only one? Firstly?
Speaker 3 (11:49):
Firstly, how long is a piece of string? I do
think that is situational? How old are they have they
set their boundaries from the start? Are they being played along?
Does a person know they want to marry them but
not yet? Are they confused if they want to marry them?
So I need a bit more context to this story.
Speaker 2 (12:03):
I mean, firstly, I feel like a lot of people
have been in situations where like, you're not on the
same page, right, That's kind of different. I'm talking about
when you in a relationship with someone, you absolutely adore them,
you want them to marry you, you want to spend
your life with them, and you've said, okay, if you
don't propose to me by this date, then I'm leaving
the reason why we're talking about this is because there's
a self worth influencer. I don't even know what that is,
(12:25):
but they exist. Her name is Bella Marie. Now she's
posted a video on TikTok. It's gone viral, it's head
of ten million views, and it has divided the internet
because she said, on our very first date, I told
him that I had a two year plan two years
to propose. On our two year anniversary, I broke up
with him. She broke up with her boyfriend because he
(12:46):
did not propose to her within the two year time frame,
the boundary that she set at the beginning of their relationship.
Speaker 1 (12:52):
Thoughts considerations. She's a head case.
Speaker 3 (12:55):
Your first date, Like, I get it's okay to maybe say, hey,
I would love to be engaged in two years, Like
that's how I see my future. That's insane, but I.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
Just read ahead, Laura.
Speaker 3 (13:05):
The craziest part about this is she said, on our
two years anniversary, after he flew me out to Catalina,
he surprised me with a sweet and a beautiful boat
around the island to celebrate our love. He planned a
beautiful long weekend trip, but he didn't propose, so I
broke up with him. That's insane to me. This guy
sounds like a catch. They literally he flew you to
(13:26):
an island, got a boat to celebrate your love, gave
you everything you wanted on a weekend.
Speaker 1 (13:31):
That is so much more important.
Speaker 3 (13:33):
Finding a good partner that loves you and his committed
is so much more important to fitting into your two
year time frame.
Speaker 2 (13:38):
Okay, this is what she does have to say, though, ladies'
time is not a love language. If you have big
dreams and goals that require a male counterpart, like marriage
and a family, I wholeheartedly believe you should not waste
more time than necessary on the wrong person. I think
it really comes down to how much you want to
be married and how much you want those big life goals.
Because on one hand, yes, I do agree with you, Britt,
(14:01):
I think she sounds insane, But then I also think
that you can run the risk of staying in a
relationship for a really long time. I'm hoping that all
of those things come into fruition and they just never
do because that person was never going to make that
decision anyway, like a time waster.
Speaker 3 (14:16):
If she thinks that he's the one and she wanted
him to propose, then you would stay with him hoping
he proposes in the next year. Like, if you've said
I hope he proposes today, that means you think he's
the one.
Speaker 2 (14:25):
I know I have conflicting feelings only because I stayed
in a relationship for six years.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
Mind you, it was never very good.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
It wasn't like he was like a prince like he
was never he was never prince charming, and that I
was like, all of a sudden, you know, it dawned
to me. But six years for me to get to
the place where I realized, oh, okay, he's never gonna propose.
He's never gonna And so I think that it's okay
to break up with someone if your life is not
aligning in like the right path, Like if you get
to a point where you're like, I'm never gonna get
(14:54):
what I want out of this. But I think giving
someone an ultimatum around marriage, I don't know. Maybe it's
worked for some people, maybe you did get the proposal
out of it, But do you really want someone to
propose under duress?
Speaker 3 (15:05):
Like no, I can't even I'm trying to have like
a balanced argument.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
I don't have one.
Speaker 3 (15:11):
She's she's an idiot, like I'm sorry, I understand exactly
what you're saying. Law is like, of course, if you
don't think you're aligned and you're going different directions, the
worst thing you could do is stay in a relationship
and wait.
Speaker 2 (15:22):
Yeah, but they're not hoping that someone's going to change.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
Yeah, they're not.
Speaker 3 (15:25):
She was waiting for the proposal like she wanted that
person in her life, which means they do want the
same things. Also, just because he didn't propose, it's not
to say he doesn't want to marry her. He might
just not be ready. Maybe he had planned it in.
Speaker 1 (15:37):
A month's time, like you just don't know.
Speaker 2 (15:39):
I also just think it when people label them as
self worth advocate on Instagram, I think we have to
unpack where did their degree come from? It's not a
real Do they have any qualifications or are we simply
just spouting out? I mean, to be fair, we have
no qualifications either, and we're just his spouting stuff out
with radio.
Speaker 1 (15:54):
We just have qualifications. I mean, I've got a fine
arts degree that colstor.
Speaker 3 (15:59):
Just to give you some stats here, in a recent
survey of eight thousand fiancees conducted by they're not only
about thirty percent of couples dated for two years or
less before getting engaged, so it's not a huge percentage anyway.
Fifty three percent of couples got hitched two to five years,
and seventeen percent waited six years or more. So she
is in a small percentage of people that get married.
(16:19):
I mean I did. I got engaged in under two years.
I've engaged in eighteen months.
Speaker 1 (16:22):
Good for you. I baby trapped my husband and then
he proposed to me. So in all way, you were
really quick. No, I wasn't. I was after the batch.
Speaker 2 (16:31):
Yeah, but I was eight months pregnant when Matt proposed.
It's my point, Well, he was locked and loaded. Baby,
he had nowhere to go, he had a baby on
the way.
Speaker 1 (16:38):
All right, look, let's get out of here.
Hi Heart podcasts.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Hear more Kiss podcast playlist and listen live on the
Free iHeart app.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
Good pickup with Britt Hockley and.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Laura Ben Bady your work, our windows down, that's my
worries in the dust.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Only good fabs all down.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
I've done much, but yeah I'm not.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
I'll beg get and what I want. It don't matter where.
This is the picker.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
Hello everybody, Welcome to Wednesday. Well, Wednesday Afternoon's pick Up
with Brit Hockey and Laura Ben.
Speaker 3 (00:44):
How are we feeling this fine Wednesday? Well?
Speaker 1 (00:46):
I am.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
I brought you a really interesting frog fact yesterday.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
For sure if you guys missed.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
The show, turns out that frogs or some species fake
dead so that they don't have to mate with their
partners as in with other frogs, they don't find another
frog attractive. But I have another animal fact for you today, Bricks.
I know you're really into them. I actually do love
animal facts. I think that my phone must have been
listening to me because I came across that frog fact.
I saved it and then I shared it with you,
(01:12):
and then literally last night it was laying in bed
and that was scrabbed.
Speaker 3 (01:14):
That's how the algorithm works, and I saved it, talked
about it.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
But it's so specific. Okay, So here it is. When
female octopuses are in the mood to mate, they strangle
and they eat the male.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
Who would have thought that.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
All of these female animals out there have such clever
ways of being.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Able to like get out of it clever. That's murder. No,
I know we can't do that. Here, I get that
you can't. You're taking inspiration from the frog.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
I didn't say. I didn't say, yes, say you can
just roll over and pretend.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
To be asleep. But that's okay.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
I just my phone knows and knows where I'm at
at the moment.
Speaker 3 (01:45):
Yeah, that's that's the so where the algorithm works.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
Shut up, Remember you just had to reset.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
Your phone if you miss I know, because it was
so gross, Like the things that Laura was being fed
was like the grossest things on a body you could imagine.
It was like pimple popping video pimple popping and like
ingrowing toenails and stuff like you really were going through
it for a second.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Yeah, and now I'm into animal facts and how to
get out of mating with your partner anyway.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
I know if that's more what it is.
Speaker 3 (02:09):
It's not the animal facts, it's ways to get out
of mazing.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
Now, brit When it comes to hookups or like bringing
home potentially a one night stand or someone who you're
in the very early stages of dating, Yeah, I.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
Did have a one night stand and then I married him.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
You don't cout because I feel like you did it wrong.
I'm talking about yeah, like, what is the etiquette when
you bring them home?
Speaker 1 (02:33):
When do you ask them to leave?
Speaker 2 (02:35):
I feel like most people have good intuition and they're
like most people do leave either the night of or
they leave in the morning.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
But would you ever.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
Like leave and go to work and just let them
lay around in your bed?
Speaker 3 (02:46):
Absolutely not if I didn't know them, and it really was,
like I guess the epitome of a one night stand.
I would never leave someone I don't know in my
house alone with my staff.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
I guess it differs.
Speaker 3 (02:57):
Sometimes you when you're online dating. It might be the
first time you've met up with them, but you might
have had an online connection with them for weeks or
months or whatever, and you feel like you know them.
So maybe, but I wouldn't believing anyone in my home
that I don't know.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
Yeah, okay, I think it's weird.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
I think that you've got to at least be in
on a few dates before you get to the stage
of not a few dates, Like they've got to come
to her house a few times before you get to
the stage of like just lull around in bed for
a while and I'm going to go to work. Leave
whenever you're ready, lock the door behind you. But there
is a guy who has gone viral online because he
had a very well look. It's turned out very fortunate
for him how his date ended up leaving after he said.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
She could stay around for a bit longer. Have listened
to this.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
So I had a bumble date last night and I
left at four am this morning and just told her
to lock up?
Speaker 1 (03:39):
Did she clean my bathroom? Makes my bed? And the
kicker is she done all like ninety percent of my
laundry and I hate doing laundry.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
So I don't know if I've done something right, maybe
done something wrong, Maybe she felt sorry for.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
Me, or I'd give a second date. Who knows, but
that was definitely the best one over. Oh you're getting
a second date. Some chick's not doing that for you
and never see.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
You have to see this video. She hasn't just like tidy.
She's deep cleaned the bars through. She has folded every
piece of his wardrobe that was like left out. All
of his laundry is folded in piles on the bed.
She's completely vacuumed, made the bed like the house is pristine.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
I would love that.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
I would love someone to come and clean my house.
Where I think I would draw the line is the washing,
like a I no one touching my dirty clothes.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
No one's going through my stuff.
Speaker 3 (04:28):
You're not sniffing my unders, like get your head out
of my dirty clothes, buss.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
I just think it.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
Firstly, you've peaked too early, girlfriend, Like what standard are
you setting for yourself? What does that say? There is
no need. I think the absolute most that you need
to do is like pull the covers up and kind
of make shift, make the bed and then get out
of there.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
That's it.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
You're not responsible for their living arrangements I have.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
I will put my hand up and say I have
done this in my younger years when I was like
in the early throes of dating, not only like the
first time you.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
Did clean someone house for free after a one night stand.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
No, because I never had a one night stand, but
in those really early days, and it comes back to
this really cooked idea that women always have that we
need to please and you need to be like look
after somebody, and the only way they're going to like
you is if they think you're exceptional at everything, and like,
I would not do that right now. It'll clean your
own stuff, That's what I would say. But back then
I was like, oh, he'll be so tough if he
(05:19):
gets home, and like, I've cleaned his room in his house,
and I think now I wouldn't. It makes me just
vomited my mouth thinking about it.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
But I did it.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
Only memory I have of this, and it is not
a good one, is I remember I'd been on a
couple of days with this guy and the similar situation.
A couple of days it was early doors and he'd
come home to my house and I was like, you
can stay. And I'd gone to work in the morning
because I opened a retail shop at that time, and
he had nowhere to be, and I came home in
(05:47):
the afternoon expecting, like I don't think you expect much,
but like, you know, you don't expect it to be
worse than when you left it. And he had gone
to the toilet and not flushed, And I still remember
a poop that he just left a pooh sitting in
the toilet the entire day, the entire day.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
Surely that's not intentional.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
That has to be It has to be a mistake.
Speaker 3 (06:07):
No, it has to be like you've taken a phone
call last minute and forgot its way. No one is
taking a dump being like I know how to get
a second date, I'm gonna leave a pooh in the toil.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
Or maybe he's just someone who just doesn't normally flush,
Maybe he just forgets he does his own.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
People don't know he was going to come back. You
do a poop festa in your bar.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
Couldn't even tell you that man's name, But I still
remember he left a shit in my toilet and didn't flush.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
It is her poop boy, Laura.
Speaker 3 (06:32):
There's a huge conversation coming out of the UK at
the moment, and it has come over here to Australia
because we often follow suit with what the UK does.
But basically the Prime Minister, Sir Kiir Starmer, has said
that he's going to lower the voting age in the
UK for the next election.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
Do you think he's popular with the young uns? Is
that why? Maybe?
Speaker 3 (06:51):
I don't know, But from there're awing the age from
eighteen to sixteen years old. Now the vote is not
going to be compulsory, but they're allowed to do it,
and this is kickstarted a bit of a divide between
young people and people, you know, in the older demographic.
Some people are saying one hundred percent and if you're
old enough to work and you're old enough to pay taxes,
(07:12):
you're old enough to contribute to the way you see
your government. And I would want to agree with that,
But then there's another bunch of people saying, well, hang on, technically,
brains aren't even fully developed. Do they quite have the
life experience? Yet you're not able to buy a lottery ticket,
we're seeing you're not capable enough to be able to
drink alcohol, but you can vote for the government. So
(07:33):
there's I don't know, this is divide between two sides.
How do you feel about lowering the voting age to sixteen?
Speaker 2 (07:39):
I mean, firstly, is it not compulsory because it's like
just the sixteen to eighteen or is it just voting
in the UK is not compulsory anyway.
Speaker 3 (07:45):
Voting in the UK isn't compulsory, gotcha. And I guess
the way I feel is, I do think that you
should be able to vote at sixteen, and I like
the fact that it's not compulsory because we don't have
that choice.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
Yeah, look, I'm not against it. I think it's truefold though,
right Like, if sixteen year olds are working, if they're
paying taxes, I mean, they're the ones who are going
to have to live in the in the world or
the country for a lot longer than the really old
people who are also voting, So I guess like they
should have a say in the government that is going
to be making decisions for their welfare.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
The only thing is is that I also think that.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
Maybe politics should be more taught in school so that
kids have a better literacy for it, because the problem
is is for a sixteen year old, unless they are
seeking out that information themselves, and unless they're educating themselves
on their government policies and politics and everything else, which
may not be happening at that age, then I wonder like, well,
are they making informed choices? And I think it's it's
probably a bit of a stretch to be like.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
Sixteen year olds don't have fully formed brains.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
There's fully fledged adults who don't have fully formed brains either,
but they're still you know, our sixteen.
Speaker 3 (08:48):
Year olds whose brains are more formed than yeah, And.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
So I think that that's an unfair stance.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
But I think making sure that information is readily available
that you know, people who are sixteen have and I
guess like, if it's an opt in situation, that they
can be really informed in the decisions that they're making.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
I think that's so important. Though. Well, there's a lot.
Speaker 3 (09:07):
Of videos going aroud online just on Instagram reels that
people have gone and just stopped randoms on the street
of all ages.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
But there's a lot of young.
Speaker 3 (09:13):
Kids that they stopped to us in their own opinions,
and some of them said no, like, don't give us
that responsibility.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
There's no way we're ready.
Speaker 3 (09:20):
But then there was one that stands out for me.
But he just said, I absolutely want to be able
to vote. I think we should be able to vote
because we are interested in contributing to our future. And
then he said, having said that, will we be influenced
by our parents?
Speaker 1 (09:34):
Absolutely, And that is.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
A risk you're going to take right like and I
even think about us growing up. I used to say
to my parents when I was younger, who are you
voting for? And then I just go vote for them
when I didn't have the wealth of knowledge. But he said,
the only reason we've being influenced by our parents is
because we're not taught enough at school. So come back
into this full circle loop. The thing is there is
so much information online now accessible to everyone that wasn't
(09:58):
around when we were sixteen.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
Yeah, but I think on the flip side of this,
and I absolutely don't want to be ages with this
at all, because you know, I think you've worked so
hard to contribute to the country that you li in.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
You have a right to.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
Vote up until the age that you're not able to
vote anymore. But there are people in their eighties who
will still be voting and they're not going to be
here to see the world that they're contributing to or
the country that they're voting for. So is someone who is,
like you know, rearing and getting near to the end
of their life. Is their opinion on the country more
important than someone who's going to spend their entire life
(10:30):
living in it, In which case, I'm kind of like,
maybe it's maybe it is important to let people who
are slightly younger have more of an input. But I
absolutely come back to the education piece that I'm like,
I just don't want anyone who's uneducated or doesn't is
just doing it for the sake of doing it. Voting
and maybe the whole non compulsory thing is quite an
important part of this. Whereas in Australia voting is compulsory,
(10:53):
it means people who are educated on it are voting.
People who are not educated of voting, people are doing
donkey votes, people are doing all kinds of things, Whereas
over there, the people who are voting are people who
are considered, who at least have an opinion, I would.
Speaker 3 (11:05):
Say, oh, who have made the choice to say yeah,
I care enough to do research and physically get up
and go and vote. And I think that's the difference
if it is brought in in Australia, I would only
want it here if it wasn't compulsory from sixteen to eighteen.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
Yeah, I mean, well, look, it's an interesting one. We'll
see if it actually plays out here. Britt, do you
think it is ever okay to give someone an ultimatum
around marriage, And what I mean by that is if
you are if you are currently dating and you want
your partner to propose to you, is it okay to
give them a time frame ultimatum as to when they
(11:40):
need to propose by.
Speaker 3 (11:41):
I cannot hear the word ultimatum with that in my
head saying old tomato. I don't know why altimatum?
Speaker 1 (11:47):
I think like, how long is it the only one? Firstly?
Speaker 3 (11:49):
Firstly, how long is a piece of string? I do
think that is situational? How old are they have they
set their boundaries from the start? Are they being played along?
Does a person know they want to marry them but
not yet? Are they confused if they want to marry them?
So I need a bit more context to this story.
Speaker 2 (12:03):
I mean, firstly, I feel like a lot of people
have been in situations where like, you're not on the
same page, right, That's kind of different. I'm talking about
when you in a relationship with someone, you absolutely adore them,
you want them to marry you, you want to spend
your life with them, and you've said, okay, if you
don't propose to me by this date, then I'm leaving
the reason why we're talking about this is because there's
a self worth influencer. I don't even know what that is,
(12:25):
but they exist. Her name is Bella Marie. Now she's
posted a video on TikTok. It's gone viral, it's head
of ten million views, and it has divided the internet
because she said, on our very first date, I told
him that I had a two year plan two years
to propose. On our two year anniversary, I broke up
with him. She broke up with her boyfriend because he
(12:46):
did not propose to her within the two year time frame,
the boundary that she set at the beginning of their relationship.
Speaker 1 (12:52):
Thoughts considerations. She's a head case.
Speaker 3 (12:55):
Your first date, Like, I get it's okay to maybe say, hey,
I would love to be engaged in two years, Like
that's how I see my future. That's insane, but I.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
Just read ahead, Laura.
Speaker 3 (13:05):
The craziest part about this is she said, on our
two years anniversary, after he flew me out to Catalina,
he surprised me with a sweet and a beautiful boat
around the island to celebrate our love. He planned a
beautiful long weekend trip, but he didn't propose, so I
broke up with him. That's insane to me. This guy
sounds like a catch. They literally he flew you to
(13:26):
an island, got a boat to celebrate your love, gave
you everything you wanted on a weekend.
Speaker 1 (13:31):
That is so much more important.
Speaker 3 (13:33):
Finding a good partner that loves you and his committed
is so much more important to fitting into your two
year time frame.
Speaker 2 (13:38):
Okay, this is what she does have to say, though, ladies'
time is not a love language. If you have big
dreams and goals that require a male counterpart, like marriage
and a family, I wholeheartedly believe you should not waste
more time than necessary on the wrong person. I think
it really comes down to how much you want to
be married and how much you want those big life goals.
Because on one hand, yes, I do agree with you, Britt,
(14:01):
I think she sounds insane, But then I also think
that you can run the risk of staying in a
relationship for a really long time. I'm hoping that all
of those things come into fruition and they just never
do because that person was never going to make that
decision anyway, like a time waster.
Speaker 3 (14:16):
If she thinks that he's the one and she wanted
him to propose, then you would stay with him hoping
he proposes in the next year. Like, if you've said
I hope he proposes today, that means you think he's
the one.
Speaker 2 (14:25):
I know I have conflicting feelings only because I stayed
in a relationship for six years.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
Mind you, it was never very good.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
It wasn't like he was like a prince like he
was never he was never prince charming, and that I
was like, all of a sudden, you know, it dawned
to me. But six years for me to get to
the place where I realized, oh, okay, he's never gonna propose.
He's never gonna And so I think that it's okay
to break up with someone if your life is not
aligning in like the right path, Like if you get
to a point where you're like, I'm never gonna get
(14:54):
what I want out of this. But I think giving
someone an ultimatum around marriage, I don't know. Maybe it's
worked for some people, maybe you did get the proposal
out of it, But do you really want someone to
propose under duress?
Speaker 3 (15:05):
Like no, I can't even I'm trying to have like
a balanced argument.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
I don't have one.
Speaker 3 (15:11):
She's she's an idiot, like I'm sorry, I understand exactly
what you're saying. Law is like, of course, if you
don't think you're aligned and you're going different directions, the
worst thing you could do is stay in a relationship
and wait.
Speaker 2 (15:22):
Yeah, but they're not hoping that someone's going to change.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
Yeah, they're not.
Speaker 3 (15:25):
She was waiting for the proposal like she wanted that
person in her life, which means they do want the
same things. Also, just because he didn't propose, it's not
to say he doesn't want to marry her. He might
just not be ready. Maybe he had planned it in.
Speaker 1 (15:37):
A month's time, like you just don't know.
Speaker 2 (15:39):
I also just think it when people label them as
self worth advocate on Instagram, I think we have to
unpack where did their degree come from? It's not a
real Do they have any qualifications or are we simply
just spouting out? I mean, to be fair, we have
no qualifications either, and we're just his spouting stuff out
with radio.
Speaker 1 (15:54):
We just have qualifications. I mean, I've got a fine
arts degree that colstor.
Speaker 3 (15:59):
Just to give you some stats here, in a recent
survey of eight thousand fiancees conducted by they're not only
about thirty percent of couples dated for two years or
less before getting engaged, so it's not a huge percentage anyway.
Fifty three percent of couples got hitched two to five years,
and seventeen percent waited six years or more. So she
is in a small percentage of people that get married.
(16:19):
I mean I did. I got engaged in under two years.
I've engaged in eighteen months.
Speaker 1 (16:22):
Good for you. I baby trapped my husband and then
he proposed to me. So in all way, you were
really quick. No, I wasn't. I was after the batch.
Speaker 2 (16:31):
Yeah, but I was eight months pregnant when Matt proposed.
It's my point, Well, he was locked and loaded. Baby,
he had nowhere to go, he had a baby on
the way.
Speaker 1 (16:38):
All right, look, let's get out of here.
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