September 2, 2025 • 16 mins
Laura MAY have a tiny bit of cat regret, Britt stepped on a gigantic rusty nail and we unpack the merit of a friendship joint bank account.
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Speaker 1 (00:10):
Hi Heart podcasts, hear more Kiss podcast playlist and listen
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Speaker 2 (00:19):
Good Pickup with Britt Hockley and Laura Ben.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
Baby or what our windows down? My world?
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Reason the dust only good bab.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Doug all down.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
I don't much, but yeah I'm not. I'll big get
and what I want. It don't matter where. This is the.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
Pickup, Hi guys, it's the pickup with Brett Hockley and
Laura Burn.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
How are we feeling? Laura? Are you looking? You here?
Some indigestion over there?
Speaker 3 (00:45):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (00:45):
I just had a really good bat of reflux.
Speaker 3 (00:48):
It could be the chocolate custard cinnamon donut that you
just Inhale.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
No, I think it is a baby that's pressing against
my diaphragm.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
That's what I think it is when baby meats doughnut.
Speaker 3 (00:57):
Do you know?
Speaker 2 (00:57):
Actually it could be. So kids are expensive. We know that.
Oh yeah, we know that.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
But also they're expensive and unexpected ways. So this morning
I was having a bit of a challenging time with
my four year old Lola, and I was like, she's
trying to get breakfast into her. She was not wanting
to have breakfast, And I was like eat your break
She just wanted a cheese stick out of the fridge,
and I was.
Speaker 3 (01:17):
Like, you know that like intuitive eating thing where it's
like if they don't want food, fine do.
Speaker 1 (01:21):
It's all great in theory, and I know people talk
about this, like people talk about just let them eat
the amount that they want to eat. The problem is
is like she won't eat her breakfast. Then two minutes
later she'd be like, can I have a fruit strap.
I'm like, no, your porridge was there, and then I
threw it in the bin. So anyway, that's a detour. Anyway,
she wanted a cheese stick and I said no to
the cheese stick about seven times.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
I turned my back.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
And I hear this almighty crash, and everything that's in
the door of the fridge is now smashed on the
ground of the floor because she has tried to climb
up the drawers the plastic trays in the door of
the fridge, and she has broken every single one on
the way down.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
She wanted that cheese stick.
Speaker 1 (01:59):
She's fine, She's completely fine. My fridge is not fine.
And then I looked online to buy new trays. It's
like seven hundred dollars for new trays.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
So she's taken basically the door out. Yeah, and gave
her a cheese did you, Laura? You can't reward that baby.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
Even I know that, but I felt guilty because I yelled,
you are reinforcing bad baby with a cheese stick.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
No. She was pretty sad about the whole thing. So
was I. So was the fridge. It was a bad day.
I mean, I can't give opinions because I'm not a parent,
but them I still have them. Now I have interested Britt.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
You know last year I won a very long standing
debate in our household, and that is I got a cat.
Speaker 3 (02:36):
You didn't win a debate. You got the cat when
your husband, Matt was away. That's not winning a debate.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
He didn't want one. He was really adamant against it.
He's not a cat fan.
Speaker 3 (02:46):
And I would have loved to have seen you a
debating class at school with that.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
How you think you went a debate? Matt didn't want
a cat.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
I wanted a cat, and so we compromised and we
got a cat. That was pretty much what happened. Look,
the cat is wonderful. Her name's Raspberry. She's very well,
actually a large she's not that sweet.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
She's a bit of a street cat, and she was.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
She was a rescue, so she's probably been through some
hard times. She was found in a bush shelter, and
now she still acts like a street cat.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
She now she lives in a nice house, she's got
whatever she.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Needs, she sideswipes the kids.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
She's really nice in the morning.
Speaker 3 (03:18):
So she's still a street cat. She she never shook it.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
Yeah, she's just got a bit of grit to it,
which we like that.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
We like a feisty girl, rough diamond.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
The problem is, so we got the cat in January,
and then a few weeks after we got the cat,
I found out I was pregnant.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
Now, the thing is.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
And I don't think a lot of people would know
this unless you've been through pregnancy yourself, you can't change
kitty litter when you're pregnant because there's this thing called
like toxoplasmosis. So the other night, Matt and I were
having dinner and we were talking and he was like, Hey,
I know that it's not your fault, but I have
a bit of a gripe to bring up with you.
And I was like, yeah, what, And he's like, the cat,
we need to talk about the cat, and I was like,
(03:55):
what about it? And he's like, you know that you've
literally never changed the kitty litter for the cat since
you brought it home. You said that you would take
full responsibility. I know that, like the pregnancy happened, and like,
obviously I'm not complaining about that. He's like, but you
have no idea what it's like to fish out little
chunks of boo from a kitty litter tray that every
single morning.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
I don't think that's what you do. You do, I'm
supposed to just change the kitty litter tray. You don't
pull out the POODI.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
No, So you keep the same kitty litter. Why do
you guys get cats? Why? I just thought you threw
the whole thing in the bit and then put you little.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
Well, you can't just change the kitty litter every single
day because then you're just wasting bags and bags.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
Of kidd it.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
So you have a little shovel, it's like a little
it's a little grated shovel, like you take to the
beach with a kid, right, and you scoop and then
you sift out the bits of good kitty litter and.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
You literally just pan and for gold in the kitty litter.
It would be so off it as well.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
So every day Matt has to pan for gold out
of the kitty litter tray and then he puts then
he puts the little nuggets into the toilet, flashes the toilet,
tops up the kitty litter.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
And I hadn't really thought about.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
Just how demoralizing that job is if you get stuck
with it.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
I've never had to do it. I don't think it's that.
It's just when you didn't on it in the first place,
I know.
Speaker 3 (05:10):
And it wasn't a compromise. I saw you throw that
word in before. It's not compromise when you just do
it when it's away. You got the cat when he
was away, so that's not a compromise. And it's not
winning a debate.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
You just got the cat when he wasn't home. I know.
He does put up with a lot from me, and
then he has ended up with it.
Speaker 3 (05:24):
And it's not even I mean, she's cute, but it's
not a cat that brings him joy. She doesn't want
to cuddle. She wants to just like scratch furniture and
dive bombs off the stairs onto Biple's heads.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
Like, I'm not surprised. He's hat enough.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
He was like, come with me, Laurie, like you don't
have to do it, but you have to witness what
I have to do. And he took me into the bathroom.
And not only that, the kitty litter.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
He's gonna make you watch him do it every day.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
The kitty litter is right next to the toilet, so
we don't have a lot of plays to put the
kitty litter. So it wasn't a really well thought out
thing either. The kitty litter is right next to the toilet,
and there he is bent over with the little spatchelor
sifting out.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
The pooh, and I just hadn't thought it through. And
now what's what.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
It has occurred to me that that's gonna be my
job soon and I'm gonna have to do that for
the next fifteen years.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
Absolutely, because cat's live forever. I just don't understand cats.
We had a cat growing up, So I'm not one
of those people. You know, you know when people say
they're not dog people's because they didn't grow up with
them and they don't get them.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
They don't had interact. I grew up with the cat.
I see. His name is PC, which was short for
pussy cat. It was very original. Ill, But I don't
know why that made me feel weird. But PC, why
is that? Ill? Is what used to say? And his
brain used to rattle in his head. I'll never forget it.
You used to put your.
Speaker 3 (06:32):
Head down and he would run at you and head
butt you, and you could hear his brain rattle.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
Anyway, that's a whole other story.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
I just don't understand cats, like I like, I'm like,
why do people get them? Because they ruin your furniture.
They don't want to engage with you or play with you.
Like my friend has a cat and shout up like
six years and they can't even go near it because
she's like, that's that's right. So I'm like, why have
you got it? Because you know why?
Speaker 1 (06:53):
Because every so often you do get a really nice
one and they're so sweet, and then you just everyone
who's buying a cat's just hoping that theirs turns out
like that one.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Well it's like the one percent. I know, I know,
I didn't realize that until recently. All right, well, good
like for you for the next fifteen years. Want a
babysit it I'm bringing around. No, I really don't. My
dog would eat it, would eat your cat.
Speaker 3 (07:16):
I had Laura a really close call on the weekend,
that's all.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
It was not good.
Speaker 3 (07:21):
It was one of those things where I just thought,
how has this happened? So I had a really big
photo shoot on, like a really big job. And I
say big job. It's important because like they had to
close down this business they rented out for the day and.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
Which would have cost them a motsa. Were you going
on like a hot air balloon or something, walked.
Speaker 3 (07:39):
A bunch of activities and yeah, it was like a commercial.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
Kind of thing. And so there it was like a
crew of twenty or thirty people going that had been booked.
It was a really big thing. Like I could not
not go to it.
Speaker 3 (07:50):
And so early in the morning I had a makeup
artist turned up to my house and I.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
Was like, you know what, you stay here. She was
doing someone else's makeup.
Speaker 3 (07:57):
I was like, I'm gonna go get aus coffees and
croissants and like just to pick up the mood.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
It was like six thirty in the morning. So I
went down the street to get coffee, had shoes on,
mind you. I don't leave the house shoes on.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
And I was walking with the full plate of coffees
and croissants and then I'm just walking normally and I
buckle and I don't feel the pain immediately, like I
feel something. But I was like, oh, my knee just
couldn't hold myself up. And I was like, what was that?
And I looked down and there is like a two
inch nock. It might be an exaggeration wanting no I saw.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
The video of this. This was. It was as rank
as you're describing it.
Speaker 3 (08:30):
There was like a one inch nail in my foot,
just like just straight up in there.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
There was didn't scratch the sides. Wasn't just like cute
hanging on the surface. This was a nail. It must
have been.
Speaker 3 (08:42):
Pointing directly upright on the ground and I have just
stomped down on it. The corner of my foot must
have been off my slide because I didn't go through
my shoe. It just went like past the shoe and
like so far into me. So I've dropped to the ground.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
What happened to all of the coffees in the cakes
dropped on the ground.
Speaker 3 (08:58):
I saved the croissants, of course, like they were, you know,
there was no way thing happened to those.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
I saw this British share it on your Stories at
the time, and I was I was sitting home and
I firstly, I'm sorry, I'm gonna say this because I
love you dearly, but I was like, I like, here
we go.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
And then when I saw it, I was like, oh
my god, oh no, I couldn't get it was a full.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
Rusty nail and it was stuck into like the hard
part of.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
Like your like your heel.
Speaker 3 (09:21):
Yeah, and I'm really good with pain, That's what I
would like to say, Like I never go to a
doctor hospital. I do have a high pain tolerance. Anyway,
I was like, this is really hurting me. Cute, I'm
just gonna pull it out. It's gone in, it can
go out. So I go to pull it and it is.
It's not coming out. The end of the nail must
have had a hook on it all so that I
think the nail was just so rusty that it.
Speaker 2 (09:40):
Just wasn't It wasn't clean anymore.
Speaker 3 (09:42):
I was pulling this thing and it was not coming out,
and I thought, oh my god, like I physically can't
get it out. So my sister was in my house.
I called my sister to come down. She used to
work in hospital with me. She's trying to pull it out.
She's like, this is not coming. You're gonna have to
go to a hospital. And I was like, I actually can't.
We have forty five minutes until this whole place is
closed down with all these people. So I sit on
(10:04):
the ground and I'm yanking and I'm yanking, and I thought,
I cannot miss this day because all of these will.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
Be out of a day's work.
Speaker 3 (10:09):
So I just like bite my lip and I reefed
this nail out, like reached on the street.
Speaker 2 (10:16):
Anyway, as I'm pulling it out.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
This woman walks past and she's like, oh, I love
your podcast, and I'm like crying with bo and I said,
oh my god, I was crying.
Speaker 2 (10:24):
I'm like, thank you so much.
Speaker 3 (10:24):
I was like, I'm so sorry that I'm sitting on
the street at six thirty in the morning crying. I
was like, I got broken up, Like I'm actually okay.
She's like, well, She's like I was wondering what you
were doing. Anyway, it was a disaster. Then I couldn't
put weight on my foot for the whole day, and
I had to go to work with like walking around
on my tiptoes.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
Also, when I.
Speaker 1 (10:41):
Saw it, I was like, can you just make sure
you go get a technis shot. I know you want
to have some strong workout, you know, saw yourself out.
Speaker 3 (10:46):
That's the other thing I'm not exaggerating when I say
I reckon three thousand people message me just saying not
sure if you know, but you need.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
To go get a test. I was like there.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
I was like there because honestly, like when you were
doing it, I thought, God, she's gone to work, she
needs to go and get that sorted.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
The only thing that this reminds me of is like
when I was little.
Speaker 1 (11:05):
My dad is a really keen fisherman, and like where
you would go fishing. Every outdoor activity was like fishing
on a boat. He'd go and get a little dinghy
and we would go fishing together. And I remember this
one time we were out there was another family that
was out as well, and the I think it was
the sun. He was only really little. He'd cast his
rod out and at the same time the hook had
caught on to the dad and he'd cast the rod
(11:27):
out and well the dad go through, Well it went
straight through the back of his shoulder, and so he
was pulling and tugging and the hook had gone straight
into the dad's shoulders, straight through his shirt. Anyway, it
was a really end to that little fishing trip. Had
to go back out the weekend after, didn't we Okay?
Speaker 2 (11:40):
Cool? That's that's making me feel quick.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
Now we all know when it comes to like money
in relationships, it can be kind of a tricky.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
Thing, right, root of all evil.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
Well, apparently number one cause would break up in romantic
relationships is cheating, and number two is finances, which you
know a lot of people don't see y to I
unfortunately checks out though, But also I think it's pretty
common for people in romantic relationships to have joint bank accounts.
You know, you share whatever is coming out of your
common food items. Like everyone splits money quite differently.
Speaker 3 (12:12):
Though the money I mean, like, I don't know how
far we're going into this. Money is a problem in
family dynamics, relationships, friend relationships, like not just romantic relationships.
I know families that have had proper fallout over money, yeah,
of course, but oheritances and whatever.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
I mean, we can talk about the negatives. How do
we talk about the positives of these things. So for
some people who have joint bank accounts with their partners also,
it's like a really great savings tool in order to
kind of like plan things that are coming up together,
like maybe you're co saving for holiday, or you've got like,
you know, a little pot of money that you're doing
something to have something special off the back of it
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for each other.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
Got it right? Okay?
Speaker 1 (12:50):
So saving There is a group of six women who
have kind of decided to do it a little bit differently.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
Now.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
They have created a friendship group joint bank account. The
reason for this is that every week they put twenty
dollars in each and every year, once a year they
go away on a big friendship holiday and they have
already pretty much prepaid for the majority of it. They
will use that account to either pay for drinks or
cover the hotels, cover the food. And there's one person
(13:16):
in that friendship group who is responsible for all of
the I guess.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
Like the admin of the bank account. So it's like
about one thousand dollars each a like.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
Yeah, when did you do that, Massac? I just do
it then, Yeah, it's just over one thousand dollars each year.
But it means that they've got over six thousand each
year in that bank account and they can go and
have a little holiday together.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
Would you do this with your friends? I mean, I
think it has its pros and cons.
Speaker 3 (13:40):
It's like, yes, it's for savings because you're actually twenty
dollars a week. The fact that my friends are doing it,
it's making me want to do it at the end
of the day. Could they just be putting that twenty
dollars away into their own account and maybe earn an
interest on it. Yes, but you are very trusting on
I guess if there's one person that controls the whole account.
I'm assuming when you're that good of friends, if you're
that good of friends that you go away together every year,
(14:01):
that you're trusting of that person. Yeah, one thousand dollars
at the end of the year is still a lot
of money for someone else to hold on to.
Speaker 1 (14:07):
True, I do agree, But also what I love about
this is like the forward commitment to going on a
girl's trip. Like I love that by doing this, you're
saying a year out, Okay, we've all made this commitment.
We're all going to like work together to have the
time away as friends.
Speaker 3 (14:20):
I'd love to know if there's rules, so like, if
you get ten months in and all of a sudden
you have come across a financial burden or something, you
need access to that money, are you allowed to withdraw it?
Speaker 2 (14:32):
Or is it like maybe fund only surely.
Speaker 1 (14:35):
But surely if you do withdraw it, then you're not
going on holiday, right like? Or do you pay your
way afterwards? The reason why they came up with this
is because they had been on group holidays before and
they'd run into dramas. Everyone knows what it's like when
you go out for dinner and like the bill doesn't
get split evenly, or even worse, it gets split completely evenly,
and you've got one person who wasn't drinking and someone
(14:55):
who was having like six margaritas.
Speaker 3 (14:57):
I know what you're saying, Laura, but I think that
that doesn't work in this situation.
Speaker 2 (15:00):
Well, and if someone has got a.
Speaker 3 (15:01):
Bank card with all the money in it, you've gone
out to dinner, one person's ordered the lobster and the chardonnay,
and then someone's had water and a salad. Are you
just paying for that out of the drink bank account?
Speaker 2 (15:11):
No, that's not even. So they have rules around it.
Speaker 1 (15:13):
So they had one friend who was pregnant one year
couldn't drink any alcohol, so they decided that all the
alcohol was paid individually by the people like who are there,
and everything else that was like shared communal holiday stuff
was split. I think it's got legs. I actually think
this is great. To be honest, I think that probably
your girlfriends are going to be less likely to financially
abuse you than relationships at some point.
Speaker 2 (15:33):
I'm sorry, I'm getting comuned this. I've got a lot
of questions.
Speaker 3 (15:36):
If there's like an overflow to the money, I don't
have all the answers for it.
Speaker 2 (15:40):
I am not this six women. Well, I've really invested now.
I wonder how it works. But I don't think it's
the worst thing.
Speaker 3 (15:45):
I think if it's going to like lock you into
making sure you have some time with your friends and
some quality time away, then yeah, maybe everyone should be
doing a drink bank account with their friends.
Speaker 2 (15:53):
But I don't know where this is going. I don't
know if you're about to ask for access to my
bank account. No, no, I don't want to access to
your bankount.
Speaker 1 (15:59):
But I think that this is the solution for getting
the girl's trip out of the WhatsApp group because everyone
talks about it. Everyone says we should go away on
a holiday.
Speaker 2 (16:06):
And then nothing ever happens.
Speaker 1 (16:08):
If you have a joint bank account, you're putting away
twenty bucks a week.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
It means that, like you.
Speaker 1 (16:12):
Get to the point where you're like, Okay, well look
at this, we've got the savings, we've got to make
the effort.
Speaker 2 (16:16):
We're going to go.
Speaker 3 (16:16):
Yeah, I love that I had to get married to
go on a girls trip with you anyway, all right,
Well
Speaker 2 (16:21):
That's it from us today, Guys,
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Good Pickup with Britt Hockley and Laura Ben.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
Baby or what our windows down? My world?
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Reason the dust only good bab.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Doug all down.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
I don't much, but yeah I'm not. I'll big get
and what I want. It don't matter where. This is the.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
Pickup, Hi guys, it's the pickup with Brett Hockley and
Laura Burn.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
How are we feeling? Laura? Are you looking? You here?
Some indigestion over there?
Speaker 3 (00:45):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (00:45):
I just had a really good bat of reflux.
Speaker 3 (00:48):
It could be the chocolate custard cinnamon donut that you
just Inhale.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
No, I think it is a baby that's pressing against
my diaphragm.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
That's what I think it is when baby meats doughnut.
Speaker 3 (00:57):
Do you know?
Speaker 2 (00:57):
Actually it could be. So kids are expensive. We know that.
Oh yeah, we know that.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
But also they're expensive and unexpected ways. So this morning
I was having a bit of a challenging time with
my four year old Lola, and I was like, she's
trying to get breakfast into her. She was not wanting
to have breakfast, And I was like eat your break
She just wanted a cheese stick out of the fridge,
and I was.
Speaker 3 (01:17):
Like, you know that like intuitive eating thing where it's
like if they don't want food, fine do.
Speaker 1 (01:21):
It's all great in theory, and I know people talk
about this, like people talk about just let them eat
the amount that they want to eat. The problem is
is like she won't eat her breakfast. Then two minutes
later she'd be like, can I have a fruit strap.
I'm like, no, your porridge was there, and then I
threw it in the bin. So anyway, that's a detour. Anyway,
she wanted a cheese stick and I said no to
the cheese stick about seven times.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
I turned my back.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
And I hear this almighty crash, and everything that's in
the door of the fridge is now smashed on the
ground of the floor because she has tried to climb
up the drawers the plastic trays in the door of
the fridge, and she has broken every single one on
the way down.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
She wanted that cheese stick.
Speaker 1 (01:59):
She's fine, She's completely fine. My fridge is not fine.
And then I looked online to buy new trays. It's
like seven hundred dollars for new trays.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
So she's taken basically the door out. Yeah, and gave
her a cheese did you, Laura? You can't reward that baby.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
Even I know that, but I felt guilty because I yelled,
you are reinforcing bad baby with a cheese stick.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
No. She was pretty sad about the whole thing. So
was I. So was the fridge. It was a bad day.
I mean, I can't give opinions because I'm not a parent,
but them I still have them. Now I have interested Britt.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
You know last year I won a very long standing
debate in our household, and that is I got a cat.
Speaker 3 (02:36):
You didn't win a debate. You got the cat when
your husband, Matt was away. That's not winning a debate.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
He didn't want one. He was really adamant against it.
He's not a cat fan.
Speaker 3 (02:46):
And I would have loved to have seen you a
debating class at school with that.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
How you think you went a debate? Matt didn't want
a cat.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
I wanted a cat, and so we compromised and we
got a cat. That was pretty much what happened. Look,
the cat is wonderful. Her name's Raspberry. She's very well,
actually a large she's not that sweet.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
She's a bit of a street cat, and she was.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
She was a rescue, so she's probably been through some
hard times. She was found in a bush shelter, and
now she still acts like a street cat.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
She now she lives in a nice house, she's got
whatever she.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Needs, she sideswipes the kids.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
She's really nice in the morning.
Speaker 3 (03:18):
So she's still a street cat. She she never shook it.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
Yeah, she's just got a bit of grit to it,
which we like that.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
We like a feisty girl, rough diamond.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
The problem is, so we got the cat in January,
and then a few weeks after we got the cat,
I found out I was pregnant.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
Now, the thing is.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
And I don't think a lot of people would know
this unless you've been through pregnancy yourself, you can't change
kitty litter when you're pregnant because there's this thing called
like toxoplasmosis. So the other night, Matt and I were
having dinner and we were talking and he was like, Hey,
I know that it's not your fault, but I have
a bit of a gripe to bring up with you.
And I was like, yeah, what, And he's like, the cat,
we need to talk about the cat, and I was like,
(03:55):
what about it? And he's like, you know that you've
literally never changed the kitty litter for the cat since
you brought it home. You said that you would take
full responsibility. I know that, like the pregnancy happened, and like,
obviously I'm not complaining about that. He's like, but you
have no idea what it's like to fish out little
chunks of boo from a kitty litter tray that every
single morning.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
I don't think that's what you do. You do, I'm
supposed to just change the kitty litter tray. You don't
pull out the POODI.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
No, So you keep the same kitty litter. Why do
you guys get cats? Why? I just thought you threw
the whole thing in the bit and then put you little.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
Well, you can't just change the kitty litter every single
day because then you're just wasting bags and bags.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
Of kidd it.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
So you have a little shovel, it's like a little
it's a little grated shovel, like you take to the
beach with a kid, right, and you scoop and then
you sift out the bits of good kitty litter and.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
You literally just pan and for gold in the kitty litter.
It would be so off it as well.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
So every day Matt has to pan for gold out
of the kitty litter tray and then he puts then
he puts the little nuggets into the toilet, flashes the toilet,
tops up the kitty litter.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
And I hadn't really thought about.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
Just how demoralizing that job is if you get stuck
with it.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
I've never had to do it. I don't think it's that.
It's just when you didn't on it in the first place,
I know.
Speaker 3 (05:10):
And it wasn't a compromise. I saw you throw that
word in before. It's not compromise when you just do
it when it's away. You got the cat when he
was away, so that's not a compromise. And it's not
winning a debate.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
You just got the cat when he wasn't home. I know.
He does put up with a lot from me, and
then he has ended up with it.
Speaker 3 (05:24):
And it's not even I mean, she's cute, but it's
not a cat that brings him joy. She doesn't want
to cuddle. She wants to just like scratch furniture and
dive bombs off the stairs onto Biple's heads.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
Like, I'm not surprised. He's hat enough.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
He was like, come with me, Laurie, like you don't
have to do it, but you have to witness what
I have to do. And he took me into the bathroom.
And not only that, the kitty litter.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
He's gonna make you watch him do it every day.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
The kitty litter is right next to the toilet, so
we don't have a lot of plays to put the
kitty litter. So it wasn't a really well thought out
thing either. The kitty litter is right next to the toilet,
and there he is bent over with the little spatchelor
sifting out.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
The pooh, and I just hadn't thought it through. And
now what's what.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
It has occurred to me that that's gonna be my
job soon and I'm gonna have to do that for
the next fifteen years.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
Absolutely, because cat's live forever. I just don't understand cats.
We had a cat growing up, So I'm not one
of those people. You know, you know when people say
they're not dog people's because they didn't grow up with
them and they don't get them.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
They don't had interact. I grew up with the cat.
I see. His name is PC, which was short for
pussy cat. It was very original. Ill, But I don't
know why that made me feel weird. But PC, why
is that? Ill? Is what used to say? And his
brain used to rattle in his head. I'll never forget it.
You used to put your.
Speaker 3 (06:32):
Head down and he would run at you and head
butt you, and you could hear his brain rattle.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
Anyway, that's a whole other story.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
I just don't understand cats, like I like, I'm like,
why do people get them? Because they ruin your furniture.
They don't want to engage with you or play with you.
Like my friend has a cat and shout up like
six years and they can't even go near it because
she's like, that's that's right. So I'm like, why have
you got it? Because you know why?
Speaker 1 (06:53):
Because every so often you do get a really nice
one and they're so sweet, and then you just everyone
who's buying a cat's just hoping that theirs turns out
like that one.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Well it's like the one percent. I know, I know,
I didn't realize that until recently. All right, well, good
like for you for the next fifteen years. Want a
babysit it I'm bringing around. No, I really don't. My
dog would eat it, would eat your cat.
Speaker 3 (07:16):
I had Laura a really close call on the weekend,
that's all.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
It was not good.
Speaker 3 (07:21):
It was one of those things where I just thought,
how has this happened? So I had a really big
photo shoot on, like a really big job. And I
say big job. It's important because like they had to
close down this business they rented out for the day and.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
Which would have cost them a motsa. Were you going
on like a hot air balloon or something, walked.
Speaker 3 (07:39):
A bunch of activities and yeah, it was like a commercial.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
Kind of thing. And so there it was like a
crew of twenty or thirty people going that had been booked.
It was a really big thing. Like I could not
not go to it.
Speaker 3 (07:50):
And so early in the morning I had a makeup
artist turned up to my house and I.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
Was like, you know what, you stay here. She was
doing someone else's makeup.
Speaker 3 (07:57):
I was like, I'm gonna go get aus coffees and
croissants and like just to pick up the mood.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
It was like six thirty in the morning. So I
went down the street to get coffee, had shoes on,
mind you. I don't leave the house shoes on.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
And I was walking with the full plate of coffees
and croissants and then I'm just walking normally and I
buckle and I don't feel the pain immediately, like I
feel something. But I was like, oh, my knee just
couldn't hold myself up. And I was like, what was that?
And I looked down and there is like a two
inch nock. It might be an exaggeration wanting no I saw.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
The video of this. This was. It was as rank
as you're describing it.
Speaker 3 (08:30):
There was like a one inch nail in my foot,
just like just straight up in there.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
There was didn't scratch the sides. Wasn't just like cute
hanging on the surface. This was a nail. It must
have been.
Speaker 3 (08:42):
Pointing directly upright on the ground and I have just
stomped down on it. The corner of my foot must
have been off my slide because I didn't go through
my shoe. It just went like past the shoe and
like so far into me. So I've dropped to the ground.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
What happened to all of the coffees in the cakes
dropped on the ground.
Speaker 3 (08:58):
I saved the croissants, of course, like they were, you know,
there was no way thing happened to those.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
I saw this British share it on your Stories at
the time, and I was I was sitting home and
I firstly, I'm sorry, I'm gonna say this because I
love you dearly, but I was like, I like, here
we go.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
And then when I saw it, I was like, oh
my god, oh no, I couldn't get it was a full.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
Rusty nail and it was stuck into like the hard
part of.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
Like your like your heel.
Speaker 3 (09:21):
Yeah, and I'm really good with pain, That's what I
would like to say, Like I never go to a
doctor hospital. I do have a high pain tolerance. Anyway,
I was like, this is really hurting me. Cute, I'm
just gonna pull it out. It's gone in, it can
go out. So I go to pull it and it is.
It's not coming out. The end of the nail must
have had a hook on it all so that I
think the nail was just so rusty that it.
Speaker 2 (09:40):
Just wasn't It wasn't clean anymore.
Speaker 3 (09:42):
I was pulling this thing and it was not coming out,
and I thought, oh my god, like I physically can't
get it out. So my sister was in my house.
I called my sister to come down. She used to
work in hospital with me. She's trying to pull it out.
She's like, this is not coming. You're gonna have to
go to a hospital. And I was like, I actually can't.
We have forty five minutes until this whole place is
closed down with all these people. So I sit on
(10:04):
the ground and I'm yanking and I'm yanking, and I thought,
I cannot miss this day because all of these will.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
Be out of a day's work.
Speaker 3 (10:09):
So I just like bite my lip and I reefed
this nail out, like reached on the street.
Speaker 2 (10:16):
Anyway, as I'm pulling it out.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
This woman walks past and she's like, oh, I love
your podcast, and I'm like crying with bo and I said,
oh my god, I was crying.
Speaker 2 (10:24):
I'm like, thank you so much.
Speaker 3 (10:24):
I was like, I'm so sorry that I'm sitting on
the street at six thirty in the morning crying. I
was like, I got broken up, Like I'm actually okay.
She's like, well, She's like I was wondering what you
were doing. Anyway, it was a disaster. Then I couldn't
put weight on my foot for the whole day, and
I had to go to work with like walking around
on my tiptoes.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
Also, when I.
Speaker 1 (10:41):
Saw it, I was like, can you just make sure
you go get a technis shot. I know you want
to have some strong workout, you know, saw yourself out.
Speaker 3 (10:46):
That's the other thing I'm not exaggerating when I say
I reckon three thousand people message me just saying not
sure if you know, but you need.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
To go get a test. I was like there.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
I was like there because honestly, like when you were
doing it, I thought, God, she's gone to work, she
needs to go and get that sorted.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
The only thing that this reminds me of is like
when I was little.
Speaker 1 (11:05):
My dad is a really keen fisherman, and like where
you would go fishing. Every outdoor activity was like fishing
on a boat. He'd go and get a little dinghy
and we would go fishing together. And I remember this
one time we were out there was another family that
was out as well, and the I think it was
the sun. He was only really little. He'd cast his
rod out and at the same time the hook had
caught on to the dad and he'd cast the rod
(11:27):
out and well the dad go through, Well it went
straight through the back of his shoulder, and so he
was pulling and tugging and the hook had gone straight
into the dad's shoulders, straight through his shirt. Anyway, it
was a really end to that little fishing trip. Had
to go back out the weekend after, didn't we Okay?
Speaker 2 (11:40):
Cool? That's that's making me feel quick.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
Now we all know when it comes to like money
in relationships, it can be kind of a tricky.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
Thing, right, root of all evil.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
Well, apparently number one cause would break up in romantic
relationships is cheating, and number two is finances, which you
know a lot of people don't see y to I
unfortunately checks out though, But also I think it's pretty
common for people in romantic relationships to have joint bank accounts.
You know, you share whatever is coming out of your
common food items. Like everyone splits money quite differently.
Speaker 3 (12:12):
Though the money I mean, like, I don't know how
far we're going into this. Money is a problem in
family dynamics, relationships, friend relationships, like not just romantic relationships.
I know families that have had proper fallout over money, yeah,
of course, but oheritances and whatever.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
I mean, we can talk about the negatives. How do
we talk about the positives of these things. So for
some people who have joint bank accounts with their partners also,
it's like a really great savings tool in order to
kind of like plan things that are coming up together,
like maybe you're co saving for holiday, or you've got like,
you know, a little pot of money that you're doing
something to have something special off the back of it
(12:48):
for each other.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
Got it right? Okay?
Speaker 1 (12:50):
So saving There is a group of six women who
have kind of decided to do it a little bit differently.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
Now.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
They have created a friendship group joint bank account. The
reason for this is that every week they put twenty
dollars in each and every year, once a year they
go away on a big friendship holiday and they have
already pretty much prepaid for the majority of it. They
will use that account to either pay for drinks or
cover the hotels, cover the food. And there's one person
(13:16):
in that friendship group who is responsible for all of
the I guess.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
Like the admin of the bank account. So it's like
about one thousand dollars each a like.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
Yeah, when did you do that, Massac? I just do
it then, Yeah, it's just over one thousand dollars each year.
But it means that they've got over six thousand each
year in that bank account and they can go and
have a little holiday together.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
Would you do this with your friends? I mean, I
think it has its pros and cons.
Speaker 3 (13:40):
It's like, yes, it's for savings because you're actually twenty
dollars a week. The fact that my friends are doing it,
it's making me want to do it at the end
of the day. Could they just be putting that twenty
dollars away into their own account and maybe earn an
interest on it. Yes, but you are very trusting on
I guess if there's one person that controls the whole account.
I'm assuming when you're that good of friends, if you're
that good of friends that you go away together every year,
(14:01):
that you're trusting of that person. Yeah, one thousand dollars
at the end of the year is still a lot
of money for someone else to hold on to.
Speaker 1 (14:07):
True, I do agree, But also what I love about
this is like the forward commitment to going on a
girl's trip. Like I love that by doing this, you're
saying a year out, Okay, we've all made this commitment.
We're all going to like work together to have the
time away as friends.
Speaker 3 (14:20):
I'd love to know if there's rules, so like, if
you get ten months in and all of a sudden
you have come across a financial burden or something, you
need access to that money, are you allowed to withdraw it?
Speaker 2 (14:32):
Or is it like maybe fund only surely.
Speaker 1 (14:35):
But surely if you do withdraw it, then you're not
going on holiday, right like? Or do you pay your
way afterwards? The reason why they came up with this
is because they had been on group holidays before and
they'd run into dramas. Everyone knows what it's like when
you go out for dinner and like the bill doesn't
get split evenly, or even worse, it gets split completely evenly,
and you've got one person who wasn't drinking and someone
(14:55):
who was having like six margaritas.
Speaker 3 (14:57):
I know what you're saying, Laura, but I think that
that doesn't work in this situation.
Speaker 2 (15:00):
Well, and if someone has got a.
Speaker 3 (15:01):
Bank card with all the money in it, you've gone
out to dinner, one person's ordered the lobster and the chardonnay,
and then someone's had water and a salad. Are you
just paying for that out of the drink bank account?
Speaker 2 (15:11):
No, that's not even. So they have rules around it.
Speaker 1 (15:13):
So they had one friend who was pregnant one year
couldn't drink any alcohol, so they decided that all the
alcohol was paid individually by the people like who are there,
and everything else that was like shared communal holiday stuff
was split. I think it's got legs. I actually think
this is great. To be honest, I think that probably
your girlfriends are going to be less likely to financially
abuse you than relationships at some point.
Speaker 2 (15:33):
I'm sorry, I'm getting comuned this. I've got a lot
of questions.
Speaker 3 (15:36):
If there's like an overflow to the money, I don't
have all the answers for it.
Speaker 2 (15:40):
I am not this six women. Well, I've really invested now.
I wonder how it works. But I don't think it's
the worst thing.
Speaker 3 (15:45):
I think if it's going to like lock you into
making sure you have some time with your friends and
some quality time away, then yeah, maybe everyone should be
doing a drink bank account with their friends.
Speaker 2 (15:53):
But I don't know where this is going. I don't
know if you're about to ask for access to my
bank account. No, no, I don't want to access to
your bankount.
Speaker 1 (15:59):
But I think that this is the solution for getting
the girl's trip out of the WhatsApp group because everyone
talks about it. Everyone says we should go away on
a holiday.
Speaker 2 (16:06):
And then nothing ever happens.
Speaker 1 (16:08):
If you have a joint bank account, you're putting away
twenty bucks a week.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
It means that, like you.
Speaker 1 (16:12):
Get to the point where you're like, Okay, well look
at this, we've got the savings, we've got to make
the effort.
Speaker 2 (16:16):
We're going to go.
Speaker 3 (16:16):
Yeah, I love that I had to get married to
go on a girls trip with you anyway, all right,
Well
Speaker 2 (16:21):
That's it from us today, Guys,
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