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Speaker 1 (00:10):
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Speaker 2 (00:19):
Good Pickup with Britt Hockley and Laura Burn. BRADYO, what
our windows down? My world?
Speaker 3 (00:26):
Reason the dust only good?
Speaker 2 (00:28):
Bab dougle down.
Speaker 4 (00:30):
I've done much, but yeah, I know I'll beg get
and what I want.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
It don't matter where rag. This is the pickup Papy Thursday.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
It's to pick up with Ritt Hockey, I'm a Laura
Burn and Maddie J who is feeling in for his
lovely wife while she's on maternity leave. Maddie, I do
have to say you've been a real trooper this week,
and not because you've been showing up, but you've been
showing up with almost no voice.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
You know. I'm just I'm a batler.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
It's like quite raspy.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
Do you like it?
Speaker 3 (00:57):
I actually it's almost like a better It's the new and.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
Brute bat J. So if my throat does get better,
just fly kick me back in the atoms Apple and
I'll be right back to this point.
Speaker 3 (01:06):
What have you been doing?
Speaker 1 (01:07):
Because I feel like I'm a bit worried that I'm
not gonna have a co host the next day or two,
because I like is getting worse.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
I'm getting better. I'm getting better. And also the fact
that it's Thursday, my favorite day of the week, that
is going to spur me onto the finish line to
get through to Friday.
Speaker 3 (01:20):
Why is it your favorite day? You think it's Friday.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
I just there's no pressure on a Thursday, right, There's
too many expectations on a Friday of what Just like,
everyone's like, what are you going to be doing on
the weekend. It's like, I don't know. I'm doing the
washing Thursday. There's no pressure whatsoever.
Speaker 3 (01:32):
A lot of social pressure, isn't.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
There a lot of social pressure?
Speaker 3 (01:34):
Well, I don't have.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
Kids and I don't do anything either, so it's okay.
It's okay to say that, Matt, this is your first
Thursday with us at the pickup, which means it's our
first ask gun cut.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
Oh my gosh, what a joy, what a pleasure.
Speaker 3 (01:49):
How do you feel your your therapy had on?
Speaker 2 (01:50):
No, I like it. I do like a bit of
a gossip and I do like giving advice. So this
is going to be perfect for me.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
Well, this is what we do.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
For those of you playing at home that haven't heard this,
every Thursday on our podcast Life on Cut, we do
ask on Cut where someone writes in with the their
conundrum of the week. So we've brought it over to
the pickup and it's become one of our favorite segments.
Speaker 3 (02:09):
Now we have Tony on the line.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
Hey Tony, what's going on? Welcome to the show. Tell
us your problem this week?
Speaker 4 (02:16):
Hi Brie, It Hi Maddie. So basically, it's my sister
in law. She has recently moved home from the US
after splitting with her husband. She's now back in Australia.
She's obviously requested from my husband and myself if she
can come and stay with us. We've obviously said yes,
and we're now over six weeks later and there's been
(02:39):
no formal discussion around where to next, how do I
bring this up? How do I approach this?
Speaker 2 (02:45):
Has she found her feet? Are they look.
Speaker 4 (02:48):
She's found a job? Put it that way, and there's
still been no discussion.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
Is there a particular reason you don't like her at
your house in terms of like you don't get along
with her?
Speaker 3 (02:56):
Is she messes the house too small? Like what's what's the.
Speaker 4 (02:59):
Go You're right, so we have two young small children
at home as well, And I guess I'm just wanting
to get my own family lifestyle back in line. Like
it makes it difficult when we've got children as well,
and she's kind of coming and going at her own pace.
It just it's that one extra add of, Oh, do
we need to think about her for dinner? Do we
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need to incorporate her own this and that and that?
Can I don't know. I just would love to know
where to from here?
Speaker 2 (03:25):
Does she have a worse habit?
Speaker 4 (03:28):
Good question. I would probably say she's not very kid
orientated and she's never had children, And I will say
that probably irks me a little bit when she's in
our phone with children and she's just she doesn't have
the keenness or the eats to play with them, and
she has she's.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
A kid a little bit.
Speaker 3 (03:48):
How old is she?
Speaker 1 (03:49):
And my follow up question is does she pay you
anything to contribute?
Speaker 4 (03:53):
So she's early forties and at the moment, she's just
been giving us fifty dollars a week just for a
little bit of I guess amenities.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
Now that's a bargain.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
I wonder if that's your first mistake, you should have
charged them a lot more than that.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
She's not going anywhere for fifty You've made it too cushy.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
I think this is my first first on cut Tony okay,
and I think I think it's it's never been more
fitting for me to give my advice in a situation
because I have been your sister in law.
Speaker 4 (04:21):
You were a blood.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
I have found myself in a situation where I lived
in London for a long time four years. I was
with a partner long term. We broke up, I came back,
I had nowhere to stay, and my sister and her
husband welcoming into their home and they had young children
as well. This is it's scared around the similarities. I
think I stayed about two months. Okay, that's a right though,
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I'm can say, but eventually I did get kicked out.
And what they did gradually they just made the environment
for me more and more difficult and unenjoyable to live in.
So they had a lot of things storage wise, like
a mountain bike. They had an old chainsaw. They would
store it in the room that I was in. So
over a period of a number of days you're a bike,
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more and more things will get dumped in that. And
then just to add to that then the husband would
come in at four in the morning, get ready for work,
and he would just make it worse and worse and
worse as a living environment. So what I think you
need to do is implement this with your sister in law,
so you know, put the kids in her room at
like midnight.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
I think no, I think you just be passive aggressive,
Like you're at dinner, not passive aggressive, but you all
having dinner and you're just like, Hey, Shelley, how's the
house hunting going, Like, have you had any success? I
think it's just a question, And like, surely she's forty,
surely she can read between life.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
You can put used nappies. You can put used nappies,
put them in a bag, leave them in her room.
And then you want to make it so she is
forced into the decision to move out.
Speaker 1 (05:50):
But surely, guys, surely, at forty and single, you are
wanting to get back on your feet and dating wise,
and like, or you just.
Speaker 3 (05:57):
Think she's not even remotely wanting to move out.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
It costs a living crisis fifty bucks a week. Come on,
let's be honest, who's going to move out?
Speaker 4 (06:03):
I do like Maddie's approach so, and I do think
we need to start just yeah, making life harder.
Speaker 3 (06:07):
For her, like the passive aggressiveness. You can't just start
doing nap He's.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
In a room, Yep, absolutely you can. Do you have
any stories like a shed at the moment, Tony, absolutely,
empty that out. Put it in her room. Empty it out,
put her in the when she goes to work. When
she goes to work, just put a couple of things
like a lawnmower. Put it in the room. Tony.
Speaker 3 (06:26):
I'm so sorry. I don't think we've given you any advice.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
Would she's accepting the advice. Don't apologize, Brett, Tony, You're welcome.
Speaker 4 (06:34):
Thanks guys, it's actually helpful.
Speaker 3 (06:38):
Matt, you're going to want to be sitting down for this.
Wait yeah, you're aready, okapable?
Speaker 2 (06:42):
Well what do you go for me? Britt? I feel
like this is big news.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
It's huge news in the science world and huge news
in the health world.
Speaker 3 (06:49):
Apparently.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
Now this has come from a doctor, Zach Turner. He's
a medical practitioner.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
So Zucky Tea. I love the guy. Yeah, you know
he'sac tet dog, big fan of his research.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
Yes, well, he's been doing some some chatting online about
preventative health and wellness things that you can do into
your life, like everyday things. Now this might shock you,
but just like quick answer, don't think it. Are you
fresh bread or frozen bread?
Speaker 2 (07:11):
Till the day I die? Always frozen me do? Always?
Speaker 1 (07:14):
From like when we were kids at home, we've always
frozen our bread.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
Well, it's generational, you know much. It is my great grandparents,
my grandparents, my mother. As far as I can look back,
we've always been big freezes the bread.
Speaker 3 (07:26):
We're a frozen family, true family. I okay, So for me,
I freeze it now. I can't believe we're talking about this.
If anyone cares why I freeze my bread? I live alone.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
He looked like a freezer in general.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
I'm big and square.
Speaker 2 (07:39):
No, I was just like when I look at you,
I'm like, that's a woman who looks after herself. She
freezes her bread, no, no question about it.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Well, I can't buy fresh bread, right, I just throw
it out. I can't eat it on one person. I
can't get through it enough before it goes off, So
I freeze it. But apparently freezing your bread is better
for your gut health if it's fresh. The preservatives and
the whatever in it, the starch go to your small
intestine and it just doesn't do as much, doesn't absorb
as much.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
But when you freeze it, it changes it.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
Like I don't know, it's a science thing, hashtag science,
and they're saying that frozen bread is actually better for you.
It changes like the molecular biological makeup of the bread.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
Well said, I wish I knew this years ago, because
when I first got together with Laura, she wasn't a freezer.
You know. It's like, there's certain ways was she freshy?
She was a freshy, And there's certain things in a
relationship that I think you're either a column ae or
colum bee, like tomato sauce. Is it the pantry or
in the fridge?
Speaker 3 (08:31):
What are you?
Speaker 2 (08:32):
I was always fridge.
Speaker 3 (08:33):
I'm pantry.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
I want my food to be cold.
Speaker 3 (08:35):
It's not freezing iron pantry.
Speaker 1 (08:38):
But mind you, somebody said that it's really bad for
you to not have it in the fridge.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
So I have migrated, but it took so long to
convert Laura mag you mind, it's gonna be fridge. Everything's
in the fridge.
Speaker 3 (08:49):
Bridge is a grace veguan.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
Pantry?
Speaker 3 (08:51):
Yeah, pantry, for life.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
What about Ben? What's Ben? Is he a freezer or
a non freezer of the bread?
Speaker 3 (08:56):
Do you know what Ben is? My husband?
Speaker 2 (08:57):
Ben?
Speaker 1 (08:58):
He is that person that, like I will never go
to the supermarket. I don't want to go and get food.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
Ever.
Speaker 1 (09:03):
Ben is that person that will go out every day
to get the food for the day, like the morning
to get the breakfast. He'll go out in the afternoon
to get the fresh dinner and fresh vegetables. And I'm like, baby,
you know you've got to eat all weeks.
Speaker 3 (09:15):
But it's wrong with the mayor psychopath.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
I mean, I mean he cooks for me, so it
grounds for divorce. Potentially he's skating on thin ice.
Speaker 3 (09:23):
But it's it's controversial. So I just wonder, now do
we all just become freezers.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
I'm a big advocate for the freezer. Okay, well, the
freezer market is going to be taking off after this break.
I love being here because I get to air some
dirty laundry. Okay. I get to be honest and own
up to the mistakes that I've made throughout the week,
and I've made a very embarrassing one recently.
Speaker 3 (09:47):
I love this for you, you know why, because it's
a choice.
Speaker 1 (09:51):
You don't have to come and out yourself on national
Live radio, but I love that.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
You want to. Well, I just feel like it clears
the conscience, does it? Yeah, it does.
Speaker 3 (09:59):
I keep a lot of stuff secret, and that's the problem.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
You're so way down by it. So recently the weather
has really warmed up. It is, yes, okay, And what
do we love doing with warm weather?
Speaker 3 (10:08):
Going to the beach, also.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
Playing in the backyard. Okay, the beach is great. But
it was a hot day and we were in the
backyard playing with the water. Our neighbors were also in
their backyard. They've got two young kids, and their kids
love playing with our kids, and so over the fence.
I was like, hey, guys, come plain our water, come play.
There's water for everyone. Okay, So they brought their kids over.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
Isn't this what people spend years teaching their kids not
to go and play with strangers when they say, come
play with my water.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
I am not a stranger, brit I'm not just pulling
kids off the street. There are neighbors, we have a relationship.
We get along well, they're lovely, the kids get along,
and it's really nice being in a street where you
can invite the neighbors over and you have kids play together.
It's a really beautiful moment.
Speaker 3 (10:54):
I imagine it sounds wholesome.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
And as the kids were playing, you don't get those
shells that are filled with water like a toy. No,
there's big shells. You have like little ponds almost. Oh yeah,
like a pond shell you have like a come on, brit.
Speaker 3 (11:07):
I don't have kids. I don't play with water in
my art.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
I'm sorry.
Speaker 3 (11:09):
I'm trying to stay with you, but I think I
can imagine it.
Speaker 2 (11:11):
So you have these little shells and they're just like
in an ankle deep water, and kids loved just playing
with little toys in there. And as they often do,
the kids were getting board with the toys, and so
I thought, I'm going to run back inside and I'll
grab a couple more little toys, just to make sure
the kids are entertained for longer, because that's the kind
of caring parent that I am. Yeah, okay, So I
grabbed something and I thought, I haven't seen this toy before,
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but it looks like a lot of fun. I'm sure
the kids will enjoy playing with it. So I ran outside.
I threw it in a little pond for the kids,
and they loved it. They were grabbing with it and
squirting it and having a great time. And Laura looked
at me with a really concerned facial expression, and.
Speaker 3 (11:50):
I was like, grabbed.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
I was like, what's the problem me. It's not like
I've grabbed a serrated knife. You know. The kids are
having a good time, everyone's happy. And she pulls me
over and she goes, where did you grab that from?
And I said it was in the top drawer in
the bathroom. And she goes, do you know what that is?
And I go, yeah, it's like a water pistol. Is okay,
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I don't know if you know what this is.
Speaker 3 (12:14):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
I had no idea.
Speaker 3 (12:16):
Oh you've brought it in. It's like show and tell
you brought it in. What is that a douche?
Speaker 2 (12:21):
It's a funny flusher. Oh, it's a perennial flusher after
you give birth to a child. It's a nice, delicate
way of just washing your bits.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
It looks like a giant toy electric toothbrush.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
I thought that's what I thought it was. I thought
it was just like a like a novelty size toy
electric toothbrush.
Speaker 3 (12:40):
Is what do you do with that?
Speaker 2 (12:41):
Feel?
Speaker 3 (12:42):
I mean, I know what you do with it, but
why does she have it?
Speaker 2 (12:44):
Because she's just given birth?
Speaker 3 (12:45):
Oh, your post birth.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
It's like a post natle wash it for your bits
because it's you know, obviously very delicate. Downstairs, and I've
thrown it in and the next door neighbor who's three
has got this in their hands, running around squirting everyone
in my backyard.
Speaker 3 (13:03):
And then so you have to go take it off
of them. You're like, that's actually not for you to
play with it.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
Well, I didn't want to upset her, so I let
it continue playing with it. If you're going to make
these label them because idiots like me have no idea.
Speaker 1 (13:14):
Okay, in my defense, I also didn't know, but it
would have been a bit of an alarm bell that
you had to go and rustle through, like the bathroom
draws when your wife has just given birth, as well,
like toys don't belong in the bathroom.
Speaker 2 (13:25):
Drawers that we have three kids break we have toys everywhere.
You know.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
This reminds me of a story Laura recently told me
on the podcast. I don't know if we're going to
tell it here, but yeah, why not.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
Wasn't that not that long ago that your little daughter Lola,
who is like four, mistook something in the bedside table
for like a little a little massage toy.
Speaker 2 (13:45):
Yeah, it's like a minefield of my hair. You don't
know what you're grabbing.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
The kids can't go, No one can have play at
your house anymore.
Speaker 3 (13:51):
That's the only story I've gone from this. Hey, guys,
that is it from us today.