September 4, 2025 • 14 mins
ASK UNCUT: Mary and her husband have been sleeping separately, should she be concerned? Britt & Laura unpack Grandma Names and who gets to choose them and Laura is a LITTLE bit concerned about the threats being made by her 4-year-old.
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Speaker 1 (00:10):
I heard podcasts.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Hear more Kiss podcast playlist and listen live on the
Free I Hunt APPI with Brittle and Laura Burn. Baby
your what our windows down? My world? Reason the dust
only good lab dougle down. I don't much, but yeah, I'll.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
Big get and what I want. It don't matter where gone.
This is the pickup.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
Hi, guys, It's the pickup with Britt Hockeley and Laura Burn.
Speaker 3 (00:43):
We have to we cannot let these gold nuggets happen
in our life, Laura and not share them with Well.
Speaker 4 (00:49):
Let me not make content out of my misfortune.
Speaker 3 (00:51):
No, Like I mean, baby, brain is a thing, right,
and you have been known to put your keys and
things on cars and lose a lot of stuff and
it's escalated. But you did just lose something and it
was the funniest thing that I got to witness in
real life. So Laura just took a phone call with
her obs Gyne. She was having a chat for her
next booking, and we're in the same room, so I'm
(01:12):
obviously listening to her and she's trying to pull up
her diary on her computers.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
On my laptop.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
At the same time, La, I'm telling the story because
I think you're gonna add Mayo and I want to
defend my line.
Speaker 4 (01:21):
I didn't.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
I witnessed it as it is. So she's talking on
the phone.
Speaker 3 (01:24):
She's just trying to bring up on her laptop her
diary to see when she can fit it in, and
she's like, I'm so sorry. I'm just I can't find
my phone to book this scene. I need to see
what I've got. And she's like looking around, She's like
where did I put it? And I'm just watching her,
and I thought, how long has this got to go
on for?
Speaker 4 (01:37):
She's talking on her for a while. She looks up
at me as in like, where did I put my phone?
Speaker 2 (01:41):
I looked at her.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
I was like, Laura, you're on it. You're talking on
your phone.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
I think I got a bit confused because I was
also on my laptop at the same time.
Speaker 4 (01:48):
I don't know what was going on.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
Phone calls her confused, Yeah, it's hard, you know what
to the lampline, Yes, I think it is needs to be.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
No. Pregnancy brain is a thing, and I have made
lots of mistakes recently.
Speaker 1 (01:59):
It is a thing. It's actually science back. So we laugh,
but I.
Speaker 4 (02:02):
Feel sorry for me.
Speaker 3 (02:05):
We're doing ask gun Cut, which we do every week
on our podcast Life on Podcast, you guys are writing
the biggest problems of the week and we do our
best to answer them.
Speaker 4 (02:13):
I don't know if this one is a huge problem.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
Well, this is a problem I'm in.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
I am in this predicament as well, so I feel
like I am going to be able to give some
brilliant advice. We have Mary on the line who is
having some sleep issues.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
She's in a sleep divorce.
Speaker 4 (02:25):
Hey Mary, Hi, guys, h I'm Mary.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
What's happening?
Speaker 5 (02:30):
So me and my partner We've been sleeping in separate
rooms for about three years now. I'm just kind of
thinking how do I get out of the roommate thoughe.
Speaker 4 (02:40):
Okay, So how did it start?
Speaker 2 (02:41):
Was it like one of you snores or was it
just more convenient? Like what was the reason why you
ended up in separate rooms in the first place?
Speaker 5 (02:48):
Having a second baby or saturd you're im pregnant bee?
Speaker 2 (02:52):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (02:52):
So how long were you together before that?
Speaker 5 (02:54):
Like?
Speaker 1 (02:54):
How long you been together total?
Speaker 5 (02:56):
We've been together for nine years?
Speaker 1 (02:58):
OHI so you yes? What's that math?
Speaker 4 (03:01):
Seven?
Speaker 1 (03:02):
Six or seven years?
Speaker 3 (03:03):
You're in the same bend and then you've get out
onto your own room, and does that mean you're left
to be the only and it gets up in the
night and stuff with the little.
Speaker 5 (03:10):
Ones pretty much.
Speaker 4 (03:12):
But also, I mean, I think this is really common.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
But I actually was reading something recently that was talking
about how, yes, it's common that we end up sleeping
in separate rooms when you have young kids, because it's
just functionally it makes sense. But then what is happening
to a lot of couples is that they're not finding
their way back. Yeah, and then it causes this like
romantic or I guess connections, separation is what happens. Do
(03:35):
you feel as though the relationship not just the sleeping
separate rooms, but do you feel like there's like being
a dip in the relationship in terms of like how
connected you feel to your husband as well?
Speaker 1 (03:44):
Do you mean like the horizontal dancers?
Speaker 2 (03:46):
Yeah, I was trying to get there in a.
Speaker 5 (03:49):
Yeah I do. When people ask and the like are
you sleeping separate rooms? Isn't that weird? I don't need
to get us, but yeah we are. No.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
I look, I sleep in a different country to my
husband Ben so yoused toll sleep with him when he's around.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
Once a week in six months. Yes, I do.
Speaker 3 (04:02):
No, I don't think it's the end of the world
as long as the connection is still there, and I
think a lot more people are doing it.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
I think it's becoming quite common.
Speaker 3 (04:09):
I have friends with our kids that are in great
relationships and they sleep in their own rooms because maybe
one of them like they just.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
Get better sleep for whatever reason.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
But it means you do need to make more effort
in the other areas of your life to stay connected
and have the intimacy.
Speaker 4 (04:24):
Because otherwise it is so easy to.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
Fall into a trap of literally being roommates, like just
two people that coexist together and share a house together.
Speaker 5 (04:32):
Yeah, I am ok.
Speaker 4 (04:34):
Look, I have a bit more of a personal question.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
Are you still being intimate with each other or is
it because of the separate room situation that that kind
of is now just not really happening.
Speaker 5 (04:44):
No, we still do. So we still have a sleepover
in each other's rooms two or three times a week.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
Oh, you're fine, you're having bait. That's better than most
people sleep in the same bed.
Speaker 4 (04:55):
This is actually working out great for you, guys.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
I think that's the perfect thing.
Speaker 3 (04:59):
Half of the week, you guys are together and doing
whatever it is you're doing, and the other half of
the week getting really great sleep.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
I actually think you've unlocked.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
The key here, Mary, question is your friends who think
it's weird or like there's other people who were having
an issue with it.
Speaker 5 (05:12):
No, yeah, just friends, like, we don't have an issue
with it, but when I mentioned it, they're like, oh,
that's weird.
Speaker 3 (05:17):
Jealous, Yes, they're jealous for sure.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
Do you know what I think some people people project right,
like if it works for you guys, and you're still
if you said to me, oh, we would never ever,
you know, intimate with each other and now we sleep
in other rooms, and I'd say, yeah, that sounds very roommty.
Speaker 4 (05:32):
The fact that that's not a problem to me.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
I think that people just they impose their views from
their relationship onto others, and like because it wouldn't work
for them, they assumed that it can't possibly work for
someone else. But it sounds like you guys have it
nailed literally three to four times a week.
Speaker 5 (05:48):
Yep.
Speaker 3 (05:49):
Well, look, I just don't think you've been a predicament.
I think a lot of people can learn from you
and take something from this today. But hey, Mary, just
for getting on air, with us today. You have scored
yourself a pair of Sony's new earbuds. I don't know
if you've seen these bad boys, but they are noise canceling,
so they're gonna be brilliant for the nights that you
want to block that baby out, maybe you.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
Want to train your husband's voice out.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
But they've got great clear calls, stylish colors, so they're
all yours.
Speaker 4 (06:12):
Just be calling up today.
Speaker 5 (06:14):
Wow, awesome, thanks so much.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
Not worried. All right, we're going to take a little
bit of a switch here.
Speaker 3 (06:21):
We often talk about parenting but we're going to talk
about grand parenting for a second. Who gets to choose
the name that a grandparent uses.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
I think it's open to the grandparents, because otherwise you
end up with like multiple nanas or multiple nannies, And
like you know, sometimes you'll have the conversation of like,
all right, my mom wants to be Nana. Does your
mom want to be grandma or be nanny? And then
if they can kind of choose, yeah, so Ellie, who
is my mother in law?
Speaker 4 (06:49):
She lives with us.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
It kind of just worked out that both grandparents became nana,
and so now it's like Nana who lives with us,
Nana who doesn't live with us.
Speaker 3 (06:57):
We used to do that, but it'd be like, you
use their names, so like Nana.
Speaker 4 (07:01):
Jan Yes, yeah, okay.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
So Ellie my mother in law, she wants to be
called Nelly, and my kids refuse to make up the
word Nellie.
Speaker 4 (07:09):
They're like, no, you're not Nellie. She's too They're not
a rapper, You're not Nellie.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
So this has come off the back of a Reddit
thread online where one woman has come out asking, like,
m I the a hole because she's got little kids.
Speaker 4 (07:23):
She's oh, she's.
Speaker 3 (07:23):
Sorry, she's pregnant, she hasn't even birthed her child yet.
And her own mother came out and said, I've decided
what I want to be called.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
I want to be.
Speaker 3 (07:31):
Called big Mama, not nana, not grandma, not grammy, whatever,
big mama.
Speaker 4 (07:38):
No, that's no, Well, the daughter, it's got to be
within reason.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
This is what the daughter has said.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
I told her nicely, I was uncomfortable with it because
I should be the only person who is even remotely
considered mama or any type of mama.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
She went into this.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
Whole spree about how she's the grandparent, and she gets
to be called anything she wants, and that you need
to respect your elders.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
Oh, get a grip.
Speaker 3 (08:00):
No, it's coming to this discussion now of like who
bestows the name that the grandparent uses. Is bestowed upon
the grandparents buy their child or does the grandparent get
to say, hey, this is what I'm comfortable with.
Speaker 4 (08:13):
Do you know what?
Speaker 2 (08:13):
Though, it kind of depends on how present the grandparent
is as well.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
See Mama is going to be present.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
She's there, she is there, No, Because I think what
happened with us is like we just referred to Nana
as Nana. You know, we refer to my mum as
Nana because that's what we called our grandma.
Speaker 4 (08:28):
You know, the kids spend.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
Way more time with us than they do with Nana,
so they would just start saying Nana. I kind of
feel like you can curtail this and the kids will
just be like, why does Nana keep calling herself big Mama?
Speaker 1 (08:40):
That's weird come to big Mama. So I doesn't like it,
vibe it.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
But that's kind of what happened in our house with
Ellie when Ellie was like, call me Nelly, but the
kids were like, no, you're Nana that's weird.
Speaker 3 (08:51):
Does she wear it like a gold grill. In our household,
we have NJ. So my nana is NJ, and that
was she decided that anytime we'd call her nana, she
would say NJ and she would just drill it into us.
So that stands for Nana Jan. Well, she's just ENJ
to us now. But my dad is a grampy or
a popsicle or a Papa Smurf, so he gets three names.
(09:15):
I think it's cute to have something that's like unique
to your family, as long as everyone is okay with it.
Speaker 2 (09:20):
Yeah, but there's a difference in this question. Okay, so
the grandma wants to be called big Mama.
Speaker 4 (09:26):
The mama has said.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
It's a no, and instead of just being like, oh, okay,
I'll come up with something else, she's like, gas let
her own daughter. And she's like, well, I'm older, respect
your olders.
Speaker 4 (09:36):
No, I mean you do have to respect your older
to somen capacity. Yes, that flies when you're a child,
it's not when you're also an adult. You don't just
respect someone just because they're older than you. That's not
how it works.
Speaker 3 (09:45):
But I do think it's I don't know I'm not
a mom, so correct me if I'm wrong. I think
it's a bit precious to say no one else will
have the name mama in their title because I'm the
only mamma. I feel like my dad is Papa smurf,
which has papa in it.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
As a dad call, like as in like, not many
people are calling their dad papa.
Speaker 4 (10:02):
They're calling their dad dad.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
You know, so like I Actually I don't necessarily disagree.
Speaker 4 (10:07):
My kids call me mama.
Speaker 2 (10:09):
They don't call me mom, and so I would find
it weird if they were calling another.
Speaker 1 (10:13):
Person mama mama.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
Yeah, just like I don't think Matt would really appreciate
if the kids were calling my.
Speaker 4 (10:17):
Dad dadda big dadda, Like I don't know.
Speaker 1 (10:20):
I can understand why.
Speaker 5 (10:21):
It's seriously, we're taking.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
This guy this neither neither. Actually I can understand why
it's weirded the mom out. But also I think step
aside Grandma. I know you're the grandma, but you're not
the mom.
Speaker 3 (10:31):
They're fighting words, Laura.
Speaker 4 (10:34):
I say this, but then I'm alost like.
Speaker 5 (10:35):
Ellie, I need you.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
Ellie can be called anything she wants as long as
she is. Ellie can wrap Nellie can be a rapper.
Speaker 4 (10:42):
I'll call you Nellie every day of the week. Just
never leave.
Speaker 2 (10:46):
So my youngest Lola, she's four years old now almost five.
I mean I've described her on the show before as
being like the personality higher of our family, which I
feel like you need to stop describing her, like, I know,
I don't think she's so funny, Like she comes out
with these one liners. She says really inappropriate things.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
But very energetic. She's like a little energizer bunny.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
And she has like really good comedic timing, right, But
she also says some things and I'm like.
Speaker 4 (11:10):
Oh, you really shouldn't say that. You're going to get
yourself in trouble.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
And I don't know whether it's just she feels safe
at home so she can push the boundaries.
Speaker 1 (11:17):
Or she's a psychopath, which one is it?
Speaker 2 (11:21):
I wish we were joking, or she says these things
maybe at school and I'm like, that's going to get
you into a lot of trouble.
Speaker 4 (11:25):
Don't say that. So she does.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
Sport, and she does she goes to like daycare, and
she has like quite a few adults in her life
that have like caretaker roles, you know, like whether it's
a sporting activity or a school.
Speaker 4 (11:36):
And I'm saying this because I want to make this
very generic. I do not want the person.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
You don't want the person to know.
Speaker 2 (11:41):
I don't want the person who is involved in this
story to know that they are involved in this story,
because that's all good for everyone.
Speaker 4 (11:46):
But Lola comes home the other.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
Day from an unprescribed activity that she did and she goes, Mummy,
this real half. She goes, I hate Sarah And I
was like, oh, you hate Sarah. She's like, I hate
her and I was like, okay, why do you hate her?
Speaker 4 (12:00):
She goes, She's always telling me, Lola, don't do this, Lola,
don't do that. She's always getting cross.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
Down the knife and hate for and I was like,
oh honey, she's just trying to keep you safe. And
she goes, yeah, well you know what I want to do.
I want to cut her finger off and eat it.
And I was like, sorry, what, and she goes, I
want to dye her and cut her finger off and
eat it.
Speaker 4 (12:23):
And I was like, sweetheart, you're for you, sweetart.
Speaker 3 (12:26):
That's murder and cannibalism and illegal in every country.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
I was like, I don't know if I just heard
what I think I heard anyway. Of course, that wasn't
home at the time, so of course the first thing
I did there was no I voice recorded me telling
him because I couldn't get on him on the phone.
He was at work, and so I voice recorded and
I was telling him the story. I was like, baby, baby,
you'll never believe what your daughter just said. And as
I'm telling him the story, Lola hears me and she goes,
(12:50):
who are you calling? And I was like, I'm calling
your father. She goes, oh, I thought you were calling
Sarah and I was like and I was like, no,
I'm not calling Sarah, and she goes, you should call her.
Tell her I want her to dye her and I'm
gonna cut her finger.
Speaker 4 (13:04):
Off and eat it.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
Oh my god, it's crazy, right, But then listen to
our cute it sound when it comes out of a
four year old's mouth, and do what.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
I'm concerned.
Speaker 3 (13:20):
I don't know if you should be laughing at her,
That's what I'm concerned about it.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
I'm like that, I think there's a mishandling of this situation.
Speaker 4 (13:27):
I was like, then, be real fighting words. I don't know.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
I don't know why I don't know where it's come from.
I send it to Matt, and Matt was like, do
you think we should be concerned about this?
Speaker 1 (13:35):
There's not a normal response.
Speaker 3 (13:36):
Didn't you watch Jeffrey Dahmer documentary with her like there
were signs when he was a child, there.
Speaker 4 (13:40):
Was ignore them.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
Now it makes me concerned because every so often she
like because she comes into a room at night time
to get in bed with me, and sometimes she's just like,
there's a dark, ominous figure over the side of.
Speaker 4 (13:49):
The bed, And I'm like, what are you actually thinking, bro?
Speaker 3 (13:53):
Why you come for me for thinking there's ghosts and
wanting to talk about that.
Speaker 1 (13:56):
This is so much worse than that.
Speaker 3 (13:58):
There is some psychologist sitting in the car right now
trying to call this line, being like, I need to
talk to Laura and Lola.
Speaker 4 (14:04):
I'll get them on next week's show because we got
to go.
Speaker 1 (14:06):
You know, the school's gotta listen to wherever she went.
Whatever this unknown cats give her is he is going
to kick her out?
Speaker 5 (14:12):
For sure.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
They're like, SI spend Lola.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
She's just so cute though that even when she says
really messed up.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
You know who else was cute? Ted Bundy he was
not cute.
Speaker 2 (14:20):
Was he was a hot cycle.
Speaker 4 (14:24):
That's terrible.
Speaker 2 (14:25):
Al Right, guys, that's the end of it for us
today and potentially the show Seeing Guy and Lola
I heard podcasts.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Hear more Kiss podcast playlist and listen live on the
Free I Hunt APPI with Brittle and Laura Burn. Baby
your what our windows down? My world? Reason the dust
only good lab dougle down. I don't much, but yeah, I'll.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
Big get and what I want. It don't matter where gone.
This is the pickup.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
Hi, guys, It's the pickup with Britt Hockeley and Laura Burn.
Speaker 3 (00:43):
We have to we cannot let these gold nuggets happen
in our life, Laura and not share them with Well.
Speaker 4 (00:49):
Let me not make content out of my misfortune.
Speaker 3 (00:51):
No, Like I mean, baby, brain is a thing, right,
and you have been known to put your keys and
things on cars and lose a lot of stuff and
it's escalated. But you did just lose something and it
was the funniest thing that I got to witness in
real life. So Laura just took a phone call with
her obs Gyne. She was having a chat for her
next booking, and we're in the same room, so I'm
(01:12):
obviously listening to her and she's trying to pull up
her diary on her computers.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
On my laptop.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
At the same time, La, I'm telling the story because
I think you're gonna add Mayo and I want to
defend my line.
Speaker 4 (01:21):
I didn't.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
I witnessed it as it is. So she's talking on
the phone.
Speaker 3 (01:24):
She's just trying to bring up on her laptop her
diary to see when she can fit it in, and
she's like, I'm so sorry. I'm just I can't find
my phone to book this scene. I need to see
what I've got. And she's like looking around, She's like
where did I put it? And I'm just watching her,
and I thought, how long has this got to go
on for?
Speaker 4 (01:37):
She's talking on her for a while. She looks up
at me as in like, where did I put my phone?
Speaker 2 (01:41):
I looked at her.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
I was like, Laura, you're on it. You're talking on
your phone.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
I think I got a bit confused because I was
also on my laptop at the same time.
Speaker 4 (01:48):
I don't know what was going on.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
Phone calls her confused, Yeah, it's hard, you know what
to the lampline, Yes, I think it is needs to be.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
No. Pregnancy brain is a thing, and I have made
lots of mistakes recently.
Speaker 1 (01:59):
It is a thing. It's actually science back. So we laugh,
but I.
Speaker 4 (02:02):
Feel sorry for me.
Speaker 3 (02:05):
We're doing ask gun Cut, which we do every week
on our podcast Life on Podcast, you guys are writing
the biggest problems of the week and we do our
best to answer them.
Speaker 4 (02:13):
I don't know if this one is a huge problem.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
Well, this is a problem I'm in.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
I am in this predicament as well, so I feel
like I am going to be able to give some
brilliant advice. We have Mary on the line who is
having some sleep issues.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
She's in a sleep divorce.
Speaker 4 (02:25):
Hey Mary, Hi, guys, h I'm Mary.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
What's happening?
Speaker 5 (02:30):
So me and my partner We've been sleeping in separate
rooms for about three years now. I'm just kind of
thinking how do I get out of the roommate thoughe.
Speaker 4 (02:40):
Okay, So how did it start?
Speaker 2 (02:41):
Was it like one of you snores or was it
just more convenient? Like what was the reason why you
ended up in separate rooms in the first place?
Speaker 5 (02:48):
Having a second baby or saturd you're im pregnant bee?
Speaker 2 (02:52):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (02:52):
So how long were you together before that?
Speaker 5 (02:54):
Like?
Speaker 1 (02:54):
How long you been together total?
Speaker 5 (02:56):
We've been together for nine years?
Speaker 1 (02:58):
OHI so you yes? What's that math?
Speaker 4 (03:01):
Seven?
Speaker 1 (03:02):
Six or seven years?
Speaker 3 (03:03):
You're in the same bend and then you've get out
onto your own room, and does that mean you're left
to be the only and it gets up in the
night and stuff with the little.
Speaker 5 (03:10):
Ones pretty much.
Speaker 4 (03:12):
But also, I mean, I think this is really common.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
But I actually was reading something recently that was talking
about how, yes, it's common that we end up sleeping
in separate rooms when you have young kids, because it's
just functionally it makes sense. But then what is happening
to a lot of couples is that they're not finding
their way back. Yeah, and then it causes this like
romantic or I guess connections, separation is what happens. Do
(03:35):
you feel as though the relationship not just the sleeping
separate rooms, but do you feel like there's like being
a dip in the relationship in terms of like how
connected you feel to your husband as well?
Speaker 1 (03:44):
Do you mean like the horizontal dancers?
Speaker 2 (03:46):
Yeah, I was trying to get there in a.
Speaker 5 (03:49):
Yeah I do. When people ask and the like are
you sleeping separate rooms? Isn't that weird? I don't need
to get us, but yeah we are. No.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
I look, I sleep in a different country to my
husband Ben so yoused toll sleep with him when he's around.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
Once a week in six months. Yes, I do.
Speaker 3 (04:02):
No, I don't think it's the end of the world
as long as the connection is still there, and I
think a lot more people are doing it.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
I think it's becoming quite common.
Speaker 3 (04:09):
I have friends with our kids that are in great
relationships and they sleep in their own rooms because maybe
one of them like they just.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
Get better sleep for whatever reason.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
But it means you do need to make more effort
in the other areas of your life to stay connected
and have the intimacy.
Speaker 4 (04:24):
Because otherwise it is so easy to.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
Fall into a trap of literally being roommates, like just
two people that coexist together and share a house together.
Speaker 5 (04:32):
Yeah, I am ok.
Speaker 4 (04:34):
Look, I have a bit more of a personal question.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
Are you still being intimate with each other or is
it because of the separate room situation that that kind
of is now just not really happening.
Speaker 5 (04:44):
No, we still do. So we still have a sleepover
in each other's rooms two or three times a week.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
Oh, you're fine, you're having bait. That's better than most
people sleep in the same bed.
Speaker 4 (04:55):
This is actually working out great for you, guys.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
I think that's the perfect thing.
Speaker 3 (04:59):
Half of the week, you guys are together and doing
whatever it is you're doing, and the other half of
the week getting really great sleep.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
I actually think you've unlocked.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
The key here, Mary, question is your friends who think
it's weird or like there's other people who were having
an issue with it.
Speaker 5 (05:12):
No, yeah, just friends, like, we don't have an issue
with it, but when I mentioned it, they're like, oh,
that's weird.
Speaker 3 (05:17):
Jealous, Yes, they're jealous for sure.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
Do you know what I think some people people project right,
like if it works for you guys, and you're still
if you said to me, oh, we would never ever,
you know, intimate with each other and now we sleep
in other rooms, and I'd say, yeah, that sounds very roommty.
Speaker 4 (05:32):
The fact that that's not a problem to me.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
I think that people just they impose their views from
their relationship onto others, and like because it wouldn't work
for them, they assumed that it can't possibly work for
someone else. But it sounds like you guys have it
nailed literally three to four times a week.
Speaker 5 (05:48):
Yep.
Speaker 3 (05:49):
Well, look, I just don't think you've been a predicament.
I think a lot of people can learn from you
and take something from this today. But hey, Mary, just
for getting on air, with us today. You have scored
yourself a pair of Sony's new earbuds. I don't know
if you've seen these bad boys, but they are noise canceling,
so they're gonna be brilliant for the nights that you
want to block that baby out, maybe you.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
Want to train your husband's voice out.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
But they've got great clear calls, stylish colors, so they're
all yours.
Speaker 4 (06:12):
Just be calling up today.
Speaker 5 (06:14):
Wow, awesome, thanks so much.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
Not worried. All right, we're going to take a little
bit of a switch here.
Speaker 3 (06:21):
We often talk about parenting but we're going to talk
about grand parenting for a second. Who gets to choose
the name that a grandparent uses.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
I think it's open to the grandparents, because otherwise you
end up with like multiple nanas or multiple nannies, And
like you know, sometimes you'll have the conversation of like,
all right, my mom wants to be Nana. Does your
mom want to be grandma or be nanny? And then
if they can kind of choose, yeah, so Ellie, who
is my mother in law?
Speaker 4 (06:49):
She lives with us.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
It kind of just worked out that both grandparents became nana,
and so now it's like Nana who lives with us,
Nana who doesn't live with us.
Speaker 3 (06:57):
We used to do that, but it'd be like, you
use their names, so like Nana.
Speaker 4 (07:01):
Jan Yes, yeah, okay.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
So Ellie my mother in law, she wants to be
called Nelly, and my kids refuse to make up the
word Nellie.
Speaker 4 (07:09):
They're like, no, you're not Nellie. She's too They're not
a rapper, You're not Nellie.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
So this has come off the back of a Reddit
thread online where one woman has come out asking, like,
m I the a hole because she's got little kids.
Speaker 4 (07:23):
She's oh, she's.
Speaker 3 (07:23):
Sorry, she's pregnant, she hasn't even birthed her child yet.
And her own mother came out and said, I've decided
what I want to be called.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
I want to be.
Speaker 3 (07:31):
Called big Mama, not nana, not grandma, not grammy, whatever,
big mama.
Speaker 4 (07:38):
No, that's no, Well, the daughter, it's got to be
within reason.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
This is what the daughter has said.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
I told her nicely, I was uncomfortable with it because
I should be the only person who is even remotely
considered mama or any type of mama.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
She went into this.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
Whole spree about how she's the grandparent, and she gets
to be called anything she wants, and that you need
to respect your elders.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
Oh, get a grip.
Speaker 3 (08:00):
No, it's coming to this discussion now of like who
bestows the name that the grandparent uses. Is bestowed upon
the grandparents buy their child or does the grandparent get
to say, hey, this is what I'm comfortable with.
Speaker 4 (08:13):
Do you know what?
Speaker 2 (08:13):
Though, it kind of depends on how present the grandparent
is as well.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
See Mama is going to be present.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
She's there, she is there, No, Because I think what
happened with us is like we just referred to Nana
as Nana. You know, we refer to my mum as
Nana because that's what we called our grandma.
Speaker 4 (08:28):
You know, the kids spend.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
Way more time with us than they do with Nana,
so they would just start saying Nana. I kind of
feel like you can curtail this and the kids will
just be like, why does Nana keep calling herself big Mama?
Speaker 1 (08:40):
That's weird come to big Mama. So I doesn't like it,
vibe it.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
But that's kind of what happened in our house with
Ellie when Ellie was like, call me Nelly, but the
kids were like, no, you're Nana that's weird.
Speaker 3 (08:51):
Does she wear it like a gold grill. In our household,
we have NJ. So my nana is NJ, and that
was she decided that anytime we'd call her nana, she
would say NJ and she would just drill it into us.
So that stands for Nana Jan. Well, she's just ENJ
to us now. But my dad is a grampy or
a popsicle or a Papa Smurf, so he gets three names.
(09:15):
I think it's cute to have something that's like unique
to your family, as long as everyone is okay with it.
Speaker 2 (09:20):
Yeah, but there's a difference in this question. Okay, so
the grandma wants to be called big Mama.
Speaker 4 (09:26):
The mama has said.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
It's a no, and instead of just being like, oh, okay,
I'll come up with something else, she's like, gas let
her own daughter. And she's like, well, I'm older, respect
your olders.
Speaker 4 (09:36):
No, I mean you do have to respect your older
to somen capacity. Yes, that flies when you're a child,
it's not when you're also an adult. You don't just
respect someone just because they're older than you. That's not
how it works.
Speaker 3 (09:45):
But I do think it's I don't know I'm not
a mom, so correct me if I'm wrong. I think
it's a bit precious to say no one else will
have the name mama in their title because I'm the
only mamma. I feel like my dad is Papa smurf,
which has papa in it.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
As a dad call, like as in like, not many
people are calling their dad papa.
Speaker 4 (10:02):
They're calling their dad dad.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
You know, so like I Actually I don't necessarily disagree.
Speaker 4 (10:07):
My kids call me mama.
Speaker 2 (10:09):
They don't call me mom, and so I would find
it weird if they were calling another.
Speaker 1 (10:13):
Person mama mama.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
Yeah, just like I don't think Matt would really appreciate
if the kids were calling my.
Speaker 4 (10:17):
Dad dadda big dadda, Like I don't know.
Speaker 1 (10:20):
I can understand why.
Speaker 5 (10:21):
It's seriously, we're taking.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
This guy this neither neither. Actually I can understand why
it's weirded the mom out. But also I think step
aside Grandma. I know you're the grandma, but you're not
the mom.
Speaker 3 (10:31):
They're fighting words, Laura.
Speaker 4 (10:34):
I say this, but then I'm alost like.
Speaker 5 (10:35):
Ellie, I need you.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
Ellie can be called anything she wants as long as
she is. Ellie can wrap Nellie can be a rapper.
Speaker 4 (10:42):
I'll call you Nellie every day of the week. Just
never leave.
Speaker 2 (10:46):
So my youngest Lola, she's four years old now almost five.
I mean I've described her on the show before as
being like the personality higher of our family, which I
feel like you need to stop describing her, like, I know,
I don't think she's so funny, Like she comes out
with these one liners. She says really inappropriate things.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
But very energetic. She's like a little energizer bunny.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
And she has like really good comedic timing, right, But
she also says some things and I'm like.
Speaker 4 (11:10):
Oh, you really shouldn't say that. You're going to get
yourself in trouble.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
And I don't know whether it's just she feels safe
at home so she can push the boundaries.
Speaker 1 (11:17):
Or she's a psychopath, which one is it?
Speaker 2 (11:21):
I wish we were joking, or she says these things
maybe at school and I'm like, that's going to get
you into a lot of trouble.
Speaker 4 (11:25):
Don't say that. So she does.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
Sport, and she does she goes to like daycare, and
she has like quite a few adults in her life
that have like caretaker roles, you know, like whether it's
a sporting activity or a school.
Speaker 4 (11:36):
And I'm saying this because I want to make this
very generic. I do not want the person.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
You don't want the person to know.
Speaker 2 (11:41):
I don't want the person who is involved in this
story to know that they are involved in this story,
because that's all good for everyone.
Speaker 4 (11:46):
But Lola comes home the other.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
Day from an unprescribed activity that she did and she goes, Mummy,
this real half. She goes, I hate Sarah And I
was like, oh, you hate Sarah. She's like, I hate
her and I was like, okay, why do you hate her?
Speaker 4 (12:00):
She goes, She's always telling me, Lola, don't do this, Lola,
don't do that. She's always getting cross.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
Down the knife and hate for and I was like,
oh honey, she's just trying to keep you safe. And
she goes, yeah, well you know what I want to do.
I want to cut her finger off and eat it.
And I was like, sorry, what, and she goes, I
want to dye her and cut her finger off and
eat it.
Speaker 4 (12:23):
And I was like, sweetheart, you're for you, sweetart.
Speaker 3 (12:26):
That's murder and cannibalism and illegal in every country.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
I was like, I don't know if I just heard
what I think I heard anyway. Of course, that wasn't
home at the time, so of course the first thing
I did there was no I voice recorded me telling
him because I couldn't get on him on the phone.
He was at work, and so I voice recorded and
I was telling him the story. I was like, baby, baby,
you'll never believe what your daughter just said. And as
I'm telling him the story, Lola hears me and she goes,
(12:50):
who are you calling? And I was like, I'm calling
your father. She goes, oh, I thought you were calling
Sarah and I was like and I was like, no,
I'm not calling Sarah, and she goes, you should call her.
Tell her I want her to dye her and I'm
gonna cut her finger.
Speaker 4 (13:04):
Off and eat it.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
Oh my god, it's crazy, right, But then listen to
our cute it sound when it comes out of a
four year old's mouth, and do what.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
I'm concerned.
Speaker 3 (13:20):
I don't know if you should be laughing at her,
That's what I'm concerned about it.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
I'm like that, I think there's a mishandling of this situation.
Speaker 4 (13:27):
I was like, then, be real fighting words. I don't know.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
I don't know why I don't know where it's come from.
I send it to Matt, and Matt was like, do
you think we should be concerned about this?
Speaker 1 (13:35):
There's not a normal response.
Speaker 3 (13:36):
Didn't you watch Jeffrey Dahmer documentary with her like there
were signs when he was a child, there.
Speaker 4 (13:40):
Was ignore them.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
Now it makes me concerned because every so often she
like because she comes into a room at night time
to get in bed with me, and sometimes she's just like,
there's a dark, ominous figure over the side of.
Speaker 4 (13:49):
The bed, And I'm like, what are you actually thinking, bro?
Speaker 3 (13:53):
Why you come for me for thinking there's ghosts and
wanting to talk about that.
Speaker 1 (13:56):
This is so much worse than that.
Speaker 3 (13:58):
There is some psychologist sitting in the car right now
trying to call this line, being like, I need to
talk to Laura and Lola.
Speaker 4 (14:04):
I'll get them on next week's show because we got
to go.
Speaker 1 (14:06):
You know, the school's gotta listen to wherever she went.
Whatever this unknown cats give her is he is going
to kick her out?
Speaker 5 (14:12):
For sure.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
They're like, SI spend Lola.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
She's just so cute though that even when she says
really messed up.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
You know who else was cute? Ted Bundy he was
not cute.
Speaker 2 (14:20):
Was he was a hot cycle.
Speaker 4 (14:24):
That's terrible.
Speaker 2 (14:25):
Al Right, guys, that's the end of it for us
today and potentially the show Seeing Guy and Lola
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