September 25, 2025 • 15 mins
ASK UNCUT: How do you choose which country to live in when you are doing long distance? We chat Medical Mishaps and what amount of money would be enough for you to leave your partner?
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Speaker 1 (00:10):
I heard podcasts, hear more Kiss podcast playlist and listen
live on the Free iHeart Appay with Brittle and Laura Burn.
Baby or what our windows down? That's my world reason
the dust only good zabduzzle down.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
I'm done much, but yeah I'm not. I'll big get
and what I want it don't matter where gone. This
is the Pickup.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
Hi, guys, you're listening to The Pickup with Britt Hockley.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
And Laura Burn. Welcome back another only one day to go, one.
Speaker 3 (00:45):
Day to go learn till Laura goes and has a baby.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
But like, I just want to talk about me for
a second. I'm here to talk about you, about.
Speaker 3 (00:51):
You because you having a baby, which is cute and
I'm here for it. But I'm in love and I'm
seeing my husband and like I want to shout ou
from the roofshops. I'm also I also have a life, Guys.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
I'm not having a baby, but I am.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
Bridge going to Italy in a little while to see
her husband and I'm thrilled for you.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
I am. I got married three months ago and I
have not seen my husband in three months since we
got married.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
So that's that is wild. Do you know what's funny.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
The last time I asked for it, I was like,
how's married life going? And for it was like, I
don't know, I'm married, but I'm kind of don't.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
Really have any reference point for what it's supposed to
feel like.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
Yeah, if you ask me what it was like to
like recreate my twelve year old self and have a
pen pal, I could tell you it was brilliant. We
write each other letters and texts and we talk.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
But some people would say that this is the perfect marriage,
Like you don't have share a wardrobe, you don't have
to see them all the time, get excited when you
see them.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
Do you know what I think it'd be perfect.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
I think after you're married for ten years or something
like living next door to your husband. Yeah, then doing
it like this. But I feel like when you're fresh
off the back of a wedding, this is when you
want to be together.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
I make these jokes, but like I you know, anytime
that Matt goes and sleeps in another room because the
kids are crying or something's happening, I miss him.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
Yeah. Yeah, I feel like I've got a spirit living
in my room.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
That's the most action I've had.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
I'm really excited for you going to Italy, and I
am sorry that my impending.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Birth has taken over a lot of the show recently.
Speaker 1 (02:09):
I am about to push a watermelon out of my huha,
So you know, it really does take up a lot
of my mental energy at the moment. Now it is Thursday,
which means it is time for the thing we do
every Thursday, and that is ask Uncut. Well, you guys
call up with your biggest, deepest, darkest problems and Britain
and I do our absolute best to answer them. We've
got Lauren on the phone at the moment, and Lauren
(02:30):
has met the man of her dreams on Kintiqui.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
The problem is is that he does not live in
the country. Oh, that sounds familiar, and then they have
to do a long.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Distance Britt, I thought you'd have an actual skin in
the game on this one.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
Lauren, welcome to the show.
Speaker 4 (02:42):
Thank you so much for having me.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
Hey, what's going on? Give us a rundown.
Speaker 4 (02:47):
I met this guy that I think could be the one,
but he lives in Canada and I live in Australia,
and we both have careers where I don't think we
can move, you know, like I'm a doctor and I
don't have a license in Canada, and he's worked for
ten years to work his way up this industry. He
can't just move here.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
So have you guys had this conversation, Like, I mean,
have you actually said, you know, okay, I'm really wanting
to see what this could be for us. And have
you asked him whether or not he could make the
move or is it just an assumption that it's going
to be too hard.
Speaker 4 (03:16):
He told me he's falling in love with me. Like,
we haven't talked about who's going to move. We're just
talking about we'll cross that bridge when we come to it.
Speaker 3 (03:23):
Oh, so, okay, here's the thing. I've recently married. I've
been together for three years and we've never lived together.
Neither of us have made the move because we can't.
We've both said that our careers are really important to
us at the moment. Having said that, I definitely make
more of a sacrifice. I have to go there probably
eighty percent of the time, and he comes here. You know,
(03:44):
he lives in Italy. He comes here twenty percent at
the time. But we do have plans to be together
and we're working towards that. I think for you guys,
I know, for that medical world that you're in, it's
not easy. You can't just pick up and start working
as a doctor in Canada. Like it's tests, it's expensive exams.
You might not pass them. It might set you back
in your career. You haven't given us a lot of
(04:04):
information about his career, but I just want to ask,
is it something that you think he could come here
for the short term and then you both moved back
long term?
Speaker 4 (04:12):
Well, honestly, I'm not sure, and I think I'll feel
a lot of guilt. So he's worked in the jewelry
industry for ten years and he's now a company's top manager,
and his dad has worked in the same industry, and
the spans stream is to work for his dad's company.
And it's a massive company but only trades in Canada.
Speaker 3 (04:30):
But it sounds like that's an industry he could come
here and still working and then go back and work
for his dad if it's a family business.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
But have you asked him that.
Speaker 4 (04:36):
I haven't. I found it really hard pretty early on.
So we've known each other like six weeks now, Like
when do you have that Oh?
Speaker 2 (04:41):
No, okay, No, it's not okay.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
I think, and I think we're probably going to say
the same thing on this brit Is. Like with long
distance relationships, you have to have the big scary conversations
really early because you need to know what it is.
I mean, absolutely, you could date and you could go
and have a lovely time and then get yourself into
a situation in six or seven or eight months time
where you're totally in love with this person, but neither
(05:05):
of you are even remotely able to make the sackrifice
of moving or you know, for one person it's going
to be a huge sacrifice.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
And if neither of you are willing to sacrifice, then
you need to move the conversation to the next point,
which is, well, do we want to be in a
relationship or the foreseeable future where we are not together?
And that is a question that only you two can answer.
But I would not be put off that it's early days.
If he's seen his falling in love with you and
you guys are talking about forever. That's a very standard
(05:33):
baseline question of Okay, if we do this, how does
it work? And I think it's I just don't want
to see you give up your career because so often
we do see the women that are the ones that
make the sacrifices.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
I want to know that, Lauren. When he I mean
you guys met, you went on continue give two weeks.
You haven't seen each other since you've been doing this
like long distance phone calling and everything else.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
What did you say when he tells you that he
loves you?
Speaker 4 (05:56):
I said, I felt the same. That's why I would
consider like sacrificing my career.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
No, no, no, I think you have to have those
big conversations before you even remotely entertain the idea of
sacrificing no career in the medical field. Please promise me
you're gonna have a hard conversation with him. Which is
around Would you make the sacrifices to spend some time
here in Australia? Is that something that could be on
(06:22):
the cards, Go for a holiday, spend some time together.
Speaker 3 (06:25):
First, do not, please, if we can leave you with
one thing, If I can leave you with one thing,
it's do not put your career on hold or sacrifice
so for something at this point in time, write down
what it looks like for both of you to make
that sacrifice and see what one is doable. It will
work if it's right, and he will make it work
as well. Like no one that loves you is going
to ask you to stop what you're doing. There is
(06:46):
no relationship ever that has no sacrifice, long distance or not.
Every single relationship has it, long distance has it more.
But if he asked you to give up your career
put it on hold, then he's not your person.
Speaker 4 (06:57):
No, he wouldn't. But I just feel bad. But thank
you so much, Britt.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Let us know what happens.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
And if all hell breaks listen you're not able to
actually have the conversation with him, you can just send
him this audio and then you'll be able to have
it afterward where you'd get a good riding.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
He's a jaw you're gonna do.
Speaker 4 (07:09):
You're gonna have the conversation for.
Speaker 3 (07:10):
Me, all right?
Speaker 2 (07:11):
Good luck, Lauren.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
And if you guys want to join us at all
and have us answer a question for ask gun cut
slide on into the DMS at the pickup and we
can have you on next week to answer your deep,
dark and burning questions. Now we are talking medical mishaps.
What did you go to the hospital for or to
the doctors for and you were accidentally misdiagnosed? Maybe something
even crazier happened. Now. The reason why we're talking about
(07:33):
this is because something happened to me quite a few
years ago.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
I think I blocked it from the trauma.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
Somehow it came up in conversation, and I honestly forget
how wild this was. So I was in my twenties
and I had really bad back pain, like and it
was getting progressively worse. And I remember going to the
doctors and the doctor did some tests, and the doctor
was like, go straight to hospital, do not passo, do
not collect two hundred dollars.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
Just go to the hospital.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
And I got in there and I got admitted and
they did some scans and stuff, and they did like
an ultsound and whatever other scans, and I got the
results back and there was an issue with my gall bladder.
So my gall bladder was completely filled with gallstones.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
I think I was like twenty six at the time.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
Explains the back pain, Well, it's like pain like all
around my soft organs, you know, in this like around
my back anyway, back pain.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
It was like spiral pain.
Speaker 1 (08:26):
But the doctors said, I remember so vividly him even
being like, gosh, it's crazy. You literally have the gall
bladder of a ninety year old woman and so like.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
This is dire. Yeah, I was prepped for surgery.
Speaker 1 (08:36):
I went in and I did like the clear liquids
diet overnight. The surgeon came in the next day, sat
on the foot of my bed, talked me through what.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
Was going to happen.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
And at the time, I'd just been through a breakup
with a guy who worked in hospitals, so like he
was also a different field, different everything, and I was like,
I feel really lonely and sad.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
I'm just going to call him.
Speaker 3 (08:57):
Also, you were probably thinking, oh, this is my way
to connect with my eggs.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
My boyfriend.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
So he read it will definitely want me back when
I'm in a medical gown. So away he came in
and he was like, it's just so weird. He's like,
it doesn't really make sense. I want to have a
look at your scans, and so he got my I
can't remember for his ultrasound or something else, but he
got my scans and he was having a look at
them and he goes, I just don't believe that this
can be your Golblatt. He's like, it doesn't make sense
(09:23):
for you to have that many gallstones.
Speaker 2 (09:25):
You're not that unhealthy.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
Anyway, They did some digging and it turns out it was,
in fact not my scan. Mine had been mistaken with
the woman who was in the bed next to me, who.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
Was a nine year old.
Speaker 3 (09:34):
Lady, and she needed to go.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
And have her gallbladder removed, and had that been three
hours different, I would have gone in for a surgery
that I absolutely didn't need.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
Poor Mary.
Speaker 3 (09:43):
They're like, Mary, you look like a twenty year day.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
I had a kidney infection and a bladder infection, which
I'm pretty sure the ex boyfriend gave.
Speaker 3 (09:50):
Me a THIRTI and an STI at the same time.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
That could have been a bad ending. It really was.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
It really was, although we got Eloise on the line, Eloise,
what was your medical mishap?
Speaker 5 (10:03):
So in twenty eighteen, I had a reconstruction surgery of
my right rotat a cuff. It was meant to just
be day surgery, so I went in in true day
surgery form. Everybody's running late. My doctor comes and sees me,
marks up my shoulder, says this shoulder, don't operate on
the other obviously, and my nethesist was running late. They're like,
we'll meet you in the list, he'll give you a
(10:25):
nerve block. We'll go in, we'll do the surgery. Everything
will be great. So he comes in, quickly, checks my details,
gives me a nerve block, and that's really the last
thing I remember until I wake up. I wake up
in complete agony, feeling like I've just had my arm
cut open, which obviously I had, but the anthesist put
a nerve block in the wrong arm. So they block
(10:46):
my left arm and they cut open my rights, and
I woke up being like crying, being like this, I
don't think this is right, Like I can feel everything,
and they're like, well, kind of funny story, but you
can also funny.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
This is a kin to the urban legend of the
person who went in for an amputation and they amputated
the wrong legs.
Speaker 2 (11:04):
That's not an urban legend, no, I know, it's it's
some real story.
Speaker 3 (11:07):
It happened at the hospital. I have worked at a
hospital that took something that they weren't supposed to.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
Took something from someone of their words.
Speaker 3 (11:14):
Yeah, it is a real thing that happens.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
Wow, human error. Hey, you get anyone.
Speaker 5 (11:20):
They do it all the time, and that's why they
mark up your shoulders and like everything saying not this leg.
But so it didn't turn out to your day surgery.
I had to stay in overnight because I had no
arms working because one was nerve blocked incorrectly and one
was cut open, and I was maxed out on pain
relief already. So I was like excruciating for the twenty
four hours. I had everybody in the hospital coming to
(11:42):
apologize and obviously getting me to not sue.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
Oh my god, Elo, is you poor thing.
Speaker 3 (11:50):
I know you don't always get presented with these opportunities,
Oh my god.
Speaker 1 (11:55):
Like we've had so many of them come in. Some
of them we absolutely can't share.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
Laura.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
This is going to sound a little bit rogue, but
I want you to stick with me.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
What's the number, No, I'm not doing it on radio.
Speaker 3 (12:09):
What is the dollar value number that it would take
for you to leave your husband, Matt if you could
have a tax free number and the only stipulation is
that you have to walk away from your partner.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
I want other people who are like listening to play
along with this, because if you're in a really shitty
marriage right now, you'd be like a little.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
For free, I'll pay him. No, there is no amount.
There's no amount.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
There's there's also nothing that you could do to make
me say in amount live on radio.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
So my marriage is worth more.
Speaker 3 (12:34):
One hundred million dollars tax free?
Speaker 2 (12:36):
Think about it?
Speaker 3 (12:37):
What if I threw in an island?
Speaker 1 (12:44):
I think that if the number got to one hundred million,
you would think about it.
Speaker 3 (12:47):
But also, it's everyone in the car right now is
calling your bluff like you would take it?
Speaker 2 (12:52):
No, because then what does it mean for your old family?
Oh imagine leaving.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
The kids one hundred million, imagine living, imagine leaving all
the debt that were in Like, oh god, no, there's
no amount of money that would make me leave my husband.
Speaker 2 (13:04):
But if why are you winking? Shut up? Shut up.
Speaker 3 (13:08):
I don't ever get into the real reason why we're
talking about this so funny story. Well, apparently seventy fourish
percent of people have said that they would leave their
partner for a million dollars.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
And I was pretty gobsmat.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
If you're in a happy marriage, you would go, oh
my god, I'd never leave my partner for a million dollars.
Speaker 2 (13:25):
But this is not just married couples.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
Like this statistics just covers, yeah, covers a wide variety like,
there could be eighteen year olds who've just started dating
their girlfriend who turned around and we're like.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
Yeah, leave her for a million bucks.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
You know, it's such a very I guess it's a
tricky statistic to kind of pin down unless you have
parameters around it.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
Okay, So I asked.
Speaker 3 (13:42):
My husband Ben, because we've been married two months and.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
I was sure of it. I was sure the answer.
Speaker 3 (13:46):
Was going to be, Oh my god, we're so young
and in love, and like, okay, we're not young, we're
in love, we're so new to marry yourself. I thought
he would say that there is like absolutely no one.
I said, if you could have ten million dollars, he said,
he's pretty sure that seventy percent he'd stay. But he's
like ten millions a lot. So they'd been thirty percent,
I'd think about it.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
I was shook, how long is he going to think
about it for? Like? How much time do you have
to make the decision? Because thirty percent.
Speaker 3 (14:09):
He thought about that answer for me for like five minutes.
Speaker 2 (14:12):
And I was like, what are you thinking about? He
was like, really weighing it up.
Speaker 3 (14:16):
He takes the two serious.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
Do you ever have moments with your husband where you
kind of go to him and say it's okay to
lie to me in these situations.
Speaker 2 (14:23):
That's exactly why I said, it's.
Speaker 1 (14:24):
Okay for you to think that inside your brain and
not tell me what you really would do.
Speaker 3 (14:29):
And he said, he said, I'm not good with hypotheticals,
you know that. And I said, Babe, it's a hypothetical.
Speaker 2 (14:34):
Just lie, it's not really going to happen.
Speaker 1 (14:36):
So we had this conversation because brit called me very friendasical.
Speaker 2 (14:39):
I was so shocked. I said, I bet you. Matt
wouldn't say this. So I went and asked my husband,
and this is how it went down.
Speaker 1 (14:44):
I secretly filmed him as this was going, would you
leave me if it was ten million dollars?
Speaker 3 (14:51):
Ten million dollars?
Speaker 2 (14:54):
I think about it for a second, but I'd say, to.
Speaker 1 (14:58):
Be fair, though, you'd have to split with me if
we got divorced anyway, So I get five.
Speaker 2 (15:03):
He said, no attached, It's true. I'll take you everything.
I'll take you for everything you're worth.
Speaker 1 (15:12):
How much money would be the amount that you would
need no strings attached to leave the relationship out of
a million?
Speaker 2 (15:20):
That's really happening.
Speaker 1 (15:22):
He said it so confidently, one hundred million dollars and
he's out of there.
Speaker 3 (15:25):
I would think about it for a hundred million. Ben
asked me, would I leave for AE hundred million? I
said no, but I would.
Speaker 1 (15:32):
All right, guys, let us know your price. I want
to know how much would it cost? Yeah, slide on
into our DMS at the pickup. I want to know
what's your number, what's your price? How much would it
cost for you to leave your relationship? I reckon, we're
going to get a few that will sell it all
for free.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
Well, that's it from us, guys,
I heard podcasts, hear more Kiss podcast playlist and listen
live on the Free iHeart Appay with Brittle and Laura Burn.
Baby or what our windows down? That's my world reason
the dust only good zabduzzle down.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
I'm done much, but yeah I'm not. I'll big get
and what I want it don't matter where gone. This
is the Pickup.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
Hi, guys, you're listening to The Pickup with Britt Hockley.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
And Laura Burn. Welcome back another only one day to go, one.
Speaker 3 (00:45):
Day to go learn till Laura goes and has a baby.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
But like, I just want to talk about me for
a second. I'm here to talk about you, about.
Speaker 3 (00:51):
You because you having a baby, which is cute and
I'm here for it. But I'm in love and I'm
seeing my husband and like I want to shout ou
from the roofshops. I'm also I also have a life, Guys.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
I'm not having a baby, but I am.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
Bridge going to Italy in a little while to see
her husband and I'm thrilled for you.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
I am. I got married three months ago and I
have not seen my husband in three months since we
got married.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
So that's that is wild. Do you know what's funny.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
The last time I asked for it, I was like,
how's married life going? And for it was like, I
don't know, I'm married, but I'm kind of don't.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
Really have any reference point for what it's supposed to
feel like.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
Yeah, if you ask me what it was like to
like recreate my twelve year old self and have a
pen pal, I could tell you it was brilliant. We
write each other letters and texts and we talk.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
But some people would say that this is the perfect marriage,
Like you don't have share a wardrobe, you don't have
to see them all the time, get excited when you
see them.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
Do you know what I think it'd be perfect.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
I think after you're married for ten years or something
like living next door to your husband. Yeah, then doing
it like this. But I feel like when you're fresh
off the back of a wedding, this is when you
want to be together.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
I make these jokes, but like I you know, anytime
that Matt goes and sleeps in another room because the
kids are crying or something's happening, I miss him.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
Yeah. Yeah, I feel like I've got a spirit living
in my room.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
That's the most action I've had.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
I'm really excited for you going to Italy, and I
am sorry that my impending.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Birth has taken over a lot of the show recently.
Speaker 1 (02:09):
I am about to push a watermelon out of my huha,
So you know, it really does take up a lot
of my mental energy at the moment. Now it is Thursday,
which means it is time for the thing we do
every Thursday, and that is ask Uncut. Well, you guys
call up with your biggest, deepest, darkest problems and Britain
and I do our absolute best to answer them. We've
got Lauren on the phone at the moment, and Lauren
(02:30):
has met the man of her dreams on Kintiqui.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
The problem is is that he does not live in
the country. Oh, that sounds familiar, and then they have
to do a long.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Distance Britt, I thought you'd have an actual skin in
the game on this one.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
Lauren, welcome to the show.
Speaker 4 (02:42):
Thank you so much for having me.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
Hey, what's going on? Give us a rundown.
Speaker 4 (02:47):
I met this guy that I think could be the one,
but he lives in Canada and I live in Australia,
and we both have careers where I don't think we
can move, you know, like I'm a doctor and I
don't have a license in Canada, and he's worked for
ten years to work his way up this industry. He
can't just move here.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
So have you guys had this conversation, Like, I mean,
have you actually said, you know, okay, I'm really wanting
to see what this could be for us. And have
you asked him whether or not he could make the
move or is it just an assumption that it's going
to be too hard.
Speaker 4 (03:16):
He told me he's falling in love with me. Like,
we haven't talked about who's going to move. We're just
talking about we'll cross that bridge when we come to it.
Speaker 3 (03:23):
Oh, so, okay, here's the thing. I've recently married. I've
been together for three years and we've never lived together.
Neither of us have made the move because we can't.
We've both said that our careers are really important to
us at the moment. Having said that, I definitely make
more of a sacrifice. I have to go there probably
eighty percent of the time, and he comes here. You know,
(03:44):
he lives in Italy. He comes here twenty percent at
the time. But we do have plans to be together
and we're working towards that. I think for you guys,
I know, for that medical world that you're in, it's
not easy. You can't just pick up and start working
as a doctor in Canada. Like it's tests, it's expensive exams.
You might not pass them. It might set you back
in your career. You haven't given us a lot of
(04:04):
information about his career, but I just want to ask,
is it something that you think he could come here
for the short term and then you both moved back
long term?
Speaker 4 (04:12):
Well, honestly, I'm not sure, and I think I'll feel
a lot of guilt. So he's worked in the jewelry
industry for ten years and he's now a company's top manager,
and his dad has worked in the same industry, and
the spans stream is to work for his dad's company.
And it's a massive company but only trades in Canada.
Speaker 3 (04:30):
But it sounds like that's an industry he could come
here and still working and then go back and work
for his dad if it's a family business.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
But have you asked him that.
Speaker 4 (04:36):
I haven't. I found it really hard pretty early on.
So we've known each other like six weeks now, Like
when do you have that Oh?
Speaker 2 (04:41):
No, okay, No, it's not okay.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
I think, and I think we're probably going to say
the same thing on this brit Is. Like with long
distance relationships, you have to have the big scary conversations
really early because you need to know what it is.
I mean, absolutely, you could date and you could go
and have a lovely time and then get yourself into
a situation in six or seven or eight months time
where you're totally in love with this person, but neither
(05:05):
of you are even remotely able to make the sackrifice
of moving or you know, for one person it's going
to be a huge sacrifice.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
And if neither of you are willing to sacrifice, then
you need to move the conversation to the next point,
which is, well, do we want to be in a
relationship or the foreseeable future where we are not together?
And that is a question that only you two can answer.
But I would not be put off that it's early days.
If he's seen his falling in love with you and
you guys are talking about forever. That's a very standard
(05:33):
baseline question of Okay, if we do this, how does
it work? And I think it's I just don't want
to see you give up your career because so often
we do see the women that are the ones that
make the sacrifices.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
I want to know that, Lauren. When he I mean
you guys met, you went on continue give two weeks.
You haven't seen each other since you've been doing this
like long distance phone calling and everything else.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
What did you say when he tells you that he
loves you?
Speaker 4 (05:56):
I said, I felt the same. That's why I would
consider like sacrificing my career.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
No, no, no, I think you have to have those
big conversations before you even remotely entertain the idea of
sacrificing no career in the medical field. Please promise me
you're gonna have a hard conversation with him. Which is
around Would you make the sacrifices to spend some time
here in Australia? Is that something that could be on
(06:22):
the cards, Go for a holiday, spend some time together.
Speaker 3 (06:25):
First, do not, please, if we can leave you with
one thing, If I can leave you with one thing,
it's do not put your career on hold or sacrifice
so for something at this point in time, write down
what it looks like for both of you to make
that sacrifice and see what one is doable. It will
work if it's right, and he will make it work
as well. Like no one that loves you is going
to ask you to stop what you're doing. There is
(06:46):
no relationship ever that has no sacrifice, long distance or not.
Every single relationship has it, long distance has it more.
But if he asked you to give up your career
put it on hold, then he's not your person.
Speaker 4 (06:57):
No, he wouldn't. But I just feel bad. But thank
you so much, Britt.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Let us know what happens.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
And if all hell breaks listen you're not able to
actually have the conversation with him, you can just send
him this audio and then you'll be able to have
it afterward where you'd get a good riding.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
He's a jaw you're gonna do.
Speaker 4 (07:09):
You're gonna have the conversation for.
Speaker 3 (07:10):
Me, all right?
Speaker 2 (07:11):
Good luck, Lauren.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
And if you guys want to join us at all
and have us answer a question for ask gun cut
slide on into the DMS at the pickup and we
can have you on next week to answer your deep,
dark and burning questions. Now we are talking medical mishaps.
What did you go to the hospital for or to
the doctors for and you were accidentally misdiagnosed? Maybe something
even crazier happened. Now. The reason why we're talking about
(07:33):
this is because something happened to me quite a few
years ago.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
I think I blocked it from the trauma.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
Somehow it came up in conversation, and I honestly forget
how wild this was. So I was in my twenties
and I had really bad back pain, like and it
was getting progressively worse. And I remember going to the
doctors and the doctor did some tests, and the doctor
was like, go straight to hospital, do not passo, do
not collect two hundred dollars.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
Just go to the hospital.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
And I got in there and I got admitted and
they did some scans and stuff, and they did like
an ultsound and whatever other scans, and I got the
results back and there was an issue with my gall bladder.
So my gall bladder was completely filled with gallstones.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
I think I was like twenty six at the time.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
Explains the back pain, Well, it's like pain like all
around my soft organs, you know, in this like around
my back anyway, back pain.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
It was like spiral pain.
Speaker 1 (08:26):
But the doctors said, I remember so vividly him even
being like, gosh, it's crazy. You literally have the gall
bladder of a ninety year old woman and so like.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
This is dire. Yeah, I was prepped for surgery.
Speaker 1 (08:36):
I went in and I did like the clear liquids
diet overnight. The surgeon came in the next day, sat
on the foot of my bed, talked me through what.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
Was going to happen.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
And at the time, I'd just been through a breakup
with a guy who worked in hospitals, so like he
was also a different field, different everything, and I was like,
I feel really lonely and sad.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
I'm just going to call him.
Speaker 3 (08:57):
Also, you were probably thinking, oh, this is my way
to connect with my eggs.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
My boyfriend.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
So he read it will definitely want me back when
I'm in a medical gown. So away he came in
and he was like, it's just so weird. He's like,
it doesn't really make sense. I want to have a
look at your scans, and so he got my I
can't remember for his ultrasound or something else, but he
got my scans and he was having a look at
them and he goes, I just don't believe that this
can be your Golblatt. He's like, it doesn't make sense
(09:23):
for you to have that many gallstones.
Speaker 2 (09:25):
You're not that unhealthy.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
Anyway, They did some digging and it turns out it was,
in fact not my scan. Mine had been mistaken with
the woman who was in the bed next to me, who.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
Was a nine year old.
Speaker 3 (09:34):
Lady, and she needed to go.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
And have her gallbladder removed, and had that been three
hours different, I would have gone in for a surgery
that I absolutely didn't need.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
Poor Mary.
Speaker 3 (09:43):
They're like, Mary, you look like a twenty year day.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
I had a kidney infection and a bladder infection, which
I'm pretty sure the ex boyfriend gave.
Speaker 3 (09:50):
Me a THIRTI and an STI at the same time.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
That could have been a bad ending. It really was.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
It really was, although we got Eloise on the line, Eloise,
what was your medical mishap?
Speaker 5 (10:03):
So in twenty eighteen, I had a reconstruction surgery of
my right rotat a cuff. It was meant to just
be day surgery, so I went in in true day
surgery form. Everybody's running late. My doctor comes and sees me,
marks up my shoulder, says this shoulder, don't operate on
the other obviously, and my nethesist was running late. They're like,
we'll meet you in the list, he'll give you a
(10:25):
nerve block. We'll go in, we'll do the surgery. Everything
will be great. So he comes in, quickly, checks my details,
gives me a nerve block, and that's really the last
thing I remember until I wake up. I wake up
in complete agony, feeling like I've just had my arm
cut open, which obviously I had, but the anthesist put
a nerve block in the wrong arm. So they block
(10:46):
my left arm and they cut open my rights, and
I woke up being like crying, being like this, I
don't think this is right, Like I can feel everything,
and they're like, well, kind of funny story, but you
can also funny.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
This is a kin to the urban legend of the
person who went in for an amputation and they amputated
the wrong legs.
Speaker 2 (11:04):
That's not an urban legend, no, I know, it's it's
some real story.
Speaker 3 (11:07):
It happened at the hospital. I have worked at a
hospital that took something that they weren't supposed to.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
Took something from someone of their words.
Speaker 3 (11:14):
Yeah, it is a real thing that happens.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
Wow, human error. Hey, you get anyone.
Speaker 5 (11:20):
They do it all the time, and that's why they
mark up your shoulders and like everything saying not this leg.
But so it didn't turn out to your day surgery.
I had to stay in overnight because I had no
arms working because one was nerve blocked incorrectly and one
was cut open, and I was maxed out on pain
relief already. So I was like excruciating for the twenty
four hours. I had everybody in the hospital coming to
(11:42):
apologize and obviously getting me to not sue.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
Oh my god, Elo, is you poor thing.
Speaker 3 (11:50):
I know you don't always get presented with these opportunities,
Oh my god.
Speaker 1 (11:55):
Like we've had so many of them come in. Some
of them we absolutely can't share.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
Laura.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
This is going to sound a little bit rogue, but
I want you to stick with me.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
What's the number, No, I'm not doing it on radio.
Speaker 3 (12:09):
What is the dollar value number that it would take
for you to leave your husband, Matt if you could
have a tax free number and the only stipulation is
that you have to walk away from your partner.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
I want other people who are like listening to play
along with this, because if you're in a really shitty
marriage right now, you'd be like a little.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
For free, I'll pay him. No, there is no amount.
There's no amount.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
There's there's also nothing that you could do to make
me say in amount live on radio.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
So my marriage is worth more.
Speaker 3 (12:34):
One hundred million dollars tax free?
Speaker 2 (12:36):
Think about it?
Speaker 3 (12:37):
What if I threw in an island?
Speaker 1 (12:44):
I think that if the number got to one hundred million,
you would think about it.
Speaker 3 (12:47):
But also, it's everyone in the car right now is
calling your bluff like you would take it?
Speaker 2 (12:52):
No, because then what does it mean for your old family?
Oh imagine leaving.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
The kids one hundred million, imagine living, imagine leaving all
the debt that were in Like, oh god, no, there's
no amount of money that would make me leave my husband.
Speaker 2 (13:04):
But if why are you winking? Shut up? Shut up.
Speaker 3 (13:08):
I don't ever get into the real reason why we're
talking about this so funny story. Well, apparently seventy fourish
percent of people have said that they would leave their
partner for a million dollars.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
And I was pretty gobsmat.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
If you're in a happy marriage, you would go, oh
my god, I'd never leave my partner for a million dollars.
Speaker 2 (13:25):
But this is not just married couples.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
Like this statistics just covers, yeah, covers a wide variety like,
there could be eighteen year olds who've just started dating
their girlfriend who turned around and we're like.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
Yeah, leave her for a million bucks.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
You know, it's such a very I guess it's a
tricky statistic to kind of pin down unless you have
parameters around it.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
Okay, So I asked.
Speaker 3 (13:42):
My husband Ben, because we've been married two months and.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
I was sure of it. I was sure the answer.
Speaker 3 (13:46):
Was going to be, Oh my god, we're so young
and in love, and like, okay, we're not young, we're
in love, we're so new to marry yourself. I thought
he would say that there is like absolutely no one.
I said, if you could have ten million dollars, he said,
he's pretty sure that seventy percent he'd stay. But he's
like ten millions a lot. So they'd been thirty percent,
I'd think about it.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
I was shook, how long is he going to think
about it for? Like? How much time do you have
to make the decision? Because thirty percent.
Speaker 3 (14:09):
He thought about that answer for me for like five minutes.
Speaker 2 (14:12):
And I was like, what are you thinking about? He
was like, really weighing it up.
Speaker 3 (14:16):
He takes the two serious.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
Do you ever have moments with your husband where you
kind of go to him and say it's okay to
lie to me in these situations.
Speaker 2 (14:23):
That's exactly why I said, it's.
Speaker 1 (14:24):
Okay for you to think that inside your brain and
not tell me what you really would do.
Speaker 3 (14:29):
And he said, he said, I'm not good with hypotheticals,
you know that. And I said, Babe, it's a hypothetical.
Speaker 2 (14:34):
Just lie, it's not really going to happen.
Speaker 1 (14:36):
So we had this conversation because brit called me very friendasical.
Speaker 2 (14:39):
I was so shocked. I said, I bet you. Matt
wouldn't say this. So I went and asked my husband,
and this is how it went down.
Speaker 1 (14:44):
I secretly filmed him as this was going, would you
leave me if it was ten million dollars?
Speaker 3 (14:51):
Ten million dollars?
Speaker 2 (14:54):
I think about it for a second, but I'd say, to.
Speaker 1 (14:58):
Be fair, though, you'd have to split with me if
we got divorced anyway, So I get five.
Speaker 2 (15:03):
He said, no attached, It's true. I'll take you everything.
I'll take you for everything you're worth.
Speaker 1 (15:12):
How much money would be the amount that you would
need no strings attached to leave the relationship out of
a million?
Speaker 2 (15:20):
That's really happening.
Speaker 1 (15:22):
He said it so confidently, one hundred million dollars and
he's out of there.
Speaker 3 (15:25):
I would think about it for a hundred million. Ben
asked me, would I leave for AE hundred million? I
said no, but I would.
Speaker 1 (15:32):
All right, guys, let us know your price. I want
to know how much would it cost? Yeah, slide on
into our DMS at the pickup. I want to know
what's your number, what's your price? How much would it
cost for you to leave your relationship? I reckon, we're
going to get a few that will sell it all
for free.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
Well, that's it from us, guys,
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