MINI: Britt's Mum gives her the sweetest marriage advice ahead of her wedding

Britt's mum Nikki joins the show to share the wedding advice that has helped her through almost 50 (!) years of marriage. 

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Speaker 1 (00:10):
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Speaker 2 (00:17):
Now, Laura, we all know that my wedding is impending
in the next married. I know it's so shocking. Wait,
what am I going to talk about once I'm married?
I don't know.

Speaker 1 (00:26):
Honestly, we're going to be content dry after that.

Speaker 2 (00:28):
Well, I was thinking, I am very lucky that I
have someone very close to me that is like the
mother source of long term relationship.

Speaker 1 (00:37):
But she's literally the mother sauce.

Speaker 2 (00:39):
She's my mole relationships, my source of nutrients in the womb,
my mom.

Speaker 1 (00:43):
Nicky Hockley Mom.

Speaker 2 (00:44):
I have her on the line because I wanted to
get some advice from her mom.

Speaker 3 (00:48):
Welcome to the pickup, Oh for you.

Speaker 1 (00:51):
The reason why we say the mother source of all
marital advice is because you've been married for forty eight years,
nearly fifty years.

Speaker 4 (00:58):
It'd be too hard to start again now.

Speaker 1 (01:00):
Anyways, that's your advice, stick it out.

Speaker 4 (01:03):
Do you know what I think people are lying if
they say everything's gone smoothly so that long, because it doesn't.

Speaker 1 (01:08):
Well, knowing that your little girl Britney is going to
walk down the aisle soon what if you could give
some wedding advice or some marriage advice more than wedding advice.
What would it look like.

Speaker 4 (01:18):
Well, look, I think sex, sex and sex is probably
number one. I think every couple is different, and every
couple has their own unique way of making marriage work.
But I guess a universal tip would be, you know,
compromise a lot. I don't think there's any set rule
for a successful marriage. I really don't. We're lucky. We
get along really well. We always said we'd be best

(01:39):
friends even if we didn't get married. Did you think
that we're very lucky?

Speaker 2 (01:42):
Was there every time that you guys thought maybe the
marriage was over for some reason? And I'm saying this
based off like I wouldn't know. I've never seen you
guys argue, But I imagine over fifty years there's got
to be points of there.

Speaker 4 (01:54):
Was a time I think we both had our doubts.
But you do have to work hard. You know, that's
an old expression as well, you have to work to
make a marriage work, But you do you have to
work hard.

Speaker 1 (02:04):
I always find it, like so like inspiring when couples
can say, you know, it spiraled right down to the
bottom and then we spiraled back up, and look at
us now, you know, fifty years on and still able
to you know, still able to love each other, not
just be you know, co parenting or co living together, cohabitating,
but really like having a fulfilling relationship. I think that's
something that's very very inspirational.

Speaker 2 (02:25):
Also as an observer, I guess.

Speaker 4 (02:27):
We spiral down and we spiraled up, and it was
so worth it. It was so worth working to spiral
up and get to the top again.

Speaker 2 (02:35):
I do know that one thing that Dad said to
me once was that some of the best times of
your relationship came after the worst times, like after it
was at the very bottom. He said, if we didn't
stick that out, we wouldn't have had the better parts
that came later, which is I think.

Speaker 4 (02:49):
You're right, and that is very true. I'd agree with that.

Speaker 2 (02:53):
On a more superficial level, just as the observer, I'd
probably say, like one of the keys to your relationships
was having your own living rooms because you watch your
own TV shows, like they have two different TVs. Mum
watches a British crime.

Speaker 4 (03:04):
Yeah, but we only do that now after children have gone.
When they were little, when you were all little, we
all the six of us that squashed up on one
lounge and we're all made to watch something someone else
wanted to watch. I mean, that's just a little thing,
but it's true, you know it is.

Speaker 2 (03:20):
I can only hope have a long marriage like you
and Dad had.

Speaker 4 (03:23):
Do you know what? Knowing Ben and knowing you, I
think you have got it. Actually, you two, I really
believe that.

Speaker 2 (03:30):
I don't know that makes you want to cry because
you're never emotional and you never say anything nice to me.
Oh ridiculous that it makes me emotional, because genuinely you are.

Speaker 4 (03:41):
I genuinely believe that. I just think, as I said,
knowing Ben and I know you, and I've seen you together,
and I really believe you two are going to make it.
I think you've got a lovely relationship. He's my squid,
all right, so you's your squid. I think that's all right.
That's what was helpful.

Speaker 1 (03:58):
Thanks for the advice, Nibby.

Speaker 3 (04:01):
No worries, Laura se or nice to talk to you,
see nice to talk to you too, say you pretty
by love you will they go, brit All you got
to do is yeah, some choice.

Speaker 1 (04:12):
Advice is to start there, but also say sorry.

Speaker 4 (04:14):
I mean, she's so cute.

Speaker 3 (04:15):
They really are.

Speaker 2 (04:16):
I do feel genuinely so lucky the family that I had,
But my parents have set such a good example of
what a relationship should be and how you should treat
each other. Like to be thirty seven years old and
who have not really seen the margine knowing that they do,
but they just do it in their own ways. I
think that's pretty cool. So anyway, here's to a long,
successful marriage for me.