May 30, 2025 • 5 mins
Would you kick someone out of your wedding if they didn't dress according to the dress code you set? This woman did.
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Speaker 1 (00:10):
I heard podcasts Heem More Kiss podcast playlist and listen
live on the free iHeart app.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
Okay, so my entire algorithm online Laura is weddings. No surprise,
I am getting married. So you know, it just becomes
your whole life, like everything you get fed.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Yeah, mine is just babies and birth videos.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
As soon as Instagram realized that I was pregnant, it
was just spitting out birth. Interesting, you don't want that
on your algorithm. I've seen enough.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Maybe if you give him birth you do, I've done enough.
I love the wedding stuff that's been fed to me.
I absolutely love it. I get for you. I get
a lot of ideas from it, and I get a
lot of first dances and things like that really cute.
But there is this one that he's going viral on
TikTok at the moment.
Speaker 3 (00:49):
And I actually am.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
Shook it to my call that this is a thing
that is happening. I could not imagine ever doing this
to a guest have listened to this.
Speaker 4 (00:58):
So I am currently sitting in my car and we
have been here literally like a total of fifteen minutes,
and the bride comes up to me and tells me
that my outfit is inappropriate for her wedding. And that
was a supposed dress code that I didn't know existed
(01:19):
because I never got a wedding invitation mailed to my house.
It was a text message that my husband received. But
in twenty twenty five, is this what bride's do to
the guest? Now?
Speaker 2 (01:31):
Okay? So just to set this up a little bit more,
this woman went to this wedding with her husband and
the invite came through the husband. She drove two hours
to get there with two kids. She never saw a
formal invite. She gets in there. Now she's wearing like
a three quarter dress.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
Beautiful dress, but it's not overly much dress with a pattern.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
It's very geometric of blues, colored blocks and stuff like that.
Like it's very pattern So if the dress code said
no patterns, it's pole opposite to that, right, But she
doesn't even know what the dress code is. Within fifteen minutes,
the bride told her to leave the wedding. I actually
cannot believe your audacity of the bride to do that.
(02:11):
I have on my wedding. My dress code is no
big patterns, like big loud patterns, which would probably include
this to be honest. But I can hand on heart say,
if I arrive and there is a guest in a
pattern or a dress, there is no part of me
there would ever a million year's dream of kicking that
person out, Like are your aesthetics more important to you
(02:32):
than the people you're supposed to love?
Speaker 1 (02:33):
You might not kick them out, but would you bitch
about them behind their back?
Speaker 2 (02:35):
I would get them to stand off to the side.
I'd be like, could you just stand outside behind a tree?
Speaker 1 (02:39):
No way to your mom and you're like, Mom, just
go and stand over there. No look, I mean crazy. Also,
if you're inviting people to your wedding and you care
more about your dress code than the people that are coming,
I think that says a lot about the type of
wedding that you want. And it's not about celebrating with
your family and friends. It's about having the photos for
proof afterwards. Don't get me wrong, I understand that people
have dress codes for a reason. It can be very,
(03:01):
very frustrating when you have a dress code and someone
purposefully and willfully chooses to not abide by it. Like
when I sent you you were photo of a dress
and I was like, I like this one Britain and
you were like, that's patterned, and I was like, yeah,
that's nice.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
Though, I said, can I wear this? And I said
it's a bit of a pattern but if.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
You want, yeah, that's good. I lie to that because
you left it open, because.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
I say, is no, do it? No, I'm joking.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
No.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
I was at a wedding once, and I'd love to
know what it would take for you, Laura, to ask
someone to not be at your wedding. Like nothing where
honestly nothing.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
Oh look, if you came naked to my wedding, I
might tell my uncle to put some pants on. But
like you know, apart from that, I don't think I
had a dress code. Actually I did. Do you know
what went out on our wedding invitation that was a
dress code?
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Sexy?
Speaker 1 (03:44):
Yeah. So I left my husband in charge of organizing
that side of things, Like he did the invites and everything,
and we did it on that online wedding platform where
like you kind of feel everything out and it sends
out an automated digital wedding and vibe.
Speaker 4 (03:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
Yeah, And because we weren't really sure of all the
prompts at the time, Matt went on and he just
filled out like funny shit that he thought would get changed,
and so he wrote dress sexy and that went out
to all our guests.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
And I came with side boob. I had a little
bit of side boob out and I got in trouble.
Laura was like, put your boob away. I was like, well,
I never got into it.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
You look great, you look great, But it was a
fantastic about a sideboob. And look, some people did dress
sex in my wedding.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
I'm okay with it.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
I also went backless to look I understand, and I
think this doesn't just go for weddings. It goes for
kind of any event. I think it's fine to have
a dress code if you've got a certain idea in mind.
But if someone rocks up and they aren't in that
dress code, they're probably not going to feel that comfortable already.
They're already probably going to feel like an outlier or
like they got it wrong, And making and drawing attention
(04:46):
to that just makes you a bit of an asshole,
rather than you know, accepting that you know, okay, well
it's not ideal, but it's not a big deal either.
I don't know for me, I just think that, yeah,
I think it's gross and I would never, never, ever,
ever in my life would I pull someone up for
not dressing a way that I thought was appropriate.
Speaker 3 (05:03):
Also, I do not care what year we are in ever,
if you don't send a wedding invitation by a text
message like we are not there yet, and if you
are sending your invites out, stop being so lazy.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
Online is fine. Everything is online. A text message, you
know what?
Speaker 1 (05:18):
It makes me know? It makes me think that he
got a formal invite and he had an RSVP'd, and
so the groom sent a text message to be like, hey,
do you come into the wedding. I would absolutely put
money on the fact that a formal if someone's that
anal about their dress code, a formal invitation went out,
and that man just didn't RSVP properly. So maybe they
were already a bit of a liability couple. Maybe there's
(05:39):
more to this.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
Get him on the phone.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
We'll follow up next live from the United States. No,
I reckon, there's more to this.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
Okay, we'll get our investigators on it.
I heard podcasts Heem More Kiss podcast playlist and listen
live on the free iHeart app.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
Okay, so my entire algorithm online Laura is weddings. No surprise,
I am getting married. So you know, it just becomes
your whole life, like everything you get fed.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Yeah, mine is just babies and birth videos.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
As soon as Instagram realized that I was pregnant, it
was just spitting out birth. Interesting, you don't want that
on your algorithm. I've seen enough.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Maybe if you give him birth you do, I've done enough.
I love the wedding stuff that's been fed to me.
I absolutely love it. I get for you. I get
a lot of ideas from it, and I get a
lot of first dances and things like that really cute.
But there is this one that he's going viral on
TikTok at the moment.
Speaker 3 (00:49):
And I actually am.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
Shook it to my call that this is a thing
that is happening. I could not imagine ever doing this
to a guest have listened to this.
Speaker 4 (00:58):
So I am currently sitting in my car and we
have been here literally like a total of fifteen minutes,
and the bride comes up to me and tells me
that my outfit is inappropriate for her wedding. And that
was a supposed dress code that I didn't know existed
(01:19):
because I never got a wedding invitation mailed to my house.
It was a text message that my husband received. But
in twenty twenty five, is this what bride's do to
the guest? Now?
Speaker 2 (01:31):
Okay? So just to set this up a little bit more,
this woman went to this wedding with her husband and
the invite came through the husband. She drove two hours
to get there with two kids. She never saw a
formal invite. She gets in there. Now she's wearing like
a three quarter dress.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
Beautiful dress, but it's not overly much dress with a pattern.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
It's very geometric of blues, colored blocks and stuff like that.
Like it's very pattern So if the dress code said
no patterns, it's pole opposite to that, right, But she
doesn't even know what the dress code is. Within fifteen minutes,
the bride told her to leave the wedding. I actually
cannot believe your audacity of the bride to do that.
(02:11):
I have on my wedding. My dress code is no
big patterns, like big loud patterns, which would probably include
this to be honest. But I can hand on heart say,
if I arrive and there is a guest in a
pattern or a dress, there is no part of me
there would ever a million year's dream of kicking that
person out, Like are your aesthetics more important to you
(02:32):
than the people you're supposed to love?
Speaker 1 (02:33):
You might not kick them out, but would you bitch
about them behind their back?
Speaker 2 (02:35):
I would get them to stand off to the side.
I'd be like, could you just stand outside behind a tree?
Speaker 1 (02:39):
No way to your mom and you're like, Mom, just
go and stand over there. No look, I mean crazy. Also,
if you're inviting people to your wedding and you care
more about your dress code than the people that are coming,
I think that says a lot about the type of
wedding that you want. And it's not about celebrating with
your family and friends. It's about having the photos for
proof afterwards. Don't get me wrong, I understand that people
have dress codes for a reason. It can be very,
(03:01):
very frustrating when you have a dress code and someone
purposefully and willfully chooses to not abide by it. Like
when I sent you you were photo of a dress
and I was like, I like this one Britain and
you were like, that's patterned, and I was like, yeah,
that's nice.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
Though, I said, can I wear this? And I said
it's a bit of a pattern but if.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
You want, yeah, that's good. I lie to that because
you left it open, because.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
I say, is no, do it? No, I'm joking.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
No.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
I was at a wedding once, and I'd love to
know what it would take for you, Laura, to ask
someone to not be at your wedding. Like nothing where
honestly nothing.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
Oh look, if you came naked to my wedding, I
might tell my uncle to put some pants on. But
like you know, apart from that, I don't think I
had a dress code. Actually I did. Do you know
what went out on our wedding invitation that was a
dress code?
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Sexy?
Speaker 1 (03:44):
Yeah. So I left my husband in charge of organizing
that side of things, Like he did the invites and everything,
and we did it on that online wedding platform where
like you kind of feel everything out and it sends
out an automated digital wedding and vibe.
Speaker 4 (03:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
Yeah, And because we weren't really sure of all the
prompts at the time, Matt went on and he just
filled out like funny shit that he thought would get changed,
and so he wrote dress sexy and that went out
to all our guests.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
And I came with side boob. I had a little
bit of side boob out and I got in trouble.
Laura was like, put your boob away. I was like, well,
I never got into it.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
You look great, you look great, But it was a
fantastic about a sideboob. And look, some people did dress
sex in my wedding.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
I'm okay with it.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
I also went backless to look I understand, and I
think this doesn't just go for weddings. It goes for
kind of any event. I think it's fine to have
a dress code if you've got a certain idea in mind.
But if someone rocks up and they aren't in that
dress code, they're probably not going to feel that comfortable already.
They're already probably going to feel like an outlier or
like they got it wrong, And making and drawing attention
(04:46):
to that just makes you a bit of an asshole,
rather than you know, accepting that you know, okay, well
it's not ideal, but it's not a big deal either.
I don't know for me, I just think that, yeah,
I think it's gross and I would never, never, ever,
ever in my life would I pull someone up for
not dressing a way that I thought was appropriate.
Speaker 3 (05:03):
Also, I do not care what year we are in ever,
if you don't send a wedding invitation by a text
message like we are not there yet, and if you
are sending your invites out, stop being so lazy.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
Online is fine. Everything is online. A text message, you
know what?
Speaker 1 (05:18):
It makes me know? It makes me think that he
got a formal invite and he had an RSVP'd, and
so the groom sent a text message to be like, hey,
do you come into the wedding. I would absolutely put
money on the fact that a formal if someone's that
anal about their dress code, a formal invitation went out,
and that man just didn't RSVP properly. So maybe they
were already a bit of a liability couple. Maybe there's
(05:39):
more to this.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
Get him on the phone.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
We'll follow up next live from the United States. No,
I reckon, there's more to this.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
Okay, we'll get our investigators on it.
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