March 10, 2025 • 18 mins
You may have heard of this concept before, but in this episode I'll share some personal recent examples of how everything in life is a mirror. My reality was feeling negative and I was blaming everyone around me, but once I looked in the mirror and realised what was really happening on the inside - it all started to change for the better. Hear how this concept is tied closely to manifesting and how shifting the internal - using the clues from the external - will ultimately bring the positive outcomes you desire.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the
land on which this episode is being recorded, the Combomb
Merry people. They've been having conversations and telling stories on
this land for thousands of years, and we show our
gratitude and respect for their contribution to our environment and culture.
(00:25):
This is Rise and Conquer, the podcast where we strive
to become the highest version of ourselves through curious conversations,
healthy mindsets, laughter, connection, and a deep desire to evolve.
I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson. Join me as we explore parenthood, business, manifestation,
(00:51):
and so much more. It's positive, it's practical, and it's
about putting you in the driver's seat of your own life.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
Are you ready?
Speaker 3 (01:03):
Hello, my loves, Welcome back to the Rise and Conquer potty.
I hope you're having the most amazing day or night
whenever you're listening, and we are back with another manifestation EP.
I have been in my manifestation lately, guys. I have
a lot happening behind the scenes, and there's a lot
(01:25):
of moving parts. And truly, when life is getting quite
hectic and I'm trying to attract some big things, I'm
making some big news really locking into my manifestation practices,
and like everything that I talk to you guys about
just helps so much. And something that I wanted to
(01:49):
kind of introduce is this concept that I'm sure you've
heard in the self development world or the spiritual world,
and it's that everything around you, your reality, your three D,
is a mirror of what is happening internally. I had,
like I had a good Christmas, but I honestly like
(02:12):
I felt like crap. I had a lot of tension
with my husband. My parents were staying with us, which
was beautiful, and I honestly was a bit of an egg,
Like I was a bit negative, low vibe, not loving life,
and but like you know, I was still enjoying myself.
I was still having great family time. But I remember
(02:33):
having this moment, you know, me and Tim had just
had a fight, and I was like, hang on a second, like,
what what is happening right now?
Speaker 2 (02:43):
I think I actually I saw like a.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
TikTok or something, and this woman was talking about this
concept of like basically, what you're feeling, what you're currently experiencing,
is just a mirror of what's happening internally. So like
I was trying to change the external. I was like, well,
Tim needs to treat me this way and this thing
just needs to happen and then I'll be okay.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
And then she was explaining, you know, everything's a mirror.
Speaker 3 (03:08):
I know this concept, and I was like, wait, if
my reality is feeling shit, if I'm feeling like everyone else.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
Is the problem, I'm the problem.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
And guys, I made a whole bunch of like internal shifts,
which I'll talk about, and my reality really started to
shift and change, and I'm talking like in one week,
it really did. And I was like, oh, I know
this stuff.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
I practiced this stuff.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
So if you need the reminder that everything is a
mirror and what you're currently experiencing is just mirroring to
you what's happening inside, let's get into it.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Often we get really triggered.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
We're like nobody, he's not treating me right, and this
colleague is treating me like shit, and I just can't
find any opportunities, and you know, there's all these challenges
and really the way people treat you, you know, the
certain opportunities or lack of opportunities that are showing up,
(04:23):
and you know, the challenges are all reflecting you you
as a person, which can be confronting because it's like, no,
this is not my fault, Like I feel like shit,
but this is not my fault, and I look, I
love you.
Speaker 2 (04:39):
This is tough love. Just listen, just take some responsibility.
Speaker 3 (04:44):
Here's the magic of it, though, it's when you shift inside,
everything outside starts to shift too. So you don't need
that person to change you.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
Don't, you know, need all the.
Speaker 3 (04:56):
External things to shift and change because we actually can't
change then we can't control. So this is actually great
news because we just need to shift the internal. The
way that I want you to kind of think about it, like,
for example, let's just do some quick shifts of your
external and then internal. So if you want your partner
(05:19):
to treat you better, the answer isn't trying harder to
please them. It's treating yourself better because the more better
you treat yourself, the more better other people treat you.
It's not about being like, oh well, I just want
them to love me, so it's like I'm gonna bend
(05:41):
over backwards and do whatever they say and like throw
all my time and energy into them. It doesn't actually work.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
It's like a saying that.
Speaker 3 (05:51):
It's like, if you want him to treat you better,
don't treat him better, treat yourself better. And that's like
a hack with like mask and femine energy. If you
do want people to start treating you better, maybe like
some things have come up and people have not treated
you in the way you want. Literally ask yourself, like
(06:11):
how have I been treating myself late? Like how have
I been like talking to myself? Have I been kind
to myself? Compassion with myself? Because you will find people
will treat you how you have been treating yourself. I
know wild So you know, if you want to feel
seen and valued like with other people, ask yourself, are
(06:34):
you seeing and valuing yourself?
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Like I know that's like.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
Weird to say, but honestly, what you currently want from
other people from the external? Are you giving it to
yourself or are you wanting it from other people?
Speaker 2 (06:53):
Like are you wanting the.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
Validation from other people? It's even like, for example, what
shows up in your reality is really such a mirror
of how you feel about yourself. Like even think of
that person on Instagram. Maybe she's got like a very
specific niche like oh, like think of like glucose goddess.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
I'm obsessed with her. If you don't follow her, definitely do.
Speaker 3 (07:16):
She talks a lot about like insulin resistance, and I
have been down that road because of my pcos so
glucose Goddess, I would say, she's so smart.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
She's like alternative, like she's indie, she's.
Speaker 3 (07:30):
Different, she doesn't try too hard, she's confident, she knows
her stuff, Like she's like this hot scientist who like
talks about insulin resistance, but she's like cool, come and collected.
So all these things I'm describing about her, I guarantee
you she feels those things internally, and that's why I
(07:54):
feel that about her. So it's like, if you want
to start feeling like more clear and magnetic in your
business online, like you need to start by like getting
clear yourself, like locking into your own power, feeling your authenticity,
getting to your magnetism, because no one else is going
(08:16):
to feel it unless you feel like that. And we
even know like this, like there are certain people on
social media where like let's say I've gone on their
page for whatever reason, and I'm like straight away or
that person's lost, like oh, I can tell that person's
going through a hard time, and so I can feel
that by their energy because that's how they're feeling and
(08:39):
that's what they're portraying and that's what they're putting out,
which just naturally happens.
Speaker 2 (08:45):
Another example, it's like, you.
Speaker 3 (08:47):
Know, if you're craving that like deep love and that
respect and that care from like your husband, Like are
you giving yourself that? Are you nurturing your own energy?
Are you caring for yourself? Are you like locking into
yourself and being like, God, I'm amazing. So like anything
that you want to shift is ask yourself how you
(09:10):
want to feel and that I want you to give
that to yourself. So from those examples, I want you
to really think about it, like even in past experience
or if you just do an experiment this week, think about,
(09:30):
you know, the way that people treat you, the kinds
of opportunities that you're attracting, and that sort of thing.
And again we're not blaming ourself, like let's not go there,
but your internal world is shaping your external reality. So
if you're not loving it right now, if you feel stuck,
if you feel unmotivated, if you feel kind of any
(09:51):
negative energy, the amazing part is we can shift it,
we can start noticing a difference straight away. So let's
just like get into some practical ways that you know,
we can shift this, we can unpack this. Obviously, journaling
self reflection super important. The next time someone triggers you
(10:11):
or like something's happening in your external maybe it's a
rude comment or like lack of support from a friend,
ask yourself, what could this be reflecting back to me?
If it's the rude comment, is it touching on an
insecurity that you haven't dealt with? Is it showing you
where you need stronger boundaries? Is it showing you like
(10:34):
where you haven't been giving yourself time, where you wish
you had more time for yourself, where you could love
yourself more, where you could be more, be more obsessed
with yourself, And don't take.
Speaker 2 (10:44):
That in the wrong way.
Speaker 3 (10:45):
It's very important to be obsessed with yourself, which I'll
get into in a moment. So then what I want
you to do is really like shift your internal dialogue.
If you want to feel seen and valued by others,
Like my example above, you know stuff by asking yourself
how am I seeing and valuing me? And this could
look like celebrating some recent wins like speaking kindly to yourself,
(11:11):
honoring your needs first instead of putting everyone else's needs first,
and just having that moment to be like, yeah, you're
right and shifting that internal dialogue. And like with the
example of like if you want to show up magnetic
and aligned in your business, like you would then get
clear in your business and be like, well, what do
I want to stand from my business?
Speaker 2 (11:32):
Like what's my purpose? How do I want my.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
Clients to feel after et cetera, et cetera. I'm not
going to get too much into that, just like use
some of these tools. I honestly believe once you have
awareness about this and you can start culptivating. Like any
time that you feel this way, I just guarantee you
you need to give yourself. I'm not going to be
(11:55):
like give yourself love, but like give your self energy,
do do something nice for yourself. I actually notice a
huge part of me getting out of my funk was
like getting dressed up and looking cute. And I know
that's like very self or sylvel and I feel like
you'd never think that comes out of my mouth, but
it was like this moment where I was like, I
(12:16):
want to do this for me, like I want to
feel good as Georgy. I want to like feel really
good at myself. And it's like I wore a cute
outfort to work, I put makeup on, and I like,
I just felt really good at myself and it shifted
things to me. So it's like it can be something
small like that. But yeah, I just truly believe like
whatever you're currently craving, you can actually give to yourself,
(12:37):
and like it's not a bad thing. Your reality is
just showing you what you want. So if you're someone
who's like, oh, but I'm not clear, I'm confused, I'm stuck.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
What are you getting triggered by?
Speaker 3 (12:48):
Because it's literally showing you what you want? You know,
do you want more respect? Do you want more love?
Speaker 2 (12:56):
If you want more.
Speaker 3 (12:57):
Love, start by giving yourself that love. Like, if you
want more respect, start respecting your own time and energy.
Speaker 2 (13:04):
If you're yearning for like.
Speaker 3 (13:05):
Care and nurturing, like are you nurturing yourself? Are you
been kind to yourself? And I just truly believe like
when you're taking care of your internal energy, that's what
shifts and changes. Okay, So the last part of this
that really helped me with this shift when I was
(13:26):
going through kind of my like little shitty time.
Speaker 2 (13:30):
For lack of a better word, is I detached?
Speaker 3 (13:34):
So we all know law of detachment. It's like not
letting things bother us. I see a lot of these
videos on TikTok, and basically the law of detachment is
like releasing attachments to things being a specific way and
trusting that things are gonna unfold how they're meant to.
Speaker 2 (13:55):
What comes around comes around.
Speaker 3 (13:56):
Wait, that's not saying basically karma, Like if you treat
someone like shit, something shit's going to happen to you.
So instead of giving that person my time and energy
because of what you focus on expands, I detach and
I'm like, I'm not even giving you my energy because
that's like a power source. And I'm like, I'm not
giving you my energy. So it's like, you know, if
(14:17):
Tim's annoying me, instead of reacting, which I can be
a very reactive person, I'm a leo, I'm a spicy girl.
I started doing this thing where I would just detach
and I'm like, he'll figure it out, Like he'll figure
out that he's being a dick right now. Almost, I
feel like a lot of us were like, no, but
I've got to like tell them what they did wrong.
(14:37):
I've got to show them like all those sorts of things.
And we kind of take it on like our responsibility
that like, no, I need to right their wrongs. But
it's like Tim knows when he's not treating me how
he should treat me. But also Tim's human and he's
a person, and he's got his own stuff going on,
and you can't be everything to me and perfect for
(14:59):
me all the time. So when he's not treating me
in the right way, I literally detach. I draw my
energy away because men love energy, or just any human
loves energy. And it's so funny because I was literally
implementing this and like he snapped at me for something,
and usually I would snap back and be like, don't
you talk to me that way, you know, fiery girl,
(15:23):
And I just didn't reply, and I just kind of
looked at him, looked away, went to Ivy, sorted Ivy out,
didn't respond, detached, and just thought, if he wants to
treat me like that, that's his prerogative. Doesn't actually mean
think about me, Like I'm not gonna make this mean anything.
And it was literally five minutes later, we got to
the cafe because it was like getting into the car
(15:45):
or something, and he goes, I'm so sorry for saying
that to you. That was so rude and it's not
how I want to treat you. No joke, guys, And
I was like, fuck, this works, this works. And Guys,
I know it's hard because that hasn't happened all the time.
And sometimes I just react, but I'm not reacting to
(16:06):
external reality that I don't want. I'm not putting energy
into what I don't want. So when he's treating me
like that, I'm not gonna put energy into it because
I'm like, this is not gonna continue. And then when
he apologized, I'm like, thank you so much. I really
appreciate it. Yes, it was upsetting when you said that
(16:26):
to me.
Speaker 2 (16:27):
Energy done.
Speaker 3 (16:28):
Move on like this really beautiful detachment. Oh god, it's
helped me, guys, it has helped me. I feel like
I could do a whole episode on detachment and what
I've been doing lately because that it's been a vibe.
And I think as humans we have this innate thing
where it's like, no, I've got to stand up for myself.
(16:48):
I've got to like talk back. I've got to like yeah,
like tell him he's wrong. But it is very interesting
the mirror of like what you put out, you get back. So, guys,
my loves everything is a mirror. What is your current
reality mirroring to you? How can you shift and whatever
(17:09):
you're triggered by and craving, how can you give it
to yourself? Stop expecting it from like external things that's
the problem, and detach where you're getting triggered. Stop letting
it trigger you, and like do whatever you need to do.
Take some breaths, go for a walk out on nature,
Like stop letting it affect you, because I guarantee you
(17:30):
it's only like continuing because you're giving it your energy
and what we focus on expense. I hope this was
a beautiful reminder for you. I love chatting to you again.
Thank you so much to those of you who are
listening every week, those of you who rate the show,
(17:52):
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leave a review. We really really appreciate it, but I
love you so much and I'll chat to you in
our next episode.
Speaker 2 (18:12):
Bye for now.
I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the
land on which this episode is being recorded, the Combomb
Merry people. They've been having conversations and telling stories on
this land for thousands of years, and we show our
gratitude and respect for their contribution to our environment and culture.
(00:25):
This is Rise and Conquer, the podcast where we strive
to become the highest version of ourselves through curious conversations,
healthy mindsets, laughter, connection, and a deep desire to evolve.
I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson. Join me as we explore parenthood, business, manifestation,
(00:51):
and so much more. It's positive, it's practical, and it's
about putting you in the driver's seat of your own life.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
Are you ready?
Speaker 3 (01:03):
Hello, my loves, Welcome back to the Rise and Conquer potty.
I hope you're having the most amazing day or night
whenever you're listening, and we are back with another manifestation EP.
I have been in my manifestation lately, guys. I have
a lot happening behind the scenes, and there's a lot
(01:25):
of moving parts. And truly, when life is getting quite
hectic and I'm trying to attract some big things, I'm
making some big news really locking into my manifestation practices,
and like everything that I talk to you guys about
just helps so much. And something that I wanted to
(01:49):
kind of introduce is this concept that I'm sure you've
heard in the self development world or the spiritual world,
and it's that everything around you, your reality, your three D,
is a mirror of what is happening internally. I had,
like I had a good Christmas, but I honestly like
(02:12):
I felt like crap. I had a lot of tension
with my husband. My parents were staying with us, which
was beautiful, and I honestly was a bit of an egg,
Like I was a bit negative, low vibe, not loving life,
and but like you know, I was still enjoying myself.
I was still having great family time. But I remember
(02:33):
having this moment, you know, me and Tim had just
had a fight, and I was like, hang on a second, like,
what what is happening right now?
Speaker 2 (02:43):
I think I actually I saw like a.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
TikTok or something, and this woman was talking about this
concept of like basically, what you're feeling, what you're currently experiencing,
is just a mirror of what's happening internally. So like
I was trying to change the external. I was like, well,
Tim needs to treat me this way and this thing
just needs to happen and then I'll be okay.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
And then she was explaining, you know, everything's a mirror.
Speaker 3 (03:08):
I know this concept, and I was like, wait, if
my reality is feeling shit, if I'm feeling like everyone else.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
Is the problem, I'm the problem.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
And guys, I made a whole bunch of like internal shifts,
which I'll talk about, and my reality really started to
shift and change, and I'm talking like in one week,
it really did. And I was like, oh, I know
this stuff.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
I practiced this stuff.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
So if you need the reminder that everything is a
mirror and what you're currently experiencing is just mirroring to
you what's happening inside, let's get into it.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Often we get really triggered.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
We're like nobody, he's not treating me right, and this
colleague is treating me like shit, and I just can't
find any opportunities, and you know, there's all these challenges
and really the way people treat you, you know, the
certain opportunities or lack of opportunities that are showing up,
(04:23):
and you know, the challenges are all reflecting you you
as a person, which can be confronting because it's like, no,
this is not my fault, Like I feel like shit,
but this is not my fault, and I look, I
love you.
Speaker 2 (04:39):
This is tough love. Just listen, just take some responsibility.
Speaker 3 (04:44):
Here's the magic of it, though, it's when you shift inside,
everything outside starts to shift too. So you don't need
that person to change you.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
Don't, you know, need all the.
Speaker 3 (04:56):
External things to shift and change because we actually can't
change then we can't control. So this is actually great
news because we just need to shift the internal. The
way that I want you to kind of think about it, like,
for example, let's just do some quick shifts of your
external and then internal. So if you want your partner
(05:19):
to treat you better, the answer isn't trying harder to
please them. It's treating yourself better because the more better
you treat yourself, the more better other people treat you.
It's not about being like, oh well, I just want
them to love me, so it's like I'm gonna bend
(05:41):
over backwards and do whatever they say and like throw
all my time and energy into them. It doesn't actually work.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
It's like a saying that.
Speaker 3 (05:51):
It's like, if you want him to treat you better,
don't treat him better, treat yourself better. And that's like
a hack with like mask and femine energy. If you
do want people to start treating you better, maybe like
some things have come up and people have not treated
you in the way you want. Literally ask yourself, like
(06:11):
how have I been treating myself late? Like how have
I been like talking to myself? Have I been kind
to myself? Compassion with myself? Because you will find people
will treat you how you have been treating yourself. I
know wild So you know, if you want to feel
seen and valued like with other people, ask yourself, are
(06:34):
you seeing and valuing yourself?
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Like I know that's like.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
Weird to say, but honestly, what you currently want from
other people from the external? Are you giving it to
yourself or are you wanting it from other people?
Speaker 2 (06:53):
Like are you wanting the.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
Validation from other people? It's even like, for example, what
shows up in your reality is really such a mirror
of how you feel about yourself. Like even think of
that person on Instagram. Maybe she's got like a very
specific niche like oh, like think of like glucose goddess.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
I'm obsessed with her. If you don't follow her, definitely do.
Speaker 3 (07:16):
She talks a lot about like insulin resistance, and I
have been down that road because of my pcos so
glucose Goddess, I would say, she's so smart.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
She's like alternative, like she's indie, she's.
Speaker 3 (07:30):
Different, she doesn't try too hard, she's confident, she knows
her stuff, Like she's like this hot scientist who like
talks about insulin resistance, but she's like cool, come and collected.
So all these things I'm describing about her, I guarantee
you she feels those things internally, and that's why I
(07:54):
feel that about her. So it's like, if you want
to start feeling like more clear and magnetic in your
business online, like you need to start by like getting
clear yourself, like locking into your own power, feeling your authenticity,
getting to your magnetism, because no one else is going
(08:16):
to feel it unless you feel like that. And we
even know like this, like there are certain people on
social media where like let's say I've gone on their
page for whatever reason, and I'm like straight away or
that person's lost, like oh, I can tell that person's
going through a hard time, and so I can feel
that by their energy because that's how they're feeling and
(08:39):
that's what they're portraying and that's what they're putting out,
which just naturally happens.
Speaker 2 (08:45):
Another example, it's like, you.
Speaker 3 (08:47):
Know, if you're craving that like deep love and that
respect and that care from like your husband, Like are
you giving yourself that? Are you nurturing your own energy?
Are you caring for yourself? Are you like locking into
yourself and being like, God, I'm amazing. So like anything
that you want to shift is ask yourself how you
(09:10):
want to feel and that I want you to give
that to yourself. So from those examples, I want you
to really think about it, like even in past experience
or if you just do an experiment this week, think about,
(09:30):
you know, the way that people treat you, the kinds
of opportunities that you're attracting, and that sort of thing.
And again we're not blaming ourself, like let's not go there,
but your internal world is shaping your external reality. So
if you're not loving it right now, if you feel stuck,
if you feel unmotivated, if you feel kind of any
(09:51):
negative energy, the amazing part is we can shift it,
we can start noticing a difference straight away. So let's
just like get into some practical ways that you know,
we can shift this, we can unpack this. Obviously, journaling
self reflection super important. The next time someone triggers you
(10:11):
or like something's happening in your external maybe it's a
rude comment or like lack of support from a friend,
ask yourself, what could this be reflecting back to me?
If it's the rude comment, is it touching on an
insecurity that you haven't dealt with? Is it showing you
where you need stronger boundaries? Is it showing you like
(10:34):
where you haven't been giving yourself time, where you wish
you had more time for yourself, where you could love
yourself more, where you could be more, be more obsessed
with yourself, And don't take.
Speaker 2 (10:44):
That in the wrong way.
Speaker 3 (10:45):
It's very important to be obsessed with yourself, which I'll
get into in a moment. So then what I want
you to do is really like shift your internal dialogue.
If you want to feel seen and valued by others,
Like my example above, you know stuff by asking yourself
how am I seeing and valuing me? And this could
look like celebrating some recent wins like speaking kindly to yourself,
(11:11):
honoring your needs first instead of putting everyone else's needs first,
and just having that moment to be like, yeah, you're
right and shifting that internal dialogue. And like with the
example of like if you want to show up magnetic
and aligned in your business, like you would then get
clear in your business and be like, well, what do
I want to stand from my business?
Speaker 2 (11:32):
Like what's my purpose? How do I want my.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
Clients to feel after et cetera, et cetera. I'm not
going to get too much into that, just like use
some of these tools. I honestly believe once you have
awareness about this and you can start culptivating. Like any
time that you feel this way, I just guarantee you
you need to give yourself. I'm not going to be
(11:55):
like give yourself love, but like give your self energy,
do do something nice for yourself. I actually notice a
huge part of me getting out of my funk was
like getting dressed up and looking cute. And I know
that's like very self or sylvel and I feel like
you'd never think that comes out of my mouth, but
it was like this moment where I was like, I
(12:16):
want to do this for me, like I want to
feel good as Georgy. I want to like feel really
good at myself. And it's like I wore a cute
outfort to work, I put makeup on, and I like,
I just felt really good at myself and it shifted
things to me. So it's like it can be something
small like that. But yeah, I just truly believe like
whatever you're currently craving, you can actually give to yourself,
(12:37):
and like it's not a bad thing. Your reality is
just showing you what you want. So if you're someone
who's like, oh, but I'm not clear, I'm confused, I'm stuck.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
What are you getting triggered by?
Speaker 3 (12:48):
Because it's literally showing you what you want? You know,
do you want more respect? Do you want more love?
Speaker 2 (12:56):
If you want more.
Speaker 3 (12:57):
Love, start by giving yourself that love. Like, if you
want more respect, start respecting your own time and energy.
Speaker 2 (13:04):
If you're yearning for like.
Speaker 3 (13:05):
Care and nurturing, like are you nurturing yourself? Are you
been kind to yourself? And I just truly believe like
when you're taking care of your internal energy, that's what
shifts and changes. Okay, So the last part of this
that really helped me with this shift when I was
(13:26):
going through kind of my like little shitty time.
Speaker 2 (13:30):
For lack of a better word, is I detached?
Speaker 3 (13:34):
So we all know law of detachment. It's like not
letting things bother us. I see a lot of these
videos on TikTok, and basically the law of detachment is
like releasing attachments to things being a specific way and
trusting that things are gonna unfold how they're meant to.
Speaker 2 (13:55):
What comes around comes around.
Speaker 3 (13:56):
Wait, that's not saying basically karma, Like if you treat
someone like shit, something shit's going to happen to you.
So instead of giving that person my time and energy
because of what you focus on expands, I detach and
I'm like, I'm not even giving you my energy because
that's like a power source. And I'm like, I'm not
giving you my energy. So it's like, you know, if
(14:17):
Tim's annoying me, instead of reacting, which I can be
a very reactive person, I'm a leo, I'm a spicy girl.
I started doing this thing where I would just detach
and I'm like, he'll figure it out, Like he'll figure
out that he's being a dick right now. Almost, I
feel like a lot of us were like, no, but
I've got to like tell them what they did wrong.
(14:37):
I've got to show them like all those sorts of things.
And we kind of take it on like our responsibility
that like, no, I need to right their wrongs. But
it's like Tim knows when he's not treating me how
he should treat me. But also Tim's human and he's
a person, and he's got his own stuff going on,
and you can't be everything to me and perfect for
(14:59):
me all the time. So when he's not treating me
in the right way, I literally detach. I draw my
energy away because men love energy, or just any human
loves energy. And it's so funny because I was literally
implementing this and like he snapped at me for something,
and usually I would snap back and be like, don't
you talk to me that way, you know, fiery girl,
(15:23):
And I just didn't reply, and I just kind of
looked at him, looked away, went to Ivy, sorted Ivy out,
didn't respond, detached, and just thought, if he wants to
treat me like that, that's his prerogative. Doesn't actually mean
think about me, Like I'm not gonna make this mean anything.
And it was literally five minutes later, we got to
the cafe because it was like getting into the car
(15:45):
or something, and he goes, I'm so sorry for saying
that to you. That was so rude and it's not
how I want to treat you. No joke, guys, And
I was like, fuck, this works, this works. And Guys,
I know it's hard because that hasn't happened all the time.
And sometimes I just react, but I'm not reacting to
(16:06):
external reality that I don't want. I'm not putting energy
into what I don't want. So when he's treating me
like that, I'm not gonna put energy into it because
I'm like, this is not gonna continue. And then when
he apologized, I'm like, thank you so much. I really
appreciate it. Yes, it was upsetting when you said that
(16:26):
to me.
Speaker 2 (16:27):
Energy done.
Speaker 3 (16:28):
Move on like this really beautiful detachment. Oh god, it's
helped me, guys, it has helped me. I feel like
I could do a whole episode on detachment and what
I've been doing lately because that it's been a vibe.
And I think as humans we have this innate thing
where it's like, no, I've got to stand up for myself.
(16:48):
I've got to like talk back. I've got to like yeah,
like tell him he's wrong. But it is very interesting
the mirror of like what you put out, you get back. So, guys,
my loves everything is a mirror. What is your current
reality mirroring to you? How can you shift and whatever
(17:09):
you're triggered by and craving, how can you give it
to yourself? Stop expecting it from like external things that's
the problem, and detach where you're getting triggered. Stop letting
it trigger you, and like do whatever you need to do.
Take some breaths, go for a walk out on nature,
Like stop letting it affect you, because I guarantee you
(17:30):
it's only like continuing because you're giving it your energy
and what we focus on expense. I hope this was
a beautiful reminder for you. I love chatting to you again.
Thank you so much to those of you who are
listening every week, those of you who rate the show,
(17:52):
who engage with our social you know, posts and everything
like that. We are an independent poty and I just
appreciate you so much. Me and the team appreciate you.
If you want to love us even more, you can
leave a review. We really really appreciate it, but I
love you so much and I'll chat to you in
our next episode.
Speaker 2 (18:12):
Bye for now.
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