December 1, 2025 • 35 mins
Today we’re guiding you through the 4-step 2026 Glow-Up Framework, designed to help you enter the new year with clarity, intention, and momentum.
We walk you through:
- The exact prompts to review your 2025
- How to get clear on your 2026 identity
- The habits that create real, lasting change
- The mindset shift that will keep you consistent all year
Mentioned in the episode:
2025 reflection 'year in review' prompts to let go & create space:
- What am I most proud of in 2025?
- What habits, thoughts or routines no longer serve me?
- What is worth carrying into 2026? New habits, routines, etc.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the
land on which this episode is being recorded, the Combomb
Merry people. They've been having conversations and telling stories on
this land for thousands of years, and we show our
gratitude and respect for their contribution to our environment and culture.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
Welcome back, everyone to another episode of The in Between
with Georgia and Jamie.
Speaker 3 (00:31):
Hello, everyone, thrilled to be here. We are back in
the hot seat.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
Can you believe it's December? No, I'm crashing out, No,
I'm freaking out.
Speaker 3 (00:38):
I just I know we say this every year, but
I feel like it's your birthday and then we blink,
and then it's my birthday, and then we blink and
then it's Christmas.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
But this year, like, let's actually talk about we did
just have Christmas. Like, this is the fastest year.
Speaker 3 (00:53):
And you know what's kind of freaky. So I was
talking to my mom about this and she goes, Demie,
it just gets faster and fast time.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
I don't I make what to do? You wait?
Speaker 3 (01:00):
Go to sleep one night and it's wake up, it's December.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
End of the year. Yeah, because that's crazy. But I
heard that this is because the reason the years go faster.
Is because the older you get, Like when you're little,
the year seems so long. It's only been alive like
five years, so yeah, it's a fifth of my life. Yeah,
but as you get older, obviously you have more time reference.
You're like, you know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (01:22):
Blip one year's a blip because I'm ninety five.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
Well, it's scary me.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
Well, imagine my grandma. She's sitting there, ninety six. She's like,
must what's it like being ninety six? Grandma tell me,
She's like, it's pretty crazy. A lot of memories.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
Yeah. Well, anyway, I can't believe that it's this time
of the year and it's pretty much Christmas. Why are
you getting me for Christmas?
Speaker 3 (01:41):
I think I might finally get you those six slippers
and two kissers.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Every time Jamie, like she asked me to do something
and I'm like, what's in it for me? I always
ask for six pairs of slippers and two kisses. She's
they're always stuck in the mail, so they might actually
come this year. I'd actually love a pair of slippers.
Even though it's summer here in the Gold Person, it's hot,
af let.
Speaker 3 (02:01):
We'll get you some flip flops.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
Flip flops. Well, maybe we'll post a little thing on
Instagram about our Christmas wish list. Yeah why and we
did that last year. We want to get any of it.
But look, we thought that given it's almost twenty twenty six,
freaking out about it, we wanted to give you our
twenty twenty six glow up Guide. If you will. We've
got four steps to help you lock in, get your
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habits right, get your mindset right, to make sure that
twenty twenty six is your best year yet.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
And I think also one of these things, when you
go into a new year, there's always so many things
to focus on. We've simplified it. Just do these four
things and the year will go amazingly if you commit
to it and actually keep referencing it, because I think
so many people set all these goals and then they
get to the end of the year and they're like, shit,
well my goals again. This is the framework. You follow it,
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you will glow up and guarantee money back. Guaranteed money back,
guarantee don't come to us.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Something that's out in twenty twenty five is over complicating things.
Having twenty five step systems. We can't be bothered with that.
We want something short, sharp and effective that you can
take away, have practical tips and actually use and implement.
So you're welcome here.
Speaker 3 (03:13):
It is coming through with the goods. Again we know,
yet again, here we yet again. Well, let's get into
it here the music.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
Step number one of our four step glow Up framework
is reflecting on the year that was so twenty twenty five.
We're going over doing a bit of an audit, if
you will, and you want to what went well, reflect
on what went well, what maybe didn't, what habits sticked,
what habits didn't sticked sticked?
Speaker 3 (03:45):
What?
Speaker 2 (03:46):
Basically what do you want to release? What's not serving
you anymore? We're leaving it in twenty twenty five, releasing
that to make space for this new habits and energy
of twenty twenty six. So the way that we're going
to do that, First of all, we want to write
down some wins. Let's make a little list. What were
your wins this year? We want to celebrate, like, celebrate
what went well? Did you have any wins at work?
(04:08):
Even it doesn't have to be anything too crazy. Did
you really have a great time with your friends this year?
Did that you know? Bucket of your life was your
social life field and that felt really good. Just go
through do a bit of an audit on what went well.
Speaker 3 (04:19):
I feel like one of the best ways to do
this too is going back through your camera roll, because
if I'm thinking about the whole year, I'm like, what happened,
what happened last week? What did I have for lunch today?
But if you go back into your camera roll, it
will rejig the memory, so hot little tip there if
you're feeling a bit lost somewhat.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
To order great idea. After the quick Wins, you're going
to do some lessons. So this one's probably more for
your journal. Actually the other one was for your journal too,
using a journal for.
Speaker 3 (04:44):
Both, using your life Happens for Me, manifestation journal, your
life happens, Life happens for Me journal, cheeky plug. So
after quick Wins, we're going to do lessons learned. So
that's let's identify what didn't serve you, what was draining
your energy, Like what was some less since learned? I e.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
Don't ditch all your friends for your boyfriend, or or
do to do it with the girls you know, or
like maybe you were really resisting doing some like therapy.
You're seeing a coach this year. The moment you did,
you felt amazing to transform your life. So your lesson
could be like the thing that you're resisting is always
a thing that works, or something like that. Write down
the lessons learned. Next little bit of this is release
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and let go. So we're gonna, you know, combine those things.
Write down the main things you're ready to leave behind.
This could be mental clutter, it could be physical clutter.
What are you leaving behind in this year that you're
not taking into the next? What about you, j Let's
have an example. What are you releasing in twenty twenty
five and not bringing you next year?
Speaker 3 (05:46):
That's a good one. I would say being attached to
the outcome. I feel like for the better part of
my life, I have been so attached to outcomes and
almost a little bit anxious about outcomes and what's going
to happen and protecting everything. So I think one of
the biggest things is just detachment for me and Juster,
just trusting, trusting. Like I said in the last episode,
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how much that mindset shift has helped me. And I
want to carry that into twenty twenty six of really
detaching from the outcome and trusting that it's working out perfectly.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
I love that, and I think similarly my thing is
control and like my perfectionism and overthinking. We touched a
lot on this in our last episode. If you haven't
listened to it, go to it now. It's about overthinks
Linker in the show note link in the show notes.
And yeah, I just feel like the same kind of thing.
For so long, I've been like everything has to look
this way though, this is how it has to look.
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This is my plan, this is my vision, and if
things don't go that way, I'm like, well then everything's
gone to shit. Like nothing's working in my life. But
we know that the best things happen when you release
control and the universe always has a plan. So similar
to you, Jay, that's definitely a big lesson that I'm
leaving in this year.
Speaker 3 (06:56):
You have been such on such a journey with that,
this year, such a journey, such a journey.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Still there it such a journey. Okay. So then here
are some prompts that you can use. Then you get
a pen and paper and write these down, or again
I'll put them in the show notes for you. What
am I most proud of? In twenty twenty five, what habits, thoughts,
or routines no longer serve me, and what is worth
carrying into the next year. So what do you want
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to take into the next year? For example, you something
you discovered this year, and your habit you've picked up
that you love that you want to take into next year.
Make note of that. But basically this first step is
just doing a big old year in review, looking at
what worked, what didn't, letting go of stuff, and then
creating space for new, exciting things to come in in
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twenty twenty six.
Speaker 3 (07:44):
Clutched impotant step because if you don't reflect on what
didn't go well in the year that was, you can't
know to not repeat it in the next year, and
you just get kind of stuck in that same loop
and cycle.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
And if you're taking this stuff into twenty twenty six,
you have no space for new things to come in.
Like you know how so often people will want more
like the one a new job or a new business
or all these things. But if you've got no space,
they haven't got to be an end of the day
no or even like a relationship. If you're jam packed,
have no room in your life for love to come in?
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How is it supposed to come in?
Speaker 3 (08:16):
I love that manifestation story of that person. Who was
it one of our community members or something? I think
it's like a story. It's from a while ago. She
like slept on one side of her bed, yeah, and
cleared the parking space and the wardrobe space. Yeah, and
then a partner came into her life, just like I
didn't have the room for it before. Why would it
ever enter?
Speaker 2 (08:34):
Yeah, that's the wife. Wo ever, I would every into it.
You have to make the space, yeah, clear the space
stick clutter, all right?
Speaker 3 (08:44):
And step number two is getting clear on who you
want to be in twenty twenty six, visualizing and really
understanding who that person is, because if you don't have clarity,
you cannot embody, and we know embodiment is the step
to actually become. So these can be things like what
do you want to look like in your career or business?
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How do you want to show up in your relationships?
What do you want your health and fitness to look like?
What do you want your style to look like? What
do you want your car, your house, every facet of
your life? Getting really clear on what you want that
to look like and how you want that to feel.
I think it's also to note here it's really good
to have that direction, but not being attached to the outcome,
as we have been saying, and just making sure that
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you've got this version of yourself, but you're not so
attached to it going a certain way that you get
stuck in the middle part.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
You know, how you do that? You base it on feeling. Yes,
so instead of like having you know, specifics are great
if you want like a white house and a white
picket fans and all these things. Specifics can be really good,
But how does the white house and picket fans make
you feel? And focus on the feeling? And that's where
hot tip here. You can make Pinterest boards on each area,
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on each area of your life. You can make like
a healthy interest board, a home, a love, career, and
pin photos that evoke a certain feeling. Yeah, so, like
your style board might make you feel really confident and
chic and like bold. So it's not necessarily the white
top and the black pants, it's what that outfit makes
you feel.
Speaker 3 (10:17):
The identity of it. And I think this is I've
heard a lot of people online talk about they've created
vision boards and it's never come to fruition, Like it's
great to have a vision, but it's the embodiment part
of Okay, if you say you want to really focus
on your health and energy this year, but you're someone
who just cannot take your vitamins every day, is that
really helping you get to the version of yourself that
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you want to become? So almost like what beliefs does
that person need to have and who do they need
to show up as. I remember I was talking to
a friend about this and they were like, I really
just want to feel good, but I can't just have
my vitamins every day. And they were just like, I
need to just get over this and just figure out
how to do it. Because my next levels self, it's
not even something that's a problem for her, no way.
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So you just need to lean into that and have
the vision and take the we'll get into the action part.
But having that vision and understanding who that person is
and what they feel like so you can actually show
up as them.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
It's almost like instead of creating, you know, just a
vision board, you need to create like a feelings and
beliefs board. Maybe we should rewire the term the title
have a feelings board obviously, say with your photos that
make you feel a certain way. And then maybe attached
to that board you have like some notes where you
write down what does this person believe or how do
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they act? For example, their health is the number one priority,
so taking their vitamins every day is their number one priority,
or whatever it is. Attach some of the feelings and
habits with that board.
Speaker 3 (11:44):
Yeah, I think that's so important too, because what is
powerful about that is people think that they want the thing.
They think that they want the thing. They think that
they want the house or the car or the whatever
it is, and they get the thing, but they think, well,
this is an act. What I was chasing. You were
chasing it a piece or happiness. So if you can
focus on the feeling, that's when you actually get what
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you want. And I even saw Kimmy Kay talking about
this in a real the other day on Jay Shetty's
Instagram or something, and she was saying she used to
be so attached to things and like material things, but
then she got all the things and all she cares
about now was her family. And it's how common that
is of thinking you want all of these things, but
what actually matters is the feeling the connection what's around you,
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So how you can kind of keep remembering that so
you can step into that.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
And I feel like focusing on, like Kimmy Kay said,
the kind of bigger, more important things, because you know,
back in the day, all I used to think about
was wanting a White Range River evoke, and like all
I cared about was like having this nice interiors and
like the nice car, and that was so important for me.
That was my whole vision. Whereas now I'm like, I
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want to feel these certain things, or I just want
to really loving family, or I want to feel calm
and grounded and peaceful in myself. Like I think, you know,
looking at the things that you want, why you want them,
and kind of you know, attaching to a higher, bigger
meaning or purpose, because realistically, behind that White Range Rover evoke,
it was all kind of like an ego desire, like
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I just wanted to seem cool and like seem successful.
But behind all of those layers is like a lack
of self validation and love and things like that. So
also without going too deep, you know kind of like
doing maybe doing a bit of the work and just
seeing what your heart and soul really want and crave,
focusing on that rather than just some of the material things.
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Hundred psid.
Speaker 3 (13:41):
I think that's exactly why we brought out your magnetic Blueprint,
because people were desiring all these things for house and
all the materialistic things, which is so funny if you
want those, but coming back to the why behind and
actually releasing all of those masks and getting clear so
you can feel so fulfilled. So if you were someone
who really ruggles with that, highly recommend that course because
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it's it allows you to create goals from such an
authentic place rather than from this ego place and then
believing feeling dissatisfied anyway. Yeah, love, So I think for
kind of as you already touched on, but for the
practical side of this is creating mood boards that are
based off feelings and how you want to show up
in twenty twenty six, so you can really see who
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that person is rather than what they have. I think
also writing down some prompts, things like how do I
want to show up for the people in my life,
how do I want to feel each day? What's my
energy like, what's my routines look like? What are my beliefs?
Look like, and just getting really clear on the identity
of your twenty twenty six self, so you're really clear
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on that so that you can really become them.
Speaker 2 (14:52):
Okay, So step three in our four step clock framework
is to create the habits and schedule around this ideal
version of you that you've just crafted for twenty twenty six.
So you have the vision, you have the feelings and
the beliefs. Now what does their daily routine look like?
How do they show up every day? So first of all,
you want to identify some key habits that this next
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level version of you has. For example, it might be
your morning routine. Maybe the current version of you sleeps in,
doesn't do any movement that they actually enjoy, maybe doesn't
fuel themselves with the right foods, but the next version
of you in twenty twenty six does all of those things.
So write down their routine. They get up at six am,
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they go to a pilates class, they eat a really
nutritious breakfast, and they might spend five minutes journaling before
they go to work. So kind of craft that morning routine.
Identify the key habits. Again, if this overwhelms you, just
do some really simple things, like they move their body
in a way that they love and enjoy, and they
spend time with people that really fill up their cups.
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Like just some really key habits. And then if you
can a key here is to kind of schedule realistically.
So maybe have a look at your life. For example,
if you work nine to five, what's the schedule that
you can build around this?
Speaker 3 (16:13):
Yeah, because I think so many people see routine schedules,
I mean day in the life and routines are so
common on socials. But then what is that person are
they working in nine to five? Like what does their
life look like? And does it match your life? And
I think just being really realistic with that and meeting
yourself where you are currently whilst bringing in that expansive
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version of yourself. But if someone has a twenty seven
step morning routine but they're not working full time, it's
not really realistic for you to say, Okay, well I'm
going to do that morning routine, but then I've got
to get to work and work eight hours and you know, yeah,
they have kids or whatever. It is so being realistic
with where you are.
Speaker 2 (16:51):
And you see that, Like sometimes I've seen people online
who will get up at like three am sit in
front of the red light for an hour, have a
lemon water, do a coconut oil pulling thing like. If
that's not realistic for your schedule, we want high five habits,
but you have to balance that out with the realisticness
for your schedule. So if you can, if you know
what work hours you have, or you know what your
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weeks kind of look like, you know, realistically, then create
a really rough plan or a guide of how you
can put these key habits around that to see how
it actually works. Because it's all good and well to
say ten thousand steps a day, for example, but then
if you have absolutely no way of getting that, you're
going to just keep letting yourself down because you've got
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this goal or this habit, but you'll never reach it,
so you'll just feel you'll feel bad. So it's like, okay,
let's take it back a notch. Maybe let's start with
six thousand steps a day. Let's plan half an hour
walk every morning. Let's do, you know, make sure that
I'm standing up and going for a walk around in the
office every hour, something like that. Just try and fit
it into your routine realistically.
Speaker 3 (17:54):
One of my favorite things to do though, if you
want to kind of expand your routine or expand your
schedule and start stepping into that next level version of yourself.
Is finding moments where you're kind of creating a rial,
a rigual, a rigid schedu pool around something that doesn't
need to be rigid. Like I started to notice that
I was being really rigid with my routine, and then
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I thought, I have even on my fridays where I'm
kind of working in my business and I can have
the flexibility. I started adding in things that my next
level self would really want, so that freedom and that
feeling of oh, I can do this because it's a midday,
I'm going to go for a swim or something. So
kind of finding where you can add moments of that
expansive habit that allows you to stretch more into your
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next level self so you're not just getting caught in
the day to day, but yeah, obviously balancing that with
where you're currently at to.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
I feel like there's such like there's a formula, there's
an algorithm that you need. It's like the aligned habits
with your future self that are really high vibe and
expansive mixed with the realisticness and the scheduling. If like,
that's the kind of formula that you need because that
creates the excitement and the momentum. But you also know
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that it can be achieved, which means again you'll create
that self trust, you'll feel really good, which will build
that identity of that next level self.
Speaker 3 (19:15):
Well, I think you'll never become your next level self
by writing down a routine you can't stick to and
then just shaming yourself for not doing that routine and
it becomes something you wrote down in January and you
never visit it again. Like that is never going to
get you closer to your next level self. So understanding
and having discernment around okay, well, how can I become
my next level self whilst actually doing the thing? Because
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you can't become a new level with no action behind
it one hundred percent. And that's another part of this
step is how can you track and stay consistent with
these habits or routines? So do you have you know,
simple something as simple as a note app in your
phone or is it in your calendar?
Speaker 2 (19:54):
Do you have a journal? Is there a buddy that
you can help you know, keep you accountable? Try and
come up with a way that This isn't something you
write down and never revisit again. How can you track
this even if it's a to do list, even if
it's sticking a to do list on your fridge and
ticking off some habits every day, even if it's getting
your partner on board with a hay, let's hit ten
thousand steps a day, or let's make sure we have
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nutritious meals every weeknight, something like that. What can you
do that has the accountability factor in it to make
sure you follow through? And then also, something that's a
really good little tip, I'm sure you've seen it online
everywhere is to habit stack. So if you're introducing new
habits into your routine, you attach them to a habit
or something you already do so that it's easier to
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follow through. For example, if you are wanting to take
your vitamins every day, can you do the vitamins straight
after you eat breakfast, you know, something that you're going
to do every day, or straight after you brush your teeth.
I personally could never because I vomit if I have
vitamins on an empty stomach. But something where you can
attach it to something that you are going to do
every day I stack it that it becomes like a
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compound and every day you think, oh, brush teeth, next
comes vitamins.
Speaker 3 (21:04):
Let's go because we can create habits we brush our
teeth every day. It's just about setting yourself up for
success in that way.
Speaker 2 (21:11):
Exactly before we move on to the last step, tell
me what are some habits that you're bringing in twenty
twenty six. So I think a few habits that I've
really started focusing on for both my health and my energy,
which is just so obvious and simple, is making sure
I've got creating electrolytes every single day, or having my
vitamins and really nutritious things that are going to help
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my brain health but also just my general health.
Speaker 3 (21:36):
And also this is obviously so basic, but just having
like thirty grams of protein in each meal and just
making sure that that's such a focus. I think just
the smallest shifts that people think are so going to
be so drastic, It just so simple, and change.
Speaker 2 (21:52):
Is so much and once you do them, then you're like, oh,
this isn't that bad. I can do this every day.
Speaker 3 (21:56):
It's so easy once you actually just get in the
habit of it.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
What about you, I think something that I've really learned
this year that I'm definitely going to do next year too,
is movement and exercise that you actually really enjoy and like.
And for example, at the moment I'm doing I'm getting
up at four point thirty like three, if not four
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days during the week and training at a gym that
I love, and sometimes I don't get I don't get
to bed as early as I would like. That's something
I definitely want to fix.
Speaker 1 (22:30):
Two.
Speaker 2 (22:31):
But I genuinely get up at four thirty every morning
so excited to go and train at this gym and
I love it. And that is the difference between like
sticking to it and doing it versu not if you've
if you're doing like I don't know, if you're in
a like a type of class or a gym and
you don't actually really want to be there, and it's
kind of a slog to get there, get rid of
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it and find something else that you enjoy, because that
is a thing that keeps you consistent, and that's what
gets you there. And like, life's too short to be
flogging yourself doing exercise you hate.
Speaker 3 (23:01):
Yeah, And I think also I think also having the
people around you like you go to gym with girls
you love training with. I'm the same. I found a
gym with Now I've got a little group that I
go with every day and I get so excited, and
also you don't want to let them down and not go.
So it just is that another level of accountability that
helps you to keep showing up definitely, and also making
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sure I have some time you know, daily or every
second daily for you know, like mindset and meditation. I
usually do this all the time, but then as soon
as life kind of gets busy, I like forget that
habit and it kind of goes So I want to
try and make that a number one non negotiable. And
then also I think just like having a bit of
a like I do really well with a plan. I'm
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currently doing a challenge with my gym. It's like ten
k steps, a certain amount of calories that I'm eating,
and like certain exercises and stuff throughout the week. And
I've just realized that I do really well when I
have a plan or a routine to follow, something that
keeps me accountable, and it makes me feel like I'm
investing in myself and like putting myself first. So yeah,
just keeping a note of that and keep doing that.
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But yeah, that's two step four. Step four is building
discipline and momentum. So we've kind of touched on action
a little bit throughout here, but all of this intention
is nothing if you don't follow it through with the action.
So keeping up the discipline, and one of my favorite
quotes I'm going to bring it in here is stick
to the plan, not your mood. Do not rely on motivation,
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Do not rely on feeling really inspired. Because it's great
to set a plan, you get that dopamine. And that's
why so many people in January are like starting challenges
and signing up for courses and coaches and all the
different things, because it's that dopamine here if I'm going
to make this year different. And then they lose that
momentum and that motivation and nothing changes, and they get
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to the end of the year and then they do
it again, and it's a cycle. So the biggest thing
that you can do in twenty twenty six to really
make sure you glow up is to actually.
Speaker 2 (24:59):
Back it up with ac back at it up.
Speaker 3 (25:01):
Because trust me, anyone can say they have good intentions
and they have a plan, and anyone can go and
write down all the ideas. That is the easy part.
But following through the action is where a lot of
people struggle. And I think one of the biggest things
that I focused on when I wanted to really make
sure that I could follow my intentions through with action
is noticing the pattern of what was stopping the action.
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So noticing whether it's procrastination or losing motivation or overthinking
or overwhelm what is the self sabotage that comes up
for you that stops you from taking the action, and
then break the cycle of that. So and also like
you if you realize that you whenever you're working from home,
if you have your phone next to you, you always
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open it and go on Instagram. Remove like the obstacles
or don't put yourself in those environments, be like, oh,
that's not good for me. I know I can't resist
the temptation in that moment, So I'm not even going
to put myself in the situation where that's there. Uled
out little things to put yourself in the best situations
in environment, because yeah, it can be really hard to
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just have complete self control all the time, but if
you just don't even allow yourself to be tempted.
Speaker 2 (26:11):
It's so much easier.
Speaker 3 (26:12):
Yeah. I think one of the biggest things that humans
do is they have rose colored glasses on for their
future self. So they're like, Okay, well, I've fell off
track this week. I'm going to get back on Monday,
and I'm going to be amazing next week and I'm
going to stick to the plan one hundred percent or
I'm going to start tomorrow or whatever it is. And
they have rose colored glasses on for their future self
rather than just being like, Okay, I've missed out on
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one habit today, but how can I make the rest
of the day really good and understanding that the Monday
version of you is still the exact same version of
you because you haven't changed any action or habit, and
being really honest with yourself in that way, So not
just thinking the future version of you is going to
have this insane momentum and motivation, but just taking the
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action in that moment and just doing the thing in
the moment.
Speaker 2 (27:00):
Also two thoughts on this thought. Number one is look
for resources or things that help you. For example, apps
or trackers or things like is there an app blocker
that you can get the blocks your social media every
night when you scroll in bed before before sleep, before
a bit is there, like a tracking system or software
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or like look for things that can help you, because
if you just rely on your own against self discipline
or whatever it is, sometimes it's not always there, which
is normal. It's normal to be a human being in
wake up and be in different moods and things. But
put things in place when you're in that organized zone
that help you in future, like get a table, get
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a list, get apps, get things that help you, get
an accountability buddy to make it easier for yourself, yeap
works mud or not harder. And second thing is if
you like stuff up the habit that day or things
don't go to plan, what's that saying. It's like don't
check out the baby with the bathwater some what it
is like, don't just be like, oh well, I've soffed
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everything up now I'm not going to try anymore. Like
if you didn't get it right one day or things
don't go to plan, it's okay. You can start afresh
the next day. You can still Like if you if
you ate like a bad lunch or something, don't then
go and eat like a bad dinner too, because you're
like all have stuff the whole day now, Like you
can still have a nutritious dinner and the day is
still okay. Like, don't throw everything away just for one
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little mistake or something. You know, what is it?
Speaker 3 (28:27):
Eighty percent of the plan full time is better than
one hundred percent of the plan for one day. Yeah, yeah,
and even if like I think it's actually in one
of our podcasts Erica, that we had on our podcast recently,
she said she was talking about this saying or something
where like if one day you give five percent, and
then the next day you give twenty, the next day
you give eighty every single one of those days, Like
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if five percent is your one hundred percent, that day,
you've still given one hundred percent because that's like the
max that you could give. Yep.
Speaker 2 (28:55):
So be disciplined, be accountable, but also have the grace
with yourself that life and flows, things move, and you
can still keep on top of things whilst remaining in
that state.
Speaker 3 (29:06):
I think another thing that I've started to do with
that first point that you made of setting yourself up
and not having distractions and things around like with the
app blockers, is actually the way that humans work is
we are based off forming a habit with rewards. So
if you can have something that you do, say you
get distracted on your phone and you scroll all day
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while you're working, if that is something that your brain
really likes, the reward of commit to yourself and say,
I'm going to do an hour of work and then
give myself five minutes scrolling and it's intentional time. But
then you've given your brain a reward and you know
that it's coming, So you're much more likely to actually
just do the thing and then have a reward or
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try and figure out ways that you can kind of
set yourself up for success in that way, rather than
just being like I'm going to work for eight hours
and not doing anything and you're not going to want
to do that. You're going to be like, no, next
going to sit here and scroll.
Speaker 2 (30:01):
Yeah, make it fun.
Speaker 3 (30:02):
But if you have an hour block and then maybe
you go out in nature or you give yourself some
sort of exciting thing at the end of that hour block,
let's do that again, because I've just got a reward
and my brain loves that.
Speaker 2 (30:13):
Look how well that works for dogs? Not the way
dogs positive positive, the positive reinforcement, the training and the system.
They thrive off that, so do we if we tell
ourselves right, one hour work, one treat. Yeah, it's easy
to follow. You can do it. It's a simple formula
and you get the work done and you feel good.
Speaker 3 (30:32):
Havelov's theory. It's well. I mean, if I asked Alf
to do one hundred backflips and he's got no treats,
he'd be like, mom, Mum, you can. Actually, it's not
be my mum anymore. But if I go do a backflip,
I'll give you a treat. So I'll do a backflip.
Speaker 2 (30:45):
Perfect.
Speaker 3 (30:46):
So treat yourself like I treat Alf. Is the story perfect?
If you want to go up in twenty twenty six become.
Speaker 2 (30:53):
Out like a dog, yeah, okay.
Speaker 3 (30:55):
So the practical tip for this is making sure you've
got weekly accountability check ins. I think the biggest thing
that happens with people's new year plans and the plan
is they have this big vision and then they don't
check in and review where it's actually going or what's
actually happening. They just set the goal and then they
go all right, at the end of twenty twenty six,
I'm going to sit down and figure out if it
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all worked, rather than having weekly check ins or monthly
check ins where you sit down and go what worked,
what didn't, what needs to be adjusted. So I get
back on the plan that is going to be where
you actually see change a momentum in twenty twenty six.
Speaker 2 (31:30):
And make it fun, like go to a beautiful little
cafe every Sunday of the month and like get out
your notebook and plan, like make it fun.
Speaker 3 (31:38):
A treat, and then you want to do it because
you've got to. Tak Alf would love that, he'd love that,
like make it, you know, romanticize it. Because if you're like, oh,
I'm going to sit here and review my goals, you're boring.
But if you're like, hell, yeah, I get to go
to this cafe by myself, a nice march. I sit
here and work on myself. And like, you are the
vehicle that's going to get you through twenty twenty six.
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So you can buy all the clothes and digity memberships
and all these things, but it's you that does it.
So like you have to invest in the pilot of
the plane, You've got to invest in the person that's
driving this whole project, and it's you, So spend the time,
on the foundation, on your mindset, on your plan, and
the rest will all follow. Yes, I was like, honestly,
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I have good vibes for twenty twenty six. I had
really good vibes for twenty twenty five and it was
a great year.
Speaker 2 (32:26):
I had good vibes for this year, but I knew
it would be a bit of like a transformational year,
universally universal growth transformation. I feel like a lot of
people have been going through like some hard things and
some hard lessons, and I feel like the collective kind
of needed that, And I think next year is going
to be a really good year.
Speaker 3 (32:44):
I honestly feel though when I if I reflect back
on twenty twenty five, so much growth, so much changed,
so much uncomfortable shit. But it excites me now because
I have honestly just trained myself to understand that, well,
my next level is on the other side of all
of that acts that's happening.
Speaker 2 (33:00):
I ain't moving, You're not moving. So just to wrap
up the glow up framework for you, Step one is
the reflect and review. Do your year in review for
twenty twenty five. How did it go, what went well?
What didn't? What are you leaving behind? What are you
taking in Step two is create the identity. Sit down,
visualize what is the next level of you in twenty
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twenty six look like? What are their beliefs? How do
you want to feel? Do some visualization get clear on that.
Step three is building out the habits and a schedule
of that identity. What habits do they do, what's the
morning routine? What does it look like? Really create the
habits that are going to create that success and bring
that person to life. Step number four is the momentum creating,
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accountability tracking, setting yourself up for success so that all
of the plans that you set aren't just done for
two weeks in jaen and they go away.
Speaker 3 (33:54):
Love it so and if you're still feeling like you
want some more resources or anything like that, we have
two really amazing resources for a year plan. One of
them is seven Days to Clarity. So this is like
a seven day course that's going to give you complete
clarity on your big vision.
Speaker 2 (34:11):
It's such a.
Speaker 3 (34:12):
Powerful course to do right at the start of a
year or coming to the end of the year, so
you can be really clear on who you want to
be and all things we kind of spoke about, but
on such a deeper level and have that plan. And
the second one is Your Magnetic Blueprint, which is a
fourteen day course all about how to create goals from
a really authentic place. Like we were saying before, if
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you were someone who's kind of set goals before, maybe
achieved them, maybe haven't, but kind of left feeling dissatisfied
or unfulfilled, it's because you haven't set goals from that
really authentic place, and this course is going to help
you do exactly that. So we will leave cheeky little
discounts in the show notes and links. If you want
either of those such amazing resources, go check them out.
But bring on twenty twenty six.
Speaker 2 (34:53):
Twenty thirty six, let's go.
Speaker 3 (34:55):
Well, vibes are high.
Speaker 2 (34:56):
Wait, the vibes are high, the fresh energy.
Speaker 3 (34:59):
I'm really we will see you all in the new year.
I hope you have the beautiful Christmas New Year's time off.
Speaker 2 (35:06):
Have the best holiday break. We miss you already, but
we can't wait to see you again in the new year,
and we love you, love you, Bye bye,
I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the
land on which this episode is being recorded, the Combomb
Merry people. They've been having conversations and telling stories on
this land for thousands of years, and we show our
gratitude and respect for their contribution to our environment and culture.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
Welcome back, everyone to another episode of The in Between
with Georgia and Jamie.
Speaker 3 (00:31):
Hello, everyone, thrilled to be here. We are back in
the hot seat.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
Can you believe it's December? No, I'm crashing out, No,
I'm freaking out.
Speaker 3 (00:38):
I just I know we say this every year, but
I feel like it's your birthday and then we blink,
and then it's my birthday, and then we blink and
then it's Christmas.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
But this year, like, let's actually talk about we did
just have Christmas. Like, this is the fastest year.
Speaker 3 (00:53):
And you know what's kind of freaky. So I was
talking to my mom about this and she goes, Demie,
it just gets faster and fast time.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
I don't I make what to do? You wait?
Speaker 3 (01:00):
Go to sleep one night and it's wake up, it's December.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
End of the year. Yeah, because that's crazy. But I
heard that this is because the reason the years go faster.
Is because the older you get, Like when you're little,
the year seems so long. It's only been alive like
five years, so yeah, it's a fifth of my life. Yeah,
but as you get older, obviously you have more time reference.
You're like, you know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (01:22):
Blip one year's a blip because I'm ninety five.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
Well, it's scary me.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
Well, imagine my grandma. She's sitting there, ninety six. She's like,
must what's it like being ninety six? Grandma tell me,
She's like, it's pretty crazy. A lot of memories.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
Yeah. Well, anyway, I can't believe that it's this time
of the year and it's pretty much Christmas. Why are
you getting me for Christmas?
Speaker 3 (01:41):
I think I might finally get you those six slippers
and two kissers.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Every time Jamie, like she asked me to do something
and I'm like, what's in it for me? I always
ask for six pairs of slippers and two kisses. She's
they're always stuck in the mail, so they might actually
come this year. I'd actually love a pair of slippers.
Even though it's summer here in the Gold Person, it's hot,
af let.
Speaker 3 (02:01):
We'll get you some flip flops.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
Flip flops. Well, maybe we'll post a little thing on
Instagram about our Christmas wish list. Yeah why and we
did that last year. We want to get any of it.
But look, we thought that given it's almost twenty twenty six,
freaking out about it, we wanted to give you our
twenty twenty six glow up Guide. If you will. We've
got four steps to help you lock in, get your
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habits right, get your mindset right, to make sure that
twenty twenty six is your best year yet.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
And I think also one of these things, when you
go into a new year, there's always so many things
to focus on. We've simplified it. Just do these four
things and the year will go amazingly if you commit
to it and actually keep referencing it, because I think
so many people set all these goals and then they
get to the end of the year and they're like, shit,
well my goals again. This is the framework. You follow it,
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you will glow up and guarantee money back. Guaranteed money back,
guarantee don't come to us.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Something that's out in twenty twenty five is over complicating things.
Having twenty five step systems. We can't be bothered with that.
We want something short, sharp and effective that you can
take away, have practical tips and actually use and implement.
So you're welcome here.
Speaker 3 (03:13):
It is coming through with the goods. Again we know,
yet again, here we yet again. Well, let's get into
it here the music.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
Step number one of our four step glow Up framework
is reflecting on the year that was so twenty twenty five.
We're going over doing a bit of an audit, if
you will, and you want to what went well, reflect
on what went well, what maybe didn't, what habits sticked,
what habits didn't sticked sticked?
Speaker 3 (03:45):
What?
Speaker 2 (03:46):
Basically what do you want to release? What's not serving
you anymore? We're leaving it in twenty twenty five, releasing
that to make space for this new habits and energy
of twenty twenty six. So the way that we're going
to do that, First of all, we want to write
down some wins. Let's make a little list. What were
your wins this year? We want to celebrate, like, celebrate
what went well? Did you have any wins at work?
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Even it doesn't have to be anything too crazy. Did
you really have a great time with your friends this year?
Did that you know? Bucket of your life was your
social life field and that felt really good. Just go
through do a bit of an audit on what went well.
Speaker 3 (04:19):
I feel like one of the best ways to do
this too is going back through your camera roll, because
if I'm thinking about the whole year, I'm like, what happened,
what happened last week? What did I have for lunch today?
But if you go back into your camera roll, it
will rejig the memory, so hot little tip there if
you're feeling a bit lost somewhat.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
To order great idea. After the quick Wins, you're going
to do some lessons. So this one's probably more for
your journal. Actually the other one was for your journal too,
using a journal for.
Speaker 3 (04:44):
Both, using your life Happens for Me, manifestation journal, your
life happens, Life happens for Me journal, cheeky plug. So
after quick Wins, we're going to do lessons learned. So
that's let's identify what didn't serve you, what was draining
your energy, Like what was some less since learned? I e.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
Don't ditch all your friends for your boyfriend, or or
do to do it with the girls you know, or
like maybe you were really resisting doing some like therapy.
You're seeing a coach this year. The moment you did,
you felt amazing to transform your life. So your lesson
could be like the thing that you're resisting is always
a thing that works, or something like that. Write down
the lessons learned. Next little bit of this is release
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and let go. So we're gonna, you know, combine those things.
Write down the main things you're ready to leave behind.
This could be mental clutter, it could be physical clutter.
What are you leaving behind in this year that you're
not taking into the next? What about you, j Let's
have an example. What are you releasing in twenty twenty
five and not bringing you next year?
Speaker 3 (05:46):
That's a good one. I would say being attached to
the outcome. I feel like for the better part of
my life, I have been so attached to outcomes and
almost a little bit anxious about outcomes and what's going
to happen and protecting everything. So I think one of
the biggest things is just detachment for me and Juster,
just trusting, trusting. Like I said in the last episode,
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how much that mindset shift has helped me. And I
want to carry that into twenty twenty six of really
detaching from the outcome and trusting that it's working out perfectly.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
I love that, and I think similarly my thing is
control and like my perfectionism and overthinking. We touched a
lot on this in our last episode. If you haven't
listened to it, go to it now. It's about overthinks
Linker in the show note link in the show notes.
And yeah, I just feel like the same kind of thing.
For so long, I've been like everything has to look
this way though, this is how it has to look.
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This is my plan, this is my vision, and if
things don't go that way, I'm like, well then everything's
gone to shit. Like nothing's working in my life. But
we know that the best things happen when you release
control and the universe always has a plan. So similar
to you, Jay, that's definitely a big lesson that I'm
leaving in this year.
Speaker 3 (06:56):
You have been such on such a journey with that,
this year, such a journey, such a journey.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Still there it such a journey. Okay. So then here
are some prompts that you can use. Then you get
a pen and paper and write these down, or again
I'll put them in the show notes for you. What
am I most proud of? In twenty twenty five, what habits, thoughts,
or routines no longer serve me, and what is worth
carrying into the next year. So what do you want
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to take into the next year? For example, you something
you discovered this year, and your habit you've picked up
that you love that you want to take into next year.
Make note of that. But basically this first step is
just doing a big old year in review, looking at
what worked, what didn't, letting go of stuff, and then
creating space for new, exciting things to come in in
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twenty twenty six.
Speaker 3 (07:44):
Clutched impotant step because if you don't reflect on what
didn't go well in the year that was, you can't
know to not repeat it in the next year, and
you just get kind of stuck in that same loop
and cycle.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
And if you're taking this stuff into twenty twenty six,
you have no space for new things to come in.
Like you know how so often people will want more
like the one a new job or a new business
or all these things. But if you've got no space,
they haven't got to be an end of the day
no or even like a relationship. If you're jam packed,
have no room in your life for love to come in?
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How is it supposed to come in?
Speaker 3 (08:16):
I love that manifestation story of that person. Who was
it one of our community members or something? I think
it's like a story. It's from a while ago. She
like slept on one side of her bed, yeah, and
cleared the parking space and the wardrobe space. Yeah, and
then a partner came into her life, just like I
didn't have the room for it before. Why would it
ever enter?
Speaker 2 (08:34):
Yeah, that's the wife. Wo ever, I would every into it.
You have to make the space, yeah, clear the space
stick clutter, all right?
Speaker 3 (08:44):
And step number two is getting clear on who you
want to be in twenty twenty six, visualizing and really
understanding who that person is, because if you don't have clarity,
you cannot embody, and we know embodiment is the step
to actually become. So these can be things like what
do you want to look like in your career or business?
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How do you want to show up in your relationships?
What do you want your health and fitness to look like?
What do you want your style to look like? What
do you want your car, your house, every facet of
your life? Getting really clear on what you want that
to look like and how you want that to feel.
I think it's also to note here it's really good
to have that direction, but not being attached to the outcome,
as we have been saying, and just making sure that
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you've got this version of yourself, but you're not so
attached to it going a certain way that you get
stuck in the middle part.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
You know, how you do that? You base it on feeling. Yes,
so instead of like having you know, specifics are great
if you want like a white house and a white
picket fans and all these things. Specifics can be really good,
But how does the white house and picket fans make
you feel? And focus on the feeling? And that's where
hot tip here. You can make Pinterest boards on each area,
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on each area of your life. You can make like
a healthy interest board, a home, a love, career, and
pin photos that evoke a certain feeling. Yeah, so, like
your style board might make you feel really confident and
chic and like bold. So it's not necessarily the white
top and the black pants, it's what that outfit makes
you feel.
Speaker 3 (10:17):
The identity of it. And I think this is I've
heard a lot of people online talk about they've created
vision boards and it's never come to fruition, Like it's
great to have a vision, but it's the embodiment part
of Okay, if you say you want to really focus
on your health and energy this year, but you're someone
who just cannot take your vitamins every day, is that
really helping you get to the version of yourself that
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you want to become? So almost like what beliefs does
that person need to have and who do they need
to show up as. I remember I was talking to
a friend about this and they were like, I really
just want to feel good, but I can't just have
my vitamins every day. And they were just like, I
need to just get over this and just figure out
how to do it. Because my next levels self, it's
not even something that's a problem for her, no way.
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So you just need to lean into that and have
the vision and take the we'll get into the action part.
But having that vision and understanding who that person is
and what they feel like so you can actually show
up as them.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
It's almost like instead of creating, you know, just a
vision board, you need to create like a feelings and
beliefs board. Maybe we should rewire the term the title
have a feelings board obviously, say with your photos that
make you feel a certain way. And then maybe attached
to that board you have like some notes where you
write down what does this person believe or how do
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they act? For example, their health is the number one priority,
so taking their vitamins every day is their number one priority,
or whatever it is. Attach some of the feelings and
habits with that board.
Speaker 3 (11:44):
Yeah, I think that's so important too, because what is
powerful about that is people think that they want the thing.
They think that they want the thing. They think that
they want the house or the car or the whatever
it is, and they get the thing, but they think, well,
this is an act. What I was chasing. You were
chasing it a piece or happiness. So if you can
focus on the feeling, that's when you actually get what
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you want. And I even saw Kimmy Kay talking about
this in a real the other day on Jay Shetty's
Instagram or something, and she was saying she used to
be so attached to things and like material things, but
then she got all the things and all she cares
about now was her family. And it's how common that
is of thinking you want all of these things, but
what actually matters is the feeling the connection what's around you,
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So how you can kind of keep remembering that so
you can step into that.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
And I feel like focusing on, like Kimmy Kay said,
the kind of bigger, more important things, because you know,
back in the day, all I used to think about
was wanting a White Range River evoke, and like all
I cared about was like having this nice interiors and
like the nice car, and that was so important for me.
That was my whole vision. Whereas now I'm like, I
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want to feel these certain things, or I just want
to really loving family, or I want to feel calm
and grounded and peaceful in myself. Like I think, you know,
looking at the things that you want, why you want them,
and kind of you know, attaching to a higher, bigger
meaning or purpose, because realistically, behind that White Range Rover evoke,
it was all kind of like an ego desire, like
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I just wanted to seem cool and like seem successful.
But behind all of those layers is like a lack
of self validation and love and things like that. So
also without going too deep, you know kind of like
doing maybe doing a bit of the work and just
seeing what your heart and soul really want and crave,
focusing on that rather than just some of the material things.
(13:41):
Hundred psid.
Speaker 3 (13:41):
I think that's exactly why we brought out your magnetic Blueprint,
because people were desiring all these things for house and
all the materialistic things, which is so funny if you
want those, but coming back to the why behind and
actually releasing all of those masks and getting clear so
you can feel so fulfilled. So if you were someone
who really ruggles with that, highly recommend that course because
(14:01):
it's it allows you to create goals from such an
authentic place rather than from this ego place and then
believing feeling dissatisfied anyway. Yeah, love, So I think for
kind of as you already touched on, but for the
practical side of this is creating mood boards that are
based off feelings and how you want to show up
in twenty twenty six, so you can really see who
(14:23):
that person is rather than what they have. I think
also writing down some prompts, things like how do I
want to show up for the people in my life,
how do I want to feel each day? What's my
energy like, what's my routines look like? What are my beliefs?
Look like, and just getting really clear on the identity
of your twenty twenty six self, so you're really clear
(14:44):
on that so that you can really become them.
Speaker 2 (14:52):
Okay, So step three in our four step clock framework
is to create the habits and schedule around this ideal
version of you that you've just crafted for twenty twenty six.
So you have the vision, you have the feelings and
the beliefs. Now what does their daily routine look like?
How do they show up every day? So first of all,
you want to identify some key habits that this next
(15:15):
level version of you has. For example, it might be
your morning routine. Maybe the current version of you sleeps in,
doesn't do any movement that they actually enjoy, maybe doesn't
fuel themselves with the right foods, but the next version
of you in twenty twenty six does all of those things.
So write down their routine. They get up at six am,
(15:35):
they go to a pilates class, they eat a really
nutritious breakfast, and they might spend five minutes journaling before
they go to work. So kind of craft that morning routine.
Identify the key habits. Again, if this overwhelms you, just
do some really simple things, like they move their body
in a way that they love and enjoy, and they
spend time with people that really fill up their cups.
(15:56):
Like just some really key habits. And then if you
can a key here is to kind of schedule realistically.
So maybe have a look at your life. For example,
if you work nine to five, what's the schedule that
you can build around this?
Speaker 3 (16:13):
Yeah, because I think so many people see routine schedules,
I mean day in the life and routines are so
common on socials. But then what is that person are
they working in nine to five? Like what does their
life look like? And does it match your life? And
I think just being really realistic with that and meeting
yourself where you are currently whilst bringing in that expansive
(16:33):
version of yourself. But if someone has a twenty seven
step morning routine but they're not working full time, it's
not really realistic for you to say, Okay, well I'm
going to do that morning routine, but then I've got
to get to work and work eight hours and you know, yeah,
they have kids or whatever. It is so being realistic
with where you are.
Speaker 2 (16:51):
And you see that, Like sometimes I've seen people online
who will get up at like three am sit in
front of the red light for an hour, have a
lemon water, do a coconut oil pulling thing like. If
that's not realistic for your schedule, we want high five habits,
but you have to balance that out with the realisticness
for your schedule. So if you can, if you know
what work hours you have, or you know what your
(17:13):
weeks kind of look like, you know, realistically, then create
a really rough plan or a guide of how you
can put these key habits around that to see how
it actually works. Because it's all good and well to
say ten thousand steps a day, for example, but then
if you have absolutely no way of getting that, you're
going to just keep letting yourself down because you've got
(17:34):
this goal or this habit, but you'll never reach it,
so you'll just feel you'll feel bad. So it's like, okay,
let's take it back a notch. Maybe let's start with
six thousand steps a day. Let's plan half an hour
walk every morning. Let's do, you know, make sure that
I'm standing up and going for a walk around in the
office every hour, something like that. Just try and fit
it into your routine realistically.
Speaker 3 (17:54):
One of my favorite things to do though, if you
want to kind of expand your routine or expand your
schedule and start stepping into that next level version of yourself.
Is finding moments where you're kind of creating a rial,
a rigual, a rigid schedu pool around something that doesn't
need to be rigid. Like I started to notice that
I was being really rigid with my routine, and then
(18:15):
I thought, I have even on my fridays where I'm
kind of working in my business and I can have
the flexibility. I started adding in things that my next
level self would really want, so that freedom and that
feeling of oh, I can do this because it's a midday,
I'm going to go for a swim or something. So
kind of finding where you can add moments of that
expansive habit that allows you to stretch more into your
(18:38):
next level self so you're not just getting caught in
the day to day, but yeah, obviously balancing that with
where you're currently at to.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
I feel like there's such like there's a formula, there's
an algorithm that you need. It's like the aligned habits
with your future self that are really high vibe and
expansive mixed with the realisticness and the scheduling. If like,
that's the kind of formula that you need because that
creates the excitement and the momentum. But you also know
(19:06):
that it can be achieved, which means again you'll create
that self trust, you'll feel really good, which will build
that identity of that next level self.
Speaker 3 (19:15):
Well, I think you'll never become your next level self
by writing down a routine you can't stick to and
then just shaming yourself for not doing that routine and
it becomes something you wrote down in January and you
never visit it again. Like that is never going to
get you closer to your next level self. So understanding
and having discernment around okay, well, how can I become
my next level self whilst actually doing the thing? Because
(19:36):
you can't become a new level with no action behind
it one hundred percent. And that's another part of this
step is how can you track and stay consistent with
these habits or routines? So do you have you know,
simple something as simple as a note app in your
phone or is it in your calendar?
Speaker 2 (19:54):
Do you have a journal? Is there a buddy that
you can help you know, keep you accountable? Try and
come up with a way that This isn't something you
write down and never revisit again. How can you track
this even if it's a to do list, even if
it's sticking a to do list on your fridge and
ticking off some habits every day, even if it's getting
your partner on board with a hay, let's hit ten
thousand steps a day, or let's make sure we have
(20:16):
nutritious meals every weeknight, something like that. What can you
do that has the accountability factor in it to make
sure you follow through? And then also, something that's a
really good little tip, I'm sure you've seen it online
everywhere is to habit stack. So if you're introducing new
habits into your routine, you attach them to a habit
or something you already do so that it's easier to
(20:37):
follow through. For example, if you are wanting to take
your vitamins every day, can you do the vitamins straight
after you eat breakfast, you know, something that you're going
to do every day, or straight after you brush your teeth.
I personally could never because I vomit if I have
vitamins on an empty stomach. But something where you can
attach it to something that you are going to do
every day I stack it that it becomes like a
(21:01):
compound and every day you think, oh, brush teeth, next
comes vitamins.
Speaker 3 (21:04):
Let's go because we can create habits we brush our
teeth every day. It's just about setting yourself up for
success in that way.
Speaker 2 (21:11):
Exactly before we move on to the last step, tell
me what are some habits that you're bringing in twenty
twenty six. So I think a few habits that I've
really started focusing on for both my health and my energy,
which is just so obvious and simple, is making sure
I've got creating electrolytes every single day, or having my
vitamins and really nutritious things that are going to help
(21:32):
my brain health but also just my general health.
Speaker 3 (21:36):
And also this is obviously so basic, but just having
like thirty grams of protein in each meal and just
making sure that that's such a focus. I think just
the smallest shifts that people think are so going to
be so drastic, It just so simple, and change.
Speaker 2 (21:52):
Is so much and once you do them, then you're like, oh,
this isn't that bad. I can do this every day.
Speaker 3 (21:56):
It's so easy once you actually just get in the
habit of it.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
What about you, I think something that I've really learned
this year that I'm definitely going to do next year too,
is movement and exercise that you actually really enjoy and like.
And for example, at the moment I'm doing I'm getting
up at four point thirty like three, if not four
(22:20):
days during the week and training at a gym that
I love, and sometimes I don't get I don't get
to bed as early as I would like. That's something
I definitely want to fix.
Speaker 1 (22:30):
Two.
Speaker 2 (22:31):
But I genuinely get up at four thirty every morning
so excited to go and train at this gym and
I love it. And that is the difference between like
sticking to it and doing it versu not if you've
if you're doing like I don't know, if you're in
a like a type of class or a gym and
you don't actually really want to be there, and it's
kind of a slog to get there, get rid of
(22:52):
it and find something else that you enjoy, because that
is a thing that keeps you consistent, and that's what
gets you there. And like, life's too short to be
flogging yourself doing exercise you hate.
Speaker 3 (23:01):
Yeah, And I think also I think also having the
people around you like you go to gym with girls
you love training with. I'm the same. I found a
gym with Now I've got a little group that I
go with every day and I get so excited, and
also you don't want to let them down and not go.
So it just is that another level of accountability that
helps you to keep showing up definitely, and also making
(23:22):
sure I have some time you know, daily or every
second daily for you know, like mindset and meditation. I
usually do this all the time, but then as soon
as life kind of gets busy, I like forget that
habit and it kind of goes So I want to
try and make that a number one non negotiable. And
then also I think just like having a bit of
a like I do really well with a plan. I'm
(23:45):
currently doing a challenge with my gym. It's like ten
k steps, a certain amount of calories that I'm eating,
and like certain exercises and stuff throughout the week. And
I've just realized that I do really well when I
have a plan or a routine to follow, something that
keeps me accountable, and it makes me feel like I'm
investing in myself and like putting myself first. So yeah,
just keeping a note of that and keep doing that.
(24:08):
But yeah, that's two step four. Step four is building
discipline and momentum. So we've kind of touched on action
a little bit throughout here, but all of this intention
is nothing if you don't follow it through with the action.
So keeping up the discipline, and one of my favorite
quotes I'm going to bring it in here is stick
to the plan, not your mood. Do not rely on motivation,
(24:30):
Do not rely on feeling really inspired. Because it's great
to set a plan, you get that dopamine. And that's
why so many people in January are like starting challenges
and signing up for courses and coaches and all the
different things, because it's that dopamine here if I'm going
to make this year different. And then they lose that
momentum and that motivation and nothing changes, and they get
(24:50):
to the end of the year and then they do
it again, and it's a cycle. So the biggest thing
that you can do in twenty twenty six to really
make sure you glow up is to actually.
Speaker 2 (24:59):
Back it up with ac back at it up.
Speaker 3 (25:01):
Because trust me, anyone can say they have good intentions
and they have a plan, and anyone can go and
write down all the ideas. That is the easy part.
But following through the action is where a lot of
people struggle. And I think one of the biggest things
that I focused on when I wanted to really make
sure that I could follow my intentions through with action
is noticing the pattern of what was stopping the action.
(25:23):
So noticing whether it's procrastination or losing motivation or overthinking
or overwhelm what is the self sabotage that comes up
for you that stops you from taking the action, and
then break the cycle of that. So and also like
you if you realize that you whenever you're working from home,
if you have your phone next to you, you always
(25:44):
open it and go on Instagram. Remove like the obstacles
or don't put yourself in those environments, be like, oh,
that's not good for me. I know I can't resist
the temptation in that moment, So I'm not even going
to put myself in the situation where that's there. Uled
out little things to put yourself in the best situations
in environment, because yeah, it can be really hard to
(26:06):
just have complete self control all the time, but if
you just don't even allow yourself to be tempted.
Speaker 2 (26:11):
It's so much easier.
Speaker 3 (26:12):
Yeah. I think one of the biggest things that humans
do is they have rose colored glasses on for their
future self. So they're like, Okay, well, I've fell off
track this week. I'm going to get back on Monday,
and I'm going to be amazing next week and I'm
going to stick to the plan one hundred percent or
I'm going to start tomorrow or whatever it is. And
they have rose colored glasses on for their future self
rather than just being like, Okay, I've missed out on
(26:34):
one habit today, but how can I make the rest
of the day really good and understanding that the Monday
version of you is still the exact same version of
you because you haven't changed any action or habit, and
being really honest with yourself in that way, So not
just thinking the future version of you is going to
have this insane momentum and motivation, but just taking the
(26:55):
action in that moment and just doing the thing in
the moment.
Speaker 2 (27:00):
Also two thoughts on this thought. Number one is look
for resources or things that help you. For example, apps
or trackers or things like is there an app blocker
that you can get the blocks your social media every
night when you scroll in bed before before sleep, before
a bit is there, like a tracking system or software
(27:22):
or like look for things that can help you, because
if you just rely on your own against self discipline
or whatever it is, sometimes it's not always there, which
is normal. It's normal to be a human being in
wake up and be in different moods and things. But
put things in place when you're in that organized zone
that help you in future, like get a table, get
(27:43):
a list, get apps, get things that help you, get
an accountability buddy to make it easier for yourself, yeap
works mud or not harder. And second thing is if
you like stuff up the habit that day or things
don't go to plan, what's that saying. It's like don't
check out the baby with the bathwater some what it
is like, don't just be like, oh well, I've soffed
(28:03):
everything up now I'm not going to try anymore. Like
if you didn't get it right one day or things
don't go to plan, it's okay. You can start afresh
the next day. You can still Like if you if
you ate like a bad lunch or something, don't then
go and eat like a bad dinner too, because you're
like all have stuff the whole day now, Like you
can still have a nutritious dinner and the day is
still okay. Like, don't throw everything away just for one
(28:25):
little mistake or something. You know, what is it?
Speaker 3 (28:27):
Eighty percent of the plan full time is better than
one hundred percent of the plan for one day. Yeah, yeah,
and even if like I think it's actually in one
of our podcasts Erica, that we had on our podcast recently,
she said she was talking about this saying or something
where like if one day you give five percent, and
then the next day you give twenty, the next day
you give eighty every single one of those days, Like
(28:49):
if five percent is your one hundred percent, that day,
you've still given one hundred percent because that's like the
max that you could give. Yep.
Speaker 2 (28:55):
So be disciplined, be accountable, but also have the grace
with yourself that life and flows, things move, and you
can still keep on top of things whilst remaining in
that state.
Speaker 3 (29:06):
I think another thing that I've started to do with
that first point that you made of setting yourself up
and not having distractions and things around like with the
app blockers, is actually the way that humans work is
we are based off forming a habit with rewards. So
if you can have something that you do, say you
get distracted on your phone and you scroll all day
(29:27):
while you're working, if that is something that your brain
really likes, the reward of commit to yourself and say,
I'm going to do an hour of work and then
give myself five minutes scrolling and it's intentional time. But
then you've given your brain a reward and you know
that it's coming, So you're much more likely to actually
just do the thing and then have a reward or
(29:47):
try and figure out ways that you can kind of
set yourself up for success in that way, rather than
just being like I'm going to work for eight hours
and not doing anything and you're not going to want
to do that. You're going to be like, no, next
going to sit here and scroll.
Speaker 2 (30:01):
Yeah, make it fun.
Speaker 3 (30:02):
But if you have an hour block and then maybe
you go out in nature or you give yourself some
sort of exciting thing at the end of that hour block,
let's do that again, because I've just got a reward
and my brain loves that.
Speaker 2 (30:13):
Look how well that works for dogs? Not the way
dogs positive positive, the positive reinforcement, the training and the system.
They thrive off that, so do we if we tell
ourselves right, one hour work, one treat. Yeah, it's easy
to follow. You can do it. It's a simple formula
and you get the work done and you feel good.
Speaker 3 (30:32):
Havelov's theory. It's well. I mean, if I asked Alf
to do one hundred backflips and he's got no treats,
he'd be like, mom, Mum, you can. Actually, it's not
be my mum anymore. But if I go do a backflip,
I'll give you a treat. So I'll do a backflip.
Speaker 2 (30:45):
Perfect.
Speaker 3 (30:46):
So treat yourself like I treat Alf. Is the story perfect?
If you want to go up in twenty twenty six become.
Speaker 2 (30:53):
Out like a dog, yeah, okay.
Speaker 3 (30:55):
So the practical tip for this is making sure you've
got weekly accountability check ins. I think the biggest thing
that happens with people's new year plans and the plan
is they have this big vision and then they don't
check in and review where it's actually going or what's
actually happening. They just set the goal and then they
go all right, at the end of twenty twenty six,
I'm going to sit down and figure out if it
(31:17):
all worked, rather than having weekly check ins or monthly
check ins where you sit down and go what worked,
what didn't, what needs to be adjusted. So I get
back on the plan that is going to be where
you actually see change a momentum in twenty twenty six.
Speaker 2 (31:30):
And make it fun, like go to a beautiful little
cafe every Sunday of the month and like get out
your notebook and plan, like make it fun.
Speaker 3 (31:38):
A treat, and then you want to do it because
you've got to. Tak Alf would love that, he'd love that,
like make it, you know, romanticize it. Because if you're like, oh,
I'm going to sit here and review my goals, you're boring.
But if you're like, hell, yeah, I get to go
to this cafe by myself, a nice march. I sit
here and work on myself. And like, you are the
vehicle that's going to get you through twenty twenty six.
(32:00):
So you can buy all the clothes and digity memberships
and all these things, but it's you that does it.
So like you have to invest in the pilot of
the plane, You've got to invest in the person that's
driving this whole project, and it's you, So spend the time,
on the foundation, on your mindset, on your plan, and
the rest will all follow. Yes, I was like, honestly,
(32:21):
I have good vibes for twenty twenty six. I had
really good vibes for twenty twenty five and it was
a great year.
Speaker 2 (32:26):
I had good vibes for this year, but I knew
it would be a bit of like a transformational year,
universally universal growth transformation. I feel like a lot of
people have been going through like some hard things and
some hard lessons, and I feel like the collective kind
of needed that, And I think next year is going
to be a really good year.
Speaker 3 (32:44):
I honestly feel though when I if I reflect back
on twenty twenty five, so much growth, so much changed,
so much uncomfortable shit. But it excites me now because
I have honestly just trained myself to understand that, well,
my next level is on the other side of all
of that acts that's happening.
Speaker 2 (33:00):
I ain't moving, You're not moving. So just to wrap
up the glow up framework for you, Step one is
the reflect and review. Do your year in review for
twenty twenty five. How did it go, what went well?
What didn't? What are you leaving behind? What are you
taking in Step two is create the identity. Sit down,
visualize what is the next level of you in twenty
(33:20):
twenty six look like? What are their beliefs? How do
you want to feel? Do some visualization get clear on that.
Step three is building out the habits and a schedule
of that identity. What habits do they do, what's the
morning routine? What does it look like? Really create the
habits that are going to create that success and bring
that person to life. Step number four is the momentum creating,
(33:45):
accountability tracking, setting yourself up for success so that all
of the plans that you set aren't just done for
two weeks in jaen and they go away.
Speaker 3 (33:54):
Love it so and if you're still feeling like you
want some more resources or anything like that, we have
two really amazing resources for a year plan. One of
them is seven Days to Clarity. So this is like
a seven day course that's going to give you complete
clarity on your big vision.
Speaker 2 (34:11):
It's such a.
Speaker 3 (34:12):
Powerful course to do right at the start of a
year or coming to the end of the year, so
you can be really clear on who you want to
be and all things we kind of spoke about, but
on such a deeper level and have that plan. And
the second one is Your Magnetic Blueprint, which is a
fourteen day course all about how to create goals from
a really authentic place. Like we were saying before, if
(34:32):
you were someone who's kind of set goals before, maybe
achieved them, maybe haven't, but kind of left feeling dissatisfied
or unfulfilled, it's because you haven't set goals from that
really authentic place, and this course is going to help
you do exactly that. So we will leave cheeky little
discounts in the show notes and links. If you want
either of those such amazing resources, go check them out.
But bring on twenty twenty six.
Speaker 2 (34:53):
Twenty thirty six, let's go.
Speaker 3 (34:55):
Well, vibes are high.
Speaker 2 (34:56):
Wait, the vibes are high, the fresh energy.
Speaker 3 (34:59):
I'm really we will see you all in the new year.
I hope you have the beautiful Christmas New Year's time off.
Speaker 2 (35:06):
Have the best holiday break. We miss you already, but
we can't wait to see you again in the new year,
and we love you, love you, Bye bye,
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