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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Well and what do you podcast? Many, Hey, it's willing,
what do you all? Thanks to Australia post this up there,
and I hope you have being a great drive home?
Speaker 2 (00:07):
Sure my move.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
Sharing how you're going is one of the best things
you can do for your mental health.
Speaker 3 (00:13):
But when you most need to tell someone how you're going,
it's often the hardest thing to do.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
And if you don't address how you are, your feelings
confessed and lead to things like anxiety, depression, even suicide.
Speaker 3 (00:26):
In this podcast, we ask a range of inspiring people
how they express themselves in the hope that we can
all learn something more about arguably life's most important.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
Skill, to ask yourself, how am I feeling? How do
I express how I'm feeling? How do I share my mood?
Previously we've chatted with people like health and well being
experts def Claire Smith.
Speaker 4 (00:48):
So I feel incredibly sick, but also mentally I was
just a mess every night because.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
I just felt like I was continuously disappointing myself.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
Legendary Australian comedian Will Anderson. It's a nice thing to say,
because I'm not sure that I've actually said it out loud.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Recently, and that feels honestly about right now and author
and Mega Marathon runner Ned Brockman.
Speaker 4 (01:08):
When you start letting these words of burnout, I think
it comes back to the power of the mind and
if you can continuously say these things and be positive.
Our time here on this planet is very limited, and
you're a long time dead. I want to make the
most of the time I'm here.
Speaker 5 (01:23):
Our latest guest on the Share My Mood podcast is
Poe ling Yao. If you want to hear the entire chat,
then just look up share my Mood wherever you get
your podcasts from. But I think, well, the most surprising
thing from this chat with Poe was the talk about
relationships and about how her ex husband actually ended up
(01:49):
with her best friend.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
Can I ask you about relationships? You comfortable talking about
year past relationship? So you've had two divorces, yes, And
I've heard you talk about the fact that within these
relationships you were and please tell me if I'm using
I'm using words wrong, but losing this sense of individuality, yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:09):
Losing myself? What the first one? Who I'm He's still
my right or die Matt like we like and we
still have like the hugest domestics in front of his partner,
who's my best friend. That's not part of the whole.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
Awesome good story.
Speaker 3 (02:29):
Sorry sorry sorry. He So your first first ex husband, yes,
is now with your best friend yes?
Speaker 4 (02:34):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (02:35):
Wow, and then you're all still good, amazing, so amazing.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
So he that's great. Yeah. I think that's personally. I
think that's a mark of a really mature person is
when I meet them and then they're like, oh, you know,
you find out that a person you've been hanging out
with is their ex. But it's like, we're just so
much bigger than what was.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
Yeah, Because I think if you fully I believe that
if you haven't been able to metabolize, like whatever was
causing you the grief, it's still always there. Yeah, and
it's so and it's like, I think it's unresolved love.
So you have to actually work through it and transform
it into something else for it to be healthy, so
you can both move on. Because I think when people
(03:21):
are still triggered by their partners, I think there's something
about them that still has a hold over them, and
you want to be rid of that, you know, so
that you're an empty vessel to be like go on
to your new relationship.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
With I feel like I got some really good advice
around that once, which was that, like, the fastest way
to kind of get over someone is to realize that
you'll always love them. Oh that's beautiful, rather than thinking
that like, oh, I'm going to get over it, because
the English we always say when you get over them,
to get over them, And it's like, well, no, you
(03:56):
kind of got to go through yes them rather than
over them, because yeah, yeah, you're always going to love them.
It might just feel differently.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
Yeah, but you.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
Were talking so so the quote that I saw sorry
was about this idea of you having individuality.
Speaker 4 (04:09):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
So I think that, like for the first relationship, that's
when I identified that it was getting really unhealthy because
I was getting so lost in the dysfunction that I
didn't recognize myself anymore and I was just reacting all
the time. I was just so easily we could just
push each other's buttons and just you could have an
(04:29):
argument about this that that like it was just insane.
And that's when I'm like, I'm getting lost in this
like bitterness and I need to find myself again. And
so when we finally broke up, it was I was like,
wait a minute, this is so cool because we now
get to like keep all the things that we still
(04:50):
love about each other because we loved each other's company,
like we were great friends, but as a marriage it
just didn't work. So we got to just throw all
the bad things in the bin and keep all the
good things.
Speaker 5 (05:00):
Great.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
God, this podcast come up twice now on this show,
but it's a good podcast. On diariav CEO, I was
listening to Esther Perell talk and she's so good, so good,
And she was saying that she obviously if you don't
know who she is, she's psychotherapist. She works in relationships.
She was saying she always finds it really funny when
people walk in. She sees a couple and they walk
(05:22):
in and like, one of the first things I'll say
is that they're adamant that they're individuals. And she's like, well,
you're not, because you've chosen to be with someone. And
as soon as you choose to be with someone, who
you are is defined entirely by the pattern that you've
agreed to be in with that person. And she was like,
if you think of it like a figure eight loop,
you both feed the loop and then people break up
(05:45):
when the loop's broken. So like when one of you goes, okay,
I don't like the way that this keeps coming back
to me, and it's exactly what you said you were like,
just everything just get coming back in the same way.
So to realize that, I think it's enormous.
Speaker 5 (05:59):
If you want to get the whole thing, just look
up Share my Mood, wherever you get your podcasts from.
We are going to play you a tiny bit more
right up next, though, where she tells us that she
still calls her ex husband to unpack their relationship. It's
phenomenal and you won't believe the things that she decides
to unpack still with her ex husband.
Speaker 3 (06:19):
We'll play it for you right up next.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
I William Woody hear more of the boys on the
full podcast. Just scroll up.
Well and what do you podcast? Many, Hey, it's willing,
what do you all? Thanks to Australia post this up there,
and I hope you have being a great drive home?
Speaker 2 (00:07):
Sure my move.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
Sharing how you're going is one of the best things
you can do for your mental health.
Speaker 3 (00:13):
But when you most need to tell someone how you're going,
it's often the hardest thing to do.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
And if you don't address how you are, your feelings
confessed and lead to things like anxiety, depression, even suicide.
Speaker 3 (00:26):
In this podcast, we ask a range of inspiring people
how they express themselves in the hope that we can
all learn something more about arguably life's most important.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
Skill, to ask yourself, how am I feeling? How do
I express how I'm feeling? How do I share my mood?
Previously we've chatted with people like health and well being
experts def Claire Smith.
Speaker 4 (00:48):
So I feel incredibly sick, but also mentally I was
just a mess every night because.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
I just felt like I was continuously disappointing myself.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
Legendary Australian comedian Will Anderson. It's a nice thing to say,
because I'm not sure that I've actually said it out loud.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Recently, and that feels honestly about right now and author
and Mega Marathon runner Ned Brockman.
Speaker 4 (01:08):
When you start letting these words of burnout, I think
it comes back to the power of the mind and
if you can continuously say these things and be positive.
Our time here on this planet is very limited, and
you're a long time dead. I want to make the
most of the time I'm here.
Speaker 5 (01:23):
Our latest guest on the Share My Mood podcast is
Poe ling Yao. If you want to hear the entire chat,
then just look up share my Mood wherever you get
your podcasts from. But I think, well, the most surprising
thing from this chat with Poe was the talk about
relationships and about how her ex husband actually ended up
(01:49):
with her best friend.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
Can I ask you about relationships? You comfortable talking about
year past relationship? So you've had two divorces, yes, And
I've heard you talk about the fact that within these
relationships you were and please tell me if I'm using
I'm using words wrong, but losing this sense of individuality, yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:09):
Losing myself? What the first one? Who I'm He's still
my right or die Matt like we like and we
still have like the hugest domestics in front of his partner,
who's my best friend. That's not part of the whole.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
Awesome good story.
Speaker 3 (02:29):
Sorry sorry sorry. He So your first first ex husband, yes,
is now with your best friend yes?
Speaker 4 (02:34):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (02:35):
Wow, and then you're all still good, amazing, so amazing.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
So he that's great. Yeah. I think that's personally. I
think that's a mark of a really mature person is
when I meet them and then they're like, oh, you know,
you find out that a person you've been hanging out
with is their ex. But it's like, we're just so
much bigger than what was.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
Yeah, Because I think if you fully I believe that
if you haven't been able to metabolize, like whatever was
causing you the grief, it's still always there. Yeah, and
it's so and it's like, I think it's unresolved love.
So you have to actually work through it and transform
it into something else for it to be healthy, so
you can both move on. Because I think when people
(03:21):
are still triggered by their partners, I think there's something
about them that still has a hold over them, and
you want to be rid of that, you know, so
that you're an empty vessel to be like go on
to your new relationship.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
With I feel like I got some really good advice
around that once, which was that, like, the fastest way
to kind of get over someone is to realize that
you'll always love them. Oh that's beautiful, rather than thinking
that like, oh, I'm going to get over it, because
the English we always say when you get over them,
to get over them, And it's like, well, no, you
(03:56):
kind of got to go through yes them rather than
over them, because yeah, yeah, you're always going to love them.
It might just feel differently.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
Yeah, but you.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
Were talking so so the quote that I saw sorry
was about this idea of you having individuality.
Speaker 4 (04:09):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
So I think that, like for the first relationship, that's
when I identified that it was getting really unhealthy because
I was getting so lost in the dysfunction that I
didn't recognize myself anymore and I was just reacting all
the time. I was just so easily we could just
push each other's buttons and just you could have an
(04:29):
argument about this that that like it was just insane.
And that's when I'm like, I'm getting lost in this
like bitterness and I need to find myself again. And
so when we finally broke up, it was I was like,
wait a minute, this is so cool because we now
get to like keep all the things that we still
(04:50):
love about each other because we loved each other's company,
like we were great friends, but as a marriage it
just didn't work. So we got to just throw all
the bad things in the bin and keep all the
good things.
Speaker 5 (05:00):
Great.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
God, this podcast come up twice now on this show,
but it's a good podcast. On diariav CEO, I was
listening to Esther Perell talk and she's so good, so good,
And she was saying that she obviously if you don't
know who she is, she's psychotherapist. She works in relationships.
She was saying she always finds it really funny when
people walk in. She sees a couple and they walk
(05:22):
in and like, one of the first things I'll say
is that they're adamant that they're individuals. And she's like, well,
you're not, because you've chosen to be with someone. And
as soon as you choose to be with someone, who
you are is defined entirely by the pattern that you've
agreed to be in with that person. And she was like,
if you think of it like a figure eight loop,
you both feed the loop and then people break up
(05:45):
when the loop's broken. So like when one of you goes, okay,
I don't like the way that this keeps coming back
to me, and it's exactly what you said you were like,
just everything just get coming back in the same way.
So to realize that, I think it's enormous.
Speaker 5 (05:59):
If you want to get the whole thing, just look
up Share my Mood, wherever you get your podcasts from.
We are going to play you a tiny bit more
right up next, though, where she tells us that she
still calls her ex husband to unpack their relationship. It's
phenomenal and you won't believe the things that she decides
to unpack still with her ex husband.
Speaker 3 (06:19):
We'll play it for you right up next.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
I William Woody hear more of the boys on the
full podcast. Just scroll up.
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