The Family Architect: Parenting by Design, Rather than by Default

What happens when a self-described “blokey tradie” finds himself questioning everything he thought he knew about birth?

In this powerful episode, we hear from Matt Taylor, husband to Nic Taylor (Ep 22 + 23) as he reflects on the path from hospital trauma to the deep trust, surrender, and sovereignty of their homebirth journey.

Matt shares what it took to unlearn, get curious, and show up differently for the birth of their third baby,...

After doing the deep work to release guilt, betrayal, and self-doubt (Episode 22), Nic didn’t go looking for a “healing birth” to fix everything. She arrived at this third birth as a different woman — more regulated, more resourced, and finally supported by a team who saw her as a person, not a patient.

In this second part of Nic’s story, we step into the birth that her healing made possible: a sovereign home birth with George, guid...

Before Nic ever chose a home birth, there was a deeper journey she had to walk — one of confronting guilt, betrayal, and the slow erosion of self-trust that followed her early hospital births.

In Part 1 of this two-part conversation, Nic shares what happened before the home birth: the trauma that didn’t come from the baby being born, but from not being heard, believed, or treated as a person.

In this episode, we explore:

• How Nic i...

How do you break generational patterns without falling into blame, guilt, or resentment?

In this episode of The Family Architect, Philippa Scott guides you through the tender, liberating process of transforming the patterns you inherited — without vilifying the people who passed them down.

You’ll learn: 🌿 Why repeating your parents’ patterns isn’t failure — it’s programming. 💔 How to move from blame to awareness, from judgment to c...

The Myth of Self-Sacrifice: How Meeting Your Needs Makes You a Better Mother

This episode of The Family Architect challenges the widely-held belief that a good mother must sacrifice her own needs for the sake of her family. Philippa Scott, through compelling stories and insights, debunks the myth of self-sacrifice, showing how it leads to burnout, resentment, and ultimately less effective parenting.

The episode introduces the conce...

Perfection was never the point of parenting. But when you lose your temper, snap over something small, or watch your child pull away, it can feel like you’ve failed.

This episode of The Family Architect is your reminder that ruptures don’t define you — repairs do.

Inside, Philippa shares:

✨ What a “rupture” really is (and why it doesn’t mean you’re a bad mother)

✨ The three steps of repair in The Regulated Mother Method™ — return, re...

In Episode 18 of The Family Architect: Parenting by Design Rather Than by Default, Philippa introduces a powerful, practical tool from The Regulated Mother Method™: The 60-Second Protocol.

This isn’t about perfection. It’s about what you do in the very first minute after being triggered — because those 60 seconds often decide whether you default to old patterns or create a new pathway of connection.

Inside this episode, you’ll discov...

Your child’s meltdown, your urge to yell, your sudden withdrawal — these aren’t flaws. They’re messages.

In this episode of The Family Architect: Parenting by Design Rather Than by Default, Philippa Scott introduces you to the 5 Trigger Archetypes from The Regulated Mother Method™:

• The Overwhelmed Heart ❤️
• The Silenced Child 🤐
• The Hidden Rage 🔥
• The Hypervigilant Protector 🛡️
• The Numb Resigner 🌫️

You’ll learn: ✨ Why your trigg...

When your child’s meltdown triggers that instant rush of anger, panic, or shutdown — it’s not about bad parenting. It’s your nervous system running old survival patterns.

In this episode of The Family Architect: Parenting by Design Rather Than by Default, Philippa shares the Ground, Root, Send method from The Regulated Mother Method™ — a simple, body-based tool to calm your nervous system in real time so you can respond instead of r...

Every mother carries a story into motherhood — a nervous system blueprint shaped long before her children were born. These patterns aren’t flaws. They’re survival strategies that once kept you safe, but now quietly shape your parenting, your relationships, and your sense of self.

In this powerful new episode of The Family Architect: Parenting by Design Rather Than by Default, we step into The Mother Awakening and explore The 5 Mothe...

What if you could prevent power struggles before they even begin?

In this episode of The Family Architect: Parenting by Design Rather Than by Default, we explore the art of Pre-Connection — a soulful, science-backed parenting practice that helps children move through transitions with more ease and less resistance.

Pre-Connection isn’t a script or a trick. It’s what happens when you meet your child’s emotional needs before they have t...

What if you could reset your child’s nervous system — and your own — in just a few minutes a day? In this episode of The Family Architect, we explore The Love Bomb Protocol™, a simple, soulful strategy that transforms chaos into connection.

Forget reward charts, yelling, or taking things away. What your child really needs might surprise you: a short, intentional burst of loving, agenda-free presence. These small but mighty moments s...

Tired of being told your mother wounds will take years to heal? What if I told you that's a lie?

In this game-changing episode, I'm sharing why the traditional therapy model keeps you stuck in analysis paralysis - and revealing the faster path to becoming the mother you long to be.

You'll discover:

• Why your mother wound lives in your nervous system (not your past)
• The real reason you rage at your kids and feel guilty for having nee...

Ready to stop the power struggles and start enjoying your kids again? This episode is about the shift that changes everything: moving from control-based parenting to connection-based parenting.

Most of us were raised with "because I said so" and "stop crying or go to your room." We learned that obedience was the goal and connection was conditional. But what if there's a completely different way?

In this episode, you'll discover:

• W...

In this pivotal 10th episode of The Family Architect: Parenting by Design, Rather than by Default, host Philippa takes you on an emotional journey back to your original maternal wisdom.

Remember that first moment you held your baby? You knew exactly what they needed. You trusted your instincts completely. Then the world rushed in with its rules, methods, and "shoulds" – and slowly, you began to doubt yourself.

In this episode, you'll...

There's a myth that's been quietly hurting mothers everywhere - and it's time we talked about it.

In this episode, Philippa gets real about the pressure to be the "perfect" mother and why this mindset is actually harming both you and your children. She shares a vulnerable story from her own mothering journey and reveals the truth that changed everything: repair matters more than perfection.

You'll discover:

• Why "perfect parenting"...

Are you parenting on autopilot, echoing patterns you swore you’d never repeat? In this powerful episode of The Family Architect Podcast, Philippa Scott guides you through a transformative journey of breaking generational cycles and parenting with intention.

You’ll discover:

• Why inherited parenting patterns show up—and how to recognise them
• What The Mother Awakening™ is and how it shifts your parenting story
• Simple tools like the Aw...

Ever watched your child spiral into an epic meltdown over stretchy cheese or a too-high swing?

In this episode, we're binning the timeout chairs and diving into the groundbreaking science of emotional co-regulation. Featuring insights from Dr. Gordon Neufeld and Dr. Gabor Maté, plus a ripper story about 'The Great Pizza Demolition,' we'll explore why your presence matters more than any parenting technique you've got up your sleeve....

Ever gone from calm to nuclear in 0.2 seconds?

In this episode, we're diving into the real difference between parent anger and rage.

Discover why your nervous system's been collecting experiences since before birth, and why that 'What's for dinner?' question isn't really about dinner at all.

Learn the science behind why nice parents sometimes lose it, and more importantly - what you can actually do about it.

Plus, find out why installi...