September 24, 2025 • 19 mins
Tommy DiDario, host of I've Never Said This Before, joins us to talk his podcast, his high school experience, and more!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Fly from the Mercedes Fins interview lounge. I gotta tell you,
we have had a long, long conversation about the middle
child versus the oldest child versus youngest child, your birthplace
in your family. So, Tommy d Dario's here, Hi, Tommy,
can you turn his microp? I'm scary? Are you there? Yeah?
I'm here? Can you hear me?
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Hear me?
Speaker 1 (00:20):
Scary? Are you having a stroke? Are you okay? Something
gonna look right in our computer? Is something in the milk?
Ate clean? Is that the concept? All right? So Tommy
Nadario's here, let's just start over. Hi Tommy, Hello everybody.
So you are the oldest of two basically, then you
have some step siblings, and so you're the oldest. Why
are you aging me?
Speaker 2 (00:38):
I'm the youngest of too. My sister's older than me,
and then I have two brothers. I'm from my dad's remains.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
Stop aging me up? What the hell he's already getting beligerate?
Oh my god. Anyway, we just had to this conversation
about oldest versus middle versus youngest child. Just to make
it simple, the text messages were by the thousands. This
really hit a nerve with all these people talking about
where fit in in their family. So Tommy, I asked, Tommy,
so in your friend group, are you like the leader
(01:06):
or you're the follower, or you're the black sheep? He immediately,
without hesitation, said, well, I'm the leader. Yeah. Is that
a problem. Of course I am. But I also said,
when you move from friend group to friend groups, sometimes
your role changes. So what is your role here with
us this family?
Speaker 2 (01:23):
Oh god, I'm your punching bag. Here, I'm your punching bag.
Here's all right, the total middle child. But I agree
with you. Your role does change in every single group,
and some groups I'm more of the observer and I
just kind of let everyone go out and have their
fun and.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
You know, their groups. I'm the leader, you know. It's
just it is what it is. I know. Okay. So,
by the way, I was looking at the numbers, your
podcast is doing very well. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
I love it. I love it. I've never said this
before with Tommy to Dario, but he does this new
feature on there now what's officially called it's called Tommy Talks.
(01:58):
Tommy Talks. Okay, so you actually you're actually dishing out
advice or just hearing giving up perspective.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Shocking, I know, very shocking. So yeah, every Tuesday it's
still an interview that drops, and every Friday, our boy,
Andrew Piglasi, had this idea for me to do these
little ten minute, bite size interviews where I give advice
based off things that have gone on in my life.
So they're very topical, you know, they're very I describe
it as if dear Abby and Carrie Bradshaw had a baby.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
There.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
I am this Italian American millennial from Jersey who may
or may not wear a T shirt that's a little
too tight. But I have great advice to give because
I've lived. I've lived, so yeah, so topics are really
interesting and fun. We launched with when is it time
to let go of a friendship?
Speaker 1 (02:45):
Right right?
Speaker 2 (02:46):
And we have had all sorts of topics from you know,
I lost somebody, so dealing with grief. This is a
fun one and I'm gonna want you guys to answer this.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
It's just the one for us.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
This one's for you guys. This is okay, okay, this
is giving us a topic. This was a pretty popular one.
Should you tell your friend that their boyfriend or girlfriend sucks?
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Absolutely? Yeah, right, absolutely not. I would, absolutely I would. Well, okay,
hold on, you don't think I would.
Speaker 3 (03:16):
I don't think you would. I think that that's we
because we've kind of talked about this before, and that's
such a dangerous area to enter because if they choose
to stay together, and they probably will, then you're the
enemy because you told them that their significant other sucks.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
Truth. Well, yeah, you know you do. You do accidentally, Well,
you could accidentally lose a friend absolutely by giving your
your opinion and then you know, look, I can tell
you your person sucks, you're your significant other sucks. If I
think you're in some sort of danger. If I think
that this is going to be irreversible, issued problems, whatever,
(03:53):
that's going to take you down a really bad path
for you, I would be a bad friend if I
did not say something.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Well, I did say something to a friend after hearing
complaints for a couple of years, and I finally was
asked a question like what do you think, and he
was going to propose, so I maybe said I think
getting married would be probably one of the worst decisions
of your life. Given what I know about your relationship,
it seems a little toxic. Wasn't really spoken to again
(04:21):
after that, like cut off, and I was like, and
they asked, I didn't just volunteer that information. And I
witnessed some pretty gnarly things going on, and I was like,
oh my god, it's my opportunity, and here we go
and they're finally ready to listen, and I was just
shut out.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
Wow, So I learned what happened, what happened in that relationship.
Are they still together? They are, but they're not happy.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
I've been hearing through the graape mine because I don't
really get talked to anymore, that it's not great.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
It's not great.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
So I learned that to Elvis's point, if something's toxic
or scary or dangerous, like yeah, maybe you do definitely
have to say something. But otherwise, if you're not ready
to lose a friend, you got to keep your mouth shut.
Speaker 4 (04:58):
I wonder if they went back and told their significant
other and that they were like, you're not talking to time.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
No, no, because the person the significant other still likes
my stuff on Instagram.
Speaker 3 (05:09):
I feel like that's one of those things that's gonna
get brought up in a fight sometime, like when they're
really going out, they're gonna be like, by the way,
Tommy hates you too.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
Oh God, I hope not. I hope not. I hope not. Yeah,
it's it's it's a tough one. It's a tough one.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
But there's these topics are fun because I think they're
what a lot of people have been through in their lives,
and they don't always get a perspective from someone that's
not super close to them, which can be a little
biased or influenced. So it's like, here's what I've gone through.
I'm not a guru, but like, I've lived a life,
and like, here's my advice based off what I've gone through.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Okay, so let's reverse it. Let's say your friend comes
to you and says, mmmm, that, Geo, you need to
rethink that. By the way, you guys have been together,
how long we'll be married? Ten years in April? Okay,
you've been you've been together. How many years? Ten years?
We got we moved fast, married the night you met,
you got married. Pretty much no problem there, but last
(05:59):
ten years, so something went right. Obviously, did anyone approach
you in the beginning to go, Geo, let's talk about that.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
Are you sure this is the guy you know what
I have to say no, because people saw how happy
I was, and you know, we met when I was
turning twenty nine, so I feel like at that point
you kind of have an idea of what you do
or don't want, and I went into the relationship being like,
what do we have to lose, Like, if it doesn't
work out, it doesn't work out, let's just have fun.
Like we feel that we were happy, we're in love,
let's rock and roll. And people saw that. I think
(06:25):
when I called my parents eight months in from the
top of the Eiffel Tower and said, hey, guys, I'm engaged,
there was a little like okay, like wow, we love him.
But that was fast, you know, wow, and you're in Paris. Okay, cool,
you know, but a little on the whim sometimes, but
you know that. I think other than that, there was
no hesitation. It was just like, wow, that was fast.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
Your mom's like, wow, you're engaged guy, and you're on
the Eiffel Tower. That's way up there now. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
And then we got buried so much later, so you know,
it's all it was all pretty fast.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
Because I've been in relationship where people did tell me,
you know that guy sucks, he's awful. But I but
I already knew it before they said something, So there
was a well, you know what.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
Prior to that, I was in a relationship and it
was not great and the dude did suck, and I
wish more people told me that. I was like, you know,
I mean, I knew it, and it's one of those
where I stayed longer than I did, Like it was
like I should have ended it two years before it ended.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
But A surely, So your advice is kind of weird,
and it's I'm seeing two different things. You're saying you
should not say anything, you're also saying you should say something.
So what's your answer?
Speaker 2 (07:26):
Well, you know why almost I'll tell you why, because
I am a rare breed where when someone tells me
something I don't like, I don't shut down or turn
them away or can't hear it and get so flustered
with it that I'm not like that. Like I genuinely
am probably one of three people in America that's open
to other sides and opinions than having a conversation, because
I think you have to be so if like someone
gives me advice I don't like, I don't take it personally.
(07:49):
It's like, Okay, that's your opinion, but I'm not going
to hold a grudge. And I don't think a lot
of people are like that, which sucks, you know.
Speaker 1 (07:55):
I like this text. I can totally relate to what
Tommy's saying with toxic relationships. My very very best friend
of over thirty or something something he was crazy, severely
talks to he was dating someone he refused to see
how bad it was. She thought she could change the
spots on a leopard and ended up marrying him anyway,
And then there they go, that's the thing. You can
only do so much. It Also, it depends on how
you deliver the message. You could say, uh, Molly, you're
(08:19):
in trouble girl, right, get out run now, or you know,
have you thought about this with this relationship? Have you
thought about maybe you're not living your life to your
fullest because you're so busy living up to their expectations
of you and whatever. There's ways to say it.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
I guess well, and I did say marrying this person
would be the worst decision of your.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
Life, which maybe was a bit harsh, but that was okay,
you know, I'm kind of.
Speaker 4 (08:42):
Direct, but what if they think about that though all
the time, like I should have listened to Tommy.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
I think a lot of people say, what would Tommy do?
Oh wow, I'm just a right line twenty is uh?
I think Carolyn. Carolyn. Just by the way, Carolyn just
found your podcast. She's loving the podcast. Are you listening religiously, Carolyn?
Speaker 5 (09:06):
Yes, actually while I'm at work or having tough days.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
Oh so you listened to his talk about grief and
did it help you out in a personal way?
Speaker 5 (09:19):
Oh my gosh. I was actually stumbling around. iHeart to
listen to an Elvis episode on repeat, and I went, oh, Tommy,
what's this? And I just happened to click on it
and he was talking very solemnly and quietly, and I
was like, Oh, what's what's he talking about? It really
got me interested the way his voice was so calm,
because we're always so normally so excited and talking and happy.
(09:41):
And I stopped for a moment and he started talking
about grief and how it affected him personally, and I
literally felt like he was reaching through the phone and
giving me a hug. Because my father, who I was
so close with, I was his little princess. He just
passed away a few months ago, and I've been having
the tough this time, not only supporting my family but
(10:03):
me standing up every single day. And he really touched
my heart when he said he was going through it
too and had been going through it. And it's like, Wow,
a famous, amazing person also has the same struggles I do.
And I took it upon myself to say, you know what,
I don't have social media. I'm only on LinkedIn. Let
me message him on LinkedIn and he literally messaged me
(10:24):
back and my jaw dropped and I was like, wow,
he really does care. He's amazing. So he was to
take me through this.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
There you go. You know when you're dispensing, When you're dispensing,
I'm depensing is a weird word. When you're giving out advice.
Sometimes you stop and go away to mate, who the
hell am I to give advice? But at the same time,
if a person like Tommy has been through what he's
talking about, it's just an It is, at the end
of the day, another perspective to hear how they handle it,
(10:53):
how they're dealing with grief, and it's like, Okay, I
like this guy's perspective, and you definitely found that in
Tommy's podcast.
Speaker 5 (11:00):
Right, Yes, he's amazing and he even makes me cry
to this day just how wonderful that was, how he
reached out. So thank you and you touched so many people,
all of you, so God bless you.
Speaker 1 (11:12):
Care you call us, call us every day. We need you.
Here we do. We're go have a great day. Thanks
for listening again today. We appreciate it. And here you go.
So now, maybe you're a little curious about Tommy's podcast.
I say you should give it a try. It's I've
never said this before. He's been doing this podcast for
several years now, and I love that you're doing different, new,
(11:37):
fabulous things. And of course, this one segment we're talking
about sort of brought up by our own Andrew. Let's
give him all the credit. We're kidding, We're not giving
him any credit. It's okay. Are you having fun doing
the podcast? I am.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
I really really love it. And that's the prime example
of why I love it. I just think it's it's
so nice to connect to people in a world where
there's so much noise, and you know, people can come
to my show and they know they can escape whatever's
going on.
Speaker 1 (12:05):
And I'm not.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
My show is not political or controversial. It's fun and
there's value in that.
Speaker 1 (12:11):
You need that.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
There's enough of that in the world. So I like
to have a space where people can just say, you
know what, let me tune out for like ten minutes
or forty five minutes during an interview.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
And just like have some fun. Man, like we all
need that. Well, then that's why we get along really
well with Tommy, other than the tight T shirts and
you know, his nipples are showing again, look at that.
It's like what that? Oh wait? But I mean, look,
you know, we do our best to make our show
that same way. You know, I don't want to do
a political show. That's not what we what we want
our listeners to expect from us. I don't want to
be canceled by iHeart. I just don't want it, you
(12:42):
know what I'm saying, Because if they cancel us, that
means they're going to start charging more for everything, just
like Disney did. So I didn't know. We don't need
that here. So if you went to high school with
Tommy Jadario, please text us now. We want to know
what he was like in high school. Only one person
texted in and they said nothing but nice things, and
I'm so so disappointed. I can't reveal all my secrets.
Speaker 4 (13:04):
Why do you think we would have gotten someone saying
like he was a diva?
Speaker 2 (13:09):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (13:09):
Well yeah, well let's ask Tommy. Tommy, if someone like,
what was the worst side of you in high school?
That someone could have said something about, you know, being
like totally honest I I was. I was quiet. I
mean I was kind of quiet. I didn't. I didn't
make a.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
Big stink in high school. I was honestly, genuinely. People
would say, I think that I was just like a
nice kid. I know it's super boring, but like I didn't.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
I wasn't. I did my own stuff. I mean I
was nominated for prompt court junior year of high school.
So you know, okay, so.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
You know they picked four four Kings and Queen's elvis
stop today, they nominate you to to be prom king
or queen.
Speaker 1 (13:52):
I didn't. Okay, let me let me address something here.
So Danielle went to school in the Bronx. We went
to high schools that had football teams and cheerleaders, and
so the two do not meet. They're different, different animals.
Speaker 4 (14:04):
What you guys went through to me was just the
movies like King or Queen. No, and we didn't even
have They built a football team football field in the
back of our school and it was in regulation, so
nobody could even use it. So that's how where I
went to school. And we didn't have like prom Kingdom, they.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
Had game fights. They had game fights. What team you
did with the bonfires?
Speaker 3 (14:23):
We didn't have any of that.
Speaker 1 (14:24):
Bonfire probably didn't have that. Do have any teams? Did
you have any teams that played other schools teams?
Speaker 4 (14:30):
Yeah, of course we did. We had other We had teams,
but I don't remember. And I was a cheerleader, but
our uniforms sweatpants for I think we just had a
cheer team if I remember right.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
But what were you cheering? What game were you cheering?
What team?
Speaker 4 (14:44):
We just have like it was like more of a
dance squad. I don't know, but we did. We had
school assemblies in the cafeteria or in the in the
in the gym.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
Okay, I'm pretty sure we maybe back Hey, hold on,
if you're a cheerleader, question, did you go to a
game and cheer the players on? I'm pretty sure the
basketball game basketball?
Speaker 4 (15:08):
Okay, but you know I also did theater, so I
was more of a theater kid, and we definitely had
tater in school.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
Yeah, did have that, but yeah, that's kind of where
I spent most of my time. So you know, it
was quiet. I was kind of my own world. But
our high school was that quintessential small town tiny school.
Like my high school's two schools combined, everyone knew your business.
So for me, it felt very suffocating because I like school.
Speaker 1 (15:32):
Did you go to gandhi?
Speaker 6 (15:33):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (15:34):
I went to a massive high school in South Florida
called Flanagan.
Speaker 1 (15:37):
So you had teams, you had cheerleaders, ralli all kinds
of stuff. We had all of it.
Speaker 3 (15:42):
We actually did for a while. We got the pep
rallies taken away from us because there was a riot
in the stands and people ended up like setting fire
to bushes and whatever. My school was it was so
big we had police on horseback. Really yeah, because it
was like a campus. It was laid out so huge,
and it was outside. There were courtyard so we had.
Speaker 1 (16:02):
Good times. Wait a minute, did you guys have class clash?
Speaker 4 (16:06):
The hell?
Speaker 2 (16:06):
It's where every great competes against each other and you
do lip sync battles.
Speaker 1 (16:10):
Oh, Okay, now listen to what you're saying. So Temmy,
you're talking about lip sync battles versus people catching shrubbery
on fire. It's it's scary. School. They had I think
they had a chess team that was high school. Oh
fancy all chess sports, but that was the sport that
was like the sport at there. So we all went Look,
(16:32):
I went to Texas High School, and so we had
stadiums for a football team that were twenty five million
dollars stadiums. I mean, it's a whole different world down there.
Friday night lights, you know what I'm saying. Anyway, So
were there any Okay, and you don't have to answer
this out loud if it gets you in trouble, but
did anyone here have any huge, huge high school scandals? Hell? Yeah,
(16:57):
Like we had teachers doing teacher doing. Yeah, we had
principles who were cheating on wives with all the teachers.
Speaker 3 (17:07):
We had a sex tape, wow, and there was there
was a snake involved.
Speaker 1 (17:12):
It was weird. Yeah, I feel like I need more information.
Speaker 3 (17:18):
And it turned into such a controversy because you know,
nobody was eighteen because we're in high school still. And
then one day, the police came in and arrested a
girl for doing it. Yeah, it was crazy.
Speaker 2 (17:28):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (17:29):
Yeah, every school has a scandal and a lot of
them were just brushed under the swept under the rug.
But I don't know. All right, Tommy, thank you so
much for coming in. Who do you have to thank you?
What do you have on? I've never said this before?
The podcast coming up?
Speaker 2 (17:44):
Yeah, So what just dropped is my episode with Derek
lu who's in the show gen V that's the spin
off to the Boys, So he's amazing. It is such
a good episode. You guys have to listen. The new
season of gen V just dropped, so it's really good.
Next week for all my Vampire Diaries fans.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
Ends.
Speaker 2 (18:00):
Joseph Morgan, who paid played Klaus the villain, is on,
so he's on with his wife Persia, who's also a
great actress. So we have a good lineup in October
is busy and booked. You don't want to miss it.
And Tommy Talks. Tune into Tommy Talks every Friday.
Speaker 1 (18:13):
And by the way, I know sometimes you you do
you use this studio to do your podcast. I do.
It's always an honor to be in here. I do.
Thank you for leaving it the way you found it.
Thank you. Not everybody does that type a Italian. I
do what I can, I do what I can. You're lucky.
I'm not swifting your table when I leave to else. Yes,
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Fly from the Mercedes Fins interview lounge. I gotta tell you,
we have had a long, long conversation about the middle
child versus the oldest child versus youngest child, your birthplace
in your family. So, Tommy d Dario's here, Hi, Tommy,
can you turn his microp? I'm scary? Are you there? Yeah?
I'm here? Can you hear me?
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Hear me?
Speaker 1 (00:20):
Scary? Are you having a stroke? Are you okay? Something
gonna look right in our computer? Is something in the milk?
Ate clean? Is that the concept? All right? So Tommy
Nadario's here, let's just start over. Hi Tommy, Hello everybody.
So you are the oldest of two basically, then you
have some step siblings, and so you're the oldest. Why
are you aging me?
Speaker 2 (00:38):
I'm the youngest of too. My sister's older than me,
and then I have two brothers. I'm from my dad's remains.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
Stop aging me up? What the hell he's already getting beligerate?
Oh my god. Anyway, we just had to this conversation
about oldest versus middle versus youngest child. Just to make
it simple, the text messages were by the thousands. This
really hit a nerve with all these people talking about
where fit in in their family. So Tommy, I asked, Tommy,
so in your friend group, are you like the leader
(01:06):
or you're the follower, or you're the black sheep? He immediately,
without hesitation, said, well, I'm the leader. Yeah. Is that
a problem. Of course I am. But I also said,
when you move from friend group to friend groups, sometimes
your role changes. So what is your role here with
us this family?
Speaker 2 (01:23):
Oh god, I'm your punching bag. Here, I'm your punching bag.
Here's all right, the total middle child. But I agree
with you. Your role does change in every single group,
and some groups I'm more of the observer and I
just kind of let everyone go out and have their
fun and.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
You know, their groups. I'm the leader, you know. It's
just it is what it is. I know. Okay. So,
by the way, I was looking at the numbers, your
podcast is doing very well. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
I love it. I love it. I've never said this
before with Tommy to Dario, but he does this new
feature on there now what's officially called it's called Tommy Talks.
(01:58):
Tommy Talks. Okay, so you actually you're actually dishing out
advice or just hearing giving up perspective.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Shocking, I know, very shocking. So yeah, every Tuesday it's
still an interview that drops, and every Friday, our boy,
Andrew Piglasi, had this idea for me to do these
little ten minute, bite size interviews where I give advice
based off things that have gone on in my life.
So they're very topical, you know, they're very I describe
it as if dear Abby and Carrie Bradshaw had a baby.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
There.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
I am this Italian American millennial from Jersey who may
or may not wear a T shirt that's a little
too tight. But I have great advice to give because
I've lived. I've lived, so yeah, so topics are really
interesting and fun. We launched with when is it time
to let go of a friendship?
Speaker 1 (02:45):
Right right?
Speaker 2 (02:46):
And we have had all sorts of topics from you know,
I lost somebody, so dealing with grief. This is a
fun one and I'm gonna want you guys to answer this.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
It's just the one for us.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
This one's for you guys. This is okay, okay, this
is giving us a topic. This was a pretty popular one.
Should you tell your friend that their boyfriend or girlfriend sucks?
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Absolutely? Yeah, right, absolutely not. I would, absolutely I would. Well, okay,
hold on, you don't think I would.
Speaker 3 (03:16):
I don't think you would. I think that that's we
because we've kind of talked about this before, and that's
such a dangerous area to enter because if they choose
to stay together, and they probably will, then you're the
enemy because you told them that their significant other sucks.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
Truth. Well, yeah, you know you do. You do accidentally, Well,
you could accidentally lose a friend absolutely by giving your
your opinion and then you know, look, I can tell
you your person sucks, you're your significant other sucks. If I
think you're in some sort of danger. If I think
that this is going to be irreversible, issued problems, whatever,
(03:53):
that's going to take you down a really bad path
for you, I would be a bad friend if I
did not say something.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Well, I did say something to a friend after hearing
complaints for a couple of years, and I finally was
asked a question like what do you think, and he
was going to propose, so I maybe said I think
getting married would be probably one of the worst decisions
of your life. Given what I know about your relationship,
it seems a little toxic. Wasn't really spoken to again
(04:21):
after that, like cut off, and I was like, and
they asked, I didn't just volunteer that information. And I
witnessed some pretty gnarly things going on, and I was like,
oh my god, it's my opportunity, and here we go
and they're finally ready to listen, and I was just
shut out.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
Wow, So I learned what happened, what happened in that relationship.
Are they still together? They are, but they're not happy.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
I've been hearing through the graape mine because I don't
really get talked to anymore, that it's not great.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
It's not great.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
So I learned that to Elvis's point, if something's toxic
or scary or dangerous, like yeah, maybe you do definitely
have to say something. But otherwise, if you're not ready
to lose a friend, you got to keep your mouth shut.
Speaker 4 (04:58):
I wonder if they went back and told their significant
other and that they were like, you're not talking to time.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
No, no, because the person the significant other still likes
my stuff on Instagram.
Speaker 3 (05:09):
I feel like that's one of those things that's gonna
get brought up in a fight sometime, like when they're
really going out, they're gonna be like, by the way,
Tommy hates you too.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
Oh God, I hope not. I hope not. I hope not. Yeah,
it's it's it's a tough one. It's a tough one.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
But there's these topics are fun because I think they're
what a lot of people have been through in their lives,
and they don't always get a perspective from someone that's
not super close to them, which can be a little
biased or influenced. So it's like, here's what I've gone through.
I'm not a guru, but like, I've lived a life,
and like, here's my advice based off what I've gone through.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Okay, so let's reverse it. Let's say your friend comes
to you and says, mmmm, that, Geo, you need to
rethink that. By the way, you guys have been together,
how long we'll be married? Ten years in April? Okay,
you've been you've been together. How many years? Ten years?
We got we moved fast, married the night you met,
you got married. Pretty much no problem there, but last
(05:59):
ten years, so something went right. Obviously, did anyone approach
you in the beginning to go, Geo, let's talk about that.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
Are you sure this is the guy you know what
I have to say no, because people saw how happy
I was, and you know, we met when I was
turning twenty nine, so I feel like at that point
you kind of have an idea of what you do
or don't want, and I went into the relationship being like,
what do we have to lose, Like, if it doesn't
work out, it doesn't work out, let's just have fun.
Like we feel that we were happy, we're in love,
let's rock and roll. And people saw that. I think
(06:25):
when I called my parents eight months in from the
top of the Eiffel Tower and said, hey, guys, I'm engaged,
there was a little like okay, like wow, we love him.
But that was fast, you know, wow, and you're in Paris. Okay, cool,
you know, but a little on the whim sometimes, but
you know that. I think other than that, there was
no hesitation. It was just like, wow, that was fast.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
Your mom's like, wow, you're engaged guy, and you're on
the Eiffel Tower. That's way up there now. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
And then we got buried so much later, so you know,
it's all it was all pretty fast.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
Because I've been in relationship where people did tell me,
you know that guy sucks, he's awful. But I but
I already knew it before they said something, So there
was a well, you know what.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
Prior to that, I was in a relationship and it
was not great and the dude did suck, and I
wish more people told me that. I was like, you know,
I mean, I knew it, and it's one of those
where I stayed longer than I did, Like it was
like I should have ended it two years before it ended.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
But A surely, So your advice is kind of weird,
and it's I'm seeing two different things. You're saying you
should not say anything, you're also saying you should say something.
So what's your answer?
Speaker 2 (07:26):
Well, you know why almost I'll tell you why, because
I am a rare breed where when someone tells me
something I don't like, I don't shut down or turn
them away or can't hear it and get so flustered
with it that I'm not like that. Like I genuinely
am probably one of three people in America that's open
to other sides and opinions than having a conversation, because
I think you have to be so if like someone
gives me advice I don't like, I don't take it personally.
(07:49):
It's like, Okay, that's your opinion, but I'm not going
to hold a grudge. And I don't think a lot
of people are like that, which sucks, you know.
Speaker 1 (07:55):
I like this text. I can totally relate to what
Tommy's saying with toxic relationships. My very very best friend
of over thirty or something something he was crazy, severely
talks to he was dating someone he refused to see
how bad it was. She thought she could change the
spots on a leopard and ended up marrying him anyway,
And then there they go, that's the thing. You can
only do so much. It Also, it depends on how
you deliver the message. You could say, uh, Molly, you're
(08:19):
in trouble girl, right, get out run now, or you know,
have you thought about this with this relationship? Have you
thought about maybe you're not living your life to your
fullest because you're so busy living up to their expectations
of you and whatever. There's ways to say it.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
I guess well, and I did say marrying this person
would be the worst decision of your.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
Life, which maybe was a bit harsh, but that was okay,
you know, I'm kind of.
Speaker 4 (08:42):
Direct, but what if they think about that though all
the time, like I should have listened to Tommy.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
I think a lot of people say, what would Tommy do?
Oh wow, I'm just a right line twenty is uh?
I think Carolyn. Carolyn. Just by the way, Carolyn just
found your podcast. She's loving the podcast. Are you listening religiously, Carolyn?
Speaker 5 (09:06):
Yes, actually while I'm at work or having tough days.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
Oh so you listened to his talk about grief and
did it help you out in a personal way?
Speaker 5 (09:19):
Oh my gosh. I was actually stumbling around. iHeart to
listen to an Elvis episode on repeat, and I went, oh, Tommy,
what's this? And I just happened to click on it
and he was talking very solemnly and quietly, and I
was like, Oh, what's what's he talking about? It really
got me interested the way his voice was so calm,
because we're always so normally so excited and talking and happy.
(09:41):
And I stopped for a moment and he started talking
about grief and how it affected him personally, and I
literally felt like he was reaching through the phone and
giving me a hug. Because my father, who I was
so close with, I was his little princess. He just
passed away a few months ago, and I've been having
the tough this time, not only supporting my family but
(10:03):
me standing up every single day. And he really touched
my heart when he said he was going through it
too and had been going through it. And it's like, Wow,
a famous, amazing person also has the same struggles I do.
And I took it upon myself to say, you know what,
I don't have social media. I'm only on LinkedIn. Let
me message him on LinkedIn and he literally messaged me
(10:24):
back and my jaw dropped and I was like, wow,
he really does care. He's amazing. So he was to
take me through this.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
There you go. You know when you're dispensing, When you're dispensing,
I'm depensing is a weird word. When you're giving out advice.
Sometimes you stop and go away to mate, who the
hell am I to give advice? But at the same time,
if a person like Tommy has been through what he's
talking about, it's just an It is, at the end
of the day, another perspective to hear how they handle it,
(10:53):
how they're dealing with grief, and it's like, Okay, I
like this guy's perspective, and you definitely found that in
Tommy's podcast.
Speaker 5 (11:00):
Right, Yes, he's amazing and he even makes me cry
to this day just how wonderful that was, how he
reached out. So thank you and you touched so many people,
all of you, so God bless you.
Speaker 1 (11:12):
Care you call us, call us every day. We need you.
Here we do. We're go have a great day. Thanks
for listening again today. We appreciate it. And here you go.
So now, maybe you're a little curious about Tommy's podcast.
I say you should give it a try. It's I've
never said this before. He's been doing this podcast for
several years now, and I love that you're doing different, new,
(11:37):
fabulous things. And of course, this one segment we're talking
about sort of brought up by our own Andrew. Let's
give him all the credit. We're kidding, We're not giving
him any credit. It's okay. Are you having fun doing
the podcast? I am.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
I really really love it. And that's the prime example
of why I love it. I just think it's it's
so nice to connect to people in a world where
there's so much noise, and you know, people can come
to my show and they know they can escape whatever's
going on.
Speaker 1 (12:05):
And I'm not.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
My show is not political or controversial. It's fun and
there's value in that.
Speaker 1 (12:11):
You need that.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
There's enough of that in the world. So I like
to have a space where people can just say, you
know what, let me tune out for like ten minutes
or forty five minutes during an interview.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
And just like have some fun. Man, like we all
need that. Well, then that's why we get along really
well with Tommy, other than the tight T shirts and
you know, his nipples are showing again, look at that.
It's like what that? Oh wait? But I mean, look,
you know, we do our best to make our show
that same way. You know, I don't want to do
a political show. That's not what we what we want
our listeners to expect from us. I don't want to
be canceled by iHeart. I just don't want it, you
(12:42):
know what I'm saying, Because if they cancel us, that
means they're going to start charging more for everything, just
like Disney did. So I didn't know. We don't need
that here. So if you went to high school with
Tommy Jadario, please text us now. We want to know
what he was like in high school. Only one person
texted in and they said nothing but nice things, and
I'm so so disappointed. I can't reveal all my secrets.
Speaker 4 (13:04):
Why do you think we would have gotten someone saying
like he was a diva?
Speaker 2 (13:09):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (13:09):
Well yeah, well let's ask Tommy. Tommy, if someone like,
what was the worst side of you in high school?
That someone could have said something about, you know, being
like totally honest I I was. I was quiet. I
mean I was kind of quiet. I didn't. I didn't
make a.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
Big stink in high school. I was honestly, genuinely. People
would say, I think that I was just like a
nice kid. I know it's super boring, but like I didn't.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
I wasn't. I did my own stuff. I mean I
was nominated for prompt court junior year of high school.
So you know, okay, so.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
You know they picked four four Kings and Queen's elvis
stop today, they nominate you to to be prom king
or queen.
Speaker 1 (13:52):
I didn't. Okay, let me let me address something here.
So Danielle went to school in the Bronx. We went
to high schools that had football teams and cheerleaders, and
so the two do not meet. They're different, different animals.
Speaker 4 (14:04):
What you guys went through to me was just the
movies like King or Queen. No, and we didn't even
have They built a football team football field in the
back of our school and it was in regulation, so
nobody could even use it. So that's how where I
went to school. And we didn't have like prom Kingdom, they.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
Had game fights. They had game fights. What team you
did with the bonfires?
Speaker 3 (14:23):
We didn't have any of that.
Speaker 1 (14:24):
Bonfire probably didn't have that. Do have any teams? Did
you have any teams that played other schools teams?
Speaker 4 (14:30):
Yeah, of course we did. We had other We had teams,
but I don't remember. And I was a cheerleader, but
our uniforms sweatpants for I think we just had a
cheer team if I remember right.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
But what were you cheering? What game were you cheering?
What team?
Speaker 4 (14:44):
We just have like it was like more of a
dance squad. I don't know, but we did. We had
school assemblies in the cafeteria or in the in the
in the gym.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
Okay, I'm pretty sure we maybe back Hey, hold on,
if you're a cheerleader, question, did you go to a
game and cheer the players on? I'm pretty sure the
basketball game basketball?
Speaker 4 (15:08):
Okay, but you know I also did theater, so I
was more of a theater kid, and we definitely had
tater in school.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
Yeah, did have that, but yeah, that's kind of where
I spent most of my time. So you know, it
was quiet. I was kind of my own world. But
our high school was that quintessential small town tiny school.
Like my high school's two schools combined, everyone knew your business.
So for me, it felt very suffocating because I like school.
Speaker 1 (15:32):
Did you go to gandhi?
Speaker 6 (15:33):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (15:34):
I went to a massive high school in South Florida
called Flanagan.
Speaker 1 (15:37):
So you had teams, you had cheerleaders, ralli all kinds
of stuff. We had all of it.
Speaker 3 (15:42):
We actually did for a while. We got the pep
rallies taken away from us because there was a riot
in the stands and people ended up like setting fire
to bushes and whatever. My school was it was so
big we had police on horseback. Really yeah, because it
was like a campus. It was laid out so huge,
and it was outside. There were courtyard so we had.
Speaker 1 (16:02):
Good times. Wait a minute, did you guys have class clash?
Speaker 4 (16:06):
The hell?
Speaker 2 (16:06):
It's where every great competes against each other and you
do lip sync battles.
Speaker 1 (16:10):
Oh, Okay, now listen to what you're saying. So Temmy,
you're talking about lip sync battles versus people catching shrubbery
on fire. It's it's scary. School. They had I think
they had a chess team that was high school. Oh
fancy all chess sports, but that was the sport that
was like the sport at there. So we all went Look,
(16:32):
I went to Texas High School, and so we had
stadiums for a football team that were twenty five million
dollars stadiums. I mean, it's a whole different world down there.
Friday night lights, you know what I'm saying. Anyway, So
were there any Okay, and you don't have to answer
this out loud if it gets you in trouble, but
did anyone here have any huge, huge high school scandals? Hell? Yeah,
(16:57):
Like we had teachers doing teacher doing. Yeah, we had
principles who were cheating on wives with all the teachers.
Speaker 3 (17:07):
We had a sex tape, wow, and there was there
was a snake involved.
Speaker 1 (17:12):
It was weird. Yeah, I feel like I need more information.
Speaker 3 (17:18):
And it turned into such a controversy because you know,
nobody was eighteen because we're in high school still. And
then one day, the police came in and arrested a
girl for doing it. Yeah, it was crazy.
Speaker 2 (17:28):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (17:29):
Yeah, every school has a scandal and a lot of
them were just brushed under the swept under the rug.
But I don't know. All right, Tommy, thank you so
much for coming in. Who do you have to thank you?
What do you have on? I've never said this before?
The podcast coming up?
Speaker 2 (17:44):
Yeah, So what just dropped is my episode with Derek
lu who's in the show gen V that's the spin
off to the Boys, So he's amazing. It is such
a good episode. You guys have to listen. The new
season of gen V just dropped, so it's really good.
Next week for all my Vampire Diaries fans.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
Ends.
Speaker 2 (18:00):
Joseph Morgan, who paid played Klaus the villain, is on,
so he's on with his wife Persia, who's also a
great actress. So we have a good lineup in October
is busy and booked. You don't want to miss it.
And Tommy Talks. Tune into Tommy Talks every Friday.
Speaker 1 (18:13):
And by the way, I know sometimes you you do
you use this studio to do your podcast. I do.
It's always an honor to be in here. I do.
Thank you for leaving it the way you found it.
Thank you. Not everybody does that type a Italian. I
do what I can, I do what I can. You're lucky.
I'm not swifting your table when I leave to else. Yes,
watch out for the watch up for the following. Tommy Ddariel,
(18:38):
thank you for coming in, Toms, I love you. Yes,
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