April 20, 2024 • 42 mins
Happy Weekend! Morgan and Amy reveal some recent moments that made them really proud of themselves. They discuss their favorite things right now and current TV binges. Plus, Amy shares when the bird signs first started happening with her mom and dad.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
With the best bits of the week with morgane Part
one behind a scene with a member of the show.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Happy weekend, everybody. I'm joined by Amy.
Speaker 3 (00:11):
How are you am? I put up?
Speaker 2 (00:13):
We are diving in like right after the show, so
we're just gonna like get going super fast. The segments
that happened on the show this week that you're gonna
catch up on if you listen to part two. We've
got Bobby's wife who recorded him sleeping. It's crazy audio.
Amy saw a cardinal and it was a big sign
for her and something happened in her life. And I
had a man in uniform. Update. Eddie's package got stolen
(00:35):
and there's a lot of drama around it. Lunchbox claims
that Abby stole his shirt, totally separate from the package
stolen drama. And also Lunchbox may have a music disorder
and Eddie is claiming to that he's gonna go get
tested for a kidney donation. Also, we did do blind karaoke.
I cannot include it here podcast copyright, but we did
(00:56):
put the full thing up on YouTube for you guys,
so you can go check that out. But that's what
happened on the show this week. If you want to
catch up. In part to Amy, We're going to like
just go into some stuff here. So inspired from some
listeners nine year old Jasper and Brittany and Tennessee were
asking some of our favorites on things. So I just
want to talk about random favorites. Your favorite place to
(01:17):
shop right now?
Speaker 3 (01:18):
Oh, I was literally at quin like before we were recording,
because I was trying to somebody asked me where my
shirt was from, and I was trying to get the
link for them, and it's from Quinns dot com. So
I have on this like white and blue striped buttoned down,
you know, like a linen yeah shirt, And so I
was trying to figure out the link because my friend
was like, oh, I want that, And so I'm at
(01:39):
Quinns dot com. I feel like I haven't been shopping
that much. In fact, I don't feel like I haven't.
I know that I haven't been because it was one
of those things I decided at the beginning of the
year that I wasn't going to shop unless I sold
things on Poshmar equivalent to the price of something I
wanted to buy.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
Oh, that's a big move.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
And so it's been it's not one in, one out,
because one thing's on Poshmark might get me, you know,
twenty bucks or something, and I might need sixty bucks,
eighty bucks, one hundred bus whatever it is that I'm getting,
you know, so I have to add up, and so
that's what I've been doing. But Quint's is actually a
really good place for that because most items, like look
at this, I got distracted when I was looking for
the shirt in this, like a swimsuit cover up. See
(02:20):
this in that Queueyeah, it's like a Maxi cover up.
But look at the price. It says one hundred and
forty eight and it's crossed out and it's forty nine
to ninety.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
Right, And it's because a good deal.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
Yeah, it's because they're one are the places, and they're
very transparent, like you can even scroll down and see
like all the like how they pass the savings on
to us, like they cut out the middleman and so
therefore we don't get the markup. I don't know, it's
kind of crazy how they do it. I don't know,
because you wish like everybody would do it like quince
q u I n ce okay, like Squints, but Quinn
(02:55):
I like it and it's cute. I I do full disclosure.
This is part is not a commercial fact. This is
like cook exciving it of organic cotton, which is the
type of Maxi dress. This says this is organic. Like
you just asked me, I had no idea and I
literally was doing that. And I do do spots for them,
but only because I've tried their stuff and I really
(03:16):
like it. Like I have a Kashmir sweater from them.
It's navy blue. I wear it to work sometimes. It's
so nice. I've never owned anything cashmere before and it
was like fifty bucks.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
Well, and I've noticed you've been wearing your blue lately.
Since blue is your power color, You've been wearing a
lot of blue.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
Navy blue is my power color and my other colors
that I determined because I had my underlying skin tone
color palette test thing done and it has helped me
realize what I need to get rid of from my closet,
which makes it easy to throw stuff on poschmark or donate.
And I also filled up a thread up box too.
Have you ever heard of that?
Speaker 2 (03:50):
No, it's thread up.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
It's like an online consignment, so there's certain requirements, but
you put it in a box and mail it off
to them, and then they handle everything for you. Like
it's almost like they're handling the quote unquote Poshmark for
you or I have to manage my own Poshmark. Yeah,
it's like they just do it all and then whatever
(04:13):
they sell, they send you a check. And then if
a certain amount of time goes by and it doesn't sell,
you have to work out a thing with them if
you want them to just donate it for you, or
if you want to pay to have it shipped back
or whatever. So I learned about a thread up from
George Camal who works with Dave Ramsey. Like he said
his wife used thread up, and I was like, oh,
I'm going to try that out because there's some stuff
(04:34):
that just didn't make sense to put them on Poshmark
or I guess. Once I realized that, I was like, oh,
this is a lot of work and I can just
throw this stuff in the box. So thread up is
something else that's a way to make money. There's also
I did put some clothes. I got to figure out
the name. I can't think of it right now. It's spacing,
but I think it's over in the Nation's here in Nashville.
(04:54):
I dropped off some clothes at a consignment shop because
here's the thing. Once I made this pact with my self,
it's like I had to get creative because it's like, well, shoot,
if I don't start selling some things and it doesn't
just like magically sell on Poshmark, and so I have
to get creative and so some stuff. Yeah, I'm just donating.
I saw another thing that people do for clothing as
(05:16):
like clothes swaps with their friends, as like a fun
way to save money. Yeah. It's just challenged me and
stretched me to get creative with my clothes. And I
want to fill my closet up with staples that are
my power colors, but also with staples that are going
to last forever, which is why I like that the
Quints like has a affordable cashme or sweater option because
(05:38):
that's never going to go out of style. Yeah, yeah,
you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
Yeah, you're filling out things with stuff that you can
wear repeatedly. It's not like, oh, where it wants it's
done right.
Speaker 3 (05:48):
Which I was. There was a season where I was
shopping that way, and I think it was this temporary
happiness and then it got to a point where I'm
just like looking at my closet and like this is
not this is overwhelming, and I actually don't feel happy
and I feel wasteful, and I just want to be
more strategic. I guess I guess that's what comes with
(06:10):
life and maturing.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
No, I think it's awesome. Those are some really good ones.
You know some others that I these are both like
really cool ones. They're actually jewelry ones. So Ring True Company.
I have a partnership with them, but I don't make
any money off of it. It's just a partnership. Like
I love what they're doing. They they're the rings that
people always see me wearing in the bracelets. They they
employ human trafficking survivors, and so human trafficking survivors make
(06:36):
all the jewelry. It allows them a job and a
safe place to link. Oh I love that. What's the website?
Ring True Company? Yeah. What's really cool though is their listeners.
And I found out about them because they listened to
the show and they're like, we'd love to do something
with you. So that's a cool give back gift, Like
if you want to feel good about getting something and
doing something for somebody else, and then my sister just
bought me one of these from a company called follow Fahlo.
(07:00):
She got me a bracelet that's a sloth bracelet, and
now I get to track a sloth in Costa Rica.
Speaker 3 (07:04):
Oh yeah yeah, you love that.
Speaker 2 (07:06):
Yeah, so I chet her names es Marlda and I
get to check up on her all the time. And
another cool give back gift because it's helping these conservation
efforts because sloughs are one of the critically endangered. You
can track a penguin or a sea turtle or a
polar bear. There's so many crazy things on there. But
that company is really cool and there's an app so
you can watch your little animal.
Speaker 3 (07:25):
All right, so cute, I'm met. So it's ring trueco
dot com. And they have bestie bands.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
Yeah, you can wear them with your best friend.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
And okay, these are so cute.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
We did.
Speaker 3 (07:36):
I feel like I wanted to get one, and I
wear one and my daughter where's one? Except for I
don't know the size of these? Are these Like.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
They're like here, you can try these on. They're like
they fit pretty normal. They're a little stretchy, so they
just kind of like slide on, but they kind of
act as like fidget rings. I like to kind of
mess with them too.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
Oh that's really cute. I want to get one. I
did a daughter, I did a ring. True, dang does
this count as this isn't for my closet, so discounts.
I don't have to sell anything to buy it. Also,
it's giving.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
Back exactly, it's a give back gift. I did like
a Strength by Morgan bracelet with them too, which is
also really cool.
Speaker 3 (08:06):
Where is it.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
It's on the bracelet side. So there's rings, there's bracelets.
They have a few different things on there, but well, yeah,
so cool gifts to give back. This helps in your
theory of like trying to do things a little bit
more sustainably, so you can feel good about both of those.
Speaker 3 (08:20):
I did not know you did this. That's so cool.
Speaker 2 (08:22):
Yeah did you post about it?
Speaker 3 (08:24):
I missed it.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
I posted out my story. So it's okay, like those
only say twenty four.
Speaker 3 (08:27):
Okay, so they're Strength by Morgan. Wow, Okay, there's multiple Yeah, okay,
so there's jack.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
My favorite color is blue and purple.
Speaker 3 (08:37):
Teal jade stone.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
Yeah they didn't like they did too?
Speaker 3 (08:44):
Yeah cute.
Speaker 2 (08:45):
So just like ways that you can help feel good
about and like get your friend something or something for you.
But yeah, all in that same theory of what you're
working with. Okay, favorite book, I don't have one. I'll
admit I really don't read books. You can do every
you can do. Recently, I'm really bad about reading me.
Speaker 3 (09:02):
Right now, I'm reading We Were the Lucky Ones, which
is has already been made into a Hulu special, and
I saw Mike D's wife Kelsey post about it. She
said it was such a good book she couldn't put
it down. And I'm on a World War two kick.
And it's because I'm massive of the air because so good, well,
and lots of other things. I've just been watching a
lot of World War two type things, and so I'll
(09:23):
go with that since that's my current read, We Were
the Lucky Ones, and I want to finish the book
and then start the Hulu series.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
Who's it by the book?
Speaker 3 (09:32):
I have to look it up? Hold on, Okay, it's
just I literally Kelsey post about it, and I trust her,
and so we were the Lucky Ones. Let me see,
I didn't think I had heard about that one. That's well,
of course, now it just pulls up the TV show.
But I'll look up the book. If you don't have
a book.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
No, I wish. I mean I have a favorite book
of all time. It's The World Is Blank, a book
about hope by Mark Manson. It's a really good one.
But I I genuinely just am not a big reader.
They give me headaches. I wish I.
Speaker 3 (10:03):
Could Georgia Hunter.
Speaker 2 (10:05):
Oh nice? Is it fictional?
Speaker 3 (10:07):
Yes, it's fiction, got it? So, but you know it's
believable because it's likely what people families, some love stories
like that's probably some of it's what really was what
it was like for people. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
So did you watch The New Look also on Apple
TV Plus because some of it that's World War two? Yeah,
and really interesting because that's based on a true story.
Speaker 3 (10:30):
Also, right, I have not finished that, but thank you
for the reminder. I feel like we talked about it
last time. Maybe it was on here, and there's just
so many things to get wrapped up along with the fashion.
Yeah yeah, but I did like that show, so I'm
thankful for the reminder.
Speaker 2 (10:46):
Yeah. Okay, So favorite item you're using right now? Oh?
Speaker 3 (10:52):
I just got some DIBs makeup in the mail, and
I don't know who sent it to me, Like literally
can't figure it out.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
Is it Did it come to the studio? No?
Speaker 3 (11:00):
And that's what I was trying to find out. I
was like, wait, was this in a box that has
dropped off at the studio because Morgan cleaned out all
of our mail and I got a bunch of boxes.
But no, it was sent to my mail. I have
a mailbox at the UPS store. Oh you do, just
so that stuff's not mailed to my house.
Speaker 2 (11:15):
That makes sense, And that's probably say for them what
I do.
Speaker 3 (11:19):
So I'm like, because it's not it's not a PO box,
it's a it's like their address, and then you're you're
you put it's like UPS Store blah blah blah, uh
number two two nine, Yeah, and then that's my number.
So stuff will get sent there. And this DIPS was
sent there. And Jackie has told me. Jackie who works
(11:41):
with us, she talked about DIBs on my podcast over
Christmas about how much she loved it. But it stands
for like desert island beauty, like if you could only
take one item to the desert island, like what would
it be? And so she's created the founder, which she
done is she's created like dual sticks so on one end,
(12:04):
it's like contour. On the other end, it's blush, and
you just need that one stick and you'll get two products.
And so if you would only take that one item
to bang more bang.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
For your buck, that's a cool concept. Wait, it's so
Wait And is the co founder the one that's married
to she looks a lot like the wife of Kevin Jonas.
Speaker 3 (12:26):
I don't. I know she's from Austin, but.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
I don't know why. And the picture that is the
least posted online here.
Speaker 3 (12:32):
It's co founded by Courtney Shields and the CEO is
Jeff Lee, but I believe Yeah, they're from Austin.
Speaker 2 (12:41):
Okay, yeah, so not Kevin Jonas's wife. But in that
picture on the website, it definitely looked like her a.
Speaker 3 (12:45):
Little bit and threw me off, which would make sense
because I think, is she working? Is she like?
Speaker 2 (12:50):
I think she's a yeah, so oh it says here. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (12:54):
I just went to their website and Austin original we
were based in Courtney's hometown of Austin, Texas. And I
don't know who sent it to me, but I just
placed an order for two other things, so well, that
doesn't count as close by the way. But I loved
the stuff so much, but I think it's a little
bit a shade off for my color palette.
Speaker 2 (13:17):
Okay, God, so I.
Speaker 3 (13:18):
Went online and got what I think it would be
a better shade for me based on now that I
know my color palette, which is cool summer. And I'm
so excited to get it in the mail.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
Okay, it's to give me up time.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
I'm yeah, it's goes on so smooth. And they had
these great brushes that like blend everything in. Oh that's genius.
Speaker 2 (13:38):
Well, shout out to your secret admirer that thing you did.
Speaker 3 (13:41):
Yeah, love it.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
That's a good product. Okay. Well, somebody did ask me
if it was worth the dice in air rap and
I'm obsessed with it, but I don't.
Speaker 3 (13:52):
Know that it's worth it so expensive.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
Yeah, And this is what I'll say is I think
it's worth it if you can treat yourself and like
you're in that place and you feel good about buying it.
Speaker 3 (14:01):
I would not go into debt for it. No, I wouldn't, no, no.
Speaker 2 (14:05):
No, And if like I think you, I think this
person who asked me asked if they're like they're on
a budget, and if you are I don't think it's
worth that. I think it's really awesome and it does
eliminate some time, and it gives you a lot of
volume and gives you this kind of cool look to
your hair. But I don't know that it's worth it
for but you.
Speaker 3 (14:22):
Can work to shaving it. Like. I just wouldn't be like,
oh okay, I'll get it and pay it off in
a few months.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
No. Yeah, no, if you can't pay for it outright
and it's like a treat for yourself, I wouldn't do it.
It's not great enough for that.
Speaker 3 (14:34):
So yeah, but I do love it.
Speaker 2 (14:36):
It does give me some like crazy Dolly Parton hair,
And every time I do it and I go out
in public, I get at least one compliment from a stranger.
It's like, your hair is amazing.
Speaker 3 (14:43):
Oh, that's awesome.
Speaker 2 (14:44):
I think it's just volume. Everybody loves volume.
Speaker 3 (14:46):
We just chopped all my hair off, so you did it.
Speaker 2 (14:48):
Looks really good.
Speaker 3 (14:50):
Thanks.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
You tell me you needed a change.
Speaker 3 (14:52):
I needed a change. Yeah, And I'm like trying to
put it back in a little ponytail. Look how small
my ponytail nob is.
Speaker 2 (14:58):
So it's like a little nub, looks like.
Speaker 3 (15:01):
A little my Rottweiler Josie. Yeah, I had for a
long time. She had a little nubtail and I love note.
This reminds me of like my little nubtail.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
It's cute though. I like it, and it's summer. It's
a great fresh cut for a netmar it's about to
be hot out.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
I feel it feels refreshing.
Speaker 2 (15:19):
So and the dupe perfume of the perfume that you
bought me what is it called lay labo And I
loved it, but after I used all of yours. You
got it for me for my thirtieth birthday, and after
I used it all, I was like, oh, I really
want this. Went online and so this is like one
of those where I was like, okay, I can't justify
like two hundred dollars on a bigger bottle. And so
(15:40):
I found a doupe of it and it's been amazing.
It smells just like it and it's twenty dollars.
Speaker 3 (15:45):
Yeah, that's the it's the target, right, did you say it?
Speaker 2 (15:47):
Yeah, you can find that target. I bought it on Amazon.
I think it is pronounced cream. I think it's technically
like a male's perfume, but I think la Lavo is
kind of like that too, where it's unisex.
Speaker 3 (15:58):
Yeah. Some a lot of Lai Lavo stuff is like masculine.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
Yeah, but I still love the smell of it. Helld on,
I gotta find it. But uh you I was only
twenty five dollars or and it was a huge bottle
and I was like, this is amazing.
Speaker 3 (16:11):
So yeah, there's a lot of good perfume dubes out there. See.
Speaker 2 (16:14):
I really appreciate if you if there is something like, say,
this person really wants the Dyson air app. I do
think there's dupes of the dice in air rap and
you can.
Speaker 3 (16:23):
Get I know, I think the technology about the dyce
in is that it's less damaging to your hair and
stuff like that, and technology like that is expensive. So
that's where you know, it's like sometimes the cheaper stuff,
I know, which I have the dice and stuff and
the cheaper stuff, and I'm like, I don't know, I'm
(16:45):
just learning. I try to minimize quality. Yeah, but one
of my favorite tools is a cheap tool from Amazon,
that Mermaid thing, the like three prong whatever, the crimp kind. Yeah,
and I'm like, this is my favorite tool at the moment.
But I have no idea that damn just doing my hair.
Speaker 2 (17:01):
I know it's hard. It's so hard. I will say though,
there were people who wrote me about the Shark one,
and the Shark is significantly more or less expensive. I
think you could go with a Shark and not have
to do the Dyson air wrap. People did love it.
So this the perfume that's a dupe of the Labo
is Cremo. It's by Palo Santo and I got it
on Amazon for twenty three dollars versus two and forty.
(17:25):
What'd you say?
Speaker 3 (17:25):
It's by Palo Santo's the brand. Yes, I feel.
Speaker 2 (17:28):
Okay, yeah, Cremo, Palo Santo. It even looks fancy.
Speaker 3 (17:34):
So okay, the.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
More you know, those are the products we are and
things that we're loving. Right now, Okay, we're gonna take
a quick break and I guess some more to talk about,
all right. So I've been really proud of myself, like
really ever since I bought a home, but just doing
stuff at home in the work, and I bet you
can relate to this now, especially in this new season
of your life. But over the weekend I planted two
(17:58):
new trees and these were fifteen Alan trees that I
loaded up in my jeep by myself, got home and
planted them all myself. I will admit man in uniform
did help me take him to the backyard, but I
wouldn't let him help me do the rest because I'm
still learning to accept help. But I was really proud
that I got all that done in my garden, and
(18:18):
everything looks so amazing right now.
Speaker 3 (18:21):
It really proud when you do it yourself. I agree.
I loaded up barrels of pine needles, went to home depot,
loaded them up. I mean I had to like squish
them in my car because these barrels are so big,
and I bought four. You pre pay at the register, yeah,
and then you drive around to this truck that has
(18:43):
them all yeah, like an eighteen wheeler, like the it's
like without the part of the truck that drives, like
what do they call that? The just like I don't know,
the big box, yes, the big box thing. So they're
all filled up inside. And then you get around and
he pulled out four, and I'm like, shoot, I do
not think that's gonna fit. But I'd already paid for it,
and I didn't want to make two t yep. So
I school I should get all in my car, but
(19:03):
it broke a bunch of them. It like squished everything.
So the back of my car is such a mess.
But I scattered it all by myself, and I gotta say,
it just feels really really good.
Speaker 2 (19:13):
It's really exhausting. While it's happening, You're like, dang, you know,
I could use help, But I think once it's over,
you kind of sit there and you just feel really
proud of yourself.
Speaker 3 (19:21):
Yep.
Speaker 2 (19:22):
Have you been having a lot of that in this
kind of season of life right now?
Speaker 3 (19:25):
Yeah, I've been having a lot where I have to
figure it out, especially now that I might sell my house,
which we'll touch on. I guess we're going to talk
about the bird or we just played the clip from
the Bird.
Speaker 2 (19:32):
The It'll be in the bit so you can talk
because I actually do have a question and fall about it,
so you can totally bring it up.
Speaker 3 (19:37):
Okay, So this is okay, where do I start. I'm
trying to make it like really concise because it's like, well,
when we first got divorced, I probably should have sold
the house then because that's just been easier to like
sell it and split it. But then I decided, well,
I want to keep it for the kids, which I
(19:59):
think was the right move as well. But I think
the kids would have adjusted fine. They've acclimated really well.
And I'm not just saying that, but I think Ben
and I have been proactive at working really hard at
making it an easy transition for the kids. And here
we are a year later, and I still live in
the home, and I'm finally ready to sell it, and
(20:21):
I have such peace about it. And it was when
I went to randomly look at an open house, like
I've just been sort of thinking about selling my house
for this entire year, but no part of me felt
good about it, Like it just seemed overwhelming and dante
and like, I'll just stay here for three to four
years or when the kids are older, and then I'll
sell it. But really the best move is for me
(20:44):
to sell it. And randomly, this house down the street
from you went up for like an open house. So
I called Caitlin because we were already talking about maybe
going on a walk or something, I don't know, and
I just said, hey, how about instead we just pop
on over to this open house. She was like, great,
I love that. So she went with me and when
we went and at the backyard, I first thing I see,
and there's lots of trees and there's this tiny little
(21:06):
red cardinal. It's not like, you know, it wasn't easy
to spot this bird. And I saw it instantly, and
it stayed there for a very very very long time.
And it was an open house. There was tons of people.
So even this little kid like ran out and was
like screaming in the backyard and I'm like, don't don't
fly away, mom, don't go, and the bird just stayed
put like it wasn't phased. And normally birds fly away
(21:28):
when there's noise or somebody running towards it. So something
just came over me like this weird. I don't call
it weird, but this unexplainable piece, I guess, a piece
that surpasses all understanding is the only way that I
can put it about. I'm moving. I know that I'm moving.
I'm putting my house on the market, and I am moving.
(21:50):
So it wasn't that I saw my mom the bird,
the cardinal and thought, oh, I'm buying this house, which
I may, but it my my ducks aren't really in
a row necessarily to buy this house at this moment,
they may want a faster buyer. Like I literally had
nothing done at my house or nothing ready to be
on the market. I just randomly went to this open house.
(22:12):
But what the bird showed me was that I'm putting
my house in the market. So I'm now I've got
a punch list. Like there's I've I took a bunch
of pictures down during the voices. There's a lot of
holes in the wall, and so I need to have
those filled in. I need to have the walls painted.
My dog has scratched, like the back door. There's some
light fixtures that are broken that need to be replaced,
(22:33):
just little punchless things that if you want to list
your house on the market, you make it more desirable
by investing just tiny things to fix it up. Which paint.
My realator was like, paint will do wonders. And so
there's some places I need to fresh into, some things up.
But now I mean, I'm I'm actively pursuing that punchless
and going to put my house on the market. Because
I saw the bird. I see, I think it's not
(22:55):
just because I saw the bird. The bird gave me
this piece that came over me and like this voice
that was like, it is time. Your kids are fine.
Everyone is going to be okay, and selling the house
will be so much better for you. It's going to
be less stress because I bought this house as a
married person. It is a home that I feel like
(23:16):
would be very helpful if I had a partner to
help take care of. It's a lot for me. Yeah,
and so I want to downsize.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
No, I totally understand. Even when you were talking about
on the show and talking about it now, I think
it being coupled with that feeling that you got is
what makes it even that much more emotional for you,
because that feeling. You can't make that up. No, you
can't sit there and be like, yes, I saw a
cardinal and I get it. We talk about the birds
a lot, and I understand that is one hundred percent
(23:43):
of thing that a lot of people have experienced. But
when you couple that with that feeling that you experienced,
there is not anything there's no science, there is no
anything in this world that is going to make that
make sense to anybody else. But you felt it, and
that's all that matters. You felt that feeling, and.
Speaker 3 (24:01):
Yet I heard those words yeah and I'm like, okay,
you felt that way.
Speaker 2 (24:04):
Afterwards, what I'm going to do.
Speaker 3 (24:06):
Maybe it will be that house that would be awesome.
It ended up being a lot better in person when
we went to see it. But also maybe it's just
that that's what I needed to do in that day
to realize and have the affirmation, the confirmation, the piece
that like, okay, I'm listing my home.
Speaker 2 (24:24):
Do you feel like too? It could have provided some
closure in a way, like that feeling that you got
there came over you was almost like closure.
Speaker 3 (24:33):
Yeah, like this is okay to let go of this house.
And to circle back to the original point of bringing
this up, I've never owned a home just me or
sold a home just me. My first home that I
ever owned was six months after we got married. We
bought our first house, and we've moved multiple times. But
(24:56):
it's been always handled all the paperwork and the moves
and yeah, you have experts, realters, people that knowlander. You know,
they know what they're doing, so they handle most of it.
But still it's a lot of phone calls, even the
punch list, trying to figure out, yeah, the paint, the door,
how am I going to fix this? Things to yard
is a big thing presentation when people are coming by
(25:16):
having everything looking good. And so yeah, I'm having to
learn a lot. It's like a new a new thing
that I probably took for granted that Ben did so
much of that when we moved. He definitely did the
lions share. And so I'm greatful that it's why I
(25:37):
can do it. Yeah I can do it.
Speaker 2 (25:38):
Yes, I'm way through your divorce, but how I but
you get to experience that in a new season of
your life, that you get to have this that you
didn't have it before but now you do.
Speaker 3 (25:47):
And that I understand all the numbers involved because a
year ago I didn't even know how to log into
my checking account, and because that's just something I chose
to not be part of. It's not like oh Ben
was like I'm going to take care of this. I'm no.
He actually probably would have appreciated more of a partner
in that. But from day one of our marriage, I
(26:08):
just was like, Nope, I'm not good with money. I
don't want anything to do with it. So that's on you.
And now I can log in and I can look
at the numbers, and I can see how much a
house is going for and understand the interest rate, and
then I can look at what mine would sell for
and I can make a decision of like, oh wow,
if we do this and I downsize, this can go
(26:30):
towards this. And like all the numbers, I have access
to them, I can log in. It all makes sense.
I know I'm making a smart, empowering, wise decision that
for some it might look like or maybe it was
just me in my head, but it may look the
downsize may look like a little like a step backwards
in a way, but for me, it's such a step forward.
Speaker 2 (26:49):
It's a huge step forward because you're going to be
saving money, you're going to be saving time, and yay,
like it's a step forward. Even if it feels like
it's smaller.
Speaker 3 (26:58):
Yes, which I don't size of any thing doesn't ever
matter to me. In fact, the house that we're in
has always been a bit much for me. I only
bought it because it was the house that was sale
for sale closest to my dad and we were in
the middle of a pandemic and I needed to be
next to my dad's assisted living place, so it was
close to that and that sort of just worked out.
(27:20):
But I've always lived in a more quaint house. You know,
I always lived in East Nashville. Even when we lived
in North Carolina, we had we lived downtown in homes
that were like nineteen thirties. Like, I like a quaint feel.
And you know, Ben, I told Ben that I was
going to be putting the house in the market, and
he was really proud of me as well. And the
house he moved into is a little more quaint than ours.
(27:43):
And he told me when I told him the square
footage of the house I'm looking at now, He's like,
because honestly, I got to say, you're gonna love it.
He's like, I like having the kids kind of closer.
It forces more creates more opportunities for.
Speaker 2 (27:59):
Interaction.
Speaker 3 (28:00):
Yeah, and so and not that we have this like crazy.
I mean, size of houses is all relative, right, because
you know, someone else might be like, oh, yeah, this
kind of house is big, and that class house is big,
who knows. But for us, this was a bigger house
than one we've been in the last few years, and
especially what we came from in East Nashville. And so
(28:21):
I'm excited to go back to quaint because I want
to create more closeness with the kids. It's not like
I have that much longer with them, but yeah, it
is empowering and I'm going to fix some of the
stuff myself.
Speaker 2 (28:32):
Also proud of you. Thanks, it's great. See, hey, look
at us, two ladies taking care of their homes.
Speaker 3 (28:38):
That's right.
Speaker 2 (28:39):
Who are we?
Speaker 3 (28:40):
I don't know?
Speaker 2 (28:42):
Okay. I didn't want to ask really quick before we
dive into like a break and the rest of this.
There was a listener that wanted to know, how do
you first discover that your parents were the birds? Like,
how did that start?
Speaker 3 (28:53):
Well, because my mom died in twenty fourteen at my
sister's house. We did hospice care there and she we
still like this makeshift this room in my sister's master bedroom,
and right outside my sister's master was, Oh, we don't
say master anymore. Primary Okay, that's the PC.
Speaker 2 (29:08):
Man in uniform actually just told me this, Why what changed?
Speaker 3 (29:12):
Master implies that you are it's the master's room because
there's slaves.
Speaker 2 (29:17):
I didn't even know that that's what that came from.
Speaker 3 (29:20):
I mean, I think we were just so used to
calling it that that. Yeah. It just was like, oh,
that makes sense. But when you for certain parts of
the country, Yeah, if you look at the origin of
it and the root, then yeah, I did not know
why now yeah, so that is interesting up there for me,
but I know now it's the primary room. And outside
(29:41):
of my sister's primary room there's this beautiful tree. And
it was early in the morning, the sun was coming up.
It was just like, I don't know, it couldn't have
looked more beautiful outside and felt more beautiful. It's like
this beautiful Texas fall morning. And after she passed away,
they're just was this red cardinal And my sister's like,
(30:02):
I don't really see cardinals in my yard and while
this red cardinal appeared in the tree, and so we
both were like, wow, that's mom. And it's often been
said that cardinals represent that, so it was ironic. So
that's why we thought that. And we've just rolled with
(30:23):
it and it's been very special. And then my dad
died in twenty twenty one, and had I had it
was probably twenty twenty. I got obsessed with birds, my
bird feeder and puzzles, and I would sit in my
kitchen counter the bird bingo bird bingo bird like I
would just sit there for hours with coffee. I do puzzles.
(30:44):
I mean people could join me, but I also could
just sit there myself. I'd wake up and go to
my puzzle table. Before I went to bed, I would
go to my puzzle table. I think I had a
birthday party that year and we just worked on my
puzzle like it was interesting. I later learned it was
part of my depression. I was like, what, how could
this be depression that I learned how it shows up
(31:05):
in different ways. Depression is not just being in your
bedroom with the curtains drawn, you know, Like I was
functioning as a depressed version.
Speaker 2 (31:14):
Well depression and grief, don't you know.
Speaker 3 (31:17):
Yeah, well there was grieving other things that were happening.
My dad hadn't died yet, but I had other things
that the puzzle was definitely helping me. Just in the birds,
it was distracting me from certain things in life. And
then when my dad died, and because I had been
playing bird bingo and I had a bird chart of
like popular birds in North Carolina, I know for a
(31:37):
fact a blue jay. At least when my eyeballs had
been on my backyard, I had not had a blue
jay visit my feeter. And then my dad died and
the next day because we got oh it may have
been that day or the next day because my dad
passed away at the hospital. And then we all got
(31:57):
home and I had a blue jay. It visited my feeder.
It was crazy, and I was like, well, there you
have it. I finally got a blue jay, and this
must be my dad. And my dad had blue eyes,
and so it just makes sense. And for me, who
knows if it's really them, but it just really warms
my heart. When a car a red cardinal or a
brown one doesn't matter my mom's either. When a Cardinal
(32:19):
and a blue jay show up to my feeder together,
I think, I'm like, they're on a little date.
Speaker 2 (32:24):
And if this helps you feel close to them, what
does it matter? Yeah, haters, Yeah, I think it's great.
Speaker 3 (32:31):
Okay, well thanks for shing that's the origin of the
blue jay.
Speaker 2 (32:34):
At least feel safe and sharing that here.
Speaker 3 (32:35):
Yeah, I don't. I don't mind. Again, I probably before
I lost my parents, but I'm like, Okay, this is stupid.
Speaker 2 (32:43):
But it's not stupid though, because it right it allows
you to feel connected to them, and I think anything
that allows you to feel connected to something or someone
that is no longer here.
Speaker 3 (32:52):
You do it exactly, So rock on. Thank you?
Speaker 2 (32:55):
That am I allowed to the other? Okay, we'll be
right back, all right. So how can TV shows? I've
been on like a crazy crime TV show kick lately,
watching like Tracker and so helped me Todd on Paramount Plus,
and then I started a White Collar on Netflix, which
is an older show. Have you ever watched White Collar?
Speaker 3 (33:16):
I watched it. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (33:17):
Did you watch like all of it or just some
of the seasons?
Speaker 3 (33:19):
Yeah, I think Ben and I watched it. I feel
like I watched it all.
Speaker 2 (33:22):
It's really good. I know it's older, so I know
it's not like a brand new show or anything. But
I've been addicted to it. I think I'm on season
three now. That's how good it is.
Speaker 3 (33:31):
So yeah, white Collar, I recommend that in like.
Speaker 2 (33:33):
Yeah, I'm just in a very crime show type kick
not CSI type style. They're all pretty like tame and
they have comedy in them. I like comedy.
Speaker 3 (33:42):
White Collars on Netflix, Yes, it got.
Speaker 2 (33:45):
Added on there. I think it was a situation like
suits or Suits got added and a lot of people
started seeing it there. I think white Collar was similar.
Speaker 3 (33:51):
Suits is another good one.
Speaker 2 (33:52):
It is so good. Another crime kind of type show lawyers.
I love those. We also both watched If you have
any things that you want I recommend too, let me know.
But I know we both watched Quiet on Set. Oh yeah,
Wild on Max. Yeah, all about the Nickelodeon stuff, And
I think if you grew up watching Nickelodeon, you should
watch it. It will give you a different perspective on
(34:13):
your childhood shows.
Speaker 3 (34:14):
Yeah. And then also I watched that with Stashira because
she was really interested, and I questioned whether or not
I should do that, but again, she's almost seventeen, and
it was a good conversation starter with her on certain
things because I was able to point out, Hey, do
you see what they're explaining right here? This is literally
the definition of grooming. And she looked at me, She's like,
I know what grooming is, mom, And I'm like, okay, fine.
(34:36):
But either way, she's watching it, she's paying attention because,
like I said, but look at this, this is not
just the child that was getting groomed. They were grooming
the parents and building wedges between people like it was
a very drawn out, manipulative, calculated situation that took a
lot of time and patience for the predator and so
(34:58):
sometimes it's happening and you don't even realize that it's happening,
and it's happening to not just children, but adults too,
So you know, that's I think it's just important to
understand how quickly it can happen and how someone can
just build the trust, build the trust, build the trust,
build the trust to where then you're not paying attention
to major red flags. And it brought up just some
(35:22):
good conversations with us. So I mean, I definitely know
your children if you want them to watch it, because
it's heavy stuff, but it could bring up some good conversation.
Speaker 2 (35:31):
Yeah, And in Stash here, I feel like Too is
a big dreamer and she's an entrepreneur and she's gonna.
Speaker 3 (35:36):
Have a lot. I just wanted to act and do
all that, and like, good thing, I didn't let you
do that. Start that at a young young age. If
you want to do it when you're older, go for it.
Speaker 2 (35:44):
But I know now I look at all the really
protective parents who are very helicopter of their like their
Hollywood kids, I'm like, you know, bravo to you, because
that probably wasn't easy in the space that this was
all happening, so crazy. That's another one to watch. Any
others that you want to add to the list.
Speaker 3 (36:01):
Gosh, I watched that the latest, and then I'm working
my way through Manhunt right now on Apple Plus, which
is about the shooting of Abraham Lincoln. It's following Booth.
Speaker 2 (36:10):
Is it fictional just based on no? Or is it?
Speaker 3 (36:12):
I mean, I'm sure they had to take some I
mean it's it's a scripted based on history.
Speaker 2 (36:18):
So fictional based on a true story, like with actors.
Speaker 3 (36:22):
Right, because they definitely had to take some liberties with
who knows certain interactions and they're acting it out. But
I feel like this is one of the another one
of those shows where I'm like I or I wish
this is how we learned things in school.
Speaker 2 (36:37):
Yeah, make it a little bit easier on us.
Speaker 3 (36:40):
Masters of the Air, Gosh, that one was so good.
Man Hunt, Yeah, I'm just so much easier learning about
World War Two.
Speaker 2 (36:49):
I'm making man I'm watching Masters of the Year for
a second time. I'm making man in Uniform washing because
I loved it that much. So that's happening. Any update
on your dating situations that was a hot topic or
anything you want to share or not share. That's also
an option before we jump out of here.
Speaker 3 (37:07):
No, I don't think I have any update. That's the update.
It's I think. Didn't I show you some pictures of
some people that were showing up on my hand?
Speaker 2 (37:17):
I'm not sharing anything on you, but didn't I show
you pictures?
Speaker 3 (37:21):
It's very unfortunate. I don't know. I'm like, what are
they really posting these pictures? I just don't know what.
Speaker 2 (37:27):
There's a lot of frogs out in the world.
Speaker 3 (37:29):
Why don't or a lot of frogs. It's their picture,
like they're how they are presenting themselves and things they say.
I'm like, that just means in general, that's not your
prints a frog. Yeah, because one guy was actually really cute,
but I could not get over some of the pictures
he posted, which that's not me being particular. I know,
(37:52):
I can tell if you're gonna do you think it's
okay to post stuff like that? It's just weird and
I'm like not interested.
Speaker 2 (38:01):
I will tell you. When I started really focusing on
the on the app profiles, that really changed the type
of guys that I was dating. I really started honing
in and not allowing certain things to come through, even
prompts the way they would answer prompts. If there wasn't
a lot of effort in the prompts, I was like,
we're not doing this.
Speaker 3 (38:17):
Oh well, shoot, I didn't put a lot of effort
in my broms. I well, so it took me. The
guys might be like, eugh, she doesn't care.
Speaker 2 (38:23):
I did revamp mine first before I started like going
after theirs. I revamped mine to be pretty like serious,
still a little bit like hint of flirty, but pretty serious,
like I'm looking for something serious. I want something out
of this. And then I made sure all the matches
that I was getting were very intentional, like they were
intentional about their props, intentional about the pictures they chose,
all of it.
Speaker 3 (38:43):
I don't I'm not going to talk about this stuff
on the main show, but yet I guess. But I
did go I'll talk about a day I did go
on where it was interesting, like he was honest and
open with me about how he's like, his experiences haven't
been that great with women on the app, similar to
sort of what I'm experiencing. He had similar stories and
(39:07):
he's just like, yeah, it's rough out here. I'm like, hey,
I can't appreciate that. And I actually really do like
this person a lot, and I don't think it's my person,
but you know, he's one that definitely could be. It's
not like one of the ones where it's I just think.
Speaker 2 (39:24):
Not the mirror selfies and turtles picks.
Speaker 3 (39:27):
Yeah, like, here's a pick of my back muscles. I don't.
I mean, he was so cute until that moment. I'm
like why why And then he chose to put it
under the like they have prompts for the photos, and
he said something like caption this, yeah, Like tell me
what you'd say about that, because you're just begging for
somebody like, oh, I love your back, I.
Speaker 2 (39:50):
Love the back muffle or I could never, I could never.
Speaker 3 (39:55):
I should I should caption it. But then if you caption,
that means you're sort of matching it is. If you
choose to comment and you're interacting on Hinge, then that
means they think you like them.
Speaker 2 (40:06):
You know, one time I was truly savage when I
had matched with a guy on Hinge and he had
like texting me, but he started he started sending me
like snapchat type photos.
Speaker 3 (40:19):
I don't know what that means, like selfie like pictures.
My kids do have done Snapchat before, or my daughter
at least, and they just send pictures of their forehead
and the ceiling and they're like, what up.
Speaker 2 (40:28):
No, it was like like he'd be like laying in
bed or different things, and I literally just stopped responding
and he saw me out and he goes, hey, we
matched on and I was like and he was like,
but you stopped talking to me. And I was like, uh, well,
you probably did something and he goes, no, I didn't,
And I go, can you remind me your name? And
he did, and Amy, I'm not kidding you. I couldn't
(40:50):
contain it. I said, well, sir, you were sending me
very weird photos and that's just not for me. I
loked away, like, I wasn't trying to goats you, but
are you trying to send me like Snapchat weird in
your bed photos. We haven't even met each other. Yeah,
this is the moment we were meeting.
Speaker 3 (41:07):
That's why.
Speaker 2 (41:08):
So I get it. Sometimes you just gotta be a
little savage though, too, and just kind of throw it
back at him and maybe at least it helps him
with the next girl.
Speaker 3 (41:16):
No, Well, I mean I guess if I ran into
him maybe, but I haven't had that interaction. I'm not
gonna be savage online for no reason. I'm just going
to exit out by Ye.
Speaker 2 (41:23):
You can do that too, but if you get you know,
if you end up in person with somebody, there's a
pro tip.
Speaker 3 (41:29):
Yeah. I'm just like, I'm busy, you know. Yeah, I'm true.
I mean I don't want to be you also, don't
laugh too, but I'm okay being alone right now.
Speaker 2 (41:39):
That's okay too. Yeah, a lot of exciting things happening,
and you're in a fun new season of your life
that you've never gotten to be in before.
Speaker 3 (41:46):
Yeah, Like I'm gonna be painting and fixing lights.
Speaker 2 (41:49):
Well, when you put it that way, I'm not quite sure.
All right, y'all. We will see you guys later. Amy,
thank you for joining me.
Speaker 3 (41:55):
Yeah, thanks for having me.
Speaker 2 (41:55):
Tell the people where they can find you. Hear you
all that good stuff.
Speaker 3 (41:58):
At Radio Amy, And you can listen to me on
four Things with Amy Brown, where you listen to podcasts.
I do a bonus episode every Tuesday. It's called The
Fifth Thing with my friend Kat that's a therapist and
that's always fun for me at least. And then Thursday
episodes are more interview style or sometimes just me talking.
I haven't done many solo episodes recently, but I did
(42:22):
just have a thought I need to probably start doing
a few more solo episodes because I used to do
those back in the day, but now I've just been
doing interviews. So yeah, four Things b Brown. Hello Amy
Brown bringing back at rating me on socials. Yep.
Speaker 2 (42:33):
All right, we'll see you guys later.
Speaker 3 (42:34):
Have a great weekend. Bye.
Speaker 1 (42:36):
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Speaker 2 (00:08):
Happy weekend, everybody. I'm joined by Amy.
Speaker 3 (00:11):
How are you am? I put up?
Speaker 2 (00:13):
We are diving in like right after the show, so
we're just gonna like get going super fast. The segments
that happened on the show this week that you're gonna
catch up on if you listen to part two. We've
got Bobby's wife who recorded him sleeping. It's crazy audio.
Amy saw a cardinal and it was a big sign
for her and something happened in her life. And I
had a man in uniform. Update. Eddie's package got stolen
(00:35):
and there's a lot of drama around it. Lunchbox claims
that Abby stole his shirt, totally separate from the package
stolen drama. And also Lunchbox may have a music disorder
and Eddie is claiming to that he's gonna go get
tested for a kidney donation. Also, we did do blind karaoke.
I cannot include it here podcast copyright, but we did
(00:56):
put the full thing up on YouTube for you guys,
so you can go check that out. But that's what
happened on the show this week. If you want to
catch up. In part to Amy, We're going to like
just go into some stuff here. So inspired from some
listeners nine year old Jasper and Brittany and Tennessee were
asking some of our favorites on things. So I just
want to talk about random favorites. Your favorite place to
(01:17):
shop right now?
Speaker 3 (01:18):
Oh, I was literally at quin like before we were recording,
because I was trying to somebody asked me where my
shirt was from, and I was trying to get the
link for them, and it's from Quinns dot com. So
I have on this like white and blue striped buttoned down,
you know, like a linen yeah shirt, And so I
was trying to figure out the link because my friend
was like, oh, I want that, And so I'm at
(01:39):
Quinns dot com. I feel like I haven't been shopping
that much. In fact, I don't feel like I haven't.
I know that I haven't been because it was one
of those things I decided at the beginning of the
year that I wasn't going to shop unless I sold
things on Poshmar equivalent to the price of something I
wanted to buy.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
Oh, that's a big move.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
And so it's been it's not one in, one out,
because one thing's on Poshmark might get me, you know,
twenty bucks or something, and I might need sixty bucks,
eighty bucks, one hundred bus whatever it is that I'm getting,
you know, so I have to add up, and so
that's what I've been doing. But Quint's is actually a
really good place for that because most items, like look
at this, I got distracted when I was looking for
the shirt in this, like a swimsuit cover up. See
(02:20):
this in that Queueyeah, it's like a Maxi cover up.
But look at the price. It says one hundred and
forty eight and it's crossed out and it's forty nine
to ninety.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
Right, And it's because a good deal.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
Yeah, it's because they're one are the places, and they're
very transparent, like you can even scroll down and see
like all the like how they pass the savings on
to us, like they cut out the middleman and so
therefore we don't get the markup. I don't know, it's
kind of crazy how they do it. I don't know,
because you wish like everybody would do it like quince
q u I n ce okay, like Squints, but Quinn
(02:55):
I like it and it's cute. I I do full disclosure.
This is part is not a commercial fact. This is
like cook exciving it of organic cotton, which is the
type of Maxi dress. This says this is organic. Like
you just asked me, I had no idea and I
literally was doing that. And I do do spots for them,
but only because I've tried their stuff and I really
(03:16):
like it. Like I have a Kashmir sweater from them.
It's navy blue. I wear it to work sometimes. It's
so nice. I've never owned anything cashmere before and it
was like fifty bucks.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
Well, and I've noticed you've been wearing your blue lately.
Since blue is your power color, You've been wearing a
lot of blue.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
Navy blue is my power color and my other colors
that I determined because I had my underlying skin tone
color palette test thing done and it has helped me
realize what I need to get rid of from my closet,
which makes it easy to throw stuff on poschmark or donate.
And I also filled up a thread up box too.
Have you ever heard of that?
Speaker 2 (03:50):
No, it's thread up.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
It's like an online consignment, so there's certain requirements, but
you put it in a box and mail it off
to them, and then they handle everything for you. Like
it's almost like they're handling the quote unquote Poshmark for
you or I have to manage my own Poshmark. Yeah,
it's like they just do it all and then whatever
(04:13):
they sell, they send you a check. And then if
a certain amount of time goes by and it doesn't sell,
you have to work out a thing with them if
you want them to just donate it for you, or
if you want to pay to have it shipped back
or whatever. So I learned about a thread up from
George Camal who works with Dave Ramsey. Like he said
his wife used thread up, and I was like, oh,
I'm going to try that out because there's some stuff
(04:34):
that just didn't make sense to put them on Poshmark
or I guess. Once I realized that, I was like, oh,
this is a lot of work and I can just
throw this stuff in the box. So thread up is
something else that's a way to make money. There's also
I did put some clothes. I got to figure out
the name. I can't think of it right now. It's spacing,
but I think it's over in the Nation's here in Nashville.
(04:54):
I dropped off some clothes at a consignment shop because
here's the thing. Once I made this pact with my self,
it's like I had to get creative because it's like, well, shoot,
if I don't start selling some things and it doesn't
just like magically sell on Poshmark, and so I have
to get creative and so some stuff. Yeah, I'm just donating.
I saw another thing that people do for clothing as
(05:16):
like clothes swaps with their friends, as like a fun
way to save money. Yeah. It's just challenged me and
stretched me to get creative with my clothes. And I
want to fill my closet up with staples that are
my power colors, but also with staples that are going
to last forever, which is why I like that the
Quints like has a affordable cashme or sweater option because
(05:38):
that's never going to go out of style. Yeah, yeah,
you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
Yeah, you're filling out things with stuff that you can
wear repeatedly. It's not like, oh, where it wants it's
done right.
Speaker 3 (05:48):
Which I was. There was a season where I was
shopping that way, and I think it was this temporary
happiness and then it got to a point where I'm
just like looking at my closet and like this is
not this is overwhelming, and I actually don't feel happy
and I feel wasteful, and I just want to be
more strategic. I guess I guess that's what comes with
(06:10):
life and maturing.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
No, I think it's awesome. Those are some really good ones.
You know some others that I these are both like
really cool ones. They're actually jewelry ones. So Ring True Company.
I have a partnership with them, but I don't make
any money off of it. It's just a partnership. Like
I love what they're doing. They they're the rings that
people always see me wearing in the bracelets. They they
employ human trafficking survivors, and so human trafficking survivors make
(06:36):
all the jewelry. It allows them a job and a
safe place to link. Oh I love that. What's the website?
Ring True Company? Yeah. What's really cool though is their listeners.
And I found out about them because they listened to
the show and they're like, we'd love to do something
with you. So that's a cool give back gift, Like
if you want to feel good about getting something and
doing something for somebody else, and then my sister just
bought me one of these from a company called follow Fahlo.
(07:00):
She got me a bracelet that's a sloth bracelet, and
now I get to track a sloth in Costa Rica.
Speaker 3 (07:04):
Oh yeah yeah, you love that.
Speaker 2 (07:06):
Yeah, so I chet her names es Marlda and I
get to check up on her all the time. And
another cool give back gift because it's helping these conservation
efforts because sloughs are one of the critically endangered. You
can track a penguin or a sea turtle or a
polar bear. There's so many crazy things on there. But
that company is really cool and there's an app so
you can watch your little animal.
Speaker 3 (07:25):
All right, so cute, I'm met. So it's ring trueco
dot com. And they have bestie bands.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
Yeah, you can wear them with your best friend.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
And okay, these are so cute.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
We did.
Speaker 3 (07:36):
I feel like I wanted to get one, and I
wear one and my daughter where's one? Except for I
don't know the size of these? Are these Like.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
They're like here, you can try these on. They're like
they fit pretty normal. They're a little stretchy, so they
just kind of like slide on, but they kind of
act as like fidget rings. I like to kind of
mess with them too.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
Oh that's really cute. I want to get one. I
did a daughter, I did a ring. True, dang does
this count as this isn't for my closet, so discounts.
I don't have to sell anything to buy it. Also,
it's giving.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
Back exactly, it's a give back gift. I did like
a Strength by Morgan bracelet with them too, which is
also really cool.
Speaker 3 (08:06):
Where is it.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
It's on the bracelet side. So there's rings, there's bracelets.
They have a few different things on there, but well, yeah,
so cool gifts to give back. This helps in your
theory of like trying to do things a little bit
more sustainably, so you can feel good about both of those.
Speaker 3 (08:20):
I did not know you did this. That's so cool.
Speaker 2 (08:22):
Yeah did you post about it?
Speaker 3 (08:24):
I missed it.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
I posted out my story. So it's okay, like those
only say twenty four.
Speaker 3 (08:27):
Okay, so they're Strength by Morgan. Wow, Okay, there's multiple Yeah, okay,
so there's jack.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
My favorite color is blue and purple.
Speaker 3 (08:37):
Teal jade stone.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
Yeah they didn't like they did too?
Speaker 3 (08:44):
Yeah cute.
Speaker 2 (08:45):
So just like ways that you can help feel good
about and like get your friend something or something for you.
But yeah, all in that same theory of what you're
working with. Okay, favorite book, I don't have one. I'll
admit I really don't read books. You can do every
you can do. Recently, I'm really bad about reading me.
Speaker 3 (09:02):
Right now, I'm reading We Were the Lucky Ones, which
is has already been made into a Hulu special, and
I saw Mike D's wife Kelsey post about it. She
said it was such a good book she couldn't put
it down. And I'm on a World War two kick.
And it's because I'm massive of the air because so good, well,
and lots of other things. I've just been watching a
lot of World War two type things, and so I'll
(09:23):
go with that since that's my current read, We Were
the Lucky Ones, and I want to finish the book
and then start the Hulu series.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
Who's it by the book?
Speaker 3 (09:32):
I have to look it up? Hold on, Okay, it's
just I literally Kelsey post about it, and I trust her,
and so we were the Lucky Ones. Let me see,
I didn't think I had heard about that one. That's well,
of course, now it just pulls up the TV show.
But I'll look up the book. If you don't have
a book.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
No, I wish. I mean I have a favorite book
of all time. It's The World Is Blank, a book
about hope by Mark Manson. It's a really good one.
But I I genuinely just am not a big reader.
They give me headaches. I wish I.
Speaker 3 (10:03):
Could Georgia Hunter.
Speaker 2 (10:05):
Oh nice? Is it fictional?
Speaker 3 (10:07):
Yes, it's fiction, got it? So, but you know it's
believable because it's likely what people families, some love stories
like that's probably some of it's what really was what
it was like for people. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
So did you watch The New Look also on Apple
TV Plus because some of it that's World War two? Yeah,
and really interesting because that's based on a true story.
Speaker 3 (10:30):
Also, right, I have not finished that, but thank you
for the reminder. I feel like we talked about it
last time. Maybe it was on here, and there's just
so many things to get wrapped up along with the fashion.
Yeah yeah, but I did like that show, so I'm
thankful for the reminder.
Speaker 2 (10:46):
Yeah. Okay, So favorite item you're using right now? Oh?
Speaker 3 (10:52):
I just got some DIBs makeup in the mail, and
I don't know who sent it to me, Like literally
can't figure it out.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
Is it Did it come to the studio? No?
Speaker 3 (11:00):
And that's what I was trying to find out. I
was like, wait, was this in a box that has
dropped off at the studio because Morgan cleaned out all
of our mail and I got a bunch of boxes.
But no, it was sent to my mail. I have
a mailbox at the UPS store. Oh you do, just
so that stuff's not mailed to my house.
Speaker 2 (11:15):
That makes sense, And that's probably say for them what
I do.
Speaker 3 (11:19):
So I'm like, because it's not it's not a PO box,
it's a it's like their address, and then you're you're
you put it's like UPS Store blah blah blah, uh
number two two nine, Yeah, and then that's my number.
So stuff will get sent there. And this DIPS was
sent there. And Jackie has told me. Jackie who works
(11:41):
with us, she talked about DIBs on my podcast over
Christmas about how much she loved it. But it stands
for like desert island beauty, like if you could only
take one item to the desert island, like what would
it be? And so she's created the founder, which she
done is she's created like dual sticks so on one end,
(12:04):
it's like contour. On the other end, it's blush, and
you just need that one stick and you'll get two products.
And so if you would only take that one item
to bang more bang.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
For your buck, that's a cool concept. Wait, it's so
Wait And is the co founder the one that's married
to she looks a lot like the wife of Kevin Jonas.
Speaker 3 (12:26):
I don't. I know she's from Austin, but.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
I don't know why. And the picture that is the
least posted online here.
Speaker 3 (12:32):
It's co founded by Courtney Shields and the CEO is
Jeff Lee, but I believe Yeah, they're from Austin.
Speaker 2 (12:41):
Okay, yeah, so not Kevin Jonas's wife. But in that
picture on the website, it definitely looked like her a.
Speaker 3 (12:45):
Little bit and threw me off, which would make sense
because I think, is she working? Is she like?
Speaker 2 (12:50):
I think she's a yeah, so oh it says here. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (12:54):
I just went to their website and Austin original we
were based in Courtney's hometown of Austin, Texas. And I
don't know who sent it to me, but I just
placed an order for two other things, so well, that
doesn't count as close by the way. But I loved
the stuff so much, but I think it's a little
bit a shade off for my color palette.
Speaker 2 (13:17):
Okay, God, so I.
Speaker 3 (13:18):
Went online and got what I think it would be
a better shade for me based on now that I
know my color palette, which is cool summer. And I'm
so excited to get it in the mail.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
Okay, it's to give me up time.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
I'm yeah, it's goes on so smooth. And they had
these great brushes that like blend everything in. Oh that's genius.
Speaker 2 (13:38):
Well, shout out to your secret admirer that thing you did.
Speaker 3 (13:41):
Yeah, love it.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
That's a good product. Okay. Well, somebody did ask me
if it was worth the dice in air rap and
I'm obsessed with it, but I don't.
Speaker 3 (13:52):
Know that it's worth it so expensive.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
Yeah, And this is what I'll say is I think
it's worth it if you can treat yourself and like
you're in that place and you feel good about buying it.
Speaker 3 (14:01):
I would not go into debt for it. No, I wouldn't, no, no.
Speaker 2 (14:05):
No, And if like I think you, I think this
person who asked me asked if they're like they're on
a budget, and if you are I don't think it's
worth that. I think it's really awesome and it does
eliminate some time, and it gives you a lot of
volume and gives you this kind of cool look to
your hair. But I don't know that it's worth it
for but you.
Speaker 3 (14:22):
Can work to shaving it. Like. I just wouldn't be like,
oh okay, I'll get it and pay it off in
a few months.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
No. Yeah, no, if you can't pay for it outright
and it's like a treat for yourself, I wouldn't do it.
It's not great enough for that.
Speaker 3 (14:34):
So yeah, but I do love it.
Speaker 2 (14:36):
It does give me some like crazy Dolly Parton hair,
And every time I do it and I go out
in public, I get at least one compliment from a stranger.
It's like, your hair is amazing.
Speaker 3 (14:43):
Oh, that's awesome.
Speaker 2 (14:44):
I think it's just volume. Everybody loves volume.
Speaker 3 (14:46):
We just chopped all my hair off, so you did it.
Speaker 2 (14:48):
Looks really good.
Speaker 3 (14:50):
Thanks.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
You tell me you needed a change.
Speaker 3 (14:52):
I needed a change. Yeah, And I'm like trying to
put it back in a little ponytail. Look how small
my ponytail nob is.
Speaker 2 (14:58):
So it's like a little nub, looks like.
Speaker 3 (15:01):
A little my Rottweiler Josie. Yeah, I had for a
long time. She had a little nubtail and I love note.
This reminds me of like my little nubtail.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
It's cute though. I like it, and it's summer. It's
a great fresh cut for a netmar it's about to
be hot out.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
I feel it feels refreshing.
Speaker 2 (15:19):
So and the dupe perfume of the perfume that you
bought me what is it called lay labo And I
loved it, but after I used all of yours. You
got it for me for my thirtieth birthday, and after
I used it all, I was like, oh, I really
want this. Went online and so this is like one
of those where I was like, okay, I can't justify
like two hundred dollars on a bigger bottle. And so
(15:40):
I found a doupe of it and it's been amazing.
It smells just like it and it's twenty dollars.
Speaker 3 (15:45):
Yeah, that's the it's the target, right, did you say it?
Speaker 2 (15:47):
Yeah, you can find that target. I bought it on Amazon.
I think it is pronounced cream. I think it's technically
like a male's perfume, but I think la Lavo is
kind of like that too, where it's unisex.
Speaker 3 (15:58):
Yeah. Some a lot of Lai Lavo stuff is like masculine.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
Yeah, but I still love the smell of it. Helld on,
I gotta find it. But uh you I was only
twenty five dollars or and it was a huge bottle
and I was like, this is amazing.
Speaker 3 (16:11):
So yeah, there's a lot of good perfume dubes out there. See.
Speaker 2 (16:14):
I really appreciate if you if there is something like, say,
this person really wants the Dyson air app. I do
think there's dupes of the dice in air rap and
you can.
Speaker 3 (16:23):
Get I know, I think the technology about the dyce
in is that it's less damaging to your hair and
stuff like that, and technology like that is expensive. So
that's where you know, it's like sometimes the cheaper stuff,
I know, which I have the dice and stuff and
the cheaper stuff, and I'm like, I don't know, I'm
(16:45):
just learning. I try to minimize quality. Yeah, but one
of my favorite tools is a cheap tool from Amazon,
that Mermaid thing, the like three prong whatever, the crimp kind. Yeah,
and I'm like, this is my favorite tool at the moment.
But I have no idea that damn just doing my hair.
Speaker 2 (17:01):
I know it's hard. It's so hard. I will say though,
there were people who wrote me about the Shark one,
and the Shark is significantly more or less expensive. I
think you could go with a Shark and not have
to do the Dyson air wrap. People did love it.
So this the perfume that's a dupe of the Labo
is Cremo. It's by Palo Santo and I got it
on Amazon for twenty three dollars versus two and forty.
(17:25):
What'd you say?
Speaker 3 (17:25):
It's by Palo Santo's the brand. Yes, I feel.
Speaker 2 (17:28):
Okay, yeah, Cremo, Palo Santo. It even looks fancy.
Speaker 3 (17:34):
So okay, the.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
More you know, those are the products we are and
things that we're loving. Right now, Okay, we're gonna take
a quick break and I guess some more to talk about,
all right. So I've been really proud of myself, like
really ever since I bought a home, but just doing
stuff at home in the work, and I bet you
can relate to this now, especially in this new season
of your life. But over the weekend I planted two
(17:58):
new trees and these were fifteen Alan trees that I
loaded up in my jeep by myself, got home and
planted them all myself. I will admit man in uniform
did help me take him to the backyard, but I
wouldn't let him help me do the rest because I'm
still learning to accept help. But I was really proud
that I got all that done in my garden, and
(18:18):
everything looks so amazing right now.
Speaker 3 (18:21):
It really proud when you do it yourself. I agree.
I loaded up barrels of pine needles, went to home depot,
loaded them up. I mean I had to like squish
them in my car because these barrels are so big,
and I bought four. You pre pay at the register, yeah,
and then you drive around to this truck that has
(18:43):
them all yeah, like an eighteen wheeler, like the it's
like without the part of the truck that drives, like
what do they call that? The just like I don't know,
the big box, yes, the big box thing. So they're
all filled up inside. And then you get around and
he pulled out four, and I'm like, shoot, I do
not think that's gonna fit. But I'd already paid for it,
and I didn't want to make two t yep. So
I school I should get all in my car, but
(19:03):
it broke a bunch of them. It like squished everything.
So the back of my car is such a mess.
But I scattered it all by myself, and I gotta say,
it just feels really really good.
Speaker 2 (19:13):
It's really exhausting. While it's happening, You're like, dang, you know,
I could use help, But I think once it's over,
you kind of sit there and you just feel really
proud of yourself.
Speaker 3 (19:21):
Yep.
Speaker 2 (19:22):
Have you been having a lot of that in this
kind of season of life right now?
Speaker 3 (19:25):
Yeah, I've been having a lot where I have to
figure it out, especially now that I might sell my house,
which we'll touch on. I guess we're going to talk
about the bird or we just played the clip from
the Bird.
Speaker 2 (19:32):
The It'll be in the bit so you can talk
because I actually do have a question and fall about it,
so you can totally bring it up.
Speaker 3 (19:37):
Okay, So this is okay, where do I start. I'm
trying to make it like really concise because it's like, well,
when we first got divorced, I probably should have sold
the house then because that's just been easier to like
sell it and split it. But then I decided, well,
I want to keep it for the kids, which I
(19:59):
think was the right move as well. But I think
the kids would have adjusted fine. They've acclimated really well.
And I'm not just saying that, but I think Ben
and I have been proactive at working really hard at
making it an easy transition for the kids. And here
we are a year later, and I still live in
the home, and I'm finally ready to sell it, and
(20:21):
I have such peace about it. And it was when
I went to randomly look at an open house, like
I've just been sort of thinking about selling my house
for this entire year, but no part of me felt
good about it, Like it just seemed overwhelming and dante
and like, I'll just stay here for three to four
years or when the kids are older, and then I'll
sell it. But really the best move is for me
(20:44):
to sell it. And randomly, this house down the street
from you went up for like an open house. So
I called Caitlin because we were already talking about maybe
going on a walk or something, I don't know, and
I just said, hey, how about instead we just pop
on over to this open house. She was like, great,
I love that. So she went with me and when
we went and at the backyard, I first thing I see,
and there's lots of trees and there's this tiny little
(21:06):
red cardinal. It's not like, you know, it wasn't easy
to spot this bird. And I saw it instantly, and
it stayed there for a very very very long time.
And it was an open house. There was tons of people.
So even this little kid like ran out and was
like screaming in the backyard and I'm like, don't don't
fly away, mom, don't go, and the bird just stayed
put like it wasn't phased. And normally birds fly away
(21:28):
when there's noise or somebody running towards it. So something
just came over me like this weird. I don't call
it weird, but this unexplainable piece, I guess, a piece
that surpasses all understanding is the only way that I
can put it about. I'm moving. I know that I'm moving.
I'm putting my house on the market, and I am moving.
(21:50):
So it wasn't that I saw my mom the bird,
the cardinal and thought, oh, I'm buying this house, which
I may, but it my my ducks aren't really in
a row necessarily to buy this house at this moment,
they may want a faster buyer. Like I literally had
nothing done at my house or nothing ready to be
on the market. I just randomly went to this open house.
(22:12):
But what the bird showed me was that I'm putting
my house in the market. So I'm now I've got
a punch list. Like there's I've I took a bunch
of pictures down during the voices. There's a lot of
holes in the wall, and so I need to have
those filled in. I need to have the walls painted.
My dog has scratched, like the back door. There's some
light fixtures that are broken that need to be replaced,
(22:33):
just little punchless things that if you want to list
your house on the market, you make it more desirable
by investing just tiny things to fix it up. Which paint.
My realator was like, paint will do wonders. And so
there's some places I need to fresh into, some things up.
But now I mean, I'm I'm actively pursuing that punchless
and going to put my house on the market. Because
I saw the bird. I see, I think it's not
(22:55):
just because I saw the bird. The bird gave me
this piece that came over me and like this voice
that was like, it is time. Your kids are fine.
Everyone is going to be okay, and selling the house
will be so much better for you. It's going to
be less stress because I bought this house as a
married person. It is a home that I feel like
(23:16):
would be very helpful if I had a partner to
help take care of. It's a lot for me. Yeah,
and so I want to downsize.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
No, I totally understand. Even when you were talking about
on the show and talking about it now, I think
it being coupled with that feeling that you got is
what makes it even that much more emotional for you,
because that feeling. You can't make that up. No, you
can't sit there and be like, yes, I saw a
cardinal and I get it. We talk about the birds
a lot, and I understand that is one hundred percent
(23:43):
of thing that a lot of people have experienced. But
when you couple that with that feeling that you experienced,
there is not anything there's no science, there is no
anything in this world that is going to make that
make sense to anybody else. But you felt it, and
that's all that matters. You felt that feeling, and.
Speaker 3 (24:01):
Yet I heard those words yeah and I'm like, okay,
you felt that way.
Speaker 2 (24:04):
Afterwards, what I'm going to do.
Speaker 3 (24:06):
Maybe it will be that house that would be awesome.
It ended up being a lot better in person when
we went to see it. But also maybe it's just
that that's what I needed to do in that day
to realize and have the affirmation, the confirmation, the piece
that like, okay, I'm listing my home.
Speaker 2 (24:24):
Do you feel like too? It could have provided some
closure in a way, like that feeling that you got
there came over you was almost like closure.
Speaker 3 (24:33):
Yeah, like this is okay to let go of this house.
And to circle back to the original point of bringing
this up, I've never owned a home just me or
sold a home just me. My first home that I
ever owned was six months after we got married. We
bought our first house, and we've moved multiple times. But
(24:56):
it's been always handled all the paperwork and the moves
and yeah, you have experts, realters, people that knowlander. You know,
they know what they're doing, so they handle most of it.
But still it's a lot of phone calls, even the
punch list, trying to figure out, yeah, the paint, the door,
how am I going to fix this? Things to yard
is a big thing presentation when people are coming by
(25:16):
having everything looking good. And so yeah, I'm having to
learn a lot. It's like a new a new thing
that I probably took for granted that Ben did so
much of that when we moved. He definitely did the
lions share. And so I'm greatful that it's why I
(25:37):
can do it. Yeah I can do it.
Speaker 2 (25:38):
Yes, I'm way through your divorce, but how I but
you get to experience that in a new season of
your life, that you get to have this that you
didn't have it before but now you do.
Speaker 3 (25:47):
And that I understand all the numbers involved because a
year ago I didn't even know how to log into
my checking account, and because that's just something I chose
to not be part of. It's not like oh Ben
was like I'm going to take care of this. I'm no.
He actually probably would have appreciated more of a partner
in that. But from day one of our marriage, I
(26:08):
just was like, Nope, I'm not good with money. I
don't want anything to do with it. So that's on you.
And now I can log in and I can look
at the numbers, and I can see how much a
house is going for and understand the interest rate, and
then I can look at what mine would sell for
and I can make a decision of like, oh wow,
if we do this and I downsize, this can go
(26:30):
towards this. And like all the numbers, I have access
to them, I can log in. It all makes sense.
I know I'm making a smart, empowering, wise decision that
for some it might look like or maybe it was
just me in my head, but it may look the
downsize may look like a little like a step backwards
in a way, but for me, it's such a step forward.
Speaker 2 (26:49):
It's a huge step forward because you're going to be
saving money, you're going to be saving time, and yay,
like it's a step forward. Even if it feels like
it's smaller.
Speaker 3 (26:58):
Yes, which I don't size of any thing doesn't ever
matter to me. In fact, the house that we're in
has always been a bit much for me. I only
bought it because it was the house that was sale
for sale closest to my dad and we were in
the middle of a pandemic and I needed to be
next to my dad's assisted living place, so it was
close to that and that sort of just worked out.
(27:20):
But I've always lived in a more quaint house. You know,
I always lived in East Nashville. Even when we lived
in North Carolina, we had we lived downtown in homes
that were like nineteen thirties. Like, I like a quaint feel.
And you know, Ben, I told Ben that I was
going to be putting the house in the market, and
he was really proud of me as well. And the
house he moved into is a little more quaint than ours.
(27:43):
And he told me when I told him the square
footage of the house I'm looking at now, He's like,
because honestly, I got to say, you're gonna love it.
He's like, I like having the kids kind of closer.
It forces more creates more opportunities for.
Speaker 2 (27:59):
Interaction.
Speaker 3 (28:00):
Yeah, and so and not that we have this like crazy.
I mean, size of houses is all relative, right, because
you know, someone else might be like, oh, yeah, this
kind of house is big, and that class house is big,
who knows. But for us, this was a bigger house
than one we've been in the last few years, and
especially what we came from in East Nashville. And so
(28:21):
I'm excited to go back to quaint because I want
to create more closeness with the kids. It's not like
I have that much longer with them, but yeah, it
is empowering and I'm going to fix some of the
stuff myself.
Speaker 2 (28:32):
Also proud of you. Thanks, it's great. See, hey, look
at us, two ladies taking care of their homes.
Speaker 3 (28:38):
That's right.
Speaker 2 (28:39):
Who are we?
Speaker 3 (28:40):
I don't know?
Speaker 2 (28:42):
Okay. I didn't want to ask really quick before we
dive into like a break and the rest of this.
There was a listener that wanted to know, how do
you first discover that your parents were the birds? Like,
how did that start?
Speaker 3 (28:53):
Well, because my mom died in twenty fourteen at my
sister's house. We did hospice care there and she we
still like this makeshift this room in my sister's master bedroom,
and right outside my sister's master was, Oh, we don't
say master anymore. Primary Okay, that's the PC.
Speaker 2 (29:08):
Man in uniform actually just told me this, Why what changed?
Speaker 3 (29:12):
Master implies that you are it's the master's room because
there's slaves.
Speaker 2 (29:17):
I didn't even know that that's what that came from.
Speaker 3 (29:20):
I mean, I think we were just so used to
calling it that that. Yeah. It just was like, oh,
that makes sense. But when you for certain parts of
the country, Yeah, if you look at the origin of
it and the root, then yeah, I did not know
why now yeah, so that is interesting up there for me,
but I know now it's the primary room. And outside
(29:41):
of my sister's primary room there's this beautiful tree. And
it was early in the morning, the sun was coming up.
It was just like, I don't know, it couldn't have
looked more beautiful outside and felt more beautiful. It's like
this beautiful Texas fall morning. And after she passed away,
they're just was this red cardinal And my sister's like,
(30:02):
I don't really see cardinals in my yard and while
this red cardinal appeared in the tree, and so we
both were like, wow, that's mom. And it's often been
said that cardinals represent that, so it was ironic. So
that's why we thought that. And we've just rolled with
(30:23):
it and it's been very special. And then my dad
died in twenty twenty one, and had I had it
was probably twenty twenty. I got obsessed with birds, my
bird feeder and puzzles, and I would sit in my
kitchen counter the bird bingo bird bingo bird like I
would just sit there for hours with coffee. I do puzzles.
(30:44):
I mean people could join me, but I also could
just sit there myself. I'd wake up and go to
my puzzle table. Before I went to bed, I would
go to my puzzle table. I think I had a
birthday party that year and we just worked on my
puzzle like it was interesting. I later learned it was
part of my depression. I was like, what, how could
this be depression that I learned how it shows up
(31:05):
in different ways. Depression is not just being in your
bedroom with the curtains drawn, you know, Like I was
functioning as a depressed version.
Speaker 2 (31:14):
Well depression and grief, don't you know.
Speaker 3 (31:17):
Yeah, well there was grieving other things that were happening.
My dad hadn't died yet, but I had other things
that the puzzle was definitely helping me. Just in the birds,
it was distracting me from certain things in life. And
then when my dad died, and because I had been
playing bird bingo and I had a bird chart of
like popular birds in North Carolina, I know for a
(31:37):
fact a blue jay. At least when my eyeballs had
been on my backyard, I had not had a blue
jay visit my feeter. And then my dad died and
the next day because we got oh it may have
been that day or the next day because my dad
passed away at the hospital. And then we all got
(31:57):
home and I had a blue jay. It visited my feeder.
It was crazy, and I was like, well, there you
have it. I finally got a blue jay, and this
must be my dad. And my dad had blue eyes,
and so it just makes sense. And for me, who
knows if it's really them, but it just really warms
my heart. When a car a red cardinal or a
brown one doesn't matter my mom's either. When a Cardinal
(32:19):
and a blue jay show up to my feeder together,
I think, I'm like, they're on a little date.
Speaker 2 (32:24):
And if this helps you feel close to them, what
does it matter? Yeah, haters, Yeah, I think it's great.
Speaker 3 (32:31):
Okay, well thanks for shing that's the origin of the
blue jay.
Speaker 2 (32:34):
At least feel safe and sharing that here.
Speaker 3 (32:35):
Yeah, I don't. I don't mind. Again, I probably before
I lost my parents, but I'm like, Okay, this is stupid.
Speaker 2 (32:43):
But it's not stupid though, because it right it allows
you to feel connected to them, and I think anything
that allows you to feel connected to something or someone
that is no longer here.
Speaker 3 (32:52):
You do it exactly, So rock on. Thank you?
Speaker 2 (32:55):
That am I allowed to the other? Okay, we'll be
right back, all right. So how can TV shows? I've
been on like a crazy crime TV show kick lately,
watching like Tracker and so helped me Todd on Paramount Plus,
and then I started a White Collar on Netflix, which
is an older show. Have you ever watched White Collar?
Speaker 3 (33:16):
I watched it. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (33:17):
Did you watch like all of it or just some
of the seasons?
Speaker 3 (33:19):
Yeah, I think Ben and I watched it. I feel
like I watched it all.
Speaker 2 (33:22):
It's really good. I know it's older, so I know
it's not like a brand new show or anything. But
I've been addicted to it. I think I'm on season
three now. That's how good it is.
Speaker 3 (33:31):
So yeah, white Collar, I recommend that in like.
Speaker 2 (33:33):
Yeah, I'm just in a very crime show type kick
not CSI type style. They're all pretty like tame and
they have comedy in them. I like comedy.
Speaker 3 (33:42):
White Collars on Netflix, Yes, it got.
Speaker 2 (33:45):
Added on there. I think it was a situation like
suits or Suits got added and a lot of people
started seeing it there. I think white Collar was similar.
Speaker 3 (33:51):
Suits is another good one.
Speaker 2 (33:52):
It is so good. Another crime kind of type show lawyers.
I love those. We also both watched If you have
any things that you want I recommend too, let me know.
But I know we both watched Quiet on Set. Oh yeah,
Wild on Max. Yeah, all about the Nickelodeon stuff, And
I think if you grew up watching Nickelodeon, you should
watch it. It will give you a different perspective on
(34:13):
your childhood shows.
Speaker 3 (34:14):
Yeah. And then also I watched that with Stashira because
she was really interested, and I questioned whether or not
I should do that, but again, she's almost seventeen, and
it was a good conversation starter with her on certain
things because I was able to point out, Hey, do
you see what they're explaining right here? This is literally
the definition of grooming. And she looked at me, She's like,
I know what grooming is, mom, And I'm like, okay, fine.
(34:36):
But either way, she's watching it, she's paying attention because,
like I said, but look at this, this is not
just the child that was getting groomed. They were grooming
the parents and building wedges between people like it was
a very drawn out, manipulative, calculated situation that took a
lot of time and patience for the predator and so
(34:58):
sometimes it's happening and you don't even realize that it's happening,
and it's happening to not just children, but adults too,
So you know, that's I think it's just important to
understand how quickly it can happen and how someone can
just build the trust, build the trust, build the trust,
build the trust to where then you're not paying attention
to major red flags. And it brought up just some
(35:22):
good conversations with us. So I mean, I definitely know
your children if you want them to watch it, because
it's heavy stuff, but it could bring up some good conversation.
Speaker 2 (35:31):
Yeah, And in Stash here, I feel like Too is
a big dreamer and she's an entrepreneur and she's gonna.
Speaker 3 (35:36):
Have a lot. I just wanted to act and do
all that, and like, good thing, I didn't let you
do that. Start that at a young young age. If
you want to do it when you're older, go for it.
Speaker 2 (35:44):
But I know now I look at all the really
protective parents who are very helicopter of their like their
Hollywood kids, I'm like, you know, bravo to you, because
that probably wasn't easy in the space that this was
all happening, so crazy. That's another one to watch. Any
others that you want to add to the list.
Speaker 3 (36:01):
Gosh, I watched that the latest, and then I'm working
my way through Manhunt right now on Apple Plus, which
is about the shooting of Abraham Lincoln. It's following Booth.
Speaker 2 (36:10):
Is it fictional just based on no? Or is it?
Speaker 3 (36:12):
I mean, I'm sure they had to take some I
mean it's it's a scripted based on history.
Speaker 2 (36:18):
So fictional based on a true story, like with actors.
Speaker 3 (36:22):
Right, because they definitely had to take some liberties with
who knows certain interactions and they're acting it out. But
I feel like this is one of the another one
of those shows where I'm like I or I wish
this is how we learned things in school.
Speaker 2 (36:37):
Yeah, make it a little bit easier on us.
Speaker 3 (36:40):
Masters of the Air, Gosh, that one was so good.
Man Hunt, Yeah, I'm just so much easier learning about
World War Two.
Speaker 2 (36:49):
I'm making man I'm watching Masters of the Year for
a second time. I'm making man in Uniform washing because
I loved it that much. So that's happening. Any update
on your dating situations that was a hot topic or
anything you want to share or not share. That's also
an option before we jump out of here.
Speaker 3 (37:07):
No, I don't think I have any update. That's the update.
It's I think. Didn't I show you some pictures of
some people that were showing up on my hand?
Speaker 2 (37:17):
I'm not sharing anything on you, but didn't I show
you pictures?
Speaker 3 (37:21):
It's very unfortunate. I don't know. I'm like, what are
they really posting these pictures? I just don't know what.
Speaker 2 (37:27):
There's a lot of frogs out in the world.
Speaker 3 (37:29):
Why don't or a lot of frogs. It's their picture,
like they're how they are presenting themselves and things they say.
I'm like, that just means in general, that's not your
prints a frog. Yeah, because one guy was actually really cute,
but I could not get over some of the pictures
he posted, which that's not me being particular. I know,
(37:52):
I can tell if you're gonna do you think it's
okay to post stuff like that? It's just weird and
I'm like not interested.
Speaker 2 (38:01):
I will tell you. When I started really focusing on
the on the app profiles, that really changed the type
of guys that I was dating. I really started honing
in and not allowing certain things to come through, even
prompts the way they would answer prompts. If there wasn't
a lot of effort in the prompts, I was like,
we're not doing this.
Speaker 3 (38:17):
Oh well, shoot, I didn't put a lot of effort
in my broms. I well, so it took me. The
guys might be like, eugh, she doesn't care.
Speaker 2 (38:23):
I did revamp mine first before I started like going
after theirs. I revamped mine to be pretty like serious,
still a little bit like hint of flirty, but pretty serious,
like I'm looking for something serious. I want something out
of this. And then I made sure all the matches
that I was getting were very intentional, like they were
intentional about their props, intentional about the pictures they chose,
all of it.
Speaker 3 (38:43):
I don't I'm not going to talk about this stuff
on the main show, but yet I guess. But I
did go I'll talk about a day I did go
on where it was interesting, like he was honest and
open with me about how he's like, his experiences haven't
been that great with women on the app, similar to
sort of what I'm experiencing. He had similar stories and
(39:07):
he's just like, yeah, it's rough out here. I'm like, hey,
I can't appreciate that. And I actually really do like
this person a lot, and I don't think it's my person,
but you know, he's one that definitely could be. It's
not like one of the ones where it's I just think.
Speaker 2 (39:24):
Not the mirror selfies and turtles picks.
Speaker 3 (39:27):
Yeah, like, here's a pick of my back muscles. I don't.
I mean, he was so cute until that moment. I'm
like why why And then he chose to put it
under the like they have prompts for the photos, and
he said something like caption this, yeah, Like tell me
what you'd say about that, because you're just begging for
somebody like, oh, I love your back, I.
Speaker 2 (39:50):
Love the back muffle or I could never, I could never.
Speaker 3 (39:55):
I should I should caption it. But then if you caption,
that means you're sort of matching it is. If you
choose to comment and you're interacting on Hinge, then that
means they think you like them.
Speaker 2 (40:06):
You know, one time I was truly savage when I
had matched with a guy on Hinge and he had
like texting me, but he started he started sending me
like snapchat type photos.
Speaker 3 (40:19):
I don't know what that means, like selfie like pictures.
My kids do have done Snapchat before, or my daughter
at least, and they just send pictures of their forehead
and the ceiling and they're like, what up.
Speaker 2 (40:28):
No, it was like like he'd be like laying in
bed or different things, and I literally just stopped responding
and he saw me out and he goes, hey, we
matched on and I was like and he was like,
but you stopped talking to me. And I was like, uh, well,
you probably did something and he goes, no, I didn't,
And I go, can you remind me your name? And
he did, and Amy, I'm not kidding you. I couldn't
(40:50):
contain it. I said, well, sir, you were sending me
very weird photos and that's just not for me. I
loked away, like, I wasn't trying to goats you, but
are you trying to send me like Snapchat weird in
your bed photos. We haven't even met each other. Yeah,
this is the moment we were meeting.
Speaker 3 (41:07):
That's why.
Speaker 2 (41:08):
So I get it. Sometimes you just gotta be a
little savage though, too, and just kind of throw it
back at him and maybe at least it helps him
with the next girl.
Speaker 3 (41:16):
No, Well, I mean I guess if I ran into
him maybe, but I haven't had that interaction. I'm not
gonna be savage online for no reason. I'm just going
to exit out by Ye.
Speaker 2 (41:23):
You can do that too, but if you get you know,
if you end up in person with somebody, there's a
pro tip.
Speaker 3 (41:29):
Yeah. I'm just like, I'm busy, you know. Yeah, I'm true.
I mean I don't want to be you also, don't
laugh too, but I'm okay being alone right now.
Speaker 2 (41:39):
That's okay too. Yeah, a lot of exciting things happening,
and you're in a fun new season of your life
that you've never gotten to be in before.
Speaker 3 (41:46):
Yeah, Like I'm gonna be painting and fixing lights.
Speaker 2 (41:49):
Well, when you put it that way, I'm not quite sure.
All right, y'all. We will see you guys later. Amy,
thank you for joining me.
Speaker 3 (41:55):
Yeah, thanks for having me.
Speaker 2 (41:55):
Tell the people where they can find you. Hear you
all that good stuff.
Speaker 3 (41:58):
At Radio Amy, And you can listen to me on
four Things with Amy Brown, where you listen to podcasts.
I do a bonus episode every Tuesday. It's called The
Fifth Thing with my friend Kat that's a therapist and
that's always fun for me at least. And then Thursday
episodes are more interview style or sometimes just me talking.
I haven't done many solo episodes recently, but I did
(42:22):
just have a thought I need to probably start doing
a few more solo episodes because I used to do
those back in the day, but now I've just been
doing interviews. So yeah, four Things b Brown. Hello Amy
Brown bringing back at rating me on socials. Yep.
Speaker 2 (42:33):
All right, we'll see you guys later.
Speaker 3 (42:34):
Have a great weekend. Bye.
Speaker 1 (42:36):
That's the best Bits of the week with Morgan. Thanks
for listening. Be sure to check out the other two
parts this weekend. Go follow the show on all social.
Speaker 3 (42:44):
Platforms and followed
Speaker 1 (42:46):
Web girl Morgan to submit your listener questions for next
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