Wed Part 2: Lunchbox Harasses Celeb at Shop + Eddie's Parking Spot Drama

Find out the celebrity Lunchbox saw leaving a coffee shop that he harassed! Plus, Eddie shares why he's frustrated over a paid parking spot at the grocery store. Then, we talk to Bill Eddy, the author of Our New World of Adult Bullies, about how to handle adult bullies, how Lunchbox acts on the show and more!

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:02):
Bone. Hey, guys, Bobby here.

Speaker 2 (00:05):
Yesterday we changed a bit of the format of the
podcast so you're not hearing duplicates. So if you missed it,
we would do the early bird, which is like the
first half of the show. We'd get up as quick
as we could, and then we post a whole feed.
But I hate it because we're putting up duplicate content.
So now we're going to try this. We post the
first half of the show and then we post the
second half of the show, and we try to label
it very clearly so you can see that. But let

(00:27):
me know in DMS on Instagram. You can send me
a tweet as well, however, but DMS on Instagram would
be good, and just let me know how you feel
about the new format. If you like it like this,
you like it like that, or you like it with
the Wolf of ball bet can you guys name that?
No beasty boys, come on, Paul Revere.

Speaker 1 (00:47):
That's it.

Speaker 2 (00:48):
Enjoy the podcast, hopefully give me the feedback. We appreciate that.

Speaker 1 (00:51):
And here you go.

Speaker 2 (00:53):
We're trying out a new segment called what is this Crap?
And this is Eddie's idea. Yeah, so you lead us.

Speaker 1 (01:00):
We like it. We'll all jump in tomorrow the next day.

Speaker 3 (01:02):
Okay, okay, okay, you want me to describe the segment. Yeah, okay.

Speaker 4 (01:04):
There is a segment where you see something in the
world or something just gets your mind thinking like what
is this crap?

Speaker 3 (01:10):
Like why does this even exist?

Speaker 1 (01:11):
That's how you say it. What is that? Okay, here's Eddie. Wait.
The pilot episode of What is this Crap?

Speaker 4 (01:17):
Sounds at the grocery store right and I'm looking for
a parking spot, and I'm like, oh, I see one
up in the front.

Speaker 3 (01:22):
Oh okay, there's handicap. And then there's an empty one
right next to it. Cool.

Speaker 4 (01:25):
I get in there. There's a sign that says pay
for parking. You can just scan the thing on the
sign and if you can pay for parking that's close
to the store. I'm like, what, so it's handicap to
go parking like pick up grocery pickup parking, then pay
for parking. And so if I want free parking at
the grocery store, I have to park at least ten
spaces away from the grocery store, or I can pay

(01:48):
for VIP parking.

Speaker 3 (01:50):
What is this crap?

Speaker 2 (01:51):
I like the second like the segment. Now we have
some thoughts on this, but I like the segment. What
is this crap?

Speaker 5 (01:57):
Go ahead, Amy, Well, I just have never seen anything
like this in my life.

Speaker 3 (01:59):
I don't understand. That's what I said.

Speaker 2 (02:02):
Well, they own the parking lot, they can do whatever
they want, make a little extra.

Speaker 3 (02:05):
Money on VIP parking. That's crazy, dude.

Speaker 1 (02:08):
So you don't like it?

Speaker 3 (02:09):
I hate it. I mean I already have to park
behind handicap. Well, and maybe my foot's broken, so right now,
what it's broken? Maybe? Now I kind of like.

Speaker 5 (02:20):
A little sensor broken it is? Didn't we determine it's
like spring?

Speaker 3 (02:24):
It's a fracture structure? Well, well, don't use the word timing, okay,
actually fracture.

Speaker 1 (02:30):
Okay, what this crap?

Speaker 2 (02:34):
I think I would like it because if I were
in a hurry, I could just pay a buck and
a half and go up real quick a group spot.

Speaker 5 (02:40):
You're in a hurry, have to take a time to
take did you do the QR code?

Speaker 3 (02:43):
Then to enter your stuff?

Speaker 4 (02:44):
That doesn't just walk to S and who's going to
give you a ticket? I didn't get the details. It
could be an app really where you just prepay and
you're just like, well, park there, what it is?

Speaker 3 (02:53):
This craft? Is this crap?

Speaker 1 (02:55):
So if you guys have one tomorrow and bring it
on in you don't like it? I like, what is this?
What is it? A djur in a fraud case was
just missed yesterday.

Speaker 6 (03:05):
Listen to this.

Speaker 2 (03:08):
The jur is on the trial watching somebody shows up
at the juror's house with a bag with one hundred
and twenty thousand dollars in cash and drops it off.
It says, there's more where that came from. If you
could vote to a quit seven people charge of ceiling.

Speaker 6 (03:21):
Whoa why would you say anything?

Speaker 2 (03:24):
Well, you probably don't want to go to jail because
did they find out you're done?

Speaker 3 (03:28):
I mean either way, I feel like you're dead.

Speaker 7 (03:30):
Wow, yeah, I mean now you're dead because they know
who you are. You know where they they know where
you live, they know everything about you. You got to your
whole life has to change. I don't know that everything
is the cartel, but you got sound one hundred and
twenty thousand dollars in cash. That is cartel Like.

Speaker 3 (03:47):
At least, like what do they call it? They need
to enter.

Speaker 6 (03:49):
WICCO or yeah, witness protection.

Speaker 2 (03:52):
A djur was dismissed Monday after reporting that a woman
dropped a bag of cash one hundred and twenty thousand
dollars and said there's more if you'll vote to acquit
seven people charged with sealing more than forty million from
a program meant to feed children in the pandemic. But
one twenty is so little compared to the forty million.
So that's why I don't know. That has to be cartel.

Speaker 3 (04:12):
So with a lot o million that was a down
payment taxes.

Speaker 2 (04:18):
These seven of the first seventy defendants expected to go
to trial in a conspiracy that costs taxpayer twound fifty
million bucks in taxpayer dollars. Prosecutors say just a fraction
of the money went to feed the kids, while the
rest was spent on luxury cars, jewelry, travel, and property.
Imagine you get that bag on money. Do you think
about it? Hecky, I think about it. Just moving out.

Speaker 1 (04:36):
I'm gonna take the money and go.

Speaker 2 (04:38):
Think about having to change your whole life though, like
the witness relocation, that would be terrible.

Speaker 1 (04:42):
Well, that sounds you have everything about you. My family
can't know where you are. Maybe maybe they go with
you have to change their names everything has to change.

Speaker 3 (04:49):
Yeah that's cool.

Speaker 6 (04:50):
No, that's not cool.

Speaker 5 (04:51):
This would be my shot to move to like Paris
or something.

Speaker 6 (04:54):
I don't think they moved there. I think, what do
you think you're gonna do with this new life?

Speaker 5 (04:57):
They're just gonna Have you ever seen Emily in Paris?

Speaker 3 (05:00):
That's what it's about. This is a new life. No,
but I mean she just.

Speaker 5 (05:04):
Goes over there and lives this like really fun life,
Like it's great.

Speaker 4 (05:09):
Hey, what do you think though? Like is the there's
more where this came from? Like, Okay, you already vote no,
so what what else is there to do? Like, Okay,
there's more money, But what else do I have to
do to get more money?

Speaker 8 (05:19):
Right?

Speaker 6 (05:19):
Because you vote no? We guess what?

Speaker 7 (05:20):
They don't give you the money that you can't do
anything about it? Right, you gotta pay it all up front.

Speaker 4 (05:25):
Or else because they throw that in there, like hey,
a little incentive. There's more where that came from. But
I don't know if I would take this and expect
any more from that.

Speaker 1 (05:33):
I mean, just like I have you too. If you
are bribed, then they have that on you, but then
you also have that on them on our amongst eves
I've heard that.

Speaker 3 (05:40):
I've heard that before.

Speaker 1 (05:42):
I wouldn't do it. I would be scared, You're I'd
be scared.

Speaker 3 (05:44):
It's terrified.

Speaker 1 (05:46):
I'm gonna go to Amy first.

Speaker 2 (05:47):
So Lunchbox went screaming after a celebrity in the wild yesterday.

Speaker 3 (05:52):
Yeah, are we saying who the celebrity is yet?

Speaker 2 (05:53):
I mean not yet?

Speaker 1 (05:54):
Okay, it was embarrassing to you.

Speaker 5 (05:55):
Yeah, I feel like embarrassing for everybody at the table.
I definitely turned away and like sunk in my seat,
like I don't want to be here right now.

Speaker 3 (06:04):
This is very coomfortable. Uh.

Speaker 5 (06:06):
I was there, Eddie, lunch Box, Scuba, Steve, and then
three of our executives went to lunch.

Speaker 3 (06:13):
Yes, walk you got was so embarrassing. Oh no, no, no,
I mean it was the thing.

Speaker 5 (06:18):
We're at the table, we're all lunch is running down
the street with his phone like he does where he
chases celebrity filming them.

Speaker 3 (06:24):
Put his hands on his shoulder. Let me back in,
grab the celebrity, Grab the celebrity.

Speaker 5 (06:29):
Also, we can back up and say Lunchbox forgot his phone.
He didn't bring it to lunch, so he had to
borrow scooba. See, give me your phone, Give me your phone,
and then he takes his phone and chases and this
this celebrity is coming out of the coffee shop holding
three cups of coffee that could be easily startled and
drop them. And I was just mortified, like I kept
thinking worst case scenario, and it was awkward.

Speaker 2 (06:50):
Was it a celebrity that we know well and they
would take it like, oh, that's just lunchbox like Jacob no, no, no, no,
no no, I want to go over to Lunchbox. Out
here his side of this story, because I knew a
bit about it, but he didn't pitch it like this.

Speaker 1 (07:03):
Okay, let's botch, tell me your version.

Speaker 7 (07:05):
So I saw this celebrity walk into the coffee shop
and we were sitting out on the patio and I
was like, Eddie, give me your phone, give me your phone.

Speaker 6 (07:13):
I need it, and he goes, I'm having a problem
with storage.

Speaker 1 (07:16):
Man, you can't use I wouldn't want to give you
my phone anyway, And.

Speaker 6 (07:19):
On my scooping, give me your phone, give me your phone.

Speaker 7 (07:21):
He goes, we don't even know it's him, and ed
he goes, it's really him, and he goes, okay.

Speaker 6 (07:25):
He gives me the phone. And goes, this is gonna
be so bad.

Speaker 7 (07:27):
And I just sat there and waited and waited, and
I had the camera open open. It took like fifteen
minutes for going to get out of the coffee shop.
I even went in to check on him because I
wanted to make sure he was still coming out. He
didn't go out a back exit, climb out a window, whatever,
And he walked out, had.

Speaker 6 (07:42):
Three cups of coffee and a bag of food. And
that's when I pounced.

Speaker 2 (07:46):
So the celebrity is Chris Daughtry and he sings songs
like It's not over a bunch of rockets was way
back in the day on American Idol, but its really
fortunate career as a big time rock guy.

Speaker 5 (07:58):
And he looked like a hardcore rocker, like a guy
you don't want to go. I know. But what I'm
saying is he just his vibe was not come up
to me.

Speaker 3 (08:06):
It wasn't ask me what I'm drinking. That's what lunchbocks did.
What are your drinks?

Speaker 1 (08:12):
And I like Chris.

Speaker 2 (08:13):
I've got to know him a little bit. I like
Chris a lot. I saw him in my Allergy Clinton
employment the other day going to get my allergy shots
and he was outside the building.

Speaker 1 (08:22):
I like, what up, buddy? Okay, so we have some audio.

Speaker 7 (08:25):
He have like a tank top on, he had a
beanie sunglasses. It wasn't like he was in the mood
to talk. He wasn't looking for any like friends or anything.
But when you see a celebrity in the wild, gotta.

Speaker 2 (08:36):
Go get it.

Speaker 5 (08:37):
I would like to say before you play the clips,
Lunchbox brings up a good point that he was inside
the coffee shop for a long time and Lunchbocks is
eagerly waiting.

Speaker 3 (08:45):
Well, this wasn't just a lunch for fun.

Speaker 5 (08:47):
This was a business medea for us, and we had executives.

Speaker 3 (08:52):
In town speaking to us.

Speaker 5 (08:54):
But for fifteen minutes, Lunchbucks was like a kid, and
kiddies were waiting.

Speaker 7 (08:58):
For the like.

Speaker 1 (08:59):
He wasn't listening.

Speaker 3 (09:00):
Got there's a lot of uh huh uh huh uh huh.
While he's looking over his shoulder.

Speaker 1 (09:03):
Here is Lunchbox running out and basically assaulting Chris Daughtry.

Speaker 6 (09:08):
Here you go, there's Daughtry. Look Daughtry just walking down
the street in Nashville. What's up on, man?

Speaker 1 (09:13):
Hey?

Speaker 3 (09:14):
We kind of what did you get a drink. I
don't know, I need to name all three of them.

Speaker 6 (09:18):
No, what what does Dodtriy getting when he goes to
the coffee show?

Speaker 5 (09:20):
Are you?

Speaker 7 (09:21):
I'm lunchbox Bobby Bob show hanging out with celebs right here?

Speaker 6 (09:25):
You drink coffee or is.

Speaker 8 (09:26):
It just for the people?

Speaker 2 (09:27):
Off?

Speaker 3 (09:27):
I do?

Speaker 6 (09:28):
I drink almond?

Speaker 1 (09:29):
Drink all three of these?

Speaker 6 (09:30):
All right? What is your go to coffee? Just so
America gets to know you a little bit better? You
know what, Usually it's a cold grouper.

Speaker 5 (09:36):
Today I'm I'm going with the almond milk late here.

Speaker 4 (09:39):
Okay, I've got oat milk, latte and cold group for
my producers.

Speaker 3 (09:44):
I'm getting coffee for my producer.

Speaker 7 (09:46):
See that's how Doctry does it. That's what I'm saying. Hey, Doddery,
thank you for letting me rat you on the street.
Celebs hanging with celebs.

Speaker 6 (09:52):
Me and Dadtries. That's what I do, people.

Speaker 7 (09:55):
I just harassed people all the time, Me and Dodtry
And I was supposed to be in a meeting. But yeah,
see later, guys that go go check out.

Speaker 6 (10:00):
His new music, go go go all right right by,
good to see him.

Speaker 2 (10:04):
Don't get hit Chris is very nice, very nice. My
favorite part of that is who are you? My least
favorite part of me says my name in it. Oh yeah,
Bobby Bone.

Speaker 9 (10:13):
Joe, you should just say your name and let that live.
You know, you're still famous, I know, left taking out
with celebs as you say, that's right, And he said
I scared the blank out of him. Yeah, that made
me cringing my heart a little bit.

Speaker 6 (10:24):
The video, the video doesn't look as bad.

Speaker 4 (10:26):
And so you get a visual like Daughtry was trying
to cross the street right and like it just the
light was red, so he had nowhere to go.

Speaker 1 (10:33):
He was just trapped up. All right, let's do the news.

Speaker 6 (10:37):
Here we go, Bobby's nice.

Speaker 2 (10:41):
Two cops win one point two million dollars in the lottery,
but they will not quit their job because they want
to set an example for their kids.

Speaker 1 (10:47):
Well, they ain't gonna take any craps though. I'll tell
you that.

Speaker 2 (10:50):
If you're really rich and your boss is like a jerk,
you're taking about zero percent crab.

Speaker 1 (10:54):
Yeah, that's called screw you money. I have screw you money,
so screw you I ain't taking it.

Speaker 5 (11:00):
How much do they win?

Speaker 1 (11:01):
One point two million? It's enough?

Speaker 2 (11:04):
To have a bit of screw you money, for sure.
They want the lottery, no plans to quit their jobs.
They want to teach the importance of having a strong
work ethic to their children. They are a couple and
they are married, but they won this. They both have
police jobs, though, and so they're gonna buy a new house,
a new puppy, and a trip to Disneyland.

Speaker 1 (11:21):
Oh that's awesome, Yahoo lunchbox. One point two million dollars?
Do you quit this job?

Speaker 7 (11:26):
No, it's not enough to live off of. I don't
think after you've told me about taxes.

Speaker 2 (11:31):
It would be enough to live off of. Yes, would
it be enough for you to comfortably retire? Probably close,
But not the way he wants to live.

Speaker 7 (11:38):
Right the way you talk, I talk about it like
I want to thrive. I want to just be flaunt
my wealth in retirement or winning the lottery. Well, when
I win the lottery, I don't think you do it either.

Speaker 1 (11:48):
I'll be an honest both.

Speaker 7 (11:50):
That's what I'm saying, Like, if I'm going to retire,
I want to be able to flaunt. I want to
be able to walk around and not worry about anything.

Speaker 2 (11:56):
From NBC News, a seemingly ordinary accessory took on lifesty
powers during a shooting in Colorado where a guy got
shot but his necklace, his silver necklace, stopped the bullet.
The necklace then became kind of lodged into his body,
but they were able to like pull it out these
fines like a shield. He just had a puncture injury

(12:17):
instead of the bullet going into him. That's awesome, Like,
that's some lucky stuff. That's when you go buy that
lottery ticket that we just talked about. That is from
NBC News. The purpose quickly arrested at the scene and
now faces attempted homicide charges.

Speaker 1 (12:28):
You got to think if you're to get the shooter,
you're like, how I'm lucky? Was that have everywhere? I
shot him?

Speaker 3 (12:34):
I shot him mind in his necklace.

Speaker 2 (12:37):
Instagram is testing forcing people to watch advertisements. This is
from BBC YouTube does this to us a bit. It's
the most miserable fifteen seconds of my life.

Speaker 9 (12:47):
When I have to sit there and watch some apple,
I'm like, oh, it's like somebody's pulling a tooth or
something Like.

Speaker 2 (12:53):
I divert my eyes from the screen because I don't
want be forced to watch an ad Instagram is testing
advertisements that users cannot skip as the social media platform
currently allows people.

Speaker 1 (13:02):
To swipe or scroll past, but now it's called ad break.

Speaker 2 (13:07):
Images shared online show a timer just like YouTube does,
where it's like you cannot skip past this, now you can.
I really feel like I've let myself down if I
don't skip past the ad and it gives me the option,
because sometimes I'll just be there and I'll just let
it keep going and I could have already, like I
just forced myself to watch fifteen more seconds of that.

Speaker 3 (13:26):
Do you ever get the option where it's like pick
your ad? Do you want this one? This one or
that one? I use it? That's like pick I spend
like ten seconds like which one do I want?

Speaker 2 (13:37):
That's funny. So sometimes you may need to view an
ad before you can keep browsing. Instagram has confirmed that
there is a trial underway in certain parts of the world.
A study carried out by TikTok suggested forcing viewers to
watch advertisements might actually lead to less engagement.

Speaker 1 (13:51):
You have no crap.

Speaker 2 (13:53):
Here's some other research. People don't love commercials like we
have commercials. We don't get to stay on if there
aren't commercials, and people listen and hopefully they buy stuff.
It supports us, but I'm not acting like it's the
most fun part of the morning. And yeah, I don't
want to watch him on YouTube, but.

Speaker 5 (14:09):
I sometimes like commercials because they work. I'm like, oh,
I should try that. Whatever it is targeted, I'm in
yeah because I think, wow, this is so perfect for me.

Speaker 3 (14:19):
Actually, and click.

Speaker 2 (14:20):
By YouTube though it's always like a rumba or something,
and I ain't buy no rumba that's not targeted.

Speaker 1 (14:25):
I guess a company who bought a ad for a
person in my age.

Speaker 3 (14:29):
All my YouTube is betterhelp.

Speaker 1 (14:31):
A man wins one hundred yachts, you should let they
know you.

Speaker 2 (14:33):
A man wins one hundred and ten thousand dollars on
a lottery prize while he's on vacation.

Speaker 1 (14:38):
It was the second one.

Speaker 2 (14:40):
He's on vacation, didn't want to miss any of the drawings,
so he bought a multi draw ticket while on vacation.
Hit one hundred and ten thousand dollars. That's from UPI
what if, like, your wife's on vacation in lunchbox then
you hit, or if you're away and you hit, do
you tell her? Is there any world you live in
where you don't tell her if you're not with her
that you hit and have some cash.

Speaker 6 (15:00):
It depends on how much. I if it's one.

Speaker 2 (15:02):
Hundred and ten thousand dollars and your away it's a
work trip, you hit a scratch off.

Speaker 1 (15:07):
You guys do not share accounts.

Speaker 2 (15:09):
Right, So I would sell her because I'd just be like, look,
I got this money, what up? And she wouldn't be like, well,
why don't you buy a new car? Or like advise
you on things to buy that.

Speaker 6 (15:19):
She probably would be like, all right, so you can
upgrade your car? Are you gonna do this? You're gonna
do are you gonna pay off that?

Speaker 5 (15:24):
Now?

Speaker 6 (15:25):
We're good? Take a va K.

Speaker 1 (15:26):
My question is you can upgrade your car or paid off?
Oh my car's paid off? Okay? Or sell it?

Speaker 6 (15:31):
I mean I'm not much I can.

Speaker 2 (15:32):
Get for it. If you were to start at ten times,
how many times will it actually get you to where
you're going?

Speaker 6 (15:36):
Probably three?

Speaker 1 (15:39):
Oh that's terrible. Yeah, that's a good batting average.

Speaker 2 (15:41):
Hall of Fame.

Speaker 1 (15:42):
Yeah yeah, yeah, all right, that's news.

Speaker 2 (15:45):
Bobby's have a story coming up in a minute of
a woman who claims to be the girl who vanished
thirty nine years ago.

Speaker 1 (15:54):
Those are always wild. She's like, this is me. We'll
talk about that in a minute.

Speaker 2 (15:58):
A lot of concerts are being can sold, like Jennifer Lopez,
Bad Bunny, Black Keys, They've canceled a bunch of dates.

Speaker 1 (16:06):
J Loo canceled the entire tour.

Speaker 2 (16:08):
It's basically they're not selling tickets, and it's not a
shot at them directly, but there's so many shows and
after the pandemic, everybody went full force and there was
a show every night somewhere, and so people are like,
I can't go to this many concerts, and a little
bit too. It's people playing venues a little bigger than
they probably needed to. Maybe they were able to do

(16:30):
that five seven years ago, but because there's a bit
of concert fatigue happening.

Speaker 5 (16:35):
I made an assumption that Jaylo was about her personal life.

Speaker 2 (16:38):
No, she was already struggling that that was the rumor
with ticket sales, and then she came out and was like,
I'm going to take some time for myself.

Speaker 3 (16:47):
There's issues with her and Ben. She's a Ben Affleck yes.

Speaker 2 (16:50):
Yeah, allegedly, yeah, but it was definitely a ticket sales
type thing. That's what I would say too. I'd be like,
I gotta go spend more time with my kids. Well,
you don't have kids on crap, terrible excuse there, yea,
I did there. Call us if you want eight seven,
seven seventy seven, Bobby. They put out the most laid
back cities in America at the top of the list,
and laid back cities is Minneapolis.

Speaker 3 (17:12):
Let's go there.

Speaker 2 (17:13):
Then. I don't know that mall that I get anxious
in that mall, Mall of America. It's massive, Like I
like it, but it's so big I feel like I'm
not gonna be able to.

Speaker 3 (17:22):
See it all.

Speaker 1 (17:23):
Is that the one that has a roller coaster in
They have all parking there.

Speaker 2 (17:25):
That's highly overrated, the roller coaster or the mall. The mall, Yeah,
I think it is the biggest mall in America, maybe
the world. However, the theme park's a little dated, and
it was the greatest mall ever ten years ago, so
I think it's still the biggest. But yeah, maybe a

(17:46):
little bit. If you're going expecting some you know, AI
shopping experience where you get on a treadmill, it takes
to it tells you what you want, that's definitely not
it Madison, Wisconsin at number two, Irvine, California, Boulder, Colorado,
and Portland, ore at four and five.

Speaker 1 (18:00):
I feel like bolder in Portland.

Speaker 10 (18:02):
We know why.

Speaker 1 (18:02):
That's laid back, Yeah, idea, you know what I mean.

Speaker 2 (18:05):
I know.

Speaker 1 (18:07):
There's a Facebook group.

Speaker 2 (18:08):
And Janice McKinney is a member of the group, but
it's about her daughter who disappeared in nineteen eighty five.
And the whole Facebook group is called Memories of Cherry Mayheon.
Now again, her mom is a member of that group,
probably was one of the people who started it. There's
somebodyho popped up in that group and it's like, I'm her.
I know, I disappeared thirty nine years ago, but I'm

(18:29):
her what.

Speaker 1 (18:30):
I don't know if I believe it.

Speaker 2 (18:33):
It's the fourth person too to come out and say
that they're her, which is also weird.

Speaker 1 (18:36):
People claiming to be this girl.

Speaker 3 (18:37):
That's not funny.

Speaker 1 (18:38):
It's no, it's not funny at all.

Speaker 2 (18:39):
But it's somebody looking for attention, right, and it could
be somebody who's sad and just needs any sort of
attention acknowledgment.

Speaker 1 (18:46):
So this person popped up in the group and claims
to be Cherry.

Speaker 2 (18:51):
She was the first person ever featured on the National
Center for Missing and Exploited Children's have You Seen Me?

Speaker 1 (18:57):
Campaign?

Speaker 2 (18:57):
She was last see getting out her school bus in
Pennsylvania February twenty second, nineteen eighty five. Five thousand dollar
cash reward still remains available. Let's say you are her
and you come back. Do you get the five grand
if you turn yourself in?

Speaker 1 (19:10):
Ooh, I'm her.

Speaker 5 (19:11):
I don't think so.

Speaker 3 (19:12):
Question.

Speaker 2 (19:13):
Yeah, I'm her and there's five and that's what makes
you come out. You're like, man, I'm sure we'd like
pay the bills having on the run, or like I
changed my identity.

Speaker 1 (19:19):
I'm sure we'd like five thousand. Do you get the money?

Speaker 5 (19:22):
But that's a good question, but I'd think the answers No.

Speaker 1 (19:25):
I think if you pushed you probab would get the more.

Speaker 5 (19:27):
It's like if there's a reward to turn in somebody
that's done something that like if you know who stole this,
if you go if you show up and be like
I stole it, do you get through it?

Speaker 1 (19:36):
You go to jail?

Speaker 2 (19:36):
That's a crime. Okay, this isn't really a crime. Or
I would say I go to my buddy and be like, hey,
go say I'm the person, and I'll give you ten percent.

Speaker 3 (19:45):
That's nice. Maybe that's why people have claimed for five.

Speaker 1 (19:48):
Grand though that's awful with me.

Speaker 3 (19:49):
Who's paying that? Her parents?

Speaker 5 (19:50):
Though?

Speaker 2 (19:50):
Like who?

Speaker 1 (19:52):
I'm sure it's a personal friend or group or church
or something.

Speaker 6 (19:56):
And does it get interest because it's been sitting around
for how many years.

Speaker 2 (19:59):
It has a been sitting around? It's somebody's saying they
will pay it if it happens.

Speaker 6 (20:03):
Oh got it?

Speaker 1 (20:03):
Yeah? So they didn't put it interest?

Speaker 2 (20:05):
Yeah?

Speaker 6 (20:06):
Like did they put it an account? That's what I'm saying.
So it grew so now it could be.

Speaker 2 (20:09):
I mean, you buy a house and you put in
that account escrow. That's it's money, just stays over there
until it's done. You know.

Speaker 1 (20:17):
I think about my funeral sometimes.

Speaker 2 (20:18):
That's weird, Not really, I think about I want everybody
to be really sad, wow, like next level, And not
so much because they're sad, but because I want to
have meant so much that they can't even like function,
You got to pick people up off the floor, people
are weeping in tears, Like that's what I'm looking forward

(20:39):
to all about?

Speaker 3 (20:41):
You're looking forward to this?

Speaker 2 (20:43):
Well, because I want to have made such an impact
that people can't even I want everybody thinking, I don't
think I can go on without them.

Speaker 1 (20:49):
I want the whole.

Speaker 2 (20:49):
Funeral to be like everybody's like talking about it. I
don't think we can go on. We should, okay, but
I don't want them to. I just want them to
think about it because they're so sad.

Speaker 5 (20:58):
Right.

Speaker 2 (20:58):
So that's my version of like a perfect funeral for me.
I also am reading this mom who her husband, So
she's mom and me have kids, and her husband died
and the husband told the kids in the mom that
he wanted a funeral. Ye, a funeral, like a fun funeral.
I would hate that, a celebration while we're watching from

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a cloud, and I saw everybody having fun when I
was dead, I'd be so mad. I'd haunt a few
of you guys. I'd pick you randomly, but i'd haunt you.
I'm like, oh, like the cotton candy machine. But we're
not celebrating that you're dead. We're celebrating that you can
get it.

Speaker 5 (21:33):
But I need you to be so sad that you
lived a good life and now care no longer in
pain and you're in heaven.

Speaker 1 (21:41):
Was that in pain?

Speaker 3 (21:42):
I'm just assuming painful disease or something.

Speaker 5 (21:47):
Well death, so I would assume nobody's like my death wasn't.

Speaker 3 (21:52):
She thinks by fire?

Speaker 1 (21:53):
Yeah, she's like, wow, we skinned you alive.

Speaker 7 (21:55):
What.

Speaker 2 (21:56):
Katie Young's husband passed away from a stroke on May seventeen.
She decided against the traditional funeral. Sheo, just died a
funeral spelled the same way, but fun as capital letters. Yeah,
and so they had a bouncy castle, arts and crafts
and his favorite foods. She wanted the kids to have
happy memories. Yeah, no, be sad for me. I think
you really said, So who's speaking?

Speaker 3 (22:17):
You want us to speak? Like?

Speaker 2 (22:18):
Do you want whoever speaks? I want them to not
be able to contain it. Oh, and they're crying so
much that they cannot even say a word. And it's
like in that movie Stand by Me where they all
start puking. Yeah, they're doing that pilating contest and one
pukes and mix and everybody's just like crying so hard.
They're all start puk oh, crying and puky. That's I want.

(22:40):
But it's not the funeral. It's because I meant so much,
because I'm my time alive. See, That's that's what I'm
looking forward to. There's a Boba fet doll that sold
for five hundred and twenty five thousand dollars. It is
the most expensive valuable vintage toy. It was sold at
the auction for five hundred and twenty five thousand. It
was supposed to a choking hazard, so it never was

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released to the public. There are only two that were
made who paid half a million dollars for a Star
Wars toy, and I get it. Things are collectible and valuable.
Of course, you've also yeah, ye, but you've also got.

Speaker 1 (23:12):
To be a fan.

Speaker 3 (23:15):
Everyone's a fan of start.

Speaker 1 (23:17):
I watched one of them, and I was older.

Speaker 3 (23:22):
I'm also not a fan.

Speaker 1 (23:23):
Yeah, and I'm not against like in fantasy, and I'm
not against that because I like like Lord of the Ring. No,
I like that was stupid. I like Game of Thrones.
I get them confused a little bit.

Speaker 2 (23:34):
I did watch every Lord of the Rings though, all
back to back, during the Christmas one time, and I
was like, ah, I'd give it a four and a
half out of ten. I didn't hate it. I didn't
come away going that's for nerds. I do a lot
of really nerdy things. Not a thing, but I do
like Game of Thrones a lot, so I'm not a hater,
but I didn't like Star Wars that much.

Speaker 3 (23:52):
Do you know who Boba Fett is?

Speaker 2 (23:54):
I think Boba FET's a that fat blob thing. Nope,
it looks like Gmis from McDonald's. Not Joba the Hut.

Speaker 1 (24:01):
That's job of the Hut.

Speaker 9 (24:03):
Hu.

Speaker 1 (24:04):
I thought Boba Fette would no, no, no, Boba FET's
a bounty hunter.

Speaker 3 (24:08):
He wears like a blue kind of like a he
was the Mandalorian. Like, that's the same kind of the
same kind of look.

Speaker 1 (24:13):
I don't know what that is. You didn't see the
man anything in all white with a helmet?

Speaker 3 (24:17):
Yeahper got it?

Speaker 2 (24:19):
Well, I forget it. We're done making fun over. Show
me Boba Fett in a picture? Yeah, pull play. This
guiz Moto is the source of that five hundred thousand dollars?

Speaker 1 (24:32):
What do you play with it? Once and put it
back in?

Speaker 2 (24:36):
Amy wasn't here yesterday, she's here today, but after the
show you were sick. But we interviewed this guy who
wrote the book on adult Bullies. SAME's Bill Eddie, and
Bill Eddie has written tons of books. He trains lawyers
and mediators and therapists, and so we said, because we
would get into the point about Lunchbox and if he's
an adult bully, we said, why would an adult be
a bully?

Speaker 8 (24:56):
People are kind of grow up this way and so
it isn't like a decision, it's just part of their personality.
And so they like to dominate people. And that's the
theme for bullies. They want to dominate other people.

Speaker 1 (25:10):
So he's walking right into what we wanted to talk
to him about.

Speaker 2 (25:13):
And we told him about Lunchbox and Abby and we said,
do you think Lunchbox is bullying Abby on our show?

Speaker 8 (25:21):
Well, it's kind of depends which side of the border
that is, because if depending on your relationship, it can
be fun. And like I said, teasing some people like teasing.

Speaker 1 (25:32):
Does some people don't know. If she doesn't like it, Bill,
then she should speak up, yep.

Speaker 2 (25:37):
And that's what he says she should do. She should
speak up to him next time he bullies her and
be like, I do not like this. I am leaving,
And that's all she has to do.

Speaker 3 (25:45):
She leaves.

Speaker 1 (25:46):
Apparently that's the show.

Speaker 6 (25:47):
I'm not sure.

Speaker 2 (25:48):
Well, And so he wrote this book about being a
narcissist as well, and we're like, how do you deal
with a bully that's also a narcissist?

Speaker 8 (25:55):
Well, the thing with narcissists is they like to say
they're superior, and so sometimes what you do is you say, oh,
you're really good at something, and they go, yeah, I'm
really good at something, and that calms them down. So
find something they're good at you can respect them for,
but also again, set limits and have consequences. If you

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keep talking to me this way, then this is what
I'm going to do.

Speaker 2 (26:20):
So Abby, what would you say to Lunchbox in a
positive way, because you know it could be considered a
bit narcissistic based on the rules that Bill Eddie gave us.

Speaker 1 (26:29):
If you needed to get him off your scent, What
would you say about him? Is nice?

Speaker 10 (26:33):
Like a quality that he has.

Speaker 3 (26:35):
Yeah, like you're good at something.

Speaker 10 (26:37):
I think you're good at talking, like you never run
out of things to say.

Speaker 6 (26:43):
That's true. What do you want me to say? I'm
not going to give her a compliment back.

Speaker 1 (26:47):
That's not the point of it.

Speaker 3 (26:48):
Though.

Speaker 6 (26:48):
Oh good you receive it and just take it.

Speaker 1 (26:50):
Yeah, you don't offer you're not worried about her anymore?

Speaker 6 (26:53):
Yeah, but I'm not worried about her at all.

Speaker 1 (26:56):
I don't where I don't worry about her again.

Speaker 2 (26:59):
You bring her up sometimes when we're not even talking
about the show or talking about her, and you're like,
she's not a good singer, and we're like, dude, we're
doing the news.

Speaker 6 (27:06):
Yeah, well, I mean it just pops in my head sometimes,
random thoughts.

Speaker 1 (27:09):
So we finally said, is there hope to change, Lunchbox, Yes.

Speaker 8 (27:12):
There's hope. A lot of the cure that we find,
like workplace, is coaching bullies learn to give people your statements, empathy,
some attention, some respect they like on more friendly terms.
They're not, you know, total personality change, but there's softens
the rough edges.

Speaker 1 (27:31):
So, Lunchbox, would you consider yourself a bully after hearing
all that?

Speaker 6 (27:33):
No, not at all. I give my honest feedback, but I.

Speaker 2 (27:37):
Think bullies feel like they're giving honest feedback. But you
understand there's other feedback that doesn't match yours, and it's
equal to yours.

Speaker 6 (27:43):
He under he said.

Speaker 7 (27:44):
Repeated behavior is bullying, right, you do it every day,
and Amy, what you miss is I pointed out that
Abby has been bullying me because she sings over and
over again when I don't like it.

Speaker 1 (27:55):
So that is bully thanks to Bill Eddie.

Speaker 2 (27:58):
And his book comes out on June eleventh, and it's
called Our New World of Adult Bullies.

Speaker 3 (28:04):
I'm gonna get that for lunch book, Eddie.

Speaker 1 (28:06):
Good booking, Thank you man.

Speaker 3 (28:07):
I thought that was good.

Speaker 1 (28:08):
All right, So this is guy.

Speaker 3 (28:10):
Don't list the Lunchbox because he gets my name wrong
every time.

Speaker 6 (28:13):
But you know what I'm listening to.

Speaker 1 (28:14):
Its Bobby Bone Show.

Speaker 2 (28:15):
Come on Lunchboxing and now we're gonna play the full interview.
This is Bill Eddie, got a book coming out about
adult bullies. This is Eddie and myself and Lunchbox talking
to this guy who has a very prominent job. He's
you know, trained lawyers and judges and CEOs. Eddie saw
this in an email. We got him on to talk.

(28:36):
Amy's not in the interview like you just heard, but
here he is Bill Eddie. All right, all with us,
Bill Eddie, Hey, Bill, tell us about your book.

Speaker 8 (28:46):
Well, my book is about bullies. Bullies are showing up everywhere,
you know, They're showing up on the highway and the airplanes,
walking down the street, at ball games, everywhere, and people
need to be prepared. That's what my book's about.

Speaker 1 (29:02):
Hey man, we might have a bully in here with us.
That's why we have you on, Bill.

Speaker 2 (29:07):
So here's the book is called Our New World of
Adult Bullies comes out June eleventh, and this is Bill Eddie,
but our Eddie Eddie say Hi, Yeah, hey.

Speaker 1 (29:17):
Bill, you're the one that suggested this. Why what do
you want to know?

Speaker 7 (29:20):
Well?

Speaker 4 (29:20):
I just think that some people, you know, deal with
workplace bullies, and in our case, I sit next to
one of them, and he just bullies people for no reason.

Speaker 3 (29:30):
And I just kind of wanted an idea of like,
why is he doing this? Where does this come from?

Speaker 2 (29:34):
Question? Bill?

Speaker 1 (29:34):
Why would an adult be a bully in the workplace?

Speaker 8 (29:37):
What we see is people are kind of grow up
this way, and so it isn't like a decision, it's
just part of their personality. And so they like to
dominate people. And that's the theme for bullies. They want
to dominate other people. I don't know if that's true
in this case.

Speaker 1 (29:55):
But it definitely is.

Speaker 2 (29:57):
Lunchbox, is anything you want to say? Obviously we're talking
about you, But what do you want to see anything? Now? Yeah?

Speaker 7 (30:03):
Bill, they call me a bully because I like to
win and I like to be honest, Like, we have
people on here that aren't good at certain things. So
I tell them you're not good at something. That's not
being a bully, right Bill, No, No, not at all.

Speaker 8 (30:15):
But a lae want other people to lose. They don't
just want to win. They want people to lose. They
want people to suffer, They want people to feel bad.

Speaker 6 (30:23):
Well, I do want them to lose.

Speaker 2 (30:25):
Dominated Yeah, when you make fun of people for no reason,
what's your point with that?

Speaker 6 (30:28):
Ah, just to let them know that they're not as
good as me.

Speaker 2 (30:30):
Right.

Speaker 1 (30:31):
Would you feel, like, mister Bill Eddie, that that was
a bully behavior.

Speaker 8 (30:36):
The key is if it's personal, like you're talking about
the whole person. Yeah, if you say, hey, look, you know,
like I'm terrible at baseball, Okay, you can tell me
I'm terrible at baseball. I don't take that personally because
I write books and so that makes me feel okay.
But if you say, as a whole person, I'm a
piece of dirt or you know, I'm or whatever, that's

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when it's bullying, when you're really trying to rub the
person into the ground.

Speaker 1 (31:03):
Do adult bullies begin as childhood bullies?

Speaker 8 (31:05):
Bill generally yes, but ninety percent of childhood bullies outgrow
it by adulthood. So these are the ones that don't
outgrow it and tend to be more refined, but they
still act like they're kind of on the playground. So
it's not that unusual, but about five to ten percent
of people seem to have this characteristic.

Speaker 1 (31:26):
How would you confront an adult bully?

Speaker 8 (31:28):
Yeah, so as an adult, I want you to take
the assertive approach. So don't be passive and let them
pick on you and just kind of let it go.
But also don't be so aggressive that you look like
you're a bully too. So being assertive something like say, hey,
cut it out, that's enough, or I don't agree with you,
I see it differently, give me a break. So when

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you stand up to a bully, as long as it's safe,
don't stand up to a bully who's going to kill you,
you know, but stand up to a bully and assert yourself.
They usually go somewhere else they don't pick on you anymore.
And we see that in the workplace. They try everybody,
but the person that accepts it, that tolerates it, that's
where they start to focus and bullying isn't just one incident.

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It's an ongoing pattern of behavior that tends to eat
away at the other person's self esteem. They get sick,
they have stomach aches, headaches, they don't come into work.
So that's the kind of thing that's really bullying in
the workplace.

Speaker 4 (32:27):
Bill, do you find a connection because you said, you know,
like you's starting the playground bullying the playground. Do you
feel there's a connection between what we do being on
the radio, it's kind of a playground.

Speaker 3 (32:37):
We still have fun every morning.

Speaker 4 (32:39):
Do you think maybe because the environment that our bully
is in kind of feels like he's still on the
playground at school, but he's an adult.

Speaker 8 (32:47):
Well, you know, it's it depends because there's a line
between fun and fun is when everyone knows like teasing,
some people just can't stand teasing, and some people love
it and you guys love it. Oh hey, that's not
the problem. The problem is when a group of people
picking on one person, or one person really picking on

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that person and trying to just run them into the ground, dominate,
or even destroy them. It's really a totally negative thing.
It's not a fun thing. So, yeah, it's a lot
of fun on the playground, and teasing isn't bullying. It's
when it's out to get you personally, that's when it's
really bullying.

Speaker 7 (33:27):
So Bill, would you say that your book is geared
towards nerds like because like nerds get picked on, and
so then nerds in the workplays get picked on. So
you're trying to help the nerds out that haven't grown
out of that, nerd them from the playground.

Speaker 8 (33:40):
Well, to some extent, Like I said, we're all vulnerable,
susceptible to bullies. We got to be aware. But I think,
you know, people kind of nerdy and I identify with that.
And I start out the book with an introduction talk
about being bullied in third grade. But I grew out
of that and I figured out I got to figure
out how to manage these folks, and then I made

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a career out of it. So I think anybody that
feels intimidated needs to be more assertive. That's part of
what this is about. We can't individually or even as
a group, tolerate real bullying. That we really need to
put a stop to it, and it seems to be
increasing these days. So that's why I wrote the book.

Speaker 1 (34:20):
Now, at what stage, do we punch the bully in
the nose?

Speaker 3 (34:25):
Good question, b Thank you.

Speaker 8 (34:27):
Yeah. So I think that the key thing is the
threat that you're going to do that. See that's what
you know. On the playground. As kids, people just did that.
But as adults we say, hey, if you keep that up.
But I don't recommend punching them in the nose, but
I recommend saying I'm going to end this conversation, I'm
going to unplug you, or I'm going to walk away,

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I'm going to do something. But like I said, you
don't want to do the aggressive act. You want to
be the assertive one. When you punch them in the nose,
then the bully gets you in trouble and you see
what he did to me, See what he did to me,
and everyone looks at you. So don't be aggressive, but
be assertive. Don't be passive, be assertive. That's the key.

Speaker 2 (35:08):
We have a lot of parents listen to our show
and they may be dealing with this with their kids
and where their kids are being bullied. Now, your books
about adult bullies, but what can you tell the parents
as far as how to handle if their kid is
being bullied at school?

Speaker 8 (35:23):
Basically, telling them a variety of things. One is again
this assertive approach. Don't be passive, don't be aggressive. Just
speak up and say hey, I don't like that, and
then walk away, just a short sentence. People think you
have to have a big confrontation. You don't have to,
just a short sentence, say I don't like that, leave
me alone, and then walk away. So or just stand

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your ground right there and say I don't like that.
Cut it out. And bullies generally cut it out. They
go where people will tolerate them. So speak up, but
also talk to somebody, talk to a teacher, talk to
one of the other kids. You know, when I was
in third grade and I got bullied in I figured out,
I'm going to hang out with the bigger kids and

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the bigger kids so they'll take care of me as
long as they help them with their homework.

Speaker 2 (36:12):
So you find a way that's right. I paid for
protection when I was a kid. I would make I
would do people's homework. I'd make money doing it, and
then I would use a little bit of that to
protect me from the bullies. And I give him a
couple of bucks to make sure I don't get beat up.
How do you think about that, Bill Eddie, I.

Speaker 8 (36:26):
Think that really works. That's what worked for me, So
I think it's whatever strategy, just don't let yourself be
run over, but don't run over the other person either.
You know, equal relationships are the happiest relationships. So that's
what seems to work. When people take advantage of you
or you take advantage of other people, that's when it

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gets into bullying.

Speaker 1 (36:49):
Abby, would you come up to the microphone for a second.

Speaker 2 (36:51):
Obviously we've been talking a bit about Lunchbox and how
he seemingly bullies you.

Speaker 1 (36:57):
Would you say he bullies you sometimes?

Speaker 10 (36:58):
Yeah, I would say so.

Speaker 6 (37:00):
And how so have you.

Speaker 1 (37:01):
Learned anything from Bill here?

Speaker 10 (37:03):
I learned a lot.

Speaker 1 (37:04):
And how will you be different after this interview?

Speaker 10 (37:05):
Because now all I have to say is like I
don't like that. Just walk away, you know, because usually
I am I'm just very passive and I kind of
let it happen.

Speaker 2 (37:12):
So Abby singing something for Bill so I can know
we're not no, no, because you think she's a bad singer, right, No, No,
I'm not tell Bill about that. So Bill, here's what happened.
Abby moved to Nashville. She wanted to be a singer.
It didn't quite work out for her, and we were
like great, and she pivoted and now she works on
this radio show, this podcast, and so she does a

(37:33):
great job. Well I got her to sing one day
and she was pretty good, and so she came out
and she opened for us Eddie and I. She's done
a couple other things, but Lunchbox continues to bully her
because he does not think she's good. He will bring
up out of nowhere how she is a terrible singer
when we're not even talking about that.

Speaker 1 (37:48):
So that's the background on that. What would you say
if I told you that story about that situation.

Speaker 8 (37:53):
Well, it's kind of depends which side of the border
that is, because if depending on your relationship, it can
be fun. And I said teasing. Some people like teasing.

Speaker 3 (38:05):
Some people don't know.

Speaker 1 (38:06):
If she doesn't like it, Bill, then she should speak up.

Speaker 8 (38:09):
Yep, that's right on the edge there, or.

Speaker 6 (38:12):
She should stop singing.

Speaker 8 (38:13):
Bill.

Speaker 1 (38:13):
No, that's no, no, Yes, he's bullying.

Speaker 6 (38:20):
That's giving my opinion.

Speaker 2 (38:21):
Okay, Bill Eddie is on with us and he wrote
a book and it's all about stopping bullying with adults,
our new world of adult bullies. How to spot them,
how to stop them? Now, Bill, you also wrote another
book called Five Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life?
Oh right, identifying and dealing with narcissists, sociopaths, and other
high conflict personalities. Now the Vinn diagram, it seems like

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our bully also would be part of this book as well.

Speaker 8 (38:47):
There's certainly some overlap. Bully has a drive to dominate
or destroy. Some people with those personalities don't have a
drive to dominate or destroy other people. Like a narcissist
might be self centered, think they're superior, but they don't
really bully people. So it really depends. Some are bullies
and some aren't.

Speaker 1 (39:07):
Yeah, how do we deal with bullies who are also narcissists.

Speaker 8 (39:12):
Well, the thing with narcissists is they like to say
they're superior, and so sometimes what you do is you say, oh,
you're really good at something, and they go, yeah, I'm
really good at something, and that calms them down. So
find something they're good at you can respect them for,
but also again, set limits and have consequences. If you

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keep talking to me this way, then this is what
I'm going to do. And so you know, a narcissist
may be a bully. Maybe not, but they cross that line,
then you've got to speak up or get help to
speak up and say, hey, this person's you know, really
be hurtful to me and they need your help. Can

(39:54):
you can you give me a hand here? Of course,
in the workplace, some people really get destroyed, like I've
examples I guess sixty examples in my book of people
getting getting bullied, and in some of those in the workplace,
they really need to get organizational help. So they've got
to go up the ladder to find somebody that will

(40:14):
give them a hand, human resources or a higher up
division chief. And some people ruin their whole companies because
they got a bully at the top. So they could
show up anywhere. But it's setting limits, being assertive, that's
the key.

Speaker 1 (40:29):
Okay, lunchbox, one final thing to Bill, do you have
anything you want to say?

Speaker 6 (40:33):
I tuned down me. He's doing a lot of nerd
talk and I was like, man, oh my goodness, But.

Speaker 7 (40:39):
I mean Bill, like you're you're right, Like it's whatever
side of the border you're on, right, like you No, Now.

Speaker 1 (40:45):
You've given them something to walk with from this interview
going on, I'm just on.

Speaker 3 (40:47):
The side of the border.

Speaker 7 (40:48):
Yeah, I'm just on the side of the border. You
guys don't want to be on. So you say it's bullying.
If you were on if you thought Abby was a
bad singer, you'd be on my side of this.

Speaker 2 (40:55):
If we ask al Abby does she feel like she's
getting bullied? And she says yes, I think that would
be a cue for you to do.

Speaker 7 (41:01):
But that's her side of the border. My side of
the border is it's not it's giving feedback.

Speaker 1 (41:06):
It's like if you want to ask for your feedback.

Speaker 7 (41:07):
Bill, if I went to a restaurant in a waiter,
a waitress wasn't doing a good job and I gave
him feedback, is that bullying or is that, you know,
telling them, hey, you need to improve it your job.

Speaker 8 (41:17):
I'd say partly, it depends how you give them feedback.
You say, here, you know, I want to give you
a tip. I think if you do this, it's better
than that. But you know, bullyings repeated behavior. So if
you repeat the behavior and the person repeats that they
don't like it, then that crosses the line. I'd say,
So you got to you gotta do it gently, and

(41:38):
it just occasionally.

Speaker 7 (41:40):
So you're telling me Abby's been bullying me this whole
time because she keeps singing.

Speaker 6 (41:43):
I tell her I don't like it, and she continues
to do it.

Speaker 8 (41:48):
Well, maybe you need a mediator. See that's one of
the other things I talk about in the book. Sometimes
you need a mediator to come up with a compromise
so that you can maybe hear some singing and maybe
not here's I'm singing, and find the right balance for
the two of you.

Speaker 1 (42:03):
One final thing, Yeah, Bill, So is it Are we doomed?

Speaker 2 (42:08):
Like?

Speaker 3 (42:09):
Is he always going to be like this? Or can
we fix them? Is there a cure for bullying?

Speaker 1 (42:13):
Touch them in the nest?

Speaker 8 (42:14):
Well, A lot of the cure that we find, like workplace,
is coaching. So we developed a coaching method, you know,
new ways for work for productive relationships. So coaching, sometimes
you coach somebody to practice being assertive instead of being aggressive,
to give the other person some empathy, some attention, some respect.

(42:36):
We call it ear statements. And when bullies learn to
give people ear statements, they stop bullying. They like on
more friendly terms. They're not you know, total personality change.
But this softens the rough edges. And that's a lot
of what you need in the workplace. Just soften those
sharp elbows. And that's a lot of what we teach

(42:56):
in our trainings and are coaching. So yes, there's hope,
there's room for compromise. There's maybe some coaching in the future.
I'll leave that up to you. I can't can't judge
any particular situation off hand, that's for sure.

Speaker 1 (43:12):
Hey, Abby, what have you learned now?

Speaker 2 (43:13):
This is the last opportunity to talk to Bill, Like,
what are you gonna do from this point for when
you feel bullied by lunchbox?

Speaker 10 (43:19):
Well, basically not listen to what he says, Amen, and
just be like leave me alone and someone else.

Speaker 2 (43:25):
You need to set a boundary. I am saying this boundary.
I will not allow you to make me feel this
way or say this about me.

Speaker 1 (43:33):
Stop it.

Speaker 10 (43:34):
Yes, And I'm basically tuned him out anyway.

Speaker 6 (43:35):
I like what she said. She goes, I'm telling them
to pick on someone, and we can't say that somebody
else what she said.

Speaker 3 (43:44):
Pick on someone your own size.

Speaker 5 (43:45):
But is that not the best way.

Speaker 1 (43:49):
I don't know that. It's past the buck onto something else.

Speaker 10 (43:52):
That's the thing. He never gives me any tips to
get better. He's just like you sound nasally. So is
there anything else he got?

Speaker 1 (43:58):
Or tip is stop saying? Or surgery or surgery okay,
see okay.

Speaker 2 (44:04):
Bill Eddie is the Chief Innovation Officer of the High
Conflict Institute and author of Our New World of Adult Bullies.

Speaker 1 (44:09):
The book comes out June eleventh.

Speaker 2 (44:12):
You've given us some good advice here, Bill Eddie, and
I hope the book does amazing numbers.

Speaker 1 (44:18):
And we really appreciate your time.

Speaker 8 (44:19):
Thanks so much.

Speaker 1 (44:20):
Glhead to be on all right, thank you very much.

Speaker 3 (44:23):
Bobby Bones show sorry up today.

Speaker 7 (44:26):
This story comes to us from Naples, Florida. Hey, couple
was out on a pier and they were doing some
adult things when.

Speaker 1 (44:33):
What adult think, like real adult things like drinking.

Speaker 7 (44:36):
Not like real When police came walking up, the twenty
year old girls like, oh no, and so she dove
off the pier into the.

Speaker 6 (44:44):
Ocean thing it's gonna move, I'm gonna swim away.

Speaker 3 (44:47):
It's a big oak.

Speaker 1 (44:47):
You're gonna move though. It's good. That's how you get
out of there.

Speaker 7 (44:49):
And so police just stood on the shore for about
twenty minutes and then she's like, all right, I'm tired,
I'm coming in.

Speaker 1 (44:54):
Well, why did she just doggy paddle away. Why don't you.

Speaker 2 (44:58):
I feel like she might swam back and the doggy
paddle and they watched her like, no, you have to
swim somewhere else.

Speaker 6 (45:03):
Yeah, I don't know.

Speaker 3 (45:04):
At some point you're like, I'm not going anywhere.

Speaker 2 (45:07):
You swim to another part of the beach, but they'll
just walk under water. No, you go under water and
you do this and then everybody's like, you go back underwater.

Speaker 6 (45:18):
It was sort of like a dolphin, so they don't
know where exactly.

Speaker 1 (45:20):
Where we're going. What is she thinking?

Speaker 3 (45:22):
She's not a dolphin.

Speaker 6 (45:23):
I'm Lunchbox. That's your bonehead story of the day, Amy,
what's up?

Speaker 5 (45:28):
Okay, So I just had a little scenario with Lunchbox
where I need to know if this is normal or
not because we walked by construction guys on the side
of the street and he sort of, you know, like
hollers at.

Speaker 1 (45:38):
Them, holler to me. It's like, what a baby? Yeah,
oh he did.

Speaker 5 (45:42):
Honestly, my first thought was if those were women construction workers,
he would be flirting with them.

Speaker 1 (45:48):
So what it sounds like a face like he does
not agree?

Speaker 5 (45:51):
Yeah, yeah, hey, looking good, guys.

Speaker 3 (45:54):
Looking good?

Speaker 1 (45:56):
Like construction why would say.

Speaker 5 (45:58):
That because they were working and he was encouraging them.
But the I just thought this is so odd. I thought,
but maybe it's looking good.

Speaker 7 (46:10):
Amy, I must have selective hearing, because me and Scooba
were joking. I was like, yeah, it's looking good in
their guys. It's looking good at good working.

Speaker 1 (46:17):
There's way more masculine than what she's saying. He said,
And she said just looking good guys.

Speaker 6 (46:23):
I never said looking good guys and said it's looking
good in there guys.

Speaker 5 (46:26):
Yeah, looking good guys, like your project is looking good.

Speaker 2 (46:29):
But there's a difference in looking good guys and looking
good in there.

Speaker 6 (46:33):
Okay, the way she's presenting the way she's presenting it
is I was hitting on them.

Speaker 7 (46:37):
I said, it's looking good on their dollar in it
then and then and then there's a dubbs out there.

Speaker 6 (46:42):
I was like, Hey, we need to hurt them. Fill
this up, we need to.

Speaker 1 (46:43):
Build out annoying. Who is this guy? Also?

Speaker 2 (46:46):
That's annoying even like looking good in there guys, as
somebody's walking by not working like, that's kind of annoying too.
But I guess the question is was he hitting on
the construction worker.

Speaker 3 (46:55):
I thought you're normal or not.

Speaker 1 (46:58):
No, it's not.

Speaker 2 (46:59):
I don't know why would you even I like that
at them, like looking good in there. It feels a
bit condess.

Speaker 6 (47:03):
No, it's saying, hey, you're doing a good job.

Speaker 1 (47:04):
How do you know, because you're really not looking and
in pain.

Speaker 6 (47:07):
So I did look in there, and they had the
dry wall up. It looks good, and they were taking
a break.

Speaker 1 (47:13):
Craft and then you went, you were like, fill this
thing up.

Speaker 6 (47:16):
Well, the dumpster was almost full. I was like, all right, man,
we almost got a bull. Let's keep filling it up
like you can do it.

Speaker 2 (47:21):
Guys, you're the guy who's walking by not working, yelling
at the guys who are working.

Speaker 1 (47:27):
Yeah, that's that's a little obnoxious. But you weren't hitting
on them.

Speaker 6 (47:30):
Definitely wasn't hitting on them.

Speaker 5 (47:32):
I'm just saying if they were winning to hear the tape,
all right, bye everybody, but y'all