December 8, 2024 • 50 mins
In this weekly series, we share highlight clips from the past week of some of the podcasts on The Nashville Podcast Network- In The Vet's Office with Dr. Josie, Take This Personally with Morgan Huelsman, The BobbyCast, 4 Things with Amy Brown, Sore Losers, Movie Mike's Movie Podcast and Get Real with Caroline Hobby. You can listen to new episodes weekly wherever you get your podcasts.
You can find them on Instagram:
-The BobbyCast- @BobbyCast
-In The Vet's Office with Dr. Josie- @DrJosieVet
-Take This Personally- @TakeThisPersonally
-4 Things with Amy Brown- @RadioAmy
-Sore Losers- @SoreLosersPodcast
-Movie Mikes Movie Podcast- @MikeDeestro
-Get Real: @GetRealCarolineHobby
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Speaker 1 (00:09):
Hey guys, Sunday Sampler Time, just some of the podcasts
from the Nashville Podcast Network. Since a lot of people
don't put up podcasts on Sundays, we put this up
maybe here a little bit of what you like, and
you go listen to the whole thing. In the Vets
Office with Doctor Josie, Doctor Josie sat down with doctor
Amy Addis, who is a house called Veterinarian in New
York City. So that means celebrity pets like share Billy, Joel,
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Joan Rivers and some crazy stories. So that's pretty cool.
Four Things with Amy Brown. I had Marcus King on
Who's Awesome Morgan's podcast? Oh that's coming up here, but
I do want to get started with a clip from
in the Vets Office with Doctor Josie, with that New
York City Vet.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
You're listening to In the Vets Office with Doctor Josie Horschhak.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
The people you got close to you were pretty high profile.
Speaker 4 (01:02):
And what I have noticed on this podcast especially is
will have stars, country music stars or like Bobby Bones
come on and you talk to them about their career
and their goals, and they're they're kind of one person.
And then when you talk to them about their animals,
you can just see like a completely different side of them.
I think just from watching her on TV that Joan
Rivers is pretty intimidating. I'm assuming that you probably saw
(01:24):
a lot more of a softer side to her with
her animals.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
I saw all sides of Joan Rivers. She was an
enormous personality. She was driven in a way that very
few people are.
Speaker 5 (01:37):
When I would go.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
Into her home to work with the dogs, there would
be posted on the refrigerator her daily schedule, and it
said things like up at five, exercise, makeup, leave for studio,
and then her entire day was calculated down to the
moment and it ended at midnight. I mean, she was
very regiment, old enough to be more than my mother,
(02:00):
and she had a schedule that would have run me
into the ground. So she was an enormously busy person,
and she was extremely demanding, and her dogs were so
important to her. So I was used to getting yelled
at on occasion or emails that I wish she had
never sent to me. But when she was finished with that,
(02:22):
she turned out to be, of course a very dear friend.
So we would go through the cycles of Joan's love
and her wrath. She was an enormous supporter of mine.
When I started my house call practice, she told everyone
she knew. The relationship over those years turned into a lovely,
lovely friendship where we went out to dinner together. I
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mean she called one day. We had homes close to
each other, about one hundred miles north of New York City,
and she called and said, take me to the movies
on Saturday night.
Speaker 3 (02:54):
So it was like she didn't ask.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Of course, she didn't ask a question. She would have
the most beautiful dinner parties where the group of people
around the table were just from all different types of
parts of her life, and every person felt like they
were the guest of honor. She was an enormously gracious, warm,
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loving person with a little bit of a biting part.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
Of her person.
Speaker 4 (03:21):
You don't want to be on her bad side. Oh no,
I love the story about her Yorky. I think it
was a Yorky that you had encouraged her to get
a surgery that she did not really want to do,
and then she ended up doing it and was like
I was right to do it.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Said, well, she was never wrong, of course, But you know,
like even with her first Yorkie, Spike. Spike went to
work with her wherever she was. He traveled around, he
was part of the show, and I recommended that because
he wasn't feeling well, that maybe she would leave him
out of the show that week and he should stay home.
And like all of a sudden, you know, she had
(03:56):
just looked at me and she said, don't tell me
what to do, just make my dog well enough to go.
Speaker 6 (04:01):
Like you didn't.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
I wasn't messed with them exactly. Wow. Yeah, it's funny
we do, even if they're not famous.
Speaker 4 (04:09):
You have everybody that's a bugineer and has owners that
can be a little bit more demanding, And I think
our job is to kind of look past at and
see like, Okay, where's this coming from. They just really,
at the core of it, love their pet and want
their pet to be okay.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
I had a client who moved to New York after
he retired. He had been a movie producer, so he
moved from California to New York and he lived in
new apartment with his two cats. And he paged me
on a Saturday night for an emergency and I called
him back immediately. I said, what's the problem. He said,
my cat just scratched me with his nails. His nails
(04:43):
are too long. Come and cut them. I said, it's
ten o'clock and a Saturday night. I don't I don't
make house calls. If you truly had an emergency, it
would help you. But I'm not coming to cut your
cat's nails. And he kind of hesitated and said, you know,
in La, nobody would ever say no to me. So
he was like being brought back into the real world.
Speaker 3 (05:03):
Yeah, you're like not in New York, no means no.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
And you're retired.
Speaker 3 (05:06):
Yeah, exactly, exactly.
Speaker 4 (05:09):
Another thing that you talked about in the book that
I really loved and I have seen with my own
experience as a veterinarian, is that no, there is no
such thing as a disabled pet, and so we have
a lot of patients that require amputations, or they lose
an eye, or they go deaf, and so I really
loved how you put an emphasis on that. I think
(05:31):
I tell my owners all the time. We can learn
so much from our animals. I have had dogs going
through chemo that are bouncing around and rolling in the grass.
Dogs on three legs or cats on three legs that
would never know the difference. And if someone cut my
leg off, I probably would be in bed crying about
it for six months.
Speaker 3 (05:48):
You're the rest of my life. Who knows.
Speaker 4 (05:49):
But they are just so resilient in that way.
Speaker 5 (06:00):
What was your house like South Carolina?
Speaker 1 (06:02):
Like?
Speaker 7 (06:02):
What was it?
Speaker 1 (06:02):
I don't know the physically, what was the house like
a couple of bedrooms?
Speaker 6 (06:05):
Yeah. So I initially grew up in a ranch, three bedroom,
one bathroom house with a side room where I had
my drums set and my guitar and I would just
spend hours in there, either playing drums. My grandfather tell
me how to play a train beat, and he'd play
along with me.
Speaker 5 (06:26):
What's the train beat?
Speaker 8 (06:27):
Can you.
Speaker 5 (06:29):
Oh like it got it gotta go out? I hear
the train coming. That's what I think when you do that.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
But yeah, yeah, maybe just because we're trains in it
and I'm very slow.
Speaker 6 (06:36):
Yeah no, no, no, I mean that that's the train
be that's the quint essential. And he taught me, you know,
because it's all about the timing and like not letting
it drag, not letting it rush, just keeping it right there.
And I started on drums actually, so I just I
spent a lot of time alone. But it was you know,
next door was my grandparents' house, and I just hang
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out with them when my dad was work and just
played guitar all day or drums to sing.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
We'll just call it the blues. Before your voice hits puberty?
What do you I don't know, man, And how bluesy
can you be with a high pitched voice?
Speaker 6 (07:18):
Well, I mean you'd have to ask, Like like Tina Turner,
I mean that was that was the and like Aretha Franklin,
like I liked soul singers. Sure, I feel like you know,
even like bb King after like sixty eight sixty nine
Bibe was putting out like soul records.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
But did it change for it at some point where
you were singing but your voice had hit puberty and
then after it.
Speaker 6 (07:42):
Was I started singing when I was when I was thirteen,
So I think that's why I made before that Nah, Wow,
I just played guitar. I was too bashful to sing.
Speaker 5 (07:55):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (07:55):
Yeah, first time singing. Then then why in public? Why
what got you there?
Speaker 6 (08:00):
Well, you know I had always kind of expressed my
you know, trauma or whatever it was, just through the guitar,
and you know, when I was thirteen, the girl I
had a crush on died in a car accident, and
it really fucked my head up. And I had had
all these abandonment issues anyway, and they all just kind
(08:22):
of like came to a head, and I was really
not able to, you know, find a way to comfort myself,
you know. And we didn't have the distractions that we
have now, you know, so I wasn't on an iPad
or anything to like fully escape and immerse myself in
something else. So that's when I decided to start writing
(08:44):
and start singing, you know, just so I had two
more vessels to put my pain through. And I think
the first time I sang publicly, I sang not my
Cross to bear by the Oman Brothers.
Speaker 9 (09:00):
Man.
Speaker 5 (09:01):
Well, that's not an easy one.
Speaker 1 (09:03):
It's not an easy so you decided to just go Yeah,
I mean it's I'm a little teapot, right.
Speaker 6 (09:08):
That's how I learned to swim, you know, just get
thrown into the deep end.
Speaker 5 (09:12):
I spent a lot of time in therapy. I got
some crazy abandonment issues myself. Dad left when I was
five or six.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
Mom died drugs in her forties, and so you know,
mine are to the point where.
Speaker 5 (09:26):
They're built in, like they're cooked in.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
But I can acknowledge them, and I can see them,
and I can see it affect and I can feel
it affected me.
Speaker 5 (09:34):
But I can ignowlre it. Right like forever, I didn't
even know.
Speaker 7 (09:37):
I gotta know why.
Speaker 5 (09:38):
I was just wanted to be by myself or.
Speaker 1 (09:42):
You know, everything told me. I loved them tomorrow about
my wife a few years ago. But I was just
always like, this is who I am, This is who
I am, this swam But that's that was like what
mine were rooted in.
Speaker 5 (09:50):
What was yours a parent thing? Was yours a home
type thing?
Speaker 6 (09:54):
Yeah, my mom left when I was very young, and
that was really hard for me, and that was it's
still something that I really struggle with.
Speaker 5 (10:03):
You know, is she alive now, she's still alive.
Speaker 6 (10:07):
Her health's not very good, but we you know, we've
packed things up and we're we're a lot closer now.
Speaker 5 (10:13):
You know that you're a better man than I am.
Like my real dad's still alive. I don't talk to him.
Speaker 6 (10:17):
Yeah, I mean it's it's challenging.
Speaker 5 (10:19):
You know, how old were you?
Speaker 6 (10:21):
I was like five, so like that age is really
really tough because you know, I'd go to school every day,
I'd get sent home from kindergarten every day because I'd
cry so hard that i'd throw up. And this was
a daily thing because you don't know where her mother's at.
It's you know, just as a as a mammal, a living,
(10:42):
breathing mammal, You're just instinctively you're gonna need your mother's
affection and love and attention. And I didn't have it.
And I have my grandmother, who was, you know, really
like my mother.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
My grandma adopted me. We might be the same person. Yeah,
we're except for that smoothie. That's too much I need again,
I need lots of show. Yeah. So your grandma was
very instrumental and your your upbringing, huh.
Speaker 6 (11:05):
And she was, you know, just a really sassy German
woman and just very loving, very affectionate. And it almost,
you know, kind of balanced it out. How affectionate she was,
you know, made up for the fact that my mother
had left. But you know, I still I love my
mother and I try to take care of her the
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best I can.
Speaker 7 (11:51):
Cast up little food for yourself.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
Life always pretty, but it's pretty beautiful that for a
little mouth.
Speaker 5 (12:05):
Said, cut your kicking with full with Amy Brown.
Speaker 10 (12:11):
First, I want to go over what real alcohols you
can have or the ones you may want to stay
away from again if you're trying to avoid the anxiety. Apparently,
dark liquors like whiskey, prosecco, champagne, and red wine are
the worst. They have chemicals that worsen hangovers and anxiety.
Sugary cocktails are also a no go, which after I
(12:33):
read this, I was like, oh, okay, my drinks the
other night on my date YEP had prosecco mixed in
a sugary concoction, So damn that was likely my problem.
The high sugar, which leads to a sugar spike and
then a sugar crash, which then will increase my anxiety,
my irritability. And then also I had no idea about this,
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but the bubbles in prosecco and champagne they speed up
the absorption of alcohol in our bloodstream, which lead to
a quicker and more intense effect. So at the time,
it's feeling really good and it's all enjoyable and you're like, oh,
I feel great, this is fun, which might lead you
to order more, and then the after effects of that anxiety,
(13:15):
which I was also surprised to see red wine on
the worst list. I mean, the whiskey, the sugary drinks,
I get that was easy for me to understand, but
red wine was a little confusing. But I guess it's
a sugar and chemical thing. And I am bummed to
see prosecco on there. And keep that in mind though,
with New Year's Eve coming up, prosecco, champagne, a lot
of that is served, and maybe you want to avoid
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that this time of year and see if you feel
better the next morning. Now, as for the best drinks
to have to decrease your anxiety, the article said to
stick to clear liquors like vodka, gin, or tequila with soap.
Speaker 9 (13:52):
Tequila kayala is a little.
Speaker 5 (13:59):
What are you all?
Speaker 11 (14:01):
I was sitting back here and I was like, man,
I can't wait to hit this. When she says tequila, okay,
that's scuba.
Speaker 10 (14:06):
Steve, I had no idea he was even listening to this.
He's back in his glass production room.
Speaker 3 (14:14):
Tequila.
Speaker 10 (14:14):
You can have vodka, gin or tequila with soda, water
or fresh citrus. Those are easier on your system. And
then again, hydrate, hydrate, hydrate, don't forget water between drinks.
It can make a huge difference. And we know this.
Speaker 3 (14:30):
I know this.
Speaker 10 (14:30):
We don't always do it, but just make a deal
with yourself, make smarter choices, and then you'll have less anxiety. Now,
Ray speaking of the glass room where Scuba works. He
is one of our producers on the Bobby Bone Show,
and he was actually just making fun of me this
morning for being sold that I can't even handle one drink.
Ray likes to drink, but mostly I would say, now
(14:53):
it's during brunch on Saturdays. That's his time to go out.
And he's the one that got me on on Booze
a while back, which is a supplement that helps you
feel better after drinking. And I will say it has
helped me, but sometimes I run out or other times
I just forget to take it. And last weekend, you know,
I had those drinks, but I was out of unboozed.
(15:15):
So I do need to order more. And I will
shout out Ray because he has a code sisin twenty three.
So I think his handle on Instagram is like sisin
Ray Mundo, but sisin is like for season, but s
z N twenty three, and that'll get you a discount
if you're curious about Unbooze, and I'll link it in
the show notes. But in addition to taking something like
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Unbooze that may help you out. Another option might be
non Alcoholic Spirits.
Speaker 9 (15:40):
Now.
Speaker 10 (15:41):
I came across that brand recently, like I told you,
thanks to that Instagram ad, and what I ordered specifically
was from Little Saints. It's a whole non alcoholic brand,
so there's nothing confusing about it. You don't go to
the website and you're like, wait, which one's the alcohol,
which one's not, because they all look like alcohol but
nothing is. And I was most intrigued by their drink
(16:04):
that mimics tequila. I thought it would come in handy
for when I want a margarita something like that. When
I got the bottle and the mail, I saw that
the company is also founded by a woman, which I love.
And my overall review is four point five out of five.
I really liked it so much so that, Yeah, I
may order more stuff from the site, Like I was
(16:25):
saying to Eddie, maybe I'll order some gifts for people.
Speaker 9 (16:29):
I know.
Speaker 10 (16:29):
There's a lot of na brands out there. This is
just the only one that i've tried and really enjoyed
so far. And this one is infused with lines Made,
which is a functional mushroom. It's an adaptogen. It's good
for brain health, mood support, gut health, and a lot
of other things. I've always loved lines Made, so to
have it in my mocktail it's like a bonus. I
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don't know if it's just me or if y'all are
also getting more non alcoholic type ads, but I do
think that drinking is on the decline drinking alcohol. People
are drinking less, which I guess is good and probably
why some brands have increased marketing because they want to
capitalize on the fact that people are drinking less, or
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they are curious about drinking less.
Speaker 3 (17:17):
And speaking of.
Speaker 10 (17:18):
Curiosity, I decided to do a little research because I
was like, Okay, what are the statistics on this, like,
is drinking actually going down? And I found that, on average,
this is from NC Solutions, Americans are drinking three drinks
per week and that's down from four to five drinks
in twenty twenty three. Millennials in particular are drinking less,
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like forty percent less this year than last year, with
an average of three drinks per week. Which is crazy
to think about if we were going from five drinks
to three and with dry January coming up next month
might be the highest year of participation yet because this
last January was up ten percent from the year before,
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So it's just in one year and ten percent jump.
That is a lot of people. And the top of
reasons Americans are drinking less include while we want to
improve our physical health, we want to save money.
Speaker 3 (18:13):
Although I will say.
Speaker 10 (18:14):
The non alcoholic drinks they might be more expensive than
the alcohol ones, so maybe they're saving money and just
not drinking anything, not even the fake version. And overall,
we just want to make lifestyle changes.
Speaker 11 (18:30):
We're gonna do it live.
Speaker 7 (18:32):
We are the one, two three sore losers. What up, everybody?
I am lunchbox. I know the most about sports, so
I'll give you the sports facts, my sports opinions, because
I'm pretty much a sports genius, y'all.
Speaker 12 (18:46):
It's Sison. I'm from the North. I'm an alpha male.
I live on the north side of Nashville with Bayser,
my wife.
Speaker 11 (18:51):
We do have a farm.
Speaker 12 (18:52):
It's beautiful, a lot of acreage, no animals, a lot
of crops, hopefully soon corn pumpkins. I believe maybe a
little fescue to be determined over to you, coach, And.
Speaker 7 (19:07):
Here's a clip from this week's episode of The Sore Losers.
My in laws come in and they act like my
house is a pile of shit. They act like we
can't take care of ourselves. They start up, They're like,
my father's like, hey, where is that curtain rod that
your your wife once hung up? I'm like what, She's
(19:29):
never mentioned a curtain rod in her life to me.
Speaker 11 (19:32):
All the stuff you didn't do.
Speaker 7 (19:34):
I'm like, what curtain There's no curtain rod and he goes, yeah,
she said she gave me a to do list and
one of them was hanging this curtain rod.
Speaker 11 (19:42):
I coach, you haven't done it for six months.
Speaker 7 (19:45):
I have never been told about a curtain rod anywhere.
And I'm like what. And he's like, yeah, she told
me that you guys want to hang a curtain rod
in the kid's bedroom. I'm like, we do. So he
goes down and hang. He hangs the damn curtain in
the kid's bedroom and I'm like, what the hell you
want to just take my man card to then? Oh,
(20:06):
then we bought a mirror that she bought a mirror
in an estate sale, and she I was like, well,
where do you want to hang it? I don't know.
I do notice she's stuck in the closet. Never said
anything else about it. Her parents are there and her
father and La was like, now, so where is this
mirror going. And I'm like, I don't know, and he goes, no, no,
she said she wanted it in the kitchen right And
(20:27):
I'm like, no, she has not mentioned anything about a
damn mirror to me since we you know, like we
bought the mirror we put in the closet and she
said she was gonna think about it. He's like, no,
she said, she wants it hung up right here. So
he gets out the tape measure and starts marking shit
and hangs it right on the wall.
Speaker 11 (20:41):
Yeah, let me get the tape measure. It's in the bedroom.
Speaker 7 (20:44):
And I'm like, well, what the hell? Like they start
just doing everything, but you got him knocked off the
list though it was never on the list.
Speaker 11 (20:52):
But you're saying it's a little bit. It's a little bit.
Speaker 13 (20:57):
I was gonna say, emasculating, yeah, and a little bit
of like okay, and like the kid's laundry, you know
what I mean, it gets washed and it stays in
the laundry room and you never put it away.
Speaker 7 (21:07):
So they go in there and that's where they pick
out their clothes. I'm the man in this house, Jim, No, No,
father in law like, Hey, we're gonna clean this up
right now. We're gonna clean this laundry up right now?
Speaker 11 (21:16):
What in this place look like?
Speaker 1 (21:18):
Dude?
Speaker 7 (21:18):
I'm like, holy s. They like, we can't even take
care of ourselves.
Speaker 1 (21:22):
Dude.
Speaker 6 (21:23):
Oh you're talking about mount laundry?
Speaker 11 (21:27):
Honey, what happened to the mountain back here? Dude? It's
awesome though, once it all gets done.
Speaker 7 (21:33):
Yeah, But I'm sitting there trying to watch football going.
Speaker 11 (21:37):
Across the top.
Speaker 7 (21:39):
I'm trying to relax, and there's drilling freaking knocking stuff out,
like pulling this out, moving this, doing that, And I'm like, so,
am I allowed to relax? Or am I supposed to
go help that?
Speaker 12 (21:51):
That was my big dilemma, right, You just stand there
and really you're in support.
Speaker 7 (21:55):
I mean, I can't see a TV.
Speaker 11 (21:58):
Well, see, we have a lot of tea.
Speaker 12 (22:00):
I made sure that we're a TV household, so usually
any project.
Speaker 7 (22:03):
We're doing, I have a TV I guess what spare bedroom.
How often do I go in the spare bedroom?
Speaker 8 (22:07):
You do?
Speaker 12 (22:08):
But bezos, you got this roller TV that I can
roll roll around the spare bedroom.
Speaker 7 (22:11):
Never go in there. That's where the in laws are staying, right,
And what a pointless room, right, It's so dumb. It's like, oh,
we need a spare bedroom, you know when people come visit.
Guess how often people come visit? Maybe once a year.
So you can figure it out through an air mattress subury.
You don't need a spare bedroom. It's absolutely stupid. But
I'm I don't go in the spare bedroom. But since
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they're staying in there, we need to tidy up the
spare bedroom.
Speaker 11 (22:36):
So we're in there.
Speaker 7 (22:36):
The in laws are moving the bed, vacuuming behind the bed, dude,
and I'm like, what the they're acting like that we
live in the damn shithole. And then I've never done
anything in my life. I mean, they've got the vacuum out,
they got the mop they're you know, doing washing the
sheets and the comforter and the pillows and the every
(22:57):
day coach.
Speaker 12 (22:58):
That's not even the worst of it. Did you get
criticized for your tools?
Speaker 7 (23:02):
Oh, next, Hey, where are your drill bits? Oh they're
right there in that closet. They may have a little
dust on them. And he's like, I didn't see him.
I don't think you have any drill bits. And I'm like, oh,
I have drill bits, man, they should be right there.
So I didn't. I didn't find them. He goes, I'll
just go to home depot and get them. You got
(23:24):
home depot and I'm like, all right, man, and he
goes home Depot gets whatever he needs. He comes back
and he's like, oh, they are in that closet. They
were just underneath something. I'm like, I told you. He goes, yeah,
but these these drill bits are better. These are these
are a little bit newer. And he goes to get
my electric drill and he's like, seems like you need
an electric drill. The battery's not holding a charge. No,
(23:44):
I charge that thing every night.
Speaker 5 (23:46):
Should be good.
Speaker 7 (23:46):
And he's like, you want to go pick you up
one right now? I'm like, or he goes, you want
to go to home depot with me and get one.
I'm like, no, I really don't. I don't have any
desire right now at this moment, at this point in
time to go to home depot to get a gosh
darn drill. I would just like to relax. And he's like,
I'll just go to home depot. So he goes back
(24:07):
to home depot.
Speaker 11 (24:08):
He made a double trip to depot.
Speaker 7 (24:11):
He made a triple tip trip to depot. Right, that's bad.
Speaker 11 (24:15):
That means you didn't have it.
Speaker 7 (24:16):
Coach, No, I had a drill. I had the drill bits,
but apparently the battery wasn't holding its charge. Then he
the back door, like when it's wintertime, it's harder to
lock it.
Speaker 11 (24:31):
Yeah, you gotta winterize it, man, And.
Speaker 7 (24:33):
He's like, oh, you need a chisel. He's like, do
you have a chisel?
Speaker 12 (24:38):
I might Coach, you've been asked for the electric gun,
the chisel, the curtain rod in an ancient mirror.
Speaker 7 (24:44):
And I'm like, no, no, man, I don't I don't
have a I don't have a chisel.
Speaker 8 (24:49):
Heels.
Speaker 7 (24:50):
I wish i'd known that for I got to go
back to home depot and he goes back down. Nebo
gets the chisel and he's like, chiseling out where the
lot goes because I guess it's sunken down or it's
not level anymore. So it was hitting the top and
he chisels a little piece of the wood off. I'm like,
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none of this shit bothers me. None of this bothers me.
Can we like, I've lived in this house and none
of this has bothered me. I have not wanted to
fix any of this. No one has told me I
need to fix any of this. But they come to
town and it's like, oh my god, this house is
falling apart. And then the spare bedroom. Guess what, right,
we never used the spare bedroom. I never put a
(25:32):
curtain rod up never, or a shower curtain, right, and
so like, how are we supposed to take a shower?
I never, I didn't think about that. Whenever you come,
we usually just hang a towel and it gets on
the or put some towels on the floor and then
brust the water. Well that's unacceptable. Well we'll just run
(25:52):
the target real kit quick and we'll get a shower
curtain and rot and oh my god.
Speaker 12 (25:56):
Damn dude, four depots and a target.
Speaker 7 (25:59):
It was like, I mean, it made me just sitting
there going and then my wife's like, is everything okay?
I'm like, well, besides the fact that they think I
am incapable of doing anything. And b I don't know
if I'm other supposed to sit there and help, or
if I'm if I'm allowed to sit here and watch football.
Speaker 6 (26:14):
I don't know.
Speaker 7 (26:15):
The you know protocol here.
Speaker 12 (26:16):
The protocol is this, you offer something that's just completely pointless.
So for example, for me, it's just Gary, let me
hold this ladder for you. No, man, does these things
hold themselves? It it's four legs, stupid, Okay, no worries.
Speaker 11 (26:29):
Man.
Speaker 12 (26:30):
You offer something that you know they don't even need
help with. You know, hey, dude, it is getting darker.
You to grab a light or something.
Speaker 5 (26:36):
No, man, I'm good.
Speaker 7 (26:37):
Oh okay, Uh, just let me know if.
Speaker 11 (26:38):
Anything you know you're offering, you know what am I
gonna do?
Speaker 12 (26:41):
Hold a light?
Speaker 7 (26:42):
You know, stuff like that. Because I looked at the
curtain run and they were I mean, it took him
forty five minutes to do the curtain run.
Speaker 12 (26:47):
I'm like, guys, you gotta measure it. That's a whole thing.
It's not just sticking it up there. Gary would measure it.
He would put a laser on it, dude, he would.
He's got the drill gun. You're gonna do one side
then the other. There's a lot to level it. There's
a level on top. Me dude, me, I'd stick it
up two darts in the sides right.
Speaker 7 (27:07):
And we had the exact same conversation. I said, guys,
it's been forty five minutes. What's going on? Why is
their tape all over the wall. And my wife's like, oh,
you know how my dad is. He likes to measure
everything and make sure everything's perfect. And she goes, that's
how I prefer it. You know what I mean is
if we just measure, measure, measure, measure, measure, make sure
everything's perfect. You prefer perfectly measured. She goes, let me
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guess your dad would have just got up there and
eyeballed it. I said, yeah, I think he would eyeballed it.
That's what I would have done. I'd have just looked
your dad would I'm a construction guy, I know, but
I think he eyeballed a lot, like a curtain rod.
I don't think you is a big deal.
Speaker 12 (27:43):
I would almost imagine that the curtain rod can probably
there's probably what is it called backsplash or something where
it's actually level there. You would just need to level
the top and boom it.
Speaker 7 (27:54):
I don't know, but I'm just saying I left that
week feeling like, holy s man. He this dude thinks
I am the laziest person in the world because I'm like,
I don't want to do any of this crap. I
just want to watch football. I'd never planned to do
any of this be he criticized my tools, what I'm
working with. He was like, you need to step up
your game, and b see, they're coming back in like
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two weeks.
Speaker 11 (28:17):
Dude.
Speaker 12 (28:17):
The worst is a tool criticization, criticizing It happened to me.
I would I He goes, hey, will you go get
me get me something to screw this in.
Speaker 14 (28:27):
Dude.
Speaker 11 (28:27):
I just went and got a Phillips screwdriver, like a
hand one.
Speaker 7 (28:30):
Yeah, dude.
Speaker 11 (28:31):
He wanted like some drill gun. That's I bring him
that and he's like, what.
Speaker 5 (28:39):
The is this?
Speaker 11 (28:40):
I was like, at Phillips, fuck you want.
Speaker 12 (28:44):
He goes, We'll be out here all night if I'm
gonna do it with that, my that's a good point.
He's like, you ain't got that thing, you know, whatever
the name is, it's just it's like a hydraulic gun.
And he's like, but dude, my I hand him like
it's limp and it has no cord connected to it, and
I'm I'm.
Speaker 11 (29:00):
Like, yeah, just this little phillips.
Speaker 7 (29:01):
Dude.
Speaker 8 (29:01):
He's like that, get out of here, man.
Speaker 11 (29:05):
So then I do it, and then I'm walking with
my little phillips.
Speaker 5 (29:07):
Screwy. Wasn't good at all.
Speaker 2 (29:35):
Take personal mules men.
Speaker 15 (29:43):
Well, because November is men's Mental Health Awareness month. It
just happened. The whole November movement was happening. I really
wanted to focus this episode on men's mental health and
talk about it in a lot of different ways. But
first up, I have an expert on with me. Doctor
and doctor Adra you are a psychotherapist, but also you
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kind of focus heavily on men's mental health.
Speaker 3 (30:07):
How are you?
Speaker 5 (30:08):
How you doing?
Speaker 14 (30:09):
I'm great, I'm so good. I'm so happy to be
here and excited to talk more about my passion.
Speaker 15 (30:16):
Say you're a male and you did finally find a therapist,
and you're like, okay, this could be a fit for me.
Speaker 14 (30:23):
Yep.
Speaker 15 (30:24):
But then taking that a step further, is they feel
uncomfortable to do so why do you feel it has
been generally harder for men to get into.
Speaker 14 (30:35):
Therapy generally, I think we expect men to be hyper independent.
They're problem solvers, you know, there's the trope around the
lone wolf, like you can do it on your own,
you can figure it out, and you are the provider,
you are the protector. Like they're all these and even
if these are stereotypes, they are really powerful expectations that
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still exist in our society. And there are powerful expectations
that some men really hold true. Like there are a
lot of men that feel really proud of that traditional masculinity.
There are a lot of women who look to men
who want men to uphold that real traditional masculinity. There
are men who may be feel in conflict with it,
but regardless, there's an expectation. And so we're essentially asking
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men to set aside everything that society has asked them
to be. You're a little boy, boys, don't cry, suck
it up, be a man. Don't cry. I'll give you
something to cry about. Like I have men who are
commenting on my videos on TikTok and sending me dms
all the time, sharing the experiences they had at ages
as young as four or five or six where they learned, oh,
(31:42):
I'm too old to cry now. And so when you
learn that young that you're not supposed to have those
sorts of emotions, that you're supposed to figure it out
on your own, man up. And then we expect them
decades later to feel super comfortable walking in and asking
for help. There's just such a discrepancy there between what
we generally expect men to be and then what the
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experience and process of asking for help and going to
therapy usually is.
Speaker 15 (32:08):
So being someone who is such an advocate for mental
health for everyone to address these issues and go to
therapy utilizing this space, How is the best way we
can encourage men that they are not losing their masculinity
and in fact gaining emotional intelligence and emotional vulnerability to
become like a better version of this man that they
(32:30):
want to be. On this podcast, if I am encouraged,
somebody's listening to this and like, yes, this is all true,
this is how I feel. Yes, how is someone like
me or say the women who are listening and their
partner or their brother or their family member, how can
they make it a space for that person in their
life to show them that they can have both because
(32:52):
they have been taught, you know, on learning these things
is part of that. But how can people help them
to understand that better?
Speaker 11 (32:58):
Well?
Speaker 14 (32:59):
I think part of what happens is that I do
believe therapy as a resource or like coaching, even I
feel like I know a lot of men's coaches who
do essentially what I do in therapy, But there's a
branding shift which I think can be a little bit
more accessible for some men. But I do think even
therapy is becoming a less stigmatized resource, and even in
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some places in the country, almost like a status symbol,
like oh, yeah, I've got the best therapist in New York,
Like you're in LA Like yeah, I'm going to go
see my therapists. Like there are places where I see
that shift happening, And I think especially versus for that,
I do see that shifting a bit. I think what
we can do general population can do is in our
own homes and with our own relationships with men. What
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I hear from a lot of men is that before
they're even considering going to therapy, you know, they're gauging
in their own life. Is there space for me to
be emotional? Is there space for me to be vulnerable?
And what happens when I do take up that space.
What happens when I do allow myself to be vulnerable.
I open up, I cry, I share that I'm struggling,
I share that I'm hurting, I share that I'm I'm worried,
(34:02):
I'm scared. And what happens, what I hear happen. And this, again, generally,
this is not everyone, not at all. But I think
the men who are especially reluctant to therapy is that
in their own lives, they're experiencing what happens when they
are vulnerable and emotional, and it's completely turning them off.
So they're feeling like, Okay, I opened up to my spouse,
(34:23):
I opened up to my girlfriend, or I opened up
to my friends, and they they shut me down, or
they laughed it off, or they dismissed me, or you know,
I told her how I was feeling, and she seemed okay,
maybe she seemed a little uncomfortable in the moment that
I cried. And then three weeks later we got into
a fight and she turned it against me and she
threw it in my face. And so I think that unfortunately,
we are all unlearning a lot of these stereotypes. Women included,
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are unlearning what it looks like for a man to
be a man, and what our expectations are and what
we want and how we reconcile those differences. If we're
wanting men to ship, then we're also having to recognize, like, oh,
my expectations and and what I've been socialized to expect
speets to show.
Speaker 16 (35:01):
Hey, it's Mike d And this week on Movie Mike's
Movie podcast, I did a spoiler.
Speaker 17 (35:05):
Free movie review of Mowana two.
Speaker 16 (35:07):
I love me some animated Disney movies, and I know
I'm saying that as an adult male in his thirties,
but I broke down the entire movie. There have been
so many major movies coming out recently, so be sure
to subscribe to my podcast to hear more spoiler free reviews.
But right now here are my thoughts on ma Wana two.
Let's get into it now. A spoiler free review of
mo Wana. To the question I want to answer by
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the end of this review is was it even necessary?
And yes, I know, I'm an adult man talking about
a movie primarily meant for kids, but it's a Disney movie.
Speaker 17 (35:35):
It is important, so we're here to talk about it.
Speaker 16 (35:38):
Pretty much, what this movie is about I hate to
say it, it's basically the same thing as the first one.
When it comes to the plotline, Mowana goes out on
another big adventure. This one is going to test her
levels of being a leader. Now somebody now who can
speak and communicate with the ocean to a whole new level.
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Main problem I had it with this movie not just
that the story was very repetitive from the first one.
Speaker 17 (36:04):
There's no real struggle. It kind of feels like.
Speaker 16 (36:07):
The villain was a rehashed version of the villain from
the first movie.
Speaker 17 (36:11):
It was the music.
Speaker 16 (36:13):
The music was so important to Moana one, really so
important in.
Speaker 17 (36:17):
Any Disney movie right now.
Speaker 16 (36:19):
You need that one big song and Mawana you had
that song how Far I'll Go, which is a big
anthem from that movie. It is the character defining song
of Mowana. That is your hit from that Every Disney
musical movie needs that song to really resonate with kids,
to really drive this to be a movie that a
kid is gonna leave the theater and immediately want to
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go watch it on Disney Plus, even though it isn't
available yet. You need that song to define your movie.
Mawana Io did not have that song. It didn't have
a how Far I'll Go. It didn't have a year Welcome,
which is another character defining song from Maui. It didn't
even have the shiny Thing song from one of the
villains in the first movie. There were no memorable songs
whatsoever in Mowana Too. And what I believe it comes
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down to is that Linn Manuel Miranda was not a
part of this movie. He did not write the songs.
You have two new female writers who did all the music,
and they were really just given guidance from Lynn Manuel
Miranda before they started making the music for this movie.
He sat down with them and gave them the blueprint
of what he did on the first one and what
worked in that movie. And then they said he was
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just a phone call or FaceTime away. So maybe they
used him with some guidance here and there, but you
really felt his presence missing in these songs because they
lacked originality, and it felt like they were given the
assignment of, hey, do what we did in the first movie,
channel your best Linn Manuel Miranda and create your own songs,
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but you have to fit in this box. And what
happens when you do that? When it comes to music,
is you lose that creativity because you're just trying to
do an impression. You're trying to cover the songs from
the first one and make them your own. But you
don't have that say artists doing it, and you don't
have that originality. Because if Lynn Manuel Miranda was given
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this movie and said, hey, let's see what you can
do here with all these new characters, with this new storyline,
what songs can you create? He's not gonna do exactly
what he did in the first one. He's gonna experiment
and do different things. And that is where you get
the better songs, not trying to do an impression of
what you did in the first one, but trying to
build upon it and create new songs. And you see
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this happening in movies all the time. Whenever the Batman
movies lost Danny Elfman and they had to bring in
a new composer and say, hey, do what Danny Elfman
did and create these themes. You can't do it because
you're trying to do an impression of somebody. You're not
being original, and you're really not growing the.
Speaker 17 (38:44):
Music in any way.
Speaker 16 (38:45):
So I really felt out of everything that was really
what was lacking in this movie. The improvements I do
think they made was the animation style, and where this
movie looked the best was in the nighttime animation scenes.
I think on the water at night there was a
level of depth and the shading and the overall flow
of these characters. I think that is where this movie
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really shined. And those action sequences, especially in that third act.
So maybe the story was kind of the same thing
over and over again. The music was kind of just
slapped together, but the animation really I thought was improved
from the first one, so I think at least Disney
is getting that right. Because even the comedy wasn't anything new.
It was really just rehashing some of the jokes from
the first one, which again I don't think kids are
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really going to care about that, and the theater people
were still laughing as this movie went along. But I
think the main thing was we didn't really see a
whole lot of development from the character of Moljana from
one to two because she went through that entire journey
in one, and at the start of this movie it
almost felt like she was back at that point after
going through all those things and finding out all these
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things about herself and being this really strong character. By
the end of one, it almost like she regressed a
little bit and was.
Speaker 17 (39:55):
Learning all over again.
Speaker 16 (39:57):
Instead, I would have liked to have seen her shine
more at the beginning of this movie. He has still
been given a test that she had to overcome and do.
What she set out to do was find this island
and connect her people with the rest of the world.
Speaker 17 (40:12):
That still could have been a test. But I would
have liked to see her.
Speaker 16 (40:14):
Be kind of a stronger leader in the beginning, because
I think that would have been more impactful to kids
of seeing like, oh, she learned something from the first one.
She has these leadership skills now that she has to
hone in and the struggles of being the leader, where
even though you are strong and have proven yourself, how
do you kind of advance on that. Instead, it was
kind of just her from the beginning again all over
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and then trying to do what she did in the
first one. So I think you have to give the
kids like a stronger role model at the beginning and
show what comes with even though you have proven yourself,
how you have to do it again. I will say
as much crap as I give the Rock. He is
actually a really good voice actor. I think he should
stop doing live action movies and just do a voice
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acting because he really shines as I think he really
gives it as all. You can see his inflections and
how much he puts a lot of his personal details
into Maui. I think he has a lot of fun
with it. It's probably also easier to fit into his schedule.
He can just get into a recording booth, lay some
lines down, and then get on his private jet and
go work out for ten hours or whatever he does
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whatever causes him to be five twelve hours late to set.
I think he actually does really great work in voice acting.
Maui is his best character in the last ten years.
Why is Maui his best character in the last ten years.
It's because it's the only character that he portrays that
actually has depth, that actually goes through something, that actually
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has ups and downs, and doesn't win all the time.
Maui loses fights. Mali also wins fights. Maui goes through
sad times. All his other characters in every other movie,
he's just the same thing over and over again, wins
every fight, doesn't get a scratch on him, faces no adversity.
Maui actually has that, so I think that is why
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he's so attached to this character and why he's gonna
do it again in the live action movie. But I'm
not that excited for that. I think he should just
stick to doing more animated roles. So for Mawana too,
I don't think it was entirely necessary. I was even
at a two point five for a while, but there
was some clapping at the end of this movie, and
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I think people did leave satisfied, and I saw a
lot of happy faces all around. So I think I
have to give it a point five just because I
am an adult talking about an animated movie meant for
a much younger demographic, and if they had a good time,
I think that is worth a point five boost. So
for ma Wana two, I give it three out of
five hooks.
Speaker 8 (42:52):
Carrylone.
Speaker 6 (42:54):
She's a queen talking.
Speaker 8 (42:56):
He was sown you. She's getting really a.
Speaker 5 (43:01):
Soul.
Speaker 6 (43:02):
Just let it flo no one can do it.
Speaker 8 (43:04):
Quiet Cary Line. It's time for Caroline. I just I
love being a dad. I love shape and and I
love it's I just think it's important for them to
see how I carry myself and what's important and how
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I treat their mama and and just them the truth.
They're they're half crazy there. So we have a six
five twenty three year old and I'm just kind of
all about teaching them to grow up and be men.
Speaker 9 (43:44):
How do you teach men in this world? I feel
like that's a lost art a little bit.
Speaker 8 (43:47):
There's been so much people talk about you know, what's it?
Toxic masculinity is yes, And the worst thing you could
be is a is a man.
Speaker 9 (43:58):
It's gone through a season where it's like being just
like a man's man is kind of like the worst truly,
the worst thing is And.
Speaker 8 (44:05):
It's sad because I think that that's what we're supposed
to be. And I just I don't know, man. I
talked to him about every night we have storytell okay,
and it's I love it, a cherish it. And we'll
start off.
Speaker 11 (44:24):
Got any questions, that's a great hit me with.
Speaker 8 (44:27):
Some and they'll ask me, you know, was Bigfoot real?
Speaker 9 (44:30):
Well? Apparently he is real and lives at y'all's farm.
Speaker 8 (44:32):
True.
Speaker 9 (44:33):
I've seen footage video footage on your TikTok of the
Bigfoot in the wild.
Speaker 3 (44:38):
Do your kids know? Have they?
Speaker 9 (44:40):
Do? They still they know Bigfoot's real.
Speaker 8 (44:42):
Yes, they know Bigfoot's real. Santa Claus is.
Speaker 9 (44:45):
Real, everything's real. I love that tooth keep the magic going.
I feel the same way. That's so fun. Everyone needs
to check out Rodney's into his TikTok and dig a
little deep and you'll find the real sighting of Bigfoot.
Speaker 8 (44:59):
He was there, man, it was a birthday party at
the farm and it was a blast. I was laughing
and sweating. God, it was hot. Bugs were burning in
the commitment. But yeah, we have story time, and I'll
start off with you got any questions, and then all
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hearts and mind's clear, can we move on?
Speaker 9 (45:22):
And then all you see you say that all hearts
and mind's clear.
Speaker 8 (45:25):
Sometimes yeah, a lot of times, so are we good?
And then we'll move on to a lot of times
it'll be some little Bible story. Last night it was
what was it, Oh, the the Jericho and marching around
Joshua would And so we went through that for a
little bit, and then we'll go into some story. And
(45:47):
I try to tell stories that incorporate them in the
story that it's them going through some crazy adventure and
it's just a special time. And I'll make them lay still,
close your eyes, pictured in your head, and we do
it every single night. I love it.
Speaker 9 (46:06):
That's amazing, it's fun. Why is being a dad so
important to you?
Speaker 8 (46:13):
It's a responsibility. I mean, it's the most challenging and
most rewarding thing I've ever done, will ever do. It's
it's part of you, know what you leave behind, And
it's teaching them to be in service and connected, to
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be more than just a good citizen, but to make
a difference. And I mean that's the future of everything.
I just I truly believe that. And how they see
me carry myself and live my life is the first
thing on my mind what I'm thinking about. And it
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is cool because Rose is How do I explain Rose?
I say, she's she's kinder than she's tougher than life
and kinder than love. She's just what a.
Speaker 9 (47:07):
Wonderful thing to say about your wife. Tougher than life
and kinder than love.
Speaker 7 (47:15):
She is.
Speaker 3 (47:16):
Oh, how has her love changed you? How has it?
Speaker 9 (47:20):
How has it affected your heart and being married to her?
Speaker 8 (47:23):
Man, I don't know if I do that.
Speaker 9 (47:26):
Without crying.
Speaker 3 (47:28):
Yeah, that's so sweet, Rodney, What a gift?
Speaker 9 (47:34):
Having a love like that is also the biggest gift
you can have, exactly.
Speaker 8 (47:40):
And for them to see that, I think that's so.
Speaker 9 (47:42):
She's completely just metamorphosized you as a human with her love.
Speaker 8 (47:49):
Yeah, and it's with her. It's when somebody loves you
that way. You're vulnerable, but you're tougher than anything that
could ever come at you. At the same time because
you have that.
Speaker 9 (48:05):
Do you have a place to a soft place to land.
Speaker 8 (48:09):
Yeah, you're kind of fearless. Nothing else can hurt you.
Nobody on earth can hurt me, but her. I don't know.
Things fall into place when you when you see somebody
love you, and you just I just quit, I quit
listening to me about me and just trust her.
Speaker 9 (48:31):
Oh okay, so what did you about you tell you?
And what does she tell you about you?
Speaker 8 (48:37):
I mean, it's that golden rule thing about you know,
treat others how you want to be treated. But that's
I can't remember where I even got this from. Hit
me a long time ago about I wouldn't walk up
to you and I don't know, say awful things to you,
(48:59):
punch me in. I wouldn't force a gallon a whiskey
down your throat or large or you know, super double
large pizza just cram it down your throat. So I
don't know why people do it. You do it to yourself,
those things you say things to yourself.
Speaker 9 (49:14):
Like bad self talk exactly. That's it. It took me
forever to even realize what self talk was. Like, I
didn't know that for a long time until I started
getting into therapy and self aware that, like I even
had bad self talk. And then when I realized it,
I'm like, man, I am an asshole to myself, Like
I am picking myself apart, I'm tearing myself down. I
don't believe in myself. It takes a lot to change that.
(49:39):
Did you have some pretty gnarly self talk?
Speaker 8 (49:41):
I think so? Yeah. You know, I grew up, I
was adopted, and.
Speaker 9 (49:45):
Your adoption story is so touching and it's such a journey.
I mean, that's a lot to go through as a kid, it's.
Speaker 8 (49:53):
But what it does to you is it makes you
you deal with self worth and you're trying to overcome
just abandonmenton that's your It's just a lot of self
worth stuff. So you you beat the ship out of
yourself over and over.
Speaker 1 (50:19):
And that's this week's Sunday Sampler. If you hear something
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It really does help us out new episodes throughout weekly,
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Speaker 5 (50:29):
Thank you guys, we'll see you next week.
Hey guys, Sunday Sampler Time, just some of the podcasts
from the Nashville Podcast Network. Since a lot of people
don't put up podcasts on Sundays, we put this up
maybe here a little bit of what you like, and
you go listen to the whole thing. In the Vets
Office with Doctor Josie, Doctor Josie sat down with doctor
Amy Addis, who is a house called Veterinarian in New
York City. So that means celebrity pets like share Billy, Joel,
(00:29):
Joan Rivers and some crazy stories. So that's pretty cool.
Four Things with Amy Brown. I had Marcus King on
Who's Awesome Morgan's podcast? Oh that's coming up here, but
I do want to get started with a clip from
in the Vets Office with Doctor Josie, with that New
York City Vet.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
You're listening to In the Vets Office with Doctor Josie Horschhak.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
The people you got close to you were pretty high profile.
Speaker 4 (01:02):
And what I have noticed on this podcast especially is
will have stars, country music stars or like Bobby Bones
come on and you talk to them about their career
and their goals, and they're they're kind of one person.
And then when you talk to them about their animals,
you can just see like a completely different side of them.
I think just from watching her on TV that Joan
Rivers is pretty intimidating. I'm assuming that you probably saw
(01:24):
a lot more of a softer side to her with
her animals.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
I saw all sides of Joan Rivers. She was an
enormous personality. She was driven in a way that very
few people are.
Speaker 5 (01:37):
When I would go.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
Into her home to work with the dogs, there would
be posted on the refrigerator her daily schedule, and it
said things like up at five, exercise, makeup, leave for studio,
and then her entire day was calculated down to the
moment and it ended at midnight. I mean, she was
very regiment, old enough to be more than my mother,
(02:00):
and she had a schedule that would have run me
into the ground. So she was an enormously busy person,
and she was extremely demanding, and her dogs were so
important to her. So I was used to getting yelled
at on occasion or emails that I wish she had
never sent to me. But when she was finished with that,
(02:22):
she turned out to be, of course a very dear friend.
So we would go through the cycles of Joan's love
and her wrath. She was an enormous supporter of mine.
When I started my house call practice, she told everyone
she knew. The relationship over those years turned into a lovely,
lovely friendship where we went out to dinner together. I
(02:44):
mean she called one day. We had homes close to
each other, about one hundred miles north of New York City,
and she called and said, take me to the movies
on Saturday night.
Speaker 3 (02:54):
So it was like she didn't ask.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Of course, she didn't ask a question. She would have
the most beautiful dinner parties where the group of people
around the table were just from all different types of
parts of her life, and every person felt like they
were the guest of honor. She was an enormously gracious, warm,
(03:16):
loving person with a little bit of a biting part.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
Of her person.
Speaker 4 (03:21):
You don't want to be on her bad side. Oh no,
I love the story about her Yorky. I think it
was a Yorky that you had encouraged her to get
a surgery that she did not really want to do,
and then she ended up doing it and was like
I was right to do it.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Said, well, she was never wrong, of course, But you know,
like even with her first Yorkie, Spike. Spike went to
work with her wherever she was. He traveled around, he
was part of the show, and I recommended that because
he wasn't feeling well, that maybe she would leave him
out of the show that week and he should stay home.
And like all of a sudden, you know, she had
(03:56):
just looked at me and she said, don't tell me
what to do, just make my dog well enough to go.
Speaker 6 (04:01):
Like you didn't.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
I wasn't messed with them exactly. Wow. Yeah, it's funny
we do, even if they're not famous.
Speaker 4 (04:09):
You have everybody that's a bugineer and has owners that
can be a little bit more demanding, And I think
our job is to kind of look past at and
see like, Okay, where's this coming from. They just really,
at the core of it, love their pet and want
their pet to be okay.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
I had a client who moved to New York after
he retired. He had been a movie producer, so he
moved from California to New York and he lived in
new apartment with his two cats. And he paged me
on a Saturday night for an emergency and I called
him back immediately. I said, what's the problem. He said,
my cat just scratched me with his nails. His nails
(04:43):
are too long. Come and cut them. I said, it's
ten o'clock and a Saturday night. I don't I don't
make house calls. If you truly had an emergency, it
would help you. But I'm not coming to cut your
cat's nails. And he kind of hesitated and said, you know,
in La, nobody would ever say no to me. So
he was like being brought back into the real world.
Speaker 3 (05:03):
Yeah, you're like not in New York, no means no.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
And you're retired.
Speaker 3 (05:06):
Yeah, exactly, exactly.
Speaker 4 (05:09):
Another thing that you talked about in the book that
I really loved and I have seen with my own
experience as a veterinarian, is that no, there is no
such thing as a disabled pet, and so we have
a lot of patients that require amputations, or they lose
an eye, or they go deaf, and so I really
loved how you put an emphasis on that. I think
(05:31):
I tell my owners all the time. We can learn
so much from our animals. I have had dogs going
through chemo that are bouncing around and rolling in the grass.
Dogs on three legs or cats on three legs that
would never know the difference. And if someone cut my
leg off, I probably would be in bed crying about
it for six months.
Speaker 3 (05:48):
You're the rest of my life. Who knows.
Speaker 4 (05:49):
But they are just so resilient in that way.
Speaker 5 (06:00):
What was your house like South Carolina?
Speaker 1 (06:02):
Like?
Speaker 7 (06:02):
What was it?
Speaker 1 (06:02):
I don't know the physically, what was the house like
a couple of bedrooms?
Speaker 6 (06:05):
Yeah. So I initially grew up in a ranch, three bedroom,
one bathroom house with a side room where I had
my drums set and my guitar and I would just
spend hours in there, either playing drums. My grandfather tell
me how to play a train beat, and he'd play
along with me.
Speaker 5 (06:26):
What's the train beat?
Speaker 8 (06:27):
Can you.
Speaker 5 (06:29):
Oh like it got it gotta go out? I hear
the train coming. That's what I think when you do that.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
But yeah, yeah, maybe just because we're trains in it
and I'm very slow.
Speaker 6 (06:36):
Yeah no, no, no, I mean that that's the train
be that's the quint essential. And he taught me, you know,
because it's all about the timing and like not letting
it drag, not letting it rush, just keeping it right there.
And I started on drums actually, so I just I
spent a lot of time alone. But it was you know,
next door was my grandparents' house, and I just hang
(06:58):
out with them when my dad was work and just
played guitar all day or drums to sing.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
We'll just call it the blues. Before your voice hits puberty?
What do you I don't know, man, And how bluesy
can you be with a high pitched voice?
Speaker 6 (07:18):
Well, I mean you'd have to ask, Like like Tina Turner,
I mean that was that was the and like Aretha Franklin,
like I liked soul singers. Sure, I feel like you know,
even like bb King after like sixty eight sixty nine
Bibe was putting out like soul records.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
But did it change for it at some point where
you were singing but your voice had hit puberty and
then after it.
Speaker 6 (07:42):
Was I started singing when I was when I was thirteen,
So I think that's why I made before that Nah, Wow,
I just played guitar. I was too bashful to sing.
Speaker 5 (07:55):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (07:55):
Yeah, first time singing. Then then why in public? Why
what got you there?
Speaker 6 (08:00):
Well, you know I had always kind of expressed my
you know, trauma or whatever it was, just through the guitar,
and you know, when I was thirteen, the girl I
had a crush on died in a car accident, and
it really fucked my head up. And I had had
all these abandonment issues anyway, and they all just kind
(08:22):
of like came to a head, and I was really
not able to, you know, find a way to comfort myself,
you know. And we didn't have the distractions that we
have now, you know, so I wasn't on an iPad
or anything to like fully escape and immerse myself in
something else. So that's when I decided to start writing
(08:44):
and start singing, you know, just so I had two
more vessels to put my pain through. And I think
the first time I sang publicly, I sang not my
Cross to bear by the Oman Brothers.
Speaker 9 (09:00):
Man.
Speaker 5 (09:01):
Well, that's not an easy one.
Speaker 1 (09:03):
It's not an easy so you decided to just go Yeah,
I mean it's I'm a little teapot, right.
Speaker 6 (09:08):
That's how I learned to swim, you know, just get
thrown into the deep end.
Speaker 5 (09:12):
I spent a lot of time in therapy. I got
some crazy abandonment issues myself. Dad left when I was
five or six.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
Mom died drugs in her forties, and so you know,
mine are to the point where.
Speaker 5 (09:26):
They're built in, like they're cooked in.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
But I can acknowledge them, and I can see them,
and I can see it affect and I can feel
it affected me.
Speaker 5 (09:34):
But I can ignowlre it. Right like forever, I didn't
even know.
Speaker 7 (09:37):
I gotta know why.
Speaker 5 (09:38):
I was just wanted to be by myself or.
Speaker 1 (09:42):
You know, everything told me. I loved them tomorrow about
my wife a few years ago. But I was just
always like, this is who I am, This is who
I am, this swam But that's that was like what
mine were rooted in.
Speaker 5 (09:50):
What was yours a parent thing? Was yours a home
type thing?
Speaker 6 (09:54):
Yeah, my mom left when I was very young, and
that was really hard for me, and that was it's
still something that I really struggle with.
Speaker 5 (10:03):
You know, is she alive now, she's still alive.
Speaker 6 (10:07):
Her health's not very good, but we you know, we've
packed things up and we're we're a lot closer now.
Speaker 5 (10:13):
You know that you're a better man than I am.
Like my real dad's still alive. I don't talk to him.
Speaker 6 (10:17):
Yeah, I mean it's it's challenging.
Speaker 5 (10:19):
You know, how old were you?
Speaker 6 (10:21):
I was like five, so like that age is really
really tough because you know, I'd go to school every day,
I'd get sent home from kindergarten every day because I'd
cry so hard that i'd throw up. And this was
a daily thing because you don't know where her mother's at.
It's you know, just as a as a mammal, a living,
(10:42):
breathing mammal, You're just instinctively you're gonna need your mother's
affection and love and attention. And I didn't have it.
And I have my grandmother, who was, you know, really
like my mother.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
My grandma adopted me. We might be the same person. Yeah,
we're except for that smoothie. That's too much I need again,
I need lots of show. Yeah. So your grandma was
very instrumental and your your upbringing, huh.
Speaker 6 (11:05):
And she was, you know, just a really sassy German
woman and just very loving, very affectionate. And it almost,
you know, kind of balanced it out. How affectionate she was,
you know, made up for the fact that my mother
had left. But you know, I still I love my
mother and I try to take care of her the
(11:26):
best I can.
Speaker 7 (11:51):
Cast up little food for yourself.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
Life always pretty, but it's pretty beautiful that for a
little mouth.
Speaker 5 (12:05):
Said, cut your kicking with full with Amy Brown.
Speaker 10 (12:11):
First, I want to go over what real alcohols you
can have or the ones you may want to stay
away from again if you're trying to avoid the anxiety. Apparently,
dark liquors like whiskey, prosecco, champagne, and red wine are
the worst. They have chemicals that worsen hangovers and anxiety.
Sugary cocktails are also a no go, which after I
(12:33):
read this, I was like, oh, okay, my drinks the
other night on my date YEP had prosecco mixed in
a sugary concoction, So damn that was likely my problem.
The high sugar, which leads to a sugar spike and
then a sugar crash, which then will increase my anxiety,
my irritability. And then also I had no idea about this,
(12:53):
but the bubbles in prosecco and champagne they speed up
the absorption of alcohol in our bloodstream, which lead to
a quicker and more intense effect. So at the time,
it's feeling really good and it's all enjoyable and you're like, oh,
I feel great, this is fun, which might lead you
to order more, and then the after effects of that anxiety,
(13:15):
which I was also surprised to see red wine on
the worst list. I mean, the whiskey, the sugary drinks,
I get that was easy for me to understand, but
red wine was a little confusing. But I guess it's
a sugar and chemical thing. And I am bummed to
see prosecco on there. And keep that in mind though,
with New Year's Eve coming up, prosecco, champagne, a lot
of that is served, and maybe you want to avoid
(13:38):
that this time of year and see if you feel
better the next morning. Now, as for the best drinks
to have to decrease your anxiety, the article said to
stick to clear liquors like vodka, gin, or tequila with soap.
Speaker 9 (13:52):
Tequila kayala is a little.
Speaker 5 (13:59):
What are you all?
Speaker 11 (14:01):
I was sitting back here and I was like, man,
I can't wait to hit this. When she says tequila, okay,
that's scuba.
Speaker 10 (14:06):
Steve, I had no idea he was even listening to this.
He's back in his glass production room.
Speaker 3 (14:14):
Tequila.
Speaker 10 (14:14):
You can have vodka, gin or tequila with soda, water
or fresh citrus. Those are easier on your system. And
then again, hydrate, hydrate, hydrate, don't forget water between drinks.
It can make a huge difference. And we know this.
Speaker 3 (14:30):
I know this.
Speaker 10 (14:30):
We don't always do it, but just make a deal
with yourself, make smarter choices, and then you'll have less anxiety. Now,
Ray speaking of the glass room where Scuba works. He
is one of our producers on the Bobby Bone Show,
and he was actually just making fun of me this
morning for being sold that I can't even handle one drink.
Ray likes to drink, but mostly I would say, now
(14:53):
it's during brunch on Saturdays. That's his time to go out.
And he's the one that got me on on Booze
a while back, which is a supplement that helps you
feel better after drinking. And I will say it has
helped me, but sometimes I run out or other times
I just forget to take it. And last weekend, you know,
I had those drinks, but I was out of unboozed.
(15:15):
So I do need to order more. And I will
shout out Ray because he has a code sisin twenty three.
So I think his handle on Instagram is like sisin
Ray Mundo, but sisin is like for season, but s
z N twenty three, and that'll get you a discount
if you're curious about Unbooze, and I'll link it in
the show notes. But in addition to taking something like
(15:35):
Unbooze that may help you out. Another option might be
non Alcoholic Spirits.
Speaker 9 (15:40):
Now.
Speaker 10 (15:41):
I came across that brand recently, like I told you,
thanks to that Instagram ad, and what I ordered specifically
was from Little Saints. It's a whole non alcoholic brand,
so there's nothing confusing about it. You don't go to
the website and you're like, wait, which one's the alcohol,
which one's not, because they all look like alcohol but
nothing is. And I was most intrigued by their drink
(16:04):
that mimics tequila. I thought it would come in handy
for when I want a margarita something like that. When
I got the bottle and the mail, I saw that
the company is also founded by a woman, which I love.
And my overall review is four point five out of five.
I really liked it so much so that, Yeah, I
may order more stuff from the site, Like I was
(16:25):
saying to Eddie, maybe I'll order some gifts for people.
Speaker 9 (16:29):
I know.
Speaker 10 (16:29):
There's a lot of na brands out there. This is
just the only one that i've tried and really enjoyed
so far. And this one is infused with lines Made,
which is a functional mushroom. It's an adaptogen. It's good
for brain health, mood support, gut health, and a lot
of other things. I've always loved lines Made, so to
have it in my mocktail it's like a bonus. I
(16:52):
don't know if it's just me or if y'all are
also getting more non alcoholic type ads, but I do
think that drinking is on the decline drinking alcohol. People
are drinking less, which I guess is good and probably
why some brands have increased marketing because they want to
capitalize on the fact that people are drinking less, or
(17:14):
they are curious about drinking less.
Speaker 3 (17:17):
And speaking of.
Speaker 10 (17:18):
Curiosity, I decided to do a little research because I
was like, Okay, what are the statistics on this, like,
is drinking actually going down? And I found that, on average,
this is from NC Solutions, Americans are drinking three drinks
per week and that's down from four to five drinks
in twenty twenty three. Millennials in particular are drinking less,
(17:40):
like forty percent less this year than last year, with
an average of three drinks per week. Which is crazy
to think about if we were going from five drinks
to three and with dry January coming up next month
might be the highest year of participation yet because this
last January was up ten percent from the year before,
(18:03):
So it's just in one year and ten percent jump.
That is a lot of people. And the top of
reasons Americans are drinking less include while we want to
improve our physical health, we want to save money.
Speaker 3 (18:13):
Although I will say.
Speaker 10 (18:14):
The non alcoholic drinks they might be more expensive than
the alcohol ones, so maybe they're saving money and just
not drinking anything, not even the fake version. And overall,
we just want to make lifestyle changes.
Speaker 11 (18:30):
We're gonna do it live.
Speaker 7 (18:32):
We are the one, two three sore losers. What up, everybody?
I am lunchbox. I know the most about sports, so
I'll give you the sports facts, my sports opinions, because
I'm pretty much a sports genius, y'all.
Speaker 12 (18:46):
It's Sison. I'm from the North. I'm an alpha male.
I live on the north side of Nashville with Bayser,
my wife.
Speaker 11 (18:51):
We do have a farm.
Speaker 12 (18:52):
It's beautiful, a lot of acreage, no animals, a lot
of crops, hopefully soon corn pumpkins. I believe maybe a
little fescue to be determined over to you, coach, And.
Speaker 7 (19:07):
Here's a clip from this week's episode of The Sore Losers.
My in laws come in and they act like my
house is a pile of shit. They act like we
can't take care of ourselves. They start up, They're like,
my father's like, hey, where is that curtain rod that
your your wife once hung up? I'm like what, She's
(19:29):
never mentioned a curtain rod in her life to me.
Speaker 11 (19:32):
All the stuff you didn't do.
Speaker 7 (19:34):
I'm like, what curtain There's no curtain rod and he goes, yeah,
she said she gave me a to do list and
one of them was hanging this curtain rod.
Speaker 11 (19:42):
I coach, you haven't done it for six months.
Speaker 7 (19:45):
I have never been told about a curtain rod anywhere.
And I'm like what. And he's like, yeah, she told
me that you guys want to hang a curtain rod
in the kid's bedroom. I'm like, we do. So he
goes down and hang. He hangs the damn curtain in
the kid's bedroom and I'm like, what the hell you
want to just take my man card to then? Oh,
(20:06):
then we bought a mirror that she bought a mirror
in an estate sale, and she I was like, well,
where do you want to hang it? I don't know.
I do notice she's stuck in the closet. Never said
anything else about it. Her parents are there and her
father and La was like, now, so where is this
mirror going. And I'm like, I don't know, and he goes, no, no,
she said she wanted it in the kitchen right And
(20:27):
I'm like, no, she has not mentioned anything about a
damn mirror to me since we you know, like we
bought the mirror we put in the closet and she
said she was gonna think about it. He's like, no,
she said, she wants it hung up right here. So
he gets out the tape measure and starts marking shit
and hangs it right on the wall.
Speaker 11 (20:41):
Yeah, let me get the tape measure. It's in the bedroom.
Speaker 7 (20:44):
And I'm like, well, what the hell? Like they start
just doing everything, but you got him knocked off the
list though it was never on the list.
Speaker 11 (20:52):
But you're saying it's a little bit. It's a little bit.
Speaker 13 (20:57):
I was gonna say, emasculating, yeah, and a little bit
of like okay, and like the kid's laundry, you know
what I mean, it gets washed and it stays in
the laundry room and you never put it away.
Speaker 7 (21:07):
So they go in there and that's where they pick
out their clothes. I'm the man in this house, Jim, No, No,
father in law like, Hey, we're gonna clean this up
right now. We're gonna clean this laundry up right now?
Speaker 11 (21:16):
What in this place look like?
Speaker 1 (21:18):
Dude?
Speaker 7 (21:18):
I'm like, holy s. They like, we can't even take
care of ourselves.
Speaker 1 (21:22):
Dude.
Speaker 6 (21:23):
Oh you're talking about mount laundry?
Speaker 11 (21:27):
Honey, what happened to the mountain back here? Dude? It's
awesome though, once it all gets done.
Speaker 7 (21:33):
Yeah, But I'm sitting there trying to watch football going.
Speaker 11 (21:37):
Across the top.
Speaker 7 (21:39):
I'm trying to relax, and there's drilling freaking knocking stuff out,
like pulling this out, moving this, doing that, And I'm like, so,
am I allowed to relax? Or am I supposed to
go help that?
Speaker 12 (21:51):
That was my big dilemma, right, You just stand there
and really you're in support.
Speaker 7 (21:55):
I mean, I can't see a TV.
Speaker 11 (21:58):
Well, see, we have a lot of tea.
Speaker 12 (22:00):
I made sure that we're a TV household, so usually
any project.
Speaker 7 (22:03):
We're doing, I have a TV I guess what spare bedroom.
How often do I go in the spare bedroom?
Speaker 8 (22:07):
You do?
Speaker 12 (22:08):
But bezos, you got this roller TV that I can
roll roll around the spare bedroom.
Speaker 7 (22:11):
Never go in there. That's where the in laws are staying, right,
And what a pointless room, right, It's so dumb. It's like, oh,
we need a spare bedroom, you know when people come visit.
Guess how often people come visit? Maybe once a year.
So you can figure it out through an air mattress subury.
You don't need a spare bedroom. It's absolutely stupid. But
I'm I don't go in the spare bedroom. But since
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they're staying in there, we need to tidy up the
spare bedroom.
Speaker 11 (22:36):
So we're in there.
Speaker 7 (22:36):
The in laws are moving the bed, vacuuming behind the bed, dude,
and I'm like, what the they're acting like that we
live in the damn shithole. And then I've never done
anything in my life. I mean, they've got the vacuum out,
they got the mop they're you know, doing washing the
sheets and the comforter and the pillows and the every
(22:57):
day coach.
Speaker 12 (22:58):
That's not even the worst of it. Did you get
criticized for your tools?
Speaker 7 (23:02):
Oh, next, Hey, where are your drill bits? Oh they're
right there in that closet. They may have a little
dust on them. And he's like, I didn't see him.
I don't think you have any drill bits. And I'm like, oh,
I have drill bits, man, they should be right there.
So I didn't. I didn't find them. He goes, I'll
just go to home depot and get them. You got
(23:24):
home depot and I'm like, all right, man, and he
goes home Depot gets whatever he needs. He comes back
and he's like, oh, they are in that closet. They
were just underneath something. I'm like, I told you. He goes, yeah,
but these these drill bits are better. These are these
are a little bit newer. And he goes to get
my electric drill and he's like, seems like you need
an electric drill. The battery's not holding a charge. No,
(23:44):
I charge that thing every night.
Speaker 5 (23:46):
Should be good.
Speaker 7 (23:46):
And he's like, you want to go pick you up
one right now? I'm like, or he goes, you want
to go to home depot with me and get one.
I'm like, no, I really don't. I don't have any
desire right now at this moment, at this point in
time to go to home depot to get a gosh
darn drill. I would just like to relax. And he's like,
I'll just go to home depot. So he goes back
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to home depot.
Speaker 11 (24:08):
He made a double trip to depot.
Speaker 7 (24:11):
He made a triple tip trip to depot. Right, that's bad.
Speaker 11 (24:15):
That means you didn't have it.
Speaker 7 (24:16):
Coach, No, I had a drill. I had the drill bits,
but apparently the battery wasn't holding its charge. Then he
the back door, like when it's wintertime, it's harder to
lock it.
Speaker 11 (24:31):
Yeah, you gotta winterize it, man, And.
Speaker 7 (24:33):
He's like, oh, you need a chisel. He's like, do
you have a chisel?
Speaker 12 (24:38):
I might Coach, you've been asked for the electric gun,
the chisel, the curtain rod in an ancient mirror.
Speaker 7 (24:44):
And I'm like, no, no, man, I don't I don't
have a I don't have a chisel.
Speaker 8 (24:49):
Heels.
Speaker 7 (24:50):
I wish i'd known that for I got to go
back to home depot and he goes back down. Nebo
gets the chisel and he's like, chiseling out where the
lot goes because I guess it's sunken down or it's
not level anymore. So it was hitting the top and
he chisels a little piece of the wood off. I'm like,
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none of this shit bothers me. None of this bothers me.
Can we like, I've lived in this house and none
of this has bothered me. I have not wanted to
fix any of this. No one has told me I
need to fix any of this. But they come to
town and it's like, oh my god, this house is
falling apart. And then the spare bedroom. Guess what, right,
we never used the spare bedroom. I never put a
(25:32):
curtain rod up never, or a shower curtain, right, and
so like, how are we supposed to take a shower?
I never, I didn't think about that. Whenever you come,
we usually just hang a towel and it gets on
the or put some towels on the floor and then
brust the water. Well that's unacceptable. Well we'll just run
(25:52):
the target real kit quick and we'll get a shower
curtain and rot and oh my god.
Speaker 12 (25:56):
Damn dude, four depots and a target.
Speaker 7 (25:59):
It was like, I mean, it made me just sitting
there going and then my wife's like, is everything okay?
I'm like, well, besides the fact that they think I
am incapable of doing anything. And b I don't know
if I'm other supposed to sit there and help, or
if I'm if I'm allowed to sit here and watch football.
Speaker 6 (26:14):
I don't know.
Speaker 7 (26:15):
The you know protocol here.
Speaker 12 (26:16):
The protocol is this, you offer something that's just completely pointless.
So for example, for me, it's just Gary, let me
hold this ladder for you. No, man, does these things
hold themselves? It it's four legs, stupid, Okay, no worries.
Speaker 11 (26:29):
Man.
Speaker 12 (26:30):
You offer something that you know they don't even need
help with. You know, hey, dude, it is getting darker.
You to grab a light or something.
Speaker 5 (26:36):
No, man, I'm good.
Speaker 7 (26:37):
Oh okay, Uh, just let me know if.
Speaker 11 (26:38):
Anything you know you're offering, you know what am I
gonna do?
Speaker 12 (26:41):
Hold a light?
Speaker 7 (26:42):
You know, stuff like that. Because I looked at the
curtain run and they were I mean, it took him
forty five minutes to do the curtain run.
Speaker 12 (26:47):
I'm like, guys, you gotta measure it. That's a whole thing.
It's not just sticking it up there. Gary would measure it.
He would put a laser on it, dude, he would.
He's got the drill gun. You're gonna do one side
then the other. There's a lot to level it. There's
a level on top. Me dude, me, I'd stick it
up two darts in the sides right.
Speaker 7 (27:07):
And we had the exact same conversation. I said, guys,
it's been forty five minutes. What's going on? Why is
their tape all over the wall. And my wife's like, oh,
you know how my dad is. He likes to measure
everything and make sure everything's perfect. And she goes, that's
how I prefer it. You know what I mean is
if we just measure, measure, measure, measure, measure, make sure
everything's perfect. You prefer perfectly measured. She goes, let me
(27:30):
guess your dad would have just got up there and
eyeballed it. I said, yeah, I think he would eyeballed it.
That's what I would have done. I'd have just looked
your dad would I'm a construction guy, I know, but
I think he eyeballed a lot, like a curtain rod.
I don't think you is a big deal.
Speaker 12 (27:43):
I would almost imagine that the curtain rod can probably
there's probably what is it called backsplash or something where
it's actually level there. You would just need to level
the top and boom it.
Speaker 7 (27:54):
I don't know, but I'm just saying I left that
week feeling like, holy s man. He this dude thinks
I am the laziest person in the world because I'm like,
I don't want to do any of this crap. I
just want to watch football. I'd never planned to do
any of this be he criticized my tools, what I'm
working with. He was like, you need to step up
your game, and b see, they're coming back in like
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two weeks.
Speaker 11 (28:17):
Dude.
Speaker 12 (28:17):
The worst is a tool criticization, criticizing It happened to me.
I would I He goes, hey, will you go get
me get me something to screw this in.
Speaker 14 (28:27):
Dude.
Speaker 11 (28:27):
I just went and got a Phillips screwdriver, like a
hand one.
Speaker 7 (28:30):
Yeah, dude.
Speaker 11 (28:31):
He wanted like some drill gun. That's I bring him
that and he's like, what.
Speaker 5 (28:39):
The is this?
Speaker 11 (28:40):
I was like, at Phillips, fuck you want.
Speaker 12 (28:44):
He goes, We'll be out here all night if I'm
gonna do it with that, my that's a good point.
He's like, you ain't got that thing, you know, whatever
the name is, it's just it's like a hydraulic gun.
And he's like, but dude, my I hand him like
it's limp and it has no cord connected to it, and
I'm I'm.
Speaker 11 (29:00):
Like, yeah, just this little phillips.
Speaker 7 (29:01):
Dude.
Speaker 8 (29:01):
He's like that, get out of here, man.
Speaker 11 (29:05):
So then I do it, and then I'm walking with
my little phillips.
Speaker 5 (29:07):
Screwy. Wasn't good at all.
Speaker 2 (29:35):
Take personal mules men.
Speaker 15 (29:43):
Well, because November is men's Mental Health Awareness month. It
just happened. The whole November movement was happening. I really
wanted to focus this episode on men's mental health and
talk about it in a lot of different ways. But
first up, I have an expert on with me. Doctor
and doctor Adra you are a psychotherapist, but also you
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kind of focus heavily on men's mental health.
Speaker 3 (30:07):
How are you?
Speaker 5 (30:08):
How you doing?
Speaker 14 (30:09):
I'm great, I'm so good. I'm so happy to be
here and excited to talk more about my passion.
Speaker 15 (30:16):
Say you're a male and you did finally find a therapist,
and you're like, okay, this could be a fit for me.
Speaker 14 (30:23):
Yep.
Speaker 15 (30:24):
But then taking that a step further, is they feel
uncomfortable to do so why do you feel it has
been generally harder for men to get into.
Speaker 14 (30:35):
Therapy generally, I think we expect men to be hyper independent.
They're problem solvers, you know, there's the trope around the
lone wolf, like you can do it on your own,
you can figure it out, and you are the provider,
you are the protector. Like they're all these and even
if these are stereotypes, they are really powerful expectations that
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still exist in our society. And there are powerful expectations
that some men really hold true. Like there are a
lot of men that feel really proud of that traditional masculinity.
There are a lot of women who look to men
who want men to uphold that real traditional masculinity. There
are men who may be feel in conflict with it,
but regardless, there's an expectation. And so we're essentially asking
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men to set aside everything that society has asked them
to be. You're a little boy, boys, don't cry, suck
it up, be a man. Don't cry. I'll give you
something to cry about. Like I have men who are
commenting on my videos on TikTok and sending me dms
all the time, sharing the experiences they had at ages
as young as four or five or six where they learned, oh,
(31:42):
I'm too old to cry now. And so when you
learn that young that you're not supposed to have those
sorts of emotions, that you're supposed to figure it out
on your own, man up. And then we expect them
decades later to feel super comfortable walking in and asking
for help. There's just such a discrepancy there between what
we generally expect men to be and then what the
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experience and process of asking for help and going to
therapy usually is.
Speaker 15 (32:08):
So being someone who is such an advocate for mental
health for everyone to address these issues and go to
therapy utilizing this space, How is the best way we
can encourage men that they are not losing their masculinity
and in fact gaining emotional intelligence and emotional vulnerability to
become like a better version of this man that they
(32:30):
want to be. On this podcast, if I am encouraged,
somebody's listening to this and like, yes, this is all true,
this is how I feel. Yes, how is someone like
me or say the women who are listening and their
partner or their brother or their family member, how can
they make it a space for that person in their
life to show them that they can have both because
(32:52):
they have been taught, you know, on learning these things
is part of that. But how can people help them
to understand that better?
Speaker 11 (32:58):
Well?
Speaker 14 (32:59):
I think part of what happens is that I do
believe therapy as a resource or like coaching, even I
feel like I know a lot of men's coaches who
do essentially what I do in therapy, But there's a
branding shift which I think can be a little bit
more accessible for some men. But I do think even
therapy is becoming a less stigmatized resource, and even in
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some places in the country, almost like a status symbol,
like oh, yeah, I've got the best therapist in New York,
Like you're in LA Like yeah, I'm going to go
see my therapists. Like there are places where I see
that shift happening, And I think especially versus for that,
I do see that shifting a bit. I think what
we can do general population can do is in our
own homes and with our own relationships with men. What
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I hear from a lot of men is that before
they're even considering going to therapy, you know, they're gauging
in their own life. Is there space for me to
be emotional? Is there space for me to be vulnerable?
And what happens when I do take up that space.
What happens when I do allow myself to be vulnerable.
I open up, I cry, I share that I'm struggling,
I share that I'm hurting, I share that I'm I'm worried,
(34:02):
I'm scared. And what happens, what I hear happen. And this, again, generally,
this is not everyone, not at all. But I think
the men who are especially reluctant to therapy is that
in their own lives, they're experiencing what happens when they
are vulnerable and emotional, and it's completely turning them off.
So they're feeling like, Okay, I opened up to my spouse,
(34:23):
I opened up to my girlfriend, or I opened up
to my friends, and they they shut me down, or
they laughed it off, or they dismissed me, or you know,
I told her how I was feeling, and she seemed okay,
maybe she seemed a little uncomfortable in the moment that
I cried. And then three weeks later we got into
a fight and she turned it against me and she
threw it in my face. And so I think that unfortunately,
we are all unlearning a lot of these stereotypes. Women included,
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are unlearning what it looks like for a man to
be a man, and what our expectations are and what
we want and how we reconcile those differences. If we're
wanting men to ship, then we're also having to recognize, like, oh,
my expectations and and what I've been socialized to expect
speets to show.
Speaker 16 (35:01):
Hey, it's Mike d And this week on Movie Mike's
Movie podcast, I did a spoiler.
Speaker 17 (35:05):
Free movie review of Mowana two.
Speaker 16 (35:07):
I love me some animated Disney movies, and I know
I'm saying that as an adult male in his thirties,
but I broke down the entire movie. There have been
so many major movies coming out recently, so be sure
to subscribe to my podcast to hear more spoiler free reviews.
But right now here are my thoughts on ma Wana two.
Let's get into it now. A spoiler free review of
mo Wana. To the question I want to answer by
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the end of this review is was it even necessary?
And yes, I know, I'm an adult man talking about
a movie primarily meant for kids, but it's a Disney movie.
Speaker 17 (35:35):
It is important, so we're here to talk about it.
Speaker 16 (35:38):
Pretty much, what this movie is about I hate to
say it, it's basically the same thing as the first one.
When it comes to the plotline, Mowana goes out on
another big adventure. This one is going to test her
levels of being a leader. Now somebody now who can
speak and communicate with the ocean to a whole new level.
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Main problem I had it with this movie not just
that the story was very repetitive from the first one.
Speaker 17 (36:04):
There's no real struggle. It kind of feels like.
Speaker 16 (36:07):
The villain was a rehashed version of the villain from
the first movie.
Speaker 17 (36:11):
It was the music.
Speaker 16 (36:13):
The music was so important to Moana one, really so
important in.
Speaker 17 (36:17):
Any Disney movie right now.
Speaker 16 (36:19):
You need that one big song and Mawana you had
that song how Far I'll Go, which is a big
anthem from that movie. It is the character defining song
of Mowana. That is your hit from that Every Disney
musical movie needs that song to really resonate with kids,
to really drive this to be a movie that a
kid is gonna leave the theater and immediately want to
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go watch it on Disney Plus, even though it isn't
available yet. You need that song to define your movie.
Mawana Io did not have that song. It didn't have
a how Far I'll Go. It didn't have a year Welcome,
which is another character defining song from Maui. It didn't
even have the shiny Thing song from one of the
villains in the first movie. There were no memorable songs
whatsoever in Mowana Too. And what I believe it comes
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down to is that Linn Manuel Miranda was not a
part of this movie. He did not write the songs.
You have two new female writers who did all the music,
and they were really just given guidance from Lynn Manuel
Miranda before they started making the music for this movie.
He sat down with them and gave them the blueprint
of what he did on the first one and what
worked in that movie. And then they said he was
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just a phone call or FaceTime away. So maybe they
used him with some guidance here and there, but you
really felt his presence missing in these songs because they
lacked originality, and it felt like they were given the
assignment of, hey, do what we did in the first movie,
channel your best Linn Manuel Miranda and create your own songs,
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but you have to fit in this box. And what
happens when you do that? When it comes to music,
is you lose that creativity because you're just trying to
do an impression. You're trying to cover the songs from
the first one and make them your own. But you
don't have that say artists doing it, and you don't
have that originality. Because if Lynn Manuel Miranda was given
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this movie and said, hey, let's see what you can
do here with all these new characters, with this new storyline,
what songs can you create? He's not gonna do exactly
what he did in the first one. He's gonna experiment
and do different things. And that is where you get
the better songs, not trying to do an impression of
what you did in the first one, but trying to
build upon it and create new songs. And you see
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this happening in movies all the time. Whenever the Batman
movies lost Danny Elfman and they had to bring in
a new composer and say, hey, do what Danny Elfman
did and create these themes. You can't do it because
you're trying to do an impression of somebody. You're not
being original, and you're really not growing the.
Speaker 17 (38:44):
Music in any way.
Speaker 16 (38:45):
So I really felt out of everything that was really
what was lacking in this movie. The improvements I do
think they made was the animation style, and where this
movie looked the best was in the nighttime animation scenes.
I think on the water at night there was a
level of depth and the shading and the overall flow
of these characters. I think that is where this movie
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really shined. And those action sequences, especially in that third act.
So maybe the story was kind of the same thing
over and over again. The music was kind of just
slapped together, but the animation really I thought was improved
from the first one, so I think at least Disney
is getting that right. Because even the comedy wasn't anything new.
It was really just rehashing some of the jokes from
the first one, which again I don't think kids are
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really going to care about that, and the theater people
were still laughing as this movie went along. But I
think the main thing was we didn't really see a
whole lot of development from the character of Moljana from
one to two because she went through that entire journey
in one, and at the start of this movie it
almost felt like she was back at that point after
going through all those things and finding out all these
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things about herself and being this really strong character. By
the end of one, it almost like she regressed a
little bit and was.
Speaker 17 (39:55):
Learning all over again.
Speaker 16 (39:57):
Instead, I would have liked to have seen her shine
more at the beginning of this movie. He has still
been given a test that she had to overcome and do.
What she set out to do was find this island
and connect her people with the rest of the world.
Speaker 17 (40:12):
That still could have been a test. But I would
have liked to see her.
Speaker 16 (40:14):
Be kind of a stronger leader in the beginning, because
I think that would have been more impactful to kids
of seeing like, oh, she learned something from the first one.
She has these leadership skills now that she has to
hone in and the struggles of being the leader, where
even though you are strong and have proven yourself, how
do you kind of advance on that. Instead, it was
kind of just her from the beginning again all over
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and then trying to do what she did in the
first one. So I think you have to give the
kids like a stronger role model at the beginning and
show what comes with even though you have proven yourself,
how you have to do it again. I will say
as much crap as I give the Rock. He is
actually a really good voice actor. I think he should
stop doing live action movies and just do a voice
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acting because he really shines as I think he really
gives it as all. You can see his inflections and
how much he puts a lot of his personal details
into Maui. I think he has a lot of fun
with it. It's probably also easier to fit into his schedule.
He can just get into a recording booth, lay some
lines down, and then get on his private jet and
go work out for ten hours or whatever he does
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whatever causes him to be five twelve hours late to set.
I think he actually does really great work in voice acting.
Maui is his best character in the last ten years.
Why is Maui his best character in the last ten years.
It's because it's the only character that he portrays that
actually has depth, that actually goes through something, that actually
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has ups and downs, and doesn't win all the time.
Maui loses fights. Mali also wins fights. Maui goes through
sad times. All his other characters in every other movie,
he's just the same thing over and over again, wins
every fight, doesn't get a scratch on him, faces no adversity.
Maui actually has that, so I think that is why
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he's so attached to this character and why he's gonna
do it again in the live action movie. But I'm
not that excited for that. I think he should just
stick to doing more animated roles. So for Mawana too,
I don't think it was entirely necessary. I was even
at a two point five for a while, but there
was some clapping at the end of this movie, and
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I think people did leave satisfied, and I saw a
lot of happy faces all around. So I think I
have to give it a point five just because I
am an adult talking about an animated movie meant for
a much younger demographic, and if they had a good time,
I think that is worth a point five boost. So
for ma Wana two, I give it three out of
five hooks.
Speaker 8 (42:52):
Carrylone.
Speaker 6 (42:54):
She's a queen talking.
Speaker 8 (42:56):
He was sown you. She's getting really a.
Speaker 5 (43:01):
Soul.
Speaker 6 (43:02):
Just let it flo no one can do it.
Speaker 8 (43:04):
Quiet Cary Line. It's time for Caroline. I just I
love being a dad. I love shape and and I
love it's I just think it's important for them to
see how I carry myself and what's important and how
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I treat their mama and and just them the truth.
They're they're half crazy there. So we have a six
five twenty three year old and I'm just kind of
all about teaching them to grow up and be men.
Speaker 9 (43:44):
How do you teach men in this world? I feel
like that's a lost art a little bit.
Speaker 8 (43:47):
There's been so much people talk about you know, what's it?
Toxic masculinity is yes, And the worst thing you could
be is a is a man.
Speaker 9 (43:58):
It's gone through a season where it's like being just
like a man's man is kind of like the worst truly,
the worst thing is And.
Speaker 8 (44:05):
It's sad because I think that that's what we're supposed
to be. And I just I don't know, man. I
talked to him about every night we have storytell okay,
and it's I love it, a cherish it. And we'll
start off.
Speaker 11 (44:24):
Got any questions, that's a great hit me with.
Speaker 8 (44:27):
Some and they'll ask me, you know, was Bigfoot real?
Speaker 9 (44:30):
Well? Apparently he is real and lives at y'all's farm.
Speaker 8 (44:32):
True.
Speaker 9 (44:33):
I've seen footage video footage on your TikTok of the
Bigfoot in the wild.
Speaker 3 (44:38):
Do your kids know? Have they?
Speaker 9 (44:40):
Do? They still they know Bigfoot's real.
Speaker 8 (44:42):
Yes, they know Bigfoot's real. Santa Claus is.
Speaker 9 (44:45):
Real, everything's real. I love that tooth keep the magic going.
I feel the same way. That's so fun. Everyone needs
to check out Rodney's into his TikTok and dig a
little deep and you'll find the real sighting of Bigfoot.
Speaker 8 (44:59):
He was there, man, it was a birthday party at
the farm and it was a blast. I was laughing
and sweating. God, it was hot. Bugs were burning in
the commitment. But yeah, we have story time, and I'll
start off with you got any questions, and then all
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hearts and mind's clear, can we move on?
Speaker 9 (45:22):
And then all you see you say that all hearts
and mind's clear.
Speaker 8 (45:25):
Sometimes yeah, a lot of times, so are we good?
And then we'll move on to a lot of times
it'll be some little Bible story. Last night it was
what was it, Oh, the the Jericho and marching around
Joshua would And so we went through that for a
little bit, and then we'll go into some story. And
(45:47):
I try to tell stories that incorporate them in the
story that it's them going through some crazy adventure and
it's just a special time. And I'll make them lay still,
close your eyes, pictured in your head, and we do
it every single night. I love it.
Speaker 9 (46:06):
That's amazing, it's fun. Why is being a dad so
important to you?
Speaker 8 (46:13):
It's a responsibility. I mean, it's the most challenging and
most rewarding thing I've ever done, will ever do. It's
it's part of you, know what you leave behind, And
it's teaching them to be in service and connected, to
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be more than just a good citizen, but to make
a difference. And I mean that's the future of everything.
I just I truly believe that. And how they see
me carry myself and live my life is the first
thing on my mind what I'm thinking about. And it
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is cool because Rose is How do I explain Rose?
I say, she's she's kinder than she's tougher than life
and kinder than love. She's just what a.
Speaker 9 (47:07):
Wonderful thing to say about your wife. Tougher than life
and kinder than love.
Speaker 7 (47:15):
She is.
Speaker 3 (47:16):
Oh, how has her love changed you? How has it?
Speaker 9 (47:20):
How has it affected your heart and being married to her?
Speaker 8 (47:23):
Man, I don't know if I do that.
Speaker 9 (47:26):
Without crying.
Speaker 3 (47:28):
Yeah, that's so sweet, Rodney, What a gift?
Speaker 9 (47:34):
Having a love like that is also the biggest gift
you can have, exactly.
Speaker 8 (47:40):
And for them to see that, I think that's so.
Speaker 9 (47:42):
She's completely just metamorphosized you as a human with her love.
Speaker 8 (47:49):
Yeah, and it's with her. It's when somebody loves you
that way. You're vulnerable, but you're tougher than anything that
could ever come at you. At the same time because
you have that.
Speaker 9 (48:05):
Do you have a place to a soft place to land.
Speaker 8 (48:09):
Yeah, you're kind of fearless. Nothing else can hurt you.
Nobody on earth can hurt me, but her. I don't know.
Things fall into place when you when you see somebody
love you, and you just I just quit, I quit
listening to me about me and just trust her.
Speaker 9 (48:31):
Oh okay, so what did you about you tell you?
And what does she tell you about you?
Speaker 8 (48:37):
I mean, it's that golden rule thing about you know,
treat others how you want to be treated. But that's
I can't remember where I even got this from. Hit
me a long time ago about I wouldn't walk up
to you and I don't know, say awful things to you,
(48:59):
punch me in. I wouldn't force a gallon a whiskey
down your throat or large or you know, super double
large pizza just cram it down your throat. So I
don't know why people do it. You do it to yourself,
those things you say things to yourself.
Speaker 9 (49:14):
Like bad self talk exactly. That's it. It took me
forever to even realize what self talk was. Like, I
didn't know that for a long time until I started
getting into therapy and self aware that, like I even
had bad self talk. And then when I realized it,
I'm like, man, I am an asshole to myself, Like
I am picking myself apart, I'm tearing myself down. I
don't believe in myself. It takes a lot to change that.
(49:39):
Did you have some pretty gnarly self talk?
Speaker 8 (49:41):
I think so? Yeah. You know, I grew up, I
was adopted, and.
Speaker 9 (49:45):
Your adoption story is so touching and it's such a journey.
I mean, that's a lot to go through as a kid, it's.
Speaker 8 (49:53):
But what it does to you is it makes you
you deal with self worth and you're trying to overcome
just abandonmenton that's your It's just a lot of self
worth stuff. So you you beat the ship out of
yourself over and over.
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