May 3, 2025 • 39 mins
Happy weekend! Eddie joins Morgan and she wants an update to see if he booked the trip they were discussing on the last Best Bits. Eddie shares if there was a moment his wife knew was the one, and Morgan gets some brotherly advice in all the love talk. Eddie also shares the things his wife did early on in their relationship that mattered to him.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
The Best Bits of the Week with Morgan.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Part one.
Speaker 1 (00:04):
I hang a scene with a member of the show.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
Well, what's up everybody? Happy weekend? Eddie is joining me.
What's up, Eddie? What's up?
Speaker 1 (00:13):
Morgan?
Speaker 2 (00:13):
You excited to chat?
Speaker 1 (00:15):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (00:15):
Always all the things.
Speaker 1 (00:16):
I saw it on my calendar. It popped up. But
you know what, there's a problem with the calendar.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Oh boy. I tried to implement new some guys, so
they stopped giving me crap for ask you know.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
So Morgan was like, all right, I get I got Finally.
I'm tired of going up to you guys and be like,
what are you doing this week? It's your week to
do this, Bits says. She was like, I'm gonna do
a calendar invite and that's gonna be your week that
you're gonna do it. So you're not surprised, not.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
Even just like not going up. I wanted to be
more organized for you guys, So you guys had heads up.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
I get it totally. It makes sense, right, but the
calendar is for today. I need it for the week.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
You just wanted to show up the whole week.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
Just tell me it's whole week because we don't know
what day we're gonna do.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
It, right, That's true.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
It justpens on what happened, Morgan. I don't know what
I'm doing tomorrow, like, so I need to know. Like
on Sundays, I'll look at the calendar. I'm like, oh cool,
tomorrow we have this, okay. So if I see that,
I'd be like, oh, this week is Morgan's best bit week.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
Okay, then I will change yours just.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
A little bit week suggestion box. That's it.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
I like suggestion boshes. We can change them.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
It's brand new, so you're open to suggestions.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
Of course, I am. Well, Eddie. The biggest question I
have to start this is did you book a trip?
The trip?
Speaker 1 (01:20):
Oh shoot, Eddie, I was supposed to do that.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
For like like seven weeks.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
So I didn't book a trip. But here's what I did. Okay,
So this is this totally goes with what we were
talking about on the podcast. Yes, I signed up further
the men's group you did, I did? Okay, we meet
on Saturday mornings.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
Okay, so not the trip, but you are joining a
dude's group.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
You did? You said do something out of your comfort zone,
and like, yes, there was a buddy of mine and
in Wyoming and I'm like, I'd love to go visit him.
So that didn't happen because really, realistically, I just can't
leave for a week. And so I settled for men's
group at my church on Saturday mornings. And it was
not my idea. It's almost like this is kind of
(02:04):
like from above Morgan because one of my old neighbors
who we's been neighbors like two years ago, he moved
away with his wife just to another part of town,
like him and his family got a house on the
other side of town. Yeah, and we go to the
same church though, and he was like, hey, have you
thought about doing this men's group? And I'm like, no,
I'm not doing it, Like I remember when I talked
to you about this. Yeah, I'm like, it's just not
my thing, not my thing to do it. And I said,
(02:25):
are you doing it? He said, only have you do it?
And I go, oh my gosh. And that's kind of
cool that he wants to go, like and he will
only do it if I go. So I was like,
let's get it a shot.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
Okay, we don't we have you yet?
Speaker 1 (02:38):
You no, no, no, it starts in like two weeks okay,
and it's like maybe five saturdays in a row, which
I don't know if I can't make that saturday, like
if we're traveling, I'll have to just kind of not
do it that week. But there's like donuts and breakfasts
and coffee and.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
Oh, you're getting free food.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
No, you have to pay. You have a favorite the
food it's fifty dollars for It's fifty dollars for five weeks,
so like ten dollars.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
Girl math says, that's for food? Is it ten dollars?
Speaker 1 (03:05):
Kind of paying for the coffee and the donut?
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Herney just let it roll. That's how that's how girl
mouth works. Okay, you're just like to have free food.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
What do you mean?
Speaker 2 (03:11):
Girl mouth is when like something's on sale and it's
like fifty percent off, You're like, I can't buy that.
It's like fifty percent off.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
You all are so ridiculous. My wife does this crap
all the time. She goes, you know our wife does.
She says, she goes, uh, like we'll cut something right.
We'll be like, hey, let we're spending too much money
on like the kids lunches. Let's just do sack lunches, okay,
instead of like buying food at school. She's like, okay, well,
just I'll do groceries and we'll just I'll make their
lunches in the morning. So cool. We'll save like two
(03:39):
hundred dollars a month, right, three hundred dollars a month.
And she was like, look what I bought because we
saved on that three hundred dollars. And I'm like, no,
that's not how saving works. You saved. You don't spend
the three hundred dollars, and that is money that you save.
You don't look at that as like that's three hundred
dollars now that I can spend on something else. Like,
that's not saving. You guys are out of your mind.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Understand your point, because I do very much. I'm very
good at saving. I always pay myself first. It's a
strategy my dad instilled to me very early off.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
Okay, you pay yourself first.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
Yeah, you audio paycheck basically goes into your savings. Yeah,
right away, like immediately as soon as you get paid,
you pay yourself first.
Speaker 1 (04:16):
You say, that's your money that you put away. I
like it.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
Good. Yeah, so before you spend money, you're putting something away,
like it's depending on you know, however, your paycheck shows it.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
Roughly the percentage of your paycheck.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
Well, at first it was like five dollars. Does that
it start?
Speaker 1 (04:29):
Now about like the percentage?
Speaker 2 (04:30):
Don't give me like that now, I'm but like, when
it first started, it was like five dollars.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
That's probably because you were making ten dollars basically, you know,
your paycheck was t.
Speaker 2 (04:39):
Now i'd probably say, like twenty five is when I'm
I'm talking away.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
Yeah, that's not possible for me, but that's a good
If I were single totally, I would probably do that too.
I like it.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
Well, you were single once upon a time, you didn't
do it.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
No, that was my beer drinking money for sure. It's
like every every every two weeks, I'm like, god, dang man,
have any money? Like wires are getting expensive?
Speaker 2 (05:04):
Yeah, you weren't paying yourself first? Ass all? Okay, so
how do we even get on the topic of paying first?
Talk about your wife and buying something breakfast? Got it?
Speaker 1 (05:13):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (05:13):
Okay? So anyways, it is girl math because technically you're
getting something out of it that was free that you
would have paid had to pay money for on different things.
It's interesting logical.
Speaker 1 (05:24):
It's so weird. That you are so responsible with paying
yourself first and putting twenty five percent percent away, Like
that's that's great, that's good. But then you lose all credibility.
Credibility when you say.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
Like, okay, girl, Math, it's curious. It's just fun to like,
you know, when you spend money, especially now, like you
spend money and it just kind of like hurts your heart.
It just kind of makes you feel a little bit
better when you're like, girl, Math, I save some money.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
Yeah, spending money sucks, That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
So like it just kind of makes us feel better.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
Okay, I get that. It's kind of like you're just
fooling yourself.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
You know. But what it's a placebo effect. You're like, yeah,
girl Math, they're somewhere in there. I save some money.
Maybe it didn't cost so much.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
I'll say that next time.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
Yeah, it just helps you ease the pain of spinning money.
I really think it's truly where it comes from. Yeah,
that's funny. I'm proud of you. I'm glad that you
did this.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
We're going to do it, and we're signed up. We're
going to do it, which is I don't know how
it's going to go or what we're going to do.
I'm assuming we talk about God, but I think there's
more of just like a catchup of like from what
I understand, maybe you split up in like groups of
five you sit around a campfire and you just kind
of chat it up.
Speaker 2 (06:27):
Okay, so it's in evenings. I was picturing in the morning.
Speaker 1 (06:30):
Seven in the morning.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
Why are you seeing campfire?
Speaker 1 (06:32):
They do a little fire outside.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
Oh so you are really around Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
And you sit around the campfire while you drink coffee
your donut. Okay, I guess the mornings are kind of cool.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
Donuts with dad but no kids.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
Right, you know?
Speaker 2 (06:43):
Back in school, and oh I do it all the
time still, Yeah, doughnuts with dad.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
I haven't done it in a while, but donuts with dad.
Donuts with dad is fun, and.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
It wasn't it like muffins with moms.
Speaker 1 (06:51):
Yes, they still do. Yeah. And my kid's school is
cool too because we can do lunches with them like
whenever we want.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Really, I love that.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
But we only do like birthdays or whatever.
Speaker 2 (07:02):
Okay, let me ask you this because on my birthday,
my mom used to always bring Christie's cookies. This is
the thing back in Kansas, and it was these really
really good sugar cookies. Every birthday she would show up
to the school for like my classroom and give us
Christie's cookies or cookie cake and we'd always like celebrate.
Do you do that for your kids on the birthdays?
Speaker 1 (07:19):
Totally?
Speaker 2 (07:19):
Is that a common thing that a lot of parents
do or do you feel like it's some do it,
some don't.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
I think that I probably wouldn't do it, but I
think everyone does it, Okay, So you kind of feel
forced as a parent to be like, well, our kid
can't be the only one that doesn't get the cookies
or like the cupcakes or whatever, you know. But what's
really challenging though nowadays, is like everyone has allergies of something, yeah,
and analergies, so you have to ask like, okay, so
(07:45):
make sure that the cupcakes don't have pistachios in them
or whatever, because we have a pistacio allergy. So the
things like that that I don't remember dealing with as
a kid.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
Oh no, everybody had the same We all ate the
same Christy cookie.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Yeah, and little Tommy if he got a rash, you
got a raph or like if somebody couldn't have it
they couldn't have it.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
And that's like coming from someone who does have allergies.
I can't eat, but like, yeah, that's that's crazy too.
I didn't even think about that side of it.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
You have to like ask first, like, all right, we're
gonna bring cookies, does anyone have a nut allergy? Because
some of these like cookies have peanuts in it or
like whatever.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
See, this is why sugar cookies are good.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
I think.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
I think it's pretty clear from most allergies. Just find
maybe a gluten free one and then you'll be okay.
Speaker 1 (08:24):
Unless you have a sugar allergy and not good.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
I have.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
I have that sugar allergy.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
Yeah, I'm allergic. Well I'm allergic to I think most
people are, but I have an allergy like sensitivity to
like preserved sugars.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
An allergy. Like what is analogy? Because I think of
allergy in flames, That's what it is.
Speaker 2 (08:45):
Yeah, that's definitely certain areas of your body can inflame.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
Yeah, that's a great explanation because I never knew. It's
always like yo, grass, Like I'm allergic to grass? Okay, cool,
what happens I get a rash or I can't breathe
or whatever?
Speaker 2 (08:58):
It's like, well, at least the way that I've been
taught to understand it, and maybe different allergies kind of
function differently. But when you have it an allergic reaction
like think of like when people welt or their eyes, well,
like your body inflaming.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
So if it's your lungs that you can't breathe, my
lungs are inflaming. If it's like my nose itches, then
your nostrils are inflaming or whatever.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
It's probably a too simplistic way of.
Speaker 1 (09:20):
Describing I love it, but makes sense.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
That's at least how somebody kind of like made it
identified to me as like you're just super inflamed because
you're allergic to a lot of things that you keep
putting in your body.
Speaker 1 (09:29):
So not sugar cane, but any kind of added processed sugar.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
Well, I mean even sugar cane really because like it's
really like you can have like fruit because that's natural sugar,
but anything that's added and you know, baked goods all rible.
I used to put this is wild. I used to
put sugar on my cereal.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
Yeah I did too, you did?
Speaker 2 (09:53):
Two?
Speaker 1 (09:54):
Like if I have like corn flakes, yeah, I'll put
sugar rice.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
It's my favorite Rice Krispy Bees. But I did the
same thing.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
I was trying to say, Rice Krispies with not Rice
Krispy treats. That's what happened.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
Rice Krispies with sugar. Dallast on top, man a lot.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
Of sugar, and I'd make it look like it was
snowing on the Rice Chrispies.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
I would even, Eddie, I eat like a layer and
then I'd do the next layer.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
Do you remember the best part though, of all the
sugar in the bottom of the wall. Yeah, and you
would just scrape it off one of there with the milk. Dude,
that was so good. I didn't do that today.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
I know it was so good, But like I think
about that often. I was like I was consuming literally
more than my daily intake of sugar in one second.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
Did you guys ever have kool aid in your house? Oh? Yeah, okay,
so my mom like my job was like, hey, Eddie,
will you make the kool aid? Yeah? I would get
my picture of water, do not get the pitcher of water,
fill it up, you know, all the way or maybe
just a little leave room for the sugar, and then
I would pour the kool aid packet and it would
turn it red. Right then it was sugar time. We
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had those big you know, cooking spoons, like I talk
about the big ones, not like the a teaspoon, not
the ones that are like made out of the same
size as spatul.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
Like like a kind of yeah that you used for
soup kind of yes.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
Like the spatulessize, but it's a spoon.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:12):
I would did three and a half of those, what
three and a half and it was delicious. But now
I look at that like, well, no wonder, Like we
have so many issues when people are diabetic, Like it's
like I'm on my way to like dine because of
that crap.
Speaker 2 (11:28):
I know, iced.
Speaker 1 (11:29):
Tea like my my baby, we had a babysitter. She
made the best iced tea ever, and then I saw
her making it one time, same thing, five cups of sugar, dude,
like whoa oh.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
And we used to drink like my mom and sister
had diet PEPSI, my dad and I had diet mountain
dew like every day for every like I was never
drinking water, I have. I saw Amy pol Er this
meme of her being like nobody taught us about water,
Like we never had water growing up, And I think
back to my life. I never drank water. It was
gatorade or mountain dew or any other like added jugger drink.
(12:02):
I never drank water.
Speaker 1 (12:05):
It's so crazy, like, yes, same with us.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
Because you're mentioning kool aid, and I see like wheat.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
Yeah, like any any meal, you'd reach for the coke
or the whatever doctor pepper, Like it didn't matter whatever
it was. It just wasn't water, sunny d or anything
but water.
Speaker 2 (12:19):
Like I when when I saw that meme, I was like,
I really looked back on my childhood. I was like,
that's why I'm not good at drinking water today because
I didn't drink water.
Speaker 1 (12:26):
So see, that's funny you say this because like parenting now,
the now that we know so much about health. And
I used to argue it because I'm like, we don't
have money to eat organic, we don't have money to
do whatever. But there are little things that you can
change that isn't like going to break the bank. Yeah,
And it's literally staying away from anything out of a can,
you know, and just getting vegetables. And if you look
(12:47):
at vegetables like we have to do my wife and
I like, we're like I know that we're having pizza night,
but like throws some broccoli on it something, just to
level it out, because like I did not grow up
that way. She didn't grow up that way, and like
really that's the root of like a lot of our
health problems, so many health problems. And then I see
(13:08):
stuff like on Instagram that like the first two years
of your life, whatever you do within those first two
years affects you for the rest of your life.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
Very formative.
Speaker 1 (13:17):
Well, we're screwed so but now like we're younger, like
we have we have kids now, or like somebody's probably
pregnant with their first child right now listening. You could
make a difference in their lives by just cutting all
that crap out.
Speaker 2 (13:30):
It's true, And I.
Speaker 1 (13:30):
Know Hamburger helper sounds really good, but it's out of
a box, and it can't be good for you if
it's in a box. It can't be good for you
if it's in a can.
Speaker 2 (13:38):
Yeah, we've come a long way to understanding and learning.
It is wild, Like I look back to our childhood
and there's so much nostalgia in it, but it's also
just like what the crap was happening.
Speaker 1 (13:47):
I know, Well, we just didn't know. Like my mom
was visiting in town and and we were talking. We
were talking about this exact same thing, and she was like,
I'm sorry, we just didn't know. Yeah, we had no
clue and.
Speaker 2 (13:57):
They didn't you. It's I often say the phrase, once
we know better, we can do better. But until we
know we can't do better, we don't know any different. Yeah,
that was our society. That's what everybody was doing.
Speaker 1 (14:09):
And I used to hate it because it's like I
can't eat that. It's expensive, Like I can't eat organic,
I can't eat. But now, like I think they're doing
a lot better at making kind of stuff more affordable,
even though all groceries are expensive right now. Yeah, like
everywhere you go, groceries are so freaking expensive. Yeah, we
spend so much money on groceries.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
I know. Okay, we're gonna take a quick break anyway, back, Eddie,
I'm so curious about this. When did you know? Your
wife was like the one.
Speaker 1 (14:41):
Oh, good question. This is tough because I want to
sound stupid saying this, but and you know we talk
about on the show, how like guys, Yes, the guys
are stupid. Yes, we're stupid, And we talk a lot
about on the show about how I waited for six
years to propose to my wife. Yeah, I I knew
I loved her immediately, right like within the first six
(15:04):
months or whatever. Like I knew immediately I loved her,
But never did I think about spending the rest of
my life with her until she told me, are you
gonna ask me to marry you or not? Like we've
been dating way too long. We met, you know, in college,
(15:24):
we went through college, we got our first jobs together,
we lived, we moved to Austin together, like everything, and
I had thought, like, we're just having a good time,
like this is a fun relationship. I love you, you love me.
We're best of friends.
Speaker 2 (15:39):
Yeah, But did you at some point even if you
weren't like really thinking in the headspace of marriage where
you're like, yeah, I just want to hang out with
you forever.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
Yes, I don't know about forever, but like, yes, like
I loved I'm not a I guess in my mind,
I wasn't like a thinker of what am I going
to be doing for the next ten years of my life?
I was more of what am I doing right now?
I've always kind of been that way. I'm a day
to day person, like I'm telling you, like even when
it comes to this podcast, I'm like, let me know
on Monday that we're going to do it on Thursday,
(16:08):
because I'll forget. Yeah, so I'm kind of more of it.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
I've got a big picture, big overarching planner.
Speaker 1 (16:14):
I'm not because I don't think for me, I've experienced
that life doesn't really work that way for me, Like, yeah,
I thought I was going to be, you know, a
touring musician in.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
A rock band, like it would be very day to
day and yeah, it's a different lifestyle. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (16:32):
My sister makes fun of me too, because like I
had this like picture of Hollywood in my my bedroom
and it was like the Hollywood sign and it would
say my goal on top, like idiot, Like I thought
Hollywood was going to be my goal. Like I don't
like Hollywood, Like I don't like really La.
Speaker 2 (16:48):
Well, but you didn't know that then.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
I didn't know that. But but I guess that's kind
of when I when I was younger, I was more
of a like I'm a dreamer, like I'm going to
do this, But now that I've become older, it's kind
of like day to day and just God tell me
what's going to happen, and I'm gonna do I'm gonna
do me. I'm gonna do the best that I can.
I'm going to see open door opportunities, I will take
them and let's just see where it goes.
Speaker 2 (17:09):
So, but then your wife gives you this ultimatum and
you're like, no, yeah, I don't. I don't want to
lose you. Is that kind of it was?
Speaker 1 (17:16):
Literally, I don't. I've never thought.
Speaker 2 (17:18):
About this and would she like excuse me? And up
until that point, you guys had never had conversations whatsoever
about marriage, wanting to have kids.
Speaker 1 (17:27):
Yeah, we would talk about like what what would we
name our kids? Like what are your top ten kids' names? Yeah,
like where where should we go? Like if we were
to ever get married. Sure we talked about that, but
like it was always it wasn't when we were going
to get married or like it was just like if
we ever get married, or like I'm telling you, in
my mind, my career, my job at the time, my music,
(17:52):
like me playing music, writing music, me having my hot girlfriend,
like that was my life. I never thought like oh yeah,
like eventually you and I were gonna have kids and
get married. Like no, never thought of it until she said,
are you gonna ask me to marry you? And then
I remember specifically going on a I think me and
my dad and my brother were on a fishing trip,
(18:15):
like in South Padre or like I don't know, somewhere
in Texas. And I talked to my brother. I'm like, yeah, man,
like you know, my wife gave me the my wife,
my girlfriend gave me the ultimatum kind of thing, and
and he was just like, well, yeah, idiot, like are
you gonna do it? And I was like, I mean,
this is the first time I've really been thinking about it,
and I'm like, I think I'm gonna do it, like
(18:37):
of course because it made so much sense, Like I
don't want to live this life without her. Yeah, Like
not once did I ever think like, yeah, I like you,
but I'm going to try to see if I can
date someone else, see if it.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
Never that's crazy, Like it was just like a there,
it was just there, and it was there, good and.
Speaker 1 (18:52):
Happy and comfortable, which is kind of my life. Yeah,
and I realized, like that's just how I live my life.
Speaker 2 (18:57):
That is true. Well you didn't you don't help me
much here than Eddie.
Speaker 1 (19:01):
Why what are you thinking?
Speaker 2 (19:02):
I just like, I feel like I'm having a lot
of big feelings that I don't I don't quite think
i've ever experienced before ever. Yeah, something feels different and
I don't know how to explain it, and I don't
know what it is. That's why I'm asking trying to
get information to like process, So like.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
Let me let me ask you this because I think, like,
all right, if I wouldn't have married my wife, which
you know, like I could have, I could have just
said no, I don't want to get married right now,
and then just prolonged it and then met someone in
my forties or like late thirties and then be like,
all right, you're the one I'm going to marry just
because like dang, we're almost forty, like we should get
(19:40):
married right, like uh huh. And I could have had
a completely different life. I probably wouldn't have four kids.
Speaker 2 (19:47):
This is also true.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
Who knows what would have happened.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
So like.
Speaker 1 (19:53):
When you say different feeling, could it be anything about
just gone through the grinder of dating and like being
cheated on and you name it right, Yeah, but now
you're not dealing with all that deceit. Yeah right, you're
(20:13):
not dealing with that right now, so it feels good.
Speaker 2 (20:17):
Yeah, and I well, like, here's a different distinction than
I'm having where like in the beginning of all of
my relationships, and of course, hindsight is always twenty twenty, right,
you look back on something like, yeah, that made sense.
I definitely skated over that, or I didn't look into
that too hard or you know whatever. Yeah, you got
to do that. And I can genuinely do that for
(20:38):
all of my relationships now, even like the recent one,
like I had a really big breakthrough where it was
like a we're.
Speaker 1 (20:44):
Talking about the uniform rests, yeah, man inform where.
Speaker 2 (20:48):
I was just like that would have never worked, and
I just ignored it because I think for the first
time in my life, I was in a safe and
healthy relationship.
Speaker 1 (20:57):
Yeah, okay, so there we go. So that was that time.
So all the deceit lies, whatever, being cheated on, whatever,
bad dude, whatever, all that's out right. So you've got
a really good dude and you've checked that that that
box has been checked. Good dude. Yeah, not gonna cheat
on me, not gonna lie to me, not gonna do
bad things. To me like check, yeah, so now is
(21:20):
he the dude, because because just because the bat he's
a good guy doesn't mean he's the guy for you, right, but.
Speaker 2 (21:25):
This is this is the last guy, right, And like
obviously I realized and I was like, Okay, well, I
need to be having some very intense conversations pretty early
on to make sure I'm weeding through all of the
very specific things. If we don't have in comments, that's.
Speaker 1 (21:38):
Gonna be weird for him just to get all those
questions because I don't that's not normal to be interrogated.
Speaker 2 (21:42):
But but I understand what he loved it. Really, he
was just like, yeah, like this is because.
Speaker 1 (21:48):
This is man uniform.
Speaker 2 (21:50):
No, okay, now we're on new guys, got it. Sorry,
It was just more I learned the lesson with man
in Uniform that like, I had the breakthrough when I
was like kind of sitting there and journaling and working
through my stuff where I was like, I think the
reason I really cared and that that relationship was so
hard on me is because it was truly the first
time that I felt not hurt, like I was dealing
with someone who actually cared and genuinely wanted to see
(22:11):
me happy. It just didn't work out. It wasn't my person,
and I think that was such a different hurt than
I'd ever experienced because of that, So then like coming
into this new relationship and meeting him, how I met him,
the whole experience and everything has been vastly different than
anything I've ever experienced. So now that's why I'm trying
(22:31):
to Like, I'm like, Okay, is it just another new
different and I'm learning a lot of things or is
this like a different different different and it's gonna be
something that really matters and I don't know how to
deal with it.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
I can answer your question, Yeah, what do you want? Like,
what do you want out of a guy? Like it
sounds like you're looking for the perfect man? No, not perfect,
So what do you want?
Speaker 2 (22:56):
I want a consistent, loyal, and compassionate human being. Those
are like my three very Like I had just got
done telling my friends that I needed an EmPATH, Like
I needed somebody who had a heart like mine, because
so so much I was recognizing, like as especially as
I went through back a lot of my relationships, that
(23:17):
I just had this this heart that couldn't be matched,
Like I cared so deeply, and I would, I would
fight so hard for things, and I just I was
not matching with somebody in the heart category. And I
was like, it's gonna matter when I meet someone who
like has this heart that I have. And that was
like the first thing that I connected on with IRL
(23:40):
guy because it's kind of the nickname that's been given
to him. Was like, holy crap, we feel and see
life and experience life in the same way in that
capacity and that I've never felt before.
Speaker 1 (23:52):
Okay, that's good, check that, boss. That was what else?
Speaker 2 (23:55):
The consistency is there on every life? At first?
Speaker 1 (23:59):
You behind that because like consistency, like he shows up
when he does, like when he tells you he's going
to be there, Like what what's what do you mean?
Speaker 2 (24:05):
The words align with the actions?
Speaker 1 (24:07):
But for how long?
Speaker 2 (24:09):
I know we're still early on. Well, we're you know,
over a month, right that at this point is over
a month.
Speaker 1 (24:15):
Okay, just let's just say five weeks.
Speaker 2 (24:18):
Yeah, so far, five weeks.
Speaker 1 (24:20):
So far he's acting a certain way and he is
that that way.
Speaker 2 (24:24):
He said, like he walks the talk, talks the walk,
he does that he's going to do.
Speaker 1 (24:31):
There's lines, but but can you give me like smallest
example to a big example. Smallest example he says, isn't
going to take remy for a walk, and he takes
it ready for a while. Big example he says he's
going to I don't know, never drive drunk. He doesn't
drive drunk, you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (24:49):
Like, yeah, no, he okay. Small example is he will
like he's like, I'm always here to support you, to help,
like make your life easier. That's the purpose of a partnership.
And he's done that, Like he's he saw I got
really stressed and my house is kind of messing and
it was really stressing me out. He's like he just
kind of started picking up. I damn to tell him.
He just kind of started like helping me in ways
(25:11):
that would ease my stress. And that has been consistent
because I have a pretty high tense job. Sometimes there's
just a lot going on all the time.
Speaker 1 (25:19):
There's a lot of I'm aware.
Speaker 2 (25:21):
Yeah that's just what it is, and so some things
get pushed to the side and then I get stressed out.
It's a whole thing. And like he has eased a
lot of that stress that I have because I just
felt like I was taking on the world in a
way I wasn't. But you know what that feeling is
like that's like a small one. Big one is like
him like reassuring me, just like I'm here and I'm
(25:43):
in this, and I like, I want this to work
and it's consistent and he's showing that through actions.
Speaker 1 (25:50):
Okay, good examples, good examples.
Speaker 2 (25:52):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (25:53):
You know when there's something that I remember that my
wife and I.
Speaker 2 (25:56):
Wait, hold on, we're gonna take a break, and I
want to come right back to this talking. Okay, and
go tell us start your wife.
Speaker 1 (26:06):
And you So when we were dating, I'll never forget
like I had a problem with I don't know, some
friends or maybe my family. Maybe I think it was
family family issues, And we were talking on the phone
and I wanted to talk about it and I wanted
her to kind of help me deal with it. And
I remember specifically that like all I wanted was for
(26:28):
her to tell me what I wanted to hear, you know,
just tell me like that it's not me, it's them,
it's whatever, Like they're wrong, you're right, right, That's all
I wanted. And she was like and it happened like
five six different times where she was just like, well,
did you ever think about like what they're going through?
Like what is she?
Speaker 2 (26:47):
Like?
Speaker 1 (26:47):
What's your mom thinking about like when she says this
or like and it was always like no, what about me?
You know? And he was like no, no, you're right too,
but like what about your dad or what about your
friend that? What's he like? Wow? Why is he so upset?
Speaker 2 (27:03):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (27:04):
And I was like this is so cool because like
she that to me meant she truly cared about the
issue and whatever it was doing to me. She knew
that I would be better at resolving it if I
understood the whole picture other than like, yeah, you're right,
like see, because that to me, like yeah, you're right,
they're wrong, screw them, like they don't need you. You're
(27:25):
better than all of them. Like that that would just
do nothing for me other than just.
Speaker 2 (27:28):
Like yeah, it doesn't. It supports you, sure, but it
doesn't challenge you. And like a partner truly should challenge
and support you. Yeah, in both ways.
Speaker 1 (27:37):
Yeah, she's not just like supporting me just to get
a good version of me. Mm hmm, would you like?
I love you?
Speaker 2 (27:42):
She wants the actual best for you, even if you
can't see it.
Speaker 1 (27:45):
She's always been like that. She's always been like authentic, real,
like I'm gonna shoots you straight. You're kind of being
an a hole, like you know what I mean. Like,
she's not scared of me. She's never she was never
scared of how I was going to react towards something.
She's just like you asked me, I'm going to tell
you how it is, and she wasn't mean about it.
But to me, that was such a strong indication that
(28:07):
she really cared about me. Yeah, you know, so like
that was really cool.
Speaker 2 (28:12):
So when you look back on that now, is that like, oh, yeah,
that for sure played a role in the fact that,
like I didn't want to lose her.
Speaker 1 (28:18):
Probably, you know, I never thought about it again, but yeah,
when I look back at it, Yeah, it's little things
like that where I'm I'm thinking like, yeah, those are
all little bricks in the wall.
Speaker 2 (28:28):
You know, it's like building a foundation, and every time
you start dating somebody new, you're building the foundation for
what that relationship is going to look like.
Speaker 1 (28:36):
Yeah, So at what point, like how much longer are
you going to kind of go before you Because I'm shocked.
I'm a little shocked that like five weeks in we're
calling it five weeks. Yeah, five weeks in you're already
feeling like this, where I thought I thought that maybe
you would be a little more reserved and more protected.
(28:57):
Oh yeah, and standoffish because of what you've been through.
Speaker 2 (29:00):
Okay, So this is interesting you say that because I
am to him like he's definitely like he's like he's
he's the more like he he doesn't have any walls up.
I have all the walls and they're still there. But
that's also why I'm asking this question, just to understand
whether it's him or you know, later down. Like, I
don't think I've ever truly considered that question of like, well,
(29:22):
why is it them? You know, you kind of look
at people you're like, okay, well why them? Why did
you choose them? How did this happen?
Speaker 1 (29:27):
I don't think it's that simple, right, Like, I don't
think it's like I think it could have been someone else.
I really do think it could have been someone else,
you know, like I could have easily told my wife, no,
I'm not ready, and then I would have dated someone else,
and then would have dated someone else after that, and
then we dated somewhere up that and then maybe find
someone else down down the line, and my life would
have been completely different. But at the same time, that's
(29:47):
not what happened. That's not what happened. And I decided
to I don't think you're ever going to find anyone perfect,
not that you're looking for anyone perfect. I think a
lot of people try to find someone like example, and
I got my foster kids and the caseworker came to
my house. I said, I want the easiest kid, no trauma,
(30:07):
I want a baby. I remember. The caseworker is just like, Okay,
that will never happen. But okay, I'll write all that
down anyway. But like, cause that's what we want, right,
I want if I'm going to change, if I'm going
to commit to something, I want to be easy. But
marriage isn't easy. Being in a relationship isn't easy. Kid
(30:27):
isn't easy. Life is not easy. Yeah, So like, if
you like it, Morgan, if it feels right, if you
trust him, I wouldn't go that quick, right, like obviously
five weeks it's not a lot of time, but like,
just be open, I know, and open, and don't let
your age even make it a factor. Don't make your
age a factor. Don't think like, cause, like you know, yes,
(30:50):
there is pressure when you get older. We're just like, man,
everyone's being taken. I win a lot of weddings, everyone's
got boyfriends, everyone's married, and I'm not. Don't let that
affect you, Like, that's not your life, that's.
Speaker 2 (31:02):
All, And I don't. I don't think I would ever settle.
I think I have been through enough experiences that settling
is just not an option for me. As far as like,
you know, just dating somebody or marrying to get married,
I will That'll never be me.
Speaker 1 (31:15):
I will tell you, though, I think you are at
a good age for dudes, because at this point, how
old are you? Thirty one, thirty one? Maybe you're not,
maybe you're not, maybe you're not at that point.
Speaker 2 (31:30):
Well, he's older than me.
Speaker 1 (31:31):
How old is he?
Speaker 2 (31:31):
He's thirty four?
Speaker 1 (31:33):
I was going to say, I think thirty five is
a perfect age for a man to finally realize that
he's ready to settle down and be with someone for
the rest of his life.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
Yeah, it's all. I mean. The age is also getting
older for women too, so it doesn't surprise me, Like, yeah,
early middle thirties is being becoming the normal age for
people to actually get married. That's just what it is.
It used to not be obviously, but.
Speaker 1 (31:59):
You start looking at leagues in like bars and like
what single people do when you start realizing like, all right,
I'm kind of at the high I'm at the older
range of this. I don't belong here anymore. Yeah, like
I belong maybe at home and then that let life
of starting with like finding a house with someone and
(32:21):
getting married, and then like shopping for a child and
getting a room ready for your first baby. All that
is like it's all, you know, planned for us. It's
all there for us. But like for guys, we don't
even think of that until there's a certain point where
that hits, where like all our friends are kind of
gone and be like, oh, maybe it's time for me
to kind of do what they're doing too.
Speaker 2 (32:43):
Yeah that is true. I mean you're influenced by what's
around you. Yeah, that's very true.
Speaker 1 (32:47):
So you're dating these younger guys and they're like, nah, man,
I'm I like her and I'm having fun with her.
Speaker 2 (32:52):
But what's crazy about age? So Eddie is like I
would date guys for like thirty seven thirty eight, and
they were be more immature than the dudes are all
like twenty seven and I'm like, I don't. That's why
i stopped. I was like, I'm yang, You're right.
Speaker 1 (33:05):
And there is there's a personality.
Speaker 2 (33:08):
It really depends on your experiences, what you've been through,
where you're at in your life. Yeah, that really plays
such a core part of that.
Speaker 1 (33:15):
But I will say thirty five, thirty four to thirty
five is kind of that age where like people start,
guys start thinking differently.
Speaker 2 (33:22):
Yeah, and I don't listen, I don't know, I don't,
I don't have anything. I think my logic in my
brain and my heart are playing two different fields right
now and they're trying to catch up to each other
one way or another. And that's because of what I've
been through.
Speaker 1 (33:35):
And try writing it out, just try writing it out
and not expecting too much, and like, if it's right,
it's right, I know.
Speaker 2 (33:44):
But I think what scares me, Eddie is that it
really could be. And I think that it's not scary,
terrifies the living Piat what you want, it is, of
course what I want, and I'm not going to push
it away. Don't get me wrong.
Speaker 1 (33:57):
I'm not like, you know, don't look at your trauma
room on that.
Speaker 2 (34:00):
No, but there is this like there's like this little
Morgan inside of me who's just like, oh my gosh,
what is happening? Like yes, you wait for a moment
like this your entire life, and hopefully it is that moment.
But then you're like, oh, this is this is also
kind of scary and I wasn't prepared for the other
side of that, Like I was prepared for it to happen, yeah,
but not prepared for all the feelings that come around it.
Speaker 1 (34:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (34:21):
Yeah, and that's just where I'm at. I just have
lots of feelings to do it.
Speaker 1 (34:24):
You got this, do it?
Speaker 2 (34:26):
I needed I needed Eddie the day to come in.
Speaker 1 (34:30):
Like that was a long time ago. Yeah, but still.
Speaker 2 (34:32):
But that's why I think the logic side of my
brain is like coming to people and be like, okay,
so how did you because my brain is trying to
make sense of something that's really hard to make sense of.
Speaker 1 (34:40):
Are you asking a lot of people this question?
Speaker 2 (34:42):
No, you're my first one.
Speaker 1 (34:43):
Really. You don't ask your girlfriends or anything.
Speaker 2 (34:46):
No, it's different. We have different types of conversations. You
have kind of like a biased but unbiased right, like
you just want to see me happy, do but you're
also going to tell me the truth. I don't know him, Yeah,
you haven't met I met him, so like my friends
on the other side are like they really just want
me to be happy no matter what, and they might
just kind of be like no, like push, like do
(35:06):
I just need unbiased kind of leveling brain. It's all
things happening.
Speaker 1 (35:11):
He's the dude that your friends kind of sought.
Speaker 2 (35:13):
The bar and like go talk to This is the
in real life, like played out, like stars had to
align perfectly for this us to meet. Happening in a
lot of ways, like when we talk about back to
that night, we're like we almost did not meet.
Speaker 1 (35:29):
I'm not gonna speak for Bobby Amy and Lunchbox, but
I think there is an undertone of we're happy for you,
but we'll see yeah, because you know, it's kind of
like we'll see.
Speaker 2 (35:41):
Well because I've been through so much, right, Like, no,
it is weird too. I look at my life, Eddie,
and my whole twenties imagine this, like you, my entire
twenties have been on the show. I was twenty three
years old when I joined this show, so my entire
like adult right, that's crazy. Like my experiences of dating
(36:02):
in life have just been a part of this show.
So people are like, oh, well, yeah, it's another one.
I'm like, well, no crap, a normal person dates this
much in their twenties. Yeah, you know what I mean,
Like this is real life. It's just I happened to
share it.
Speaker 1 (36:13):
But there was but there was kind of a time limit, right,
It was like a certain time when you would like,
when am I going to talk about this on air?
Speaker 2 (36:20):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (36:20):
Like how serious am I with this guy? Serious enough
to talk about him on air? So there were a
lot of them were just like, all right, seriously, and
this is serious enough for me to talk about it
on air. And then you'll be like, oh, Morgan's looks
sad crying.
Speaker 2 (36:35):
Oh you know, I think it's I think it's also
because you guys are just like friends to me, and
so it was like.
Speaker 1 (36:40):
I was we see each other every day, well yeah.
Speaker 2 (36:42):
And like having like somebody part of your life. I'm
not good at hiding things. I'm not good at lying, Like,
so if I'm having something really good happen to me,
I can't like for four months sit there and be
like this is happening.
Speaker 1 (36:55):
Right now, You're right, You're right. I think it's all
with all of us, right, Yeah, it's kind of what's
so cool about us, Like in there, we all know
when someone's going through something. Yeah, even Bobby. We'll be like, oh, something.
Speaker 2 (37:06):
Right and bad, you know, or like, yeah.
Speaker 1 (37:08):
He's in a good mood or I'm in a good
mood or.
Speaker 2 (37:11):
So that's why I think so much of just when,
how and what I share. It's changed so much every
time I got you. It just depends on like how
excited I am, how I feel, what's going through my
body and the experiences I'm having, and I'm just trying
to be as real as it as I can.
Speaker 1 (37:28):
I'm happy for you, and I hope that he's the one.
If he is the one.
Speaker 2 (37:31):
And been awesome and if I'll be okay.
Speaker 1 (37:34):
Yeah, you'll be fine. Yeah, and you'll be ready for
the next one. Yeah, and maybe he'll be the right one.
I have good feelings. Good, it's awesome. It's awesome.
Speaker 2 (37:42):
That's where we are right now. We were supposed to
talk this long about it, but you like went dad
round and then I was just like, we're.
Speaker 1 (37:48):
Just going to be on her and I'm like, okay,
we're just gonna talk about what like how I knew
my wife was the one?
Speaker 2 (37:53):
Yeah, but I loved that story, Like I love hearing
about your wife and how you feel and as a dad.
Speaker 1 (37:57):
And it's cool for me too because we don't I mean,
I don't think that much about that. Yeah, I'm telling
you we're such a survivor mode every day of our
life that like we don't talk about you know, us
meeting or like when I knew she was the one.
So that's school. Thank you for asking that. I made
me feel good good.
Speaker 2 (38:14):
I'm glad you got to talk about it. Okay, Well
we do have listener questions. Yes, so we're gonna jump
out of here, go check out part three here in
a little bit. It'll go up. But ednything's for being here.
We're where to follow you.
Speaker 1 (38:24):
Yeah, I'm pretty is already all the things.
Speaker 2 (38:26):
See all the dad stuff, all the dad's.
Speaker 1 (38:27):
Although I will say my seventeen year old son, he
said that one of his buddies at school said, your
dad's Instagram, like is is it has aura?
Speaker 2 (38:40):
You have an aura?
Speaker 1 (38:41):
And I'm like, that's what I'm talking about. I don't
know what that means, but I'm here for it.
Speaker 2 (38:45):
Okay, I will tell you.
Speaker 1 (38:47):
Well, my son kind of told me what it meant.
Speaker 2 (38:49):
Well, it could be good or bad.
Speaker 1 (38:50):
No, he says good, Okay. He said basically, you it
looks like you live a cool life.
Speaker 2 (38:54):
Okay. I was gonna say, if you just had aura,
then aura different directors.
Speaker 1 (39:00):
This is like my life too. When my kids talk
to me, I'm like, I don't know what you're saying. Yeah, like,
just tell me in regular language.
Speaker 2 (39:05):
I know, but that we were the same way.
Speaker 1 (39:07):
So what's aura?
Speaker 2 (39:09):
Your aura is like your vibe. Yeah, same, same, same.
Speaker 1 (39:12):
So when it has aura, it's got a it's got
a vibe.
Speaker 2 (39:15):
It's got a vibe. But that's why I say, like,
it could be good or bad depending if you just said,
like it's got an aura, yeah, that could be.
Speaker 1 (39:20):
Like yeah yeah, like if I was just flashing money
and like had a ski mask on, like okay, he's
a criminal aura.
Speaker 2 (39:26):
Yeah, but you gotta have a cool aura.
Speaker 1 (39:30):
Yeah vibe producer.
Speaker 2 (39:32):
Ready, Yeah, go follow it all right and go subscribe
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Speaker 1 (39:37):
That's the best Bits of the week with Morgan.
Speaker 2 (39:39):
Thanks for listening.
Speaker 1 (39:40):
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Speaker 2 (00:03):
Part one.
Speaker 1 (00:04):
I hang a scene with a member of the show.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
Well, what's up everybody? Happy weekend? Eddie is joining me.
What's up, Eddie? What's up?
Speaker 1 (00:13):
Morgan?
Speaker 2 (00:13):
You excited to chat?
Speaker 1 (00:15):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (00:15):
Always all the things.
Speaker 1 (00:16):
I saw it on my calendar. It popped up. But
you know what, there's a problem with the calendar.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Oh boy. I tried to implement new some guys, so
they stopped giving me crap for ask you know.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
So Morgan was like, all right, I get I got Finally.
I'm tired of going up to you guys and be like,
what are you doing this week? It's your week to
do this, Bits says. She was like, I'm gonna do
a calendar invite and that's gonna be your week that
you're gonna do it. So you're not surprised, not.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
Even just like not going up. I wanted to be
more organized for you guys, So you guys had heads up.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
I get it totally. It makes sense, right, but the
calendar is for today. I need it for the week.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
You just wanted to show up the whole week.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
Just tell me it's whole week because we don't know
what day we're gonna do.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
It, right, That's true.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
It justpens on what happened, Morgan. I don't know what
I'm doing tomorrow, like, so I need to know. Like
on Sundays, I'll look at the calendar. I'm like, oh cool,
tomorrow we have this, okay. So if I see that,
I'd be like, oh, this week is Morgan's best bit week.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
Okay, then I will change yours just.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
A little bit week suggestion box. That's it.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
I like suggestion boshes. We can change them.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
It's brand new, so you're open to suggestions.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
Of course, I am. Well, Eddie. The biggest question I
have to start this is did you book a trip?
The trip?
Speaker 1 (01:20):
Oh shoot, Eddie, I was supposed to do that.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
For like like seven weeks.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
So I didn't book a trip. But here's what I did. Okay,
So this is this totally goes with what we were
talking about on the podcast. Yes, I signed up further
the men's group you did, I did? Okay, we meet
on Saturday mornings.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
Okay, so not the trip, but you are joining a
dude's group.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
You did? You said do something out of your comfort zone,
and like, yes, there was a buddy of mine and
in Wyoming and I'm like, I'd love to go visit him.
So that didn't happen because really, realistically, I just can't
leave for a week. And so I settled for men's
group at my church on Saturday mornings. And it was
not my idea. It's almost like this is kind of
(02:04):
like from above Morgan because one of my old neighbors
who we's been neighbors like two years ago, he moved
away with his wife just to another part of town,
like him and his family got a house on the
other side of town. Yeah, and we go to the
same church though, and he was like, hey, have you
thought about doing this men's group? And I'm like, no,
I'm not doing it, Like I remember when I talked
to you about this. Yeah, I'm like, it's just not
my thing, not my thing to do it. And I said,
(02:25):
are you doing it? He said, only have you do it?
And I go, oh my gosh. And that's kind of
cool that he wants to go, like and he will
only do it if I go. So I was like,
let's get it a shot.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
Okay, we don't we have you yet?
Speaker 1 (02:38):
You no, no, no, it starts in like two weeks okay,
and it's like maybe five saturdays in a row, which
I don't know if I can't make that saturday, like
if we're traveling, I'll have to just kind of not
do it that week. But there's like donuts and breakfasts
and coffee and.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
Oh, you're getting free food.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
No, you have to pay. You have a favorite the
food it's fifty dollars for It's fifty dollars for five weeks,
so like ten dollars.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
Girl math says, that's for food? Is it ten dollars?
Speaker 1 (03:05):
Kind of paying for the coffee and the donut?
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Herney just let it roll. That's how that's how girl
mouth works. Okay, you're just like to have free food.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
What do you mean?
Speaker 2 (03:11):
Girl mouth is when like something's on sale and it's
like fifty percent off, You're like, I can't buy that.
It's like fifty percent off.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
You all are so ridiculous. My wife does this crap
all the time. She goes, you know our wife does.
She says, she goes, uh, like we'll cut something right.
We'll be like, hey, let we're spending too much money
on like the kids lunches. Let's just do sack lunches, okay,
instead of like buying food at school. She's like, okay, well,
just I'll do groceries and we'll just I'll make their
lunches in the morning. So cool. We'll save like two
(03:39):
hundred dollars a month, right, three hundred dollars a month.
And she was like, look what I bought because we
saved on that three hundred dollars. And I'm like, no,
that's not how saving works. You saved. You don't spend
the three hundred dollars, and that is money that you save.
You don't look at that as like that's three hundred
dollars now that I can spend on something else. Like,
that's not saving. You guys are out of your mind.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Understand your point, because I do very much. I'm very
good at saving. I always pay myself first. It's a
strategy my dad instilled to me very early off.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
Okay, you pay yourself first.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
Yeah, you audio paycheck basically goes into your savings. Yeah,
right away, like immediately as soon as you get paid,
you pay yourself first.
Speaker 1 (04:16):
You say, that's your money that you put away. I
like it.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
Good. Yeah, so before you spend money, you're putting something away,
like it's depending on you know, however, your paycheck shows it.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
Roughly the percentage of your paycheck.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
Well, at first it was like five dollars. Does that
it start?
Speaker 1 (04:29):
Now about like the percentage?
Speaker 2 (04:30):
Don't give me like that now, I'm but like, when
it first started, it was like five dollars.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
That's probably because you were making ten dollars basically, you know,
your paycheck was t.
Speaker 2 (04:39):
Now i'd probably say, like twenty five is when I'm
I'm talking away.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
Yeah, that's not possible for me, but that's a good
If I were single totally, I would probably do that too.
I like it.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
Well, you were single once upon a time, you didn't
do it.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
No, that was my beer drinking money for sure. It's
like every every every two weeks, I'm like, god, dang man,
have any money? Like wires are getting expensive?
Speaker 2 (05:04):
Yeah, you weren't paying yourself first? Ass all? Okay, so
how do we even get on the topic of paying first?
Talk about your wife and buying something breakfast? Got it?
Speaker 1 (05:13):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (05:13):
Okay? So anyways, it is girl math because technically you're
getting something out of it that was free that you
would have paid had to pay money for on different things.
It's interesting logical.
Speaker 1 (05:24):
It's so weird. That you are so responsible with paying
yourself first and putting twenty five percent percent away, Like
that's that's great, that's good. But then you lose all credibility.
Credibility when you say.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
Like, okay, girl, Math, it's curious. It's just fun to like,
you know, when you spend money, especially now, like you
spend money and it just kind of like hurts your heart.
It just kind of makes you feel a little bit
better when you're like, girl, Math, I save some money.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
Yeah, spending money sucks, That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
So like it just kind of makes us feel better.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
Okay, I get that. It's kind of like you're just
fooling yourself.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
You know. But what it's a placebo effect. You're like, yeah,
girl Math, they're somewhere in there. I save some money.
Maybe it didn't cost so much.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
I'll say that next time.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
Yeah, it just helps you ease the pain of spinning money.
I really think it's truly where it comes from. Yeah,
that's funny. I'm proud of you. I'm glad that you
did this.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
We're going to do it, and we're signed up. We're
going to do it, which is I don't know how
it's going to go or what we're going to do.
I'm assuming we talk about God, but I think there's
more of just like a catchup of like from what
I understand, maybe you split up in like groups of
five you sit around a campfire and you just kind
of chat it up.
Speaker 2 (06:27):
Okay, so it's in evenings. I was picturing in the morning.
Speaker 1 (06:30):
Seven in the morning.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
Why are you seeing campfire?
Speaker 1 (06:32):
They do a little fire outside.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
Oh so you are really around Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
And you sit around the campfire while you drink coffee
your donut. Okay, I guess the mornings are kind of cool.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
Donuts with dad but no kids.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
Right, you know?
Speaker 2 (06:43):
Back in school, and oh I do it all the
time still, Yeah, doughnuts with dad.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
I haven't done it in a while, but donuts with dad.
Donuts with dad is fun, and.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
It wasn't it like muffins with moms.
Speaker 1 (06:51):
Yes, they still do. Yeah. And my kid's school is
cool too because we can do lunches with them like
whenever we want.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Really, I love that.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
But we only do like birthdays or whatever.
Speaker 2 (07:02):
Okay, let me ask you this because on my birthday,
my mom used to always bring Christie's cookies. This is
the thing back in Kansas, and it was these really
really good sugar cookies. Every birthday she would show up
to the school for like my classroom and give us
Christie's cookies or cookie cake and we'd always like celebrate.
Do you do that for your kids on the birthdays?
Speaker 1 (07:19):
Totally?
Speaker 2 (07:19):
Is that a common thing that a lot of parents
do or do you feel like it's some do it,
some don't.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
I think that I probably wouldn't do it, but I
think everyone does it, Okay, So you kind of feel
forced as a parent to be like, well, our kid
can't be the only one that doesn't get the cookies
or like the cupcakes or whatever, you know. But what's
really challenging though nowadays, is like everyone has allergies of something, yeah,
and analergies, so you have to ask like, okay, so
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make sure that the cupcakes don't have pistachios in them
or whatever, because we have a pistacio allergy. So the
things like that that I don't remember dealing with as
a kid.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
Oh no, everybody had the same We all ate the
same Christy cookie.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Yeah, and little Tommy if he got a rash, you
got a raph or like if somebody couldn't have it
they couldn't have it.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
And that's like coming from someone who does have allergies.
I can't eat, but like, yeah, that's that's crazy too.
I didn't even think about that side of it.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
You have to like ask first, like, all right, we're
gonna bring cookies, does anyone have a nut allergy? Because
some of these like cookies have peanuts in it or
like whatever.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
See, this is why sugar cookies are good.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
I think.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
I think it's pretty clear from most allergies. Just find
maybe a gluten free one and then you'll be okay.
Speaker 1 (08:24):
Unless you have a sugar allergy and not good.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
I have.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
I have that sugar allergy.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
Yeah, I'm allergic. Well I'm allergic to I think most
people are, but I have an allergy like sensitivity to
like preserved sugars.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
An allergy. Like what is analogy? Because I think of
allergy in flames, That's what it is.
Speaker 2 (08:45):
Yeah, that's definitely certain areas of your body can inflame.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
Yeah, that's a great explanation because I never knew. It's
always like yo, grass, Like I'm allergic to grass? Okay, cool,
what happens I get a rash or I can't breathe
or whatever?
Speaker 2 (08:58):
It's like, well, at least the way that I've been
taught to understand it, and maybe different allergies kind of
function differently. But when you have it an allergic reaction
like think of like when people welt or their eyes, well,
like your body inflaming.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
So if it's your lungs that you can't breathe, my
lungs are inflaming. If it's like my nose itches, then
your nostrils are inflaming or whatever.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
It's probably a too simplistic way of.
Speaker 1 (09:20):
Describing I love it, but makes sense.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
That's at least how somebody kind of like made it
identified to me as like you're just super inflamed because
you're allergic to a lot of things that you keep
putting in your body.
Speaker 1 (09:29):
So not sugar cane, but any kind of added processed sugar.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
Well, I mean even sugar cane really because like it's
really like you can have like fruit because that's natural sugar,
but anything that's added and you know, baked goods all rible.
I used to put this is wild. I used to
put sugar on my cereal.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
Yeah I did too, you did?
Speaker 2 (09:53):
Two?
Speaker 1 (09:54):
Like if I have like corn flakes, yeah, I'll put
sugar rice.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
It's my favorite Rice Krispy Bees. But I did the
same thing.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
I was trying to say, Rice Krispies with not Rice
Krispy treats. That's what happened.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
Rice Krispies with sugar. Dallast on top, man a lot.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
Of sugar, and I'd make it look like it was
snowing on the Rice Chrispies.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
I would even, Eddie, I eat like a layer and
then I'd do the next layer.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
Do you remember the best part though, of all the
sugar in the bottom of the wall. Yeah, and you
would just scrape it off one of there with the milk. Dude,
that was so good. I didn't do that today.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
I know it was so good, But like I think
about that often. I was like I was consuming literally
more than my daily intake of sugar in one second.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
Did you guys ever have kool aid in your house? Oh? Yeah, okay,
so my mom like my job was like, hey, Eddie,
will you make the kool aid? Yeah? I would get
my picture of water, do not get the pitcher of water,
fill it up, you know, all the way or maybe
just a little leave room for the sugar, and then
I would pour the kool aid packet and it would
turn it red. Right then it was sugar time. We
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had those big you know, cooking spoons, like I talk
about the big ones, not like the a teaspoon, not
the ones that are like made out of the same
size as spatul.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
Like like a kind of yeah that you used for
soup kind of yes.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
Like the spatulessize, but it's a spoon.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:12):
I would did three and a half of those, what
three and a half and it was delicious. But now
I look at that like, well, no wonder, Like we
have so many issues when people are diabetic, Like it's
like I'm on my way to like dine because of
that crap.
Speaker 2 (11:28):
I know, iced.
Speaker 1 (11:29):
Tea like my my baby, we had a babysitter. She
made the best iced tea ever, and then I saw
her making it one time, same thing, five cups of sugar, dude,
like whoa oh.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
And we used to drink like my mom and sister
had diet PEPSI, my dad and I had diet mountain
dew like every day for every like I was never
drinking water, I have. I saw Amy pol Er this
meme of her being like nobody taught us about water,
Like we never had water growing up, And I think
back to my life. I never drank water. It was
gatorade or mountain dew or any other like added jugger drink.
(12:02):
I never drank water.
Speaker 1 (12:05):
It's so crazy, like, yes, same with us.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
Because you're mentioning kool aid, and I see like wheat.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
Yeah, like any any meal, you'd reach for the coke
or the whatever doctor pepper, Like it didn't matter whatever
it was. It just wasn't water, sunny d or anything
but water.
Speaker 2 (12:19):
Like I when when I saw that meme, I was like,
I really looked back on my childhood. I was like,
that's why I'm not good at drinking water today because
I didn't drink water.
Speaker 1 (12:26):
So see, that's funny you say this because like parenting now,
the now that we know so much about health. And
I used to argue it because I'm like, we don't
have money to eat organic, we don't have money to
do whatever. But there are little things that you can
change that isn't like going to break the bank. Yeah,
And it's literally staying away from anything out of a can,
you know, and just getting vegetables. And if you look
(12:47):
at vegetables like we have to do my wife and
I like, we're like I know that we're having pizza night,
but like throws some broccoli on it something, just to
level it out, because like I did not grow up
that way. She didn't grow up that way, and like
really that's the root of like a lot of our
health problems, so many health problems. And then I see
(13:08):
stuff like on Instagram that like the first two years
of your life, whatever you do within those first two
years affects you for the rest of your life.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
Very formative.
Speaker 1 (13:17):
Well, we're screwed so but now like we're younger, like
we have we have kids now, or like somebody's probably
pregnant with their first child right now listening. You could
make a difference in their lives by just cutting all
that crap out.
Speaker 2 (13:30):
It's true, And I.
Speaker 1 (13:30):
Know Hamburger helper sounds really good, but it's out of
a box, and it can't be good for you if
it's in a box. It can't be good for you
if it's in a can.
Speaker 2 (13:38):
Yeah, we've come a long way to understanding and learning.
It is wild, Like I look back to our childhood
and there's so much nostalgia in it, but it's also
just like what the crap was happening.
Speaker 1 (13:47):
I know, Well, we just didn't know. Like my mom
was visiting in town and and we were talking. We
were talking about this exact same thing, and she was like,
I'm sorry, we just didn't know. Yeah, we had no
clue and.
Speaker 2 (13:57):
They didn't you. It's I often say the phrase, once
we know better, we can do better. But until we
know we can't do better, we don't know any different. Yeah,
that was our society. That's what everybody was doing.
Speaker 1 (14:09):
And I used to hate it because it's like I
can't eat that. It's expensive, Like I can't eat organic,
I can't eat. But now, like I think they're doing
a lot better at making kind of stuff more affordable,
even though all groceries are expensive right now. Yeah, like
everywhere you go, groceries are so freaking expensive. Yeah, we
spend so much money on groceries.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
I know. Okay, we're gonna take a quick break anyway, back, Eddie,
I'm so curious about this. When did you know? Your
wife was like the one.
Speaker 1 (14:41):
Oh, good question. This is tough because I want to
sound stupid saying this, but and you know we talk
about on the show, how like guys, Yes, the guys
are stupid. Yes, we're stupid, And we talk a lot
about on the show about how I waited for six
years to propose to my wife. Yeah, I I knew
I loved her immediately, right like within the first six
(15:04):
months or whatever. Like I knew immediately I loved her,
But never did I think about spending the rest of
my life with her until she told me, are you
gonna ask me to marry you or not? Like we've
been dating way too long. We met, you know, in college,
(15:24):
we went through college, we got our first jobs together,
we lived, we moved to Austin together, like everything, and
I had thought, like, we're just having a good time,
like this is a fun relationship. I love you, you love me.
We're best of friends.
Speaker 2 (15:39):
Yeah, But did you at some point even if you
weren't like really thinking in the headspace of marriage where
you're like, yeah, I just want to hang out with
you forever.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
Yes, I don't know about forever, but like, yes, like
I loved I'm not a I guess in my mind,
I wasn't like a thinker of what am I going
to be doing for the next ten years of my life?
I was more of what am I doing right now?
I've always kind of been that way. I'm a day
to day person, like I'm telling you, like even when
it comes to this podcast, I'm like, let me know
on Monday that we're going to do it on Thursday,
(16:08):
because I'll forget. Yeah, so I'm kind of more of it.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
I've got a big picture, big overarching planner.
Speaker 1 (16:14):
I'm not because I don't think for me, I've experienced
that life doesn't really work that way for me, Like, yeah,
I thought I was going to be, you know, a
touring musician in.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
A rock band, like it would be very day to
day and yeah, it's a different lifestyle. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (16:32):
My sister makes fun of me too, because like I
had this like picture of Hollywood in my my bedroom
and it was like the Hollywood sign and it would
say my goal on top, like idiot, Like I thought
Hollywood was going to be my goal. Like I don't
like Hollywood, Like I don't like really La.
Speaker 2 (16:48):
Well, but you didn't know that then.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
I didn't know that. But but I guess that's kind
of when I when I was younger, I was more
of a like I'm a dreamer, like I'm going to
do this, But now that I've become older, it's kind
of like day to day and just God tell me
what's going to happen, and I'm gonna do I'm gonna
do me. I'm gonna do the best that I can.
I'm going to see open door opportunities, I will take
them and let's just see where it goes.
Speaker 2 (17:09):
So, but then your wife gives you this ultimatum and
you're like, no, yeah, I don't. I don't want to
lose you. Is that kind of it was?
Speaker 1 (17:16):
Literally, I don't. I've never thought.
Speaker 2 (17:18):
About this and would she like excuse me? And up
until that point, you guys had never had conversations whatsoever
about marriage, wanting to have kids.
Speaker 1 (17:27):
Yeah, we would talk about like what what would we
name our kids? Like what are your top ten kids' names? Yeah,
like where where should we go? Like if we were
to ever get married. Sure we talked about that, but
like it was always it wasn't when we were going
to get married or like it was just like if
we ever get married, or like I'm telling you, in
my mind, my career, my job at the time, my music,
(17:52):
like me playing music, writing music, me having my hot girlfriend,
like that was my life. I never thought like oh yeah,
like eventually you and I were gonna have kids and
get married. Like no, never thought of it until she said,
are you gonna ask me to marry you? And then
I remember specifically going on a I think me and
my dad and my brother were on a fishing trip,
(18:15):
like in South Padre or like I don't know, somewhere
in Texas. And I talked to my brother. I'm like, yeah, man,
like you know, my wife gave me the my wife,
my girlfriend gave me the ultimatum kind of thing, and
and he was just like, well, yeah, idiot, like are
you gonna do it? And I was like, I mean,
this is the first time I've really been thinking about it,
and I'm like, I think I'm gonna do it, like
(18:37):
of course because it made so much sense, Like I
don't want to live this life without her. Yeah, Like
not once did I ever think like, yeah, I like you,
but I'm going to try to see if I can
date someone else, see if it.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
Never that's crazy, Like it was just like a there,
it was just there, and it was there, good and.
Speaker 1 (18:52):
Happy and comfortable, which is kind of my life. Yeah,
and I realized, like that's just how I live my life.
Speaker 2 (18:57):
That is true. Well you didn't you don't help me
much here than Eddie.
Speaker 1 (19:01):
Why what are you thinking?
Speaker 2 (19:02):
I just like, I feel like I'm having a lot
of big feelings that I don't I don't quite think
i've ever experienced before ever. Yeah, something feels different and
I don't know how to explain it, and I don't
know what it is. That's why I'm asking trying to
get information to like process, So like.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
Let me let me ask you this because I think, like,
all right, if I wouldn't have married my wife, which
you know, like I could have, I could have just
said no, I don't want to get married right now,
and then just prolonged it and then met someone in
my forties or like late thirties and then be like,
all right, you're the one I'm going to marry just
because like dang, we're almost forty, like we should get
(19:40):
married right, like uh huh. And I could have had
a completely different life. I probably wouldn't have four kids.
Speaker 2 (19:47):
This is also true.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
Who knows what would have happened.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
So like.
Speaker 1 (19:53):
When you say different feeling, could it be anything about
just gone through the grinder of dating and like being
cheated on and you name it right, Yeah, but now
you're not dealing with all that deceit. Yeah right, you're
(20:13):
not dealing with that right now, so it feels good.
Speaker 2 (20:17):
Yeah, and I well, like, here's a different distinction than
I'm having where like in the beginning of all of
my relationships, and of course, hindsight is always twenty twenty, right,
you look back on something like, yeah, that made sense.
I definitely skated over that, or I didn't look into
that too hard or you know whatever. Yeah, you got
to do that. And I can genuinely do that for
(20:38):
all of my relationships now, even like the recent one,
like I had a really big breakthrough where it was
like a we're.
Speaker 1 (20:44):
Talking about the uniform rests, yeah, man inform where.
Speaker 2 (20:48):
I was just like that would have never worked, and
I just ignored it because I think for the first
time in my life, I was in a safe and
healthy relationship.
Speaker 1 (20:57):
Yeah, okay, so there we go. So that was that time.
So all the deceit lies, whatever, being cheated on, whatever,
bad dude, whatever, all that's out right. So you've got
a really good dude and you've checked that that that
box has been checked. Good dude. Yeah, not gonna cheat
on me, not gonna lie to me, not gonna do
bad things. To me like check, yeah, so now is
(21:20):
he the dude, because because just because the bat he's
a good guy doesn't mean he's the guy for you, right, but.
Speaker 2 (21:25):
This is this is the last guy, right, And like
obviously I realized and I was like, Okay, well, I
need to be having some very intense conversations pretty early
on to make sure I'm weeding through all of the
very specific things. If we don't have in comments, that's.
Speaker 1 (21:38):
Gonna be weird for him just to get all those
questions because I don't that's not normal to be interrogated.
Speaker 2 (21:42):
But but I understand what he loved it. Really, he
was just like, yeah, like this is because.
Speaker 1 (21:48):
This is man uniform.
Speaker 2 (21:50):
No, okay, now we're on new guys, got it. Sorry,
It was just more I learned the lesson with man
in Uniform that like, I had the breakthrough when I
was like kind of sitting there and journaling and working
through my stuff where I was like, I think the
reason I really cared and that that relationship was so
hard on me is because it was truly the first
time that I felt not hurt, like I was dealing
with someone who actually cared and genuinely wanted to see
(22:11):
me happy. It just didn't work out. It wasn't my person,
and I think that was such a different hurt than
I'd ever experienced because of that, So then like coming
into this new relationship and meeting him, how I met him,
the whole experience and everything has been vastly different than
anything I've ever experienced. So now that's why I'm trying
(22:31):
to Like, I'm like, Okay, is it just another new
different and I'm learning a lot of things or is
this like a different different different and it's gonna be
something that really matters and I don't know how to
deal with it.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
I can answer your question, Yeah, what do you want? Like,
what do you want out of a guy? Like it
sounds like you're looking for the perfect man? No, not perfect,
So what do you want?
Speaker 2 (22:56):
I want a consistent, loyal, and compassionate human being. Those
are like my three very Like I had just got
done telling my friends that I needed an EmPATH, Like
I needed somebody who had a heart like mine, because
so so much I was recognizing, like as especially as
I went through back a lot of my relationships, that
(23:17):
I just had this this heart that couldn't be matched,
Like I cared so deeply, and I would, I would
fight so hard for things, and I just I was
not matching with somebody in the heart category. And I
was like, it's gonna matter when I meet someone who
like has this heart that I have. And that was
like the first thing that I connected on with IRL
(23:40):
guy because it's kind of the nickname that's been given
to him. Was like, holy crap, we feel and see
life and experience life in the same way in that
capacity and that I've never felt before.
Speaker 1 (23:52):
Okay, that's good, check that, boss. That was what else?
Speaker 2 (23:55):
The consistency is there on every life? At first?
Speaker 1 (23:59):
You behind that because like consistency, like he shows up
when he does, like when he tells you he's going
to be there, Like what what's what do you mean?
Speaker 2 (24:05):
The words align with the actions?
Speaker 1 (24:07):
But for how long?
Speaker 2 (24:09):
I know we're still early on. Well, we're you know,
over a month, right that at this point is over
a month.
Speaker 1 (24:15):
Okay, just let's just say five weeks.
Speaker 2 (24:18):
Yeah, so far, five weeks.
Speaker 1 (24:20):
So far he's acting a certain way and he is
that that way.
Speaker 2 (24:24):
He said, like he walks the talk, talks the walk,
he does that he's going to do.
Speaker 1 (24:31):
There's lines, but but can you give me like smallest
example to a big example. Smallest example he says, isn't
going to take remy for a walk, and he takes
it ready for a while. Big example he says he's
going to I don't know, never drive drunk. He doesn't
drive drunk, you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (24:49):
Like, yeah, no, he okay. Small example is he will
like he's like, I'm always here to support you, to help,
like make your life easier. That's the purpose of a partnership.
And he's done that, Like he's he saw I got
really stressed and my house is kind of messing and
it was really stressing me out. He's like he just
kind of started picking up. I damn to tell him.
He just kind of started like helping me in ways
(25:11):
that would ease my stress. And that has been consistent
because I have a pretty high tense job. Sometimes there's
just a lot going on all the time.
Speaker 1 (25:19):
There's a lot of I'm aware.
Speaker 2 (25:21):
Yeah that's just what it is, and so some things
get pushed to the side and then I get stressed out.
It's a whole thing. And like he has eased a
lot of that stress that I have because I just
felt like I was taking on the world in a
way I wasn't. But you know what that feeling is
like that's like a small one. Big one is like
him like reassuring me, just like I'm here and I'm
(25:43):
in this, and I like, I want this to work
and it's consistent and he's showing that through actions.
Speaker 1 (25:50):
Okay, good examples, good examples.
Speaker 2 (25:52):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (25:53):
You know when there's something that I remember that my
wife and I.
Speaker 2 (25:56):
Wait, hold on, we're gonna take a break, and I
want to come right back to this talking. Okay, and
go tell us start your wife.
Speaker 1 (26:06):
And you So when we were dating, I'll never forget
like I had a problem with I don't know, some
friends or maybe my family. Maybe I think it was
family family issues, And we were talking on the phone
and I wanted to talk about it and I wanted
her to kind of help me deal with it. And
I remember specifically that like all I wanted was for
(26:28):
her to tell me what I wanted to hear, you know,
just tell me like that it's not me, it's them,
it's whatever, Like they're wrong, you're right, right, That's all
I wanted. And she was like and it happened like
five six different times where she was just like, well,
did you ever think about like what they're going through?
Like what is she?
Speaker 2 (26:47):
Like?
Speaker 1 (26:47):
What's your mom thinking about like when she says this
or like and it was always like no, what about me?
You know? And he was like no, no, you're right too,
but like what about your dad or what about your
friend that? What's he like? Wow? Why is he so upset?
Speaker 2 (27:03):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (27:04):
And I was like this is so cool because like
she that to me meant she truly cared about the
issue and whatever it was doing to me. She knew
that I would be better at resolving it if I
understood the whole picture other than like, yeah, you're right,
like see, because that to me, like yeah, you're right,
they're wrong, screw them, like they don't need you. You're
(27:25):
better than all of them. Like that that would just
do nothing for me other than just.
Speaker 2 (27:28):
Like yeah, it doesn't. It supports you, sure, but it
doesn't challenge you. And like a partner truly should challenge
and support you. Yeah, in both ways.
Speaker 1 (27:37):
Yeah, she's not just like supporting me just to get
a good version of me. Mm hmm, would you like?
I love you?
Speaker 2 (27:42):
She wants the actual best for you, even if you
can't see it.
Speaker 1 (27:45):
She's always been like that. She's always been like authentic, real,
like I'm gonna shoots you straight. You're kind of being
an a hole, like you know what I mean. Like,
she's not scared of me. She's never she was never
scared of how I was going to react towards something.
She's just like you asked me, I'm going to tell
you how it is, and she wasn't mean about it.
But to me, that was such a strong indication that
(28:07):
she really cared about me. Yeah, you know, so like
that was really cool.
Speaker 2 (28:12):
So when you look back on that now, is that like, oh, yeah,
that for sure played a role in the fact that,
like I didn't want to lose her.
Speaker 1 (28:18):
Probably, you know, I never thought about it again, but yeah,
when I look back at it, Yeah, it's little things
like that where I'm I'm thinking like, yeah, those are
all little bricks in the wall.
Speaker 2 (28:28):
You know, it's like building a foundation, and every time
you start dating somebody new, you're building the foundation for
what that relationship is going to look like.
Speaker 1 (28:36):
Yeah, So at what point, like how much longer are
you going to kind of go before you Because I'm shocked.
I'm a little shocked that like five weeks in we're
calling it five weeks. Yeah, five weeks in you're already
feeling like this, where I thought I thought that maybe
you would be a little more reserved and more protected.
(28:57):
Oh yeah, and standoffish because of what you've been through.
Speaker 2 (29:00):
Okay, So this is interesting you say that because I
am to him like he's definitely like he's like he's
he's the more like he he doesn't have any walls up.
I have all the walls and they're still there. But
that's also why I'm asking this question, just to understand
whether it's him or you know, later down. Like, I
don't think I've ever truly considered that question of like, well,
(29:22):
why is it them? You know, you kind of look
at people you're like, okay, well why them? Why did
you choose them? How did this happen?
Speaker 1 (29:27):
I don't think it's that simple, right, Like, I don't
think it's like I think it could have been someone else.
I really do think it could have been someone else,
you know, like I could have easily told my wife, no,
I'm not ready, and then I would have dated someone else,
and then would have dated someone else after that, and
then we dated somewhere up that and then maybe find
someone else down down the line, and my life would
have been completely different. But at the same time, that's
(29:47):
not what happened. That's not what happened. And I decided
to I don't think you're ever going to find anyone perfect,
not that you're looking for anyone perfect. I think a
lot of people try to find someone like example, and
I got my foster kids and the caseworker came to
my house. I said, I want the easiest kid, no trauma,
(30:07):
I want a baby. I remember. The caseworker is just like, Okay,
that will never happen. But okay, I'll write all that
down anyway. But like, cause that's what we want, right,
I want if I'm going to change, if I'm going
to commit to something, I want to be easy. But
marriage isn't easy. Being in a relationship isn't easy. Kid
(30:27):
isn't easy. Life is not easy. Yeah, So like, if
you like it, Morgan, if it feels right, if you
trust him, I wouldn't go that quick, right, like obviously
five weeks it's not a lot of time, but like,
just be open, I know, and open, and don't let
your age even make it a factor. Don't make your
age a factor. Don't think like, cause, like you know, yes,
(30:50):
there is pressure when you get older. We're just like, man,
everyone's being taken. I win a lot of weddings, everyone's
got boyfriends, everyone's married, and I'm not. Don't let that
affect you, Like, that's not your life, that's.
Speaker 2 (31:02):
All, And I don't. I don't think I would ever settle.
I think I have been through enough experiences that settling
is just not an option for me. As far as like,
you know, just dating somebody or marrying to get married,
I will That'll never be me.
Speaker 1 (31:15):
I will tell you, though, I think you are at
a good age for dudes, because at this point, how
old are you? Thirty one, thirty one? Maybe you're not,
maybe you're not, maybe you're not at that point.
Speaker 2 (31:30):
Well, he's older than me.
Speaker 1 (31:31):
How old is he?
Speaker 2 (31:31):
He's thirty four?
Speaker 1 (31:33):
I was going to say, I think thirty five is
a perfect age for a man to finally realize that
he's ready to settle down and be with someone for
the rest of his life.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
Yeah, it's all. I mean. The age is also getting
older for women too, so it doesn't surprise me, Like, yeah,
early middle thirties is being becoming the normal age for
people to actually get married. That's just what it is.
It used to not be obviously, but.
Speaker 1 (31:59):
You start looking at leagues in like bars and like
what single people do when you start realizing like, all right,
I'm kind of at the high I'm at the older
range of this. I don't belong here anymore. Yeah, like
I belong maybe at home and then that let life
of starting with like finding a house with someone and
(32:21):
getting married, and then like shopping for a child and
getting a room ready for your first baby. All that
is like it's all, you know, planned for us. It's
all there for us. But like for guys, we don't
even think of that until there's a certain point where
that hits, where like all our friends are kind of
gone and be like, oh, maybe it's time for me
to kind of do what they're doing too.
Speaker 2 (32:43):
Yeah that is true. I mean you're influenced by what's
around you. Yeah, that's very true.
Speaker 1 (32:47):
So you're dating these younger guys and they're like, nah, man,
I'm I like her and I'm having fun with her.
Speaker 2 (32:52):
But what's crazy about age? So Eddie is like I
would date guys for like thirty seven thirty eight, and
they were be more immature than the dudes are all
like twenty seven and I'm like, I don't. That's why
i stopped. I was like, I'm yang, You're right.
Speaker 1 (33:05):
And there is there's a personality.
Speaker 2 (33:08):
It really depends on your experiences, what you've been through,
where you're at in your life. Yeah, that really plays
such a core part of that.
Speaker 1 (33:15):
But I will say thirty five, thirty four to thirty
five is kind of that age where like people start,
guys start thinking differently.
Speaker 2 (33:22):
Yeah, and I don't listen, I don't know, I don't,
I don't have anything. I think my logic in my
brain and my heart are playing two different fields right
now and they're trying to catch up to each other
one way or another. And that's because of what I've
been through.
Speaker 1 (33:35):
And try writing it out, just try writing it out
and not expecting too much, and like, if it's right,
it's right, I know.
Speaker 2 (33:44):
But I think what scares me, Eddie is that it
really could be. And I think that it's not scary,
terrifies the living Piat what you want, it is, of
course what I want, and I'm not going to push
it away. Don't get me wrong.
Speaker 1 (33:57):
I'm not like, you know, don't look at your trauma
room on that.
Speaker 2 (34:00):
No, but there is this like there's like this little
Morgan inside of me who's just like, oh my gosh,
what is happening? Like yes, you wait for a moment
like this your entire life, and hopefully it is that moment.
But then you're like, oh, this is this is also
kind of scary and I wasn't prepared for the other
side of that, Like I was prepared for it to happen, yeah,
but not prepared for all the feelings that come around it.
Speaker 1 (34:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (34:21):
Yeah, and that's just where I'm at. I just have
lots of feelings to do it.
Speaker 1 (34:24):
You got this, do it?
Speaker 2 (34:26):
I needed I needed Eddie the day to come in.
Speaker 1 (34:30):
Like that was a long time ago. Yeah, but still.
Speaker 2 (34:32):
But that's why I think the logic side of my
brain is like coming to people and be like, okay,
so how did you because my brain is trying to
make sense of something that's really hard to make sense of.
Speaker 1 (34:40):
Are you asking a lot of people this question?
Speaker 2 (34:42):
No, you're my first one.
Speaker 1 (34:43):
Really. You don't ask your girlfriends or anything.
Speaker 2 (34:46):
No, it's different. We have different types of conversations. You
have kind of like a biased but unbiased right, like
you just want to see me happy, do but you're
also going to tell me the truth. I don't know him, Yeah,
you haven't met I met him, so like my friends
on the other side are like they really just want
me to be happy no matter what, and they might
just kind of be like no, like push, like do
(35:06):
I just need unbiased kind of leveling brain. It's all
things happening.
Speaker 1 (35:11):
He's the dude that your friends kind of sought.
Speaker 2 (35:13):
The bar and like go talk to This is the
in real life, like played out, like stars had to
align perfectly for this us to meet. Happening in a
lot of ways, like when we talk about back to
that night, we're like we almost did not meet.
Speaker 1 (35:29):
I'm not gonna speak for Bobby Amy and Lunchbox, but
I think there is an undertone of we're happy for you,
but we'll see yeah, because you know, it's kind of
like we'll see.
Speaker 2 (35:41):
Well because I've been through so much, right, Like, no,
it is weird too. I look at my life, Eddie,
and my whole twenties imagine this, like you, my entire
twenties have been on the show. I was twenty three
years old when I joined this show, so my entire
like adult right, that's crazy. Like my experiences of dating
(36:02):
in life have just been a part of this show.
So people are like, oh, well, yeah, it's another one.
I'm like, well, no crap, a normal person dates this
much in their twenties. Yeah, you know what I mean,
Like this is real life. It's just I happened to
share it.
Speaker 1 (36:13):
But there was but there was kind of a time limit, right,
It was like a certain time when you would like,
when am I going to talk about this on air?
Speaker 2 (36:20):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (36:20):
Like how serious am I with this guy? Serious enough
to talk about him on air? So there were a
lot of them were just like, all right, seriously, and
this is serious enough for me to talk about it
on air. And then you'll be like, oh, Morgan's looks
sad crying.
Speaker 2 (36:35):
Oh you know, I think it's I think it's also
because you guys are just like friends to me, and
so it was like.
Speaker 1 (36:40):
I was we see each other every day, well yeah.
Speaker 2 (36:42):
And like having like somebody part of your life. I'm
not good at hiding things. I'm not good at lying, Like,
so if I'm having something really good happen to me,
I can't like for four months sit there and be
like this is happening.
Speaker 1 (36:55):
Right now, You're right, You're right. I think it's all
with all of us, right, Yeah, it's kind of what's
so cool about us, Like in there, we all know
when someone's going through something. Yeah, even Bobby. We'll be like, oh, something.
Speaker 2 (37:06):
Right and bad, you know, or like, yeah.
Speaker 1 (37:08):
He's in a good mood or I'm in a good
mood or.
Speaker 2 (37:11):
So that's why I think so much of just when,
how and what I share. It's changed so much every
time I got you. It just depends on like how
excited I am, how I feel, what's going through my
body and the experiences I'm having, and I'm just trying
to be as real as it as I can.
Speaker 1 (37:28):
I'm happy for you, and I hope that he's the one.
If he is the one.
Speaker 2 (37:31):
And been awesome and if I'll be okay.
Speaker 1 (37:34):
Yeah, you'll be fine. Yeah, and you'll be ready for
the next one. Yeah, and maybe he'll be the right one.
I have good feelings. Good, it's awesome. It's awesome.
Speaker 2 (37:42):
That's where we are right now. We were supposed to
talk this long about it, but you like went dad
round and then I was just like, we're.
Speaker 1 (37:48):
Just going to be on her and I'm like, okay,
we're just gonna talk about what like how I knew
my wife was the one?
Speaker 2 (37:53):
Yeah, but I loved that story, Like I love hearing
about your wife and how you feel and as a dad.
Speaker 1 (37:57):
And it's cool for me too because we don't I mean,
I don't think that much about that. Yeah, I'm telling
you we're such a survivor mode every day of our
life that like we don't talk about you know, us
meeting or like when I knew she was the one.
So that's school. Thank you for asking that. I made
me feel good good.
Speaker 2 (38:14):
I'm glad you got to talk about it. Okay, Well
we do have listener questions. Yes, so we're gonna jump
out of here, go check out part three here in
a little bit. It'll go up. But ednything's for being here.
We're where to follow you.
Speaker 1 (38:24):
Yeah, I'm pretty is already all the things.
Speaker 2 (38:26):
See all the dad stuff, all the dad's.
Speaker 1 (38:27):
Although I will say my seventeen year old son, he
said that one of his buddies at school said, your
dad's Instagram, like is is it has aura?
Speaker 2 (38:40):
You have an aura?
Speaker 1 (38:41):
And I'm like, that's what I'm talking about. I don't
know what that means, but I'm here for it.
Speaker 2 (38:45):
Okay, I will tell you.
Speaker 1 (38:47):
Well, my son kind of told me what it meant.
Speaker 2 (38:49):
Well, it could be good or bad.
Speaker 1 (38:50):
No, he says good, Okay. He said basically, you it
looks like you live a cool life.
Speaker 2 (38:54):
Okay. I was gonna say, if you just had aura,
then aura different directors.
Speaker 1 (39:00):
This is like my life too. When my kids talk
to me, I'm like, I don't know what you're saying. Yeah, like,
just tell me in regular language.
Speaker 2 (39:05):
I know, but that we were the same way.
Speaker 1 (39:07):
So what's aura?
Speaker 2 (39:09):
Your aura is like your vibe. Yeah, same, same, same.
Speaker 1 (39:12):
So when it has aura, it's got a it's got
a vibe.
Speaker 2 (39:15):
It's got a vibe. But that's why I say, like,
it could be good or bad depending if you just said,
like it's got an aura, yeah, that could be.
Speaker 1 (39:20):
Like yeah yeah, like if I was just flashing money
and like had a ski mask on, like okay, he's
a criminal aura.
Speaker 2 (39:26):
Yeah, but you gotta have a cool aura.
Speaker 1 (39:30):
Yeah vibe producer.
Speaker 2 (39:32):
Ready, Yeah, go follow it all right and go subscribe
to our YouTube page at Bobby Bone Show.
Speaker 1 (39:37):
That's the best Bits of the week with Morgan.
Speaker 2 (39:39):
Thanks for listening.
Speaker 1 (39:40):
Be sure to check out the other two parts this weekend. Go,
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