August 9, 2025 • 45 mins
Amy shared the latest things going on in her life from wanting to re-wear outfits and have adult uniforms to the event she is co-hosting with her ex-husband. She is also sharing how life is going with her boyfriend. Morgan shares her personal life has been hard lately with both of her pets very sick and her grandma in the hospital.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
The Best Bits of the Week with Morgan, Part one.
Behind a scene with a member of the show.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
What's Up, everybody? Welcome to the weekend. Amy is joining me.
What's up? Aby? Hi Morgan, Thanks for coming on. We
got some life to update everybody on. Things are crazy
in my world. Amy, what's going on with you right now?
Speaker 3 (00:20):
Well, nothing's too crazy like yours? Which are you going
to get into it? I?
Speaker 2 (00:25):
Yeah, we sure, Okay, I want to hear about your
life first. It'll help me calm down.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
Yeah, forget about yours for a second.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
Well, before we started recording, we were talking about clothes
and getting ready, and I just feel like sometimes I
spend way too much time just standing in my closet
thinking what am I going to wear? And there are
certain outfits that I really love, and I'm like, I'm
just going to start rewaring these outfits as much as possible.
I put on exactly what I wore last week, and
(00:54):
I'm wearing it again this week. And not that that's
a big deal. Who cares. You can wear it the
next day if you want to.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
But I'm like, what if.
Speaker 3 (01:02):
I had my Monday outfit my Tuesday outfit? Am? I
went like Monday through Friday. I just had my outfits
and like, that's my like for a month.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
I do that and then.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
Switch it up because I I'm someone that likes to
sometimes how i'm feeling, pick an outfit or be a
little more creative. I'm not super into fashion, but I
like to try new things, and so I'm not like
going Steve jobs here where it's a black turtleneck and
jeans every day. But I as I get older, I
(01:33):
think I'm gravitating more towards like why am I complicating
things and continuing to buy more things? When if I've
got something cute like and I like it, can I
make that my Wednesday outfit.
Speaker 4 (01:47):
It's find of funny when you think about kids going
to school and they sometimes they have uniforms, Like why
can't adults have uniforms?
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (01:54):
What if we had uniforms at iHeart or the Bobby
Bone Show and we had to show up. I mean,
Bobby would probably be like, all right, everybody's wearing a
card again.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Whatever it vibe it is for that few months and
then we shift it. Those would be our uniform changes.
Speaker 3 (02:09):
Yeah, I'm down for that. My kids have done both
types of school's uniform and then not. And I think
when they have the uniform they did not like it,
and then when they switched, they're kind of like a
little I missed the uniform a little bit because they
don't have to think it, just put it on.
Speaker 4 (02:29):
Yeah, And so much of I feel like your daily
morning routine is what am I gonna wear? What's gonna
make me feel good today? I'm such a feel good dresser.
How am I feeling in that moment? And how am
I gonna be either the most comfortable or do I
need to feel confident that morning? Or am I doing
like need more comfy and I need more cozy because
I'm going through it, Or am I like, oh, yeah,
(02:50):
today's the day I'm going to pull off that new outfit.
Mine's all about my feelings. My clothes very much reflect
how I'm feeling.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Yeah, I think I can do the same.
Speaker 3 (03:00):
Dopamine dressing is a thing where if you need that
hit of dopamine, you can put on something that you
know feels good and you look good and gives you
that umph.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
Yeah, So that i'd be a thing, and I can.
I think I can.
Speaker 3 (03:13):
Also if I don't know that depressed dressing is a thing,
but not that I'm totally depressed if I wear it.
But sometimes yeah, it's reflective of your mood and you're like,
I don't care about feeling good. I just want to
be comfy and cozy. But sometimes when I do that,
I will get to work and I do not feel
it's confident.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
Yeah, it is that side of that.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
Have you ever gotten to work and you look in
the mirror and you're like, what was it? What was
I thinking with that huge mirror in the bathroom? And
I'll go to the bathroom and I'll walk out and
I'll be.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
Like, what what, What in the world.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
Is this outfit? And I don't know what I was thinking,
Like it's something I'd never put together. It doesn't even work.
And then I see myself in full length and I'm like, Okay, cool,
I guess I should have checked this album before I
left the house.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
But who Also.
Speaker 4 (03:58):
Because are we used to what are we look like
in our mirrors at home?
Speaker 2 (04:03):
And then you go to a new mirror. I wonder
if there's something to that.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
I'm not sure.
Speaker 3 (04:08):
I just think sometimes I don't look in the mirror
before I leave my house.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
So that's that's uh.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
Top of mind at the moment is my am I
I know it's people are listening to this on the weekend,
but we're recording it.
Speaker 4 (04:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
No, it's like the top of mine.
Speaker 3 (04:23):
So don't be surprised if next Wednesday you see me
in these white pants, the white top and my tan sandals.
Although we are getting into fall, and maybe I could
wear this exact outfit, but I just throw on boots.
Speaker 4 (04:33):
Oh you definitely, could you just swap the footwear. I'm
I wear so much fall in winter clothing in the
studio because I get so cold all the time, Like,
and that's where more of my comfort comes in. Because
we're talking about this the other day, you've been wearing
tank tops lightly and I every time I see you
coming with the tank I'm like, how is she doing that?
I want to be wrapped in a blanket right now,
and I have to be wearing like a full turtleneck
(04:55):
sweater to be comfortable in that room.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
Yeah, it's freezing cold in there. Although maybe I'm appreciate
it lately because my air is broken at my house.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
Oh that's not fun.
Speaker 3 (05:04):
So I think I got to look at my count
I think they're coming today to figure it out.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
Is it the acs on my head?
Speaker 1 (05:13):
It's just not pumping like it should.
Speaker 3 (05:16):
So I keep it at seventy seventy one, and so
that's what it's set at. But inside my house, you know,
the the box where its are hard, you know, the
little un Yeah what you don't have the word either anywhere,
neither one of us have it, but it says, you know,
(05:36):
I have it set to seventy seventy one, and it
says seventy five inside.
Speaker 4 (05:41):
So and it's you're not really lucky that's having right
now instead of when we had our heat wave or
have you been dealing with this since the heat wave?
Speaker 1 (05:47):
Now?
Speaker 3 (05:47):
It just kicked in about a week ago. So yeah,
I guess to your point, it came at a good time.
And also it's a thermostat.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
I don't know, we just came up with it.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
I don't know why that took me a minute.
Speaker 4 (05:56):
I apologized early or getting into our groop this moment
in time, you're hearing us like do our You know
when people do the warm up before.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
They sing, How now? How now?
Speaker 3 (06:06):
Brown Cow, Unique, New York. Yeah, we're recording this before
the Bobby Bone show.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
So and the kids say, go back to school.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
They're already back. Yeah, we are in a groove. We are. Yeah,
it's crazy. I can't believe it.
Speaker 4 (06:18):
And the uh, it feels like summer just came and went.
I don't know, I feel like summer existed.
Speaker 1 (06:22):
I know we're about to just really be all in
because cross country season is starting. Stevenson's already started his practice.
Speaker 3 (06:30):
That means we're going to have cross country races coming
up Friday night football games. Then my kids are like,
Sisure is not a Friday night sport girl. Like she's
not the cheerleader or at one point she helped out
with the football team with the the water girl athletic trainer.
She was just an assistant to that, whatever you need help, Yeah, sure,
(06:51):
if you need to go get water, if you go
grab this a spandage, she would help with that.
Speaker 4 (06:55):
Uh.
Speaker 3 (06:56):
And Stevenson doesn't play football, but they like to go
to the games.
Speaker 4 (06:59):
So Friday night lights and will you have a bunch
of games too for your boyfriend's kids.
Speaker 3 (07:05):
This is the first year they're not playing football, so
apparently this is the first fall where it's a little
bit more chill for them. And I'm thinking, thank you,
because it is already very busy. Between they do have
some club basketball and then they have soccer, so I
don't know exactly when soccer season really picks up, but
they have lots of practices right now. But again I
(07:26):
don't know sometimes if they're practicing for school or club
stuff because I never played club things when I was
a kid, but they're very active so well.
Speaker 4 (07:37):
When I played club when I was a kid, I
felt like club existed year round, depending on if it
was an inside support or outside. But club definitely you
have longer timeframes then and more travel.
Speaker 3 (07:50):
Yes, I know they do enjoy going to games as well,
so probably a lot of Friday night lights. There was
a Friday coming up though, and I was like, shoot,
why did we put this on a Friday night?
Speaker 1 (08:00):
People might be going to football games.
Speaker 3 (08:01):
But Ben and I, speaking of the kids, were working
on something together because we thought it would be a
good example for the kids of us coming together for
others and showing that mom and dad can still work
together and as a family, we're still going to give
back and serve and something we're involved in at our
church's Isaiah one to seventeen House, which is a foster
(08:22):
house for kids that like an interim house, so if
they are looking for placement. Sometimes kids have literally spent
the night on the office floor of the caseworker at
the CPS office, and that's not a place for a kid,
especially in such a unstable time in their life. So
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there's a house that was built out in East Nashville
in Isaiah one seventeen. House is a national organization, but
this is the Nashville branch, and so it's a house
where they can go and have have a home that
with a room and they get a bag, get to
fill up and there's a room full of items they
can go around and collect and put in their bag
so that when they show up at their foster house,
(09:07):
you know Eddie'll show you too with the work he's
done or share with people too. Sometimes they show up
with just a plastic bag or nothing, and so this
gives them a legit bag with some of their own
things to start out with, and a good bed to
sleep in at night, and you know caregivers that are
there that can nurture them and anyway, there's funding that
(09:27):
needs to go into that. So Ben and I are
hosting a tee it Up for the Kids event at
Top golf on Friday, September twenty sixth, so I'm sure
there's gonna be a football game that night, but just inviting.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
People in Nashville.
Speaker 3 (09:41):
If you happen to live here, that could be something
where you could give back. And well, I'll put the
link in the show notes. Kat and I are going
to be there at a bay with some Feeling Things
podcast winners. We're bringing some teams because we got a
sponsor for the event, Taylor Farm, so they're underwriting it.
So everything from top Golf, they've covered that fee, so
(10:02):
whatever people pay to play, and you know, you can
either buy a whole bay. And I was thinking like
it would be just be a cool thing for families
or companies where you can do a company outing. It
can be team bonding and you're giving back at the
same time.
Speaker 4 (10:17):
Okay, have you pitches for us to do as a
show yet or no? Because no, have we given up
on that.
Speaker 3 (10:25):
I would know if everybody, I mean, I don't know,
maybe it'll come up organically. It started, as you know,
Ben and I wanted to do it, and then Cat
and I thought, oh, because Taylor Farms got involved and
I work with them.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
Taylor Farms is the underwriter the Salad company.
Speaker 3 (10:41):
And then Cat and I were thinking, because Taylor Farms
with their sponsorship, you get three bays and they're bringing
some employees that want to come participate, which I thought
was cool because sometimes you can just give that they
want to give and be involved, and so that was
really special. They were like, well, we have extra space.
So then Kat and I are like, oh, we'll fill that.
We'll give away some spots on our Feeling Things podcast
(11:01):
Instagram and they can bring a guest and yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:05):
I don't know. I thought about Eddie. He may want
to come because Foster Care.
Speaker 3 (11:09):
But I'll pitch it. Thank you, Morgan. I will pitch
it and we'll see if maybe we do a shoe outing.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
I think you should pitch it because even if not,
maybe there's a few of us that would want to go,
because I'd go, okay, if I'm in town, I'll go,
all right, I'll pitch it.
Speaker 3 (11:19):
So there's you can get either just a single pay
to play slot and it includes a fat a buffet
dinner and you know, if you do well, there's door
prizes and different things. So it should be a fun
night of fun and philanthropy. But I was thinking businesses
are looking for team building at least I think they are,
because you know, I want it for us, and that
(11:40):
they could like bring the whole bring employees, and then
as a company buying a bay that also is a
write off, and you know one hundred percent of your
money is going to help Isaiah in seventeen house, then
it's like, oh bam, this is a no brainer way
to do some team building and give back at the
same time.
Speaker 4 (11:58):
And you do know with your ex husband, which is
really good for your family, and that's really cool.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
Yeah, it's been very good for us because a year
ago Ben and I were not in this place, like
we weren't bad and we were coparenting well, but we
were not like we are now.
Speaker 1 (12:13):
So that's good.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
Oh, that is good. We'll go check that out.
Speaker 4 (12:17):
Yeah, we'll put it in the show notes in here,
so you guys can click on it and we're going
to take a quick break.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
We'll be back with some more. Okay.
Speaker 4 (12:26):
So also the kids, we were talking about them a
little bit in there, and they're back at school.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
This stashiras last year.
Speaker 3 (12:31):
Yeah, she's a senior, which is really really hard to
process and also exciting.
Speaker 2 (12:37):
Yeah, and she starting to apply to things.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
Are we we're trying to figure out what she's gonna do?
Speaker 3 (12:43):
I mean, she she is, and we're coming alongside whatever
that looks like for her. She's done some college visits,
she's thought about taking a year to try to figure
it out, she's thought about Esthetician school, all.
Speaker 1 (12:59):
The things, all the things all floating right now, we
are floating.
Speaker 3 (13:02):
But she has started the process of figuring out where
to apply and how to apply.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
She's already applied for some scholarships. Okay, so we'll see.
Speaker 4 (13:11):
Are you part of that process or is she kind
of taking that over? No, we're part of it, but
we I put a lot of it. I want her
to be involved. I know that there's some parents that
do absolutely nothing, which was mine, and I'm so confused,
Like I didn't really know how to figure stuff out,
but I don't know why.
Speaker 1 (13:30):
I mean, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (13:32):
Looking back, I wish my parents were alive, because I
really want to ask them. I'm like, what what was
the process here? Because I remember feeling so lost and
I finally figured it out. But I mean I just
sort of applied. I only applied to one college and
I didn't get in and so I was like, thanks
for this, mom, Dad, you should have told me applied
to multiple see what happens. I applied to one. Now
(13:55):
my dad was there financially. I think that was sort
of his thing. He was like, oh, I'm showing up financially,
so I don't need to do anything else.
Speaker 1 (14:04):
And I think I.
Speaker 3 (14:05):
Would have much rather him been there in other ways
than financial, but that's neither here nor there.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
Works through that in therapy. And then my mom.
Speaker 3 (14:15):
She my dad went to college, my mom didn't, and
she was working full time, and I don't think she
had the bandwidth. She was also very involved in like
you know, she was in her HOA and you know,
an elder at church, and she had other things going, yes, yes,
and she worked full time. Sometimes when she would add
president of this and treasurer of that on like.
Speaker 1 (14:38):
Mom, hello, you're like I exist.
Speaker 3 (14:41):
Well, I don't think I didn't feel it wasn't a
terrible neglect by any means, but that's something I've also
worked there. It is just there were certain forms of
like I just don't I think she just stayed busy
to avoid certain things.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
And then some.
Speaker 3 (14:56):
Of that was like the little things or I could
have used some of her She had skills being People
would ask her, can you chair this?
Speaker 1 (15:03):
Can you be the president of this? Can you be
the treasurer? You know?
Speaker 3 (15:05):
She she was very organized, and I'm like, I got
to use some of that. So I didn't get into college.
And I was explaining this sister share too, is that
junior college is a great thing. If you want, you
can use that all the way through. You can use
it as a stepping stone and then get into a university.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
So that's what I did.
Speaker 3 (15:24):
I mean, I went to Blynn in Brian College Station
my first year, and then then I reapplied to A
and M because that's the only school I applied to.
And then I got in no problem because I knew
being there close by. I met with advisors and people
at Blynn were used to kids coming there and wanting
to get into A and M. So my advisor told
me exactly what I needed to do. And then I
(15:45):
was motivated because of like now I was.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
Like, what I didn't get in?
Speaker 3 (15:48):
Like this is no, and I was there was some
there shouldn't have been, but naturally I was embarrassed because
the one place I applied to I didn't get into
and so I had that motivation and I did everything
and then Boom got in right away.
Speaker 4 (16:03):
Well, and there's probably embarrassing because you didn't apply to
other one, so you just thought like you just would
get rejected by all of them instead of thinking, no,
I could have got into one of them.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
I just only applied to one of.
Speaker 1 (16:12):
Them, exactly like I would have got in somewhere.
Speaker 3 (16:17):
I did apply to Texas University for some Texas State
or University of Texas, University of Texas, Okay, because for
some reason, I was obsessed with the Longhorns.
Speaker 4 (16:27):
Don't ask me why. Nobody in my family was a
Longhorn fan. I think there's a part of me that
just wanted to move away and not be in Kansas.
And I had also applied to k State. It's so
funny because I think, if I remember correctly, I do
think I got accepted to Texas or it was either
that I didn't fully apply. I can't remember what the
(16:50):
process was because my memory is so shot, but I
remember looking at the out of state tuition I was like, never.
Speaker 2 (16:55):
Mind, oh yeah, I can't go a lot.
Speaker 4 (16:58):
It was so much money because I'm fair to me
just going into k state, which was still a lot
of money. But when I looked at the comparison, I
was like, there's why am I doing this? What is
my actual reason for wanting to go to the Longhorns?
Besides wanting to be a Longhorn?
Speaker 2 (17:12):
That was it. I had no real anything.
Speaker 3 (17:15):
For one, Yeah, it's probably not worth the out of
state tuition if the driving factor is bevo.
Speaker 4 (17:20):
Oh yeah, it was so crazy. So I yeah, and
I don't know that. I think my parents guided me
a little bit, but I think most of it was
just like, hey, apply to college, Yeah, make sure you
get it done, do some scholarships, and you just kind
of do it and hope for the best.
Speaker 1 (17:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (17:37):
So I'm having a hand in it. I'm also letting
her figure some stuff out, but I'm not like, oh,
too busy over here. I'm just not even going to
talk to you about it. But my mom was that
way with everything. I mean, this is Tami, but like
even girls stuff.
Speaker 2 (17:50):
Yeah, just like I.
Speaker 3 (17:53):
It wasn't like, here's how you do this at this
time of the month, and this was nothing I had
to ask my friends. I remember in whatever grade it
was or how old it was when it happened. My
friend Kinsey, she showed me how to do everything, like and.
Speaker 2 (18:09):
Did your sister have the same experience too, Well.
Speaker 3 (18:12):
Yeah, yeah, very much. That my sister had to ask
friends and we talk about it. I was thinking, I
thought you were about to ask me. I was anticipated
you saying, what about your sister? Could you go to her?
Speaker 1 (18:21):
By the when I became.
Speaker 3 (18:23):
A freshman, my sister was already in college, and then
that's when stuff was happening for me.
Speaker 1 (18:28):
You know, like, wait, you're.
Speaker 4 (18:29):
Telling meff like like girl stuff like uh ant flow.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
I was in fourth grade when mine happened.
Speaker 1 (18:36):
Oh wow, yeah, that's definitely not me.
Speaker 2 (18:38):
That is wild.
Speaker 1 (18:39):
Yeah I was going into high school.
Speaker 2 (18:42):
That's crazy.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
Okay. So your guys' gap is four and a half years.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
Okay, yeah, so she would have been gone.
Speaker 4 (18:47):
She already been focused on she had been there, done that,
through all the stuff, and she was like, yeah, you're
on your own.
Speaker 3 (18:53):
Yeah, I even tell her now, I'm like, well, thanks
for the heads up. That mom doesn't say anything suddenly.
I mean, my sister said she to go steal stuff
out of my mom's bathroom because when because our mom
didn't talk about it, it made us think this is
weird to talk about our so whatever.
Speaker 1 (19:09):
So my sister never brought it up.
Speaker 3 (19:10):
She was just sneaking into my mom's bathroom and then
my mom noticed that she was taking things. So my
mom went to the store bought her stuff and then
just stuck it in the cabinet. And so my sister
went to like we shared a bathroom, went to our
bathroom and said she opened up the cabinet one day
and then there was product there. But then it was
like okay, okay, thanks mom. But there was no discussion.
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So I didn't avoid it, avoid it.
Speaker 1 (19:35):
Not so avoid it's so weird.
Speaker 4 (19:36):
It was.
Speaker 3 (19:37):
It was a mix because it's not like she avoided everything,
you know.
Speaker 2 (19:41):
But definitely certainly, but a lot.
Speaker 3 (19:44):
I think it was maybe where I get you know,
tied up about it in my head or it just
feels confusing, is because oh, my son, my son's calling,
he must have just woken up.
Speaker 4 (19:56):
Uh.
Speaker 3 (19:56):
Where it gets crazy in my head about that is
later in life. I think, especially when she got sick,
when she got cancer, she started to think about how
she wanted to be and our relationship really started to
change and we talked about so much more.
Speaker 1 (20:15):
But I was in my thirties.
Speaker 2 (20:17):
Yeah, you haven't experienced that.
Speaker 4 (20:19):
You also had to have your kids in I think
a lot of things you've learned has really come with
having the kids, So I would imagine you had more
questions now than you would have had been.
Speaker 3 (20:29):
Yeah, there were some ms that I never thought of
to ask. I just think we started talking about a
lot more because I think she started realizing, oh shoot,
I may be running out of time, so let's talk.
And our relationship has started to get a lot better
even before she got sick. But I was definitely I'd
already moved out of the house and was married by
(20:50):
the time all of that started to happen, and then
I would have defined her as one of my best friends.
So in speaking of I remember some of my best
friends in high school always talking about how my mom
like they enjoyed talking with her, and she would she
was a good listener and offer a good advice.
Speaker 1 (21:11):
I'm like, what are y'all talking about?
Speaker 5 (21:13):
Like I have a vastly different experience I did, But
it's almost isn't now that I think about it. It's
just interesting because my mom wasn't she wasn't attached to.
Speaker 3 (21:25):
Them, so maybe she could open up more. But there
was something about just avoiding. Who knows, maybe she was
giving tampons to my friends, I'm telling them how to
use it. I don't know, but she certainly wasn't inside
our house. But I'm glad my mom what I'm glad
my friends saw my mom as that and that they
felt like they could talk to her about.
Speaker 1 (21:42):
Things, because I certainly didn't.
Speaker 4 (21:44):
Yeah, maybe there's just some dissociation in the fact that,
like you, it wasn't her kids, so she didn't feel yeah,
some type of way about it for whatever reason, or
you know, it's always crazy when you think about what
gets passed down from generation, like what.
Speaker 3 (21:58):
Her her mom was like available for her at all, whatsoever.
That's like me and stuff my mom would make sure. Yeah,
we I don't remember having to fin for myself a lot,
unless it was that time of the month. But like
my mom growing up, that was like I don't know
where my grandma was, maybe bowling, but my mom would
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said there were times she would just go in the
kitchen and there wasn't anything to eat. She would have
to try to figure out how to piece together some
sort of a meal. And I know my grandma didn't
talk to her about anything. My grandma didn't have much
of an appetite. She was a chainsmoker, so I don't
think food was okay. She likes to burn bread and milk.
Speaker 2 (22:41):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (22:41):
We didn't pass down the corn bread and milk or
the dain smoking soap.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
Yeah, we did improve the generation progress. Oh okay, Well
we're gonna take another break. Thank you for the inside.
That was cool to learn about about your mom.
Speaker 4 (22:54):
Yeah, it sounds so fun because you didn't talk about her,
but then you're also learning about her in the same.
Speaker 3 (22:58):
Point, and how you want to show up diff for
your kids. And sometimes I find myself behaving like my mom,
and I have to be intentional.
Speaker 1 (23:06):
Don't do that. Don't do that. I think you're just
being what was done to you. And guess what, you
get to do it differently, So be different.
Speaker 2 (23:14):
That's a lot of intention behind that, and that's hard.
All right, we'll be right back.
Speaker 4 (23:21):
So really exciting things are happening over in my house
right now. Exciting is probably the best way I can
say it, because I'm trying to bring humor and light
to not fun things.
Speaker 1 (23:32):
Well, it's your animals are keeping things interesting for you,
that's for sure.
Speaker 4 (23:36):
Yeah, yeah, so Hazel has kidney damage of some kind. Now,
I've only had her since she was about eight years
old roughly, that was an estimate on her age. So
she's already kind of a seenior cat when I got her,
and she had quite a bit of neglect. She came
from a one hundred and thirty cat hoarding situation, so
who really knows what her life was like.
Speaker 1 (23:54):
So when they have cat hoarders like that, what is
what is it? What's going on?
Speaker 4 (24:01):
I don't know what you know about like, so just
what I've learned about cats, especially over time. One, most
of the time, horders tend to have good intentions to start, Yes,
they're like they want to save cats, they want to
help them. Then it gets quickly overwhelming. One because cats
reproduce at an insane rate, Like that's why you see
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a lot of feral cat colonies, especially because if they
haven't been trapped and humanly released back to their colony
to be like Spade and neutered. Because cats, like there
was a huge statistic as soon as they turn like
six months old, they can start having kittens, and their
kittens can like double over just the course of a year.
And so if you say you have five cats where
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you're taking care of them, you took them in with
good intention, but you don't have the resources or money
to spare neuter them.
Speaker 2 (24:50):
Over the course of a year, you're probably gonna triple
that number.
Speaker 1 (24:53):
Because this is ignorance on my part.
Speaker 4 (24:55):
But so.
Speaker 3 (24:57):
A cat, like five kittens are born and some are
boys and summer girls. Those cats, can the brother and
sister make a baby?
Speaker 2 (25:05):
They can't.
Speaker 1 (25:05):
I know they can, obviously they can't. I didn't.
Speaker 4 (25:08):
It's more it's not uncommon, okay, So I meant cats
are just a different type of species and all of
their breeding and stuff.
Speaker 2 (25:15):
It's definitely just interesting.
Speaker 1 (25:17):
I mean, I guess dogs that do.
Speaker 3 (25:19):
Honestly, this is something I've not ever thought about, obviously,
so I'm probably gonna google this later one.
Speaker 4 (25:24):
I think when you have like breeder actual breeder people,
they don't. Of course, you have complications because it's no
different than humans in the fact of like genetics and whatnot.
But when they're out feral or they're in a situation
that's in uncontrolled environment, anything can happen.
Speaker 2 (25:40):
Sure.
Speaker 3 (25:40):
Yeah, I just guess I didn't know if, like you know,
there was a certain scent that was like, oh, my brother,
you're my sister. I'm not gonna do this.
Speaker 4 (25:48):
There could be there could be an ignorance for me
there that I don't know. They're definitely couldn't ass so
if there is, let us know, but I don't think so.
Speaker 3 (25:55):
So they are.
Speaker 2 (25:56):
Reproduction is just super high. It's the same for if
you had feral dogs dunnies. Yes, yes, and you don't have.
Speaker 4 (26:02):
You just have more feral cat colonies than you do
of any other domesticated animal for the most part. But
so that's typically what you see happening in hoarding situations.
They're well intentioned, don't have the resources, they don't get
them spay or neuter. Then you reproduce and then you're
just kind of stuck and it just keeps happening. Then
you have fifteen to spaan neuterer versus five or whatever.
Speaker 2 (26:25):
So it just kind of the cyclopace.
Speaker 1 (26:27):
Okay, so Hazel is a part of that. And then
now and so yeah, you don't know.
Speaker 4 (26:31):
For eight years, I should no idea what her life
was like, or what food she was given, if she
was given water or attiquette the adequate diet, even just
was she getting fed dog food?
Speaker 2 (26:41):
Or was she getting food human food. I have no idea.
Speaker 4 (26:44):
So now we're definitely dealing with some kidney issues that
I never would have known about until now. In all
of this, and like what started as a kidney infection
in Uti and E Coalie is all because she's basically
not the throughing out the waste product that's in her
kidney's which is not uncommon for cats, especially as they
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get older. And she's roughly around ten years old, so
it's possible that this is just something that was going
to happen in her aging. It's also a thing with
her breed Siamese, so all of it was still possible
regardless of her background. It's just it's more likely to
happen quicker given you.
Speaker 2 (27:22):
Know her history.
Speaker 4 (27:24):
So now we just are she's probably gonna be on
fluids for the rest of her life most likely. That's
kind of what we're looking at. So IV's right now
to help her flush and get her on a kickstart,
and then I'll have to start doing SubQ fluid at home,
which is a lot different than IVY. You just kind
of stick it in the top of their back and
it goes right under the skin and it helps them
(27:44):
stay hydrated because when you keep the kidneys hydrated, it
helps them moving and working properly as they should. Cats
are also notorious for not drinking a lot of water,
so that's why they always end up with kidney problems.
Like why Vet was like, it's not a question of if,
it's a question of when your cat will have kidney issues. Okay,
So it is something to be like prepared for Maggie's
drinking water.
Speaker 1 (28:04):
Yeah, and.
Speaker 4 (28:06):
Wet food is so much better for cats than dry
food because it gives the more hydration. That's the thing too,
So it's definitely stuff to be aware of with cats.
Speaker 1 (28:13):
And Maggie won't eat wet food. I've tried.
Speaker 4 (28:16):
You can sprinkle, what I've learned, it's the transition with
wet food. You can sprinkle on dry food on top
of it and kind of coerce them into getting a
little bit of both. Okay and the Yeah, cats are
finicky about food anyways.
Speaker 3 (28:27):
Shows me if her food sits out for too long,
she don't give her too much food. If there's too
much food, she won't touch it, and then it's so
it sits there even longer, so then she's definitely not
going to touch it, so you have to, like sometimes
when I have other people watching her if I'm out
of town, I think because with a cat, you don't
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need to stop buy as much as you would a dog.
So they're sort of like, oh, I'll just stop buy
once a day, but I'll give her more food, and
so I have to be very specific.
Speaker 1 (28:57):
I'm like, you can stop by one day.
Speaker 3 (28:58):
I don't care, but don't give her more food, thinking
you're doing her a favor because it's just gonna end
up sitting there because then it sits out and then
she's just turned off by it.
Speaker 1 (29:06):
I don't it's so weird.
Speaker 2 (29:08):
She's like, don't feb me that, U peasant.
Speaker 1 (29:09):
I don't want that that much food. I don't know.
Speaker 3 (29:12):
I think it's just there and then I don't know
what it is about it, but then it sits there
longer and then she's definitely not touching it. So then
you have to just have to feed it to my
dog because she'll eat whatever and then start over with
a smaller batch and then she'll work her way through that.
Speaker 2 (29:28):
That's so funny they are.
Speaker 4 (29:29):
Cats are so much more finicky about food, which also
makes it difficult on their organs. Because they love to
be difficult and they're eating habits. There's also like, I
don't know what kind of wet food you've tried with her,
but there's like shredded meat wet food that you can
give them, and that always they tend to like. Because
cats are more they love to what's the word I'm
(29:50):
looking for, They like to like go after prey.
Speaker 2 (29:53):
Cats are more like they have more activity in that.
Speaker 4 (29:55):
So something about shredded meat makes them have their li
more wild instinct and it is better for them.
Speaker 2 (30:03):
Okay, I don't know.
Speaker 4 (30:05):
Yeah, this is information that I just keep getting given
and I'm just recurstating and I'm probably butchering some of it.
So that's what's going on with her. And funny because
I'm terrified of needles. So this will be a really
good experience for both of us. Thankfully, I have my
boyfriend who's very much prepared.
Speaker 1 (30:20):
And ready to help injust her Yeah.
Speaker 4 (30:22):
Yeah, so she'll probably have to get him once or
twice a week, and we can do it at home.
I just have to kind of have the fluid bags
ready whenever she needs it. So that'll likely be our
course of action for the rest of her life and
go from there.
Speaker 2 (30:36):
I think that's what's happening. And then Remy, we got.
Speaker 4 (30:40):
Blood work on her and hopefully by the time everybody
hears this, I'll have results and know what's going on.
But she's been shaking, she wasn't eating for me, she's
drinking more water. It's just all signs of something going on.
So hoping it's just a bug. But she's ten years old,
so you know, we're getting to that age where things
start happening. And I'm hoping though it's nothing, because if
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I have both of them with problems, I'm probably gonna
just pass away.
Speaker 1 (31:05):
No, don't say that will not be good for me.
Speaker 2 (31:08):
So I'm hoping for the best lot.
Speaker 4 (31:10):
Yeah, and then my grandma fell and broke her hip,
so she was in emergency surgery. Oh my gosh, it
was When was that all within the same day? It
all happened the exact same day?
Speaker 1 (31:24):
So, but how is she recovering?
Speaker 4 (31:26):
She's doing better, and she's before she even went in,
she said that her pain was like a three, which
was really awesome. And you know, when you break your hip,
you'd expect to be in so much pain. But she's
such a badass. My grandma like loves her life. She
lives out on a farm, refuses to not be on
that farm, and still to this day takes care of
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animals and.
Speaker 2 (31:48):
Lives her life.
Speaker 4 (31:49):
So I never see her not doing well and stuff
like this because she's just so strong and very determined.
Speaker 2 (31:58):
So she's been doing really well with it. But it's hard.
You know, as they get older, they definitely don't want
to be in hospitals, and that's the harder part of
all of it really. So we're just how old is she?
I want to say, she's eighty nine?
Speaker 1 (32:10):
Oh wow, she's getting it.
Speaker 2 (32:12):
She's I don't think she said her nineties yet. She
might have My memory sucks, so but yeah, she's out there.
Speaker 3 (32:20):
Well I'm glad she's recovering, okay, And yeah, I mean
a fall in your late eighties or nineties is you know,
it's terrible.
Speaker 4 (32:29):
It's so significant, it's and it's so crazy because she's
so with it. Like I'll call her and we have
full blown conversations and she'll have spent the whole day
outside working on the farm, and just it's crazy. I
also think that's good for them, right, because when you
are active and you're out and doing things, it's really
good for your health to be not sedentary, so it
is good for her, but it's definitely a worry with
(32:51):
all of us out there. Yeah, like we're still an
hour from her, even like my family that's in which
is jab.
Speaker 1 (32:56):
Does she live alone? Oh gosh, yeah, she lives alone
on a Yeah okay, goals.
Speaker 2 (33:02):
I know, and she loves it. It's so funny.
Speaker 4 (33:03):
I'll call and talk to him like are you doing okay?
She's like, this is the best life. This is all
I could have ever asked for. Like, this is what
makes me happy, and I love it for her, But
you know, it's concern for us. But she won't ever leave.
We've accepted that because that's what makes her happy, and
trying to put her in anywhere else will probably deteriorate
her health.
Speaker 2 (33:22):
More than help it. So and she was the one
who even called the ambulance for herself. Just crazy.
Speaker 4 (33:28):
But thankfully my aunt lives out by her, so that
helps with you know, checking in on her right away.
Speaker 2 (33:33):
Yeah, but that's just tells you how self sufficient she is.
Just like fell and I was like, uh, I need
an ambulat.
Speaker 1 (33:39):
Her phone was close by your hip.
Speaker 2 (33:41):
I'm like, okay, so just crazy stuff happening.
Speaker 1 (33:45):
Rand and my dad. I hate My dad wore one
of those little necklaces where he fell.
Speaker 2 (33:48):
That I need help.
Speaker 1 (33:49):
Then how an alarm would go off? He could press it.
Speaker 3 (33:52):
Yes, we got to that point. And I had an
alarm on his bed too, to wear well. To be fair,
when he moved in with me. He only lived in
me for one night before he died, or before he
got put into the hospital and went on life support.
Speaker 1 (34:05):
But I had an alarm on his bed. It's like
a pad.
Speaker 3 (34:09):
So when he's laying there, I knew he was safe
and in his bed, but the minute he got up,
it would sound an alarm.
Speaker 1 (34:18):
And so that's how I.
Speaker 3 (34:18):
Knew he got up, and so I heard the alarm
go off. But by the time I got in there,
he had already fallen. And then that's I had to call.
He could not have called the ambulance, but I did,
and yees falling.
Speaker 1 (34:31):
He was very fragile, though he wasn't like as active
as your grandma.
Speaker 2 (34:35):
So in general too, when you.
Speaker 4 (34:37):
Get older, it's crazy how much your bones just changed
over time and how fragile they are.
Speaker 3 (34:41):
And that's why they encourage us now like now be
thinking about your eighty year old self in your thirties
and forties and fifties, because don't wait till later to
be like, oh, okay, I'll start doing this. What can
you do to build up your muscles now? To take
care of and keep your bones? Especially women, taking care
(35:04):
of our bones is crucial. So that's one reason why
I got into pilates.
Speaker 1 (35:09):
As I saw some.
Speaker 3 (35:11):
Surgeon she worked predominantly on hips, like, did a lot
of hip surgery, especially in elderly people, and she said
the top thing I would recommend to people that are
younger that are taking.
Speaker 1 (35:23):
Care of their eighty year old selves is pilates.
Speaker 2 (35:26):
Interesting.
Speaker 3 (35:27):
Okay, So that's when I thought, okay, I better sign up,
and I got a membership and I started going regularly,
and then I got out of the groove and I
have not been going at all.
Speaker 1 (35:35):
So now the is there.
Speaker 3 (35:37):
This is reminding me I need to get back into
you know something, or just even doing some of those
plates exercises at home. It's like you have to be
on the machine or the reformer to do it. Like
there's plenty, and that's my thing. I think I like
working out at home, or I guess at ebbs and flows.
I go in and out of what's better for me. Yeah,
(35:58):
but I need to remind myself this isn't for you. Now.
Speaker 1 (36:02):
Stop thinking about you. Now think if eighty year old
you so when you fall, you're good.
Speaker 4 (36:05):
It is funny too, because even when I did those
interviews with the Senior Living Community, Shirley was on and
she's ninety one and she's so with it, you would
never know that she's ninety one years old, and just
her skin looks amazing.
Speaker 2 (36:18):
She looks great.
Speaker 4 (36:19):
And I had so many people comment on the video
just like how is she ninety one? And her one
thing was exercise. Every day I get up and move
like no matter what, I get up and I move
my body. And finally hearing from somebody like a legit
piece instead of you, don't you hear the ones like
I drink a coke every day and make sure you
have some fried chicken or whatever, this is like real
(36:39):
her be like, no, I feel good. I look good
because I've been exercising every day for my life. Not
just exercise that we think of like pilates and stuff,
but just like literally moving your body because we live
very sedentary lifestyles unfortunately, so hers was just get up
and move. Stop sitting here, like even right now, go move.
(36:59):
So it is really safe advice. I wish I could
listen to it some days. Some days I'm really bad
about that.
Speaker 3 (37:06):
Yeah, I feel like you don't be hard on yourself.
You're pretty active. But I think in those sedentary days
at work where you have a lot of work and
you have to sit, I guess what we could be
more intentional with is hourly setting some more of some
sort of a timer, as annoying or cheesy or ridiculous
as it may sound, just getting up every hour and
(37:27):
taking a lap around the building. I think that could
be helpful because those days that, yes, I sit here,
sometimes I leave here and it'll be you know, well
into the afternoon and we've been here all morning and
I've been sitting the entire time, and I'm like, wait
what And I.
Speaker 4 (37:44):
Don't feel as good those days when my body isn't moving,
and I know, I like, I'll look down, I've had
a hundred steps just to get into the building or whatever.
That's when I know, and I am not feeling great,
and I'll get up in them I'm like, okay, I
just needed to move the juices around in my body.
Speaker 3 (37:58):
Yeah, on those days, you know you're going to have
to be extra sedentary. Just maybe a challenge we could
all have for ourselves is okay, No, I'm going to
be sitting a lot today, So I'm going to get
up and do a two minute walk every hour.
Speaker 1 (38:12):
Boom. That could help.
Speaker 2 (38:14):
I'm trying to do that more.
Speaker 4 (38:16):
I'm also you'd be really proud of me I'm about
to do after we get back from our vacations later,
I'm going to be doing a whole detox with an
integrative health specialist, trying to get rid of my long
COVID and it's going to be brutal.
Speaker 2 (38:31):
She's like, I think we need an eight week cleanse
for you.
Speaker 4 (38:34):
Just over the course of your life, you've had a
lot of stuff happen and your body's taken the hit.
Speaker 2 (38:39):
And detox meaning I'm just going to be eating certain.
Speaker 4 (38:42):
Foods that are not inflammatory, and also I have to
do an extended fast to help my body kind of
reset its cells and put it into a routine that
it can do that. So I'm a little nervous, but
I'll be doing a lot of different things lot sauna,
like an infrared sauna.
Speaker 2 (38:58):
I'll be doing red light therapy.
Speaker 4 (38:59):
I'll be doing doing grounding work, just a whole bunch
lymphatic drainage, dry brushing, all of it. Hello, Yeah, fully
try and reset my whole system because I've done ebbs
and flows of all of those things. But she's like,
there's something about a combination and the right combination of
all of it to set your body up for success
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to actually drain stuff out of it. She's like, detoxes
are harder than just you know, do a juice cleans
and alcos away. That's not quite how it works. She's like,
your body actually needs support to go through a detox
because if you put your body into detox and you're
not ready, it can be more harm than good.
Speaker 3 (39:38):
Oh well, I'm good. I'm glad you've got a doctor
to guide you and be by your side through it all.
Because I know the long COVID stuff has been.
Speaker 4 (39:47):
Really I'm like, you know what, eight weeks is nothing
compared to having to experience fur to go again, So
do it?
Speaker 2 (39:53):
Send me on it.
Speaker 1 (39:54):
I was at lunch yesterday with someone my friend chases
in town, and we went to lunch with a girl that.
Speaker 3 (40:01):
Has mold in her body. She found it in her condo.
She knew she felt unwell for months and couldn't figure
out why. And then when she had a specialist come
and they cut into her roof where there was this
leak and there was black mold everywhere, and she had
(40:22):
been and she's since moved out because they're gutting it
and redoing it. But even just moving out, obviously she's
done different things too to help detox. But she just
feels so much better. But she's like, I never would
have thought it was mold in my house. I mean,
she was testing for all kinds of other things, and
(40:42):
then when she did a specific test for like twenty
one different toxins, there was three that were really bad
and then one that was off the charts and it
was part of the black mold. And so now she's
on a a journey of just trying to heal her body. Oh,
(41:04):
it's very similar to what you're going through. She's meeting
with a doctor that's helping her do it, and she's
already Yeah, she's already feeling a lot better, and she
knows that there's light at the end of the tunnel.
But I just hate that she's having to go through
go through that, and there are so many people. Yeah,
and they may not know because you don't know what's
behind your.
Speaker 4 (41:23):
And it's so expensive, yes, to have mold and to
have somebody one come in and diagnose it, to come
in and fix it. You're completely regutting however big it is,
or however fart spreads in your house. It's crazy that
that is such a significant thing for so many people
because mold. Like hearing you say that and talk about that,
it is not the first time I've heard it. I've
(41:44):
heard it from a whole lot of people.
Speaker 1 (41:47):
Yeah, and it seems as though it takes.
Speaker 3 (41:51):
Unless you get lucky and find that you've, oh got mold,
maybe this is it, and you go to a doctor
and you get tested. Like it was months and months
and months of her not knowing what was wrong with her,
and she was feeling so and.
Speaker 1 (42:01):
She's a very active person.
Speaker 3 (42:06):
Also has a lot of different work that she was doing.
She said, I would do like one work thing a
day and then think, I don't know that I can
do anymore.
Speaker 1 (42:14):
What is going on? And I'm used to being here,
being there doing this, doing that. She's also something fun
that she's doing right now. She's like, I'm so glad.
Speaker 3 (42:22):
I'm feeling better because I'm able to enjoy this season
of work. As she's casting for the next season of
The Bachelor. Oh, that is exciting, and she's meeting all
the women and she said, there are so many amazing
women that are auditioning, and she said, we're immediately vetting out.
One thing that has been very clear from ABC is
(42:43):
that we don't want people that are just trying to
get on the show to be an influencer. If they're
trying to build up their brand or just expose themselves,
cut them immediately.
Speaker 1 (42:54):
We don't want them.
Speaker 3 (42:55):
And she's like, we are really getting quality, six cessful,
awesome women that are truly just looking for love. And
I'm like, well, then why are they going on this show?
Because like really, And she said, one thing that is
consistent from all of them is dating sucks.
Speaker 1 (43:12):
It's horrible.
Speaker 3 (43:13):
There is like why not we are having zero luck
out here on the apps or in any other way
or trying to meet some many in person, So why
not shoot our shot and try to go have a
fun experience on the Bachelor. It is true, but they
have careers that are not dependent like a lot anyone
she's passing through their careers are not dependent upon a
(43:34):
social media following or fame, and that they're very just
intelligent and kind and fill and frop Like She's like, what.
Speaker 1 (43:43):
Why are these girls single?
Speaker 3 (43:46):
And so now I'm like for a long for the
first time in a long, long, long time, I think
I'm gonna be excited to watch The Bachelor. So they're
doing a complete overhaul of how they want the show,
like it kind of got off track and they want
to like.
Speaker 1 (43:57):
Take it back.
Speaker 4 (43:58):
Okay, I'm might have to tune. And it's been since
I was in the sorority house. I think that I
watched the batchelor a long time.
Speaker 3 (44:04):
But she said it's a lot of fun and that
there are so many amazing women out there. She's like,
and she has no idea who the Bachelor is. She's like,
it's it's difficult because I don't know who am I
trying to match them with because she's not a part
of that selection.
Speaker 1 (44:16):
She's only doing the girls. Oh yeah, I'm excited. I'll
have to watch it, I know.
Speaker 4 (44:21):
And yes, dating does suck, so I feel for all
of them. Yeah, all right, let's jump out if you're Amy,
where can they find you? Hear you all the good stuff.
Speaker 3 (44:28):
At Radio Amy on Socials and Feeling Things podcast. Also
that's the social handle and the podcast if you want
to search forever. I have a ghost with my one
of my best friends Cat. She's also a therapist, but
it is not a replacement for therapy, and we don't
just talk about therapy, although we must to talk about feelings.
That's why it's called feeling things.
Speaker 1 (44:48):
We feel things.
Speaker 4 (44:49):
Feeling things is good and you can follow me at
what Girl Morgan. My podcast is Take this personally. I
had Scottie hasting On. He was a army veteran who
was shot ten times in combat and it's a really
important sorry. He has a cool collaboration with Lee Brice
and Dolly Parton, so his life has changed drastically and
it's cool to hear it.
Speaker 2 (45:06):
So and follow the show YouTube at Bobby Bone Show.
All right, bye bye.
Speaker 1 (45:11):
That's the best bits of the week with Morgan.
Speaker 2 (45:14):
Thanks for listening.
Speaker 1 (45:15):
Be sure to check out the other two parts this weekend.
Go follow the show on all social platforms Bobby Bone
Show and follow at Webgirl Morgan to submit your listener questions.
Speaker 2 (45:24):
For next week's episode,
The Best Bits of the Week with Morgan, Part one.
Behind a scene with a member of the show.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
What's Up, everybody? Welcome to the weekend. Amy is joining me.
What's up? Aby? Hi Morgan, Thanks for coming on. We
got some life to update everybody on. Things are crazy
in my world. Amy, what's going on with you right now?
Speaker 3 (00:20):
Well, nothing's too crazy like yours? Which are you going
to get into it? I?
Speaker 2 (00:25):
Yeah, we sure, Okay, I want to hear about your
life first. It'll help me calm down.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
Yeah, forget about yours for a second.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
Well, before we started recording, we were talking about clothes
and getting ready, and I just feel like sometimes I
spend way too much time just standing in my closet
thinking what am I going to wear? And there are
certain outfits that I really love, and I'm like, I'm
just going to start rewaring these outfits as much as possible.
I put on exactly what I wore last week, and
(00:54):
I'm wearing it again this week. And not that that's
a big deal. Who cares. You can wear it the
next day if you want to.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
But I'm like, what if.
Speaker 3 (01:02):
I had my Monday outfit my Tuesday outfit? Am? I
went like Monday through Friday. I just had my outfits
and like, that's my like for a month.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
I do that and then.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
Switch it up because I I'm someone that likes to
sometimes how i'm feeling, pick an outfit or be a
little more creative. I'm not super into fashion, but I
like to try new things, and so I'm not like
going Steve jobs here where it's a black turtleneck and
jeans every day. But I as I get older, I
(01:33):
think I'm gravitating more towards like why am I complicating
things and continuing to buy more things? When if I've
got something cute like and I like it, can I
make that my Wednesday outfit.
Speaker 4 (01:47):
It's find of funny when you think about kids going
to school and they sometimes they have uniforms, Like why
can't adults have uniforms?
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (01:54):
What if we had uniforms at iHeart or the Bobby
Bone Show and we had to show up. I mean,
Bobby would probably be like, all right, everybody's wearing a
card again.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Whatever it vibe it is for that few months and
then we shift it. Those would be our uniform changes.
Speaker 3 (02:09):
Yeah, I'm down for that. My kids have done both
types of school's uniform and then not. And I think
when they have the uniform they did not like it,
and then when they switched, they're kind of like a
little I missed the uniform a little bit because they
don't have to think it, just put it on.
Speaker 4 (02:29):
Yeah, And so much of I feel like your daily
morning routine is what am I gonna wear? What's gonna
make me feel good today? I'm such a feel good dresser.
How am I feeling in that moment? And how am
I gonna be either the most comfortable or do I
need to feel confident that morning? Or am I doing
like need more comfy and I need more cozy because
I'm going through it, Or am I like, oh, yeah,
(02:50):
today's the day I'm going to pull off that new outfit.
Mine's all about my feelings. My clothes very much reflect
how I'm feeling.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Yeah, I think I can do the same.
Speaker 3 (03:00):
Dopamine dressing is a thing where if you need that
hit of dopamine, you can put on something that you
know feels good and you look good and gives you
that umph.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
Yeah, So that i'd be a thing, and I can.
I think I can.
Speaker 3 (03:13):
Also if I don't know that depressed dressing is a thing,
but not that I'm totally depressed if I wear it.
But sometimes yeah, it's reflective of your mood and you're like,
I don't care about feeling good. I just want to
be comfy and cozy. But sometimes when I do that,
I will get to work and I do not feel
it's confident.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
Yeah, it is that side of that.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
Have you ever gotten to work and you look in
the mirror and you're like, what was it? What was
I thinking with that huge mirror in the bathroom? And
I'll go to the bathroom and I'll walk out and
I'll be.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
Like, what what, What in the world.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
Is this outfit? And I don't know what I was thinking,
Like it's something I'd never put together. It doesn't even work.
And then I see myself in full length and I'm like, Okay, cool,
I guess I should have checked this album before I
left the house.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
But who Also.
Speaker 4 (03:58):
Because are we used to what are we look like
in our mirrors at home?
Speaker 2 (04:03):
And then you go to a new mirror. I wonder
if there's something to that.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
I'm not sure.
Speaker 3 (04:08):
I just think sometimes I don't look in the mirror
before I leave my house.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
So that's that's uh.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
Top of mind at the moment is my am I
I know it's people are listening to this on the weekend,
but we're recording it.
Speaker 4 (04:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
No, it's like the top of mine.
Speaker 3 (04:23):
So don't be surprised if next Wednesday you see me
in these white pants, the white top and my tan sandals.
Although we are getting into fall, and maybe I could
wear this exact outfit, but I just throw on boots.
Speaker 4 (04:33):
Oh you definitely, could you just swap the footwear. I'm
I wear so much fall in winter clothing in the
studio because I get so cold all the time, Like,
and that's where more of my comfort comes in. Because
we're talking about this the other day, you've been wearing
tank tops lightly and I every time I see you
coming with the tank I'm like, how is she doing that?
I want to be wrapped in a blanket right now,
and I have to be wearing like a full turtleneck
(04:55):
sweater to be comfortable in that room.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
Yeah, it's freezing cold in there. Although maybe I'm appreciate
it lately because my air is broken at my house.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
Oh that's not fun.
Speaker 3 (05:04):
So I think I got to look at my count
I think they're coming today to figure it out.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
Is it the acs on my head?
Speaker 1 (05:13):
It's just not pumping like it should.
Speaker 3 (05:16):
So I keep it at seventy seventy one, and so
that's what it's set at. But inside my house, you know,
the the box where its are hard, you know, the
little un Yeah what you don't have the word either anywhere,
neither one of us have it, but it says, you know,
(05:36):
I have it set to seventy seventy one, and it
says seventy five inside.
Speaker 4 (05:41):
So and it's you're not really lucky that's having right
now instead of when we had our heat wave or
have you been dealing with this since the heat wave?
Speaker 1 (05:47):
Now?
Speaker 3 (05:47):
It just kicked in about a week ago. So yeah,
I guess to your point, it came at a good time.
And also it's a thermostat.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
I don't know, we just came up with it.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
I don't know why that took me a minute.
Speaker 4 (05:56):
I apologized early or getting into our groop this moment
in time, you're hearing us like do our You know
when people do the warm up before.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
They sing, How now? How now?
Speaker 3 (06:06):
Brown Cow, Unique, New York. Yeah, we're recording this before
the Bobby Bone show.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
So and the kids say, go back to school.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
They're already back. Yeah, we are in a groove. We are. Yeah,
it's crazy. I can't believe it.
Speaker 4 (06:18):
And the uh, it feels like summer just came and went.
I don't know, I feel like summer existed.
Speaker 1 (06:22):
I know we're about to just really be all in
because cross country season is starting. Stevenson's already started his practice.
Speaker 3 (06:30):
That means we're going to have cross country races coming
up Friday night football games. Then my kids are like,
Sisure is not a Friday night sport girl. Like she's
not the cheerleader or at one point she helped out
with the football team with the the water girl athletic trainer.
She was just an assistant to that, whatever you need help, Yeah, sure,
(06:51):
if you need to go get water, if you go
grab this a spandage, she would help with that.
Speaker 4 (06:55):
Uh.
Speaker 3 (06:56):
And Stevenson doesn't play football, but they like to go
to the games.
Speaker 4 (06:59):
So Friday night lights and will you have a bunch
of games too for your boyfriend's kids.
Speaker 3 (07:05):
This is the first year they're not playing football, so
apparently this is the first fall where it's a little
bit more chill for them. And I'm thinking, thank you,
because it is already very busy. Between they do have
some club basketball and then they have soccer, so I
don't know exactly when soccer season really picks up, but
they have lots of practices right now. But again I
(07:26):
don't know sometimes if they're practicing for school or club
stuff because I never played club things when I was
a kid, but they're very active so well.
Speaker 4 (07:37):
When I played club when I was a kid, I
felt like club existed year round, depending on if it
was an inside support or outside. But club definitely you
have longer timeframes then and more travel.
Speaker 3 (07:50):
Yes, I know they do enjoy going to games as well,
so probably a lot of Friday night lights. There was
a Friday coming up though, and I was like, shoot,
why did we put this on a Friday night?
Speaker 1 (08:00):
People might be going to football games.
Speaker 3 (08:01):
But Ben and I, speaking of the kids, were working
on something together because we thought it would be a
good example for the kids of us coming together for
others and showing that mom and dad can still work
together and as a family, we're still going to give
back and serve and something we're involved in at our
church's Isaiah one to seventeen House, which is a foster
(08:22):
house for kids that like an interim house, so if
they are looking for placement. Sometimes kids have literally spent
the night on the office floor of the caseworker at
the CPS office, and that's not a place for a kid,
especially in such a unstable time in their life. So
(08:46):
there's a house that was built out in East Nashville
in Isaiah one seventeen. House is a national organization, but
this is the Nashville branch, and so it's a house
where they can go and have have a home that
with a room and they get a bag, get to
fill up and there's a room full of items they
can go around and collect and put in their bag
so that when they show up at their foster house,
(09:07):
you know Eddie'll show you too with the work he's
done or share with people too. Sometimes they show up
with just a plastic bag or nothing, and so this
gives them a legit bag with some of their own
things to start out with, and a good bed to
sleep in at night, and you know caregivers that are
there that can nurture them and anyway, there's funding that
(09:27):
needs to go into that. So Ben and I are
hosting a tee it Up for the Kids event at
Top golf on Friday, September twenty sixth, so I'm sure
there's gonna be a football game that night, but just inviting.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
People in Nashville.
Speaker 3 (09:41):
If you happen to live here, that could be something
where you could give back. And well, I'll put the
link in the show notes. Kat and I are going
to be there at a bay with some Feeling Things
podcast winners. We're bringing some teams because we got a
sponsor for the event, Taylor Farm, so they're underwriting it.
So everything from top Golf, they've covered that fee, so
(10:02):
whatever people pay to play, and you know, you can
either buy a whole bay. And I was thinking like
it would be just be a cool thing for families
or companies where you can do a company outing. It
can be team bonding and you're giving back at the
same time.
Speaker 4 (10:17):
Okay, have you pitches for us to do as a
show yet or no? Because no, have we given up
on that.
Speaker 3 (10:25):
I would know if everybody, I mean, I don't know,
maybe it'll come up organically. It started, as you know,
Ben and I wanted to do it, and then Cat
and I thought, oh, because Taylor Farms got involved and
I work with them.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
Taylor Farms is the underwriter the Salad company.
Speaker 3 (10:41):
And then Cat and I were thinking, because Taylor Farms
with their sponsorship, you get three bays and they're bringing
some employees that want to come participate, which I thought
was cool because sometimes you can just give that they
want to give and be involved, and so that was
really special. They were like, well, we have extra space.
So then Kat and I are like, oh, we'll fill that.
We'll give away some spots on our Feeling Things podcast
(11:01):
Instagram and they can bring a guest and yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:05):
I don't know. I thought about Eddie. He may want
to come because Foster Care.
Speaker 3 (11:09):
But I'll pitch it. Thank you, Morgan. I will pitch
it and we'll see if maybe we do a shoe outing.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
I think you should pitch it because even if not,
maybe there's a few of us that would want to go,
because I'd go, okay, if I'm in town, I'll go,
all right, I'll pitch it.
Speaker 3 (11:19):
So there's you can get either just a single pay
to play slot and it includes a fat a buffet
dinner and you know, if you do well, there's door
prizes and different things. So it should be a fun
night of fun and philanthropy. But I was thinking businesses
are looking for team building at least I think they are,
because you know, I want it for us, and that
(11:40):
they could like bring the whole bring employees, and then
as a company buying a bay that also is a
write off, and you know one hundred percent of your
money is going to help Isaiah in seventeen house, then
it's like, oh bam, this is a no brainer way
to do some team building and give back at the
same time.
Speaker 4 (11:58):
And you do know with your ex husband, which is
really good for your family, and that's really cool.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
Yeah, it's been very good for us because a year
ago Ben and I were not in this place, like
we weren't bad and we were coparenting well, but we
were not like we are now.
Speaker 1 (12:13):
So that's good.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
Oh, that is good. We'll go check that out.
Speaker 4 (12:17):
Yeah, we'll put it in the show notes in here,
so you guys can click on it and we're going
to take a quick break.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
We'll be back with some more. Okay.
Speaker 4 (12:26):
So also the kids, we were talking about them a
little bit in there, and they're back at school.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
This stashiras last year.
Speaker 3 (12:31):
Yeah, she's a senior, which is really really hard to
process and also exciting.
Speaker 2 (12:37):
Yeah, and she starting to apply to things.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
Are we we're trying to figure out what she's gonna do?
Speaker 3 (12:43):
I mean, she she is, and we're coming alongside whatever
that looks like for her. She's done some college visits,
she's thought about taking a year to try to figure
it out, she's thought about Esthetician school, all.
Speaker 1 (12:59):
The things, all the things all floating right now, we
are floating.
Speaker 3 (13:02):
But she has started the process of figuring out where
to apply and how to apply.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
She's already applied for some scholarships. Okay, so we'll see.
Speaker 4 (13:11):
Are you part of that process or is she kind
of taking that over? No, we're part of it, but
we I put a lot of it. I want her
to be involved. I know that there's some parents that
do absolutely nothing, which was mine, and I'm so confused,
Like I didn't really know how to figure stuff out,
but I don't know why.
Speaker 1 (13:30):
I mean, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (13:32):
Looking back, I wish my parents were alive, because I
really want to ask them. I'm like, what what was
the process here? Because I remember feeling so lost and
I finally figured it out. But I mean I just
sort of applied. I only applied to one college and
I didn't get in and so I was like, thanks
for this, mom, Dad, you should have told me applied
to multiple see what happens. I applied to one. Now
(13:55):
my dad was there financially. I think that was sort
of his thing. He was like, oh, I'm showing up financially,
so I don't need to do anything else.
Speaker 1 (14:04):
And I think I.
Speaker 3 (14:05):
Would have much rather him been there in other ways
than financial, but that's neither here nor there.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
Works through that in therapy. And then my mom.
Speaker 3 (14:15):
She my dad went to college, my mom didn't, and
she was working full time, and I don't think she
had the bandwidth. She was also very involved in like
you know, she was in her HOA and you know,
an elder at church, and she had other things going, yes, yes,
and she worked full time. Sometimes when she would add
president of this and treasurer of that on like.
Speaker 1 (14:38):
Mom, hello, you're like I exist.
Speaker 3 (14:41):
Well, I don't think I didn't feel it wasn't a
terrible neglect by any means, but that's something I've also
worked there. It is just there were certain forms of
like I just don't I think she just stayed busy
to avoid certain things.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
And then some.
Speaker 3 (14:56):
Of that was like the little things or I could
have used some of her She had skills being People
would ask her, can you chair this?
Speaker 1 (15:03):
Can you be the president of this? Can you be
the treasurer? You know?
Speaker 3 (15:05):
She she was very organized, and I'm like, I got
to use some of that. So I didn't get into college.
And I was explaining this sister share too, is that
junior college is a great thing. If you want, you
can use that all the way through. You can use
it as a stepping stone and then get into a university.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
So that's what I did.
Speaker 3 (15:24):
I mean, I went to Blynn in Brian College Station
my first year, and then then I reapplied to A
and M because that's the only school I applied to.
And then I got in no problem because I knew
being there close by. I met with advisors and people
at Blynn were used to kids coming there and wanting
to get into A and M. So my advisor told
me exactly what I needed to do. And then I
(15:45):
was motivated because of like now I was.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
Like, what I didn't get in?
Speaker 3 (15:48):
Like this is no, and I was there was some
there shouldn't have been, but naturally I was embarrassed because
the one place I applied to I didn't get into
and so I had that motivation and I did everything
and then Boom got in right away.
Speaker 4 (16:03):
Well, and there's probably embarrassing because you didn't apply to
other one, so you just thought like you just would
get rejected by all of them instead of thinking, no,
I could have got into one of them.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
I just only applied to one of.
Speaker 1 (16:12):
Them, exactly like I would have got in somewhere.
Speaker 3 (16:17):
I did apply to Texas University for some Texas State
or University of Texas, University of Texas, Okay, because for
some reason, I was obsessed with the Longhorns.
Speaker 4 (16:27):
Don't ask me why. Nobody in my family was a
Longhorn fan. I think there's a part of me that
just wanted to move away and not be in Kansas.
And I had also applied to k State. It's so
funny because I think, if I remember correctly, I do
think I got accepted to Texas or it was either
that I didn't fully apply. I can't remember what the
(16:50):
process was because my memory is so shot, but I
remember looking at the out of state tuition I was like, never.
Speaker 2 (16:55):
Mind, oh yeah, I can't go a lot.
Speaker 4 (16:58):
It was so much money because I'm fair to me
just going into k state, which was still a lot
of money. But when I looked at the comparison, I
was like, there's why am I doing this? What is
my actual reason for wanting to go to the Longhorns?
Besides wanting to be a Longhorn?
Speaker 2 (17:12):
That was it. I had no real anything.
Speaker 3 (17:15):
For one, Yeah, it's probably not worth the out of
state tuition if the driving factor is bevo.
Speaker 4 (17:20):
Oh yeah, it was so crazy. So I yeah, and
I don't know that. I think my parents guided me
a little bit, but I think most of it was
just like, hey, apply to college, Yeah, make sure you
get it done, do some scholarships, and you just kind
of do it and hope for the best.
Speaker 1 (17:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (17:37):
So I'm having a hand in it. I'm also letting
her figure some stuff out, but I'm not like, oh,
too busy over here. I'm just not even going to
talk to you about it. But my mom was that
way with everything. I mean, this is Tami, but like
even girls stuff.
Speaker 2 (17:50):
Yeah, just like I.
Speaker 3 (17:53):
It wasn't like, here's how you do this at this
time of the month, and this was nothing I had
to ask my friends. I remember in whatever grade it
was or how old it was when it happened. My
friend Kinsey, she showed me how to do everything, like and.
Speaker 2 (18:09):
Did your sister have the same experience too, Well.
Speaker 3 (18:12):
Yeah, yeah, very much. That my sister had to ask
friends and we talk about it. I was thinking, I
thought you were about to ask me. I was anticipated
you saying, what about your sister? Could you go to her?
Speaker 1 (18:21):
By the when I became.
Speaker 3 (18:23):
A freshman, my sister was already in college, and then
that's when stuff was happening for me.
Speaker 1 (18:28):
You know, like, wait, you're.
Speaker 4 (18:29):
Telling meff like like girl stuff like uh ant flow.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
I was in fourth grade when mine happened.
Speaker 1 (18:36):
Oh wow, yeah, that's definitely not me.
Speaker 2 (18:38):
That is wild.
Speaker 1 (18:39):
Yeah I was going into high school.
Speaker 2 (18:42):
That's crazy.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
Okay. So your guys' gap is four and a half years.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
Okay, yeah, so she would have been gone.
Speaker 4 (18:47):
She already been focused on she had been there, done that,
through all the stuff, and she was like, yeah, you're
on your own.
Speaker 3 (18:53):
Yeah, I even tell her now, I'm like, well, thanks
for the heads up. That mom doesn't say anything suddenly.
I mean, my sister said she to go steal stuff
out of my mom's bathroom because when because our mom
didn't talk about it, it made us think this is
weird to talk about our so whatever.
Speaker 1 (19:09):
So my sister never brought it up.
Speaker 3 (19:10):
She was just sneaking into my mom's bathroom and then
my mom noticed that she was taking things. So my
mom went to the store bought her stuff and then
just stuck it in the cabinet. And so my sister
went to like we shared a bathroom, went to our
bathroom and said she opened up the cabinet one day
and then there was product there. But then it was
like okay, okay, thanks mom. But there was no discussion.
(19:30):
So I didn't avoid it, avoid it.
Speaker 1 (19:35):
Not so avoid it's so weird.
Speaker 4 (19:36):
It was.
Speaker 3 (19:37):
It was a mix because it's not like she avoided everything,
you know.
Speaker 2 (19:41):
But definitely certainly, but a lot.
Speaker 3 (19:44):
I think it was maybe where I get you know,
tied up about it in my head or it just
feels confusing, is because oh, my son, my son's calling,
he must have just woken up.
Speaker 4 (19:56):
Uh.
Speaker 3 (19:56):
Where it gets crazy in my head about that is
later in life. I think, especially when she got sick,
when she got cancer, she started to think about how
she wanted to be and our relationship really started to
change and we talked about so much more.
Speaker 1 (20:15):
But I was in my thirties.
Speaker 2 (20:17):
Yeah, you haven't experienced that.
Speaker 4 (20:19):
You also had to have your kids in I think
a lot of things you've learned has really come with
having the kids, So I would imagine you had more
questions now than you would have had been.
Speaker 3 (20:29):
Yeah, there were some ms that I never thought of
to ask. I just think we started talking about a
lot more because I think she started realizing, oh shoot,
I may be running out of time, so let's talk.
And our relationship has started to get a lot better
even before she got sick. But I was definitely I'd
already moved out of the house and was married by
(20:50):
the time all of that started to happen, and then
I would have defined her as one of my best friends.
So in speaking of I remember some of my best
friends in high school always talking about how my mom
like they enjoyed talking with her, and she would she
was a good listener and offer a good advice.
Speaker 1 (21:11):
I'm like, what are y'all talking about?
Speaker 5 (21:13):
Like I have a vastly different experience I did, But
it's almost isn't now that I think about it. It's
just interesting because my mom wasn't she wasn't attached to.
Speaker 3 (21:25):
Them, so maybe she could open up more. But there
was something about just avoiding. Who knows, maybe she was
giving tampons to my friends, I'm telling them how to
use it. I don't know, but she certainly wasn't inside
our house. But I'm glad my mom what I'm glad
my friends saw my mom as that and that they
felt like they could talk to her about.
Speaker 1 (21:42):
Things, because I certainly didn't.
Speaker 4 (21:44):
Yeah, maybe there's just some dissociation in the fact that,
like you, it wasn't her kids, so she didn't feel yeah,
some type of way about it for whatever reason, or
you know, it's always crazy when you think about what
gets passed down from generation, like what.
Speaker 3 (21:58):
Her her mom was like available for her at all, whatsoever.
That's like me and stuff my mom would make sure. Yeah,
we I don't remember having to fin for myself a lot,
unless it was that time of the month. But like
my mom growing up, that was like I don't know
where my grandma was, maybe bowling, but my mom would
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said there were times she would just go in the
kitchen and there wasn't anything to eat. She would have
to try to figure out how to piece together some
sort of a meal. And I know my grandma didn't
talk to her about anything. My grandma didn't have much
of an appetite. She was a chainsmoker, so I don't
think food was okay. She likes to burn bread and milk.
Speaker 2 (22:41):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (22:41):
We didn't pass down the corn bread and milk or
the dain smoking soap.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
Yeah, we did improve the generation progress. Oh okay, Well
we're gonna take another break. Thank you for the inside.
That was cool to learn about about your mom.
Speaker 4 (22:54):
Yeah, it sounds so fun because you didn't talk about her,
but then you're also learning about her in the same.
Speaker 3 (22:58):
Point, and how you want to show up diff for
your kids. And sometimes I find myself behaving like my mom,
and I have to be intentional.
Speaker 1 (23:06):
Don't do that. Don't do that. I think you're just
being what was done to you. And guess what, you
get to do it differently, So be different.
Speaker 2 (23:14):
That's a lot of intention behind that, and that's hard.
All right, we'll be right back.
Speaker 4 (23:21):
So really exciting things are happening over in my house
right now. Exciting is probably the best way I can
say it, because I'm trying to bring humor and light
to not fun things.
Speaker 1 (23:32):
Well, it's your animals are keeping things interesting for you,
that's for sure.
Speaker 4 (23:36):
Yeah, yeah, so Hazel has kidney damage of some kind. Now,
I've only had her since she was about eight years
old roughly, that was an estimate on her age. So
she's already kind of a seenior cat when I got her,
and she had quite a bit of neglect. She came
from a one hundred and thirty cat hoarding situation, so
who really knows what her life was like.
Speaker 1 (23:54):
So when they have cat hoarders like that, what is
what is it? What's going on?
Speaker 4 (24:01):
I don't know what you know about like, so just
what I've learned about cats, especially over time. One, most
of the time, horders tend to have good intentions to start, Yes,
they're like they want to save cats, they want to
help them. Then it gets quickly overwhelming. One because cats
reproduce at an insane rate, Like that's why you see
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a lot of feral cat colonies, especially because if they
haven't been trapped and humanly released back to their colony
to be like Spade and neutered. Because cats, like there
was a huge statistic as soon as they turn like
six months old, they can start having kittens, and their
kittens can like double over just the course of a year.
And so if you say you have five cats where
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you're taking care of them, you took them in with
good intention, but you don't have the resources or money
to spare neuter them.
Speaker 2 (24:50):
Over the course of a year, you're probably gonna triple
that number.
Speaker 1 (24:53):
Because this is ignorance on my part.
Speaker 4 (24:55):
But so.
Speaker 3 (24:57):
A cat, like five kittens are born and some are
boys and summer girls. Those cats, can the brother and
sister make a baby?
Speaker 2 (25:05):
They can't.
Speaker 1 (25:05):
I know they can, obviously they can't. I didn't.
Speaker 4 (25:08):
It's more it's not uncommon, okay, So I meant cats
are just a different type of species and all of
their breeding and stuff.
Speaker 2 (25:15):
It's definitely just interesting.
Speaker 1 (25:17):
I mean, I guess dogs that do.
Speaker 3 (25:19):
Honestly, this is something I've not ever thought about, obviously,
so I'm probably gonna google this later one.
Speaker 4 (25:24):
I think when you have like breeder actual breeder people,
they don't. Of course, you have complications because it's no
different than humans in the fact of like genetics and whatnot.
But when they're out feral or they're in a situation
that's in uncontrolled environment, anything can happen.
Speaker 2 (25:40):
Sure.
Speaker 3 (25:40):
Yeah, I just guess I didn't know if, like you know,
there was a certain scent that was like, oh, my brother,
you're my sister. I'm not gonna do this.
Speaker 4 (25:48):
There could be there could be an ignorance for me
there that I don't know. They're definitely couldn't ass so
if there is, let us know, but I don't think so.
Speaker 3 (25:55):
So they are.
Speaker 2 (25:56):
Reproduction is just super high. It's the same for if
you had feral dogs dunnies. Yes, yes, and you don't have.
Speaker 4 (26:02):
You just have more feral cat colonies than you do
of any other domesticated animal for the most part. But
so that's typically what you see happening in hoarding situations.
They're well intentioned, don't have the resources, they don't get
them spay or neuter. Then you reproduce and then you're
just kind of stuck and it just keeps happening. Then
you have fifteen to spaan neuterer versus five or whatever.
Speaker 2 (26:25):
So it just kind of the cyclopace.
Speaker 1 (26:27):
Okay, so Hazel is a part of that. And then
now and so yeah, you don't know.
Speaker 4 (26:31):
For eight years, I should no idea what her life
was like, or what food she was given, if she
was given water or attiquette the adequate diet, even just
was she getting fed dog food?
Speaker 2 (26:41):
Or was she getting food human food. I have no idea.
Speaker 4 (26:44):
So now we're definitely dealing with some kidney issues that
I never would have known about until now. In all
of this, and like what started as a kidney infection
in Uti and E Coalie is all because she's basically
not the throughing out the waste product that's in her
kidney's which is not uncommon for cats, especially as they
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get older. And she's roughly around ten years old, so
it's possible that this is just something that was going
to happen in her aging. It's also a thing with
her breed Siamese, so all of it was still possible
regardless of her background. It's just it's more likely to
happen quicker given you.
Speaker 2 (27:22):
Know her history.
Speaker 4 (27:24):
So now we just are she's probably gonna be on
fluids for the rest of her life most likely. That's
kind of what we're looking at. So IV's right now
to help her flush and get her on a kickstart,
and then I'll have to start doing SubQ fluid at home,
which is a lot different than IVY. You just kind
of stick it in the top of their back and
it goes right under the skin and it helps them
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stay hydrated because when you keep the kidneys hydrated, it
helps them moving and working properly as they should. Cats
are also notorious for not drinking a lot of water,
so that's why they always end up with kidney problems.
Like why Vet was like, it's not a question of if,
it's a question of when your cat will have kidney issues. Okay,
So it is something to be like prepared for Maggie's
drinking water.
Speaker 1 (28:04):
Yeah, and.
Speaker 4 (28:06):
Wet food is so much better for cats than dry
food because it gives the more hydration. That's the thing too,
So it's definitely stuff to be aware of with cats.
Speaker 1 (28:13):
And Maggie won't eat wet food. I've tried.
Speaker 4 (28:16):
You can sprinkle, what I've learned, it's the transition with
wet food. You can sprinkle on dry food on top
of it and kind of coerce them into getting a
little bit of both. Okay and the Yeah, cats are
finicky about food anyways.
Speaker 3 (28:27):
Shows me if her food sits out for too long,
she don't give her too much food. If there's too
much food, she won't touch it, and then it's so
it sits there even longer, so then she's definitely not
going to touch it, so you have to, like sometimes
when I have other people watching her if I'm out
of town, I think because with a cat, you don't
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need to stop buy as much as you would a dog.
So they're sort of like, oh, I'll just stop buy
once a day, but I'll give her more food, and
so I have to be very specific.
Speaker 1 (28:57):
I'm like, you can stop by one day.
Speaker 3 (28:58):
I don't care, but don't give her more food, thinking
you're doing her a favor because it's just gonna end
up sitting there because then it sits out and then
she's just turned off by it.
Speaker 1 (29:06):
I don't it's so weird.
Speaker 2 (29:08):
She's like, don't feb me that, U peasant.
Speaker 1 (29:09):
I don't want that that much food. I don't know.
Speaker 3 (29:12):
I think it's just there and then I don't know
what it is about it, but then it sits there
longer and then she's definitely not touching it. So then
you have to just have to feed it to my
dog because she'll eat whatever and then start over with
a smaller batch and then she'll work her way through that.
Speaker 2 (29:28):
That's so funny they are.
Speaker 4 (29:29):
Cats are so much more finicky about food, which also
makes it difficult on their organs. Because they love to
be difficult and they're eating habits. There's also like, I
don't know what kind of wet food you've tried with her,
but there's like shredded meat wet food that you can
give them, and that always they tend to like. Because
cats are more they love to what's the word I'm
(29:50):
looking for, They like to like go after prey.
Speaker 2 (29:53):
Cats are more like they have more activity in that.
Speaker 4 (29:55):
So something about shredded meat makes them have their li
more wild instinct and it is better for them.
Speaker 2 (30:03):
Okay, I don't know.
Speaker 4 (30:05):
Yeah, this is information that I just keep getting given
and I'm just recurstating and I'm probably butchering some of it.
So that's what's going on with her. And funny because
I'm terrified of needles. So this will be a really
good experience for both of us. Thankfully, I have my
boyfriend who's very much prepared.
Speaker 1 (30:20):
And ready to help injust her Yeah.
Speaker 4 (30:22):
Yeah, so she'll probably have to get him once or
twice a week, and we can do it at home.
I just have to kind of have the fluid bags
ready whenever she needs it. So that'll likely be our
course of action for the rest of her life and
go from there.
Speaker 2 (30:36):
I think that's what's happening. And then Remy, we got.
Speaker 4 (30:40):
Blood work on her and hopefully by the time everybody
hears this, I'll have results and know what's going on.
But she's been shaking, she wasn't eating for me, she's
drinking more water. It's just all signs of something going on.
So hoping it's just a bug. But she's ten years old,
so you know, we're getting to that age where things
start happening. And I'm hoping though it's nothing, because if
(31:01):
I have both of them with problems, I'm probably gonna
just pass away.
Speaker 1 (31:05):
No, don't say that will not be good for me.
Speaker 2 (31:08):
So I'm hoping for the best lot.
Speaker 4 (31:10):
Yeah, and then my grandma fell and broke her hip,
so she was in emergency surgery. Oh my gosh, it
was When was that all within the same day? It
all happened the exact same day?
Speaker 1 (31:24):
So, but how is she recovering?
Speaker 4 (31:26):
She's doing better, and she's before she even went in,
she said that her pain was like a three, which
was really awesome. And you know, when you break your hip,
you'd expect to be in so much pain. But she's
such a badass. My grandma like loves her life. She
lives out on a farm, refuses to not be on
that farm, and still to this day takes care of
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animals and.
Speaker 2 (31:48):
Lives her life.
Speaker 4 (31:49):
So I never see her not doing well and stuff
like this because she's just so strong and very determined.
Speaker 2 (31:58):
So she's been doing really well with it. But it's hard.
You know, as they get older, they definitely don't want
to be in hospitals, and that's the harder part of
all of it really. So we're just how old is she?
I want to say, she's eighty nine?
Speaker 1 (32:10):
Oh wow, she's getting it.
Speaker 2 (32:12):
She's I don't think she said her nineties yet. She
might have My memory sucks, so but yeah, she's out there.
Speaker 3 (32:20):
Well I'm glad she's recovering, okay, And yeah, I mean
a fall in your late eighties or nineties is you know,
it's terrible.
Speaker 4 (32:29):
It's so significant, it's and it's so crazy because she's
so with it. Like I'll call her and we have
full blown conversations and she'll have spent the whole day
outside working on the farm, and just it's crazy. I
also think that's good for them, right, because when you
are active and you're out and doing things, it's really
good for your health to be not sedentary, so it
is good for her, but it's definitely a worry with
(32:51):
all of us out there. Yeah, like we're still an
hour from her, even like my family that's in which
is jab.
Speaker 1 (32:56):
Does she live alone? Oh gosh, yeah, she lives alone
on a Yeah okay, goals.
Speaker 2 (33:02):
I know, and she loves it. It's so funny.
Speaker 4 (33:03):
I'll call and talk to him like are you doing okay?
She's like, this is the best life. This is all
I could have ever asked for. Like, this is what
makes me happy, and I love it for her, But
you know, it's concern for us. But she won't ever leave.
We've accepted that because that's what makes her happy, and
trying to put her in anywhere else will probably deteriorate
her health.
Speaker 2 (33:22):
More than help it. So and she was the one
who even called the ambulance for herself. Just crazy.
Speaker 4 (33:28):
But thankfully my aunt lives out by her, so that
helps with you know, checking in on her right away.
Speaker 2 (33:33):
Yeah, but that's just tells you how self sufficient she is.
Just like fell and I was like, uh, I need
an ambulat.
Speaker 1 (33:39):
Her phone was close by your hip.
Speaker 2 (33:41):
I'm like, okay, so just crazy stuff happening.
Speaker 1 (33:45):
Rand and my dad. I hate My dad wore one
of those little necklaces where he fell.
Speaker 2 (33:48):
That I need help.
Speaker 1 (33:49):
Then how an alarm would go off? He could press it.
Speaker 3 (33:52):
Yes, we got to that point. And I had an
alarm on his bed too, to wear well. To be fair,
when he moved in with me. He only lived in
me for one night before he died, or before he
got put into the hospital and went on life support.
Speaker 1 (34:05):
But I had an alarm on his bed. It's like
a pad.
Speaker 3 (34:09):
So when he's laying there, I knew he was safe
and in his bed, but the minute he got up,
it would sound an alarm.
Speaker 1 (34:18):
And so that's how I.
Speaker 3 (34:18):
Knew he got up, and so I heard the alarm
go off. But by the time I got in there,
he had already fallen. And then that's I had to call.
He could not have called the ambulance, but I did,
and yees falling.
Speaker 1 (34:31):
He was very fragile, though he wasn't like as active
as your grandma.
Speaker 2 (34:35):
So in general too, when you.
Speaker 4 (34:37):
Get older, it's crazy how much your bones just changed
over time and how fragile they are.
Speaker 3 (34:41):
And that's why they encourage us now like now be
thinking about your eighty year old self in your thirties
and forties and fifties, because don't wait till later to
be like, oh, okay, I'll start doing this. What can
you do to build up your muscles now? To take
care of and keep your bones? Especially women, taking care
(35:04):
of our bones is crucial. So that's one reason why
I got into pilates.
Speaker 1 (35:09):
As I saw some.
Speaker 3 (35:11):
Surgeon she worked predominantly on hips, like, did a lot
of hip surgery, especially in elderly people, and she said
the top thing I would recommend to people that are
younger that are taking.
Speaker 1 (35:23):
Care of their eighty year old selves is pilates.
Speaker 2 (35:26):
Interesting.
Speaker 3 (35:27):
Okay, So that's when I thought, okay, I better sign up,
and I got a membership and I started going regularly,
and then I got out of the groove and I
have not been going at all.
Speaker 1 (35:35):
So now the is there.
Speaker 3 (35:37):
This is reminding me I need to get back into
you know something, or just even doing some of those
plates exercises at home. It's like you have to be
on the machine or the reformer to do it. Like
there's plenty, and that's my thing. I think I like
working out at home, or I guess at ebbs and flows.
I go in and out of what's better for me. Yeah,
(35:58):
but I need to remind myself this isn't for you. Now.
Speaker 1 (36:02):
Stop thinking about you. Now think if eighty year old
you so when you fall, you're good.
Speaker 4 (36:05):
It is funny too, because even when I did those
interviews with the Senior Living Community, Shirley was on and
she's ninety one and she's so with it, you would
never know that she's ninety one years old, and just
her skin looks amazing.
Speaker 2 (36:18):
She looks great.
Speaker 4 (36:19):
And I had so many people comment on the video
just like how is she ninety one? And her one
thing was exercise. Every day I get up and move
like no matter what, I get up and I move
my body. And finally hearing from somebody like a legit
piece instead of you, don't you hear the ones like
I drink a coke every day and make sure you
have some fried chicken or whatever, this is like real
(36:39):
her be like, no, I feel good. I look good
because I've been exercising every day for my life. Not
just exercise that we think of like pilates and stuff,
but just like literally moving your body because we live
very sedentary lifestyles unfortunately, so hers was just get up
and move. Stop sitting here, like even right now, go move.
(36:59):
So it is really safe advice. I wish I could
listen to it some days. Some days I'm really bad
about that.
Speaker 3 (37:06):
Yeah, I feel like you don't be hard on yourself.
You're pretty active. But I think in those sedentary days
at work where you have a lot of work and
you have to sit, I guess what we could be
more intentional with is hourly setting some more of some
sort of a timer, as annoying or cheesy or ridiculous
as it may sound, just getting up every hour and
(37:27):
taking a lap around the building. I think that could
be helpful because those days that, yes, I sit here,
sometimes I leave here and it'll be you know, well
into the afternoon and we've been here all morning and
I've been sitting the entire time, and I'm like, wait
what And I.
Speaker 4 (37:44):
Don't feel as good those days when my body isn't moving,
and I know, I like, I'll look down, I've had
a hundred steps just to get into the building or whatever.
That's when I know, and I am not feeling great,
and I'll get up in them I'm like, okay, I
just needed to move the juices around in my body.
Speaker 3 (37:58):
Yeah, on those days, you know you're going to have
to be extra sedentary. Just maybe a challenge we could
all have for ourselves is okay, No, I'm going to
be sitting a lot today, So I'm going to get
up and do a two minute walk every hour.
Speaker 1 (38:12):
Boom. That could help.
Speaker 2 (38:14):
I'm trying to do that more.
Speaker 4 (38:16):
I'm also you'd be really proud of me I'm about
to do after we get back from our vacations later,
I'm going to be doing a whole detox with an
integrative health specialist, trying to get rid of my long
COVID and it's going to be brutal.
Speaker 2 (38:31):
She's like, I think we need an eight week cleanse
for you.
Speaker 4 (38:34):
Just over the course of your life, you've had a
lot of stuff happen and your body's taken the hit.
Speaker 2 (38:39):
And detox meaning I'm just going to be eating certain.
Speaker 4 (38:42):
Foods that are not inflammatory, and also I have to
do an extended fast to help my body kind of
reset its cells and put it into a routine that
it can do that. So I'm a little nervous, but
I'll be doing a lot of different things lot sauna,
like an infrared sauna.
Speaker 2 (38:58):
I'll be doing red light therapy.
Speaker 4 (38:59):
I'll be doing doing grounding work, just a whole bunch
lymphatic drainage, dry brushing, all of it. Hello, Yeah, fully
try and reset my whole system because I've done ebbs
and flows of all of those things. But she's like,
there's something about a combination and the right combination of
all of it to set your body up for success
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to actually drain stuff out of it. She's like, detoxes
are harder than just you know, do a juice cleans
and alcos away. That's not quite how it works. She's like,
your body actually needs support to go through a detox
because if you put your body into detox and you're
not ready, it can be more harm than good.
Speaker 3 (39:38):
Oh well, I'm good. I'm glad you've got a doctor
to guide you and be by your side through it all.
Because I know the long COVID stuff has been.
Speaker 4 (39:47):
Really I'm like, you know what, eight weeks is nothing
compared to having to experience fur to go again, So
do it?
Speaker 2 (39:53):
Send me on it.
Speaker 1 (39:54):
I was at lunch yesterday with someone my friend chases
in town, and we went to lunch with a girl that.
Speaker 3 (40:01):
Has mold in her body. She found it in her condo.
She knew she felt unwell for months and couldn't figure
out why. And then when she had a specialist come
and they cut into her roof where there was this
leak and there was black mold everywhere, and she had
(40:22):
been and she's since moved out because they're gutting it
and redoing it. But even just moving out, obviously she's
done different things too to help detox. But she just
feels so much better. But she's like, I never would
have thought it was mold in my house. I mean,
she was testing for all kinds of other things, and
(40:42):
then when she did a specific test for like twenty
one different toxins, there was three that were really bad
and then one that was off the charts and it
was part of the black mold. And so now she's
on a a journey of just trying to heal her body. Oh,
(41:04):
it's very similar to what you're going through. She's meeting
with a doctor that's helping her do it, and she's
already Yeah, she's already feeling a lot better, and she
knows that there's light at the end of the tunnel.
But I just hate that she's having to go through
go through that, and there are so many people. Yeah,
and they may not know because you don't know what's
behind your.
Speaker 4 (41:23):
And it's so expensive, yes, to have mold and to
have somebody one come in and diagnose it, to come
in and fix it. You're completely regutting however big it is,
or however fart spreads in your house. It's crazy that
that is such a significant thing for so many people
because mold. Like hearing you say that and talk about that,
it is not the first time I've heard it. I've
(41:44):
heard it from a whole lot of people.
Speaker 1 (41:47):
Yeah, and it seems as though it takes.
Speaker 3 (41:51):
Unless you get lucky and find that you've, oh got mold,
maybe this is it, and you go to a doctor
and you get tested. Like it was months and months
and months of her not knowing what was wrong with her,
and she was feeling so and.
Speaker 1 (42:01):
She's a very active person.
Speaker 3 (42:06):
Also has a lot of different work that she was doing.
She said, I would do like one work thing a
day and then think, I don't know that I can
do anymore.
Speaker 1 (42:14):
What is going on? And I'm used to being here,
being there doing this, doing that. She's also something fun
that she's doing right now. She's like, I'm so glad.
Speaker 3 (42:22):
I'm feeling better because I'm able to enjoy this season
of work. As she's casting for the next season of
The Bachelor. Oh, that is exciting, and she's meeting all
the women and she said, there are so many amazing
women that are auditioning, and she said, we're immediately vetting out.
One thing that has been very clear from ABC is
(42:43):
that we don't want people that are just trying to
get on the show to be an influencer. If they're
trying to build up their brand or just expose themselves,
cut them immediately.
Speaker 1 (42:54):
We don't want them.
Speaker 3 (42:55):
And she's like, we are really getting quality, six cessful,
awesome women that are truly just looking for love. And
I'm like, well, then why are they going on this show?
Because like really, And she said, one thing that is
consistent from all of them is dating sucks.
Speaker 1 (43:12):
It's horrible.
Speaker 3 (43:13):
There is like why not we are having zero luck
out here on the apps or in any other way
or trying to meet some many in person, So why
not shoot our shot and try to go have a
fun experience on the Bachelor. It is true, but they
have careers that are not dependent like a lot anyone
she's passing through their careers are not dependent upon a
(43:34):
social media following or fame, and that they're very just
intelligent and kind and fill and frop Like She's like, what.
Speaker 1 (43:43):
Why are these girls single?
Speaker 3 (43:46):
And so now I'm like for a long for the
first time in a long, long, long time, I think
I'm gonna be excited to watch The Bachelor. So they're
doing a complete overhaul of how they want the show,
like it kind of got off track and they want
to like.
Speaker 1 (43:57):
Take it back.
Speaker 4 (43:58):
Okay, I'm might have to tune. And it's been since
I was in the sorority house. I think that I
watched the batchelor a long time.
Speaker 3 (44:04):
But she said it's a lot of fun and that
there are so many amazing women out there. She's like,
and she has no idea who the Bachelor is. She's like,
it's it's difficult because I don't know who am I
trying to match them with because she's not a part
of that selection.
Speaker 1 (44:16):
She's only doing the girls. Oh yeah, I'm excited. I'll
have to watch it, I know.
Speaker 4 (44:21):
And yes, dating does suck, so I feel for all
of them. Yeah, all right, let's jump out if you're Amy,
where can they find you? Hear you all the good stuff.
Speaker 3 (44:28):
At Radio Amy on Socials and Feeling Things podcast. Also
that's the social handle and the podcast if you want
to search forever. I have a ghost with my one
of my best friends Cat. She's also a therapist, but
it is not a replacement for therapy, and we don't
just talk about therapy, although we must to talk about feelings.
That's why it's called feeling things.
Speaker 1 (44:48):
We feel things.
Speaker 4 (44:49):
Feeling things is good and you can follow me at
what Girl Morgan. My podcast is Take this personally. I
had Scottie hasting On. He was a army veteran who
was shot ten times in combat and it's a really
important sorry. He has a cool collaboration with Lee Brice
and Dolly Parton, so his life has changed drastically and
it's cool to hear it.
Speaker 2 (45:06):
So and follow the show YouTube at Bobby Bone Show.
All right, bye bye.
Speaker 1 (45:11):
That's the best bits of the week with Morgan.
Speaker 2 (45:14):
Thanks for listening.
Speaker 1 (45:15):
Be sure to check out the other two parts this weekend.
Go follow the show on all social platforms Bobby Bone
Show and follow at Webgirl Morgan to submit your listener questions.
Speaker 2 (45:24):
For next week's episode,
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Eddie Garcia
Morgan Huelsman
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