Black Girls Heal

In this episode, Shena discusses how to cope when you have a mother who is competitive with you, the signs of the jealousy and competition, and potential sources of where it may come from.

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members
• The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap
• Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Rec...

Our mother relationship is our first relationship as we come into this world. As a result, if we have unresolved trauma, it will manifest in how we see ourselves, how we see others, and what we pass down to future generations.

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members
• The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap
• Ready to heal your Love Addict...

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive deep into financial codependency—a pattern where you feel obligated to support others financially, even to your own detriment. We explore its roots, how it manifests in various relationships, and the emotional toll it takes. 

You'll learn about practical steps to break free from this cycle, including a 90-day no-contact financial challenge to help reset your finances and reclaim your ...

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we discuss the crucial topic of feeling deserving and why it's essential for receiving the love you desire. We explore how internalizing negative beliefs and trauma can lead to feeling undeserving, even when we outwardly affirm our worth. 

You'll learn practical steps to identify the emotional 'weeds' that choke your growth, including energy-draining relationships and perfectionis...

In this episode, Shena discusses healing from codependency to improve your self love and the questions you need to ask yourself to adjust your boundaries.

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members
• The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap
• Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coa...

In this episode, Shena discusses how to tell if the connection that you're feeling in a relationship is codependency or compatibility.

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members
• The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap
• Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to...

When I was dating, I made a lot of mistakes related to how I presented in my intimacy disorders. This week, I'm talking about how my love avoidance showed up for me in my relationships. 

For me, my personal experience and how that connected to my religious education really amplified a lot of my avoidance which is also discussed. 

This episode will not span all of the ways love avoidance can show up in relationships as that as bee...

In this episode, I review 3 hidden ways we may unknowingly ignore (and encourage) red flags in new people we meet.

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members
• The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap
• Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love ba...

What does it look like to be available to others after you've been working on your love avoidance symptoms.

In this episode, I share 3 tips for those who are starting this journey building relationships in a different way.

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members
• The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap
• Ready to heal your Love Addicti...

In today's episode, we review going from Love Avoidant to Love Available using the Healed and Loved Woman framework model.

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members
• The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap
• Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you be...

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we revisit the topic of 'No Contact' and the seven-day 'Don't Text Them: Sit on Your Effing Hands Challenge.' This discussion is aimed at those caught in addictive or trauma-bonded relationships, whether romantic, familial, or friendships. 

We discuss topics like recognizing toxic relationships, the importance of breaking the cycle for self-healing, and the benefits of hav...

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In today's episode I talk about the impact of childhood emotional neglect and how it leads to the behaviours of love addiction

Whether you are connected to love addition, love avoidance or low self esteem, if you are wondering why you continue in the same type of self doubts or keep being attracted to certain types of people, my hope is that this episode gives you the validation that you didn't even know you needed and suppo...

Which love addict archetype do you identify with and how do you begin to heal from it?

In this week’s episode of Black Girls Heal, I’m breaking down the four main archetypes of love addiction and why each of these patterns comes with its own unique set of challenges AND beautiful qualities. Whether you're constantly chasing “the one,” afraid to be alone, losing yourself in relationships, or living in a fantasy that never qui...

How do you hold yourself through grief when it feels too heavy to carry?

In this heartfelt episode of Black Girls Heal, I’m sharing my personal reflections and tools for navigating the emotional waves of grief, especially aftera sudden or unexpected loss. Whether it's the loss of a family member, a friend, a beloved pet, or a mentor, grief can shake us to our core. And yet, in the midst of all the confusion, numbness, and pa...

Is your fear of intimacy keeping you from the love you want?

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we’re diving deep into love avoidance—what it is, how it shows up, and the mistakes that keep us from building healthy, connected relationships. If you find yourself pulling away when things get too good, struggling to be vulnerable, or avoiding dating altogether, you’re not alone. These patterns often come from past trauma and a de...

Are you falling in love with potential instead of reality?

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, I’m diving into three critical mistakes love addicts make when dating—mistakes that can keep you stuck in unhealthy cycles. Whether you're unknowingly romanticizing red flags, struggling to walk away from emotionally unavailable partners, or making dating your full-time job, this episode will help you break free from these pattern...

In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I'm diving deep into how healing circles can transform your journey through love addiction recovery. After years of coaching women through attachment struggles, I've seen firsthand how creating the right community can accelerate healing in ways individual work simply can't.

We explore exactly how to build your own healing circle—from finding the right participants to e...

In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I'm diving deep into something that's essential for our healing journey but often overlooked—the power of sisterhood and community. As someone who's experienced both the isolation of healing alone and the transformative power of healing in community, I'm sharing seven practical tips to help you build and nurture meaningful friendships that support your growth.

In t...