712 AITA for not hosting bc GF's home decor? (ft. Karla & Radu)

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(11:16) - AITA for asking a kid in a record store to put it back bc he's reselling?
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(35:46) - AITA for telling my GF her home decor is why I won't host a gathering at her place?

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hi, everybody, Welcome to any pod. I'm Danny Vega, joined
by uh co do uh and uh. I can't do it.
I'm trying to remix your Barla Bla Barla and Radu
and Carla. Guys. Wow, I really you're because your guys
names are both a little bit uncommon. It's hard to

(00:25):
hold in my head. I guess Carlo is not that weird.

Speaker 2 (00:26):
He should have done Odar and.

Speaker 1 (00:28):
Al rock Ooh.

Speaker 3 (00:29):
I like that.

Speaker 1 (00:30):
I like that. It's gonna see you guys.

Speaker 3 (00:34):
Great to be seen.

Speaker 1 (00:41):
I have a big update for some long time listeners.
Sarah and I used to always have these giant cookies
in New York.

Speaker 4 (00:46):
You guys heard of Lavaine.

Speaker 1 (00:48):
They like invented these tremendous cookies with gooey interiors. And
I don't know, I just I've been cooking.

Speaker 4 (00:55):
I'm learning.

Speaker 1 (00:55):
I'm learning some domestic skills. Now I'm actually kind of
getting I'm not getting good yet, but I'm like learning.

Speaker 4 (01:01):
And I made Levene.

Speaker 1 (01:02):
Cookies, leven style cookies, and I gave them the people
and it made them really happy, and it made me happy.
And I ate some too.

Speaker 2 (01:10):
That's nice.

Speaker 3 (01:11):
Yeah, I know.

Speaker 2 (01:11):
First, the couch and the paintings. Now he's bacon. Yeah.

Speaker 4 (01:16):
I did not bring him last sign.

Speaker 3 (01:18):
No, because there were some big cookies around.

Speaker 1 (01:20):
Now, but those are big and flat. These are like, dude,
these are like thick. That's like at least an inch thick.
It's like a cookie loaf. Yeah, and the inside's gooey.
But you piss me off as you order Levan. They
come crunchy and old and they're not warm stale. You
need that gooey in it.

Speaker 2 (01:36):
Which you want to do eat it?

Speaker 1 (01:38):
Is you go to a Chili's or a sisslorer, you
get you a pizzukie. I do love, I love.

Speaker 2 (01:43):
What is that one? Is it bejs?

Speaker 1 (01:47):
Yeah? Yeah or whatever?

Speaker 3 (01:48):
Yeah, because I guess they changed based on where you
are in the US.

Speaker 4 (01:50):
So good with with a vanilla ice cream just sends it.

Speaker 2 (01:53):
You go to entree and appetizer in a puzzuki for
like sixteen bucks.

Speaker 1 (02:00):
Freaking deal. Let's go the other thing I was telling her,
I do about and I don't know if we talked
about this, Carla, but I have this theory of a
classic joke and don't And I know some people are saying,
like when Danny has comedy, friends got a comedy down,
shut out.

Speaker 2 (02:13):
Fine, Oh I thought that was the point.

Speaker 1 (02:15):
This is about. This is about a thing, which is like,
you know, if it's a if it's a woman's birthday,
you always say like happy twenty seventh birthday or whatever
because you don't want to.

Speaker 2 (02:28):
You know.

Speaker 1 (02:28):
It's a classic joke. She knows that you don't really
think she's twenty seven, you know, because she's my mom,
So how could she be twenty seven?

Speaker 4 (02:35):
That'd be crazy. That means I had her.

Speaker 1 (02:37):
That's that makes no sense.

Speaker 2 (02:38):
That's weird.

Speaker 1 (02:39):
But it's just a joke you make because you make
it because that's the situation. I'm trying to take another example.

Speaker 3 (02:45):
I make up my own view.

Speaker 1 (02:46):
I do.

Speaker 3 (02:46):
Whenever someone tells me any amount of time that's passed.
They're like, i've been at this for fourteen years ago,
Oh You're almost done, no matter what it is, got it.

Speaker 1 (02:54):
Yeah, we've been married for seven years, Oh you're almost done.

Speaker 2 (02:57):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (02:57):
Yeah, And it just always works.

Speaker 1 (02:59):
Yeah. Yeah. There's a right joke by a comic Andy Sandford,
and he says I'm in a I was. He's like
telling a story and he was like, yeah, during this time,
I was really going through a rough Patch, which I'm.

Speaker 4 (03:10):
Still currently in. Just kind of an inverse of your joke.

Speaker 2 (03:13):
Oh, I see, I don't know why I thought you
were gonna say, Andy Samberg, there's a Lonely Island version
of that joke somewhere.

Speaker 1 (03:19):
No, it's a totally different guy. But he gets really
annoyed when people call him that understandably.

Speaker 2 (03:24):
So of course what I say is happy twentieth anniversary
of your twenty first birthday or something like that.

Speaker 1 (03:31):
I like that. That's a kind of a restatement. I'm
just trying to think of it other on an old class.

Speaker 2 (03:36):
Yeah yeah, more math, Yeah, Or I got a wedding.

Speaker 1 (03:40):
You might say, you know, I can't wait till the
next wedding.

Speaker 3 (03:44):
It's just like yeah, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 1 (03:45):
It's going to calm up given the situation. And it's
not hacky because it's like so like obvious.

Speaker 4 (03:52):
It just kind of comes with it.

Speaker 1 (03:53):
It's a hard timing thing.

Speaker 4 (03:54):
It's a timing thing.

Speaker 1 (03:56):
Someone offers.

Speaker 3 (03:57):
Someone offers you like an egg, and you're like, I'm
trying to quit that. You offer someone anything, You offer
someone something in day you wanted to bring this.

Speaker 2 (04:07):
Magazine, Like when mom say what's the price of this? Oh,
there's no tax. It must be free.

Speaker 1 (04:13):
Must be free, you know, it must be free. That
crosses in a hack for me, because that's just annoying.
It's too frequent, and I think the frequency important. Yeah, okay,
So anyway, I wake up one day, I'm in a
hate you know you It's like, I haven't talked to anyone.
I'm just like, man, I'm listening to my music and
it's like and the trash guy stops me, like he
just kind of stoss and I'm like, what the fuck

(04:34):
are trying? And then he goes, I know we're gonna say.
I know we're gonna say, and then he grabs a
dirty old mattress on the street and he goes, but
I got here first, you know. So I was like, oh, yes,
and this and I was like, you bastard, that's mine
where he like loved And then I was like, how
often do you like do this joke?

Speaker 2 (04:54):
Man?

Speaker 1 (04:55):
He goes every day? And I was like, that's a
classic track, man, Joe, I love that, you know.

Speaker 2 (05:02):
Yeah, that's great. That's fun with their job.

Speaker 1 (05:05):
Yes, he's having fun out there, you know.

Speaker 2 (05:08):
And the fact that he admitted that he does it
every day is amazing too, because he's just like, Yeah,
this is what I do.

Speaker 1 (05:13):
What else is he gonna do?

Speaker 2 (05:14):
You know?

Speaker 1 (05:14):
It's that?

Speaker 4 (05:15):
Or smell the trash? I guess you so smell it.

Speaker 2 (05:19):
But what you don't know is that every time he
does it, he actually does keep that idea.

Speaker 1 (05:24):
He's a murder, he's a order. Oh my god, I
read this random Reddit post has been stuck in my
head all week. I don't know why, but it was
about a guy because I guess usually when I think
of a hoarder, do you guys imagine someone who lives alone,
like a recluse?

Speaker 3 (05:38):
Yeah, I mean just multiple cats counts alone.

Speaker 2 (05:41):
Yes, usually I don't necessarily think that because I think
two hoarders can live together.

Speaker 1 (05:47):
Well, I I guess when I am imagined. So this
was a story about a husband whose wife is a
hoarder and he's not No, he's not knowing. It's a
nightmare because she's But I liked it because he was
going into like the things she likes to acquire, and
one of her like categories was camping gear and towels.
Those were her like two like kind of hit. He's like,
we're a family of four and we have thirty towels.

Speaker 2 (06:09):
That doesn't I mean that's a lot.

Speaker 1 (06:11):
That's a lot.

Speaker 2 (06:12):
I wouldn't count that hoarding level thirty.

Speaker 1 (06:16):
Yeah, okay, let's just see the numbers on this. That's
about eight towels per person. I think that's well.

Speaker 2 (06:23):
Any of them beach towels.

Speaker 1 (06:25):
Let's say one. I think one beach towel per person.

Speaker 2 (06:29):
It's any of them cleaning towels.

Speaker 1 (06:31):
It's just like.

Speaker 3 (06:31):
Above average if you break it down to per person.

Speaker 2 (06:34):
That's what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (06:35):
I don't another Another thing was the camping gear. Its
weird four tenths and she goes, we we've camped maybe
twice in the last ten years. Four. I don't know
what to tell you. This person was a horder by
account of their husband. Nobody needs four tenths.

Speaker 2 (06:55):
I guess a hoarder. To me, as somebody who watches
extreme TV. It's like I have seventy tents and I
have never gone tended like camping. I have four thousand towels,
all have holes in them. Don't need these anymore. That's
hoarding to me.

Speaker 1 (07:13):
I think hoarding. I think hoarding becomes like TV worthy
when there's walkability.

Speaker 2 (07:18):
When there's sickness.

Speaker 1 (07:19):
Walkability is an issue in the hall. Can we walk
through your home?

Speaker 2 (07:24):
My best friend's dad is a hoarder and it hoards
electronics and instruments and anything that he's gone to any
arch show or anything, and he's like, oh, I could
use this at another festival that I throw.

Speaker 4 (07:38):
Oh I could do this, And are we at walkable levels?

Speaker 2 (07:41):
They used to not be so the house he had
designated hoarder spaces, so like they lived in a three
bedroom house, two of the bedrooms full where you couldn't
walk through it, full of stuff. He has like seventeen
tambourines and shit like that. Right now they live in
a big house where above the garage he has his
own studio, two car garage. The whole upstairs of that

(08:03):
area his to hoarding. So they're managing the hoarding to
a degree, but it's still a lot of stuff that
I'm like, I don't think you need four did redoce?

Speaker 3 (08:12):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (08:12):
I mean it depends on your space level too, Right,
if you have a freaking costco, you're kind of good
and like, good luck hording to that thing.

Speaker 4 (08:19):
But most people live in normal sized places.

Speaker 2 (08:22):
But is it still hoarding?

Speaker 3 (08:25):
Well, it's I think it's like kind of an American
or let's say Western phenomenon to call it hoarding. Even
collect if you're in like a depraved enough of a situation, country,
civil war, whatever, they're like, yeah, of course he needs
all that shit.

Speaker 1 (08:39):
Anything could go down exactly. Yeah, yeah, and then we
all got to go. Prepping is kind of hoarding, right, yeah,
you know, and I'm obsessed. I'm in the prepping subride
at all the time, and these guys are just always
I mean and honestly, I'm like a connoisseur of it.
So like some people be like, this is my prep
stash and it's like thirty cans and eight gallons of water.

(09:00):
I'm like, you are dead dog. I'm not even gonna
bother killing you this. There's there's proppers who have hundreds
of gallons, Like, bro, you're someone that is. Someone's like,
oh go, well we got a stash. It's like, bro,
what what is this?

Speaker 3 (09:13):
My favorite is when they're like they're not just like
we're preparing for the apocalypse or whatever. We took that.
We did this with credit cards and we believe the
system will fail by twenty fifteen, so like or whatever,
you know what, I mean like, yeah, they used to
used to be to show documentaries of those guys right
before twenty twelve.

Speaker 2 (09:28):
Yes, yes, oh my god, to talk about this.

Speaker 3 (09:30):
I don't know if we ever talked about it, but
I used to watch them all the time. They're we'll
see who's right.

Speaker 1 (09:34):
Wait, well, what's with the credit card? I credit?

Speaker 3 (09:35):
I thought the world's gonna end or they rapped up
credit card.

Speaker 1 (09:38):
So they're like, what, who cares.

Speaker 3 (09:39):
If we have ninety thousand dollars worth of debt or
some shit.

Speaker 2 (09:41):
It was a wife swap episode.

Speaker 1 (09:42):
I just watch literally, I see their standard for hoarding
is so high because right, it has to be on
TV for you, which is pretty hot.

Speaker 2 (09:51):
That's what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (09:51):
All sha can ruin your life?

Speaker 4 (09:53):
That is not TV worthy, I promise you.

Speaker 2 (09:55):
Sure, I'm sure, but you know I feel like so yeah,
the family was literally like doomsday preppers. They're like the
mind calendar says that, or as tech calendar. I think
it was mine calendar. They say that it's going to
end in December twelfth, twenty twelve or something like that.
And in all this debt that they collected, we.

Speaker 1 (10:14):
Got a lot of credits from Coals.

Speaker 3 (10:16):
Coals cash or Cole's rich.

Speaker 1 (10:18):
Coals will hold strong. Everything will be in shambles, but
coals will hold on.

Speaker 2 (10:22):
Do you know what my problem is? Like, even with
living in California and haven't kits emergency kits like earthquake
kits and stuff like that, like during COVID and stuff,
I started to be like, oh, maybe I should have
a kit. Maybe I should have my few gallons of
water to hold over until you figure out the rest
or whatever. My problem is. I have all these cans

(10:42):
of soup things of water. Two weeks later, I gotta
go grocery shopping and I'm like, or I could just
use this, It's already here.

Speaker 1 (10:53):
The emergency is my current life. Well, guys, we've got
a great little episode for you today, our second story.
ATA if I refuse to donate my PTO to a
coworker I know will die. But first, this one, this
one got some disagreement. I don't know, especially I don't

(11:14):
know what Babu is going to say on this, because
he loves a good scam. Ata for asking a kid
in a record store to put back a rare record
because I knew he.

Speaker 4 (11:22):
Was just going to resell it. Last weekend I'm still.

Speaker 1 (11:26):
Wondering if I was out of line. I thirty two
am was at a local record shop. I hit it
up pretty often.

Speaker 4 (11:31):
Small spot, real community vibe, lots of regulars.

Speaker 1 (11:34):
Well, I'm flipping through crates. I overhear this kid maybe
twenty on FaceTime with his mate. He's holding an original
UK pressing of Mad Villainy rare as hell these days,
especially in good condition with original pias hypesticker on it.
I don't know what that means, but it sounds legit.
He's saying stuff like, bro, this goes for like two

(11:54):
hundred pounds easy on Ebaya? How should I call? I
switched to British.

Speaker 2 (11:58):
I like that.

Speaker 1 (12:00):
He'said condition too. Ste got the hype stick at now. Look,
I get the hustle. But something about it just rubbed
me wrong. This wasn't some flipper event or a record faire.
It's a small indie shop. The owner price at low
fifty pounds on purpose. What is it called? Is it
europe pounds? Because it's the kind of place that tries
to hook up real collectors, so I said, probably with

(12:20):
the little salt. Hey man, if you're just grabbing that
to flip it online, maybe leave it for someone who
actually wants to listen to it. He laughs awkward to
awkwardly like, I mean, that's not really a business. After
a minute or two of awkward he put it back
and left without buying. And yeah, I bought it nice
fifty pounds for a record I've been after for years,

(12:42):
not to flip, not to stick on a wall. It's
spinning in my flat right now. Okay, enough of the
British shit like shut up flat.

Speaker 4 (12:49):
Later, the shop owner who knows me, just kind of.

Speaker 1 (12:51):
Laugh like bit savage Mike. Boy he's Australia for no reason,
but savage Mike, my mate says I was totally the
wrong I said, I said, I basically bullied a kid
out of a record just because I got there late
and didn't want to pay eBay prices. So a ta
for stepping in and copying it myself. And then he
posted a picture of the record.

Speaker 3 (13:11):
No we believed you?

Speaker 2 (13:13):
Is it mean here?

Speaker 1 (13:14):
Yeah, we believe. We didn't need a picture. It's an
MF Doom record. We totally believed you.

Speaker 4 (13:21):
Bro. Oh I see it.

Speaker 1 (13:23):
Oh it's actually it says post image upgrade to premium.
Should have paid for the plan, bro, but yeah, I
have a strong take on this, so hit me with it.

Speaker 2 (13:32):
Oh you want to hear us first?

Speaker 4 (13:33):
Well, yeah, I mean we could hear mine. We just
heard me.

Speaker 1 (13:36):
I mean for me, I'm like, yeah, you said something
too a guy. It was true and he didn't do it,
So I don't understand what's the issue. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (13:44):
I think it's interesting that he was all like white
knighting this store and then the store owners like who cares?
Like people are going to do it whether you know
it or not. I like it feels very back in
my day, Like that's how this guy come of came
off with.

Speaker 1 (14:01):
Do you guys like ticket scalpers?

Speaker 4 (14:03):
I understand it.

Speaker 3 (14:04):
Yeah, we all understand. I understand every I understand.

Speaker 1 (14:08):
Elonomy, baby, Like that's where the money's made. You ever
work for a company that wasn't involved in some kind
of big drifting.

Speaker 3 (14:15):
No, of course, of course it is. It's all of it,
But there's some part of it where you're like, oh,
because we're all doing this, because we're all of this mentality.
We've artificially inflated the price of things that at some
point where novel prices, and now at some point.

Speaker 1 (14:31):
You've actually priced that entire demographics.

Speaker 3 (14:33):
From enjoying this thing. Of course, of course, four kids
used to go to baseball games all the time. Now
you're like maybe a shitty regular season game when your
baseball team.

Speaker 1 (14:41):
Is how much is how much is a shitty the
most basic game at daughter Stadium.

Speaker 4 (14:45):
I don't know when I looked it up.

Speaker 3 (14:46):
Probably sixty to seventy bus I'm going to be sixty bucks. Yeah,
and there's eighty of those games. There used to be
I mean, like not that long ago. Under twenty years ago,
there would be like general admission for a dollar at
like most.

Speaker 1 (14:59):
Baseball I thought it was a little bar. Anyway.

Speaker 3 (15:01):
The part of it is obviously inflation in the economy,
the process thing's going up. The other part is just
the fact that like huge swaths of tickets will always
be bought. I don't care if it's a baseball game,
a Taylor Swift concert, whatever, by some motherfucker. His whole
job it is is to put a percentage on that
and then resell that product. Now, I hate this thing
that we all go down to like, well, we all
got to eat, so everyone's got kids go work for

(15:23):
the government. I'm not trying to hear that shit. I
get a post office job, because you're ruining society with
your we all got to eat nonsense. And that's what
this guy is feeling towards this record interesting.

Speaker 2 (15:33):
I feel that.

Speaker 3 (15:34):
He's like, you could be at a fucking warehouse right now,
learning about how your spine is going to hurt in
ten years or whatever. Instead you're over here fucking up
my hobby with your need.

Speaker 1 (15:44):
I mean, people are trying to get by, bro Like
I don't know what to tell you. Like some people
don't want to work in the wear, I don't see
you working in a warehouse.

Speaker 3 (15:50):
Here's why I say to the people trying to get by,
get together. If you want a better deal, organize with
one another, because you're not going to get it by
yourself scrimping and scraping.

Speaker 1 (16:00):
For me, this is toxic optimism.

Speaker 2 (16:02):
I mean, I feel like there's somewhere in between. Like
I always say, I feel like I understand both sides
of this as somebody who wants nice things for an
affordable price, and I do think that we should be
allowed to have that without having to fucking jump through hoops,
because in the world we live in now, you can

(16:23):
still have affordable things, but you got to figure out
how to fucking get them, like yeah, back on fucking
gas apps and taking out credit cards to get airline miles.
When you spend the money you're gonna.

Speaker 4 (16:35):
Spend any way, they need to do all.

Speaker 2 (16:38):
Traits to get the price that it should just fucking be,
and a lot of times people don't have the resource
to do that or the mentality or the space to
figure it out. So like I get it, and then
I'm a still like people go to thrist stores, get
all the brand name closed that people don't want to
know it, and then resell it, and that I feel
like is fucked up.

Speaker 5 (16:54):
But what else?

Speaker 1 (16:57):
I feel like what you're saying, you're because I don't
feel like we really probably disagree on this, because you're
kind of saying, like unionize all those things, and I'm like, yeah,
those are big picture things, but like for your average
Joe Schmoe, like it's not really on the table. I
have a good example. There's a guy on TikTok who
says this isn't scalping, and what he does is he'll
buy literally one thousand Lego sets and he'll hoard them

(17:20):
and not by Carlo standards, by Danny standards, that's a lot.
That's he will then he says, he waits like a
year or two, and then you can sell them on
Amazon for I guess like fifty percent markup, which is.

Speaker 3 (17:32):
A great ROI He'll try to tell you that's investing.
But you use the word hoarding. They're very like, well, hoarding,
I'm joking, but descriptively, No, it's not. I don't think
it's I think it's a joke. But it also like
if someone did that with stocks, with any other assets,
we would be like burned on the cross for calling
that hoarding.

Speaker 1 (17:48):
Well, that's what stocks are for.

Speaker 4 (17:50):
I mean it was a stock, isn't intangible.

Speaker 1 (17:52):
But like to me, I'm like, look, I'm not gonna
say that this is a legitimate business.

Speaker 4 (17:57):
To me, it's a form of scalping. Is it wrong?
I'm like, I don't, I don't care.

Speaker 1 (18:00):
Speculation. It's speculative activity, Yeah.

Speaker 2 (18:03):
Absolutely speculative. And also you still need a good amount
of money in order to do that, so that to
me feels dirty. Is like if you already have the
amount of money to do that and you're buying a
hundred legos, that's that's like thousands of dollars. I mean,
it's a year to maybe make money.

Speaker 4 (18:17):
It's a form of scalping.

Speaker 1 (18:18):
Really, I'm like, is it legit? I mean I don't
particularly like it. I don't respect it. But you're drifting
to make money, and that's just what it is now.
I mean, I have my own opinions about what stocks
are in the nature of most I mean, look, if
you're making money and not doing any work, it's like,
where are you Where do you think that's coming from.
It's coming from someone.

Speaker 3 (18:36):
In a system of winners and losers. If you're making
you're literally winning by absorbing dynamism.

Speaker 1 (18:41):
You're taking dynamic energy out of the system. And for me,
I've done this.

Speaker 3 (18:45):
And look the one caveat while you were talking, I
kind of realized. I was like, you know, a record
store is not really the entry point for music. It's
really where collectors go to be masturbatory or whatever. Because
if some kid was like I couldn't get into MF
Zoom because I didn't have fifty No steal that shit.

Speaker 1 (19:01):
You're supposed to steal every st you've ever listened to.

Speaker 3 (19:04):
But there is something about like, all right, if you
want to enhance your fandom, and get to the next level.

Speaker 1 (19:10):
This is only accessible to the rich anymore.

Speaker 3 (19:12):
You know, like people there used to be poor people
that collected cars. We had that was a trope. You're yeah,
fucking rednecks got nine never that will never happen again
ever while we're alive, because the supply and demand factors
basically necessitate that. You're like, no car, that's a fucking
moving stock right there. Right, everyone has to understand the Well.

Speaker 1 (19:32):
Everything's gone, everything's gotten tight, money's got a lot tighter
for everyone. I mean, it's just it's crazy. Nonetheless, I
don't think there's anything wrong with this. I'm like, yeah,
you said something to a kid, and yeah, maybe he
wouldn't have said it to an older guy. But I'm like, yeah,
so he's a kid and you scared him off, and
that's it. It's like nothing interaction. I wonder what that interaction.

Speaker 2 (19:52):
I wonder how this has impacted the kid since then.
I wonder if he still thinks about that and considers
it whenever he's about to buy something to sell it.

Speaker 1 (19:59):
Well, I I don't think it's like, I mean, there
is a spectrum and you're right, like, there's a guy
here who does what you just said, which is like,
I mean, there's there's a line, but like, yeah, he'll
he thrifts, he thrifts to find interesting shit to resell
a huge markup.

Speaker 2 (20:12):
Yeah, that's like a States sales Even people you know
it's are wrong.

Speaker 1 (20:15):
I'm just like, to me, it's that curage wars. There's curation. Wow,
we're really on a TV kick with you today. There's
like curation, right, because it's like, well, if you trust
him and trust his taste, that's kind of cool. But
like for me, the lego thing is like kind of
farther toward the scalper spectrum, you know, where it's like
you're not really adding anything.

Speaker 2 (20:32):
Look, well, it feels like collectible people who keep their
collectibles in boxes to sell them like twenty years down
the line, like that.

Speaker 4 (20:38):
Yeah, collector, that's kind of yeah.

Speaker 3 (20:40):
It's also something about the fact that like he made
his intention public, you know what I mean, This guy's
not facetiming.

Speaker 1 (20:47):
Yeah, isn't a kind of an asshole move for.

Speaker 2 (20:52):
You go to Walmart and then look up the price
somewhere else on our phones and be like, well it's
cheaper this other people, Well no.

Speaker 1 (20:58):
But that's not looking it up, he's on face.

Speaker 2 (21:00):
Yeah, yeah, he's like, hey, bro, I just mean like
you're we're not hiding the intention that we just want
the best deal.

Speaker 4 (21:06):
Yeah, my broadcast is intent to flip.

Speaker 1 (21:09):
And it's like, well yeah, and then someone called you
out like you were stupid enough to broadcast you are
being discreet?

Speaker 2 (21:13):
Oh that's what you were saying.

Speaker 3 (21:15):
Yeah, because I drive to this. It's like I have
friends of a lot of different kinds of politics, and
people go, how can you hang out with people with
bad politics? Well, the people that hang out that that
are conservative or whatever, they are kind of ashamed of
it because they know it's sort of a self serving
ideology or like this is much more in my self
interest or something. What we all hate are the ones
who are like loud about it and they're like, I

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want to be greedy and you should be fine with it,
you know what I mean. That's when it's fucking annoying.

Speaker 1 (21:40):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (21:40):
So it's like you're allowed to be a self serving
piece of shit.

Speaker 1 (21:42):
You gotta be quiet about it.

Speaker 3 (21:45):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (21:46):
That's where the.

Speaker 3 (21:47):
Social contract comes in and people are like, well, now
I'm allowed to be like I'm going to organize people
against you to eat your family or whatever you know,
or make you think that's the threat or whatever it is.

Speaker 2 (21:56):
Right, well, that's what makes this kid nineteen or twenty.
He doesn't have a frontal little developed yet, so he
hasn't learned that yet. And this guy just taught him that.
Next time, he's not gonna say.

Speaker 1 (22:05):
It out loud.

Speaker 2 (22:06):
He's just going to buy the record.

Speaker 3 (22:08):
Yes, it is only coast him one hundred and fifty quid.

Speaker 4 (22:11):
It's one of those things you don't say.

Speaker 1 (22:13):
Nonetheless, a tay for asking a kid in a record
store to put back a rare record because I knew
he was just going to resell it. Say no assholes here.

Speaker 2 (22:20):
I was going to say, imagine, this was just one
giant grift, where like the nineteen year old was actually
working for the record store and the record's only worth
twenty five dollars right now, he's.

Speaker 1 (22:29):
There to make the prices higher. The up he actually
edited and said he brought the record back, and I'm like, bro,
you need to grow s mind. Why did he.

Speaker 2 (22:37):
Bring it back?

Speaker 5 (22:37):
I don't know.

Speaker 2 (22:38):
After he's like, I already listened to it, so I'm
done with it.

Speaker 1 (22:43):
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Speaker 2 (23:03):
Help him, help him hoard followers.

Speaker 1 (23:07):
Yeah, I'm hoarding. I think it's pretty walkable on here. Okay,
I'm I'm.

Speaker 2 (23:11):
So happy you have things to walk around in here.

Speaker 1 (23:14):
I think we do. I think we I mean, I
think retail therapy is a form of hoarding. And I
realized it's just such a myth. It's the anticipation of
the thing. But then I always get the thing, and
I'm like, I don thing, just a thing. It doesn't
do much.

Speaker 2 (23:27):
Yeah, you do a little horse stuff.

Speaker 1 (23:30):
Yeah, yeah, I do like Horses' funny.

Speaker 2 (23:34):
To the horse breeding earlier that I loved a.

Speaker 1 (23:36):
Horse breeding freelancer that was on the bonus episode. So
you got to pay to listen if you want to
hear about this. But I like a horse because I
think they're funny because they're they're bigger than us. But
then they're docile. Yeah, it's weird, like docile, really mean docile,
like you can if you yell at a horse, it'll
be like sad.

Speaker 2 (23:56):
I feel like horses are very aggressive and can control
it anymore.

Speaker 1 (24:00):
It can be.

Speaker 3 (24:00):
But compared to like let's say, like a rhino or
something that you can never domesticate.

Speaker 1 (24:05):
Compared to a rhino, bro compared to a goose.

Speaker 3 (24:06):
Hippos look friendly. One's like, oh that's a fun like whatever,
and they kill people all the time.

Speaker 1 (24:11):
Hippos are fucking awesome. Hippo can just straight up crunch
of watermelon.

Speaker 3 (24:15):
Yeah, it should be how we put people to death
that I'd watch.

Speaker 4 (24:19):
The hungry Hungry Hippos.

Speaker 3 (24:21):
We have this like bullshit lethal injection firing squad where
like feet.

Speaker 1 (24:25):
It to people will do that. Also have no credits
besides hungry Hungry hippos. Nobody talks about them.

Speaker 2 (24:33):
Well, you know, I do think hungry hungry hippos is
the form of hoarding as well the game.

Speaker 4 (24:39):
What do you mean going on.

Speaker 1 (24:44):
Any other credits?

Speaker 3 (24:44):
Nobody talks about hippos use mud as like sunscreen or something.

Speaker 1 (24:48):
They're like one of those animals, but they have no
pop culture.

Speaker 3 (24:51):
Oh yeah, moodang that.

Speaker 1 (24:54):
Was big for hippos.

Speaker 2 (24:57):
We're on the mat I fucking lover her. She's all
like little and slimy and like wet all the time.

Speaker 3 (25:02):
What was that, you guys? Dream job from the Patreon episode,
He's his whole job is to hunt and kill moodang
Oh no, he's trying to make a moodang much.

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AI TA if I refuse to donate my PTO to
a coworker I know will die. I work healthware, I
work healthcare. Our department's close.

Speaker 4 (26:24):
Not much drama.

Speaker 1 (26:25):
Are beef.

Speaker 4 (26:26):
One of our ladies has cancer.

Speaker 1 (26:28):
Docs haven't given her the absolute certainty she's terminal, but
with her age and other issues, she's gonna croak. Everyone's
been very supportive, but we all know where this is going.
We are not fond of each other, but I keep
it professional and I've expressed my feelings of sadness for
her situation. Many of the hospital staff, nearly everyone in
our department has donated paid leave for her to take
time off and spend with her family. She used hers

(26:50):
regularly and has almost none apparently except me. I haven't
donated PTO. People will ask why, and yeah, I just
don't want to. I feel like it's it away for
an outcome I'm all but certain will happen. I'm not
saving it for any particular reason. People in her circle
I'll started talking about how I'm not actually sympathetic to
her situation and mumbling little things here and there. I

(27:11):
usually just tell them straight up, it's a waste for
me to give it to someone who I don't believe
will give them more time to live. Just spend what
time you have left with family and friends and be thankful.
I'm unaware of her finances, and frankly doesn't concern me.
My employer isn't making a no new donates. It's just
a group of people that started a sign up sheet
type of thing for her, probably to be given to
her later.

Speaker 3 (27:29):
And whoof, Yeah, this is a weird one.

Speaker 1 (27:34):
I thought it was such a no brainer. I mean, really, yeah,
donate right away. Z.

Speaker 4 (27:40):
I'm not gonna get my answer.

Speaker 2 (27:41):
I guess no Danny's answer, And I'm just gonna go
ahead and be me and say that. Like, I'm thinking
about the different layers of this. Is it we judging
because I feel like she's kind of being an asshole here.
I don't think it's an asshole move to not give
up your PTO that's just yours. But I think it's
an asshole for you to be like, well, she's gonna
die anyway, when in reality, you don't want to give
up your PTO. You literally just said you don't like her.

(28:05):
I don't think it's a personal thing like the liking her,
but it's like, you don't want to give up your PTO.

Speaker 1 (28:09):
That's what dying.

Speaker 4 (28:11):
No further questions.

Speaker 1 (28:13):
It's my PTO.

Speaker 4 (28:14):
I don't like her, and that's it.

Speaker 1 (28:15):
I don't have to give it up. Why don't the
hospital give her more days and then?

Speaker 2 (28:18):
But then for her to be like, just enjoy what
you have left with your family and friends is like
while she's at work, like you got no.

Speaker 1 (28:25):
I think she's explained that to us, but she didn't
say that to anybody.

Speaker 4 (28:28):
She didn't. She doesn't not like she actually did anything bad.

Speaker 2 (28:30):
She's someone working. Quit your job.

Speaker 3 (28:33):
Do banks when you go and take out like crazy loans?
Do banks like verify if you have cancer or something?

Speaker 1 (28:40):
I don't know.

Speaker 4 (28:40):
I don't think so okay, because that think that's illegal.
Yeah you can't. You can't medical.

Speaker 3 (28:44):
Role When I'm terminal, I'm gonna die in six months.

Speaker 1 (28:47):
Who gives a ship and they won't know?

Speaker 3 (28:48):
That's what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (28:49):
You're saying rack it up.

Speaker 3 (28:50):
Why are you making your secretary coworker like give me
one of your days.

Speaker 1 (28:58):
I almost told this story so on my time, there's
this there's this Russian comic I knew, and he actually
I think he floundered as a comic because he didn't
actually enjoy making people laugh. He liked to make people upset.

Speaker 3 (29:07):
Which would be a thing.

Speaker 1 (29:08):
Finally, and anyway, what this guy did was he's like
just totally he's rushing as fuck, and he just got
like ten credit cards to the max cash advance and
that's it. And he just ruined his credit.

Speaker 4 (29:19):
For like twenty grand. And I'm like, I gotta love that.

Speaker 2 (29:22):
But the money, use it, just use it.

Speaker 3 (29:25):
Also, he only ruined his credit for seven years. That's
another fun that's not a bad deal.

Speaker 1 (29:30):
You can get.

Speaker 3 (29:30):
You can get all like if you contact all of
them or something or whatever. Stuff can be removed from
your credit report after file for bank.

Speaker 1 (29:37):
Yeah, I think that's bankruptcy.

Speaker 3 (29:39):
But twenty grand will not last.

Speaker 1 (29:41):
Twenty years, not at all. I just like, yeah, I
agree with you, Carl. Her reasons aren't great. I would
just be it's as simple as this. It's my pdo
and conversation I'll have to explain it and like, yeah,
for me, this always goes back to the system. I'm like, yeah,
you work for a hospital which has much money, and
like whatso they don't make an exception, So why is

(30:02):
it on me? Why is not fucking on me? It's
not on me.

Speaker 2 (30:04):
I mean the other thing being that you literally get
what two weeks out of a fucking year.

Speaker 1 (30:09):
Crazy, I'm not giving that up.

Speaker 2 (30:11):
If I'm working full time, that's taking away from my
time with my fams and friends, examily, with my kids,
my vacation to Puerto Rico. Like ma'am, I'm sorry, but no.
I would be this woman, not in the way that
she's approaching it, but I definitely would be like, you know,
people like we're donating our PTO. I'd be like, oh
my god, that's so nice of you guys.

Speaker 1 (30:33):
I would. I would Larry David. I would.

Speaker 3 (30:35):
I would make up a lie that like could blow
up in my face, but would make like, why is
she doing your PTO?

Speaker 1 (30:39):
Oh?

Speaker 3 (30:40):
I have to use that PTO to go to a
different country to donate my kidney my relative. So honestly,
if I don't use the PTO, it's like we're killing
two people.

Speaker 1 (30:49):
I'm jealous. I'm jealous of you guys. Are I really
can't good? I actually have no kidneys, don't I do?
Dialysis is extremely painful, not to mention.

Speaker 2 (31:00):
The emergency factor. Anything could happen to you where you're
gonna need that PTO as well.

Speaker 3 (31:05):
And you know the hospital's not gonna hook you up.
They're gonna make you ask for your friends.

Speaker 2 (31:08):
I think they're like, sorry, you already gave.

Speaker 4 (31:11):
I'm gonna get in trouble for this, but I was
just gonna say.

Speaker 1 (31:13):
I think a lot of healthcare people are kind of
in It's very there can be, there can be not
all healthcare people, not all healthcare people, but like it's
a self sacrificing thing, and it's like, now I don't
have to sacrifice myself, Like I don't.

Speaker 2 (31:25):
Yeah, yeah, you already are by being a healthcare worker.

Speaker 1 (31:28):
I know, right. I think that's also so many people
are not a healthcare worker at all.

Speaker 3 (31:31):
For other people. They're there because they're like, look, it's
a brutal job that most people don't want to do,
so it's paid a little better than other similar work.

Speaker 4 (31:39):
It's really I I know someone who is like whatever, you.

Speaker 1 (31:42):
Know, there's all these like sub there's all these weird
ones like physicians assistant. There's like a bunch of weird
riffs on like nurse and ship.

Speaker 3 (31:50):
The other one is like, yeah, I got three certificates,
but it doesn't exist anymore.

Speaker 1 (31:59):
The physician in physician assistant.

Speaker 2 (32:03):
Is basically the doctor.

Speaker 3 (32:04):
Yeah, yeah, no, but they do gal.

Speaker 2 (32:09):
You're seeing a physician's assistant at the time, yeah, or
saying like knowledge wise, I'm saying when you go to
the oh you paid, getting paid what doctors get paid?
Because they're doing what the doctor would be doing.

Speaker 1 (32:20):
As someone who's had two surgeries, I love in my
surgeon is just like I always say like, is this
interesting at all to you? And they're like, no, it's
so boring. I've done like fifteen thousands of these. I
might please do it to me, daddy, Yeah, just the best,
just be no. And then my surgeon recently said this
and I was like, fuck you. He goes, I remember
I remember your nose. I was like, no, you don't,
you liar. You told me to fifteen thousand, there's no way,

(32:44):
but you were.

Speaker 2 (32:44):
Recent so it's just like recent years ago was.

Speaker 1 (32:47):
Three months ago. I'm like, you remember my nostril. Bro like,
eat one of my buggers. Then, you fucking liar, don't
try to flatter me.

Speaker 2 (32:57):
Said he remembered it for a good reason, that.

Speaker 1 (32:59):
It was a fucking crazy now, that's what he said.
He's like, yeah, I was really bad.

Speaker 4 (33:02):
I was like, you didn't say that. No, but he's
saying that after he did.

Speaker 1 (33:04):
Before.

Speaker 2 (33:05):
What he didn't tell you is that when you were
under he actually looked at your penis.

Speaker 1 (33:09):
No, actually I did have some weird soreness after it
was kind of it was kind of sus No, and
then what I'll said, he say, oh, yeah, every time
he looked at my nose, He's like perfect. Perfect.

Speaker 4 (33:20):
I'm like, okay, we get it, You've done good.

Speaker 1 (33:22):
What do you want? What do you want from me?
You don't understand.

Speaker 4 (33:25):
I'm actually this is kind of embarrassing.

Speaker 1 (33:26):
But I've actually really been picking my nose a lot
since then, because it's kind of like, you know, you're
in there. Yeah, I've got different kind of boogies anyway. Sorry,
there's people who hate boogers. But what were we talking about?

Speaker 2 (33:39):
PTO?

Speaker 1 (33:41):
Yeah, why is it on her? Come on enough, like
the hospital should make an exception or whatever. She's not
even officially dying yet.

Speaker 3 (33:48):
I'll help you steal from work, but I'm not giving
you my time off.

Speaker 1 (33:51):
That's crazy crazy.

Speaker 2 (33:52):
Like this is equivalent to like when people shame you
for not donating to the flowers for Condole or something
like that, or like a birthday gift and stuff like that.
You know, we're twenty dollars each.

Speaker 1 (34:06):
I think it's equivalent to when you, you know, when you
go to the big grocery store and they say, would
you like to donate to kids? Round up to donate?
Why don't you round up a round up. I don't
have a whole store. If I had this much into
my house, Carla would call me a hoarder. You have
it all here for sale or making money, that's right,
It's like ridiculous.

Speaker 3 (34:24):
This is a great point, Antia.

Speaker 1 (34:26):
If I refuse to donate my PTO to a coworker
I know will die, I actually kind of do. I
actually think you nailed that, Carla. I think some people
struggle to just be like, no, I don't want to
do it.

Speaker 3 (34:37):
It's not a period yeah.

Speaker 1 (34:39):
And then they keep talking. That's what makes it and
assle makes them sound like an asshole. I'm like no.
All you have to say is like I don't want
to and it's mine. Yeah, but I'm still a no,
I'm had.

Speaker 4 (34:48):
No assholes here.

Speaker 1 (34:49):
She's not an asshole for dying asshole or being going
to be dead. It's unfortunate. No assholes here, No assholes yet,
No assholes yet. I like that, all right? Hey, no
as yet. It's like a horse.

Speaker 3 (35:02):
Yeah. There we pe to a future legend though.

Speaker 1 (35:05):
Now this one is great. I feel like we've come
here before, because what do we do? We did the
one with the little mannequins.

Speaker 2 (35:11):
Oh, the clown, the clown.

Speaker 1 (35:13):
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Speaker 1 (35:33):
Yeah, I mean that could be arranged. That's on hatred,
that's on Hatreon. Wow, that's the worst joke I've ever
heard about her. The man misses man missus. I thought
he couldn't miss all right, we're up a ta for
telling my girlfriend her home deck core is the reason
I won't host the work gathering at her place. I'm
m thirty two, girlfriend f twenty nine.

Speaker 4 (35:56):
Been together a year.

Speaker 1 (35:57):
She's smart, funny, a bit quirky, has a serious job
with a good salary. Well, thank god, it's serious. We
have a great time together and generally get along. The
only thing is her choice in home decor. It's bizarre
and it's not something you'd think a normal grown adult
would be into. Her apartment is definitely a reflection of
herself and interests. Not in the best way, though. She

(36:19):
has a wall dedicated to animation in one room, Futurama
pieces and etchings of some weird triangle guy. Fuck is that?
Then there's a wall of framed preserved insects. Yeah, of course,
tarantula's beetles and large stick insects. I like the large
stick insects. Let me say that her bathroom has a

(36:41):
subtle theme of ocean. Pretty common, but instead of starfish
or shells, she has a little anglerfish nightlight, a small
vampiric squid painting, and then a framed diagram of what
apparently is a goblin shark by the toilet. I would
say a majority of her home decor and furnishings are okay,
and the apartment's modern in sleek. It's it's the random
decor and juvenile themes like cartoons, insects, and ocean creatures

(37:04):
is off putting.

Speaker 4 (37:05):
So I avoid bringing people over to.

Speaker 1 (37:07):
Her place, especially people for my job, because of how
juvenile it looks. Everyone's impressed when they see the high rise,
but that fades once you enter. My office will hold
casual gatherings. We get together for food. We rotate hosts.
My girlfriend suggested we host my colleagues here since she
has a space. I told her I planned on skipping

(37:27):
my part of the rotation, seeing if the next person
would be okay. She kept pressing. Finally, I said it's
because her home to core is strange and not something
a grown woman would have, and also that her insects
wall horrified. One colleague that did come over. My girlfriend
got mad and said, at the end of the day,
it's not my space and these things bring her joy.
She also said that she is indeed an adult woman,

(37:49):
which is exactly why her apartment is decorated in such
a manner. I love her, I do, and it's okay
to have different interests, but does an adult really need
to decorate with them besides a few things here and there.
I mean, my own mother asked if my girlfriend was
autistic after she saw the entire apartment for the first time.

Speaker 4 (38:05):
Oh my gosh, so ai ta.

Speaker 3 (38:09):
I mean it's a little tricky, but like, what why
does why does an adult have to have any standard
of anything? Yeah, if it's not like whatever behavioral norm
or you know, canconsider it to anybody else or whatever,
Like I don't give a shit that you're dressed in
Mega Man Hello kitty stuff or whatever or covered in
bugs bug wall.

Speaker 2 (38:32):
I think that she said it where she was like,
this is my apartment and I get to decorate it
the way I want. It's like, yep, that's valid. I
just don't want to have my work party here.

Speaker 1 (38:40):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (38:42):
I am not a big I'm not a big you
should lie kind of thing. But he could he could
have just avoided this whole situation by being like Timmy
asked me to switch with him. That's it. I'm not
going to be doing the hosting this time around until
and you keep lying until you have your apartment bag
and then you have your party at your apartment and
that's that.

Speaker 3 (39:02):
Is it possible though, that you can be like I
have to I'm going to say something and I feel
like it's true for me, and it might be, but
I'm upset that I have to say, Like I'm ashamed
a little bit to say it. It's uncomfortable. I like,
that's the situation. Yes, I wouldn't necessarily lie, because that
can that can blow up in your face with who
knows all kinds of unintended situations.

Speaker 2 (39:20):
I don't know. I feel like this is a nice
little white lie personally, because if you're where you're moving
in together, you're moving in together, then you have to
talk about the dcor. But this is her space. There's
no reason to make her feel bad about where she
lives on that she might.

Speaker 1 (39:35):
Get to go to other parties if they're hosting it
rotation style or whatever.

Speaker 3 (39:39):
Why would never do to your house?

Speaker 1 (39:41):
And then she's like, I.

Speaker 2 (39:41):
Don't know because you don't work here.

Speaker 1 (39:45):
Well, the thing my issue is that this is the
way he's judging her is what I don't like.

Speaker 2 (39:50):
I don't like that.

Speaker 1 (39:51):
That's what's not okay. If he said more rott war
I said if he was just like, I'm gonna be honest,
I'm insecure. I'm insecure, and I fear my my fellow
coworkers impression of me and how it will reflect on
me that you have your eccentric decorations and it's my
own personal shortcoming. And so because of that, I don't

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feel comfortable having people here, and I'm working on it.

Speaker 4 (40:16):
I'd be like, that's that's really clean.

Speaker 1 (40:18):
I get it. It is a little bit quirky, you know.

Speaker 2 (40:21):
Yeah, that's a mature response for sure.

Speaker 1 (40:24):
But the fact that he keeps saying a grown woman
won't do this, and I'm like, no, a grown woman
definitely would. This is honestly like pretty low bar for
weird too. I'm like, you need to watch more TV.

Speaker 2 (40:33):
Also at once, At what age does an adult like
children don't have their own places, so like only adults
can decorate the way they want. What age does a
child get their environment and get to do things like that?

Speaker 1 (40:48):
Like, well, I just don't like, I'm like, yeah, if
she had like eight snakes, you know, it's like that's
a lot. That's scary, that's you know, I don't know,
They're like there's like, I feel like we've done a
lot of no members of things in this episode.

Speaker 6 (41:02):
She had one hundred snakes, but like, yeah, I feel
like the fact that he's basically implying that there's something
wrong with her for having these tastes and I'm like, no,
it's not your taste, which is okay, and you're insecure,
but like, I don't know.

Speaker 1 (41:18):
There's that book. There's a self help book that's trending
right now called let Them, And I'm like, yeah, of
course people are going to judge you. They're going to
judge you. People would judge me for my horses and
shit here whatever.

Speaker 2 (41:29):
I just feel like there's like a disconnect here where
if he feels this first of all, the first disconnect
that I'm not getting is that if she's that much
of a fan of these things, like does that not
bleed into her personality? And then like who she is
around him, Like how does this situation just equate to
being an apartment situation and not like who she is altogether?

Speaker 1 (41:52):
Yeah, I mean it sounds I mean, honestly, when the
more he described the bath okay, the dings on the bathroom,
she has an angler fan night, like this awesome honestly.

Speaker 3 (42:03):
Well also it's like that's not overwhelmed, but combined with
a portrait of a goblin sharp.

Speaker 6 (42:08):
Oh my god, one of the framed diagram.

Speaker 1 (42:13):
Like there's three objects, man, you named three objects? Like,
I don't know what's the issue. Yeah, it's just like
not if.

Speaker 3 (42:21):
You guys did you We probably didn't have it. Did
your parents ever have a bug collection or anything?

Speaker 1 (42:26):
No? Man, what you know?

Speaker 3 (42:27):
That was like a trope though in TV in like
like nerds were known for having bug collections or.

Speaker 1 (42:33):
Something of like those glass those wooden boxes.

Speaker 3 (42:36):
Wooden boxes with yeah, okay, so like that they're pinned.
That was like a nerd trope in the fifties through
seventies here, but in Romania everybody had one, like every
I don't care, Jock's nerds whatever. Bugs Yeah, and the
school made you do it, usually a bug collection. And
I was always like, what the fuck was this about?
And you're like O, because bugs are free, they're free

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to make people do.

Speaker 2 (42:59):
Stuff like them by like catching them.

Speaker 3 (43:02):
I fucked up. You can't catch them and then you
kill them. You like you shove a pin through it
and then you know, you put it. You put a
little label that says Ladybug or whatever.

Speaker 2 (43:11):
It's kind of sad.

Speaker 3 (43:12):
Yeah, Ladybug.

Speaker 1 (43:17):
Maybe they preserve them with something too.

Speaker 2 (43:19):
I don't know, No, I definitely have heard of that.
For me, it was the tropes of being Puerto Rican,
so like the one thing my parents always had up
that I was like, like, my friends are gonna come over,
and now I love it. It's like those signs that
are like parkings, and it's like those parking signs that
are just like you can only park your your Puerto Rican,

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but they look like the cheesiest, like stereotypical trope of
a Puerto Rican fa right sign right.

Speaker 3 (43:48):
The only Puerto Rican trope I know is that song
from West Side Story It's Fun where she's like, I
want to be in America.

Speaker 2 (43:56):
I want to be in a Medica.

Speaker 1 (43:58):
Yeah, I think too.

Speaker 2 (44:00):
You know.

Speaker 1 (44:00):
So going back to your white lie idea, I think
if it was early in the relationship, he's just gonna
get a little heavy, so I would be okay with
a white life. It was like we're two months in
and I was like, I don't want to even get
into this with you that I'm a little bit like insecure,
like I'm afraid of how it will be conveyed.

Speaker 2 (44:19):
I don't think guys thinking this. I think you're very
emotionally mature in this man. Maybe that's what's happening, but
he is not present to that. What do you mean,
I don't think he's doing I think he's Yeah, he's
worried about his coworkers judging him for it, But I
don't think he sees himself as insecure for that.

Speaker 4 (44:38):
I think he just he doesn't know it, but.

Speaker 1 (44:42):
He doesn't know it's production. Yeah, he's making it about her.
It's easier for him to label her as immature and
judge what she does as inappropriate or wrong than it
is for him to realize that it's actually his own
inadequacy and lack of ability to just be do this constantly.

Speaker 3 (45:01):
Yeah, his values also just like bleed through with his
statements where he's like, people are impressed by the high
rise at first, but then they see her being herself,
you know, and they're like whatever. So it's like, oh,
so not only are you kind of dogshit, you also
surround yourself with vapid people. Yeah, to have the same
similar values.

Speaker 1 (45:18):
And yeah, possibly or he only sees the epidot, you know,
the vapidness in that because he's just he's kind of
being shallow himself, you know, Like I don't know. There's
a book I like a lot which is called The
Courage to Be Disliked, And it's just made me realize, like, yes,
or people are not gonna like you, and that's good.
You want that. If everyone likes you, then you're you're
probably just super fake and shallow all the time because

(45:40):
you're gonna lose people, real ones, people with entirety. Of course,
people are not gonna like you because you're gonna do
this sometimes you sometimes you want someone not to like
you because you're gonna stand up for someone against someone
who's being shitty or whatever. Right, It's like the people
who try to be perfect peacekeepers are actually assholes in
a different way because it's like, well, you have no entirety,
you won't stand up for anything.

Speaker 2 (46:00):
Mm hmmm, mm hmmm. They say, if you don't stand
up for something, you'll fall for anything.

Speaker 1 (46:05):
If you don't stand up for a fucking bug wall,
then you're gonna fall for a frame diagram of a
goblin shark. It's by the toilet.

Speaker 3 (46:15):
It is funny. It's like my mom is asked if
my girlfriend's autistic. Yeah, your girlfriend's clearly autistic, and you're
being a dick about it.

Speaker 1 (46:24):
I mean, I feel like we throw that out so constantly.
I feel like she's, honestly, I mean, for based on
this description, nerd. Yeah, I mean she got a couple
of walls.

Speaker 2 (46:34):
She's a nerd.

Speaker 1 (46:35):
I don't even know. Yeah, a couple couple nerdy walls,
No big deal.

Speaker 2 (46:39):
Yeah, has he look at your wall?

Speaker 1 (46:41):
My walls are all blank? Yeah?

Speaker 2 (46:43):
I got the fireplace ledge, that's.

Speaker 1 (46:46):
All I got. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (46:49):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (46:49):
Calling everything juvenile, I'm like, I don't know.

Speaker 1 (46:52):
That, right.

Speaker 3 (46:54):
If her apartment was like Florida ceiling decorated and like
Catholic ship, you know what I mean, Catholic ship, Yeah,
like icons everywhere, little rosary whatever. To me, I'm like,
I feel like that would be juvenile. I would never
be able to tell that to somebody that was immensely
disrespectful whatever, right, Right, But it's the same thing. It's
like you're just picking a thing you don't like and

(47:16):
be like, you shouldn't be doing that.

Speaker 1 (47:17):
Yeah, exactly. It's it's judging something that you personally don't
align with to be juvenile, which I think is really unfair,
which insects and bizarre ocean creatures.

Speaker 2 (47:29):
I think it would be worse if it was like basic,
if all of this was basic, Oh my god, basic
ocean creatures like fucking yeah, like doll like that. I
would be more embarrassed. It's you kitchy, unique, live.

Speaker 3 (47:43):
Laugh love stuff exactly.

Speaker 1 (47:45):
That's what I was gonna say. Thatches me out.

Speaker 3 (47:49):
We praise goblin sharks.

Speaker 1 (47:52):
That would kill me.

Speaker 4 (47:53):
I'd be and this. We praise goblin sharks and be like,
I love it.

Speaker 2 (47:57):
I'm literally going to google angler fish night like.

Speaker 1 (48:00):
You're gonna get it. I like those little angler fish.
They're down there, you know. And what do their animals
have lights? It's kind of cool fireflies? Yeah. Do they
funk with those? What's up with that is saying that?

Speaker 2 (48:15):
I think?

Speaker 5 (48:16):
So?

Speaker 1 (48:16):
Yeah, freaky.

Speaker 4 (48:17):
I got my light out for you, babe, you light
me up.

Speaker 2 (48:22):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (48:22):
I like those deep sea animals because they're just down
They're not bothering me.

Speaker 1 (48:26):
You know, people are, Oh, they're so scary. You're not.

Speaker 4 (48:28):
They're not.

Speaker 1 (48:28):
Are you gonna even get down there? I think that's hell.
Oh you think hell is in the deep. I think
the bottom of.

Speaker 3 (48:35):
The ocean is interesting. I mean, I don't think hell exists.
I think that all the depictions that we have of
demons in hell it's just from people having seen fish.
Just imagine how they live. Because fish, Look, you ever
pulled a fish out of the water. It's demonic. It's
like the scariest fucking thing they have.

Speaker 1 (48:52):
They have a vacuuate. There's not a lot of work,
there's no emotion or whatever. Yeah, they got no emotional
make up. That thing.

Speaker 3 (48:58):
Like, they don't feel pain.

Speaker 1 (48:59):
You're like, they everything that's everything feels pain. That's that's
crazy to me. But dolphins, I do feel like they smile,
but those are mammals, so they don't really count.

Speaker 3 (49:08):
Ovens are bad. They're like, actually they do fucked up shit.
Intelligent and they do fucked up ship. Isn't that crazy.
The more intelligent animal is, the more you're like, you know,
but they do bad stuff with that.

Speaker 1 (49:19):
That's what intelligence is, the ability to do bad stuff
in addition to good stuff.

Speaker 2 (49:24):
Anglerfish, to me, this.

Speaker 1 (49:26):
Is a thing of taste, and you don't have to
agree with someone's taste, and other people might disagree with it,
but like, I don't know, it's very it's shallow. It's
really shallow. Because there's people who I think have terrible
or no, actually, there's someone I know whose taste I
don't like, but I can appreciate it. Does that make sense?
Like I don't like to look at it. It's not

(49:47):
attractive to me. It's their own world. Yes, Like I
recognize the craftsmanship in it, and I'm like, okay, like
I I I I don't personally enjoy looking at it, really,
but I think it's cool that they've curated it.

Speaker 2 (49:59):
Does that example you.

Speaker 1 (50:01):
Like, this is someone who dresses in a way that
I don't. To me, it's gaudy or it's too much.
But I'm like, you're I don't. There's a coherence to
what they have that you don't. I don't. I'm very
more like understated and minimal because I don't like any

(50:24):
kind of like look at me, that's gross to me.
That's my personal taste. Keep it simple, but you know you.

Speaker 3 (50:32):
Let your personality do all that.

Speaker 1 (50:34):
Yeah, I gross people have with the words I say,
I don't need any kind of a flag that.

Speaker 2 (50:42):
Dare I say that this guy is too shallow for her?
Deep sea?

Speaker 5 (50:47):
WHOA?

Speaker 1 (50:49):
All right, Carla, we're cutting her mic. We're telling my
girlfriend or home decor is the reason I won't host
of work gathering at her place. On this one, I'm
I am like, no, you're repeatedly judging someone's taste as juvenile,
which is conveying disrespect. That's my issue, and it's not

(51:11):
appropriate to feel that toward your girlfriend. That's fucked up.
Break up with her then if you don't respect her,
then break up with her. Otherwise, time to grow up
and man up and realize that this is a projection
of your own insecurity. And for these reasons, I am
at your the asshole.

Speaker 2 (51:27):
And this is why men have podcasts.

Speaker 4 (51:32):
I agree that I didn't understand.

Speaker 2 (51:35):
That because that was a very deep, intelligent answer.

Speaker 1 (51:38):
Oh, I've never heard anyone mention having a podcast as
a positive. I thought you were roasting me.

Speaker 2 (51:44):
It's kind of like a double double roast. But it
was good what you said.

Speaker 1 (51:50):
Well, I I like the moment where it felt like
a compliment.

Speaker 2 (51:54):
For a second, it was a compliment. Okay, maybe it
was just a little that's okay. I think he's the
asshole as well. You're but I do think he's the
asshole for telling her. That's where that's where my assholes.
You should not have told her. I guess that it's
deeper than that, and I'm not a conflict avoid but
I just feel like this doesn't have to happen at all.

Speaker 1 (52:13):
It's classic conflict rules. You're breaking the conflict rules, which
are conflicts should always be about I feel, I feel me,
not you are you are? You are? That guy's an asshole.
Love it got Thanks for listening. Feel free to plug
a doing Carla. You know them, you love them? Yay.

Speaker 2 (52:31):
Follow me on Instagram at fun Underscore k E E.
I got shows coming up. I post funny material and
now I'm I'm a crafty bitch this year, so follow
me to see all the things that I'm making with
my hands.

Speaker 1 (52:44):
Yeah, you guys got to see what she built for
the problem.

Speaker 2 (52:49):
But no, I have some pictures put together and make
a little a post about it.

Speaker 1 (52:54):
It really is amazing you want to make a post
about it.

Speaker 2 (52:56):
I'm glad that. I mean, I'm sad that it's just
kind of now.

Speaker 3 (53:00):
It looks like the future.

Speaker 1 (53:01):
It was about you. It was about what you're capable of,
and it's a testament to that. And we're going to
put a link to it.

Speaker 3 (53:06):
Thank you, And if you want to check out a
podcast I produced called The Executive Buffet hosted by Johnny Pemberton.
This last week, we just started shooting in night vision. WHOA,
So half the episode is regular and then the other
half is scary.

Speaker 1 (53:21):
I want to put that on. That's really fun, that's amazing.

Speaker 3 (53:25):
Really scary. Yeah, it's dumb.

Speaker 1 (53:30):
Like in an apartment. Are you outside?

Speaker 3 (53:32):
We're in a studio. We're in a podcast studio that
is purpose built for good vision and angles and like off, Oh,
I'm glad you're talented, because if a dumb person told
that to me, I've scream at them.

Speaker 1 (53:45):
All Right, guys, much love. We'll see you next time.

Speaker 5 (53:47):
Bye.

Speaker 2 (54:00):
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