716 AITA for telling friends the real reason we didn't save their seat? (ft. Radu and Karla)

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(0:00) Banter, loneliness epidemic, spelling bees 
(19:09) - Karla's landlord story
(27:35) - AITA boyfriend's Vegas invite has friend sleeping in the same room?
(38:08) - AITA for telling our friends the real reason we didn't save their seat?
(50:42) - AITA bought a new toy to make a point?

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hi, everybody. Welcome to a pod. I'm Danny Veega joined
by Carla, and it's a it's a beautiful day. I
don't know why I'm saying that.

Speaker 2 (00:12):
It is gray May and the sun is out.

Speaker 1 (00:16):
Yes, in this apartment. That's okay, that's crazy. Yeah, I've
been doing I have a TikTok accountability challenge. I think
I told you guys got paid three different people twenty
dollars each. If I don't post three tiktoks every single day. Wow,
And yeah, it's kind of cool because actually I just
sometimes I'll think of a TikTok idea because I'm like,
I gotta produce. I gotta produce, And I have this

(00:38):
weird old memory come back to me. This is uh,
I did I do spelling bees when you were a kid?

Speaker 3 (00:44):
I did the history B History our geography B.

Speaker 1 (00:47):
Yes, I remember the geography bee. And they'd be like,
which is it? Is there a multiple choice? Or how
did that work?

Speaker 3 (00:53):
Sometimes sometimes it's filmed whatever. It's just it's like a
weird competition. You got the state a couple of times,
but I couldn't, Like I still can't.

Speaker 1 (01:01):
Spell interesting, I have not noticed that about you. I'm
very judgmental because.

Speaker 3 (01:04):
We all got that auto type ship on. You should
read my letters.

Speaker 1 (01:10):
I don't want to. So I was good. I was
pretty good. I got to regionals, like I was. I
was a high you know, I was like, what was
that called? Like an early seed?

Speaker 4 (01:20):
I don't know.

Speaker 3 (01:20):
Sports, you kid, what's that?

Speaker 1 (01:23):
That's funny? But anyway, I had this memory, so I did.
I got to regional and we went to Tucson, Arizona
and uh, kind of the word fancy, I know, right,
kind of famous for the word capital of South Arizona.
And anyway, so I go and I missed Mazzarella because
they got double l in there, Mozarella, Mozzarella Mozzarella. So anyway,

(01:49):
the kid who won, though, he had like a big head,
he had like a big forehead. He had like a
fucking five And I just remember that after, you know,
I was bumm. That was this is all I had.
I wasn't really good at it anything else. And my
dad really just went in on the guy's head. He's like, yeah,
I knew that. He goes, get out of big head.
You know, what do you expect he goes. As soon

(02:09):
as I saw that kid's head, I knew he was
gonna win. He just went in like for the whole drive,
and I just remember I wasn't really mad. I was like, yeah,
you know, what do you expect big as based off
a big ass head. He got a big ass brain,
and so I lost. Yeah, that's just what are you
gonna do?

Speaker 3 (02:25):
It's like seeing like a much taller guy. But it
wasn't your day, you know, like when you're playing basketball
or that you could do.

Speaker 2 (02:33):
He said he had a big head. I thought you
meant like metaphorically.

Speaker 1 (02:37):
Yeah, no, he was very humble. It didn't not. The
metaphor wasn't there. He was actually a sweet, sweet well
I don't really know him, but you know, you do
give a little they're a little Oh, congroats you won,
and he was like thank you, and his head then
his head started to talk independently, you know. But yeah,
that was a little memory that came to me.

Speaker 2 (02:57):
That's nice.

Speaker 1 (02:58):
I had my bros movie night, Carlo. Sorry, it's only
for bros.

Speaker 2 (03:02):
It's okay. Some would consider me a bro, but it's fine.

Speaker 1 (03:05):
It's well, And that's actually I've had some I had
to have a conversation because I have a friend who's
non binary and I was like, is it awkward, because
then I'm kind of like alluding to the fact that
they might have been born. And then I was like, oh,
I finally just told them. I was like, if you're
a bro, you're welcome to come.

Speaker 2 (03:22):
Yeah, that's a good way to present it.

Speaker 1 (03:24):
And they were like, I don't want to go I super.

Speaker 2 (03:26):
Fair, Yeah, because they do well never mind respect boy.

Speaker 1 (03:31):
Yeah, were you going to say bros has like a
negative connotation?

Speaker 2 (03:35):
Yeah, well I was gonna yeah.

Speaker 1 (03:37):
Well, if it makes you feel any better, all we
watch is hardcore pornography. So those are the movies Brobeck Mountain. No,
we actually watched really stuffy art movies. We watched Lost Lighthouse, Senectickey,
New York. The Lighthouse is a good suggestion.

Speaker 2 (03:53):
Oh God, definitely don't invite me for that one.

Speaker 1 (03:57):
But there's no misogyny. It's just, you know, there's a
And this is what we actually had an argument about, actually,
the male loneliness epidemic. Have you guys heard about this?

Speaker 2 (04:04):
Absolutely?

Speaker 1 (04:05):
This you heard about this.

Speaker 2 (04:08):
This, I've heard about the cancer spreading across the country.

Speaker 1 (04:11):
Yes, it was the cancer.

Speaker 2 (04:13):
Well they say that, isn't it like the male loneliness
epidemic is because it's kind of like in cell energy.

Speaker 3 (04:19):
Well, I blame it on the police. In the eighties
and nineties, men were lonely as well, and so they
started forming gangs.

Speaker 2 (04:27):
Yeah, that makes sense.

Speaker 3 (04:28):
It was fine, It was fine. It was actually celebrated
into some second and then the government started breaking that
up and they're like, hey, only we can do that,
you know, we can have.

Speaker 2 (04:37):
The government's fault.

Speaker 1 (04:38):
Well, I think what I don't like about what I've
seen to get a little serious there is I've seen
I've seen women kind of spin this as like men
are bad and men don't care, and so that kind
of put me off because I was like, oh, that
just feels like you're mad at men. And then so
then I started googling, because then I started wondering because
I had actually originally heard it as just the loneliness epidemic,

(05:00):
not male loneliness, you know, and I was chronically lonely myself.
But I actually always thought that was about LA. I
didn't think that was a national thing. I was like,
LA is famously lonely you as I heard that. Yeah, anyway,
so I get in and there all over there on
that internet, and I'm seeing that women are lonely too.
But yeah, so I I brought it up last night.
We got in a pretty heated debate. But like the

(05:21):
consensus view from the people at this party were straight
men just go to work in the gym and go
home and they're like, Danny, you're a unique kind of guy.
And I didn't really appreciate the tone there. I didn't
know what the hell that meant. No, but that, yeah,
they had women and gays, they're baby gathering, but not
the straight males. I don't know, Carlo, was your take.

Speaker 2 (05:43):
On the male loneliness, I've.

Speaker 1 (05:44):
Done it well, Like for ins, it's at our social club.
They're not that many straight guys around. And the straight
guys that are around, there's so many straight guys. That's
not what I've heard from the other women.

Speaker 2 (05:54):
Or are that a lot of gaitars off?

Speaker 1 (05:56):
I don't know, or that a lot of the straight
guys there are mary people like mister.

Speaker 2 (06:01):
Yeah, that doesn't make them not straight.

Speaker 1 (06:03):
It's a type of it's a type of gay. You
don't know that married it's LGBQ. Yeah, I'm married.

Speaker 3 (06:13):
In LGBT States for traditional traditional marriage.

Speaker 1 (06:16):
You didn't know that. Yeah, I don't know.

Speaker 2 (06:18):
I haven't looked into the facts of male loneliness epidemic,
but well men, yeah, yeah, yeah. The impression always got
though off of the male loneliness epidemic was yeah, like
men not having their own circles and like being able
to hang out with each other more and like feel
safe with each other and like talk about their feelings
and stuff, where nowadays there are a lot of men's
circles that are happening. I feel like that are like

(06:41):
therapy circles, like group therapy for men only of all kinds,
straight are gay. But I agree that everyone is lonely.
It's not just a male thing. I think that the
men just don't know how to deal with it, and
that's the biggest thing.

Speaker 1 (06:56):
Yeah, I'm with that. Yeah, And I thought about it
because it actually felt a little weird because so many
of my friends are women. And then I'm like, oh,
I feel this is like an exclusionary event. But I
just do think it comes with the territory of coded events,
that there's a little bit of fronting, just a little bit,
you know.

Speaker 2 (07:12):
It's kind of what saying you're not lonely or something.

Speaker 1 (07:15):
If there if it's a co ed event. It's just like,
I'm not gonna be as vulnerable or open it up
because I want to impress some fucking shit. Yeah, it's
going to play out a little bit. Just throws the
vibe a little. That throws the vibe. It's just a
different vibe, you know.

Speaker 2 (07:28):
I could see that. I guess it depends what the
event is, because if you're going to an event specifically
to open up and like talk about vulnerable shit like that,
it's like, then why wouldn't you Because the women are
there for that, so that would actually be a turn
on for them.

Speaker 1 (07:39):
Uh. Interesting, I guess I think for me it impairs
if there's a woman I'm attracted to, I don't want
to like start pouring out my shit.

Speaker 2 (07:49):
Yeah, And I definitely think for anyone there's a difference
of how deep you go how quickly, because it is
it could be you being like, yeah, like I get
lonely and like keep saying it more matter of fact
than be like, man, I was so lonely the other day,
I just had to put my hand on my dick.

Speaker 1 (08:06):
Like that's different.

Speaker 2 (08:08):
And you know, I don't know how many.

Speaker 1 (08:09):
I don't know. That was a wild one for me.

Speaker 2 (08:13):
I'm just saying like or like I was so lonely
I cried into my journal and this and that it's
like you could. I think there's layers to It's not
just like open up or don't. I think it's like
you can. There's ways to like talk how you're feeling
without it becoming the most vulnerable thing anybody's ever heard.

Speaker 3 (08:30):
I think the undercurrent thought to what he was speaking
about is that there's like external senses of community created
by oppression. Right, women, minorities, gay people, whatever, I have
more of a sense of community, not because they have
all that much in common besides being oppressed to structurally.
And so then the the oppressor class quote unquote is
left around being like, we don't have anything in common.

(08:50):
We didn't actually come together and do this like ten
families did, and we're just part of the ponds to
do the thing. So their reaction to creating their own
community is like white nationalists. But yeah, yeah, men's right, guys.

Speaker 1 (09:03):
I mean that's what they always say, right, like, oh,
I don't have white privilege.

Speaker 3 (09:06):
Just heritage Passionately.

Speaker 1 (09:09):
I mean I was like this first second where I
was kind of like I'm a lone wolf and I realize, like,
you just it's socializing as a scale, and you just
got to keep building it, you know, and then with
time you get better at it, and then it becomes
so much more enjoyable and rewarding.

Speaker 2 (09:23):
Yeah, I mean somebody the other not the other day,
but like years ago, I guess it was. Now was like, yeah,
you're kind of a loner. And I was like, anybody
who knows me knows I'm like constantly around people, meeting
new people. But then I thought about it and I
was like, actually, Loki, I am a loner because I
have so many different circles of people, but I go
through them alone. Like I don't have a full ven

(09:45):
diagram of a life where things are intersecting with each other.

Speaker 3 (09:49):
Now I do.

Speaker 2 (09:49):
But then it was like I would constantly go to
events alone, go to new groups alone, and do things
alone and meet people, but there was nothing, like there
was no through thread that attached all these things other
than me.

Speaker 1 (10:03):
And that's where they started.

Speaker 2 (10:04):
Yeah. Yeah, there was no congregation section for all the
parts of my life. So I was kind of a
loner because I was kind of doing everything by myself.
Even though I was doing a lot of things.

Speaker 1 (10:16):
It's a tough thing, but you gotta just get out
there and grind and meet people. And I was like, well, hoo, come,
I'm known in a big group chot boo, and I
just had to make my own big group chats.

Speaker 2 (10:25):
Yeah, and find a friend who invite places.

Speaker 1 (10:26):
Truth, that's what I say. Gotta just fucking hustle at
boys and women. I think there's some lonely women out there.

Speaker 2 (10:33):
There's so many. I'm lonely sometimes. I mean really, yeah,
of course there's lonely. My whole family's on the East Coast.
Like Mother's Day, I literally signed up to do seasonal
work at a Flora so that I wouldn't just be
like chilling on Mother's Day. And I facetimeed my family
and it's always like thirty minutes of like, hey guys,
and then like I feel sad because they're all still
together and I'm not.

Speaker 1 (10:54):
That's tough, but you know it's funny though we talk
about men not like reaching for this is that I had.
I met this girl once and she goes, yeah, I
got a job as a bartender and don't even need
the money. I just did it to meet people. And
I feel like there is women are a little bit
sharper on, just like, yeah, you gotta go, just go,
because Madam Bill, I'm above that role. Yeah, sometimes you
just shut up, but you go for the money. Though

(11:15):
it's not for the money.

Speaker 2 (11:16):
It's the loneliness up and down.

Speaker 1 (11:18):
So Rod, you had a story about uh, Lily's half brother.
That's your wife's half brother.

Speaker 3 (11:24):
My wife's half brother. You've been over to my house
just you. Yeah, I haven't been okay when.

Speaker 1 (11:30):
You Carl, I remember who were trying to keep her lonely.

Speaker 3 (11:34):
That was part of it.

Speaker 1 (11:35):
Yeah, it's fine.

Speaker 3 (11:36):
You remember the big giant paintings everywhere. There's like kind
of frightening, full size paintings all over the place.

Speaker 1 (11:45):
I believe you.

Speaker 3 (11:46):
That's hilariously.

Speaker 1 (11:47):
I don't remember.

Speaker 3 (11:47):
They are like faceless people doing all kinds of weird stuff.

Speaker 1 (11:50):
I liked them.

Speaker 3 (11:51):
It's my it's it's my wife's half brother who painted
all of those. They're really cool, but they're really scary.
There's all kinds of, you know, weird things happening in them.
He's been an artist's whole life. He lives in New
York now doesn't have a phone. He had like a
landline for the longest time can't leave the state because
of some sort of mental health law thing after committing
an assault or something or whatever. So he's not like

(12:13):
he didn't grow up with my wife and he's not
really in her life nowadays. But for a period of
time when right before we were about to get married,
I guess his health was getting better, and he was
like online a lot and reaching out to the whole
family and me specifically for some reason, we never met,
but he'd hit me up on Facebook all the time. Yeah,
And at first, you know, the first couple of times,
it was just friendly and nice, and then eventually it

(12:33):
was immediately what all schizophrenics do, which is like letting
you know about the plans the aliens have and like
how you know a musician is connected to the stock
market or whatever. Right, And the particular guy that he
had a fascination with was Redout Chili Pepper's guitarist John Fraschante.

Speaker 1 (12:48):
Oh okay, I don't know him very.

Speaker 3 (12:54):
He's the guitarist for most of the famous Chili Peppers era.

Speaker 1 (12:58):
Can we convert this to gen Z who read hot
solely Peppers for them? Like, what's that guy's name? The
one you know, the guy with all the tattoos, not
post malone, Rodney Dangerfield. No, the one married guy is
really tall Jelly Roll close, it's so close to Jelly Roll.

(13:18):
He's really tall.

Speaker 2 (13:20):
It's the guy who's married to Megan Fox.

Speaker 1 (13:22):
Yeah, something like Kelly. Yeah, yeah, Joe Salami. See they
have the same rhythm.

Speaker 3 (13:27):
Say it's like machine Gun Kelly. But this guy's really
talented at music. People like him, people like him. Fun
fact for Chante was so talented. Frank Zappa wanted him
in his band, but he was like, you have to
choose between being in my band or Heroin, Andant was like,
I'm gonna do it. Ended up in the Chili Peppers instead.

Speaker 1 (13:46):
Anyway, we got under the bridge out of that.

Speaker 3 (13:48):
Though, exactly. Yeah. Also, my point is spell for Shante.
If you don't know it off top of your head,
just try to figure it out.

Speaker 1 (13:55):
F R S H A and T E.

Speaker 2 (13:57):
I have it everyone, f are you? Yeah, it's U
S I A N.

Speaker 3 (14:02):
T E something like that. Wow. I don't know what.
But the point is this guy Jeremiah is his name.
He's texting me about John Forschante but spelling my name incorrectly. Yes,
four letters, I didn't even spell it wrong. I've seen
it a million different ways spelled incorrectly. Because when you
if you hear if someone's like hey, spell like you know,

(14:24):
redo whatever, and you don't even pronounce it right, people
are like, oh two d's and N and H whatever
A H what did you say?

Speaker 2 (14:31):
I said an E A U x O ye.

Speaker 3 (14:35):
No, well it would be like Louisiana roder.

Speaker 1 (14:40):
Cad mode. But the Yeah, so he can't spell her name.

Speaker 3 (14:44):
He's can't spell my name and he's messaging me on
Facebook where it shows you your my name like three
inches above where he's typing. And so I confront my
wife and my and her sister about this, and I
was like, what's going on with this? Is he is
he just like racist or something? There? No, he's schizophrenic,
Oh my god. Yeah, but that doesn't mean he's like

(15:04):
stupid or demented or like mentally incapacity. He might be
hearing more voices than regular or having extra thoughts than
but he's not like, you know, incapacitated. And he's and
he's spelling a very difficult name flawlessly. Every time that.

Speaker 1 (15:22):
Guy exactly, the voices are like, spell it wrong to
slide him.

Speaker 3 (15:26):
Yeah, like he can spell Rockefeller or Builderberg group, no problem, right,
But then are a d U. He's adding like extra
like Arabic stuff in there. That's funny, And so am
I because I have everyone in the family. It's just like,
oh yeah, obviously rodu Harbor's ill will for the demented,
that's what that is. Like he hates mentally ill people.

(15:46):
And I'm like, no, this one guy that I've never
met annoys me because he's purposely smelling.

Speaker 1 (15:52):
Being pretty chill just by having conversations with someone you
didn't even meet, Sure were you, but you were enjoying that.
What's not a little bit better? It was a conspiracy town.

Speaker 3 (16:02):
I didn't want to feed into it because I want
I'd love to talk to nonsense with a normal person.
But when someone's actually out of their mind, I'm like, oh,
this is worse than enabling to be like yeah, so.

Speaker 1 (16:13):
What would you say if he was like, oh, they're
under my skin or whatever? How would you respond to that?

Speaker 3 (16:19):
If I was mad, I'd be like, dude, they're deeper
than you think. Keep dagging. Most of the time, I
wouldn't respond at all. That's that's really the truth that
the trigger is to not respond, try to get attached
with their caregiver or try to be like, hey man,
is this it? You know whatever? If you know them
well enough, right right, there's a whole Like I had
a friend who did have a full on bipolar episode

(16:40):
and was like, you know, losing his mind for several days.
We had to get him committed. He thought he was
talking to Kanye all the time, and he was like,
part of fixing the stock market is like sending this
message to Kanye and uh. And now now Kanye is
the one losing his mind publicly. This is before this
five years ago. So I'm wondering. Now, I'm like, you know,
when you're losing your mind, when you're a schizophrenic or

(17:01):
any kind of whatever, you just glob on to like
some of the top ten famous people. Yeah, and they're
in your life all the time and you're sending the
messages or whatever. And now Kanye has lost his mind
and he started saying like pro Nazi stuff, you know, yeah,
And I wonder if, like I.

Speaker 2 (17:15):
Wonder saying that years ago, I wonder if millions.

Speaker 3 (17:17):
Of schizophrenics around the world are like, Okay, so he's
getting some of my messages, not everything, but some of
this stuff like finally he's listening.

Speaker 1 (17:26):
You know, I I I I think Kanye is genuinely
sad because it's just like it's so far gone at
this point where it's like clearly you're just like extremely
mentally ill. And I don't know. I mean, I was
putting together that DJ set when I was DJing prom
and I was like, God, there's just so many bangers,
especially in our era, Like there's a lot. Like I
was like, oh, yeah, Kanye has like I don't know,

(17:46):
two or three. No, it's not too or so it's
like a dozen, like the guy had bangers.

Speaker 3 (17:51):
Well, dude, that's also a modern feeling to be like,
should we separate the like the art from the whatever.
There's no way. When they were like exploiting Starry Night,
they're like, hold on, but this guy's mentally ill. They're like, yeah,
fuck him, he's dead. We're gonna make more money off.

Speaker 1 (18:04):
Well, like Elon Musk is a fucking monster and a
nightmare person and like a psycho megalomaniac. But I'm like, yeah,
but he I think he knows what he's doing. Whereas Kanye,
I'm like, you're off your rocker.

Speaker 3 (18:15):
Yeah, yeah, you're off rocker completely bro.

Speaker 2 (18:18):
Yeah, I don't know.

Speaker 1 (18:20):
Ye, it's tough.

Speaker 2 (18:21):
Sometimes I think we give people too much credit that
they're off their rocker and they're really not.

Speaker 1 (18:25):
But I mean, the Nazis would have killed Kanye in
a second.

Speaker 2 (18:28):
It's like, you know, on the side of whoever is
also a Nazi.

Speaker 3 (18:38):
No, No, that's the funny. This is I love I
love making this distinction between communists and fascist. Communists might
seem similar to Nazis because they're like, you have to
do what we say. But if you just pretend to
do whatever, they're down with no reprisals, no consequences. In
fascism and Nazism, there's no way to become the in group, right,
You're just you're in the group, or you're an enemy
of the state. It's like a false di caught me immediately.

Speaker 2 (19:01):
Interesting, I learned something.

Speaker 1 (19:02):
New taking us out of Nazi town. Carl, you said
you had a crazy landlord story for us.

Speaker 2 (19:09):
I've been looking for an apartment. As we've discussed over
the last one hundred episodes. I'm still looking.

Speaker 1 (19:14):
We need we need this girl to get some sheltz.

Speaker 2 (19:16):
Please help me. I have been looking everywhere. Somebody at
our social club recently was like, hey, there's a one
bedroom popping up where I live. So I was like, oh, cool,
like hook it up. It's not even on listings yet.

Speaker 1 (19:28):
You can get the end early.

Speaker 2 (19:30):
I go to this one bedroom apartment, beautiful nineteen forty style.

Speaker 1 (19:35):
Everything is like.

Speaker 2 (19:36):
Check in right then the landlord, first of all, before
I go see it. The person at our social club
was like, yeah, just like heads up. When you call
the landlord, like he's you know, or building manager, he's
you know, like he's an interesting dude. He's interesting. Just
like know that. And I was like, okay, So I

(19:56):
call the numbers kind of it.

Speaker 1 (20:00):
Just wait.

Speaker 2 (20:01):
So I call the number and it goes to voicemail.
So I start leaving a voicemail. Hey, it's Carla Spina.
I'm trying to find an apartment I would love bla blah
blah blah. I'm in the middle of my sentence Hello.
I was like, oh, were you listening to my voice message.
He's like yes, and I was like, yeah, I'm interested
in the apartment. He's like okay. I'm like, can can

(20:22):
I come see it? Like this is nice? But and
then we start talking. I go see it. I meet
this guy. My god, I couldn't write a better character.
He has a handlebar mustache that looks bag. He is
talking about his heyday, about all the years over the
best years of his life. This is nice. He shows

(20:42):
me the apartment. We're talking landlords love me because I
just like, I like, like, what's it called when you're
like chewing it up with someone and you're like talking,
not talking shit, but you're just like getting a lot, yeah,
shooting the shit with them. And then he's like, all right, well,
like do you want to come see the paperwork. It's
like in my apartment, they have like the building manager

(21:02):
at the front of the apartment where everyone like walks in.
The doors always open. So I'm like, yeah, sure. So
I walk into this man's apartment and I'm like, oh,
so he has a cat named weasel and wee sole
weasel weasel, weasel, Yeah, I said, weel. Weasel pops out
of the bushes when everyone's super cute. I'm like petting weasel.

(21:24):
But I noticed there's like stacks of cash everywhere. There's
eight jowls of food on the floor, and I was like, oh,
do you have multiple cats? He goes, no, I just
like weasel to have his like pick of what kind
of food he wants. So I just put out eight
different flavors.

Speaker 1 (21:41):
Stacks of cash. Stacks are talking about like how high
have a stack.

Speaker 2 (21:45):
Like a foot high? Multiple of foot? Yeah is this
a foot?

Speaker 3 (21:50):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (21:51):
Yeah, it's like a foot.

Speaker 1 (21:52):
And then of I didn't look.

Speaker 2 (21:55):
I didn't look that close.

Speaker 1 (21:57):
Casual cash pile.

Speaker 2 (21:58):
On top of that, he has a manniche in every
single window, dressed with clothes on. So when I first
walked in the apartment, I was like, oh my god,
your mannicin scared me. He goes, yeah, that's the point.

Speaker 3 (22:07):
That's the only way to keep the baba duke away.

Speaker 2 (22:09):
Yeah, And I was like oh. He's like, well, my
windows are facing the street, so you know, when people
see someone in the window, they won't come here. I
was like, yeah, so is this the safe apartment? And
he was like yeah, you know, there was just one
person who like tried to break into a girl's house
at two am, like a year ago, but other than that,
it's been fine. And he starts talking to me and
talking to me, and all of a sudden, I'm like,
oh my god, who is this guy. He's in a

(22:31):
huge two bedroom, two bath, stacks of cash, beautiful cat.
He starts talking about all these side hustles that he has.
He's like, did you know you could become a pool
attendant in one month online for a thousand dollars? Really
easy to get certified. Then he's like, do you need
a side hustle? Do you know people?

Speaker 1 (22:49):
Do you know people is going on?

Speaker 2 (22:52):
Do you know people pay people to go from out
of town? Pay people to go to houses and rentals,
Like when someone's moving from out of town, they'll pay
you to go take pictures of the place and tour
it to report back to them because they don't get
to see the place in person before they move here.

Speaker 1 (23:08):
That makes sense.

Speaker 2 (23:09):
Yeah, there's like a website for that and this and that.
I'm like, oh, yeah, that's actually really interesting. I used
to be a real estate photographer. Like can I get
that website? He's like yeah, I'll let you know when
I finished setting it up.

Speaker 1 (23:18):
And I'm like, oh, you're building it. Oh it's your
it's weeble.

Speaker 2 (23:24):
So then he's like, oh, do you want to tour
like the two bedrooms? He are very nice, like I
get this place for twenty one hundred dollars just for me,
but I get it for freezings of the building manager.
So he's like, give you these our huge, like literal,
seventy five inch TVs in every room. And I'm like
thinking to myself, I'm we're talking to this guy, and
I'm like, dude, am I jealous of this person?

Speaker 3 (23:44):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (23:46):
So?

Speaker 2 (23:48):
Am I jealous of this man named David who's just
living his best fucking life in his two bedroom too
bad with stacks of cash and I can't.

Speaker 3 (23:56):
Cat sounds like a guy you can be laid on
rent with.

Speaker 2 (24:00):
Oh for sure.

Speaker 1 (24:02):
I mean, what is that cash pile? That's really it's
going to come back to that.

Speaker 2 (24:05):
Oh maybe it was the other thing. He was like, oh,
this is the washing area. It only takes quarters. But yeah,
like I just break the machine and take the quarters
out and we recycle the same quarters over and over again,
because fuck this building management place. And I was like, yeah,
so things like that. That. I was like, He's like,
and I'm not going to steal the quarters, Like, I
don't need ten dollars in quarters. I don't need ten
dollars in quarters.

Speaker 1 (24:24):
I'm like, where his piles?

Speaker 3 (24:26):
But also what accent are you doing? He seemed to
have a regional accent, and you've switched it a little
bit here and there, which part of Baltimore.

Speaker 2 (24:35):
Yeah, it was more of a mentality that.

Speaker 1 (24:36):
He was giving off.

Speaker 3 (24:37):
Okay, okay, And the stacks you could see the denominations
these are.

Speaker 2 (24:41):
I couldn't because they weren't even bound. They weren't like
literal stacks that were like bandaged, Like yeah, it was
like piles of used cash.

Speaker 3 (24:51):
That's amazing.

Speaker 2 (24:52):
Maybe he gets out of the vending machine.

Speaker 1 (24:53):
I was about to.

Speaker 3 (24:54):
Say, this man owns like nine vending machines.

Speaker 2 (24:56):
I believe it. He's a side hustle king. I'm telling you.

Speaker 1 (24:59):
I think he might dodge the bullet. I don't trust
this guy. Those mannequins are old tenants.

Speaker 2 (25:05):
They were, I mean there was.

Speaker 3 (25:07):
I do think that's a great move. If you're like, yeah,
I'm worried about people breaking it, like putting one this
house is secured by a d T or bware. We
don't call the police. Like that just doesn't do much.
But like, yeah, man, the equivalent of like a constant
rain cloud over just your house, like just making it creep. Man,
let's not rob these maybe the ghost in there.

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Vegas only to find out a week prior his friend
will be sleeping in our same Roomugh, my boyfriend thirty

(27:42):
six m is going to a darts tournament in Las Vegas.
I'm already out.

Speaker 2 (27:45):
He's the asshole and darts.

Speaker 3 (27:47):
Shut up.

Speaker 1 (27:47):
He invited me, thirty five f to come with. First thing,
to know it's a long distance relationship. God, why are
you dating a darts guy? And we don't see each
other very often? Two to three times.

Speaker 2 (27:58):
A year, that's like less than once a season.

Speaker 1 (28:04):
First thing, he says his room came with a darts
tournament bundle, and it's a smoking room. Gag, and he
plans on smoking lots of hookah.

Speaker 2 (28:12):
Oh double gag.

Speaker 1 (28:13):
It's also just a regular low end room, no chairs
or anything.

Speaker 3 (28:17):
Love that.

Speaker 1 (28:17):
I've never heard of that room. I'm like, i'd pay
for an upgrade, but if you're really sat on it, fine.
So a week passes and I'm wondering how I'm gonna
get there. He says, I'll buy the plane ticket. There's
one inexpensive one, but it's a late flight. The rest
are like three hundred to four or more. So I'm like, okay, final,
let's see the late flight. And in my head. I'm
just annoyed. I hate late planning because that usually means
more expensive, crappier travel. So then he's like setting out

(28:41):
the flight and he goes, oh, by the way, my
best friend's brother is going to be staying in the
room with us.

Speaker 3 (28:46):
Cool.

Speaker 1 (28:47):
I'm sound and say you're choking right, and he says, Now,
I go, I've never met this guy in my entire life.
Now you're telling me I'm about to share a room
with him. He's like, what does it matter, I'll be there.
I'm like, I'm not a man. I'm not in the
Army contacts. He's an Army soldier. It is not normal
for me to suddenly share with a man i've never met.
I want my privacy. He thinks I'm overreacting and I'm

(29:08):
stressing him out over a small detail. I'm like, it's
not a small detail. This is a human being with
whom i've never met, that all of a sudden be
sleeping in the same room with. And then he starts
getting upset I'm ruining his vacation plans. So I tell
him by him his own room him, that's out of
the question.

Speaker 2 (29:24):
Me.

Speaker 1 (29:24):
Why won't you stay with his best friend him is
already staying on someone. Me, Okay, I'm gonna book my
own room. Him I can't agree to that. It's a
waste of money. Me, it's a waste of money for
my own comfort. Him silence. I start trying to make
my case, like, yo, this isn't cool and I'm not
being unreasonable. Ask any woman out there, it's not okay.
And he's like, I get you might be uncomfortable, but

(29:46):
now I feel like I will be uncomfortable knowing you're uncomfortable,
So maybe I need to rethink this. And he holds
off on setting up any real travel plans. And this
is what really sets me off. I booked my own
five with my own room and my own money, and
he's upset about the wasted money and the fact that
I disrespected his wishes. He's telling me to visit Vegas
by myself. A few days go by and I try
to talk to him again about it. I told him

(30:07):
I can compromise on getting a less expensive room, but
he told me there's no compromise for him. He said, quote,
I would rather you cancel your reservation if you don't
want to do Vegas the way I want you to
So that's where I'm at canceling my reservation's aita.

Speaker 2 (30:20):
Wow, the hardest I roll ever.

Speaker 3 (30:22):
Well, you got to put up with a lot to
date one of these dark guys. I mean, they make
thousands of dollars a year, so it's not like a
regular relationship where it's a give and take, like it's
their way to the highway.

Speaker 1 (30:34):
Honestly, I've never heard anyone be like, oh, yeah, this
is a low tier of hotel room, no chairs. I
don't even know what that is.

Speaker 3 (30:42):
So you've never you've never been to a hotel that's
like just for prostitutes and tweakers, that's what it's. I
think they could offer a hotel room with no bed.
They would the.

Speaker 2 (30:51):
Hotel rooms that they rent out hourly.

Speaker 1 (30:53):
Yeah, one time, no, I guess the lowest the worst
hotel room I were staying in and was in Kalamazoom, Michigan.
This would have been in about twenty fourteen ish when
I quit drinking chortly thereafter. Now, me and my friends
had undergone a comedy tour, which largely gets instead of
doing open mics and random places. So we ran out
of steam driving from Nebraska or some shit to Chicago.

(31:15):
So we ended up in Michigan, pulled into the Motel
six or Super eight whatever at four am. There were
tweakers in the parking lot and we walked into the
room and there were two beds and a chair. So
I guess what I'm trying to say is there was
a chair. I didn't know you could go lower than that.

(31:35):
I kind of thought that was pretty close to the
motel bottom.

Speaker 2 (31:39):
And it's Vegas.

Speaker 1 (31:40):
There's so many cheap rooms. You can say fifty nine.

Speaker 2 (31:45):
I like the love Yeah, and they have chairs and beds.

Speaker 1 (31:48):
They have chairs, they have bets, and the elevator doesn't
go straight up and down and that's interesting. Well, if
you have a bad personality.

Speaker 2 (31:57):
Yeah, So there's so much wrong with this, Like I
don't like this guy, so I feel like I'm pretty
biased overall.

Speaker 3 (32:06):
I almost like wanted to expect, of course you are
not the assholes that we are done with this on
to to give a darts player this much energy is insane.
This guy must have a needle dick.

Speaker 2 (32:19):
Do we even know if he's a darts player or
he's just a dart enthusiast, Like she doesn't say he's yeah,
he might just be watching.

Speaker 1 (32:28):
I think this is about like standards. I don't know.
I know some people, Oh, don'ty be easy going, you're
too horseh But I'm like, look, I just think that, like, Okay,
do I think there's something endearing about a woman who's like, yeah,
he doesn't have much. We're staring in a chairless room. Okay,
that's fine. I'm like, that's that's kind of you that
you're willing to go with that, and like money doesn't matter.

(32:50):
That's great, but like literally everything he's channeling isn't even
about the money. It's more about just like I don't
care about how you feel anyway.

Speaker 2 (33:00):
There's a lot of red flags on.

Speaker 1 (33:01):
That, like raise your fucking standards, lady, Like I'm kind
of mad at her for even indulging this fuck hat.

Speaker 2 (33:06):
I agree. And my biggest thing, even beyond like her
not feeling safe, like not knowing this guy and everything,
I'm like, I literally see you two to three times
a year. You're telling me we're not gonna fuck because
this loser is gonna be in our fucking hotel room
with us, Like yeah, we never get time together. And
then if she bought a room that was nicer and
he was like.

Speaker 1 (33:26):
Nah, I don't want that.

Speaker 2 (33:28):
I want to do it my way. It's like, what
kind of ego fucking maniac?

Speaker 3 (33:34):
And then that's it. We're done.

Speaker 2 (33:36):
Like that's yeah, it's not even your boys, your boy's brother.

Speaker 1 (33:39):
It's crazy.

Speaker 2 (33:40):
Yeah, that's insane.

Speaker 1 (33:44):
Yeah, it's just too much. This guy's a control freak.

Speaker 2 (33:49):
One hundred percent.

Speaker 1 (33:51):
She gave every solution too.

Speaker 3 (33:53):
Yeah, you can't be more reasonable than yeah.

Speaker 2 (33:55):
But you're right, Danny, it's he's giving. Like he went
silent when she was like, it's not worth my comfort
and he didn't have ship to say because he doesn't
give a shit about your comfort.

Speaker 1 (34:08):
Think it's about control.

Speaker 3 (34:09):
This guy has to be either incredibly hot or this
lady's self esteem is just incredibly low, because.

Speaker 1 (34:15):
I think it is very low.

Speaker 3 (34:16):
There's just no I can't think of a single good
reason for why she's even in this scenario A couple of.

Speaker 1 (34:22):
Times a year. It's like, that's not even I don't
even know what that is.

Speaker 2 (34:25):
He's in the army, that's potentially why, and then that's
another potential reason why she might stay with him.

Speaker 1 (34:33):
No, you're right, BF is an army soldier, not was.
I guess that does make some sense.

Speaker 2 (34:38):
So she might be getting that healthcare baby.

Speaker 1 (34:41):
That's fair. I just feel like, what do you why
even gather at this point? Literally?

Speaker 3 (34:49):
Yeah, why you didn't see each other? Yeah? Is it
too early to go in? T A? Because that's not
there's nothing.

Speaker 1 (34:58):
He's upset about the waste of my when it's your
money that you happily spent on yourself in order to
feel comfortable on this trip. You get how concerning a statement?
Then he quotes he said, I'd rather you cancel your
reservations if you don't want to do Vegas the way
I want you to. You get how concerning a statement
like that is? Do you really want a relationship with
someone who insists that you need to do things his
way or.

Speaker 3 (35:17):
Not at all?

Speaker 1 (35:18):
NTA And I actually think that sament is concerning, And
I think, but I actually get happy now when people
say something like that, because I'm like, oh, oh, I
didn't know that's how you were, and that's what this is. Thanks,
I'm going to listen. I've learned to listen, and I well, actually.

Speaker 2 (35:32):
And it's done taking a face value, push them away
a little bit.

Speaker 1 (35:36):
Descending in descending comment act, somebody actually wrote info they didn't.
They didn't get enough here? How did you all make
it to your mid thirties with this bull? Of course
he's an idiot for thinking you would be fine, much
less enjoying sharing a room with a random but honestly, lady,
what are you even doing. It's a long distance with
someone who doesn't care about you, who acts like a
nineteen year old.

Speaker 3 (35:54):
I'm starting to Yeah, it's so egregious that I'm like
kind of mad at the lady for like.

Speaker 1 (35:58):
Why did you get this far? Yeah?

Speaker 3 (36:00):
This has to be your high school sweetheart with like
the perfect penis.

Speaker 2 (36:04):
Yeah, digmatized, because this is just like I have not
heard that you never heard digmatized?

Speaker 3 (36:10):
Yeah, this is this is just like a standard army
issue kind of fat guy like pre cop build, like
this pre cop built. This lady is not fixable.

Speaker 1 (36:21):
Raise your standards out there later. I think, try it,
at least try it. Try to be demanding, and then
if they say no, they get the no. That's what
I'm asking you, ladies. I love I love a demanding chick.
There's a chick I'm into and she's like take me
out to dinner and be like done.

Speaker 2 (36:35):
That's hot, right, I said, op, take yourself to Vegas
and don't even tell him you're going.

Speaker 1 (36:42):
Have yourself there a lot of reasonable hotel rates.

Speaker 2 (36:47):
I'm thinking this info is a little sarcastic.

Speaker 1 (36:49):
That's fair, that's fair. I actually recently was planning in Vegas.
I'm going to Vegas for a thing, but I was
I found out this is this is on the Laura.
This is a little blugie. But I want to be honest.
I always want to stay at the Four Seasons because
it's like a five star hotel. It's really nice. And
I was like the name of it, and then it's
got that, you know, four seasons total landscaping. It's like
in the meme Lord, It's very funny. So I started
googling four Seasons Vegas and there's a whole Reddit thread

(37:13):
that's like, the four Seasons Vegas isn't like the other
four Seasons and it just broke my damn heart because
it's the only affordable one.

Speaker 2 (37:20):
Well, I guess that's why I know.

Speaker 1 (37:22):
So now I'm not going and this chick isn't coming
with me. A it tabe have invited me to Vegas.
I think this is a whopping NTA And he is, yes,
break up with him, girl, this guy sucks.

Speaker 2 (37:33):
Yeah, get rid of him.

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all right, guys. Our second story of the day a
a for telling our friends the real reason we didn't
save them seats in the event, even though it upset
My husband, Hubbs, and I attended a ticketed event that

(38:19):
he had invited some of our friends to. We gave
them the tickets. Our friends were running late and I
wanted to save them seats. There were plenty of available
seats available, and many people were saying saving multiple spots,
so it wasn't a situation where saving seats was against
the rules. Are disruptive. My husband didn't want to. He

(38:39):
said it was rude to save that many We had
six friends coming, that's a lot, a lot, and told
me not to micromanage an event he invited people to.
I disagreed. I felt it was polite to save seats
for people we invited, especially when it was clearly allowed
and there was many available seats. But after he told
me to sit down for a second time, I was like, fine,
didn't save it me. When our friends arrived, they were

(39:02):
disappointed they couldn't sit with us. At that point, there
was still an option to move to another row so
we could all sit together. Our row had empty spots,
but it was like awkward, you know, people sat too
and then went emptyc you know how it gets. But
the only row was six seats together were two rows
back and my husband have heard the seats we already had,
so we didn't move. This is so exhausting. Already we

(39:24):
found two metal seats in front of us and told
them why don't they sit there? But they said, now
it's okay, we'll sit here and save these for our
other friends. They wrote x X and YY our friends
which are just walking chromosomes. Our two other friends who
were all so late. I went up to them when
we had all sat the event had it, started to
make small talk, and they asked us why didn't we
save them seats. I told them truthfully, I wanted to

(39:44):
save the seats, but my husband said be rude. My
husband was upset with me and said I threw him
under the bus. He said I should have lied no,
and said we tried to save the seats, but they
got there too late. But that wouldn't have made sense
that there were so many rows. He feels I embarrass him.
From my perspective, I just didn't want to take responsibility

(40:04):
for a decision I didn't agree with, and I low
key wanted him to understand he was being unnecessarily petty
for not saving seats. He got angry, set it through
rount of the bus. We get it an tiah and
he said that we should present as a united front.

Speaker 2 (40:19):
Hmm, no, no, no to all of this.

Speaker 3 (40:26):
I hate this man so much. Yes, thank you, this
is so you know what this is? I almost this
story is almost unbelievable, and it sounds like someone was
watching seventies TV when they used to write them Dad
characters so unreasonable it's so crotchety, you know that. You're like,
that's funny, that's so unreasonable, it's hilarious. It's a situation comedy.

(40:48):
Oh yeah, you know what I mean. That's the level
of like, I cannot conceptualize that this person is real.

Speaker 2 (40:55):
It's so hard because there were so many options. Two rosebacks,
not a lot.

Speaker 1 (41:02):
And then he refused to move.

Speaker 2 (41:03):
Yeah, and then he refused to move, and then the
other friends refuse to sit some in the front. This
is which would have been an option.

Speaker 3 (41:09):
And it's like, well, it's like a first draft of
a curb script that Larry's like, this is too unreasonable.
Let's make this.

Speaker 1 (41:18):
Well, yeah, I could defend him a little bit. So
I'm gonna go see the Doe Tim Robinson movie Friendship
at Vista and Vista. It's a very popular theater. It's
it's like, oh film, it's true film, no digital, it's
on by Tarantino whatever. So you gotta get there like
an hour early. There's no as I.

Speaker 2 (41:34):
Called back in the day, how it used to be fact.

Speaker 1 (41:38):
That used to be. So we're gonna get there an
hour early. Come over, Oh done, you're gonna be late
to have worked it's like, shut up, work, I'm so
sick of your bullshit.

Speaker 2 (41:45):
No.

Speaker 1 (41:45):
But anyway, and I was like, here's here's my policy.
I'm gonna save the seats, and if someone tries to
fight me, i'm gonna say, oh, my friends are coming,
and then they go there's no saving seats. I'm gonna
go that's clean.

Speaker 3 (41:57):
That's true.

Speaker 1 (41:57):
Yeah, and I feel like that's reasonable, Like I can't
go to war. Now we will try how many friends? Well,
I think there's five of us going, so and two
people will be late. So we'll do like a spread.
We can do a strategy. So you have to use strategy, right,
So you do one open one open one. That way,
it's going to be like do you want to awkwardly
sit in between us?

Speaker 2 (42:18):
That's why, oh, I would be the person to be like, hey,
can you move over so we can both see.

Speaker 1 (42:21):
No, I can't move over, but you're welcome to sit
there in the open seat because there's no saving seats.
But we're allowed, we're allowed to position. Positioning is legal,
it's true.

Speaker 2 (42:32):
Yeah, I get both sides of this. Where the one
thing I don't get is not owning up to your decision.
That's what pisses me off the most.

Speaker 1 (42:38):
I think I should.

Speaker 2 (42:40):
Yeah, indefensible, but it honestly was an awkward because the
thing is, if this was like people were flooding in
seats were getting taken left and right, that feels tough
to be like, oh, six seats for us and they're
not here yet, and then sometimes your friends don't even
show up and you're like, oh, I just save these
and now I have to take my jacket off of
it like an ass.

Speaker 1 (43:00):
And talking about positioning right like five, so there'll be
three of us saving two seats. That's a great ratio,
Like we have the majority. We'll take you out in
a fistfight. Yeah, height advantage one of the guys is
pretty big. Two is this am my readings? Right? It's
two people saving six seats? Correct, Like you have no
tactical advantage here, but.

Speaker 2 (43:18):
They do well. There are advantages that there are plenty
of seats that other people can sid it.

Speaker 1 (43:23):
No, I think they could have pulled it off, but
I'm just saying, like I do. I do feel like
it is kind of a bad look. If it's like
one person then four seats in between the one other person,
and they're like, we're saving all of these and it's
like there's no saving seats.

Speaker 3 (43:38):
Social anxiety that you're like, I can't piss off three
or four strangers from yeah, four or six absolute friends
or something.

Speaker 2 (43:46):
Or also lie and say they're in the bathroom.

Speaker 1 (43:49):
They're here just a random ship is a ship wrapper?
Oh really he left his ship wrapper here? Yeah, those
are his chips. There's no chips in here. He's done.
He collects the rappers.

Speaker 2 (43:59):
He's a rapper thirties in the bathroom. But you got
you can say that, like they're here, they're just walking up.

Speaker 1 (44:06):
I don't know. It's like the walk they just parked.
They just parked. You'd always say that lay park.

Speaker 2 (44:11):
I low key would throw my partner under the bus
like that. If somebody was like, why didn't you save
a seat, I'd be like, yeah, fucking Joe was a
pussy and didn't want to do it.

Speaker 1 (44:20):
Now we're getting to the core of it.

Speaker 2 (44:21):
But I also would just save the seats myself without him.

Speaker 1 (44:25):
Oh, that would have been a stand up move.

Speaker 2 (44:28):
If she just did it.

Speaker 1 (44:29):
She's like, go yeah, because if it's not a big deal,
then why can't she just do it? And I really,
I really don't like I have a couple couple of friends.
I don't get this vibe from you and Lily. But
I haven't tried to engage you guys in a fight
to try to divide you.

Speaker 2 (44:41):
Warning.

Speaker 1 (44:42):
No, I just hate when couples do present as a
united front in a way where it's like, Okay, y'all
are two independent people. It's very immature to me.

Speaker 3 (44:53):
You know, just side with the pussy. That's what I
was taught in church. That's yeah.

Speaker 1 (45:00):
It's like, I don't know like I want, Like when
I have a couple of friends, I'm like, yeah, I
want both of your perspectives, Like I wouldn't expect you guys,
I think the exact same thing. Yeah, presenting his united front.
I feel like that phrase is stolen from addressing your children,
which yes, is important, right because kids, kids will suss
this out and they will break you. Yeah, I don't

(45:22):
believe in war. Got me there.

Speaker 2 (45:25):
That's what you do because you have to be united
in your decision. But if it's just your friend.

Speaker 1 (45:30):
Hi, okay, Nails, Yeah, I'm with you. If you're a manager,
it's like manager assistant manager that needs to be united
front to the to the little low level employees or whatever.

Speaker 3 (45:39):
Yeah, the only thing he say it's like I want
you to corroborate, like lie with me, right, I'm fucking
up and you need to be sucking up with me.

Speaker 1 (45:47):
That violates, you know, a principle which I find hard
to deviate. Reporting is legal. She's like, yeah, he did this.
I disagreed, but I didn't stand up. I would actually
if she said that, I'd be like, that's clean. She's like,
I he wanted to, I went with him.

Speaker 2 (46:00):
I didn't.

Speaker 1 (46:01):
I didn't fight him, right, I would save this good.

Speaker 2 (46:04):
As this show. I wouldn't have to just be with him.

Speaker 3 (46:06):
How good is this show?

Speaker 2 (46:07):
That?

Speaker 3 (46:07):
Like he can't be two rows further back? You know
what I mean?

Speaker 2 (46:10):
Because like that's what I'm saying. The Rose are very
close most.

Speaker 1 (46:13):
Of the time.

Speaker 3 (46:13):
Like it's not it can't be Hamilton, right, Like what
what is he watch that? He's like, Yeah, if I'm
further from Hillsong, Jesus doesn't love me as much, you know, Like,
what's the.

Speaker 1 (46:23):
Fucking from Hillsong? That's a really funny reference. Actually, I
just watch Interstellar, which, oh my god, it made me
cry so much. But anyway, it's funny. It's kind of
like it had a second win. They read it. Whatever,
So there's the whole subreddit. Yes, I read the whole
subreddit after watching a movie. Fuck you like a reddit guy.
And anyway, so.

Speaker 3 (46:40):
Why not do that with Birth of a Nation. You're
gonna hate that.

Speaker 1 (46:43):
I love the Birth in a Nation subred So anyway,
one of the top comments is like, I got I
gotta see one of the re releases because they put
it on Imax and they're sitting in the front seat
and Imax. Why it's so funny because like at that angle,
the faces look like really stretched out, like really long there.
It's like, shit, bro, it's so funny. It's so bad.

Speaker 2 (47:04):
Why would you put yourself through that?

Speaker 1 (47:06):
I know these people are died diehearts about it.

Speaker 3 (47:09):
Anyway, Umm, you're not the asshole.

Speaker 1 (47:13):
That not the asshole. I think this guy needs therapy.
This is too far gone. I'm like, bro, you need
a man up a little bit. And I would say,
like for a woman who's like, yeah, I'm not I
don't want to have confrontations, I'd be like, yeah, it's
kind of why you got a fucking husband to be
a little bit confrontational. Top comment and see, oh, Dundy,
that's gender. Okay, fine, my toxic expectations. I guess Street

(47:33):
Length in ninety eight seventy one NTA. First, they're not late,
the event has not started yet, and your husband is
wanting his cake and eat it too. Not fair to
make you either lie or take the blame for a
very rude thing he made you do.

Speaker 3 (47:44):
Yes, you by yourself. Truth.

Speaker 1 (47:48):
Yeah. Top dissenting comment, shut up. Kate Andoley writes, I
think it'd be very rude for two people to try
to occupy eight seats. I really dislike when my husband
I get to a show and can't find two decencies
together because they're all safe for people who couldn't be
bothered to get there on time. Yta for tackling. No,
I think that person. I think it's not the thing

(48:09):
is the rudeness here. Here's where I think it's not
rude to try, and it's not rude to override.

Speaker 3 (48:15):
Right.

Speaker 2 (48:15):
I agree, and I think that, Yeah, it is annoying
when you go somewhere and people are on time. But
this particular person, oh P said there were plenty of seats.
Like she said it, she was like, I felt like
we could save seats because there were so many other
seats still available. She might have felt differently if every
other seat was taken and then it's like, oh shit,

(48:36):
like maybe we can't save six seats because we're going
to constantly have people coming up to assisting with us for.

Speaker 1 (48:42):
These I mean it does reach a point, right like
as we get closer to the start of the show
where people are like where are they? Then all the
bullshit's like really oh really yeah really yeah really they're here.
They're already here.

Speaker 2 (48:54):
You know.

Speaker 1 (48:55):
It's like it starts to get heated because it's like, well,
now you're being a dick. It's like this first comes,
first serve, and are there is no saving seats? Yeah,
it's it's somebody who's being gentle with you by letting
you save seats.

Speaker 3 (49:08):
Covert where are you?

Speaker 2 (49:12):
It might be? I will like, oh no, I guess
even at the Greek they.

Speaker 3 (49:15):
Have it church. This is a church thing.

Speaker 1 (49:19):
Were you guys who is the cover band recently that you?

Speaker 2 (49:22):
Yeah? Where did that come from?

Speaker 1 (49:25):
Because I was talking to Ship I was like, yeah,
people in l A are so corny they like cover bands,
and that you were like, oh this is great. I
a cover band.

Speaker 2 (49:34):
Well, I don't know that they're great, my friends just
in it. They are very popular. I think they are great.

Speaker 3 (49:40):
But I think you should do cover bands, but only
when the artist becomes disgraced. I like that, you know
what I mean? So the second yeah, like, there should
be a cover band so we can enjoy the music
without him.

Speaker 1 (49:51):
Yeah, that's good. Smart, and and.

Speaker 3 (49:54):
They shouldn't ask the original artists for consent.

Speaker 1 (49:56):
To do let's go. Yeah, what.

Speaker 3 (50:01):
Like my name?

Speaker 1 (50:02):
Oh roduer.

Speaker 3 (50:05):
Right raye yea.

Speaker 1 (50:06):
Yeah, So a day for telling our friends there real
reason we didn't save them seats and event. Even though
it upset my husband, I think this is nta and
he is. Get therapy, bro. It's time of man up
a little bit, or at least take accountability out of
our pair. Mens.

Speaker 3 (50:20):
I get you might have some some sort of anxiety,
but you gotta howne it.

Speaker 1 (50:24):
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We love it, all right, boy? All right, bros? What
what am I saying?

Speaker 2 (50:35):
I don't know?

Speaker 1 (50:36):
All right, y'all, Here we go, my lovers, Why am
I saying this stuff? I love you guys. Here we
go wrapping up on Hey it A bought a new
toy to make a point. We've been together for twenty
seven years, married for twenty four, got two kids. One
kid is quote unquote on her own, living in my
basement with her boyfriend. We have radically definitions of on

(50:58):
her own, and the other was about head to university.
Since all I've ever really known is being a dad,
it has been my hobby, duty, passion all rolled into one.
Since they don't need me the same way these days,
I picked up a hobby flying remote control planes. My
wife hates the idea of me doing anything outside of
her presence. What it's become a bit controlling. Now. We've

(51:20):
been through a lot as anyone with the long term partner,
and she is as good a partner as I could hope.
Last year or so, I've had some consulting where it
come along that I'll accept calls with clients for a
few hundred dollars. I've been wanted to buy a new plane,
so I tucked the money from two of these calls
into a different card. Whenever I even talk about the hobby,
wife is angry. I mentioned grabbing something before these idiotic

(51:40):
tariffs take hold here in the US, and it was
a fight. I went and ordered it from the side fund.
It will be here this week. My thought is, I
made money we don't need, tucked it out of our
normal bank and bought a plane. I kind of feel
like one, but also feels like I'm being controlled a
I da I. First of all, let me just say
I've always loved remote control things. When I was a kid,

(52:02):
we used to. Actually, I was thinking about this is
so crazy, so we all my dad would buy We
had the rockets you ever do ss rockets as kid?
It was basically, dude, it was literally just like a
plastic tube. And then you would buy these engines and
then it would like and the engine was basically just
a firecracker really, and then it would launch the rocket
up and then if things went well and they almost
never did, the top would pop off and then it

(52:23):
would parachute down. So there's no really control, but you could,
you know, launch it. Yeah, that was cool. And then
this is a crazy one. We had these. Hell, we
had a helicopter and it was two blades and one
was big and it would slow it down, and then
one was small, like maybe like five inches not that
that's small, and my dad would do it because it

(52:45):
would cut your finger clean off and you would spin it. It
would like kickstart right, so you'd like spin it with
your finger and then it would just fucking and just fly,
and then the big blades would kind of slow it
down as it fell, because like this is before drones
and all that shit. And that's kind of my grind
as a little bit of a millennial here, is that
the drones are so good there's no like risk with them,

(53:06):
like object detected, you could in bet battery low. It's
like there's no room for failure, and so you could
just be like a total they're like two.

Speaker 2 (53:15):
I think they're actually really dangerous still, and a lot
of risk is involved still with drones, which at first
I think I said Jerome and I was like, who's
Jerome and why.

Speaker 1 (53:23):
Are you flying? Oh Jerome? Yeah, we fly this guy
named Jerome. He's like a little bug our a little
bug friend.

Speaker 2 (53:28):
But drones are still very dangerous. But I get what
you're saying. I mean, I have I have automated.

Speaker 1 (53:33):
No, you're right, I mean there was a woman at
Echo Park recently, this genius was five her bareback propellers
that could just bonky ride the highball. She's flying it
at eye level in the middle of the path, terrifying.
And so I always start these interactions the same way,
and I'm like, Hi, really nice drone.

Speaker 2 (53:49):
You have.

Speaker 1 (53:51):
Such a trojan horse. And then I'm like, yeah, you're
flying it at eye level? Are you trying to hurt people?

Speaker 2 (53:57):
And she I make the.

Speaker 3 (53:59):
Ones with a little bump or condom thing on them.

Speaker 1 (54:01):
I know, like you just got raw dog propellers.

Speaker 4 (54:03):
Out of her.

Speaker 1 (54:04):
Lady crazy, Oh my gosh. Uh yeah, So you guys
seem quiet on this one. My read on this is
we've been together twenty seven years. I got a feeling
this saying a bad lady. I got a feeling she's
a great mom, and I got a feeling that maybe
the issue is that she's she's controlling you because something's

(54:25):
something's not being fulfilled with her and she needs she
needs you to help her, bro and instead of you're
fucking punting around with your little airplanes.

Speaker 4 (54:34):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (54:35):
I don't know how to apologize it, honestly.

Speaker 2 (54:36):
I mean I get that because I feel like, what
was it some wife swap? Baby, I'm still watching it,
still watching wive swap and put in on one of
the wife swaps. She like was like type A anal cleaning,
Like everything was like clean, clean, clean, clean, to the
point where her family was like, we're not asking for this,
like stop spending six hours a day cleaning. We don't

(54:57):
fucking care. But then that in itself was like her
trying to be useful and then them like being like,
we don't fucking care about what you're doing, and then
she's like, well, I'm spending all this time doing this
thing that you don't even appreciate, And it's like this
vicious cycle of like her not knowing where she stands
or what she's supposed to be doing because she doesn't
have anything now that the kids have grown up and
left the house. So it does seem like he found

(55:18):
a hobby and potentially she doesn't have one of her own,
which is why she wants to be around all the
things he's doing. But I don't think that he should
not buy a hobby plane because she's against it. I
think it's an asshole move that he has a different
bank account.

Speaker 3 (55:33):
Start a hobby Plaine affair, obviously.

Speaker 2 (55:36):
That's I think you're right, though he should be including
her more well.

Speaker 1 (55:41):
I guess what I'm trying to say is, if you're
with someone for twenty seven years and this is your
soul gripe, he doesn't mention anything else. You guys successfully
raised two kids. I mean, one lives in the basement.
But honestly, these days, I don't even I'm like, goods,
that's as good as a guest.

Speaker 2 (55:56):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (55:57):
So I'm like, I don't really believe that she's crazy
because he's kind of this is kind of like she's
being crazy.

Speaker 2 (56:02):
I don't think he says that he's she's being crazy,
says that's the idea of me doing anything outside of
his presence that's controlling. I don't. I think that there's
somewhere between being crazy and being not having anything else
going on.

Speaker 1 (56:17):
Well, I'm well, yeah, I agree with that. But what
I'm trying to say is it's it's like he's so
blind to her side that she seems like she's just
doing something random, randomly controlling. And I'm like, you obviously
love this person. So I think I think he's not
seeing something with her, and I think you should help
her through that. That's part of marriage. I mean, I
think you nailed it that that seems like it's it's
empty nester syndrome. Yeah, and she's like maybe she hasn't

(56:39):
she isn't ready to quite move on, and he needs
to help her with that instead of sneakily buying, Bro,
you shouldn't be doing that.

Speaker 3 (56:49):
I look, never sneakily buy anything in a marriage.

Speaker 1 (56:52):
Yeah, unless it's a surprise gift.

Speaker 3 (56:55):
Truth, And even that, I can get you in troubles
for your mistress.

Speaker 1 (57:02):
She's up to no good.

Speaker 2 (57:03):
That's good.

Speaker 3 (57:04):
I kind of always love a codependent where they're like,
my wife just can't be alone without me, you know
what I mean, Like there's something if you know, if
we were like talking about stuff one hundred years ago,
You're like, yeah, that's what it is. If they don't
function without each other whatever.

Speaker 1 (57:16):
You know, Well, that's how they built a system where
like we'll just give women no credit cards or anything,
and we'll force them to be dependent on us.

Speaker 3 (57:24):
And they but they backdoor to dependence on them as well.
We're like we I don't know how to cook food,
or do laundry or do anything.

Speaker 1 (57:30):
I know, Bro, I'm so worried.

Speaker 2 (57:32):
I'm not worried literally the foundation of a life.

Speaker 1 (57:34):
But I'm like I think I've told I help my parents.
My mom sees this, I'm just like, I need my
dad to die first. My dad, I'm not taking care
of that motherfucker.

Speaker 3 (57:43):
Well, my grandma died and she left just my grandpa
or whatever. Literally, there was hundreds of adults having it.
They're like, how is he going to do anything?

Speaker 1 (57:51):
Hundreds they were like they would they would be.

Speaker 3 (57:53):
Like, oh, so you saw try on, how's he going
to eat breakfast? He doesn't know how to do anything.
But that. I was like, he was the director of
a factory that had thousands of employees. Yeah, but he
doesn't know what temperature anything is.

Speaker 2 (58:06):
It does not translate, it doesn't. My friend's grandmother passed
away last year, and I remember her saying that, like, oh,
we're really worried because he like doesn't do a lot
of stuff. She's a homemaker, she's been taking care of
his ass. Like this guy went and found himself a
new girlfriend. Yeah, and they like her at least acts,

(58:28):
but they were like, how was he gonna survive? Oh,
find someone else.

Speaker 3 (58:32):
It's a beat or a caretaker. And obviously dicking down
a new lady sometimes is cheaper than a nurse's grifty wisdom.
If the lever still works, if the hand will still
that thang be banging.

Speaker 1 (58:44):
And bang be thanging, though, gets you a new thing.
I want to just see this guy try a little harder.
If it was like I keep talking to her about
why what this might be coming from. It's like, let's
explore a little bit with the wifey, you know, let's
get in there. Why is she being controlling? It's like
it just seems a little bit like, well she said no,
and I went buying her back, and I'm like, well,

(59:06):
your job is to help lead and work together.

Speaker 3 (59:09):
The reason I was like so like I was like,
I wonder has he done this before? Is this a
pattern of like this is how we deal with things,
Like she's just like against stuff and I do it
and there's no conflict whatsoever to figure it out? Or
is this a new development from year twenty seven? Things
have changed like you were kind of alluding to, like
the dynamic has given her a need to hold on
to things or whatever.

Speaker 1 (59:30):
Yeah, I don't know.

Speaker 2 (59:32):
I like the planes.

Speaker 3 (59:34):
There's a lot of reasons.

Speaker 2 (59:35):
Because he wants to do it by himself.

Speaker 3 (59:37):
Yeah, he's going to do a tiny nine to eleven
the neighbors into model cities.

Speaker 1 (59:47):
And then I will finally have all the oil. And
Tiny I read that he really funded geopolitical like old
guys with models.

Speaker 3 (59:59):
I found your time, Tiny Muhammadadas passport at the base
of my.

Speaker 2 (01:00:04):
Yeah, I think it's interesting. The TLDR that he played,
which his wife isn't keen on my hobby, made some
side money and bought a plane. Am I the asshole?
That clearly like shows us what he thinks the problem
is versus like what it actually is.

Speaker 3 (01:00:19):
I wonder if moved on.

Speaker 2 (01:00:21):
Am I the asshole?

Speaker 3 (01:00:22):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (01:00:23):
Yeah, honestly, Yeah, nothing puts me off. Life has taught
me this When I say, like if someone goes, oh yeah,
oh that person's such a dick blah blah blah blah blah,
and I haven't seen it, and like I go, well,
what would they say? What would they say that you've
done to them? And they can't give me anything?

Speaker 3 (01:00:39):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (01:00:40):
Anything. I'm always like, I don't know, I don't know.

Speaker 2 (01:00:43):
Do you think it's impossible.

Speaker 1 (01:00:45):
No, I don't think it's impossible, But it just like
even people who did me mad dirty, I'm like, no,
I know, Like there were things that I did were ambiguous.
He isn't ambiguous enough, And like I would say, if
I was on their side, they would take that ambiguous
thing as evidence that I'm a bad person, or that
I hurt them, or maybe they were hurt by it,
you know, because it was a playful joke, you know,
like yeah. So it's like the ability to like perspective

(01:01:09):
take is very important as your goddamn wife, so just
see it from her side. Top comment by Fred Franny
Freckles wrote, NTA, if your wife can spend a similar
amount of money on something she enjoys, but you and
your wife should decide how much play money you each get.
It's perfectly reasonable for her to want you to prioritize
things other than your toys. But this we're having a budget,
and how much you can each spend on non essentials
comes in potter squash rights. I don't get how you're

(01:01:31):
feeling controlled when you did everything you wanted on your
own Now empty nesting is the thing we all do
it in our own way. This seems more like you're
dealing better with it than her, so I hope you
give some grace there you go, this is the first
time you've hid money. You all usually share Yta if
this is done to make a point, Hyta, I agree
with that. I'm like, yeah, why don't you be there
for her and take take it as a you know,
have the sophistication and the maturity to be like, hey,
what's this really about? Because I'm just trying to fly

(01:01:54):
a fucking plane.

Speaker 2 (01:01:55):
Yeah, and it is something and he knows it. That's
why you hid the monies.

Speaker 3 (01:01:58):
All husband's hobbies should be fixing their wives anyway. I mean,
we've read the good book, right and read the dead book.

Speaker 2 (01:02:05):
We fixed you so you could fix us back.

Speaker 1 (01:02:08):
I also like how he's the TLDRS has bought a plane,
and it's like, sweetheart, you bought a remote control.

Speaker 3 (01:02:13):
Yeah, dog.

Speaker 1 (01:02:14):
From a wise perspective, at least he's buying a thousand
dollars eight hundred bucks. Yeah, because they start at what
fiddy easily for you says on the death trap. You
don't even want that an ultra light? Count me out.

Speaker 2 (01:02:28):
Can I share a sweet memory.

Speaker 1 (01:02:29):
Of cour Yes, Carla.

Speaker 2 (01:02:30):
One time I was dog sitting in the palisades and
we got to this little viewpoint, me and the dog,
and I got him to sit up on the bench
with me and we had like this moment where we
were like looking over the ocean and I had my
arm around him and everything, and like from the back,
I could just like imagine like just like a comic
book strip of like a girl and her dog looking
at a thing. And then this lady rolled up and
she started flying one of those RC planes. She looked

(01:02:52):
like the homeless woman in a home alone, the pigeon lady.

Speaker 3 (01:02:58):
Okay, house lady, Okay.

Speaker 2 (01:03:00):
She looked like her kind of, but she started flying
this plane and I was like, this is so sweet,
and she was.

Speaker 1 (01:03:06):
It was just like I was cute.

Speaker 2 (01:03:08):
Okay, yeah, I was super cute. And I was just
like a core memory that I was just like just
me and my dog watching this unhoused lady fly her
little plane in the palace, says, and I'll never forget it.
And I was like, if anything, I want to have
a hobby like that that brings joy to strangers in public.

Speaker 1 (01:03:24):
It's so sweet. My mind is so ruined. I just
I kept picturing you by the dog, and then you
and the dog kind of make eye contact and like
look away, like looking at each other, and then you
just look at each other and you start making out.

Speaker 2 (01:03:36):
Oh no, I don't make out with BoJack.

Speaker 1 (01:03:39):
Oh it was BoJack jack yours. It was BoJack Sweet
BoJack Ai Ta bond newtoy. To make a point, I'm sorry, guys,
I am at soft Yta. I'm like, I don't believe
that your wife, at twenty seven years of you raised
two kids with, is just randomly being controlling. I feel
like you need to do a little bit more work
and be a little bit of a partner. Damn it.

Speaker 2 (01:03:59):
Agreed.

Speaker 3 (01:03:59):
Yeah, we're worst case scenario. She's actually like developing a schism,
a mental illness or something, you know what I mean.
And you yeah, and your your solution is like I'm
ignoring this bitch with my toy.

Speaker 1 (01:04:09):
Yeah, I'm doubling down.

Speaker 4 (01:04:12):
True.

Speaker 1 (01:04:14):
Guys. That's the app guys plug away, Thanks for listening.

Speaker 3 (01:04:18):
Please follow me on Instagram. It's my name, raw du Bondar.
I won't spell it for you, got to sound it out.
But I got a lot of cool stuff coming and
it's just all going to be on there.

Speaker 2 (01:04:26):
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That's fun Underscore k E. My pilot is screening soon
this month May twenty third. At our social Club. It's exciting. Yeah,
we're tying all the information. It's very funny, and it's
gonna be better than whatever new Tim Robbinson movie you watch.

Speaker 1 (01:04:49):
All Right, guys, much love, thanks for listening, See you
next time, bos

Speaker 2 (01:05:01):
P.