June 9, 2025 • 49 mins
I'm joined by Evyenia and Alex Paisley Stedman!
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(0:00) - Banter
(15:50) - AITA for not inviting my best friend to my apartment warming party?
(28:27) - AITA for saying ride share apps should allow women to request women drivers?
(39:17) - AITA for expecting my boyfriend to include me in memorial day plans despite being unable to swim?
Follow Evyenia: https://www.instagram.com/nia_bois/
Follow APS: https://www.instagram.com/alex.paisley.stedman/
(0:00) - Banter
(15:50) - AITA for not inviting my best friend to my apartment warming party?
(28:27) - AITA for saying ride share apps should allow women to request women drivers?
(39:17) - AITA for expecting my boyfriend to include me in memorial day plans despite being unable to swim?
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hi, everybody, Welcome to it a pod. I'm Danny Vega,
joined by a return guest, Yania and Alex. Yes us
aps in the house.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
Yes us, just letting my Greek farm girl shine.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
I'm in my baker era. And it's Alex's birthday month.
So for all who celebrate, and I made a variety
of cakes.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
You made a dessert for every day. I celebrate every
day I have a party, which is thirty.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
I made you sour cream cake. What was our opinion
of the sour.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
Cream I liked that, Yeah, I liked it a lot.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
See. The thing is, the people who eat my cake,
they want icing, but I'm not.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
An icon with icing.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
It's too much, it's too much, too much, it overwhelms
the cake.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
Eat a fucking muffin. Well that's why I like the
other little bread things you made.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
Yes, yes, I was calling it summer cake, but Evania
pointed out skinny cake is moreny cakes.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
Also kind of just like corn bread.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
I've heard that before. That does hurt my little baker feelings.
But I love corn bread.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
I love corn I hate it up plate.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
You know that's that's very clear, the plate that sugar.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
She don't look if my plate is embarrassing. Don't don't
do Alex. You've been using your feet as hands today
a lot. Like I'm so tired today. I'm like, I've
been eating.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
Are you so tired? Because I was going to say
you your eyes, you have tired eyes?
Speaker 2 (01:24):
Oh, never say that. Never said she had tired eyes.
I'm exhausted. But how dare you?
Speaker 1 (01:32):
How dare me see what's so obviously true?
Speaker 2 (01:36):
So odd?
Speaker 1 (01:37):
But it's because you you know, you're young and you're
lacking a woman. No, I'm not I'm not taking it's
not an attack.
Speaker 2 (01:44):
Oh my god, Alex, are you okay? Barely? I am tired, exhausted?
Speaker 1 (01:52):
Late last night?
Speaker 2 (01:53):
If I been having a weekend, Hell, were you up
last night like four?
Speaker 1 (01:57):
That's crazy?
Speaker 2 (01:59):
And then I had to get on nine o'clock zoom,
Well I had to get up at nine. I had
to get that.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
Okay, So you're a little tired today.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
And I've been up like every night that super late,
lost three nights. But I haven't slept in a week myself.
So women in stem doing the most. And then you're
going to tell me we look tired. I don't say
you look tired. Yeah, okay, she's not for a week.
I've been up for less than a week. And I
look at women in STEM because we're both we're both
in Stem.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
How are you? How are you guys?
Speaker 2 (02:28):
You're gonna ask us, You're gonna ask women are women
in sim and you're gonna say all that we have
not hired?
Speaker 1 (02:34):
What are you doing?
Speaker 2 (02:35):
Literally? Literally, women in Stem? You're literally that doesn't mean anything.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
You're literally.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
Not all men but always a man?
Speaker 1 (02:46):
How are you in Steam? Give me one reason?
Speaker 2 (02:49):
Wow?
Speaker 1 (02:49):
Because dating is and science? Is that the angle here?
Speaker 2 (02:52):
Wow? All we're good for is dating and looking tired? Wow,
you heard it here first, straight out Danny's mouth.
Speaker 1 (02:58):
Such an honor to be in the present of such
beautiful women the still are in STEM for because they've
declared that they're in Stem and in the arts.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
I don't know. I've been baking lots of ship for people.
Had a good little hang yesterday. See here's the thing.
When you bake shit for people, the gluten freeze come out. Well, yeah,
then you got to up your game.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Have any gluten free options?
Speaker 1 (03:19):
So I just so. One of my gluten free friends
gave me some flour to use.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
That's so sweet.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
I'm adapting vegan surprisingly easy. It's like, don't use butter,
don't use eggs. Not that big of the deal. I
mean it's hard to get a fluffy but whatever, it's
got sugar, they're gonna eat it.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
The next thing you have to master is the vegan
gluten free.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
Yeah. Together, it's just like no, I mean, eggs are
kind of like magic eggs, you know, eggs. That is it?
Speaker 3 (03:42):
How do we feel about like a bakery that's like
comedians work at so it's like.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
A comedy baked funny bakery.
Speaker 3 (03:50):
Yeah, and so like always behind the counter there's a
comedian working, so you like get a little show while
you get your baked goods. Is this is this kind
of where you're going as like next steps?
Speaker 1 (04:00):
No, I just like baking for people. I think it's fun.
I get to eat it. You know, it keeps well.
You can just kind of have it. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
Everyone loves someone who brings the cookies to the party.
You know.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
I showed out to a picnic yesterday. I have like
three kinds of cakes queued up. Might cut my cakes.
It's fun.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
I couldn't do it. I can't, as you see, I can't.
I have to finish my plate. So if I made
stuff at my house, I'm eating of it. It's so bad.
I mean there's still something, there's something.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
No, it's good. I mean that's the sour cream cake,
which is, like I said, that's my like crowd pleaser.
Here's the issue, though, people like cookies more than cake.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
I love well, ice cream, cookies everything, Oh ice cream.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
But you love about cookies as are too easy.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
Danny wants a challenge.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
Well, it's just like a cook What is a cookie?
It's butter and sugar, folks with chocolate chips. Give me
a damn break. I mean, look, it's heaven, it's God sent.
But it's like it's hard to fuck up. Whereas a cake,
it's like I like it to be delicate and just
a little bit sweet and like kind of interesting.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
You should go on a cooking baking show. You should
go and nailed it. Oh no, because you're actually pretty good.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
Nailed it. No, I'm not good. I have a lot
to learn. I'm got to learn from the supermarket ladies,
because those cakes are beautiful.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
Yeah, the supermarket Whole Foods.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
They suck up a cake, they're crushing it.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
Yeah. My sister has a cake business.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
Really.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
Yeah, she does all kinds of baked goods.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
It's pretty good, pretty good.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
Yeah, it's very good. So every family function she can
be she's bringing. Yeah, she loves she loves to. I
used to be the like you. That's very homemark of her.
Speaker 3 (05:29):
We are Actually every single Hallmark movie is actually based
on my family.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
Yeah, yeah, I forgot about that. Yeah yeah, she already
knew that.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
There's a good stress I get see with I guess
with a comedy show, I think there's a stress that
comes with it. But it's it's very it's very like,
I don't know. I feel like food is easier in
a sense because you know, people are gonna be hungry,
so they have to eat, so like they're gonna eat
what you serve. But then I have to.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Laugh, right, I always laugh because I feel bad.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Thank you, I'm so flattered.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
I no, like, for every every time I've had a
comedy show, I'm like, it is solely on me to
make the comedian feel okay right now, and I'm gonna
laugh so loud. And I always eat because I feel bad.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
You really feel really bad?
Speaker 2 (06:15):
That no, really bad. I'm like, I want him to
know that. I think it's.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
Okay, but but there's a stress that comes with like
having people over. And I have people over a lot
now because but I like it because it's like it
puts me in a flow state where I'm just like,
have to clean, I have to cook, to go, go go.
I love hosting for that, and the days are just
flying by. Now, Oh my god, you guys ever have days.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
Flying Like DoorDash is coming in an hour. I gotta
clean up. I gotta make sure he thinks it's looking good.
Gotta have a cookie for him. That'd be nice.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
Oh that would be really nice. Yeah you think they
would that tip?
Speaker 3 (06:45):
Oh yeah, do you think ducks would care? I'm sorry, wait,
what's his name? The guy that we're at the Duk Shepherd?
He said, DoorDash?
Speaker 1 (06:54):
Now, Dak explain?
Speaker 2 (06:56):
Who's the guy? I forget? The one who I think
is hilarious and you met him once?
Speaker 1 (07:00):
Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, his name is Dak's Flame. He's
like a I would say he's like an anti comedian.
He tells he.
Speaker 2 (07:06):
Always gives them.
Speaker 3 (07:07):
The people come and then delivery people come and he
gives them like a pizza. Yeah, and then he like
he's like, I want you to sit here. And eat it,
and then I'm going to interview you and be like,
did you like, how did you feel about that?
Speaker 2 (07:18):
Did that make you happy?
Speaker 1 (07:19):
Oh? My god, there you go new bit. Yeah, I
met him at the park. He was so jealous, like
I have to take a picture of you and my friend.
And it was just as awkward as I would have thought.
But it was pleasant, Like it was pleasant but awkward.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
If you ever meet Billy Eilish from My Stars, tell
me where you are some mere location.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
Oh you like Billy Eilish, Okay, we can meet there.
I love I'll always so fun.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
Oh you mean Billy Eichner. I love Billy Eichner too.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
Who's Billy Eilish? Billish? Bad girl?
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Your house? Leave your own house there, I'm.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
Don Dond that's also but like also, to be fair,
that was such a wildly different like fame level than
who we're talking about.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
Well, Billy Aigner might be a little. I mean, Billy's
pretty famous to I do know who you're talking about now,
the Das guy. Okay, but because I listened to Rick
Klassman's podcast and he interviews him.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
But yeah, anyways, what's the Billy Ailis ship that I'm
thinking on Bura, bad girl.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
What is it done done? Dun?
Speaker 3 (08:16):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (08:17):
What is that?
Speaker 2 (08:17):
I'm the bad guys. Woo our next our, next track. Yeah,
I'm like, who's Billy Elish? Is criminal? Crazy? Crazy? Jail,
straight to jail, straight to jail.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
I don't know. I don't really have any drama.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
You're going to jail, that's drama. Well, I have a
quick side note.
Speaker 3 (08:34):
But anyone is in Santa Barbara or near there, please
contact me because we're trying to save a dog.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
Okay, so what handle? Give a handle?
Speaker 3 (08:42):
Nia boys n n like Nancy, I a underscore b
as in boy oh I s as in snake. If
you are an animal lover and you're anywhere near Santa
Barbara area, please contact me. There is a dog that
needs help.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
You guys, come to my cookout cookout near go ahead.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
Cook Yeah, I'm coming to your grook out.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
Are you well if I'm here?
Speaker 2 (09:02):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (09:02):
You put maybe every fuck it? Let me tell you
some Maybe you put an event. Oh I just agree,
l A girl is gonna hate.
Speaker 3 (09:07):
You can maybe just don't have maybe as an option
that's possible.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
Yes, I need to do, just do yes or no,
make it real. We're doing we finally locked in a
date for our premiere June twenty six. I hope you
can come. I'll send you the invite soon. But maybe
so we're not we're not doing that because we're it's
like it's like a big thing. We're paying its red carpet.
It's like we can't have Maybe so we're not a
long maybes. But I just hosted three birthday events and
I'm gonna host more because it's my birthday month. I
(09:31):
host an event every single day you go. But it
is crazy because people are like last minute. All of
them are like, oh, I'm sorry, I can't make it.
I can't make it. I mean, it's still a great turnout,
but it's like, la so flake.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
I did that to you?
Speaker 2 (09:42):
You did do that? Yeah, you did that to me? Fake?
What were you?
Speaker 1 (09:44):
Fuck up? Girl?
Speaker 2 (09:45):
Go to the doctor.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
I'm gonna go. I'm gonna go.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
You could have rolled there. Well, I was gonna say
this is not related and you've got this, but Mandela effect.
Do the monsters in Scooby Doo say if it wasn't
for you meddling kids and your dog too, or do
they just say if it wasn't for you medaling kids.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
I have no idea dog too, of course, because if
it wasn't for your medaling kids.
Speaker 2 (10:09):
And your dog too, Mandela effect, it's just medaling kids
and your dog who is from Wizard of Oz. That
fucked me up for a week.
Speaker 1 (10:15):
I'm upset about that.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
I think I'm not like really in on Scooby Doo girl,
get in, get in it, am I am I going
to be arrested too. You can share, Stanny, We're sharing
this out.
Speaker 1 (10:28):
I actually have my dream, honestly.
Speaker 3 (10:31):
I have a story. Actually, my friend told me this
crazy thing that happened. She was she matched, so she
went on a couple of dates with this guy from
Hinge and she like, I think she like wanted to
like him more, almost more than she actually did, because
like he had like she liked that he was taking charge.
You know, he's like, we're gonna do that. It's like
(10:52):
making it, making the plans, like leading. He was like
showing her attention. And he was a little bit too
for with the physical cool affection. It was like kind
of a red flag from the start. But anyway, so
they're like, she's kind of like trying to figure she went.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
They went on a couple of dates.
Speaker 3 (11:09):
Then she had to go on a travel on like
a work trip, so she was just like, yeah, like
i'll hit you up when I'm back, because she kind
of wanted to take the time to be like do
I actually even like want to get to know this
person more. I'm getting a few like kind of strange
feelings in my gut.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
So she gets back into.
Speaker 3 (11:26):
Town and she's like on her hinge account and she
had previous to that, she just had two matches and
he was one of them. And when she locks back in,
he's like not a match anymore. And she's like, oh,
that's weird, Like did he like block me, unmatch me?
Speaker 2 (11:41):
Whatever.
Speaker 3 (11:42):
So she's like swiping and she comes across his profile
again it says like new here. So it's almost like
he deleted. He like deleted and started a new one.
That's fine whatever. Now his location is different again. I
could give him a pass on that, like maybe he
wanted to date in the different part of La Guys.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
He changed his name, he.
Speaker 3 (12:05):
Changed pictures, so she said the profile was very similar.
He like re curated his responses a bit, but the
main thing was that he like changed his name and
I think he just like re rearranged the letters in
his actual name and like had a different name.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
So she was like, okay, I'm I'm like, I'm out.
I'm not. This is where I fail because I'm like,
I want to know what's going on. When you'll see
someone you know, do you always swipe right even if
you don't like them?
Speaker 1 (12:33):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (12:34):
Never? No, Okay, I'm different. I think I'm different. Here
you are, I think so. I think the rule on
that is you he's so different. No, but then like,
if I know someone, I just want to say hi,
even if I don't like them. No, No, but you should.
Speaker 3 (12:47):
I don't think you should ever swipe right on someone
that you know, especially unless you are interested in them
if you're not.
Speaker 1 (12:54):
And I agree that is so. It's me that's.
Speaker 2 (12:58):
Mean even if I'm like, oh my god, hi, I
know that's so.
Speaker 3 (13:01):
I mean because they swipe on you, which means they
probably were interested in you, and so now you're like, they're.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
Just trying to be like, hey, what's up? Like, no,
no one knows that I've had that happen me and this, okay, hey.
Speaker 3 (13:12):
Probably he probably was trying to feel things out. And
then when you were like, oh no, like hey, just
want to say him. Then he was like saving face.
So I feel like, yeah, I think that's the rule.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
Like I personally, I think if you see someone on
an app that you are interested in, you can swipe right.
But if you already have their number, you could also
just be like I said, on a you don't know
how to say that, you could just kind of like
feel things out that way and like text them be
like hey, like how have you been, and kind of gauge.
But it's like if it hasn't happened already. Sometimes it's
like motor skills, like you know, when you're just scrolling
through I heard everything. I'm like, I don't know if
it's an enemy, I'm hurting it like before I can
(13:42):
even see it. I'm like I do that like a
face or cognition. I'm like, all right if I know,
if I see it and I know it, I'm like
I just sometimes I'm doing it already and I'm like fuck,
so I'll work on it.
Speaker 1 (13:53):
ADHD interesting. So what's the theory though, Why is he
doing that?
Speaker 2 (13:57):
I think he's con artists.
Speaker 3 (14:00):
Yeah, well I would guess that he I mean, he
probably has gotten himself into trouble, right because she she
already said, like I was like, I think she said
to him, he was like, do you not like me?
Because like I think their first date was like a
little walk and he like tried to kiss her thirty
minutes in and she was like, oh, like no, like
(14:20):
I don't know you yet. And he's like, oh, well,
most girls like really really want.
Speaker 2 (14:24):
This and like this, and so like obviously that's like already,
you know he's lying girls. So most I think that
he just has I think he had to read create
a new identity because of some crazy shit. Yeah, I'm like,
there's something darker if you like.
Speaker 1 (14:42):
Absolutely, Yeah, it's so aggressive, so weird, right thirty minutes.
Speaker 3 (14:47):
Although, Alex, now we know, you know, since you're getting
a banned all the time, like just maybe change your.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
Name to change your name. Yeah, and I everything about me,
you just call it. You could be Zella Zella. I'd
probably got my matches. That's a funner, Okay, I love it. Okay, Yeah,
let's do it. Coming to an engineer, you.
Speaker 1 (15:07):
Here we go. Well, we got a juicy little up
for you guys today, our third story of the day
at a for expecting my boyfriend to include me in
Memorial Day plans despite not being able to swim. Second up,
it's a submission ATA for saying rideshare apps should allow
women writers to request women drivers. But first, folks, please review.
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for not inviting my best friend to my apartment warming party.
Got a friend who buys everything I buy, and then
she claims she'd already planned to buy those items. This
has been happening for quite some time now. At first
I thought it was cute that would be matching, but
it's gotten to the point where I feel like I
can't have anything that's just mine. It started with a
pair of vans. I asked her to come with me
(16:12):
to the mall, bought myself black sneaker vans. A week later,
she got the same pair. I asked her if she
always owned them. She said no, she saw them at
the mall thought they were cute. Another time, Dresses bought
a long red dress. She purchased a blue mini dress.
But when I got to the party, she's wearing the
same dress as me. Down the color. I confronted her.
She said the dress she bought didn't fit, so she
(16:32):
returned it. I recently moved to a new apartment. I
had sent her some pictures of the fern shows considering
asked for her opinion as I was going for a
cottage feel. She said she liked them, so I went
ahead and made the purchases. Not long after go to
her apartment. Living area had many of the execs.
Speaker 2 (16:46):
I really liked them.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
After I calmed down, I messaged her about the constant copying.
She told me I was acting like a child. I
told my partner too. He agreed with her. He basically said,
no person can own an item and I should get
over it. I had my apartment i'm warming yesterday just
after I finished decorating, and I didn't invite her because
I didn't want her getting more ideas to copy. Boyfriends
told me I was being selfish. Now she won't talk
to me ta.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
This is her best friend.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
Yeah right, Okay.
Speaker 3 (17:11):
I feel like it would have been a lot less
weird if she just bought the same thing in the
moment after.
Speaker 2 (17:20):
Is what makes it weird to me. It's very what's
that movie about the roommate that's psychoone wants to be
the other rooms? Yeah? Is it just called the roommate?
Speaker 1 (17:29):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (17:29):
Her roommate? I love land mister same.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
Have you guys ever copied or been copied? It is
a thing that happens.
Speaker 2 (17:37):
I mean, never did in my life. I'm so original.
I've never done anything the same. I would never My
sisters and I steal each other's clothes. Does that count.
I've definitely been influenced by friends and stuff, but I would.
I The difference is I'm like, oh, I'll ask, or
I'll say, like you inspired me to get this, or
can I do? Like me and my cousin went to
get our ears piers together and I literally was like,
can I get the exact same piercings you're getting? And
she's like, yeah, of course, oh got them together? That
(17:59):
requires like, well mission, no, it doesn't. But like that
one was like because it was like, I don't know,
that was just very specific.
Speaker 1 (18:05):
It could be a little thunder steally, right, if you
do the exact same thing as a friend, it's kind
of like it's just weird.
Speaker 2 (18:13):
But it's like I feel like most of the times
when I'm copying, it's reciprocated or it's like we both
It's like the thing where she was saying in the beginning,
it was cute. We're like doing little things here and
there that are the same. But yeah, I still have
my own personal style. It's very different that I don't
think most people would want to copy. But also a
lot of my friends have styles that are completely different
to me, because it's like we're two unique individuals. We
don't like all the same things, right, and when we do,
(18:33):
it's like cute. See, okay, yeah, let's both get this
like little matching set together cute and we're doing it
together in the moment I get I think matching with
your friends is super cute.
Speaker 1 (18:42):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (18:42):
I know it's not for everyone, but like I'm I
love it. Yeah, And then.
Speaker 3 (18:47):
Like I'm totally like just flattered if someone is like, oh,
I wasn't, like I think, like, I don't think it
requires permission. I think where it gets weird here or
like muddy is the fact that she's like wearing the
thing to the place that she knew her friend was like,
She's like, oh, I'm buying this red dress for this party. Great,
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I'm buying this blue dress. Then later buys the red dress.
That's where and then shows up in the same dress.
That is where I think it gets weird. If she
had just gotten the red dress and was like, oh,
I'll wear it to a different event or whatever, totally fine.
I don't think that requires any kind of permission. It
just at that point I'm like, Okay, are you trying
to like one up her?
Speaker 1 (19:24):
Are you exactly? That's an hour into it. It's not
that it requires permission, but it can play as thunder
ceiling or one upping, right, But I.
Speaker 3 (19:31):
Think only because she's wearing it to the same event
that she's wearing it too.
Speaker 1 (19:34):
I agree when it's direct or. But the thing is,
I think here and there is a obviously kind of
ambiguous term, but I'm kind of with you. That's kind
of what it is. Where it's like friendly and c
but when it's like, well, you're literally doing the same
fucking thing as me every time, mate, it's like that
does start to get like crazy making, it's crazy behavior. Well.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
Also it's kind of like she if they're best friends,
I would think you can go do your best friend
and talk about anything. Like if one of us was
doing this, I feel like we even we could be like, hey,
this is like, what's going on with it? Where's obsessed
with me? Are you like us? Are you trying to
be me? But it's like it's ads like she has
my advice to be a doctor, but sounds like she
already has, Like she's brought up a couple of times.
So I'm like that's the thing that she's not clocking
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it that. I'm like there's maybe a little a screw
missing or maybe it is like or maybe she's just trying.
Maybe she just just kind of obsessed her. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (20:19):
I mean, it is getting to be kind of gaslighting.
It's like, oh, yeah, I saw them at the mall
thout they're cute. It's like, you mean I we bought
them in front of.
Speaker 2 (20:26):
You at them all that we both went to. Yeah,
yeah weird.
Speaker 1 (20:30):
It's like, oh yeah, I don't even remember you got it.
Speaker 2 (20:34):
Yeah that's weird. Really, Alex hid her on that she's like,
she's got a screw loose. Well, it's very like a
girl interrupted. Is the other movie right, like where she's
trying to be her?
Speaker 1 (20:43):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (20:44):
Okay, anyways, you have a little too many references on
these types of movies she watches. I said, it's like
a movie nineteen ninety nine when I was best friends
with Jessica.
Speaker 1 (20:55):
And isn't it science technology engineering movies? That's well, we're
imitated our women in stem. Women in Stem so interesting,
Wing rights NCAA. Try on a wig in an outrageous color,
send her a picture asking for our opinion on your
new colors. To what happens, or maybe do it with
a temporary tattoo?
Speaker 2 (21:13):
Can you imagine? That's so diabolical? Yeah, I'm I mean, listen,
as long as I'm not like having to be a
part of this situation, please go ahead, go for it,
do it and tell me all about I think.
Speaker 1 (21:25):
This is something insecure people do, glind of gloam on
to others to a ridiculous point. I mean I remember
doing stuff like this. I mean I remember being like
an issue in grade school because they're surrounded about it
the same fucking Yeah, I mean, I was surrounded by
like sixteen motherfuckers and then like five of us are friends.
Speaker 2 (21:39):
But the thing that's interesting is that the boyfriend agrees
with the best friend.
Speaker 1 (21:42):
That that's he's an asshole for that.
Speaker 2 (21:45):
Or are we missing something? Is there more to the story.
I do copy my sister's hair sometimes, but I had
to go all the part at a party that I'm
like kind of friends with that we are always at
the same parties. Be like, I'm obsessed with what you
do your hair, teach me and I literally took it
down and readid it for her and she filmed me.
Next party we're at, she's wearing the exact same hairs,
and I was like, I love that. That's like so
cute and sweet and fun. And again, imitation is this.
Speaker 1 (22:05):
We're kind of in our hair and their standard, right,
So you just coppied your hair. If she copied your fucking.
Speaker 2 (22:10):
She's like, okay, so let me figure out exactly what
you're gonna wear the next party. I see, and thank
god she didn't because I came in sweats.
Speaker 1 (22:18):
She'd have been like, yeah, to me, this does feel
like excessive. It gets uncomfortable. It's like you're not being
self aware. We're called I called you out. You're like
denying it, and then it's like, well, yeah, I don't
want you in my apartment. It's like, to me, it's
more of an emotional thing. It's not really about the copy.
It's also that you're denying it. It's creepy.
Speaker 2 (22:36):
It's creepy. It is creepy, but not inviting your best
friend to your house for me.
Speaker 3 (22:42):
Do you think, like, could this also be that the
best friend just like has no sense of self and
so she's just hard to like cling on to, like
someone who already has like their own vision for things,
their own artistic style, and so that she's like I
don't have that.
Speaker 2 (22:56):
I don't I'm lost.
Speaker 3 (22:57):
So I'm just gonna like copy this person because I think, oh,
it's like it's my mentor now.
Speaker 1 (23:03):
But it is considered like encroaching. Like okay, so this
is happening recently. So I always bring food to the
co working space at I mean it was a joke,
but what somebody else brought food and they're like, I
didn't mean to like steal your thing, and I was like, yes,
I invented bringing food to places. I am the creator.
So but it is like kind of like, yeah, it
gets to be like thunder stealing. I don't know to
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a little bit, right.
Speaker 2 (23:24):
Did you feel like he was he was doing that
to you a little bit?
Speaker 1 (23:26):
No, No, I didn't feel that way. But there's just
that awareness, right, Like it just can be. It's just
like when you copy someone, it is kind of asking
for permission. Never hurts if you're copying. Or here's another example,
if there's a comedy show out of venue, it's just
I think kind of understood that it's just kind of
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a dick move to start another comedy show at the
same venue without talking to the people who have a
comedy show there.
Speaker 3 (23:54):
It's the venue. You're saying that the owner of the
venue needs to like check in with you.
Speaker 1 (24:00):
I'm saying, okay, and I'm talking about a non comedy venue.
So like, say that you're producing a comedy show at
the barbershop, which I used to be here, and then
I go to the barbershop seeing that there's a comedy
show there, and I'm like, I'd like to have a
comedy show there. It's just kind of like gross.
Speaker 3 (24:14):
Like I mean, the venues I host dating events, i'd
also host other dating events.
Speaker 1 (24:19):
I know, but I don't feel like dating events.
Speaker 2 (24:21):
I think that's the exact same thing.
Speaker 1 (24:22):
No, it's not, because to me it is. I don't
think it's the same though, because are you friends with
the other dating events people?
Speaker 2 (24:29):
No?
Speaker 1 (24:30):
Are you? A community? Comedy is more of a community.
Speaker 3 (24:32):
So it's kind of like would make it feel like
it would be less of an encroachment if you guys
are all friends.
Speaker 1 (24:36):
Right, Well, it's well, that's the thing is Copying your
friends is kind of an encroachment, That's what I'm saying.
So it's just kind of like you want to talk
to the people who have the show.
Speaker 2 (24:44):
Honestly, this is for my birthday, my one of my friends.
We're back, Okay, not to make it about me, but
here we go.
Speaker 1 (24:52):
We love it.
Speaker 2 (24:52):
No, but one of my friends did a talent show
for her birthday and it was amazing and it was
so so fun, and I was like, this is a
great idea. I want to copy this, Like I want
to do this for my birthday. Yeah, she wats it
out a black box theater. She's like. I was like,
I want to do this exact same thing. But then
I was like no, not only because I didn't want
to copy here. She would have been fine if I
reached out, but I would have reached out and asked
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her first if I was going to do that. But
then I was like, also, I'm a unique individual. Let
me think of something else. So I was like, what's
the closest thing to a comp to talent show? A roast?
So then I threw a roast, different but same, same
but different. I was inspired by her, and I told
her that your thing inspired me to do this different
but similar thing, right, kind of similar? So take that.
Speaker 1 (25:32):
Yeah, I mean whatever, it's a one off here, and
it's your birthday. It's like a personal thing. But I
guess I feel like you could do that, you could
have copied it. I think that would have been fine.
I think saying something is polite just because it can
come off as crazy.
Speaker 2 (25:42):
Also, she would have been invited, and she would have
been like, bitch, what like the exact same thing. That's weird,
you know exactly.
Speaker 1 (25:48):
But like I think it's if it's not now, if
it's the same day or even the same week, then
it's kind of like, okay, well, you're literally like taking
all the energy out.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
Of like when we through weddings at the same time,
same day. That was awkward.
Speaker 3 (25:59):
Yeah, well, I mean it was a weird thing because
I did invite you to my wedding first, Yeah, to
your wedding. We had weddings on the same day.
Speaker 1 (26:09):
What are we talking about. This is a joke. I
don't get it.
Speaker 3 (26:12):
No, we know, this was a real this is what happened.
Was so I had scheduled my wedding for the same day,
and then she booked.
Speaker 2 (26:18):
A bit of her wedding. So then we decided to
just marry each other.
Speaker 1 (26:21):
Oh god, I gotta got it.
Speaker 2 (26:24):
It all worked out.
Speaker 1 (26:25):
That's so cute. Are so cute, and I'm so happy
you're married to each other. And I'm not jealous at all.
Speaker 2 (26:30):
Thanks. So we get that reaction a lot at the
grocery store, mostly.
Speaker 1 (26:37):
AI ta for not inviting my best friend to my
apartment warming party. I feel like this relationship is pulling
apart because of this, because it's gas lighting. That's just
what it is.
Speaker 2 (26:47):
She's CosIng so much more.
Speaker 1 (26:48):
Yeah, to a ridiculous extent, and it's like she's not
owning it, you know, she's she's being self unaware and
it's like, yeah, now I kind of don't want you
around because you're like making me feel weird, and I
don't feel like that's an ass move. I feel like
it's a reaction to gaslighting.
Speaker 2 (27:02):
She should start only shopping at like thrift stores. I know,
like thrift stores where it's like you can only find
one of the thing that's true.
Speaker 1 (27:10):
But this is my jewel rates, the hope diamond, good luck.
Speaker 2 (27:13):
But real quick, do you think though I get all
of that underlying stuff. Yes, but do you think she
should have not invited her to I don't know. That
just seems like kind of a step further or at
least talk to her before, like, hey.
Speaker 1 (27:24):
She has talked. It's like this girl's being self unaware.
It's like you're ridiculously copying everything your thunder ceiling showing
up in the same fucking dress. This would be like
you doing the talent show on the same day. Yeah,
it's like you're fucking up my shit. You're getting in
my way. You're like a leech.
Speaker 3 (27:39):
Just make your whole apartment look like the opposite style
that you have for the housewarming and then change it
back after your set dress your apartment.
Speaker 1 (27:47):
I think I think this is at if for not
invite my best friend who my part one party. I'm saying,
not the asshole and the best friend is she needs
to rein it in nose? Will hear her?
Speaker 2 (27:58):
Dony, I would give it like a soft even a
soft apps like yeah, because I'm like she is the
other friend is the asshole, but also it's kind of
asshole moved to no on i'bout your best friend or
your housewarming party?
Speaker 1 (28:08):
Like that's I just know the thing is there not
how can you be best friends with someone like?
Speaker 2 (28:10):
But that's my deeper question.
Speaker 1 (28:11):
I think there's two falling apart.
Speaker 2 (28:13):
Yeah, yeah, guys'se.
Speaker 1 (28:15):
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women writers to request women drivers out with a group
of friends for happy hour. I'm thirty four f Megan
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was frustrated at our phone because her male instacart shopper
was completely incompetent. Said certain items are out of stock
and send a photo of the shelf where the item
is clearly visible. We had a laugh of this trope
of men being terrible at this job off that tangent
I shifted the combo and stayed in all seriousness that
rides share apps like lifted ubers should allow female raider
(28:57):
writers to opt in for female only drivers because of safety.
Mark thirty seven ms scoffed and said there were plenty
of safety parameters in place for screening drivers and keeping
writers safe and the misandrey had gone too far. He
really worked himself up and said, imagine if the genders
were soppt based on the stereotype that women are bad drivers.
I disagreed and said stereotypes and stats are not the
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same thing. He called me an asshole for ruining happy
hour Wow aita for saying rideeshair apps should allow women
riders to request women drivers.
Speaker 3 (29:28):
Let's quote, stereotypes and stats are not the same thing.
Because I love that that's yeah, I love that. This
directly relates to the story you were telling me earlier.
Speaker 2 (29:36):
I feel like of last night and you separating uh
with the girl. Yeah, I have a story has nothing
to do with ridehair, but the idea of like, yeah,
I'm not trying to do something, I'm safety, but someone
taking it the wrong way, because yeah, things can go
both ways.
Speaker 3 (29:52):
Yeah, it's like any any gender can make someone feel
unsafe or uncomfortable. So I I do think that that
is true. I think the stats though, are that it's
usually going to be yeah, exactly exactly. So I did
have my dating event last night. I had a woman
show up just I think she was pretty heavily intoxicated,
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and she tried to claim a ticket for last week
of weeks event.
Speaker 2 (30:21):
Like she wait, well that's right too. Okay, Well I
was talking about the girls in the restroom that you
overheard and then like them saying that it was sexist
for you to like separate.
Speaker 3 (30:29):
Oh okay, yeah, so I I I normally with my
dating events I'll have women arrive for checond first. The
reason I do that is just to make to give
women a time to like feel good, like relax, meet
the other women, just feel comfortable beforehand, and then make friends.
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So then I'll also have the guys like get to
make friends with the other guys, and it's just kind
of a nice thing. I think that sets my events
apart is like I'm not just gonna like push you
right into things right away. I'm going to give you
time to acclimate and like make a new friends and.
Speaker 2 (31:01):
The girls always become friends so quick because that's how
girls are. So it's like not to stereotype, but it
does work, and it's like gives the girls a moment
to you know. Yeah. Yeah. And one girl was like, wait,
what they checked the girls in first? That is so
sexist And I was like what woman said that?
Speaker 3 (31:18):
Yes, I was like so confused. I was like, what
am I getting sexist about? Like I was just I
didn't know what was happening there. But all of that
to say, I think I have a question actually for you,
Alex in terms of so if you get a massage,
do you care about the gender of your massage therapist?
Speaker 2 (31:35):
Do? But I do. I did prefer women for a while,
but now I don't really care.
Speaker 3 (31:39):
Okay, So I have pretty much always exclusively asked for
a woman. Yeah, I did have one recently. I had
a guide to it, and I think he was actually
a gay man because at first, before even that didn't care.
Speaker 2 (31:52):
I didn't care about that. I still just wanted a woman.
Speaker 3 (31:57):
So I do just from that perspective, Like, but I
think with a massage, like you're naked.
Speaker 2 (32:01):
I think that's the reason it's not for any other
reason really than that you're naked and you're touching me. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (32:07):
With the ride share thing, what I thought of, funnily enough,
is I think there are less female drivers because the
greater risk in that situation is really for the driver.
Speaker 2 (32:17):
I was a female driver for a while and something
creepy happens. That's why I stopped. So I would say, really,
it's really doude female drivers want to request having only
female passengers because I would say that the bigger risk
really is for the driver only only in that situation
with the women, I'm saying, yeah.
Speaker 1 (32:34):
I doubt it's really a practical solution. I understand it. No,
just I feel like logistically, I don't know if it's
it would be legal. There's all kinds of problems, but
I think that's probably the best problem you can name,
because the drivers obviously are going to be dealing with
what dozens of customers every day, right, so they're gonna
be in danger. That said, going into the situation, this
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was not an offensive idea.
Speaker 2 (32:56):
No, no, no, no.
Speaker 1 (32:57):
You know, and a lot of people throw these terms
out sexism. I know I sound Republicans saying that, but
it does get over over you sometimes because it's like, oh, okay,
so it's like, what's it called, like girls' night at
the club? Is that sexist? It's like no, you fucking idiot, Like.
Speaker 2 (33:13):
Well, that's exactly why your story reminded me of it,
because those girls are saying that separating the you're trying
to the exact opposite by making everyone feel safe, and
then they took it as like that's sexist. So it's
like no matter, there's no winning. Like even if you're
trying to like separate people out for safety or try
and do women on women, women on women, women loving
women vers, like, that's still going to offend somebody, Like
there's really no or or no where do non borinary
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fit into that or where to like yeah, you know,
so it's just there's always going to be Also.
Speaker 3 (33:40):
I do think regardless, like safety in these kinds of
ride share situations is a huge thing.
Speaker 2 (33:47):
Yeah, Like there.
Speaker 3 (33:49):
Have unfortunately been way too many like stories, and there
are a lot of things in place now to help.
But I also think people do need to remember check
the freakin' license plate of the how you're entering into
make sure it actually people like yeah, please please please
check it, Like you know, I make sure that they
know your name, like who are you here for?
Speaker 2 (34:07):
Like do your.
Speaker 3 (34:08):
Diligence, because like I don't want to hear any more
stories of awful things happening.
Speaker 2 (34:12):
Yeah, it's fucked, But the whole thing isn't even really
about this idea of like uber, It's about this guy's
an asshole, and I think he is because he's saying
or light asshole because he's like scoffing at.
Speaker 1 (34:24):
I think he's being an asshole. He scoffed at the
notion said there were plenty of safety parameters in place
and keeping writers safe and the miss Andrea had gone
too far. That's another thing though, just like I don't know,
Like I know, obviously in certain places people are very
sexist and racist, but like I just think if you're
trying to have a productive.
Speaker 2 (34:41):
Conversation with someone and they shut it down like.
Speaker 1 (34:43):
That, yeah, firing off misogynistic, sexist, racist, like trying to
be a little bit more like charitable. And I think
Ebuania likes this word a lot, being curious about what
the other person is trying to express, which, like I
fully understand why a woman would say this. Yeah, bro, totally.
I'm just like I don't know if it's really practical.
Speaker 3 (35:02):
I agree, I just don't. I don't like that he
jumped to no, no, no. There's plenty of like instead
of like hearing that like she fears for her safety,
He's like, yeah, no, fuck your safety.
Speaker 2 (35:13):
I don't care. It's already safe.
Speaker 3 (35:15):
Like clearly she's saying she doesn't feel safe, and you're
telling her that he's missing it.
Speaker 2 (35:19):
Immedia. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (35:21):
I have a friend who, like, we have conversations about
just interpersonal relationships a lot, and she brings up safety
so much. She's like cute and small, like very small,
and so I'm like, I forget, you know, I forget.
I take it for granted because as a man, even
as a medium sized man, what beautiful heighted man, you know,
safety isn't really you're talking about concern. Yeah, I don't
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think about it. Yeah, he's a privilege.
Speaker 2 (35:43):
It is funny too, Like I can feel the direct
difference when I'm going out on something like this or
going out and like a more revealing outfit or like
a night out. The difference I feel with eyes and
safety and shot like it is. It is different. You know,
if I have a hoodie on and I'm just doing
my thing for the day, which is nine times interesting
than if I have, like, yeahs and tights and a skirt.
I'm like, it's different, it's very different. Get a dog.
Speaker 1 (36:05):
Wow, get a dog.
Speaker 2 (36:05):
Get the dog that I'm trying to save in Santa Bar. Yeah. Wait,
I do have a story about driving, but I can
save it. It's quick, it doesn't really.
Speaker 1 (36:13):
My heart rate went up just picturing that clothes on you.
Is that crazy? That's how That's how men are.
Speaker 2 (36:20):
I said a skirt, you said.
Speaker 1 (36:22):
My mind pictured it, and then my heart went around
out like that's fucking crazy, bro.
Speaker 2 (36:26):
That's mere. Men are wired.
Speaker 1 (36:29):
Oh look, Blizzard bread. Yeah, now I'm picturing you in
a nun outfit and that's that's very.
Speaker 2 (36:36):
Every day, very soothing. And see that's what I feel
and I go out in my nun outfit versus my skirt.
Speaker 1 (36:41):
I'd love to see you as a nun and.
Speaker 2 (36:43):
Every day I'm an angel.
Speaker 1 (36:45):
And don't do that at for saying ride your option
allow women writers to request women drivers. I think this
is a whopping NTA and he is scoffing and stuff.
He's thirty seven. You know that's another don't don't yeah,
don't do this. This is stupid.
Speaker 2 (37:05):
Wait can I tell you about my thing real quick? Uh,
it's quick.
Speaker 1 (37:08):
We No, I'm just kidding. Go fast fast okay.
Speaker 2 (37:11):
Okay. I'm driving the other day and I hate asshole drivers,
and so then oh, you're cutting me off.
Speaker 1 (37:15):
Okay, Oh that's just a marker.
Speaker 2 (37:16):
I don't know what scares me when you do that
big red button.
Speaker 1 (37:18):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (37:18):
So basically, okay, so I've done like a bunch of
shit that's really bad with parking. So I try not
to be ashole driver. So that I'm driving and this car,
this like STV car is like backing up out of
the gate. So then there's a spot. I park in
the spot. Then the asshole backs up become I mean asshole.
The driver backs up and comes up to me, rolls
his window down. He's like, I was going to park there,
but looks like you took it, thanks very much by
and like says something like kind of shady. And I
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was like, oh my god, I thought you were like
leaving before I could even say anything, because I would
have in that moment backed up and found another parking spot,
because that's kind of good samaritan I am. But he
just zoomed off, and I was like, fuck. I feel
kind of bad because I would never want to swipe
and take someone's spot. That's not me dirty. So then
I'm at the shop coffee shop with my friend and
I see him get out and he has a kid
and he's putting his kid in the backseat, and my
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fringe is like, Alex, don't. I'm like, I'm gonna go
talk to him, and she thinks, because I'm very petty
and i'm very I can be agro with driving, she
thinks I'm about to tell him off because I told
her the story and I'm like, no, complete opposite, but
she didn't know that. She's like, Alex, I don't know.
He's a kid, he has a kid. I'm like, yeah,
exactly as a kid. Like I go off to him
and he rolls his under down, beautiful eyebrows, My god,
beautiful gay man. And I was like, hey, like I'm
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so sorry, like I would have left, but you zoomed off,
like I would have given you your parking spot. I
felt bad. I want you to know, like I'm not
an asshole driver. I need to clear my name. Also,
like you know, beautiful kid, beautiful family, whatever, and he's like,
oh my god, no, like I'm in a bad mood.
I'm sorry, Like it wasn't you, it was me. And
so we have this whole kekey back and forth, and
I'm like, believe me, I've done worse for less, like
I've been to an ass I hate asshole driver parkers.
So we're talking whatever. I have a little exchange. That's
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that clear the air. Then I'm walking back to my
car to fill the meeter and I have a fucking
parking ticket. I'm like, God, damn, are you kidding me?
The karma potus is not a parking ticket. It's a
note for my new bestie. He goes, that was so
nice if you apologize to me, like you know, we're like,
he didn't say all this. But they're a gay family
in Palm Springs. They have two kids. Here's my Instagram.
Let's be friends. And now I've been dming ever since
and we're best friends. So it's like opposite beat.
Speaker 1 (39:04):
What a beautiful story. I love that worth it?
Speaker 3 (39:07):
Or now, Oh, it's funny because I just thought that
you saved him from a parking ticket.
Speaker 2 (39:11):
Right, That's why I thought to it for a second.
Speaker 1 (39:13):
But no, he best parking ticket. Ever, we're gonna wrap up.
Ai ta for expecting my boyfriend to include me in
Memorial Day plans despite not being able to swim. I
thirty one f and my thirty six boyfriend had been
dating and living together four three years. Our relationship rocky
past few weeks, but I'd like to move forward to
the positive attitude. Try my best to make things work.
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All that is another combo i'll launch. My boyfriend and
I were speaking. I brought up MDW Memorial Day weekend.
I was telling him how I'm ready for the nice weather,
hoping me go canoe, fish, et cetera. He responds with,
I'm going camping and kayaking. I don't know about you. Oh,
you're an anchor and you can't swim, so I can't
do anything fun with you. Oh. I told him I
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could still do those things. I just can't go swimming.
Combo got awkward and he changed the subject at every
one who is MDW with him? Even though I can't swim,
should I just stay home with the dog?
Speaker 2 (40:03):
Am I the assle for wanting to the question is
already we can with my boyfriend? Yeah, that's such.
Speaker 3 (40:08):
A sad question. Think about what you're asking right now?
Am I the asshole for wanting to stork?
Speaker 2 (40:12):
His energy is just so off. I don't like any
of his energy, like him being like you're an anchor
and I can't do any of these things with you
and da da dad. Also him being like I'm doing this,
I don't know what you're I don't know what you're
doing second grade Like that's crazy behavior.
Speaker 1 (40:24):
I don't like that, straight up bullying. Yeah. I do
want to say though, And I think she got called
out a lot. Actually this one e s h which
I think is psycho interesting. Why like, tell us you
are both assholes? How many times have you done the podcast? Alex?
I just don't know.
Speaker 2 (40:40):
I'm just sucking ADHD.
Speaker 1 (40:44):
I feel that. So I think that the one thing
I will say is you can't go canoeing if you
can't swim. That's so dangerous.
Speaker 2 (40:54):
She has a life jacket. Yeah, don't you have a
life jacket? It's still like where are the canoeing at?
Usually a canoe in like a, well, here's the thing.
She wants to go camping. She like, is he going
to be on the water all day long?
Speaker 1 (41:07):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (41:07):
No?
Speaker 1 (41:07):
Okay, Yeah that I had that idea too that maybe
it's like reading it to literally she's saying like, no, yeah,
I'll stay back at camp or whatever while y'all go canoe.
Speaker 3 (41:15):
I think, and I think when you're in a relationship
with someone like you talk about these things, you don't
just be like, well, I'm doing this.
Speaker 1 (41:22):
I don't know about you.
Speaker 3 (41:23):
Gotta hate Like, I think it's totally fine that he
wants to go do this like water stuff, but that doesn't.
Speaker 2 (41:29):
Mean that.
Speaker 3 (41:31):
Go to your little water games sports and we'll do
the adult things later. Why can't they find some things
to do together as well, like we don't. She could
also be an independent person that can like go on
her own hike while he's canoeing. Maybe she has a
good book she wants to read reading while camping. Oh
my god, amazing love it Like this is so just
he doesn't like his girlfriend, He doesn't want to spend
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time with his.
Speaker 1 (41:55):
I want I thought we would land there. That's exactly
what one of the comments I've noticed. It's become kind
of a thought terminating cliche. He doesn't like her, she
doesn't like him. Whatever. So, but what I wanted to
talk about because I first saw this is then why
is he with her?
Speaker 2 (42:09):
Why is anyone with anyone? Sometimes it's just the comfort.
Sometimes it's just you know what, you know what, you know,
you're used to it. We don't know how long they've
been together. Three years, yeah, I mean that's a lot
they probably you know, hot and heavy in the beginning.
This year was good, second year was bond. Yeah, you've
done a lot of things. Third year you're just going
through the motions.
Speaker 3 (42:30):
That's really early though, too, to be sick of someone
Alred it is, but but.
Speaker 1 (42:33):
That's when it gets real. I feel like the first
usually the first years where you get your honeymoon period.
Everything's so magical and they're so perfect, and I love
a girl who has three names. It's so interesting Alex
Paisley's dead Men. And then you start to learn they're
actually fucking crazy.
Speaker 2 (42:49):
Well you get that right off the bat there.
Speaker 1 (42:51):
I know that's true.
Speaker 2 (42:52):
I should have had the more names, the crazier the more,
the more syllables. Go to Texas. I've got ten syllables here,
I've only got.
Speaker 1 (42:59):
The four or so. I don't get that going there.
Speaker 2 (43:07):
I used to talk with like, I would say every
when I was I was like full door knaf like everything.
Please talk like that for the rest of this episode.
Speaker 1 (43:16):
The more names the better. In bed. You know, I
know that John Wilkes Booth could.
Speaker 2 (43:19):
Buck personally went for it, but personally.
Speaker 1 (43:23):
Did Yeah, John Wilkes Booth and I had a Yeah
that's nice. Yeah. The theater is the only place he
took shots.
Speaker 2 (43:29):
Okay, ye went for it folks for twice?
Speaker 1 (43:34):
Who John? That was a blinky yeah?
Speaker 2 (43:38):
Yeah, and he's decent a bed.
Speaker 1 (43:41):
Oh yeah, all.
Speaker 2 (43:42):
These like people that you guys do you guys have
a time machine?
Speaker 1 (43:45):
I don't know about you don't know j w B.
Come on, you know Jo Booth.
Speaker 2 (43:51):
She's saying, how did you funk?
Speaker 1 (43:52):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (43:53):
How to him?
Speaker 1 (43:53):
Yeah? He's still around.
Speaker 2 (43:54):
He's still around here and secret to his ghosts longevity.
Speaker 1 (44:00):
Who's the other guy who killed Mark David Chapman. Yeah,
Mark Daved Chapman still alive, has a man.
Speaker 2 (44:05):
A lot of names.
Speaker 1 (44:06):
Yeah, there it is all right. Yeah, so no, I
wanted to say that because I feel like he doesn't
like her. It's true. I guess it's just like I
feel like we need to be on the watch for this.
People need to be on the watch for it.
Speaker 2 (44:22):
Your partner are not liking you.
Speaker 1 (44:23):
Yeah, exactly. Yeah, I think that's a good one because
because because you know what it is, they will not
like you. People people will marry people they don't like. Yeah,
you know. And so I'm like, why is this happening
so often? I think we listened a lot of good reasons.
It's comfortable as stable, do you guys feel hard to leave?
Speaker 2 (44:38):
It's hard to leave. You can love someone that you
don't like.
Speaker 1 (44:41):
Oh, absolutely, yeah I have. I have a bunch of
friends who I'm like, I love you, I could tolerate
you in limited doses, and when I say love, it
means I want what's best for you.
Speaker 2 (44:50):
Well, I love a lot of family that I don't like.
I mean not a lot, but I have certain people
that like or gonthic bases, right, didn't like them, and
I do whatever. But you have Yeah. I think I
used to think you.
Speaker 3 (45:00):
That like, you could love someone that you didn't really like,
because like I think I felt that way about certain
family members. But as I've gotten older, I think I've
started to see it as more of one and where
I'm like, yeah, I don't know that. I I think
I always thought I was supposed to love you because
you were my family, but I don't know that I
actually do tea.
Speaker 2 (45:23):
Yeah, well, it's different kinds of love, like friend love
and then partner love. Especially we're going through like societally,
you've been just like bread or you know, you've been
like traded for cows, so like there was no love.
It was just like a it was literally transactional, you know.
And then now we're finally we're out of for years
and years and now we're like at a part of
society where it's like you can pick very carefully and
intentionally who you want to spend the rest of your
(45:43):
life with, but there's still residual like trauma or like
like old fashioned thinking of like okay, well this person's
good enough, so let me just be with them, and
then you start to resent or things start to go bad,
and you just still stay with them because you think
the next step is family marriage. Seating is such a
like so and like it can be really because I
think because people feel like feel like they have so
(46:04):
many options, it can it's like that thing where when
you have too many options, you can't choose. Yeah, but
there's so.
Speaker 1 (46:10):
Many when they're fake options, fake options.
Speaker 3 (46:12):
Who won't choose now, and so I think there is
something to be said where like, yeah, I think once
you find the relationship where you're like this person actually okay,
they are emotionally available or they are this, or they
are that, it's like do I really want to enter that?
Speaker 2 (46:24):
Like? Is that actually better? But that's even morning on
what I'm saying. That's true, but I'm like and I
don't know, I want to look this upset. This is true,
but like, are we the most single and the most childless?
Speaker 1 (46:33):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (46:33):
Generation? So that says a lot.
Speaker 1 (46:35):
And gen Z is doing even worse. I think are better.
Speaker 2 (46:39):
Gen Z has no sex.
Speaker 1 (46:40):
They don't have sex. No Cranberry Rights is eight. She
obviously sucks for the way he spoke to you, calling
you an anchor. You stuff for thinking it's fine to
go canoeing when you can't swim. That doesn't make her
an asshole. What happens if you fall in? Maybe not likely,
but so possibly then your boyfriend has seconds to stop
you from drowning.
Speaker 2 (46:56):
I mean it kind of funds like the situation has
happened before, because how does he know she's an ink?
And also, like she said she can canoe, so like
I would take it at face value, but maybe not,
but I mean I feel like if you have a
love jacket whatever, Also, you can't swim like you can't
doggy paddle with a with a life jacket on. You
can't swim like you cannot swim, you know. So maybe
she can like handle her own if she does fall over,
let's just pretend like it's that.
Speaker 1 (47:16):
Then I'm like, or she could be on the shore watching.
You could still be included in the activity and not
be in danger.
Speaker 2 (47:21):
I think the whole problem is like his attitude. Does
he really like you right now? Sounds like he's kind
of just being an asshole. Like his delivery and him
making plans without telling you is like the problem.
Speaker 1 (47:30):
That's come on, That's that's crazy. I feel like the
relationship's over. That's such a stroke.
Speaker 2 (47:35):
Even if we had like loose plans about Memorial Day
weekend and I was like, hey, what are you doing,
You're like, oh, I'm doing this, what are you doing?
I'd be like, whoa, what happened? Like even a friend, you.
Speaker 1 (47:43):
Know, yeah, that's so pushing your way, or like yeah,
even if you slip your mind, you'd be like, oh
my god, I'm so sorry. Yeah, that's it reached out
and I wanted to go on the canoe trip. It
was thoughtless, it was a mistake, like that would be reasonable.
But it's like, no, what are you doing?
Speaker 2 (47:56):
Yeah, that's crazy?
Speaker 1 (47:57):
Nta rights equivalent? Secret? Why are you with the pert
that literally told you to your face that you're an
anchor and can't do anything fun with you. He's telling
you exactly what he thinks. I'd suggest listening. I so
agree with that. Sounds like he doesn't have any fun
with you. Fucked up at for expecting my boyfriend who
include Memorial Day plans despite not being able to swim.
I think we're all lined up here, not the asshole,
and he is not the asshole. Guys, thank you so
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much for joining me. It's always such a blast. My
favorite married couple plug away.
Speaker 2 (48:29):
Alex Paisley Studman on everything as speed Date La.
Speaker 3 (48:36):
You can contact me for all your dating needs, but
also I host private events, so if you're getting engaged, marriage,
whatever it might be, Oh, divorce party, let's do it.
Speaker 2 (48:47):
Let's sorry for my tired eyes and tired attitude.
Speaker 1 (48:50):
You are so beautiful. All right, guys, We'll see you
next time. Bye bye you
Hi, everybody, Welcome to it a pod. I'm Danny Vega,
joined by a return guest, Yania and Alex. Yes us
aps in the house.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
Yes us, just letting my Greek farm girl shine.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
I'm in my baker era. And it's Alex's birthday month.
So for all who celebrate, and I made a variety
of cakes.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
You made a dessert for every day. I celebrate every
day I have a party, which is thirty.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
I made you sour cream cake. What was our opinion
of the sour.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
Cream I liked that, Yeah, I liked it a lot.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
See. The thing is, the people who eat my cake,
they want icing, but I'm not.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
An icon with icing.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
It's too much, it's too much, too much, it overwhelms
the cake.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
Eat a fucking muffin. Well that's why I like the
other little bread things you made.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
Yes, yes, I was calling it summer cake, but Evania
pointed out skinny cake is moreny cakes.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
Also kind of just like corn bread.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
I've heard that before. That does hurt my little baker feelings.
But I love corn bread.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
I love corn I hate it up plate.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
You know that's that's very clear, the plate that sugar.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
She don't look if my plate is embarrassing. Don't don't
do Alex. You've been using your feet as hands today
a lot. Like I'm so tired today. I'm like, I've
been eating.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
Are you so tired? Because I was going to say
you your eyes, you have tired eyes?
Speaker 2 (01:24):
Oh, never say that. Never said she had tired eyes.
I'm exhausted. But how dare you?
Speaker 1 (01:32):
How dare me see what's so obviously true?
Speaker 2 (01:36):
So odd?
Speaker 1 (01:37):
But it's because you you know, you're young and you're
lacking a woman. No, I'm not I'm not taking it's
not an attack.
Speaker 2 (01:44):
Oh my god, Alex, are you okay? Barely? I am tired, exhausted?
Speaker 1 (01:52):
Late last night?
Speaker 2 (01:53):
If I been having a weekend, Hell, were you up
last night like four?
Speaker 1 (01:57):
That's crazy?
Speaker 2 (01:59):
And then I had to get on nine o'clock zoom,
Well I had to get up at nine. I had
to get that.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
Okay, So you're a little tired today.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
And I've been up like every night that super late,
lost three nights. But I haven't slept in a week myself.
So women in stem doing the most. And then you're
going to tell me we look tired. I don't say
you look tired. Yeah, okay, she's not for a week.
I've been up for less than a week. And I
look at women in STEM because we're both we're both
in Stem.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
How are you? How are you guys?
Speaker 2 (02:28):
You're gonna ask us, You're gonna ask women are women
in sim and you're gonna say all that we have
not hired?
Speaker 1 (02:34):
What are you doing?
Speaker 2 (02:35):
Literally? Literally, women in Stem? You're literally that doesn't mean anything.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
You're literally.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
Not all men but always a man?
Speaker 1 (02:46):
How are you in Steam? Give me one reason?
Speaker 2 (02:49):
Wow?
Speaker 1 (02:49):
Because dating is and science? Is that the angle here?
Speaker 2 (02:52):
Wow? All we're good for is dating and looking tired? Wow,
you heard it here first, straight out Danny's mouth.
Speaker 1 (02:58):
Such an honor to be in the present of such
beautiful women the still are in STEM for because they've
declared that they're in Stem and in the arts.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
I don't know. I've been baking lots of ship for people.
Had a good little hang yesterday. See here's the thing.
When you bake shit for people, the gluten freeze come out. Well, yeah,
then you got to up your game.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Have any gluten free options?
Speaker 1 (03:19):
So I just so. One of my gluten free friends
gave me some flour to use.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
That's so sweet.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
I'm adapting vegan surprisingly easy. It's like, don't use butter,
don't use eggs. Not that big of the deal. I
mean it's hard to get a fluffy but whatever, it's
got sugar, they're gonna eat it.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
The next thing you have to master is the vegan
gluten free.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
Yeah. Together, it's just like no, I mean, eggs are
kind of like magic eggs, you know, eggs. That is it?
Speaker 3 (03:42):
How do we feel about like a bakery that's like
comedians work at so it's like.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
A comedy baked funny bakery.
Speaker 3 (03:50):
Yeah, and so like always behind the counter there's a
comedian working, so you like get a little show while
you get your baked goods. Is this is this kind
of where you're going as like next steps?
Speaker 1 (04:00):
No, I just like baking for people. I think it's fun.
I get to eat it. You know, it keeps well.
You can just kind of have it. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
Everyone loves someone who brings the cookies to the party.
You know.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
I showed out to a picnic yesterday. I have like
three kinds of cakes queued up. Might cut my cakes.
It's fun.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
I couldn't do it. I can't, as you see, I can't.
I have to finish my plate. So if I made
stuff at my house, I'm eating of it. It's so bad.
I mean there's still something, there's something.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
No, it's good. I mean that's the sour cream cake,
which is, like I said, that's my like crowd pleaser.
Here's the issue, though, people like cookies more than cake.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
I love well, ice cream, cookies everything, Oh ice cream.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
But you love about cookies as are too easy.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
Danny wants a challenge.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
Well, it's just like a cook What is a cookie?
It's butter and sugar, folks with chocolate chips. Give me
a damn break. I mean, look, it's heaven, it's God sent.
But it's like it's hard to fuck up. Whereas a cake,
it's like I like it to be delicate and just
a little bit sweet and like kind of interesting.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
You should go on a cooking baking show. You should
go and nailed it. Oh no, because you're actually pretty good.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
Nailed it. No, I'm not good. I have a lot
to learn. I'm got to learn from the supermarket ladies,
because those cakes are beautiful.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
Yeah, the supermarket Whole Foods.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
They suck up a cake, they're crushing it.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
Yeah. My sister has a cake business.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
Really.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
Yeah, she does all kinds of baked goods.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
It's pretty good, pretty good.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
Yeah, it's very good. So every family function she can
be she's bringing. Yeah, she loves she loves to. I
used to be the like you. That's very homemark of her.
Speaker 3 (05:29):
We are Actually every single Hallmark movie is actually based
on my family.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
Yeah, yeah, I forgot about that. Yeah yeah, she already
knew that.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
There's a good stress I get see with I guess
with a comedy show, I think there's a stress that
comes with it. But it's it's very it's very like,
I don't know. I feel like food is easier in
a sense because you know, people are gonna be hungry,
so they have to eat, so like they're gonna eat
what you serve. But then I have to.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Laugh, right, I always laugh because I feel bad.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Thank you, I'm so flattered.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
I no, like, for every every time I've had a
comedy show, I'm like, it is solely on me to
make the comedian feel okay right now, and I'm gonna
laugh so loud. And I always eat because I feel bad.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
You really feel really bad?
Speaker 2 (06:15):
That no, really bad. I'm like, I want him to
know that. I think it's.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
Okay, but but there's a stress that comes with like
having people over. And I have people over a lot
now because but I like it because it's like it
puts me in a flow state where I'm just like,
have to clean, I have to cook, to go, go go.
I love hosting for that, and the days are just
flying by. Now, Oh my god, you guys ever have days.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
Flying Like DoorDash is coming in an hour. I gotta
clean up. I gotta make sure he thinks it's looking good.
Gotta have a cookie for him. That'd be nice.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
Oh that would be really nice. Yeah you think they
would that tip?
Speaker 3 (06:45):
Oh yeah, do you think ducks would care? I'm sorry, wait,
what's his name? The guy that we're at the Duk Shepherd?
He said, DoorDash?
Speaker 1 (06:54):
Now, Dak explain?
Speaker 2 (06:56):
Who's the guy? I forget? The one who I think
is hilarious and you met him once?
Speaker 1 (07:00):
Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, his name is Dak's Flame. He's
like a I would say he's like an anti comedian.
He tells he.
Speaker 2 (07:06):
Always gives them.
Speaker 3 (07:07):
The people come and then delivery people come and he
gives them like a pizza. Yeah, and then he like
he's like, I want you to sit here. And eat it,
and then I'm going to interview you and be like,
did you like, how did you feel about that?
Speaker 2 (07:18):
Did that make you happy?
Speaker 1 (07:19):
Oh? My god, there you go new bit. Yeah, I
met him at the park. He was so jealous, like
I have to take a picture of you and my friend.
And it was just as awkward as I would have thought.
But it was pleasant, Like it was pleasant but awkward.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
If you ever meet Billy Eilish from My Stars, tell
me where you are some mere location.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
Oh you like Billy Eilish, Okay, we can meet there.
I love I'll always so fun.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
Oh you mean Billy Eichner. I love Billy Eichner too.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
Who's Billy Eilish? Billish? Bad girl?
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Your house? Leave your own house there, I'm.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
Don Dond that's also but like also, to be fair,
that was such a wildly different like fame level than
who we're talking about.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
Well, Billy Aigner might be a little. I mean, Billy's
pretty famous to I do know who you're talking about now,
the Das guy. Okay, but because I listened to Rick
Klassman's podcast and he interviews him.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
But yeah, anyways, what's the Billy Ailis ship that I'm
thinking on Bura, bad girl.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
What is it done done? Dun?
Speaker 3 (08:16):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (08:17):
What is that?
Speaker 2 (08:17):
I'm the bad guys. Woo our next our, next track. Yeah,
I'm like, who's Billy Elish? Is criminal? Crazy? Crazy? Jail,
straight to jail, straight to jail.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
I don't know. I don't really have any drama.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
You're going to jail, that's drama. Well, I have a
quick side note.
Speaker 3 (08:34):
But anyone is in Santa Barbara or near there, please
contact me because we're trying to save a dog.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
Okay, so what handle? Give a handle?
Speaker 3 (08:42):
Nia boys n n like Nancy, I a underscore b
as in boy oh I s as in snake. If
you are an animal lover and you're anywhere near Santa
Barbara area, please contact me. There is a dog that
needs help.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
You guys, come to my cookout cookout near go ahead.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
Cook Yeah, I'm coming to your grook out.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
Are you well if I'm here?
Speaker 2 (09:02):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (09:02):
You put maybe every fuck it? Let me tell you
some Maybe you put an event. Oh I just agree,
l A girl is gonna hate.
Speaker 3 (09:07):
You can maybe just don't have maybe as an option
that's possible.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
Yes, I need to do, just do yes or no,
make it real. We're doing we finally locked in a
date for our premiere June twenty six. I hope you
can come. I'll send you the invite soon. But maybe
so we're not we're not doing that because we're it's
like it's like a big thing. We're paying its red carpet.
It's like we can't have Maybe so we're not a
long maybes. But I just hosted three birthday events and
I'm gonna host more because it's my birthday month. I
(09:31):
host an event every single day you go. But it
is crazy because people are like last minute. All of
them are like, oh, I'm sorry, I can't make it.
I can't make it. I mean, it's still a great turnout,
but it's like, la so flake.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
I did that to you?
Speaker 2 (09:42):
You did do that? Yeah, you did that to me? Fake?
What were you?
Speaker 1 (09:44):
Fuck up? Girl?
Speaker 2 (09:45):
Go to the doctor.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
I'm gonna go. I'm gonna go.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
You could have rolled there. Well, I was gonna say
this is not related and you've got this, but Mandela effect.
Do the monsters in Scooby Doo say if it wasn't
for you meddling kids and your dog too, or do
they just say if it wasn't for you medaling kids.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
I have no idea dog too, of course, because if
it wasn't for your medaling kids.
Speaker 2 (10:09):
And your dog too, Mandela effect, it's just medaling kids
and your dog who is from Wizard of Oz. That
fucked me up for a week.
Speaker 1 (10:15):
I'm upset about that.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
I think I'm not like really in on Scooby Doo girl,
get in, get in it, am I am I going
to be arrested too. You can share, Stanny, We're sharing
this out.
Speaker 1 (10:28):
I actually have my dream, honestly.
Speaker 3 (10:31):
I have a story. Actually, my friend told me this
crazy thing that happened. She was she matched, so she
went on a couple of dates with this guy from
Hinge and she like, I think she like wanted to
like him more, almost more than she actually did, because
like he had like she liked that he was taking charge.
You know, he's like, we're gonna do that. It's like
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making it, making the plans, like leading. He was like
showing her attention. And he was a little bit too
for with the physical cool affection. It was like kind
of a red flag from the start. But anyway, so
they're like, she's kind of like trying to figure she went.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
They went on a couple of dates.
Speaker 3 (11:09):
Then she had to go on a travel on like
a work trip, so she was just like, yeah, like
i'll hit you up when I'm back, because she kind
of wanted to take the time to be like do
I actually even like want to get to know this
person more. I'm getting a few like kind of strange
feelings in my gut.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
So she gets back into.
Speaker 3 (11:26):
Town and she's like on her hinge account and she
had previous to that, she just had two matches and
he was one of them. And when she locks back in,
he's like not a match anymore. And she's like, oh,
that's weird, Like did he like block me, unmatch me?
Speaker 2 (11:41):
Whatever.
Speaker 3 (11:42):
So she's like swiping and she comes across his profile
again it says like new here. So it's almost like
he deleted. He like deleted and started a new one.
That's fine whatever. Now his location is different again. I
could give him a pass on that, like maybe he
wanted to date in the different part of La Guys.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
He changed his name, he.
Speaker 3 (12:05):
Changed pictures, so she said the profile was very similar.
He like re curated his responses a bit, but the
main thing was that he like changed his name and
I think he just like re rearranged the letters in
his actual name and like had a different name.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
So she was like, okay, I'm I'm like, I'm out.
I'm not. This is where I fail because I'm like,
I want to know what's going on. When you'll see
someone you know, do you always swipe right even if
you don't like them?
Speaker 1 (12:33):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (12:34):
Never? No, Okay, I'm different. I think I'm different. Here
you are, I think so. I think the rule on
that is you he's so different. No, but then like,
if I know someone, I just want to say hi,
even if I don't like them. No, No, but you should.
Speaker 3 (12:47):
I don't think you should ever swipe right on someone
that you know, especially unless you are interested in them
if you're not.
Speaker 1 (12:54):
And I agree that is so. It's me that's.
Speaker 2 (12:58):
Mean even if I'm like, oh my god, hi, I
know that's so.
Speaker 3 (13:01):
I mean because they swipe on you, which means they
probably were interested in you, and so now you're like, they're.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
Just trying to be like, hey, what's up? Like, no,
no one knows that I've had that happen me and this, okay, hey.
Speaker 3 (13:12):
Probably he probably was trying to feel things out. And
then when you were like, oh no, like hey, just
want to say him. Then he was like saving face.
So I feel like, yeah, I think that's the rule.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
Like I personally, I think if you see someone on
an app that you are interested in, you can swipe right.
But if you already have their number, you could also
just be like I said, on a you don't know
how to say that, you could just kind of like
feel things out that way and like text them be
like hey, like how have you been, and kind of gauge.
But it's like if it hasn't happened already. Sometimes it's
like motor skills, like you know, when you're just scrolling
through I heard everything. I'm like, I don't know if
it's an enemy, I'm hurting it like before I can
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even see it. I'm like I do that like a
face or cognition. I'm like, all right if I know,
if I see it and I know it, I'm like
I just sometimes I'm doing it already and I'm like fuck,
so I'll work on it.
Speaker 1 (13:53):
ADHD interesting. So what's the theory though, Why is he
doing that?
Speaker 2 (13:57):
I think he's con artists.
Speaker 3 (14:00):
Yeah, well I would guess that he I mean, he
probably has gotten himself into trouble, right because she she
already said, like I was like, I think she said
to him, he was like, do you not like me?
Because like I think their first date was like a
little walk and he like tried to kiss her thirty
minutes in and she was like, oh, like no, like
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I don't know you yet. And he's like, oh, well,
most girls like really really want.
Speaker 2 (14:24):
This and like this, and so like obviously that's like already,
you know he's lying girls. So most I think that
he just has I think he had to read create
a new identity because of some crazy shit. Yeah, I'm like,
there's something darker if you like.
Speaker 1 (14:42):
Absolutely, Yeah, it's so aggressive, so weird, right thirty minutes.
Speaker 3 (14:47):
Although, Alex, now we know, you know, since you're getting
a banned all the time, like just maybe change your.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
Name to change your name. Yeah, and I everything about me,
you just call it. You could be Zella Zella. I'd
probably got my matches. That's a funner, Okay, I love it. Okay, Yeah,
let's do it. Coming to an engineer, you.
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for not inviting my best friend to my apartment warming party.
Got a friend who buys everything I buy, and then
she claims she'd already planned to buy those items. This
has been happening for quite some time now. At first
I thought it was cute that would be matching, but
it's gotten to the point where I feel like I
can't have anything that's just mine. It started with a
pair of vans. I asked her to come with me
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to the mall, bought myself black sneaker vans. A week later,
she got the same pair. I asked her if she
always owned them. She said no, she saw them at
the mall thought they were cute. Another time, Dresses bought
a long red dress. She purchased a blue mini dress.
But when I got to the party, she's wearing the
same dress as me. Down the color. I confronted her.
She said the dress she bought didn't fit, so she
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returned it. I recently moved to a new apartment. I
had sent her some pictures of the fern shows considering
asked for her opinion as I was going for a
cottage feel. She said she liked them, so I went
ahead and made the purchases. Not long after go to
her apartment. Living area had many of the execs.
Speaker 2 (16:46):
I really liked them.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
After I calmed down, I messaged her about the constant copying.
She told me I was acting like a child. I
told my partner too. He agreed with her. He basically said,
no person can own an item and I should get
over it. I had my apartment i'm warming yesterday just
after I finished decorating, and I didn't invite her because
I didn't want her getting more ideas to copy. Boyfriends
told me I was being selfish. Now she won't talk
to me ta.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
This is her best friend.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
Yeah right, Okay.
Speaker 3 (17:11):
I feel like it would have been a lot less
weird if she just bought the same thing in the
moment after.
Speaker 2 (17:20):
Is what makes it weird to me. It's very what's
that movie about the roommate that's psychoone wants to be
the other rooms? Yeah? Is it just called the roommate?
Speaker 1 (17:29):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (17:29):
Her roommate? I love land mister same.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
Have you guys ever copied or been copied? It is
a thing that happens.
Speaker 2 (17:37):
I mean, never did in my life. I'm so original.
I've never done anything the same. I would never My
sisters and I steal each other's clothes. Does that count.
I've definitely been influenced by friends and stuff, but I would.
I The difference is I'm like, oh, I'll ask, or
I'll say, like you inspired me to get this, or
can I do? Like me and my cousin went to
get our ears piers together and I literally was like,
can I get the exact same piercings you're getting? And
she's like, yeah, of course, oh got them together? That
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requires like, well mission, no, it doesn't. But like that
one was like because it was like, I don't know,
that was just very specific.
Speaker 1 (18:05):
It could be a little thunder steally, right, if you
do the exact same thing as a friend, it's kind
of like it's just weird.
Speaker 2 (18:13):
But it's like I feel like most of the times
when I'm copying, it's reciprocated or it's like we both
It's like the thing where she was saying in the beginning,
it was cute. We're like doing little things here and
there that are the same. But yeah, I still have
my own personal style. It's very different that I don't
think most people would want to copy. But also a
lot of my friends have styles that are completely different
to me, because it's like we're two unique individuals. We
don't like all the same things, right, and when we do,
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it's like cute. See, okay, yeah, let's both get this
like little matching set together cute and we're doing it
together in the moment I get I think matching with
your friends is super cute.
Speaker 1 (18:42):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (18:42):
I know it's not for everyone, but like I'm I
love it. Yeah, And then.
Speaker 3 (18:47):
Like I'm totally like just flattered if someone is like, oh,
I wasn't, like I think, like, I don't think it
requires permission. I think where it gets weird here or
like muddy is the fact that she's like wearing the
thing to the place that she knew her friend was like,
She's like, oh, I'm buying this red dress for this party. Great,
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I'm buying this blue dress. Then later buys the red dress.
That's where and then shows up in the same dress.
That is where I think it gets weird. If she
had just gotten the red dress and was like, oh,
I'll wear it to a different event or whatever, totally fine.
I don't think that requires any kind of permission. It
just at that point I'm like, Okay, are you trying
to like one up her?
Speaker 1 (19:24):
Are you exactly? That's an hour into it. It's not
that it requires permission, but it can play as thunder
ceiling or one upping, right, But I.
Speaker 3 (19:31):
Think only because she's wearing it to the same event
that she's wearing it too.
Speaker 1 (19:34):
I agree when it's direct or. But the thing is,
I think here and there is a obviously kind of
ambiguous term, but I'm kind of with you. That's kind
of what it is. Where it's like friendly and c
but when it's like, well, you're literally doing the same
fucking thing as me every time, mate, it's like that
does start to get like crazy making, it's crazy behavior. Well.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
Also it's kind of like she if they're best friends,
I would think you can go do your best friend
and talk about anything. Like if one of us was
doing this, I feel like we even we could be like, hey,
this is like, what's going on with it? Where's obsessed
with me? Are you like us? Are you trying to
be me? But it's like it's ads like she has
my advice to be a doctor, but sounds like she
already has, Like she's brought up a couple of times.
So I'm like that's the thing that she's not clocking
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it that. I'm like there's maybe a little a screw
missing or maybe it is like or maybe she's just trying.
Maybe she just just kind of obsessed her. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (20:19):
I mean, it is getting to be kind of gaslighting.
It's like, oh, yeah, I saw them at the mall
thout they're cute. It's like, you mean I we bought
them in front of.
Speaker 2 (20:26):
You at them all that we both went to. Yeah,
yeah weird.
Speaker 1 (20:30):
It's like, oh yeah, I don't even remember you got it.
Speaker 2 (20:34):
Yeah that's weird. Really, Alex hid her on that she's like,
she's got a screw loose. Well, it's very like a
girl interrupted. Is the other movie right, like where she's
trying to be her?
Speaker 1 (20:43):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (20:44):
Okay, anyways, you have a little too many references on
these types of movies she watches. I said, it's like
a movie nineteen ninety nine when I was best friends
with Jessica.
Speaker 1 (20:55):
And isn't it science technology engineering movies? That's well, we're
imitated our women in stem. Women in Stem so interesting,
Wing rights NCAA. Try on a wig in an outrageous color,
send her a picture asking for our opinion on your
new colors. To what happens, or maybe do it with
a temporary tattoo?
Speaker 2 (21:13):
Can you imagine? That's so diabolical? Yeah, I'm I mean, listen,
as long as I'm not like having to be a
part of this situation, please go ahead, go for it,
do it and tell me all about I think.
Speaker 1 (21:25):
This is something insecure people do, glind of gloam on
to others to a ridiculous point. I mean I remember
doing stuff like this. I mean I remember being like
an issue in grade school because they're surrounded about it
the same fucking Yeah, I mean, I was surrounded by
like sixteen motherfuckers and then like five of us are friends.
Speaker 2 (21:39):
But the thing that's interesting is that the boyfriend agrees
with the best friend.
Speaker 1 (21:42):
That that's he's an asshole for that.
Speaker 2 (21:45):
Or are we missing something? Is there more to the story.
I do copy my sister's hair sometimes, but I had
to go all the part at a party that I'm
like kind of friends with that we are always at
the same parties. Be like, I'm obsessed with what you
do your hair, teach me and I literally took it
down and readid it for her and she filmed me.
Next party we're at, she's wearing the exact same hairs,
and I was like, I love that. That's like so
cute and sweet and fun. And again, imitation is this.
Speaker 1 (22:05):
We're kind of in our hair and their standard, right,
So you just coppied your hair. If she copied your fucking.
Speaker 2 (22:10):
She's like, okay, so let me figure out exactly what
you're gonna wear the next party. I see, and thank
god she didn't because I came in sweats.
Speaker 1 (22:18):
She'd have been like, yeah, to me, this does feel
like excessive. It gets uncomfortable. It's like you're not being
self aware. We're called I called you out. You're like
denying it, and then it's like, well, yeah, I don't
want you in my apartment. It's like, to me, it's
more of an emotional thing. It's not really about the copy.
It's also that you're denying it. It's creepy.
Speaker 2 (22:36):
It's creepy. It is creepy, but not inviting your best
friend to your house for me.
Speaker 3 (22:42):
Do you think, like, could this also be that the
best friend just like has no sense of self and
so she's just hard to like cling on to, like
someone who already has like their own vision for things,
their own artistic style, and so that she's like I
don't have that.
Speaker 2 (22:56):
I don't I'm lost.
Speaker 3 (22:57):
So I'm just gonna like copy this person because I think, oh,
it's like it's my mentor now.
Speaker 1 (23:03):
But it is considered like encroaching. Like okay, so this
is happening recently. So I always bring food to the
co working space at I mean it was a joke,
but what somebody else brought food and they're like, I
didn't mean to like steal your thing, and I was like, yes,
I invented bringing food to places. I am the creator.
So but it is like kind of like, yeah, it
gets to be like thunder stealing. I don't know to
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a little bit, right.
Speaker 2 (23:24):
Did you feel like he was he was doing that
to you a little bit?
Speaker 1 (23:26):
No, No, I didn't feel that way. But there's just
that awareness, right, Like it just can be. It's just
like when you copy someone, it is kind of asking
for permission. Never hurts if you're copying. Or here's another example,
if there's a comedy show out of venue, it's just
I think kind of understood that it's just kind of
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a dick move to start another comedy show at the
same venue without talking to the people who have a
comedy show there.
Speaker 3 (23:54):
It's the venue. You're saying that the owner of the
venue needs to like check in with you.
Speaker 1 (24:00):
I'm saying, okay, and I'm talking about a non comedy venue.
So like, say that you're producing a comedy show at
the barbershop, which I used to be here, and then
I go to the barbershop seeing that there's a comedy
show there, and I'm like, I'd like to have a
comedy show there. It's just kind of like gross.
Speaker 3 (24:14):
Like I mean, the venues I host dating events, i'd
also host other dating events.
Speaker 1 (24:19):
I know, but I don't feel like dating events.
Speaker 2 (24:21):
I think that's the exact same thing.
Speaker 1 (24:22):
No, it's not, because to me it is. I don't
think it's the same though, because are you friends with
the other dating events people?
Speaker 2 (24:29):
No?
Speaker 1 (24:30):
Are you? A community? Comedy is more of a community.
Speaker 3 (24:32):
So it's kind of like would make it feel like
it would be less of an encroachment if you guys
are all friends.
Speaker 1 (24:36):
Right, Well, it's well, that's the thing is Copying your
friends is kind of an encroachment, That's what I'm saying.
So it's just kind of like you want to talk
to the people who have the show.
Speaker 2 (24:44):
Honestly, this is for my birthday, my one of my friends.
We're back, Okay, not to make it about me, but
here we go.
Speaker 1 (24:52):
We love it.
Speaker 2 (24:52):
No, but one of my friends did a talent show
for her birthday and it was amazing and it was
so so fun, and I was like, this is a
great idea. I want to copy this, Like I want
to do this for my birthday. Yeah, she wats it
out a black box theater. She's like. I was like,
I want to do this exact same thing. But then
I was like no, not only because I didn't want
to copy here. She would have been fine if I
reached out, but I would have reached out and asked
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her first if I was going to do that. But
then I was like, also, I'm a unique individual. Let
me think of something else. So I was like, what's
the closest thing to a comp to talent show? A roast?
So then I threw a roast, different but same, same
but different. I was inspired by her, and I told
her that your thing inspired me to do this different
but similar thing, right, kind of similar? So take that.
Speaker 1 (25:32):
Yeah, I mean whatever, it's a one off here, and
it's your birthday. It's like a personal thing. But I
guess I feel like you could do that, you could
have copied it. I think that would have been fine.
I think saying something is polite just because it can
come off as crazy.
Speaker 2 (25:42):
Also, she would have been invited, and she would have
been like, bitch, what like the exact same thing. That's weird,
you know exactly.
Speaker 1 (25:48):
But like I think it's if it's not now, if
it's the same day or even the same week, then
it's kind of like, okay, well, you're literally like taking
all the energy out.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
Of like when we through weddings at the same time,
same day. That was awkward.
Speaker 3 (25:59):
Yeah, well, I mean it was a weird thing because
I did invite you to my wedding first, Yeah, to
your wedding. We had weddings on the same day.
Speaker 1 (26:09):
What are we talking about. This is a joke. I
don't get it.
Speaker 3 (26:12):
No, we know, this was a real this is what happened.
Was so I had scheduled my wedding for the same day,
and then she booked.
Speaker 2 (26:18):
A bit of her wedding. So then we decided to
just marry each other.
Speaker 1 (26:21):
Oh god, I gotta got it.
Speaker 2 (26:24):
It all worked out.
Speaker 1 (26:25):
That's so cute. Are so cute, and I'm so happy
you're married to each other. And I'm not jealous at all.
Speaker 2 (26:30):
Thanks. So we get that reaction a lot at the
grocery store, mostly.
Speaker 1 (26:37):
AI ta for not inviting my best friend to my
apartment warming party. I feel like this relationship is pulling
apart because of this, because it's gas lighting. That's just
what it is.
Speaker 2 (26:47):
She's CosIng so much more.
Speaker 1 (26:48):
Yeah, to a ridiculous extent, and it's like she's not
owning it, you know, she's she's being self unaware and
it's like, yeah, now I kind of don't want you
around because you're like making me feel weird, and I
don't feel like that's an ass move. I feel like
it's a reaction to gaslighting.
Speaker 2 (27:02):
She should start only shopping at like thrift stores. I know,
like thrift stores where it's like you can only find
one of the thing that's true.
Speaker 1 (27:10):
But this is my jewel rates, the hope diamond, good luck.
Speaker 2 (27:13):
But real quick, do you think though I get all
of that underlying stuff. Yes, but do you think she
should have not invited her to I don't know. That
just seems like kind of a step further or at
least talk to her before, like, hey.
Speaker 1 (27:24):
She has talked. It's like this girl's being self unaware.
It's like you're ridiculously copying everything your thunder ceiling showing
up in the same fucking dress. This would be like
you doing the talent show on the same day. Yeah,
it's like you're fucking up my shit. You're getting in
my way. You're like a leech.
Speaker 3 (27:39):
Just make your whole apartment look like the opposite style
that you have for the housewarming and then change it
back after your set dress your apartment.
Speaker 1 (27:47):
I think I think this is at if for not
invite my best friend who my part one party. I'm saying,
not the asshole and the best friend is she needs
to rein it in nose? Will hear her?
Speaker 2 (27:58):
Dony, I would give it like a soft even a
soft apps like yeah, because I'm like she is the
other friend is the asshole, but also it's kind of
asshole moved to no on i'bout your best friend or
your housewarming party?
Speaker 1 (28:08):
Like that's I just know the thing is there not
how can you be best friends with someone like?
Speaker 2 (28:10):
But that's my deeper question.
Speaker 1 (28:11):
I think there's two falling apart.
Speaker 2 (28:13):
Yeah, yeah, guys'se.
Speaker 1 (28:15):
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writers to opt in for female only drivers because of safety.
Mark thirty seven ms scoffed and said there were plenty
of safety parameters in place for screening drivers and keeping
writers safe and the misandrey had gone too far. He
really worked himself up and said, imagine if the genders
were soppt based on the stereotype that women are bad drivers.
I disagreed and said stereotypes and stats are not the
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same thing. He called me an asshole for ruining happy
hour Wow aita for saying rideeshair apps should allow women
riders to request women drivers.
Speaker 3 (29:28):
Let's quote, stereotypes and stats are not the same thing.
Because I love that that's yeah, I love that. This
directly relates to the story you were telling me earlier.
Speaker 2 (29:36):
I feel like of last night and you separating uh
with the girl. Yeah, I have a story has nothing
to do with ridehair, but the idea of like, yeah,
I'm not trying to do something, I'm safety, but someone
taking it the wrong way, because yeah, things can go
both ways.
Speaker 3 (29:52):
Yeah, it's like any any gender can make someone feel
unsafe or uncomfortable. So I I do think that that
is true. I think the stats though, are that it's
usually going to be yeah, exactly exactly. So I did
have my dating event last night. I had a woman
show up just I think she was pretty heavily intoxicated,
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and she tried to claim a ticket for last week
of weeks event.
Speaker 2 (30:21):
Like she wait, well that's right too. Okay, Well I
was talking about the girls in the restroom that you
overheard and then like them saying that it was sexist
for you to like separate.
Speaker 3 (30:29):
Oh okay, yeah, so I I I normally with my
dating events I'll have women arrive for checond first. The
reason I do that is just to make to give
women a time to like feel good, like relax, meet
the other women, just feel comfortable beforehand, and then make friends.
(30:49):
So then I'll also have the guys like get to
make friends with the other guys, and it's just kind
of a nice thing. I think that sets my events
apart is like I'm not just gonna like push you
right into things right away. I'm going to give you
time to acclimate and like make a new friends and.
Speaker 2 (31:01):
The girls always become friends so quick because that's how
girls are. So it's like not to stereotype, but it
does work, and it's like gives the girls a moment
to you know. Yeah. Yeah. And one girl was like, wait,
what they checked the girls in first? That is so
sexist And I was like what woman said that?
Speaker 3 (31:18):
Yes, I was like so confused. I was like, what
am I getting sexist about? Like I was just I
didn't know what was happening there. But all of that
to say, I think I have a question actually for you,
Alex in terms of so if you get a massage,
do you care about the gender of your massage therapist?
Speaker 2 (31:35):
Do? But I do. I did prefer women for a while,
but now I don't really care.
Speaker 3 (31:39):
Okay, So I have pretty much always exclusively asked for
a woman. Yeah, I did have one recently. I had
a guide to it, and I think he was actually
a gay man because at first, before even that didn't care.
Speaker 2 (31:52):
I didn't care about that. I still just wanted a woman.
Speaker 3 (31:57):
So I do just from that perspective, Like, but I
think with a massage, like you're naked.
Speaker 2 (32:01):
I think that's the reason it's not for any other
reason really than that you're naked and you're touching me. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (32:07):
With the ride share thing, what I thought of, funnily enough,
is I think there are less female drivers because the
greater risk in that situation is really for the driver.
Speaker 2 (32:17):
I was a female driver for a while and something
creepy happens. That's why I stopped. So I would say, really,
it's really doude female drivers want to request having only
female passengers because I would say that the bigger risk
really is for the driver only only in that situation
with the women, I'm saying, yeah.
Speaker 1 (32:34):
I doubt it's really a practical solution. I understand it. No,
just I feel like logistically, I don't know if it's
it would be legal. There's all kinds of problems, but
I think that's probably the best problem you can name,
because the drivers obviously are going to be dealing with
what dozens of customers every day, right, so they're gonna
be in danger. That said, going into the situation, this
(32:55):
was not an offensive idea.
Speaker 2 (32:56):
No, no, no, no.
Speaker 1 (32:57):
You know, and a lot of people throw these terms
out sexism. I know I sound Republicans saying that, but
it does get over over you sometimes because it's like, oh, okay,
so it's like, what's it called, like girls' night at
the club? Is that sexist? It's like no, you fucking idiot, Like.
Speaker 2 (33:13):
Well, that's exactly why your story reminded me of it,
because those girls are saying that separating the you're trying
to the exact opposite by making everyone feel safe, and
then they took it as like that's sexist. So it's
like no matter, there's no winning. Like even if you're
trying to like separate people out for safety or try
and do women on women, women on women, women loving
women vers, like, that's still going to offend somebody, Like
there's really no or or no where do non borinary
(33:36):
fit into that or where to like yeah, you know,
so it's just there's always going to be Also.
Speaker 3 (33:40):
I do think regardless, like safety in these kinds of
ride share situations is a huge thing.
Speaker 2 (33:47):
Yeah, Like there.
Speaker 3 (33:49):
Have unfortunately been way too many like stories, and there
are a lot of things in place now to help.
But I also think people do need to remember check
the freakin' license plate of the how you're entering into
make sure it actually people like yeah, please please please
check it, Like you know, I make sure that they
know your name, like who are you here for?
Speaker 2 (34:07):
Like do your.
Speaker 3 (34:08):
Diligence, because like I don't want to hear any more
stories of awful things happening.
Speaker 2 (34:12):
Yeah, it's fucked, But the whole thing isn't even really
about this idea of like uber, It's about this guy's
an asshole, and I think he is because he's saying
or light asshole because he's like scoffing at.
Speaker 1 (34:24):
I think he's being an asshole. He scoffed at the
notion said there were plenty of safety parameters in place
and keeping writers safe and the miss Andrea had gone
too far. That's another thing though, just like I don't know,
Like I know, obviously in certain places people are very
sexist and racist, but like I just think if you're
trying to have a productive.
Speaker 2 (34:41):
Conversation with someone and they shut it down like.
Speaker 1 (34:43):
That, yeah, firing off misogynistic, sexist, racist, like trying to
be a little bit more like charitable. And I think
Ebuania likes this word a lot, being curious about what
the other person is trying to express, which, like I
fully understand why a woman would say this. Yeah, bro, totally.
I'm just like I don't know if it's really practical.
Speaker 3 (35:02):
I agree, I just don't. I don't like that he
jumped to no, no, no. There's plenty of like instead
of like hearing that like she fears for her safety,
He's like, yeah, no, fuck your safety.
Speaker 2 (35:13):
I don't care. It's already safe.
Speaker 3 (35:15):
Like clearly she's saying she doesn't feel safe, and you're
telling her that he's missing it.
Speaker 2 (35:19):
Immedia. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (35:21):
I have a friend who, like, we have conversations about
just interpersonal relationships a lot, and she brings up safety
so much. She's like cute and small, like very small,
and so I'm like, I forget, you know, I forget.
I take it for granted because as a man, even
as a medium sized man, what beautiful heighted man, you know,
safety isn't really you're talking about concern. Yeah, I don't
(35:41):
think about it. Yeah, he's a privilege.
Speaker 2 (35:43):
It is funny too, Like I can feel the direct
difference when I'm going out on something like this or
going out and like a more revealing outfit or like
a night out. The difference I feel with eyes and
safety and shot like it is. It is different. You know,
if I have a hoodie on and I'm just doing
my thing for the day, which is nine times interesting
than if I have, like, yeahs and tights and a skirt.
I'm like, it's different, it's very different. Get a dog.
Speaker 1 (36:05):
Wow, get a dog.
Speaker 2 (36:05):
Get the dog that I'm trying to save in Santa Bar. Yeah. Wait,
I do have a story about driving, but I can
save it. It's quick, it doesn't really.
Speaker 1 (36:13):
My heart rate went up just picturing that clothes on you.
Is that crazy? That's how That's how men are.
Speaker 2 (36:20):
I said a skirt, you said.
Speaker 1 (36:22):
My mind pictured it, and then my heart went around
out like that's fucking crazy, bro.
Speaker 2 (36:26):
That's mere. Men are wired.
Speaker 1 (36:29):
Oh look, Blizzard bread. Yeah, now I'm picturing you in
a nun outfit and that's that's very.
Speaker 2 (36:36):
Every day, very soothing. And see that's what I feel
and I go out in my nun outfit versus my skirt.
Speaker 1 (36:41):
I'd love to see you as a nun and.
Speaker 2 (36:43):
Every day I'm an angel.
Speaker 1 (36:45):
And don't do that at for saying ride your option
allow women writers to request women drivers. I think this
is a whopping NTA and he is scoffing and stuff.
He's thirty seven. You know that's another don't don't yeah,
don't do this. This is stupid.
Speaker 2 (37:05):
Wait can I tell you about my thing real quick? Uh,
it's quick.
Speaker 1 (37:08):
We No, I'm just kidding. Go fast fast okay.
Speaker 2 (37:11):
Okay. I'm driving the other day and I hate asshole drivers,
and so then oh, you're cutting me off.
Speaker 1 (37:15):
Okay, Oh that's just a marker.
Speaker 2 (37:16):
I don't know what scares me when you do that
big red button.
Speaker 1 (37:18):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (37:18):
So basically, okay, so I've done like a bunch of
shit that's really bad with parking. So I try not
to be ashole driver. So that I'm driving and this car,
this like STV car is like backing up out of
the gate. So then there's a spot. I park in
the spot. Then the asshole backs up become I mean asshole.
The driver backs up and comes up to me, rolls
his window down. He's like, I was going to park there,
but looks like you took it, thanks very much by
and like says something like kind of shady. And I
(37:40):
was like, oh my god, I thought you were like
leaving before I could even say anything, because I would
have in that moment backed up and found another parking spot,
because that's kind of good samaritan I am. But he
just zoomed off, and I was like, fuck. I feel
kind of bad because I would never want to swipe
and take someone's spot. That's not me dirty. So then
I'm at the shop coffee shop with my friend and
I see him get out and he has a kid
and he's putting his kid in the backseat, and my
(38:00):
fringe is like, Alex, don't. I'm like, I'm gonna go
talk to him, and she thinks, because I'm very petty
and i'm very I can be agro with driving, she
thinks I'm about to tell him off because I told
her the story and I'm like, no, complete opposite, but
she didn't know that. She's like, Alex, I don't know.
He's a kid, he has a kid. I'm like, yeah,
exactly as a kid. Like I go off to him
and he rolls his under down, beautiful eyebrows, My god,
beautiful gay man. And I was like, hey, like I'm
(38:21):
so sorry, like I would have left, but you zoomed off,
like I would have given you your parking spot. I
felt bad. I want you to know, like I'm not
an asshole driver. I need to clear my name. Also,
like you know, beautiful kid, beautiful family, whatever, and he's like,
oh my god, no, like I'm in a bad mood.
I'm sorry, Like it wasn't you, it was me. And
so we have this whole kekey back and forth, and
I'm like, believe me, I've done worse for less, like
I've been to an ass I hate asshole driver parkers.
So we're talking whatever. I have a little exchange. That's
(38:42):
that clear the air. Then I'm walking back to my
car to fill the meeter and I have a fucking
parking ticket. I'm like, God, damn, are you kidding me?
The karma potus is not a parking ticket. It's a
note for my new bestie. He goes, that was so
nice if you apologize to me, like you know, we're like,
he didn't say all this. But they're a gay family
in Palm Springs. They have two kids. Here's my Instagram.
Let's be friends. And now I've been dming ever since
and we're best friends. So it's like opposite beat.
Speaker 1 (39:04):
What a beautiful story. I love that worth it?
Speaker 3 (39:07):
Or now, Oh, it's funny because I just thought that
you saved him from a parking ticket.
Speaker 2 (39:11):
Right, That's why I thought to it for a second.
Speaker 1 (39:13):
But no, he best parking ticket. Ever, we're gonna wrap up.
Ai ta for expecting my boyfriend to include me in
Memorial Day plans despite not being able to swim. I
thirty one f and my thirty six boyfriend had been
dating and living together four three years. Our relationship rocky
past few weeks, but I'd like to move forward to
the positive attitude. Try my best to make things work.
(39:34):
All that is another combo i'll launch. My boyfriend and
I were speaking. I brought up MDW Memorial Day weekend.
I was telling him how I'm ready for the nice weather,
hoping me go canoe, fish, et cetera. He responds with,
I'm going camping and kayaking. I don't know about you. Oh,
you're an anchor and you can't swim, so I can't
do anything fun with you. Oh. I told him I
(39:55):
could still do those things. I just can't go swimming.
Combo got awkward and he changed the subject at every
one who is MDW with him? Even though I can't swim,
should I just stay home with the dog?
Speaker 2 (40:03):
Am I the assle for wanting to the question is
already we can with my boyfriend? Yeah, that's such.
Speaker 3 (40:08):
A sad question. Think about what you're asking right now?
Am I the asshole for wanting to stork?
Speaker 2 (40:12):
His energy is just so off. I don't like any
of his energy, like him being like you're an anchor
and I can't do any of these things with you
and da da dad. Also him being like I'm doing this,
I don't know what you're I don't know what you're
doing second grade Like that's crazy behavior.
Speaker 1 (40:24):
I don't like that, straight up bullying. Yeah. I do
want to say though, And I think she got called
out a lot. Actually this one e s h which
I think is psycho interesting. Why like, tell us you
are both assholes? How many times have you done the podcast? Alex?
I just don't know.
Speaker 2 (40:40):
I'm just sucking ADHD.
Speaker 1 (40:44):
I feel that. So I think that the one thing
I will say is you can't go canoeing if you
can't swim. That's so dangerous.
Speaker 2 (40:54):
She has a life jacket. Yeah, don't you have a
life jacket? It's still like where are the canoeing at?
Usually a canoe in like a, well, here's the thing.
She wants to go camping. She like, is he going
to be on the water all day long?
Speaker 1 (41:07):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (41:07):
No?
Speaker 1 (41:07):
Okay, Yeah that I had that idea too that maybe
it's like reading it to literally she's saying like, no, yeah,
I'll stay back at camp or whatever while y'all go canoe.
Speaker 3 (41:15):
I think, and I think when you're in a relationship
with someone like you talk about these things, you don't
just be like, well, I'm doing this.
Speaker 1 (41:22):
I don't know about you.
Speaker 3 (41:23):
Gotta hate Like, I think it's totally fine that he
wants to go do this like water stuff, but that doesn't.
Speaker 2 (41:29):
Mean that.
Speaker 3 (41:31):
Go to your little water games sports and we'll do
the adult things later. Why can't they find some things
to do together as well, like we don't. She could
also be an independent person that can like go on
her own hike while he's canoeing. Maybe she has a
good book she wants to read reading while camping. Oh
my god, amazing love it Like this is so just
he doesn't like his girlfriend, He doesn't want to spend
(41:54):
time with his.
Speaker 1 (41:55):
I want I thought we would land there. That's exactly
what one of the comments I've noticed. It's become kind
of a thought terminating cliche. He doesn't like her, she
doesn't like him. Whatever. So, but what I wanted to
talk about because I first saw this is then why
is he with her?
Speaker 2 (42:09):
Why is anyone with anyone? Sometimes it's just the comfort.
Sometimes it's just you know what, you know what, you know,
you're used to it. We don't know how long they've
been together. Three years, yeah, I mean that's a lot
they probably you know, hot and heavy in the beginning.
This year was good, second year was bond. Yeah, you've
done a lot of things. Third year you're just going
through the motions.
Speaker 3 (42:30):
That's really early though, too, to be sick of someone
Alred it is, but but.
Speaker 1 (42:33):
That's when it gets real. I feel like the first
usually the first years where you get your honeymoon period.
Everything's so magical and they're so perfect, and I love
a girl who has three names. It's so interesting Alex
Paisley's dead Men. And then you start to learn they're
actually fucking crazy.
Speaker 2 (42:49):
Well you get that right off the bat there.
Speaker 1 (42:51):
I know that's true.
Speaker 2 (42:52):
I should have had the more names, the crazier the more,
the more syllables. Go to Texas. I've got ten syllables here,
I've only got.
Speaker 1 (42:59):
The four or so. I don't get that going there.
Speaker 2 (43:07):
I used to talk with like, I would say every
when I was I was like full door knaf like everything.
Please talk like that for the rest of this episode.
Speaker 1 (43:16):
The more names the better. In bed. You know, I
know that John Wilkes Booth could.
Speaker 2 (43:19):
Buck personally went for it, but personally.
Speaker 1 (43:23):
Did Yeah, John Wilkes Booth and I had a Yeah
that's nice. Yeah. The theater is the only place he
took shots.
Speaker 2 (43:29):
Okay, ye went for it folks for twice?
Speaker 1 (43:34):
Who John? That was a blinky yeah?
Speaker 2 (43:38):
Yeah, and he's decent a bed.
Speaker 1 (43:41):
Oh yeah, all.
Speaker 2 (43:42):
These like people that you guys do you guys have
a time machine?
Speaker 1 (43:45):
I don't know about you don't know j w B.
Come on, you know Jo Booth.
Speaker 2 (43:51):
She's saying, how did you funk?
Speaker 1 (43:52):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (43:53):
How to him?
Speaker 1 (43:53):
Yeah? He's still around.
Speaker 2 (43:54):
He's still around here and secret to his ghosts longevity.
Speaker 1 (44:00):
Who's the other guy who killed Mark David Chapman. Yeah,
Mark Daved Chapman still alive, has a man.
Speaker 2 (44:05):
A lot of names.
Speaker 1 (44:06):
Yeah, there it is all right. Yeah, so no, I
wanted to say that because I feel like he doesn't
like her. It's true. I guess it's just like I
feel like we need to be on the watch for this.
People need to be on the watch for it.
Speaker 2 (44:22):
Your partner are not liking you.
Speaker 1 (44:23):
Yeah, exactly. Yeah, I think that's a good one because
because because you know what it is, they will not
like you. People people will marry people they don't like. Yeah,
you know. And so I'm like, why is this happening
so often? I think we listened a lot of good reasons.
It's comfortable as stable, do you guys feel hard to leave?
Speaker 2 (44:38):
It's hard to leave. You can love someone that you
don't like.
Speaker 1 (44:41):
Oh, absolutely, yeah I have. I have a bunch of
friends who I'm like, I love you, I could tolerate
you in limited doses, and when I say love, it
means I want what's best for you.
Speaker 2 (44:50):
Well, I love a lot of family that I don't like.
I mean not a lot, but I have certain people
that like or gonthic bases, right, didn't like them, and
I do whatever. But you have Yeah. I think I
used to think you.
Speaker 3 (45:00):
That like, you could love someone that you didn't really like,
because like I think I felt that way about certain
family members. But as I've gotten older, I think I've
started to see it as more of one and where
I'm like, yeah, I don't know that. I I think
I always thought I was supposed to love you because
you were my family, but I don't know that I
actually do tea.
Speaker 2 (45:23):
Yeah, well, it's different kinds of love, like friend love
and then partner love. Especially we're going through like societally,
you've been just like bread or you know, you've been
like traded for cows, so like there was no love.
It was just like a it was literally transactional, you know.
And then now we're finally we're out of for years
and years and now we're like at a part of
society where it's like you can pick very carefully and
intentionally who you want to spend the rest of your
(45:43):
life with, but there's still residual like trauma or like
like old fashioned thinking of like okay, well this person's
good enough, so let me just be with them, and
then you start to resent or things start to go bad,
and you just still stay with them because you think
the next step is family marriage. Seating is such a
like so and like it can be really because I
think because people feel like feel like they have so
(46:04):
many options, it can it's like that thing where when
you have too many options, you can't choose. Yeah, but
there's so.
Speaker 1 (46:10):
Many when they're fake options, fake options.
Speaker 3 (46:12):
Who won't choose now, and so I think there is
something to be said where like, yeah, I think once
you find the relationship where you're like this person actually okay,
they are emotionally available or they are this, or they
are that, it's like do I really want to enter that?
Speaker 2 (46:24):
Like? Is that actually better? But that's even morning on
what I'm saying. That's true, but I'm like and I
don't know, I want to look this upset. This is true,
but like, are we the most single and the most childless?
Speaker 1 (46:33):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (46:33):
Generation? So that says a lot.
Speaker 1 (46:35):
And gen Z is doing even worse. I think are better.
Speaker 2 (46:39):
Gen Z has no sex.
Speaker 1 (46:40):
They don't have sex. No Cranberry Rights is eight. She
obviously sucks for the way he spoke to you, calling
you an anchor. You stuff for thinking it's fine to
go canoeing when you can't swim. That doesn't make her
an asshole. What happens if you fall in? Maybe not likely,
but so possibly then your boyfriend has seconds to stop
you from drowning.
Speaker 2 (46:56):
I mean it kind of funds like the situation has
happened before, because how does he know she's an ink?
And also, like she said she can canoe, so like
I would take it at face value, but maybe not,
but I mean I feel like if you have a
love jacket whatever, Also, you can't swim like you can't
doggy paddle with a with a life jacket on. You
can't swim like you cannot swim, you know. So maybe
she can like handle her own if she does fall over,
let's just pretend like it's that.
Speaker 1 (47:16):
Then I'm like, or she could be on the shore watching.
You could still be included in the activity and not
be in danger.
Speaker 2 (47:21):
I think the whole problem is like his attitude. Does
he really like you right now? Sounds like he's kind
of just being an asshole. Like his delivery and him
making plans without telling you is like the problem.
Speaker 1 (47:30):
That's come on, That's that's crazy. I feel like the
relationship's over. That's such a stroke.
Speaker 2 (47:35):
Even if we had like loose plans about Memorial Day
weekend and I was like, hey, what are you doing,
You're like, oh, I'm doing this, what are you doing?
I'd be like, whoa, what happened? Like even a friend, you.
Speaker 1 (47:43):
Know, yeah, that's so pushing your way, or like yeah,
even if you slip your mind, you'd be like, oh
my god, I'm so sorry. Yeah, that's it reached out
and I wanted to go on the canoe trip. It
was thoughtless, it was a mistake, like that would be reasonable.
But it's like, no, what are you doing?
Speaker 2 (47:56):
Yeah, that's crazy?
Speaker 1 (47:57):
Nta rights equivalent? Secret? Why are you with the pert
that literally told you to your face that you're an
anchor and can't do anything fun with you. He's telling
you exactly what he thinks. I'd suggest listening. I so
agree with that. Sounds like he doesn't have any fun
with you. Fucked up at for expecting my boyfriend who
include Memorial Day plans despite not being able to swim.
I think we're all lined up here, not the asshole,
and he is not the asshole. Guys, thank you so
(48:21):
much for joining me. It's always such a blast. My
favorite married couple plug away.
Speaker 2 (48:29):
Alex Paisley Studman on everything as speed Date La.
Speaker 3 (48:36):
You can contact me for all your dating needs, but
also I host private events, so if you're getting engaged, marriage,
whatever it might be, Oh, divorce party, let's do it.
Speaker 2 (48:47):
Let's sorry for my tired eyes and tired attitude.
Speaker 1 (48:50):
You are so beautiful. All right, guys, We'll see you
next time. Bye bye you
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