730 AITA for refusing to hang out with my sister's bf bc he's boring? (ft. Kari & Aisha)

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(0:00) - banter
(14:15) - AITA for revealing the rental cost of my van after the trip?
(33:14) - AITA for refusing to hang out with my sister's boyfriend bc he's boring?
(51:51) - AITA husband wants to wear extremely revealing swim shorts?

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hi, everybody. I'm doing big the anti a pod. I'm
joined by two returning guests. Hi every day, every Yeah.
I was telling Gotdi a little bit before you out here, Aisha,
I have a weird life update. It's a good life update, okay.
But yeah, I just have this thought. I don't know,
I don't know when the last time I had this
thought was. It was kind of a crazy thought. I

(00:24):
just thought, yeah, I actually have enough friends and no
new friends. It's not that I'm closed off per se.
It's just like I don't need to spend more energy
getting new friends. And it was actually like, I've been
working really hard on my tiktoks. I post three tiktoks
a day.

Speaker 2 (00:38):
That's I know, I've noticed. Yeah, it's like every time
I open TikTok, it's your face.

Speaker 1 (00:44):
I'm sorry, but yeah, I'm trying to make them better.
I'm working harder on them, doing new stuff. Thank you.
But yeah, crazy crazy feeling to feel like just like, wow,
I have enough. A really good feeling though.

Speaker 2 (00:57):
So that's been a new abundant community.

Speaker 1 (01:01):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I got the homies, I got the
squad lined up.

Speaker 2 (01:04):
What are you, George Bailey?

Speaker 1 (01:06):
I don't get it.

Speaker 2 (01:07):
Who's George Baiyer?

Speaker 1 (01:08):
Nobody know.

Speaker 2 (01:10):
I think of Donovan Bailey, the Sprinter from Canada. It's
a Wonderful life.

Speaker 1 (01:14):
Oh oh that movie.

Speaker 2 (01:16):
He who has friends isn't poor or something? So true?
So true, that is true. And you don't need a
lot of friends to have friends, you know what I mean.
Like I used to think I needed to have like
as many friends as possible, but I think it was
because I was running away from deep relationships. And now
that I'm like I want to invest in deep relationships,
I'm like not cutting people up, but I'm like, oh yeah,

(01:37):
you're like a close acquaintance. That's the level you're you
know what I mean. And then there's like the closer,
and then there's people who I would die for, you
know what I mean. So it's like a very it's
like a like a dart board of like the different life.

Speaker 1 (01:49):
Yes, yeah, yeah, I mean I think that's it too.
There's like I have like a friend group and that's
filled with like people who are like I'm friendly with,
like maybe maybe a little closer than acquaintances, but like
you know, not like close friends, but like having those
little bubbles. It's nice. It is you know guys like you.
You guys are like, I don't know, you guys are
like comedy friends.

Speaker 2 (02:08):
Yeah, comedy cuties.

Speaker 3 (02:12):
That's what I was saying last time when I was like,
I don't need to go on friend adventures behind them.

Speaker 2 (02:18):
I'm full. Yeah, I'm full where I am. Yeah, I
still have tendencies to do that where I mean being like,
oh my god, we should hang on and then we
do once. I'm like that was good. That's good, that's
all I need.

Speaker 1 (02:30):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I mean for a while, I was
like caught on like getting I guess I've also realized
because you guys are your your dude to get married.
You are married with children with usual too, you have too.
But yeah, and I'm like, I honestly like I'm not
on the dating apps, and it's it's like a different

(02:51):
thing to really feel like I'm just not. I think
I'm not open onto dating. Yeah, I mean, I guess
I would like it's kind of like it's the kind
of thing like the right person showed up, I think
I would be, but I'm not pursuing.

Speaker 2 (03:03):
That's the goal. I think. Yeah, that's when and especially
I feel like really excited for you because I feel
like in previous times we've been like, oh, you're like
trying and chasing and whatever, and then now it feels
like you're like a lot more like, oh, like I
have a support grip, I feel secure, and then you're
gonna maybe see somebody be like, oh this is nice,
and it won't be this like weird, did I do
something wrong like that. You won't feel anxiety about it.

(03:25):
It'll be like a lot more like excitement and fun
and giddy.

Speaker 1 (03:28):
It'll be like I want to bring them in or
I don't. Yeah, really it.

Speaker 2 (03:32):
I like to think about relationships. It's like, you have
to build your house first, right now. You have to
build your house and your shed too. Yes, and oh
my god.

Speaker 1 (03:41):
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Speaker 2 (03:50):
You have to build your house and doesn't have to
be the best house, but you.

Speaker 3 (03:53):
Do have to know your house, and you have to
know the strengths and the weaknesses.

Speaker 2 (03:57):
Of your house. And then you can invite peop in
and you wouldn't invite someone in who's going to disrespect
your home or ruin your home?

Speaker 3 (04:04):
Yeah? Yeah, like it sets like a good set of
boundaries of what you want or don't.

Speaker 1 (04:09):
I like that you included weaknesses too. I think that's
the thing, Like people want to be perfect or it's
like no one's perfect. We all have wlas, we all
have weak points, we all have things that you know,
frustrate us or lead to our worst side. Yeah, you know.

Speaker 3 (04:22):
I think relationships are really more like puzzles. Yeah, it's
like does this fit? Does this weakness match your strength
or whatever?

Speaker 2 (04:30):
You know, and you evolve as people too. Yeah, so
it's like people who are going to be you're going
to be able to evolve with and grow with and
like communicate with and you know all that stuff, because
it really is from when you're in your like twenties
to your thirties to your forties, like you are different.
You have different values, you have different needs and wants.
If you have kids, if you get married, like all
of that stuff changes.

Speaker 3 (04:51):
So and also you don't want someone who doesn't have
who hasn't built their home yet. It's like, well we're
going to come jone homes. You can't be like just
aimlessly running through my home.

Speaker 2 (04:59):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (05:00):
Well, and I think there's a lot of people. I
went on my little pick me rant, which shout out
to a couple of listeners who reached out. They were
with me on the pigmies. It's like, people, I like
your house thing because it's like you're bringing the partner
to the house, but the house seems to be built.
Yeah yeah already right, Like, and I think so many people.
And I used to think it was just men, but

(05:20):
I think a lot of women do it too. It's
like they don't have a good friend group, or they
don't have a developed social life. They don't have a
developed life however that might look, and it's like, oh,
well I just get a partner and to fill that hole.
That's too many holes?

Speaker 2 (05:32):
Yeah yeah, but I think that's true because if you
break up with that person, then what right, Like you
don't a life to fall back on.

Speaker 3 (05:45):
And then you start blaming the relationship for things that's
not it's not responsibility.

Speaker 1 (05:50):
Yes, I love that body or on buying. Yeah, it's
like she doesn't satisfy me. It's like, bro, she doesn't
satisfy you because like she's not your homie. Yeah, she's
not gonna be the one out there one wheeling with
you or playing PS five or whatever the fuck. Like
that's your f bros. Bro, Yeah you.

Speaker 2 (06:08):
Got real like twangy're there, Like yeah, yeah, that's.

Speaker 1 (06:10):
My little guy. It's my little accent, my little accent.

Speaker 2 (06:16):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (06:17):
I personally am big on like finding I like h
I mean, I've had the same partner for ten years,
shut out Mark, But like, I do feel like the
way people pursue things says a lot about how they'd
be in a relationship, but not everybody shares that.

Speaker 1 (06:31):
How they pursue things, Yeah, tell us about how they
watch do like their career or like how they sue Yeah,
like they don't have to be like a career go getter.

Speaker 3 (06:40):
But I think how they feel about their day to day,
the work they're doing and why they're doing it can.

Speaker 2 (06:45):
Reflect how they'll feel in a relationship.

Speaker 3 (06:48):
So if they're complacent and they're doing something that they hate,
like every day is hateful, full of rage at work,
I don't know how much they'll be able to bring
to a relationship because they're angry about what they're doing
and they're not also making effort to change it, even
though they say they want to change it all the time,
so that to me feels like, oh, in the relationship,

(07:09):
they will be fine sulking and not making it better.

Speaker 2 (07:14):
Yeah, not taking accountability. I'm with you.

Speaker 1 (07:17):
No, I'm with that. I mean having it. Like we
were talking a lot about jobs in the last episode.
I think having having a stressful, shitty job I can
really especially if it's a time intensive job, and then
you put that on your partner and it's like, you know,
I think. I think the cool thing for me about
this realization is being like I have enough friendship is
realizing like it's it's something that I don't know the word,
like maybe like a pot. I think we're trying to

(07:39):
move away from holes because like we all have like
maybe a set of glasses that we need to fill,
and that glass is like filled. And it was cool
because it made me see comedy differently, Whereas, like I think,
for so long in my life I was doing comedy
because like I want to be seen and I want
people to like me and all these things. I'm like, No, actually,
a much better way to get that is through friends.

(08:00):
That is a better way to be seen and feel
connected and validated on a more human level. But I
love comedy. It's a craft to me. It's it's like
what I care about, it's what I know about, and
and it made me want to do comedy for I
think the right reasons. And I don't think I've been
so fully aligned with that for a long time.

Speaker 2 (08:17):
Anything it makes you feel like like you're doing it
out of desperation is bad and life, yes, right, and
you don't. I always say, like, if I feel like
you're doing I'm doing it out of desperation. If I
feel like there's some sort of urgency and like I
had an emergency I have to make a decision or
like that kind of thing, I'm like, I should always
do nothing because there's nothing in life that should create

(08:38):
anxiety like that for you. Long term. If things create
anxiety for you, it's like, okay, I'll deal with it
and we'll move on. But like, and comedy can do
that where you're like I need to be seen, I
need to get on stage whatever.

Speaker 4 (08:49):
Yeah, its like this will be you got a minute
to write the sketch, yes, you know, And it's like, okay,
I'm going to not do it then, because you can
be in peace and in like your zone and enjoy
life and still get the things you need a well.

Speaker 1 (09:01):
And you guys, I think, are pretty like holistically healthy,
you know. But there's like a lot of open micers
out there and they're they're there to do comedy, but
they're also there to make friends and meet people in
comedy is very hard to like make friends.

Speaker 3 (09:12):
When I started comedy, I said, I'm not here to
make friends.

Speaker 2 (09:15):
Wow, that's what I told you.

Speaker 3 (09:17):
She knew. Well.

Speaker 2 (09:17):
I think, especially in La La is like a unique bird.
I keep saying. I think I do too. But because
I started comedy in Winnipeg, Manitoba, shout out to the
two O four, but it's really no one knows what
you're talking there. Feeling is that it's Central Canada. But

(09:40):
it was like a small scene where we're like super
collaborative in our whole city and like some of my
closest like homies are from my comedy days. But I
think in l A specifically, it's like the opposite where
like people are not here to collaborate right generally, Like
that's a big broad stroke because I think a lot of.

Speaker 1 (09:59):
People, Yeah it's a big it's a big city, small
city thing.

Speaker 2 (10:01):
Yeah, but it's like it really is a different thing
where you're right, like you can't go there being like
I'm gonna meet so many great friends here, am I Like,
I'm just and it's like it's different.

Speaker 3 (10:09):
I think you can find like a lot Almost all
my close friends are in comedy at this point. That's
because Tessa moved away. But I that was me yelling
at Tessa. But I uh, well she was in comedy too,
damn it okay in your mind. I But there also
is just like the amount of people that are attracted
to LA. There's just naturally a swarm of unhealthy people.

Speaker 2 (10:28):
Yeah, there's a lot of there's more grossness here than
another place. That's just because there's more people. There's just
you know what I mean, And it's an industry.

Speaker 1 (10:37):
I don't know, I think LA is I think LA
is filled with a lot of people that want want
to be looked at.

Speaker 2 (10:43):
That's what I mean. That like the industry.

Speaker 1 (10:45):
It's like people like My York has a little bit
more character than LA. I'm sorry, yeah, just probably okay,
but there's more people.

Speaker 3 (10:51):
But New York is also like known for every people
whereas LA is for the industry.

Speaker 1 (10:56):
Yeah, yeah, I mean we're that's also our circles, you know, entertainment.

Speaker 2 (11:01):
But yeah, I think it's it's pretty counting. Scene is
wild here.

Speaker 1 (11:06):
I actually met a guy who's like, I do finance,
and I was like where. He's like downtown l A.

Speaker 2 (11:10):
And I was like, like, we downtown set everyone. It's
a raality TV show for the loco.

Speaker 1 (11:18):
So we feel, yeah, let me get this start your
finance guy, downtown Lkay.

Speaker 2 (11:26):
Okay, forever and always. It's purgatory. It's purgatory. You just go,
that's not a real neighborhood. I love that guy's probably like, yeah,
like I'm big shot. They're there.

Speaker 1 (11:43):
You sound crazy?

Speaker 2 (11:44):
Yeah, so funny. I love it.

Speaker 1 (11:47):
Well, we've got some really fun I think these are
really interesting situations. I'm so excited for this one. This
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That's Better Help HLP dot com slash aita pod Aiita
for revealing the rental costs of my van after the
trip was made. I was recently asked to help my
friends go on a trip they needed to make. The
car they meant to take was not good for use
at the time, and I own a travel van. I
also got invited to join on said trip to drive,
since it was a really long trip and a short

(14:32):
time to make it, and it was questionable if one
of them could even drive due to a health problem
that happened near their departure. The trip was to another
country to take something there and bring another thing home.
Most of the time, I was more or less treated
like staff and as someone not very welcome in their circle.
During the trip, one of them started to ask whose
turn it is to pay for gas, and I was
pointed out as the one. Also, they spoke of evening

(14:54):
out the costs afterwards, clearly implying I was to pay
an equal amount of everything. Of course, I was going
to pay for my own food and other costs like
any decent human. But I was and I wasn't going
to ask for compensation for the use of the van
to be a fair friend. But I was assuming that
since the trip was not a holiday planned together, but
I was invited out of necessity last minute, I shouldn't
be paying for gas, at least not an equal amount,

(15:16):
which would make me be the one paying the highest
price for the whole trip. Since the van was mine
and I was paying for the keeping of it. I
gave them some time to make their intentions clear about
how they thought the cost should be divided, and was
left with the impression before mentioned, and so decided to
let them know that I wanted them to pay rent
per mile to cover the cost of the van. The
price I set was the same I used with any
other friend who would take a trip with the van

(15:37):
without me and very fair. So this led to me
being called a criminal for not letting them know beforehand
they need to pay quote unquote rent Aiita.

Speaker 2 (15:48):
I mean this feels more like a no brainer to me.
I think, so I'm interested to know what if we
have totally different.

Speaker 3 (15:53):
What it is. I mean, that's to me, that's crazy
to ask someone to go with you and use your
van and asked them to pay for gas. And I
have as a coming down, I've been invited on many
a road trip.

Speaker 2 (16:10):
Yes, so I do.

Speaker 3 (16:12):
I don't feel I'm not angry by this, but other
stories are coming.

Speaker 1 (16:16):
To Yeah, super annoyed.

Speaker 2 (16:18):
On this person's behalf.

Speaker 3 (16:20):
Like one time we all went to Vegas to do
the NBC audition. We were in the callback group also
bragged none of us got to the finals, and like
I had put down money for a hotel. I told
the other two, I'm putting money down for the hotel
so we can spend the night if we make the finals,
then we drive back in the morning. Everyone agreed we
didn't make the finals. The girl with the car was like,

(16:42):
I'm leaving tonight, and then I was like, what do
you mean you're leaving tonight? And basically I had to
make her drive me back home. She's like, well, I
thought you could take the bus, and I was like, bitch,
is the West Coast. I'm not taking the bus, Like
this is New York. So I'm really on this person's
side with the van because they were. And I've also
been the person who went on a road trip to
help and treated like shit and I'm like, I came

(17:04):
so you didn't die in the woods. You know, Like
I'm really on the van owner side.

Speaker 1 (17:09):
I think there's a thing people do along those lines,
and it's like you need to like it's an unfortunate thing.
But like sometimes people will just like not really realize
what they're agreeing to, but like you said it and
they agree to it. I think any immature adult would
be like, yeah, I shouldn't have said yes, so you're
right right, But like she did this other thing, like
you're going to ride the bus and I'm totally with you, Like, yeah,

(17:29):
woman on the bus on the West Coast.

Speaker 2 (17:32):
It's you. What do they say? Like you leave with
who you came. It's like the old school, and I
think when you take go to a dance, Like she
charged me for the gas on the ride back, but
she didn't end up paying for the hotel that she
knew she was gonna supposed to pay. Who is this dema?
I'll tell you after. I don't think wow anymore. I
think yeah, I'm like any if you're a group of friends, especially, yeah,

(17:56):
I would never, even if there was a misunderstanding on
my part, I would never. I want my friends to
be out money. They thought I was going to contribute, yeah,
like I just went to I think I told you guys.
I think I came here the day after I went
to the bachelorette party. Yes, right, so yeah it was
it was a great time, yes, but it was just
it was a really weird setup where there was a
bunch of people. One person was organizing and she was like, oh, this,

(18:19):
this and the other thing, and we're like, okay, cool,
and then she was like it costs this much money
and we were all like what, like per person, this
is crazy. We didn't think that, but I was like, oh,
I don't want my friend to be out like multiple
hundreds of dollars, so like it's more than I thought.
No big deal, let's go, let's put the money in
and then after the fact she was like, actually, it

(18:41):
was a lot more than I thought, and I'm really sorry.
You don't have to contribute if you don't want you
because you weren't expecting this, But it was this much
more money than I expected, and so you know that,
I felt like was like the perfect thing because she
gave us all the option, but all of us contributed
that or more. Almost I think because we're like, oh, well,
we don't want you to be out. We we all
had a great time. This is way more than we

(19:02):
expected to pay for this, but like, you don't want
your friends to be out, And I think, like in
this story, having someone let you use their travel van
is a huge expense, expecting them to pay is insane.
But also I think with the person the original poster
who's like, I gave them how much it rent costs

(19:22):
to rent the van, I almost feel like they should
have just been like, oh, like it would have cost
this much, so I guess we're even I won't pay gas.
You guys don't pay for the van. We're done, and
not like a question, almost just like this is what
I'm assuming, And if they're friends, it's like it would
be insane for them to be like no, no, no, no no, yeah,
you still have to pay for gas on top of that.

Speaker 3 (19:40):
You know, I will say it is hard in friend
groups when something like that comes up, Like I like,
even so the story I told of this demon girl,
I did end up just giving her the gas money
and I cut a deal with the other girl who
did stay in the hotel because her flight was out
of Vegas the next day. She I just had her
pay a little bit more and I gave this girl
gas and then I just.

Speaker 2 (19:59):
Talked about herl over town. But but at the better
end of the deal in sharing, I.

Speaker 3 (20:05):
Probably should have said, hey, I thought you're gonna pay
for the hotel, why should I pay for gas?

Speaker 2 (20:10):
And you didn't pay for the hotel?

Speaker 3 (20:11):
After we're in the text agree, I should have stood
up for myself, and I did. I took the cheap
way out, and like it's hard.

Speaker 1 (20:20):
Like you don't know what they're going to do, or
they're like in a way they're gas line because it's like,
well you did agree earlier, like you let it slide.

Speaker 2 (20:27):
I can.

Speaker 3 (20:27):
I can just feel the pickle this person's in. If
they thought they were they were like I thought we
were all like friends.

Speaker 1 (20:32):
And the first thing I really caught up on or
like they just rubbed me really wrong, is that they
made this person feel like staff. Yeah, I don't know,
I'm trying to cook a phrase here, but it's kind
of something like business gets business like treat me like
like make me feel like we're doing a business deal,
and then you better expect the exact same thing.

Speaker 2 (20:52):
Yeah. Then she charged for even driving too, because it's like,
if you're gonna be now staff, you're using my car,
I'm driving you, Like you're not.

Speaker 1 (20:58):
Really getting how good of a fucking deal you got?
And yeah, it's just like a thing like I don't
know being like I have this TikTok that went viral
where it's just about like, you know, people who like
will be like venmo me two dollars, you know, and it's.

Speaker 2 (21:12):
Like, oh, when they want you to venmo them two dollars,
it's like.

Speaker 1 (21:14):
Venmo me two dollars. And it's like they're not hard
up or anything. It's just like venom. And I'm like, dude, like, okay,
I'll venmo you two dollars. But it's like there's something
really unfriendly to me. About that, and there's a lot
of debate about it. But like one of my favorite
comments that people like quote in various ways, it's like
this like thing people say is like me and my
friends have been sharing the same twenty dollars for like
the last ten years. Right, Yeah, I thought that was cute.

(21:37):
And yeah, I just feel like it's a very like
Nickel and Dimy kind of attitude. And it's like God,
like they treated op like shit and really just we're
so entitled. Yeah, to go back to our La conversation,
I do feel like entitlement kind of is in the
water here.

Speaker 3 (21:53):
It can be, it can be, I would say, I
would say, there's I don't know, I've I've really fallen
in love with a lot of people out here.

Speaker 1 (22:00):
There's a lot of great So there's a lot of great.

Speaker 3 (22:02):
People and there are some jackasses. Yeah, to just but
usually everybody's like just take the us, just take them,
take the bus bos And she was not a good
anyways not real objection relevance.

Speaker 2 (22:19):
Bit is gone.

Speaker 3 (22:20):
I yeah, I just I feel for OPI I also
went on another I like briefly said this is like breeding.
I'm like triggered by this way I'm like, my friends
got into a festival and one of them had to
go early, and I was like, I don't want her
to die in the wood, so I like went with her,
or she had to go later, and I went with her, and.

Speaker 2 (22:37):
She just was so rude. She talked about my friends,
and I was like, I should let you die in
the woods, like you know, I mean, I feel like
that's always it's like a bad experience. But then you're like, oh,
this is information for me to take in and just
moving forward. I don't want Yeah, like this is not
you're You're in a different circle than I thought you were.

Speaker 1 (22:53):
I prefer to live that way. Yeah, I think it's
a better way to live. I'm like, I'd rather be
too generous and then wait till someone cheaps me out
and go, okay, you don't want to return it, all right,
You're not to get it anymore.

Speaker 3 (23:03):
That is what I do for the most part. Where
it's like if I see you do something shady, I
just clock it and I'm like, okay, so I'm gonna stop.

Speaker 2 (23:10):
Really Yeah, But I guess the question comes.

Speaker 3 (23:12):
Up is like do you do you when do you
say something like or should you say something do you
need to say something?

Speaker 1 (23:17):
That's the thing. And I know I've been picking on
Ice about this, but like sometimes I'm just like I
don't really want to say, like I'm not going to
explain to some of my own age, like hey, I
think it's really unreasonable that you're venmoing me for two
dollars because I know the money you make, you know
the money I make. I'm very I'm very generous with you. Yeah,
And I find this to be transactional and in poor taste,
Like I'm not I'm not going to verbalize that. Instead,

(23:38):
I'm gonna pay them the two fucking dollars and be
like you're a fucking cheap skate and I'm gonna treat
you like a client or like like where a business transaction.

Speaker 2 (23:46):
That is what I do for. Yeah, I feel like
I'm I think because like I really, in my heart
of hearts, I'm like, money is not a thing. Money's
not a real thing. It's just a concept that we
come up with and we like stress so much about it.
And I've had like I've been in major debt, I've
had a bunch of money. Like it's like I've been
through all of it, you know, and I'm very much

(24:11):
like surprised I'm debt.

Speaker 1 (24:17):
I've liked a lot. I'm like, because are we in
the middle now you're back in debt?

Speaker 2 (24:21):
No, no, no, I'm in the middle. I'm in the middle, right,
I definitely don't. I'm not flush with cash and I'm
not in major debt. Like I'm not in debt, which
is great, which almost feels like I'm rich at that point.
You know, I need to not be in debt. It
is like a rich perspective. But also I'm like, I
do not give I can survive no matter what, Like
I can survive in debt. I can figure it out,

(24:42):
especially in the same age. I'm my, Oh, nothing's real anymore.
Who gives a shit, Let's all get into debt. And
just like they're all we're all going to be in
debt anyway with this new bill, right, so who cares?
I think is where? Okay? Keep going. But like I'm like,
I'm going to be generous to the people that I
love and I care about no matter what. And if
they never pay me back, that's okay because I'm not
doing it as like you need to do this, you
do this, I agree. I want you to be happy.

(25:04):
I'm going to and right now I can afford to
do this generous thing, and it's not something I expect back.
Like I gave a friend alone who was really struggling,
and it was like this thing of oh my gosh,
I got to pay back, and I was like, I
do not expect that money back at all. If you're
flush with gas at some point, sure if you want to,
but like, I'm not doing this because I'm like a
bank who's trying to make money off of you. I'm

(25:24):
doing this because I care about you know, I you know,
and like survive.

Speaker 1 (25:28):
And this, Yeah, that's very I don't know if I
can go that far. I think my friendship might end
that alone.

Speaker 3 (25:33):
I try to strive to do that, to only give
out of abundance, yes, And I think that's really what
self love is, is like you love yourself so much
that you can give away love and you don't expect
it to come back.

Speaker 2 (25:46):
Obviously, you shouldn't be with people who throw trash at you,
you know, or or just like keep sucking you drop,
you know. You should find other people that also want
to emulate. Well, I think that's one.

Speaker 1 (25:58):
Of the things that I like about you. Know, I'm
kind of part of this like co working space. I
was talking about social club. It's like it's it's nice
as I like to bring cookies or make good Yeah,
I'm giving away, but I'm not giving it to just
one person. It's not so intense. Yeah, you know, it's
like that way I can. I can always give, but
there's even that expectation isn't really coherent.

Speaker 2 (26:15):
But you know what I think it's like because we
focus on money in this like generosity thing, right, where
like if you had a lot of money, though, you
would probably if you saw someone who was in need
or whatever, you you would give money. You'd be more
apt to that. And like if someone bakes goods, it's like, great,
I'll take those goods. And that's a wonderful kind thing.
Someone helps me with my like taxes, great, that's the

(26:36):
one thing I can't do those things. So I'm like, hey,
let me buy you your coffee because I have an
extra five dollars. Like that's for me. How it works
in my head is it's like it's not about money.
It's about like do I feel like we're equitable and
not equal? Like equitable? Do I feel like Ye?

Speaker 1 (26:55):
I know, don't make a lot of money, and like
I'm going to do things for them that I know
they can't return. But yeah, I like, I don't know.
There's a thing that I've heard before, which is just
like just that they do something, you know, like if
I bought them, uh, you know, dinner on their birthday
or whatever, that they'll buy me a coffee. Like it's
not the.

Speaker 2 (27:13):
Paint you a picture or something whatever it is something yeah,
yeah comes in my comedy shop for real, like as comedians,
like everyone should just come to our shows.

Speaker 1 (27:23):
Anything again, So yeah, here first, I just really feel
like this friend group really did ope very dirty.

Speaker 2 (27:32):
And like they're not really his friends.

Speaker 1 (27:34):
If they're really not, they brought them in last minute.
I will say with the last minute thing, I do
have some friends who get a little sensitive about that
or we'll bring that up and I'm like, can you
like not, I know it feels a certain way, but
like sometimes you don't know the whole situation. Like for instance,
we were We're doing this movie screening event and we
realized like we could change the seating and have like
way more people because we're bringing on a rooftop and

(27:56):
I just can hear some people be like, oh, well,
how come you only invited me a week before? I
saw all these other people come first, and it's like, okay,
well you don't know the whole situation, so I don't
take everything so super personally. That said invited last minute,
brought the van, and I think driving is labor.

Speaker 2 (28:11):
Yes, how do you know that? I hate driving? So
I was like that they should pay for that. That's
another country. Also, does this not sound like a drug
run to anybody else? We took a van to another
country and dropped something off and then picked something up
and brought really not suck. I'm like, should I be
mad at the cartel?

Speaker 1 (28:29):
Yes? For me, I think Opie really is following the rule,
which is like, hey, yeah, okay, so this is a
business transaction. And then like, I don't even think he's
being unreasonable because it may. I think I would have
been like, okay, if you had been like, you need
to pay me a driver fee, I'm like, well, that's

(28:51):
getting a little crazy.

Speaker 2 (28:52):
I think I'm interested to know if he actually paid
for the gas along that's along the way.

Speaker 1 (28:57):
No, they had just decided now you're going to pay
gas and that at the end. Oh, I'm going to
pay gas. Okay, well then you guys need to pay
Oh yeah.

Speaker 2 (29:03):
Yeah, no, I think that's totally fine to be like,
oh yeah, that makes sense and that probably I'm like,
so I think we're probably even with the rental that
I would have charged you.

Speaker 3 (29:10):
So so funny about was like, didn'yone else think it
was where they held a gun to my lid?

Speaker 4 (29:15):
Ye?

Speaker 1 (29:16):
Normal?

Speaker 2 (29:18):
It wasn't part of their friends group?

Speaker 3 (29:20):
What was happening, Like I believe in the second amendments,
I'm not sure what to say at this point.

Speaker 2 (29:26):
They made me wear ear full, so I didn't hear
what they were saying the whole time.

Speaker 1 (29:31):
All their voices are like, yeah, yeah, drive it will
be This comment really just drove me now that people
do this, so e s h All CAU should have
been discussed before heading out on the trip. On both sides,
I feel like, to be fair, there is there is

(29:54):
a wisdom here because like this is what we're talking about, right,
Like I prefer to be overly generous and like quote
unquote risk that which means I'm gonna get burned. Some
people are gonna take advantage of my generossity. For me,
that's a price I'll gladly pay. I'm like, I got
to find out that you're a little fucker, but bye, fine,
I'll I lost out on cookies or whatever the fuck.
Like group trips, I've been very lucky. I could have

(30:16):
been burned for like seven hundred bucks, but the people
were like, yeah, we agreed and we're not going, so
just keep the money, and that was super sweet. Well,
like now if I'm planning a big group trip with
like ten people, I try to get a deposit right away,
because yeah, I don't want to get left in the lurch.

Speaker 2 (30:31):
But it also sounds like this person didn't anticipate that
they were gonna make him pay for gas and all
these things.

Speaker 1 (30:37):
Yeah, it's going to say, oh, discuss all the costs.
I'm like, well, honestly, like if I show was like, hey, guys,
do you always want to go do a three way
comedy show. We're all going to do twenty minutes, I
wouldn't be like, yes, send over the details and the
contract and be like fuck, yeah, let me know when
I'll be there. Yeah, and I'll be like we'll just
figure it out because we have a friendly dynamic. So

(30:57):
I'm not gonna like be all business.

Speaker 2 (30:59):
See Yeah, yeah totally.

Speaker 1 (31:00):
I don't know. I just feel like that's kind of
friendly and normal. So it's a lot.

Speaker 2 (31:03):
More normal than expecting a contract to know what the
details of Like this person suggests, I.

Speaker 3 (31:08):
Feel like they're that person commented as if this was
a getaway trip to Mexico or something. Yeah, yeah, obviously,
like we should decide how much the room is and
who if you got the small room, if you get
to pay less or whatever.

Speaker 2 (31:21):
But you know that's not what this it was.

Speaker 1 (31:24):
Yeah, I mean sometimes it's just like, don't be so
business y about it, because like it's kind of like
friendly to just be like, yeah, I'm chill, you know, like, oh,
do you really need to pay the ex It's like,
I don't know, the more transactional it gets, the less
friendly it gets. Yeah, you know, there's there's a reasonable
in between. But like I think in that situation always
goes to the trip planner like that takes a lot
of work, like you booked the hotel on foresight. But

(31:45):
for me, this one is just like, yeah, you drove,
I guess you're happy to.

Speaker 2 (31:49):
Be with us. Huh that's crazy, Yeah, that is crazy.
The expectation is just figuring. Also treat your drug meals better.
You got a.

Speaker 1 (32:00):
I t A for revealing the rental costs of my
van after the trip was made. I think we're lined
up here. I'm like, you want to be cheap and
charged for gas and I'm gonna charge you for the van,
which is reasonable and that's how cars work. They have
an appreciation it damages the vehicle to use it. I
mean reasonable, NTA and they are.

Speaker 2 (32:17):
I think, yeah, not the asshole. NOP is not the asshole,
and they are.

Speaker 1 (32:23):
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I feel like if I was listening, I wouldnt really
understand what slower.

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Then they would just message me and say, Hey, can
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Check it out and please try not to listen to
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all right, guys, I'm excited for this one. This is
this is classic. Here Ai ta for refusing to hang
out with my sister's boyfriend because I find him boring.

Speaker 2 (33:21):
I love this title so much so.

Speaker 1 (33:23):
My sister twenty six f has been dating this guy,
Craig twenty eight m for about eight months. I twenty
nine m oh. I've met him plenty of times dinner's outings, birthdays.
He's not a bad guy. He's polite, never rude or inappropriate,
but he's honestly one of the most boring people I've
ever met. He doesn't have hobby's ambitions or anything interesting

(33:44):
to say. Every conversation with him feels like pulling teeth,
and I'm not the only one who feels this way. Lately, though,
my sister and I have been spending more time together
and Craig has started asking her asking her to ask
me to hang out with him. Craig has started asking
her to ask me to hang out with him like
just the two of us, or me taking him along

(34:05):
when I go out with my friends. But honestly, I
don't want to. It's not mean, I just genuinely don't
enjoy his company. I don't want to waste my limited
free time with someone I don't connect with. And more
than that, I don't want to bring him into my
friend group. My friends are important, we have a certain
vibe and energy. Craig would stick out like a sore thumb,
and honestly, I think it would reflect badly on me
if I brought someone that awkward and disengaged around. I

(34:28):
told my sister this, and she got pissed. Said I
was being shallow, selfish, and unsupportive. That if I cared
about her, I'd make more of an effort with someone
who clearly wants to bond with me. She says, I'm
being a snob and that I'm judging him for not
being quote unquote cool enough. But from my perspective, being
someone's brother doesn't mean I have to be best friends
with their boyfriend, especially if there's just no chemistry or

(34:48):
shared interests. Aita, Yes, the silence.

Speaker 2 (34:58):
Have you guys seen the movie Frendship I have, I have.

Speaker 1 (35:02):
I was disappointed with it, but I do love him Robinson.

Speaker 2 (35:05):
Okay, this is reminding me of the movie Friendship.

Speaker 1 (35:09):
Let's not going to this.

Speaker 3 (35:10):
Let's not going to the movie. Okay, you know, Craig
is the boyfriend.

Speaker 1 (35:19):
Craig is the boyfriend. So the sister eight months twenty.

Speaker 2 (35:23):
Eight, Craig is twenty eight and brother's twenty nine.

Speaker 1 (35:27):
Craig's not a bad guy.

Speaker 2 (35:28):
He's bad, He's just boring.

Speaker 1 (35:30):
Craig fuck nice, He's nice.

Speaker 2 (35:32):
I was when I was reading it. I was like,
you don't have to hang out with anybody that you
don't want to. Don't have to. But also I was like, oh,
I kind of see. It doesn't hurt. There's ways that
he could probably once in a while be like, Hey,
I love my sister and this means a lot to her.
Craig's boring, but he's not mean. So like, I'm going

(35:55):
to get I'm going to go to a baseball game
with one of my other friends. I'm going to invite
him along to come because we're doing an activity. We're
not sitting on trying to like have conversations just the
two of us. So it'll be fun whether he's there
or not. I feel like there's opportunities for things like that,
but like a one on one hang, especially if Craig can't,
Like if you don't have enough a relationship to ask
the person, you have to ask through your girlfriend. I
feel like that should be a first sign to Craig weird,

(36:17):
that's close enough to.

Speaker 1 (36:19):
And I'm going to use a word that has taken
me a while to figure out it's inappropriate. It's inappropriate
for a twenty eight year old male to go to
his girlfriend and say, golf whend can I be friend
with your blood? And I use that voice because it's
childish and immature. If you want to be friends with someone,

(36:40):
you should learn how to make friends. And the way
you can do that is not by saying can I
join up with you and your friends and saying, hey,
why don't you come over? Feel free to bring some people.
Your sister's going to be here. I'm throwing a little
party or whatever it may be.

Speaker 3 (36:53):
I have a theory of reading between the lines of this.
What if Craig has not asked this at all, but
sister wants Craig to have more friends very well, I.

Speaker 1 (37:04):
Run into this a lot. I have a movie Bros
Group which it's just all guys, and I actually started
this group because of this podcast because we were talking
a lot about pickmies and I realized I was like,
I don't really have that many close guy friends because
you keep saying like.

Speaker 3 (37:19):
When a woman is like a toxic misogynists, she is
in her misogyny and she's like, I think the other girls.

Speaker 1 (37:26):
Sack cool exactly, Well, yeah, that's that's that. God, he
just hit the dictionary definition. I think the way I
apply it is a little bit like girls who are
like really focused on getting a guy. And therefore I
think it also worse because right, because what do they say?
They say what you just said? They go, I'm not
like the other girls? There you center, men, Why aren't
you like the other girls? You should be like the

(37:46):
other girls. You should be hanging with the other girls.
And I say the same thing to the guys. It's like, bro,
why ain't you got guy friends?

Speaker 2 (37:52):
Right?

Speaker 1 (37:53):
We were just talking about this on the bonus too,
But I think you're nailing it. And I've actually heard
women say this. They're like, yeah, I want my partner
to have more guy friends because it's like fucking weird,
Like you're supposed to have friends that are your peers,
your similar age and probably like similar to you.

Speaker 2 (38:08):
I have a few theories.

Speaker 3 (38:10):
One, Craig didn't ask for its, sister wants Craig had
more friends. Two, maybe Craig Gozl didn't ask for it.
Maybe he has his own friends. But sister wants brother
and Craig to get along. Yeah, maybe it makes something
to her. Yeah, Okay, those are the two theories.

Speaker 1 (38:24):
But those but that and I think those are both valid.
Those are both super valid. But go ahead, go ahead.

Speaker 3 (38:28):
I think brother should hang out with Craig one time,
because it doesn't sound alone, because I don't think that's
happened yet, has it. I think they've only met with sister.
What if Craig's a wild animal when sister isn't around,
that's true, and never just toning it down around sister
like he's just being wildly polite. He's like'm around my
girlfriend's family. Why the fuck would I be talking about.

Speaker 1 (38:48):
I'm against it, Gotti, Huh, I'm against it.

Speaker 2 (38:51):
You're against it?

Speaker 1 (38:51):
Yeah, let's just say that. You know I should goes.
I want you to hang out with my husband oh,
I mean I agree and I go with it. Right,
I'll tell you right now, I might do it, might
do it just because I'm like, oh, well, you know,
like she's great on the pod. You know we had
the shed fight, but whatever, the shed fight, but whatever,
I wouldn't respect. I wouldn't respect him because it's it's

(39:12):
not it's just it's not grown up behavior.

Speaker 3 (39:15):
I'm like, but what if he didn't ask for it?
That's my theory is that Craig didn't ask.

Speaker 1 (39:22):
It's very odd, right, you don't. You don't hang out
with people by proxy. It's like you need to develop
the social skills to like put on the show of
it a little bit like if if this is what
sister wants and she should have said, uh, you know,
she could put it together. A situation like this, like
you got to be a little bit more clever than
being like, you need to hang out with Craig because
I want that. It's like, well, a lot of people

(39:43):
want a lot of things, but you got to make
it happen a little more organically.

Speaker 2 (39:46):
I could. I'm going to just spit all some some
scenarios where this might make more sense. They've just moved
to a new place. Craig doesn't know people in the area.
He's trying to get to know people just survived a
car right, she's like traumatize or he's like got social anxiety,
and so it's hard to make the first move, the
first step. Yeah, or perhaps like like for you know,

(40:08):
I know that like for some people if they move
somewhere new, or all their friends have moved away, or
all their friends are like married with kids or something
like that, they they're the people that they have done
all the work to have the social group with all
of a sudden are no longer available in the same
way they were. And maybe they're not practiced at making friends,
which I think is a lot of adults are not.
If I will just put that out there.

Speaker 1 (40:29):
That's fair. I mean, it's just it's really hard for
me to ask much from Ope because I feel like Opee,
and I think we all know someone like this, op
writes Every conversation with him feels like pulling teeth.

Speaker 2 (40:41):
Yeah, that's tough. I think Craig needs to step it
up a little bit. If if Craig is asking for it,
he needs to at least try, And it might be awkward,
he might be weird, but like I you know, I
would hang out with my brother's partners. I really like
his partner now, but I would hang out with my
brothers other partners as a as a favor to my brother.
If he's like, I really want you guys to get along,
I'm like, yeah, that's important. Let me try a couple

(41:02):
of times, and I might even be like, Okay, once
a year, I'm going to go on a one night
out with this person. Even if it's like really hard,
unless you're like offensive or mean or whatever. If it's
just like one night of my time, I think it's
not the end of the world.

Speaker 1 (41:14):
It's hard for me to do it by proxy, you
know what I mean. It's like if Craig's asking by proxy, yeah,
like oh hang out with him, Like I'm sorry, but
Craig's not a child.

Speaker 2 (41:23):
It's like it's asking me himself.

Speaker 1 (41:25):
Yeah. If Craig asked me himself, yes, I wuld be like, yeah,
I don't really like him, but I'll do that, you know,
he asks, and I'll go get lunch with him.

Speaker 3 (41:33):
I think what I'd say is I'd be like, yeah,
I just have him text me. Yeah, yeah, Like it
doesn't have to be like a fight. It's like, yeah,
just have him hit me up.

Speaker 2 (41:40):
You just have him send me a fu of invitation
and show up with like a scroll and let me
know what he's interesting. Yeah. Yeah, if you could just
send some hobbies or.

Speaker 1 (41:48):
I think this is the thing too. And I know
a coupleople like this way. I like them and they're
sweet people, but it really like this conversation pulling like teeth,
like pulling tits hard. And the thing is, I feel
like there's such an easy solution, and I'm begging people
to do this more. It's like, if you don't have
anything to say, don't say anything. Just ask about the
other person and be curious, learn about them.

Speaker 2 (42:09):
Sure to ask questions. You mean, what for Craig to
ask questions?

Speaker 1 (42:13):
Yeah, I mean that's the secret.

Speaker 2 (42:14):
I think. Also, it's a lot to ask someone to
hang out one on one, like if it's like okay,
especially adults, Yeah, adults. It's like if you just want
to like go do an activity like go bowling with
your friends and have tag along, great, you know. And
I think it's like a lot to be like I
don't want him to like poison my friend group. I'm
like it doesn't not like Craig's that bad.

Speaker 1 (42:32):
I don't know. But the whole friend group thing to me,
like I'm kind of I'm kind of cagy like this
about my friend group, like my close friends. I'm like, yeah,
why why the fuck you think you're gonna get a
hang out with me and my friends? Those are my homies.

Speaker 2 (42:43):
But what if you talk to your friends are like, look,
I gotta do my sister a solid. Craig's coming, he's born, Yeah,
let's have fun.

Speaker 1 (42:49):
I'm just like why So, now that's what I'm trying
to say, Like you're trying to push someone into doing
something where I'm like, why don't you just throw a
movie night or a game night? Like you gotta be
a little more clever, like say you're cooking dinner for us,
Like why don't you do?

Speaker 2 (43:03):
They've done all those things, like they've hung out with
Craig and together girlfriend and boy and brother. I think
it's really a sister thing, and I think it's just like, yeah,
I think it is more about sister the op doing
a favor to the sister once in a while. Would
not you know, he doesn't have to, but it's like
in good faith, why not.

Speaker 3 (43:22):
It does feel like it's more about sister in the
sense that sister's asking we only are talking to sister. Yeah,
but yeah, I mean I feel like I feel like
I have friends that I could be like this person
where we're gonna hang out with them for an hour. Yeah,
that would be fine. But maybe you have sensitive friends

(43:45):
and they're not about that, I guess. But I definitely
have friends where I'm like, I cannot bring a weird
person around this other friend because that friend is weird.

Speaker 2 (43:55):
It's awkward to a comedy show. You don't have to
talk to a movie.

Speaker 1 (44:02):
It's like, why is it on me? Why is your
social aptity?

Speaker 2 (44:05):
Agree with me? It's not my position on original posters,
like it shouldn't be their responsibility. Now, if she's like, hey,
I got you guys tickets to go watch a comedy show,
would you mind go with them? Like hang out? I
just want like, you know, great, okay, cool?

Speaker 1 (44:19):
Yeah, I mean, hey, I heard you say you wanted
to see this comedian.

Speaker 2 (44:23):
Yes, I got you your ticket.

Speaker 1 (44:24):
I'd be like, that's a deal. Yes, that's savvy, that's clever,
Like that's the kind of thing that has to be
tiggle bitty. I was on your side, but you lost
me when you said you told your sister it would
reflect badly on you if you quote brought someone that
awkward and disengage around. It's not the choosing to spend
your time how you wish. It's insulting your sister's boyfriend.
You could as easily have included the first details you've
write about him being quote not a bad guy, always polite,

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but then mention how you just don't quite click. You
could be friendly but not best friends. If the rest
of your friend group is like that, then I'll admit
it's likely best he's not waste his time with you either. Yam.
I don't feel like OP did insult this guy, you know,
And I feel like there's something to be said about
people like this. And the truth is, and I've had
this conversation with some people. Nice nice just really isn't

(45:10):
a compliment Like kind that's great if you're a kind person,
if you're a generous person, but nice kind of means like, yeah,
you're you're pleasant, but that's kind of like the barest,
bare minimum, like we're not going to kick you out,
but like you're not really like someone people are excited
to be around.

Speaker 2 (45:25):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (45:27):
Yeah, yeah, to me, it's it's not a huge deal,
but it does sound like OP.

Speaker 2 (45:37):
I don't know, maybe OP has sensitive friends.

Speaker 1 (45:39):
For me, it's a boundary issue. It's like, I don't
know why you think you're entitled to hang out with
me and my friends, Like you're not. I'll give you
my time under certain conditions. But it's just like it's
a weird. It's like it's giving child. It's giving child.

Speaker 3 (45:52):
We don't disagree that it feels childish. Yeah, I think
I'm just like I guess the quest he's well, I
don't know. I don't know if people like entitled to
hang out with It's like we're all human, we're all
just sharing space, you know. But the only reason I
would feel protective of my friends is if I know

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a friend is going to be like they were boring
and I'm annoyed, And it's like I already have enough.

Speaker 2 (46:16):
I have enough crazy people to do it.

Speaker 3 (46:18):
I can't do I can't mix anyone crazy with these
other crazy. Yeah, but yeah, I would just have sister
tell Craig, like, hey, I think you should just text him,
But I have I have a feeling Craig does not
care about this.

Speaker 2 (46:32):
Yeah, I agree, that is my inner theory. Some people
just like like my husband, for example, has like a
very small group of friends. He has like three friends,
but he's like, no, I'm fully fulfilled and happy with that. Yeah, right,
Like he's not interested in like making a ton more
friends or going out a lot. Like he's not like that,
and his friends are very busy, and so some like

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just recently has been like, you know what, now I
do want to go and like have these social events
with people. But before this, I was because I go
out all the time and do all this stuff, I
kind of felt uncomfortable with it. And I was like, well,
you've got to go out with your friends, You've got
to do things. And really that was a me thing
and not him thing, you know.

Speaker 3 (47:10):
What I mean.

Speaker 2 (47:11):
So I agree that this is probably just a sister
being like Craig's at home and doesn't have friends, like
you guys are connecting blah blah blah, and it's like
she's feeling something. It's probably because she thinks Craig might
be a bit boring, and she's like, with my life,
why does this guy he's boring?

Speaker 1 (47:23):
Yeah, well that's good, that's a good hair displait because
it's like, it's different to be like, oh, he needs this,
and I'm like, no, don't tell him what he needs.
And if you feel like he's overwhelming, you're like we're
talking about on the bonus, like he's putting too much
pressure on the relationship.

Speaker 2 (47:36):
That's valid.

Speaker 1 (47:37):
Yeah, like some guys, some people just honestly are happy
to be sitting alone.

Speaker 2 (47:42):
Yeah that's fine.

Speaker 1 (47:44):
You just reline Yeah, yeah, distinct brilliant rights yta, because
you've framed it her sister did. He's not cool enough
to hang You didn't say something tactful like I'm gonna
be honest, I don't vibe with him enough to hang
out with him outside of you sis, he's a good guy.
We just don't have a lot in common. Maybe we
could all go to the movies or something. I feel like, again,
why is it on me to help a grown man

(48:04):
figure out his situation? But I agree with you, Katty,
it kind of sounds like it's the sisters situation. The
more we work into this, I do agree.

Speaker 3 (48:10):
With that comment that brother got very like look roun
with a really cool crowd, right, Craig, piece of shit?

Speaker 2 (48:17):
Like, I do agree. I agree that brother was like
very territorial in a way that I was like, okay, kiddell, yeah, ship.

Speaker 1 (48:24):
But wouldn't you be a little territorial about certain things?
Like it sounds like you're not like that way about friends,
but like if a brand new comic, I could.

Speaker 2 (48:30):
Use my friends as a human chield.

Speaker 1 (48:36):
Like a brand new comic, you got you guys have
like a good interaction or whatever, and they're like, hey,
can you like give me the list of people you
hit up to do shows?

Speaker 3 (48:44):
But that's different, that's like professional. Why is it different
because it's not just hanging out. If someone was like
I'm new to comedy and they're nice, I'd be like, whatever.

Speaker 1 (48:54):
It is different. But my point is, does your connections right?

Speaker 2 (48:58):
It's not. But I don't harvest my friends like only
my friends.

Speaker 1 (49:03):
But that's what I'm saying, Well, that's how you feel.
But my point is, like, those are my connections, those
are my friends, they're not yours.

Speaker 2 (49:09):
That's why I think we differ because that's.

Speaker 1 (49:11):
Like I know, and I'm not saying there's anything wrong
with what you're saying. I'm just pointing out that, like
I do think it is a fair boundary to be
like yeah, and those are my friends and that's how
I feel. And for these reasons, I'm kind of like
a TA for refusing to hang out with my sister's
boyfriend because I find him boring. I think on the
title literal, I would say, yes, that would make you
an asshole, But reading the whole situation, I think this

(49:33):
is I think it's actually I think it's no assholes here.
That is what I really think. I don't think I
don't like her request. Craig is like upon in her game.

Speaker 2 (49:42):
Maybe are they talking about glue? He's like I drew
a picture I drew.

Speaker 3 (49:59):
Named Ernest. I would the only reason I would say brothers,
maybe are we doing that now? Yeah, i'd say the
only reason i'd say brothers a little bit. The asshole
is he did like the comment.

Speaker 2 (50:10):
Said, is like these people are cool and Craig sucks.

Speaker 3 (50:15):
If he had just been like, Craig is weird and
I don't want to translate for Craig.

Speaker 2 (50:19):
Yeah, that to me reads better. I think you guys
are both saying similar thing, yes, because you're like, why
isn't my responsibility? And I think you're like saying the
same thing where it's like they don't have to get
along or hang out. He could have been a bit
like less like over the top about how he described sister. Yeah, yeah,
but like it's the person that she wants to be

(50:40):
with apparently right, like they've been together for a while.

Speaker 1 (50:42):
But well, to be fair though, what he said was
my friends are important. We have a certain vibe and energy.
Craig would stick out like a sore thumb, and honestly,
I think it would reflect badly on me. She said,
it's a lot not cool enough. Well, okay, okay, that's fair.

Speaker 2 (50:56):
It would reflect badly on him, like who are his
friends and bring them around that? Yeah, that's really what
it seems like to me is he's like I need
these guys to like me, people into the like there's
this weird like edge that I don't understand, but I guess.

Speaker 3 (51:13):
Sure, if you feel like you're on edge around your friends,
you don't want to bring Craig, you don't have to.

Speaker 1 (51:18):
Yeah, I think it's very about it's a very fair boundary.

Speaker 2 (51:21):
I think we just had to get through those words.

Speaker 3 (51:23):
The words were splitting us apart, and I shows like
I got.

Speaker 1 (51:27):
So we agree on no assholes here?

Speaker 2 (51:29):
Sure, yes, no, assholes here, No assholes. Craig free. Yeah,
Craig doesn't want to be around all these you know,
he's not interested in going out with the friend group anyway.

Speaker 1 (51:40):
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All right, we're going to wrap up on a pretty
ridiculous one. Okay, a I t A husband wants to
wear extremely revealing swim shorts in public. God, husband has
worked out really hard year to have a nice body

(52:01):
for lake season lakes.

Speaker 2 (52:04):
First of all, these are whites. These are white. The
whites Wisconsin, Minnesota.

Speaker 1 (52:11):
We've been having fun swimming most weekends at my mother
in law's lake house. Oh, by the way, just so
everyone knows, Op is a male, so they're gay.

Speaker 2 (52:18):
Okay, okay.

Speaker 1 (52:20):
We live in an extremely conservative religious tiny town.

Speaker 2 (52:23):
That makes me feel like it should be it's okay
to be less, like it's okay to be more revealing
if your husband you know what.

Speaker 1 (52:28):
I mean, Like my husband has a large penis.

Speaker 2 (52:30):
Oh, I need you to start again because I need
I need not the whole thing, but I need I
need to be ping.

Speaker 1 (52:37):
We're only two sentences in, so we might as well.
My husband has worked out really hard all year to
have a nice body for lake season. We've been having
fun swimming most weekends at my mother in law's lake house.
We live in an extremely conservative, religious tiny town. Husband
has a large penis. Boom, got it, tiny town, large penis.
He has bought some new swim trunks that look great
on him, but they show the whole penis, like the
whole length, the ridges, everything, It bulges a lot. It

(53:01):
looks like something a gay pornstar would wear. I'm very
uncomfortable with him wearing these in public. I've reiterated. He
looks amazing hot, but it's wildly inappropriate, especially to his
mom's house. His mom and sister will see, and I
feel the entire day will be both uncomfortable and because this
is them throwing a fit about an understandable situation. He says,
I'm slutshaming him. It's not his fault. His penis as big,

(53:22):
and if he was a girl in a bikini, no
one would say a thing. I don't think that's fair
because if the bikini was too small, yeah they would,
and too, it's not his fault. But like his penis
is basically out in the clothes he chose. He also
says his family isn't conservative about sex, and it's weird.
I'm bothered by it. I'm repressed. Maybe that's true, maybe
they'll feel too awkward to say, maybe they will care
and ruin the whole day, not in by his back.
But in any case, I feel that being uncomfortable with

(53:44):
my husband's penis being so visible around his mom and
sister is completely reasonable. I don't get the disconnect. I
get that he wants to lotokle caught and he's worked hard,
but I don't get why this is even a discussion. Again,
his penis is extremely visible Mom's lake house. He alreadys
had all this information. He said, I'll show them pictures
if it's okay, and I told him it's crazy to
even show the pictures to other people. So a t
a at the end of the day, maybe they really

(54:05):
wouldn't care if it's is part of his body. But
I'm really uncomfortable, and I don't even get how it's
a discussion.

Speaker 2 (54:10):
This is so fun. I think it's wild because for
some reason, even though I know it said he's going
to his mother in law's house, I was thinking it
was his mother. Yeah, and so he was like, oh,
my mom will be uncomfortable, in which case I was like, well,
that's totally fair. But it's not his mom. It's a
husband's mom. And I'm like, I think that this guy's

(54:31):
that penis.

Speaker 1 (54:32):
She I'm like, yeah, but that's her penis, that's her penis.

Speaker 2 (54:35):
In my in the words of my common special, that's
my dick. That's wild. So I think that, like, it's
it's kind of it's kind of a lot to be like,
they might not invite us back, they might be uncomfortable,
maybe they won't say it's like a lot of like
fear that for things that haven't happened. And if he
feels comfortable, why would why would op be uncomfortable unless

(54:58):
there's some other You have a tiny penis, and that's
the issue. Everyone's gonna be like, Wow, what are you like,
why are you with them?

Speaker 1 (55:06):
Weapon I'm going off that one.

Speaker 2 (55:08):
Okay, I just want to say this, This is so
funny to me. He's showing off his body, but the swimsuit.

Speaker 3 (55:16):
Accentuates his penis, which I'm pretty sure doesn't change based
off your muscular.

Speaker 2 (55:22):
Yeah, definitely, that's true.

Speaker 1 (55:23):
That's a great works.

Speaker 3 (55:25):
Yeah, so it's like just where you can still show
off your abs and your legs and your arms.

Speaker 2 (55:31):
But why Dick needs to wait a minute. So what
if the whole point of him getting fit was he
had a belly that hung over the penis. Now he
got rid of it. He's like, the whole thing was
just to show off the penis, penis, He doesn't have
any arms or legs. He just got rid of his play.
They have Korean spots in every city.

Speaker 3 (55:50):
Right.

Speaker 1 (55:53):
Let me say this, I don't think it's slutshaming.

Speaker 2 (55:55):
I don't think I don't like that.

Speaker 1 (55:57):
I don't think it's either that's that's out, it's I
mean I guess it'd be like.

Speaker 2 (56:01):
Oh, you're showing your dick, you little slut.

Speaker 3 (56:03):
Really, yeah, Dick is out that he's bothered.

Speaker 2 (56:08):
I also want to like they said they live in
a tiny conservative town, but it's at someone's house.

Speaker 3 (56:14):
But it's still in the tiny conservative town, right, Like
they're not going to be completely alone.

Speaker 2 (56:19):
I mean I do think, like, is he walking to
the grocery store on this thing? Like what is the Yeah?
What is backyard?

Speaker 3 (56:25):
I thought, Well, because in some towns they do walk
to the grocery store in their swimsuits. According to that
one episode of Girls I saw that.

Speaker 1 (56:35):
Yeah, I mean, I guess I do feel like it is.
It is really a lot to show your penis this way, though,
even if it's just an outline. There were some comments
that were like, I don't think you could really see
the penis that you know ridges, Like that sounds a
little ridiculous.

Speaker 2 (56:51):
I want to know what this bathing suit like, What
is the shape of it, what is it made of?
What's the material?

Speaker 1 (56:56):
Prestigious figure ro can possibly calm out without a picture.
I'm Australian men here, live and tight and brief speedo
causes all summer. I've never seen a clear penis shape
with the ridges in all level of definition. Is the
material white or transparent? Also, his mom is seen as penis.
A doubt she'll be fussed.

Speaker 3 (57:12):
Yeah, maybe just some just some follow up thoughts. Maybe
him and his mother in law are really close, and
his mother in law cause him to complain.

Speaker 2 (57:23):
Maybe and not to be dark. But this is the.

Speaker 3 (57:27):
Time when was this written recently? Yeah, this is the
time of hate crime, so I could see him being
a little concerned. If they live in a small religious town.

Speaker 1 (57:38):
But that doesn't seem of all the situations he invented,
there were none of them out to do with that hut.
They were all about the mom and sisters.

Speaker 3 (57:44):
Yes, sure, yeah, he wasn't concerned or scared of somebody
following them.

Speaker 2 (57:48):
Huh. I mean, here's here's what I know. I'm going
to be in a boat in the middle of the
ocean on this one. Okay, I don't. I think that
he should mind his own business because it's not his
mom and his sister his mom, like they might have
a very close like I'm naked around my kids all
the time. Like for someone to be like, oh, I'm
naked around my kids all the time, how old are
your kids?

Speaker 1 (58:09):
They're four and six?

Speaker 2 (58:13):
But like this is the thing before I had.

Speaker 1 (58:15):
You're going to keep being naked around them?

Speaker 2 (58:17):
Well, I don't know. Before I had kids, I would
have been like, that's weird. But like I breastfed my kids,
like they literally hung their faces off my body. So
it's not like weird to me because it's well up
until they were like a year and a half, right,
So it's not The transition though, is not weird at
all right now for me, so I feel like I'm

(58:38):
very like, bodies are just bodies. It's not the end
of the world. People freak out way too much about stuff.
It sounds like he's just uncomfortable with his husband's like
transition into this new Maybe he's acting differently or whatever,
but I don't think he should be super pissed about
this guy in his relationship with his mom and his
kit and his sister, and like I'm worried that they're
going to be upset. It's like, I think you should

(58:59):
differ to to your husband. If he's worried or he's
not worried, then like let it be.

Speaker 1 (59:05):
Yeah, Like it's not your even though you are on
the ocean on how you brought that in, Like I'm
naked around my kids, so I just don't think I want.

Speaker 2 (59:14):
To say that's not weird, Like little kids are very
hard to stop they.

Speaker 1 (59:20):
Bo.

Speaker 2 (59:20):
I just been saying like this ideaeah, but that's not
what I'm agreeing with you on.

Speaker 1 (59:25):
To be clear, I'm agreeing with you on like.

Speaker 2 (59:28):
I want to be clear that I'm disagreeing with I'm.

Speaker 1 (59:30):
Not I'm saying I just don't want to go there.
Really that's your business, but I am agreeing with you
that it really isn't his business. It all is. If
his objection was I don't feel comfortable with it, I
don't really feel like that's what he's saying, though. I
feel like what he's saying is I'm worried about what's
going to happen with these other people, which ultimately the
husband knows better than he does.

Speaker 3 (59:50):
Agree it's not great, agreed, Like, what's the deal relationship wise?
I'm kind of like, I mean, i'll, i'll, I'm obviously
a part of your her family and I'll help you
with your family.

Speaker 1 (01:00:03):
Yes.

Speaker 2 (01:00:04):
So it's like if you.

Speaker 3 (01:00:05):
Want a trojan horse and do some bullshit in your
family family, I will gradually bowl of popcorn to walk exactly.

Speaker 1 (01:00:14):
We want to show off your hog, Like, I guess
that's you bro. It's weird.

Speaker 2 (01:00:18):
Yeah. It takes a lot for me to be like
I need you to put the phone down right now. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
I think it's like it's not if anything, you could
be like, huh, you think your family's going to be
okay with this? And if he's like yeah, then it's
like all right, let's see what happened. Then you get
to set up the tripod. Yes, are we talking about him?
Are we talking about a piece of equipment? I'm all right,

(01:00:41):
huge dick joke for everybody right there.

Speaker 1 (01:00:46):
If a woman was wearing a swimsuit the outlined her
camelton and basically only cover her nipples because it was
too small for a breast, I think most people would
also find that inappropriate. The thing is, yeah, they edited,
I'm very specifically talking about a family gathering. I'm like,
I don't know what if they're new to and this
is actually like you just don't know the situation and
it really does come down to the situation now, So
let's just go just for my curiosity. If it was

(01:01:07):
in public, then I would say there is more of
a case here.

Speaker 2 (01:01:12):
Yeah, that's why I asked, like, are they is it
just in the backyard with your family? If you're like
walking to the grocery store and stuff, that's a different story.
I think where you're like, okay, like the tiny town
that's super conservative, that might not feel appropriate because like
walking to the grocery store with your dick out like
doesn't feel safe right of kids around. Yeah, Like that's
kid level right there. Kid's an anatomy.

Speaker 1 (01:01:34):
Lie well and I think there is like a healthy
level of like, yeah, I don't want you to show
your junk as your partner. I think that's a legal
thing to say.

Speaker 2 (01:01:41):
That's fair if that's what their relationship is. Yeah, it's
I think it's a fair concern. Yes, I agree.

Speaker 1 (01:01:48):
Yeah, Wow, I am kind of surprised though I did
not expect that. But yeah, I think I think on
the counts of it being his family, that op, he
kind of is kind of overstepping here. It's I agree,
Bro wants to show off his massive we we to
the mom and the that's kind of saying, yeah, a
t A husband wants to wear a sht were really

(01:02:10):
swim shirts.

Speaker 3 (01:02:10):
And he's too excited to show his sister his day.

Speaker 2 (01:02:16):
Maybe I don't know, sister.

Speaker 1 (01:02:22):
So are we I think we're saying, then, y t A,
you are the asshole?

Speaker 2 (01:02:27):
Ah sure? Yeah yeah. If we have to pick an asshole,
I feel like it's probably the poster because not that
he's an asshole. It's just like, calm down, man, let
things flow as it goes. It's not worth the fight.
All right, guys.

Speaker 1 (01:02:40):
That's the show. Plug away. It comes out tomorrow tomorrow.

Speaker 2 (01:02:47):
Oh my podcast, let's Get Biblical with Jonathan Giles, where
we it's not a religious podcast, although it does sound
like that.

Speaker 1 (01:02:57):
And there's a podcast with the same name, which people pointed.

Speaker 2 (01:02:59):
Out, Yeah, that we came out at the exact same time.

Speaker 1 (01:03:02):
At the same day, with the same name.

Speaker 2 (01:03:04):
And they're very different. Theirs is very religious and ours
is like he tells me stories from the Bible from
his childhood, kind of like drunk history how he remembers them,
and then we riff off it and have a great time.
That sounds I love it, so tune into that. We
just did a mini episode, just recorded it the other
day and we'll be putting that up there and then
the second half of our first seasons coming out soon.
But a lot of fun. Also. Jonathan Giles is not

(01:03:25):
a blug for me, but just because he's one of
my best Sieason, we do it together. Works for Ebony,
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But taking a sex break, so that's great. Yeah.

Speaker 3 (01:03:39):
Mermaid Comedy Hour July fourteenth at the Hollywood Improv. We're
doing a fuck I show and it's a fund.

Speaker 2 (01:03:47):
Said fuck Aisha, I really, what did I do?

Speaker 3 (01:03:51):
Everyone is holding a picture of Aisha when they go
on stage and ripping it up.

Speaker 2 (01:03:55):
Oh my god, that means I'm famous. No, it's a
fuck Ice show.

Speaker 1 (01:04:02):
Fuck Ice.

Speaker 3 (01:04:03):
And then also I'll be in uh Portland on July
thirtieth with Alexis Brabby and then in Seattle at the
Hereafter on July thirty.

Speaker 2 (01:04:12):
First, Can I have love one more thing? I totally forgot.
I'm going to be performing it just for laughs in Montreal,
thank you, at the Roast Battles Canada. And so if
you're in Montreal, come on down, all right, guys, that's
the show.

Speaker 1 (01:04:26):
Yeaes, bye bye bye