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(8:18) - AITA for getting a shed my neighbor can see the back of?
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(34:48) - AITA for walking off mid pickleball game bc my partner's coaching?
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hi, everybody. Welcome to the A Ta Pod. I'm Danny Vega,
joined by the old squad Radu and Carla. Hi all,
they're back, folks. It's good to see you guys. We're
vibing out, enjoying life. She Friday morning.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
It's Friday.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
It's Friday. Whoa no doing a thing today? So there's
a gym what's called an instructor gymnastics instructor that I
met over at our social club, and she got that
slack line. I was always been curious about that. You know.
They put this kind of like thing in between two trees. Okay,
And I bought a new toy.
Speaker 3 (00:45):
Would you buy?
Speaker 1 (00:46):
Well, it's it might be the most roastable product I own.
Now I bought. This is a real oxymoron for you.
I bought an electric unicycle.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Oh I saw that.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
Here's the kicker. It has two wheels, so technically it's
a bicycle, I guess, but yeah, the two Yeah, it's
a trainer. So the two wheels are next to each other,
so you still have to like balance on it, but
it's a lot easier. So it's like training wheels for
an electrics a seat.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
Why is it two wheels? Instead of one big wheel.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
Because it's like a trainer, so you learn the basic
skills on two wheels, you still have to balance because
they're close together, so it's kind of like one giant
wheel in a way.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
But then you remove a wheel.
Speaker 3 (01:30):
No, no, aingod question, good question.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
You're training to look like more of a clown a
real electric unicycle.
Speaker 3 (01:38):
You're training to have no more dignity as you're doing
your public transit.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
Exactly, exactly.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
I guess. I just wonder why it's two small wheels
instead of one big.
Speaker 1 (01:45):
Wheel, because two small wheels kindly two legs, so it
kind of balances too. Little skis also.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
Already has one big wheel, so he got more to that.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Well, the one wheel is like a snowboard and the
one wheel is self balance. It's boring, but basically the
one wheels easier. That's all you really need to know.
Oh interesting, we're gonna ride that shit at the park.
You guys are welcome to come with cool I got
a cooler with some fucking costco seltzer. Whoa, whoa, Yeah,
I'm trying to I'm trying to get it.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
Shoot your shot.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
But yeah, my other update is I went, I went
and I rode a bicycle. Okay, this electric bicycle over
there by the La River, the saddest river known to man.
Great path, it's really the La Canal. It is a
great path. And yeah, they're like free coffee if you
ride our electric bicycle. And this thing weighs one hundred
and sixty pounds and it goes sixty miles an hour.
(02:38):
And I was like, yeah, I guess. And so you
had to wear a motorcycle helmet and then you have
team chat Onyx motorcycles. I guess I'll promote them. Why not?
They're cool and you so you could chat while we're
on the bikes. Sure, but yeah with other people on bikes. Yeah,
so the owner whatever like took me out and like
I'm literally like okay, so I literally leave my one
without the store. And then next thing I know, I'm
(03:00):
like riding on a big surface street going fifty miles
an hour on a bicycle. You and him, yeah, and
I'm following him and he's like having full and I'm
like yeah, bro, but it's like kind of crazy because
you're going fifty miles per hour on a bike. Yeah,
So thank god I'm not big dead.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
But was this Spoke Bicycles where they did that.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
It's near that Okay. I actually went to Spoke to
buy an acoustic bicycle and They're like, we don't sell
bikes and I was like, fuck me.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
You're called a bike shop on yep, how dare they
do repairs?
Speaker 1 (03:32):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (03:33):
What is an acoustic bicycle?
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (03:36):
Okay, okay bike?
Speaker 1 (03:38):
Yeah, so anyway, those are my little.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
Adventure John Mayer's bike. That's what it is.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
That's cute. But yeah, that's that's the update. Are we
gonna jump right into this bad boy? You got anything
else going on? A juice any drama? I'm back on
hinge people I did, I could get kicked off. I
bought as you're not supposed to join once you get banned.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
But wait so you got banned?
Speaker 1 (04:00):
Yeah? I got banned because of my video. Oh yeah,
I remember the fake out video. It's like, no blue
haired girls, no tattoo girls, no girls to talk to
their parents every day. No girls are dm ing me
right now? But you should him said band fuck you.
I said, I got a burner number. You can't stop me.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
Back on New Picks.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
Carlo's at one of the picks, I use the foil
pick with your beauty.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
Your profile.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
I'm not on your profile.
Speaker 2 (04:25):
Oh yeah, that's a great pick.
Speaker 1 (04:26):
Actually, I got a couple of matches. I'm like, maybe
i'm better looking now, lost a couple pounds.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
They're like, but who's that girl in green?
Speaker 1 (04:33):
Who's that's good? Cola got a picture of jess raw
Du pretending to be him on an old profile. Yeah,
that's killing.
Speaker 3 (04:41):
Actually, yeah, I'm gonna get a lot of older folks.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
I didn't have a lot of luck on Hinge. I'm
not gonna lie. I mean, I just feel like apps
are money pits now. It's like they are. There's paywalls,
it's you really want to see you who likes you?
Pay twenty five dollars a week. It's like, your literal
app is supposed to be to match people. Why do
I have to pay you more to do that.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
I got a match in the first twenty four hours,
and that's crazy for me.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
I mean, I got matches, but they weren't people that
I was like, super like, plenty of people like me.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
I was just like, when I use Hinge before, I'd
maybe I'd swipe all week and I may get a
match every two weeks. So I was like guess who's
swimming in it now.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
Boys, get back to us in three weeks because they're
gonna stop feeding you those they like. I feel like
they drop the matches and oh I'm hot later.
Speaker 1 (05:30):
Now feed my delusion.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
I'm not saying you're unmatchable. I'm saying that Hinge is corruptible.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
They're all corrupt. No, but I've done them all. I've
done the hinge and done the bumble. I've done the
tender to get one match. I'm happy and she's no,
I got two matches. Oh my god, I forgot. I
had a conversation this morning. This girl is actually really cute,
but Lise really far. It's never gonna happen for us.
Where does she live ocean side? I was like, yeah,
I'm gonna take a Pacific surf liner for two hours
to see what you're like.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
Well, now you have in a unicycle cycling over there
for more reason to get one of those fucking extreme bikes.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
Bro, there's nothing like a ninety dollars uber to a
date that you know.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
Inside, I'd be lucky there.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
Now. I don't support them, but robot car.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
Yeah, so guys, Oh my god, this is such a
juicy little Epperino. Holy fuck our second story of the
day aik for bringing hazel nut coffee over. It's giving
horedit terry. Some of you know our we're relegating this.
I think it was on the bonus before. But yeah,
I want to see because we got we got our
(06:38):
little little leftist Cammie in the house where I do,
and I got I got to challenge a lot on this, Carla.
I don't know where you're gonna go on it, but
it's short and sweet. Here we go, folks, m jokes.
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a shed. My neighbor can see the back of it
over the fence. It's six over the fence almost two feet. Well,
that's almost a question. I got a new shed at Costco.
(08:29):
I put it in my backyard. Urban area townhouses, little
yards in the back, fenced in. I put my shed
against the fence, but it's taller than the fence. It's
sticking up and visible. He is my next door neighbor,
so we share a fence in the back. I put
the shed on the side of my yard with the
sheds back facing toward his backyard. It's about two feet
(08:49):
above the height of the fence, and it's five point
five feet wide, made of gray plastic. I did some
research today and found that I technically needed a permit
from the neighborhood to get any kind of structure sure,
which I didn't get. Never in a million years thought
a four by six shed from Costco would need a permit,
But it seems like I could easily get one retroactively
if needed. I'd rather not do it because it's paperwork
(09:11):
and inspection, but I will if I need to. My
neighbor saw me today on the street and said he'd
love me to do something about the shed. It's a
real eye sore. I told him we could put some
ivy on it if that help. I'm tempted to just
not accommodate him on this, basically tell him the pound
hand is that a dick? Move? Aa t A.
Speaker 3 (09:30):
It is so funny to use a term like pound
sand for something like.
Speaker 1 (09:35):
Just deal with the view sand.
Speaker 3 (09:37):
Oh you don't like rocks, you don't like the view
from my house, We'll go have sex with the dirt.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
Oh you think of it that way. I thought of
his making glass was not part of the glass. Pound
sand means pound yourself, go fuck the dirt.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
Oh, that's not what I took to see there. I
take a hike on the beach.
Speaker 3 (09:58):
Well, what are you doing on that hike? Fucking the rocks?
Speaker 1 (10:01):
It's true, Wow, pound sand. It's much better than It's
much cleaner.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
Way cleaner than put some sand in your head.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
I mean it's worse. I'd rather fuck myself than fuck sand.
Bro jesus Ooh some sand is soft.
Speaker 2 (10:16):
Yeah, I don't know. I feel like the whole thing.
Is that right? He needed a permit that he just ignored. Yeah,
that pisses me off, especially like I my friend just
moved to an Hoa. She was like, I would never
live I thought I'd never live in Hoa ever. Ever,
I don't want somebody to delegate what they what I
can and can't do with my property or whatever, which
(10:41):
none of our properties really ares anyways. But she moved there.
She loves it. She hasn't any issues. But part of
it is like the color she can paint her house,
like all this other stuff. So I can see how
I would be a pissed off neighbor if I was
being a good neighbor and I was trying to follow
the rules and I didn't have a shed because I
(11:04):
knew that I had to get a permit bobby blahity blah,
And then this motherfucker goes and gets a shed. But
if the neighbor's only worried about the eye sore of
it all, it's like it's two feet it's not.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
That much interesting. Okay, Rody, what's your initial take?
Speaker 3 (11:22):
Fuck? Neighbors live in the country.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
So much for leftism, folks. The right has won. He
lost for Rod dou people.
Speaker 3 (11:32):
I like living next to neighbors, but they like the
idea that your neighbor has any say over how your
life should work or whatever. Is insane. Unless I'm doing
something that extends onto your house or something, you know, whatever.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
It does, it's visible from the backyard. They have small backyards,
so now whenever they go outside, they got to look
at your fucking shed. Oh no, that's annoying.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
It's ugly, it is annoying. I just feel like two
feet is not that much. Like if it was like
it protrudes five six feet above the fence, that would
be like, okay, now there's a wall. But if it's
only two feet above the fence, it is like, grow
some fucking bamboo on your fence.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
It's an ice sore.
Speaker 3 (12:10):
If you got a permit. What could be done? If
you got a permit? They they just have to eat
it right. Well, first of all.
Speaker 1 (12:15):
From a kind of philosophy, a TA perspective, I'm gonna
make a couple arguments here. One is that I don't
think that disobeying in HOA automatically makes you an asshole,
and so I'm going to argue that that is not
gonna hurt his case.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
You don't think so, you don't think moving to an
HOA community and then ignoring the guidelines while everybody else
so base an asshole move.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
I think he found out and then he said it's
not a big deal, so he has to get the permit,
So kind of sounds like it is allowed. I don't
think you're an asshole because you didn't know the rule
and then you got to get a permit retroactively.
Speaker 3 (12:56):
Right.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
I think it's tough to ding on that, even though
I don't like ope and I have a much stronger perspective,
I'm like, you went, you went to Costco? Okay, Now,
from what we can tell, I think this is also
a very reasonable conclusion. This person bought this shed without
really thinking about it. Right, they went to fucking Costco,
which is not a shed store. They'll have a shed
(13:20):
to mass produce shed. I go to Costco a lot.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
They have everything, well, they.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
Have everything, but they don't usually have multiple of the
same thing. Maybe certain food items like Seltzers. No, not really,
they'll have a couple because the whole premise of Costco
is we're gonna sell you a fuck ton at once
because we made a deal with the manufacturer to sell
fuck tonight. So Costco doesn't have super specific shit. Costco
(13:45):
doesn't have vintage glass were true unless they think they
could sell a majillion of them, because that's the whole
premise of Costco.
Speaker 2 (13:51):
But they have sheds.
Speaker 1 (13:53):
But my point is the sheds that they're selling are
for any dick, Tom and Harry, Is that right?
Speaker 3 (13:59):
Is that the phrase dick here?
Speaker 1 (14:00):
Tom Dick and harre excuse me, sorry, sorry, tom uh
can get a good shed for their backyard, right arago.
I think it's reasonable that this shed is not really
made for an urban townhouse environment. It's just the shed
that Costco happened a half. Isn't that fair to say? Sure,
thank you? And this person went to Costco and they thought, oh,
(14:22):
go to shut, go to shut. They got the fucking shed.
It protrudes above the fence and they thought, oh good
note for me, and the neighbors said, well it looks bad,
and it's like, yeah, you could have just done one
second of research googled it possibly got a shed cheaper
or at a very reasonable close price, maybe a little
more expensive, and not created an iceore.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
True, Yeah, that's true for sure.
Speaker 1 (14:49):
My I feel like you guys agreed here like that
has no effect on.
Speaker 3 (14:52):
My standard for an ice sore is just so much smaller,
I guess than you know what I mean. I'm like,
it needs to be a swastika, it needs to be
a flag.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
Who says, but that's also really valid because I do
feel like for me this is an info thing, like
how big are the yards? I want to see what
you're But how far away is the house.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
It's very near sky.
Speaker 2 (15:16):
For instance, I'm still in this fucking apartment house search.
There was a place we really really liked, but one
of the bedrooms, because it was a first floor apartment,
one of the bedrooms, the neighbors put up a stupid
like pop up carport, shitty white plastic carport ten thing,
so that was the view out of one of the
bedrooms was literally a white tent.
Speaker 1 (15:38):
And it's like thoughtless.
Speaker 2 (15:40):
But I'm saying, if that house was further away and
there was space between the window and the tent where
I could at least see other things, it wouldn't be
as bad as it literally being up against the window.
Speaker 1 (15:50):
I just feel like this is the definition of an asshole.
Speaker 2 (15:53):
I wanted a thing, it wasn't considerate.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
He wasn't considerate. It honestly, doesn't even sound like he
considered the shed all that hard. He just got a
new shed, doesn't doesn't. There's no nothing here about how
the shed was so important and the shed is going
to cause solve some kind of vital problem, just like
I got shit on my property and if you don't
like it, it's mine. It's like, that's why we have
to have hoa's because people are very stubborn and they
(16:16):
want to do crazy, insane shit. And for me, this
is just textbook asshole. But my guest disagreed. That's why
we're relitigating this.
Speaker 3 (16:25):
Yeah, I mean I do believe in like some sense
of community stuff like if I'm making a noise that
bothers you, if I'm making a smell that bothers you
or whatever, But just having to look at something I
don't find that to be like, well, it's.
Speaker 1 (16:39):
Not enough a violation.
Speaker 3 (16:40):
What if you got two shit? I think if I'm
blocking out the sun, oh okay, yeah you understand. Like
if I'm like causing enough, like you can you can
be like, yeah, I once had a tremendous view and
now I don't sure. Yeah there's people that litigate each
other and sue and do whatever. Yeah, what were you
looking at? Another planned community? That suck? So now my
shed is maybe that worse for you?
Speaker 2 (17:02):
What two feet look like like this?
Speaker 1 (17:05):
Yeah, but that's not a lot. But you're gonna have
to constantly. I mean, for me, I'm just like, that's
what an asshole is. It's someone who instead of just
taking a little bit of thought, and just being like, oh,
it's good enough for me. It's just two feet. Well
it's like, yeah, it's two feet that annoys someone else,
Like why don't you spend two minutes and just see
if you can get a different shed? Like, aren't about it?
Speaker 2 (17:23):
But what if he did do his research and he
just chose to do that anyway, I doubt that.
Speaker 3 (17:28):
It'll make a lot of little sheds, Like you're just
kind of you're stuck with the minimum entry requirement or whatever.
So if his fence is small or something, everything's going
to be an ice.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
I feel like he could have looked into alternate solutions,
maybe not a full blown shed, but a little fucking
and what are those things called?
Speaker 2 (17:44):
He's saying it's four feet tall shit.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
Five point five feet wide, and then he says four
by six, so I guess it's five point five by
four by six.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
So forth.
Speaker 1 (17:52):
So it's six feet tall, five point five feet wide,
and four feet deep.
Speaker 3 (17:56):
A six foot shit is so small?
Speaker 2 (17:58):
Yeah, that's really not like the fence needs to be taller.
Speaker 3 (18:01):
What's the what's the shed for? You got to jerk
off somewhere when your wife's mad.
Speaker 1 (18:05):
Could just be storage, which is valid and so he
can hoard his bullshit and ruin my fucking view. I
just feel like this is the mark of an asshole
for me, and nobody agrees with me.
Speaker 3 (18:16):
There's things you're allowed to do in your yard. If like,
let's say he had kids. You see you put up
a trampoline which has high netting. You know what I mean. Yeah,
it doesn't create as much of a nice story as.
Speaker 1 (18:25):
See that, but even that is high net trampoline. I
think they create more of an ice.
Speaker 3 (18:31):
Maybe, but it's you can kind of see through it
a little bit sometimes. I see that.
Speaker 1 (18:34):
To me would be more like, bro, I got two kids.
They're begging me a trampoline. You know, it's not against
any rules. My neighbors don't like it, but I'm like,
those are my kids. I'd be like, see, to me,
that's a tough call, but they're your kids, and that's
technically then the rules and their kids and they want
to trebling. Kids love trampolines. They're gonna benefit from that
every day. That to me is an argument. But to
me to be just like I got a shed and
(18:55):
I like it and I need it and I'm done,
I'm like, that's yes, you are an asshole.
Speaker 2 (18:59):
But you don't know that. He just doesn't give it
more information.
Speaker 1 (19:02):
I don't think it's info. I think there's no reason
to think that they put any thought into it because
they went to Costco. If they went to if they
said a single line of like, this is the perfect
shed to get a shed that's this size, nobody makes
small sheds, it would cost twice as much. I'd be
on their side. But they got nothing like that.
Speaker 3 (19:19):
He's got a lot of the Costco shopper mentality.
Speaker 2 (19:22):
I know. I'm not in.
Speaker 3 (19:23):
It's been in there long enough to know what these
people are like. I have a Costco carb, but I
couldn't tell you anything about Costco people.
Speaker 2 (19:31):
Oh, Costco people are hard.
Speaker 3 (19:33):
I don't understand it.
Speaker 1 (19:35):
I really do love me a Costco order.
Speaker 3 (19:38):
That's what you're supposed to be dating, right, if you're like,
get off the apps and just hang.
Speaker 2 (19:42):
Out families there it's all.
Speaker 3 (19:44):
Families, and then fifteen percent people hoping to be in families,
but they're not yet, and they're already they're already living
like they're in families. So go out there and date
the fucking scary broads.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
They say you should go to the grocery store at
eight am on a Saturday, and those are the healthy
people there.
Speaker 1 (20:00):
You go. Yeah, health shed does not block any light.
The yards are not.
Speaker 2 (20:04):
Huge, it doesn't block any light.
Speaker 1 (20:10):
Wow, he got downloaded to oblivion. Redd It didn't like him,
But my guests are on his side.
Speaker 3 (20:14):
So weird.
Speaker 1 (20:14):
I don't understand how this.
Speaker 2 (20:16):
Here's the thing. I feel like if he was like
it was seven feet tall, like if it was more
of a nuisance, I would be like, that's fucked up.
But it's two feet it's too fucking over the fence.
Speaker 1 (20:31):
That's aesthetic such as It's not the lack of a
permit that makes you an asshole. You said you could
do the paper where and get the permit. It's the
attitude of wanting to tell your neighbor to pounce sand
if your neighbor had something sticking up in his yard
that you thought was ugly, when you wanted to try
to accommodate you and make it less of an eyesore,
stopping an asshole, and work collectively on a solution, make
life better for those around you, not worse.
Speaker 2 (20:52):
I agree with that.
Speaker 1 (20:53):
Oh, he responds, You're right, this is probably the advice
I needed. He has a history of being a pain
in the ass. Last year, I was doing substruction asked
if I could run an extension cord through his yard
bias fence for around six feet. He never goes out there,
and he said, no, bro, you want to run an
extension cord through my yard around six feet because I
never go out No, I don't want an ugly extension card. Oh,
(21:16):
it's just an extentsion cord. No, like temporary, it's for
a construction destructure.
Speaker 3 (21:21):
So you so you are?
Speaker 2 (21:24):
You want me to accommodate the extension cord.
Speaker 3 (21:26):
You want me to accommodate your eyes, But you won't
let me run my electricity through your yard.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
For If it was a day, I'd be like, yeah,
of course, for a day, who cares. But it's construction
that takes months. But care you could run your cord
through my fucking yard. Now, see to me, that's unreasonable.
You're asking me to do something for months.
Speaker 3 (21:46):
It could be three hours. He's nobody knows how construction.
Speaker 2 (21:51):
The construction company regardless.
Speaker 1 (21:53):
But I don't want a chord in my yard. That's
not a solution.
Speaker 3 (21:57):
If it's a we don't we don't know how long
is it's construction. There you can do a half day remodel.
There are things you can half day remodel. You work construction. No,
that's right, you're not Mexican.
Speaker 1 (22:08):
I've never everyone agrees with me except guess negative.
Speaker 2 (22:13):
Oop is reaching his brain.
Speaker 1 (22:15):
That got negative. Yeah, no, he's fully right till now
he's got negative two hundred and forty votes on that.
Speaker 3 (22:20):
But yeah, you know, no, that's insane to me. If
a neighbor's like even if a neighbor's like, yo, I
have a month of construction, run your thing. Fine, sorry,
because I'm gonna ask a month.
Speaker 1 (22:30):
You're gonna run a cord in my yard. You don't
got an outlet, you can't do an extension cord.
Speaker 3 (22:35):
You can't run a small urban environment where there's condos
or whatever. Who knows.
Speaker 1 (22:39):
I'm like, I feel like you can figure out a
better solution. I need to use the neighbor's power us.
You're running a chord.
Speaker 3 (22:48):
It's weird.
Speaker 2 (22:49):
I don't think it's weird. I think that the neighbor
has every right to say yes or no, like that's
their choice. But it doesn't seem very bothersome to just
let someone run a chord. That's like me asking a
can I run an extension cord along this wall right here?
That's not that's not a huge thing.
Speaker 3 (23:07):
I do feel like they're not giving us the time,
so we're stuck on like who knows if it's a day,
if it's a month, if it's whatever.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
Well that's the other thing. Though you could say yeah, sure,
and then two weeks later, if you're bothered by it,
you'd be like, hey, actually, I would prefer if you
didn't do that anymore.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
I think I would say if somebody said can I
run a chord and do a weird thing? I'd be like,
what's your problem? Like why don't we talk about what
you're trying to do here? Because that just seems like
a weird solution, And why would I have to have
a cord in my yard?
Speaker 2 (23:31):
I mean, being in production, I've definitely been in situations
where even at the co working space, we have like
plugs everywhere now, but a lot of times you have
to be like, hey, can I like put this under
the I'm going under the table to put this thing
in between your legs.
Speaker 1 (23:46):
But for construction, it's kind of like, yeah, you're going
to hire people professionals and I'm supposed to just it's strange.
It's unusual as far as I know. But look, I
do agree that it could be accommodated with some reasoning.
Speaker 2 (23:59):
What do they say? The price of community is annoyance.
Speaker 1 (24:01):
That's what we're saying. Ata I got a shed. My
neighbor can see the back of it over the fence
and sticks over the fence almost two feet. I feel
like they do have history which we uncovered, and I
just feel like this is an attitude that is stupid,
and I think it's assholeish to be like, oh whatever.
It's like, dude, the one people, the group of people
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you want to be on your in your graces are
the people that are close to you every single day.
Why why wouldn't you take the time defense?
Speaker 2 (24:32):
The guy isn't giving him grace either.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
Yeah, I feel like the extension court ask was a
completely different thing.
Speaker 2 (24:38):
Well, he also said that he's been an issue to
other people and in the neighborhood in general. Didn't you
say that, I don't remember in the comments said no,
that's no, No, that's.
Speaker 1 (24:47):
What that's not what I is that when you said.
Speaker 2 (24:49):
No, Op responded to that comment and said the whole
thing about the extension court is that he's been an
issue in general or something like that.
Speaker 1 (24:58):
I don't think that's what I said.
Speaker 2 (25:00):
I'm saying that's what you read.
Speaker 1 (25:01):
I don't think that's what I read.
Speaker 2 (25:03):
Read the comment again and finding.
Speaker 1 (25:05):
It for the record. It isn't overhanging onto his property.
It's all on my property. I didn't know I needed
a permit. The shed doesn't block any light. No, this
is probably the advice I need that one. Yeah, he
has a history of being a pain in the ass. Boom,
yeah to him, doesn't say anything about other people. Last
year I was doing construction, ask so I could run
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a court. There's nothing about other people.
Speaker 2 (25:28):
History of being a pain in the ass. Says in
general to me.
Speaker 3 (25:33):
Yeah, I don't know why. Why would you accommodate someone
if you're like, you know what, they don't care about
me any capacity. But let me make sure I'm going
to go return my shed because they said they don't
like how it looks.
Speaker 1 (25:43):
I don't feel like these are equal asks.
Speaker 2 (25:46):
They're not equal ass.
Speaker 3 (25:48):
But one is like where they're just showing you this
person is not going to do anything to accommodate you.
And but but they do want to be accommodated at
all times. Why community is still built.
Speaker 1 (25:59):
On the new information and the fact that the chord
thing couldn't have been at least a conversation. I would
have a conversation over there. You to have a conversation
if it was like, literally, there is no way we
can do this that's reasonable except to run a chord.
And then I'd be like, fine, we can run the
fucking chord. But it does feel like one of those
things where it's like, well, if we ran a chord
over the neighbor's place, we could save thirty nine dollars.
Speaker 3 (26:22):
It's like, I don't think it's no, no, no. If
you're asking a neighbor, we just have to clear this up.
If you're asking a neighbor to run an extension court
through their yard, it's because you have to. You're not
as we're not doing it to save money.
Speaker 1 (26:33):
You are not doing it to I want to know more.
Do it?
Speaker 3 (26:36):
But you know you're being unreasonable.
Speaker 1 (26:38):
You know this excuse you. They still did the construction, well, sure,
but it could have been a huge pain. You know,
if you're asking to say it and they had every
reason to say it, I.
Speaker 3 (26:49):
Think it's assumed. I think if it's like if I
had to go ask a neighbor for this unreasonable thing
it had to happen.
Speaker 1 (26:54):
Can we meet it? Can we meet it? Everyone sucks here?
Speaker 3 (26:56):
No?
Speaker 2 (26:56):
Sure, No great, I'll meet you at everyone so I do.
I don't like the way he said the whole pound
sand thing. I think you could still like, not like someone.
Speaker 1 (27:03):
I think the other neighbor, I'm sorry, I think might
be an asshole too. On cord Gate. I'll give you
that it should have been at least a conversation. It
seems like it wasn't.
Speaker 3 (27:10):
Seems like it was like, nope, right, if my shed
says death to America or something on it, you have
a lot of rights to.
Speaker 1 (27:17):
Tell you're at not the asshole in the neighbor. Is
the neighbor's the asshole? Completely all right? At least I
brought Carla over after a fucking narging with so many
goddamn people on wasting my life. Aita for bringing hazel
nut coffee over. I eighteen f bought coffee before going
over to my friend eighteen m's house for a study Sash.
He and my boyfriend eighteen were already there. After a while,
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I got up to go to the toilet. Well, my
back was turned my friend's little sister ate who was
allergic to hazel and that tried to drink my coffee.
I knew because my boyfriend, who knows how I like
my coffee, yelled, you can't have that, making me turn
around right when she put it back on the table.
When I explained to her that the coffee has hazel,
not my friend got very upset, saying I shouldn't bring
over something that could endanger her. I just didn't think
what happened, since she's always asked before eating of my
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sweets and candies a TA so her, have you get
seen hereditary?
Speaker 2 (28:08):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (28:09):
Yeah, no, no, you gotta see it.
Speaker 2 (28:12):
Yeah. I don't think you have to, but are you
kidding me?
Speaker 1 (28:17):
You should? Rune of all people should see it anyway.
Speaker 2 (28:19):
Look, yeah, I think you would like it. Yeah, until
you don't.
Speaker 1 (28:24):
Yeah. I think this one's interesting because we talk a
lot about allergies and when it comes. If this was
an adult, I'd be like, go fuck yourself dot org slash, seriously,
fuck yourself, pound sand. But I'm not talking about an adult.
We're talking about an eight year old.
Speaker 2 (28:40):
Eight is old enough.
Speaker 1 (28:42):
Eight is old enough.
Speaker 2 (28:44):
I would say that eight is old enough to know
that you shouldn't just go around drinking things and eating
things out of other people's cups and plates. That's fairal I.
Speaker 1 (28:53):
I, I just don't agree with it. I don't know
what eight's old enough for.
Speaker 3 (28:59):
I was the second grade rose eight.
Speaker 1 (29:00):
If I was drinking better second grade?
Speaker 3 (29:03):
Yeah, if I was drinking, if I was drinking out
of adults cups at that age or whatever, someone would
have punched me in the face. Yeah, that's how I
grew up.
Speaker 1 (29:12):
Well, No, that's not what was that. That's not what
was said here.
Speaker 2 (29:15):
You don't just go drinking people's things and then get.
Speaker 3 (29:18):
Mad at them because maybe they poisoned me. Yeah, in
a delicious treat.
Speaker 1 (29:23):
When I don't see that. She drank from op's cup.
Speaker 2 (29:28):
So she tried to No, that's what you said.
Speaker 1 (29:31):
Tried to tried to drink my coffee, is what they said. Well,
it's possible that she would have used the coffee maker.
I could also it sounds like she brought it.
Speaker 3 (29:41):
She brought a coffee.
Speaker 2 (29:43):
She's a coffee from a coffee.
Speaker 1 (29:45):
Bought coffee before going over to my friend's house for
a study session. Okay, yeah, no, Okay, my bad, all right,
So I misunderstood it. I read it as she brought
the beans over there.
Speaker 2 (29:57):
That would be crazy.
Speaker 3 (29:58):
That would be tons of eight old.
Speaker 1 (30:01):
Enough to know that you can't drink from a cup
of someone's coffee.
Speaker 2 (30:05):
Yes, yeah, and also just not like my niece just
turned seven in June. And maybe it's just the way
people are raised, but I feel like even me being
her aunt, she wouldn't just drink out of my cup
out of nowhere. She would be like, can I try that?
Or what are you drinking? Like, she wouldn't just like
grab someone's cup and drink it. Yeah, that's weird, and
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that's like that's like a sign of like bad parenting.
I think that kids can also be kids and like
do kids little things. I think eating something maybe is
a little different. Yeah, like if you have a plate
that's open, it's like that'd be different.
Speaker 1 (30:43):
Okay, So okay, so that that's kind of what I
initially pictured the coffee.
Speaker 3 (30:46):
That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (30:47):
That would I think great. I think if we can
hit that point, I could be happy. That would be
a huge pro If you brought over like a plate
of brownies with that syrup and then you put a master.
Speaker 2 (30:58):
Yeah, that would be so fucked up.
Speaker 1 (31:00):
That would be fucked up.
Speaker 2 (31:01):
That would be so fucked up.
Speaker 1 (31:02):
Yeah, don't do that to a fucking eight year old.
Speaker 2 (31:04):
Yeah, okay, good, but he is plenty old enough. My
other thing is if she has a severe allergy, she
should also know better than to like just be drinking
willy nilly.
Speaker 3 (31:16):
I had to double strike for this little bastard girl, little.
Speaker 1 (31:20):
Bastard eight year old. Yeah, it does seem a little wild.
I mean, I guess, I don't know. I do feel
like eight is pretty young. I don't I don't know
any kids, so I have no idea what an eight
year old acts like.
Speaker 2 (31:34):
But I guess, and I think all eight year olds
act differently. I don't think everyone is my niece, who's
very well behaved.
Speaker 1 (31:39):
As I know, an eight year old is a little baby.
Speaker 3 (31:44):
One hundred years ago, eight year old was the age
of employment. Do you understand fact? I think it is true, absolutely,
But went up to Sinclaire's right in the jungle or whatever,
they are eight eight year old's losing their fingers and
meat processing plants left and right. They're eight year olds,
and the coal mines there. In fact and a different time,
there are entire books talking about how like there are
child laborers that are way more effective at working in
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minds and whatever do that smaller breathing capacity.
Speaker 1 (32:08):
Right, it's what we all saw snowpier Serer. You see Snowpierser. No,
what is that ruin the whole movie?
Speaker 3 (32:13):
I love child the movie.
Speaker 1 (32:14):
Yeah, they make a show.
Speaker 2 (32:16):
Yeah, I didn't watch the show.
Speaker 1 (32:18):
It's about capitalism. You would love ye, And yeah, there
is child labor and it's pretty brilliant. Anyway, Look, I
think we agree on this, and I don't know about
how kids work in their ages and whatnot. I guess
I do feel like if you're gonna bring the stuff
that kills the kid and they are a kid, I
do feel like you can be like, hey, just let
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you know, this is hazelnut, so be careful, doesn't get
on your skin. I don't know, just but if it's not.
Speaker 2 (32:44):
Your like sibling, that's maybe not the first thing you think.
Speaker 1 (32:46):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (32:47):
Yeah, I feel like you could be more exactly, you
could be like way more thoughtful and be like, well,
maybe I just shouldn't bring it at all.
Speaker 1 (32:53):
But like also just like safety first. It just because
they are eight your brain's on fullyda Belle. They can
be impulsive.
Speaker 2 (33:01):
We can on the eighteen year old's brain isn't fulidivios.
Speaker 1 (33:03):
We can all be impulsive. I'll tell you what I did.
I put my fucking fingertips on the pressure cooker, got
a little little finger burn, fucking sucked her for like
three hours.
Speaker 2 (33:12):
Low key. Sometimes you got to touch the stove to
know that it burns.
Speaker 3 (33:15):
Did it look fun to touch?
Speaker 1 (33:16):
And you really don't have to know what some people do.
Speaker 2 (33:19):
Some kids do need to touch the stove to see
that it burns, because you can tell them over and
over again, that's hot, that's hot, that's hot. Now it's
not exactly now it's not act karla or not even
that though it's not. It's just.
Speaker 3 (33:35):
What were you doing? Were're just trying to prove to
yourself you don't feel pain.
Speaker 1 (33:38):
It's really convoluted. But now, I didn't think it would
be that hot because it was on keep warm, Oh
instant pot, I'm suing you because warm. It's not one
hundred and forty degrees you sick fox?
Speaker 2 (33:50):
Was it like freshly on? Keep warm?
Speaker 3 (33:53):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (33:53):
So keep hot, keep warm, means food safe.
Speaker 2 (33:56):
Yeah, but not after it was just on hot.
Speaker 1 (33:59):
No, it wasn't on hot. Keep warm means food stating.
Speaker 2 (34:01):
I know what was on high and then you changed
to keep warm.
Speaker 3 (34:04):
No, no, it was on cold.
Speaker 1 (34:06):
Trust me, I'm extremely familiar with how instant pots work
because I was trying to use one as a proofing
machine to make my sour dough fucking consistent. Whoa fucking
sour dough, evil fucking bread that I'm obsessed with.
Speaker 2 (34:19):
It has sour in the name.
Speaker 1 (34:21):
Yeah, does that make sense? Sour? Oh, it's being sour.
I know she's such a She's such a I love
what I have to explain it A t ever bringing
handel in a coffee over. I think we agree.
Speaker 3 (34:34):
It's no.
Speaker 1 (34:38):
All right, guys. I don't know if we've done this before,
but I even texted some pickleballers about this. It's our
big pickleball situation. Whoa A I t a for walking
off mid pickleball game because my doubles partner wouldn't stop
coaching me. I thirty four am play a lot of pickleball.
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It's my thing. I've got a regular group. We mess around,
keep it competitive, but you'll I went to this open
play thing. Last weekend, got paired with some dude let's
call him Mike for doubles, never played with them before.
First few points are fine, but then he starts with
the tips like ooh, you should have dinked that, or ooh,
try stepping in more on your serf, or you're crowding
the net a little. Every single point. I'm like, bro,
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it's not a clinic. I actually told him I'm good, bro,
just not to sound rude. He says, totally, but he
kept doing it. By the second game, I was done.
I grabbed my stuff and left. No drama, just got
up and left. Now people at the courts are saying
I was overreacting and that he was just being helpful. IDK.
I feel like he killed the whole vibe and made
it weird. Maybe I could have sucked it up, but
honestly just ruined the fun aita.
Speaker 2 (35:45):
No, nobody likes unsolicited advice, especially from strangers. If it
was your partner or something, it'd be like, okay, like
I'm familiar with this person, maybe I can like respect
them and take the bits. But like a complete stranger,
like one or two times here is fine. But every
single point is overkill.
Speaker 1 (36:06):
Over every single point is It's ridiculous.
Speaker 2 (36:09):
That's ridiculous.
Speaker 3 (36:11):
I would be after four of those, I would start
be like, hey, man, you're going bald. I started doing
back at them, Hey you should wear better shoes. You
thought about you need a better response to the ATA
I do, are you?
Speaker 1 (36:31):
Yeah, it's.
Speaker 2 (36:33):
Nothing about pickleball is chill. I refuse to believe that
this was a chill environment.
Speaker 1 (36:37):
Pickleballers people get into it.
Speaker 2 (36:39):
Man, they're two into way.
Speaker 1 (36:41):
It's really and there's nothing funnier than me and someone
taking it serious whiffleball.
Speaker 3 (36:46):
Seriously, if I can give you any advice, brother, you're
gonna want to hit the pickle part of the ball first.
Speaker 1 (36:51):
I've done this. I played pickleball and it was in
my dad's old folks community and shocker, old Arizona people.
Right where you're going, I'm like, what am I doing?
I'm trying to have fun with you. Fucking it, You're
gonna be dead and not fun.
Speaker 2 (37:04):
Pickball is not I do think.
Speaker 1 (37:06):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (37:07):
It's hard for me.
Speaker 1 (37:09):
It's a little hard for.
Speaker 2 (37:10):
Me because my other thing is this person isn't like
a new pickleballer. Right when I went to go play
pickleball for my first time my friend. We played with
like random people, and then I paired up with this
other guy and he was giving me tips and I
was like, cool, I've never played before, happily taking these
tips because I don't know anything. This person plays a lot.
So it's just insulting for your own partner to be
like you should have done this. It's like, that's not
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helpful because I actually do know what I'm doing, and
sometimes you just don't do the right thing. Like everybody
can always do something better. That doesn't that's not helpful.
Speaker 1 (37:43):
Yeah, I mean for these it just does feel a
little bit like I don't really love these notes. I
feel like rule based notes are legitimate.
Speaker 2 (37:54):
Totally right right across the line.
Speaker 1 (37:57):
Yeah, like you might not want to stand there because
I could be we could lose a point because of that.
But saying like you should have dinked that, I'm like, oh, well, thanks,
I guess I should have done something different, thank you.
Oh yeah it didn't work out. You're so helpful anyway.
I texted my dad, who loves pickle ball as established.
He said, it's borderline as far as walking off like that,
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that makes him the asshole. I think you should have
made it clear to the partner, Hey, if you do
that one more time, I'm out of here. Not only that,
but I would say it's so loud the opponent's also
hurt it that way. If he walks out, then everyone
knows who the real.
Speaker 3 (38:29):
Asshole, right, right, right? But that's posturing. There's a posturing
there where you're like, I don't want to be seen
as the asshole. Yeah, there's another part component entirely where
you're like, I don't want to make I don't want
to bring everyone into my thing. I have a problem
with this person. They're just directing it at me, whether
or not anyone. Because then then it really becomes of like, oh,
now I've soured the mood for everybody. This one person's thing.
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I've turned it into like I'm clearly upset and I'm leaving.
Keep your mouth shutt and go. It's fine. Yeah, I
think it's totally fine.
Speaker 2 (38:59):
You owe nothing to these peop but you don't even
know them.
Speaker 1 (39:01):
The fact that they get to say that's fey, that's
not a great you're saying. Just deal with that. It's
just one guy. Play the game out, don't.
Speaker 3 (39:09):
Know not play the game. No, if you want to leave,
if you want to grab yourself, please, that's better than
making a big show leave.
Speaker 2 (39:17):
I don't think it's dramatic. I think he tried to
stay and deal with it. And then it's like if
I'm somebody calling out your every move when you're just
trying to have fun and now you're being coached by
someone that's looking annoying.
Speaker 1 (39:28):
I don't know it was a thirty four year old man.
I'm like, something you would be annoying.
Speaker 2 (39:34):
I'd be like, yeah, stop, that's what I'm saying. So
leaving if you're annoyed is like, I literally owe this
person nothing. Why am I going to stay in the
situation that's annoying.
Speaker 1 (39:42):
In the game for everyone? Just finish the game.
Speaker 2 (39:46):
Tons of people there can sub in.
Speaker 3 (39:48):
There might be, but I'll tell you this, I would
make it way. If I'm sitting there and this guy
won't stop, I'm going to make it way worse.
Speaker 2 (39:55):
I'd also be like time to switch teams.
Speaker 3 (39:58):
Potentially you can't do that.
Speaker 1 (39:59):
There's there's some structure with it. Anyway. I texted Drew
the Mailbox Roaster. He said, these guys are both assholes.
Thirty four M try thirty four l loser. Don't let
him get to you. Gotta let the guy be a
dick and finish. He should read the stoics. He let
it ruin the game for him and then ruin the
game for the other side. I also suspect he was
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playing bad. Yeah, I think the other guy might have
been better. And guys can do this, which tries me nuts.
Speaker 3 (40:28):
Absolutely.
Speaker 1 (40:29):
It's like, yeah, I mean unsolicited advice. It's like fucking annoying.
Speaker 3 (40:33):
Here's the real thing. You could tell one of them
was better pickleball, but the guy that was giving advice
clearly wasn't amazing, because if he was, he would have
just sucked it up and been like, I'll eat up
the difference and win this game.
Speaker 1 (40:43):
Yeah. Well, that's the thing with Double's pickleball that he
just hit to the weaker player. Classic strategy. I don't know.
Speaker 2 (40:50):
I've been playing tennis with a group of people on
Monday nights.
Speaker 1 (40:53):
Dubs are singles.
Speaker 2 (40:55):
We do like a mix of the two, but usually
it's like singles or two on one. I forget what it's.
Speaker 1 (41:01):
Called word kinky tennis.
Speaker 2 (41:04):
Yeah, yeah, what we do the elimination, So it's usually
one on one. Anyways, all is to say, I've been
going last few weeks and all the people there are
significantly better than me, right, And so I get a
little intimidated because then I have all this pressure and
then I actually do worse because I'm trying to do
better and blah blah blah. It's been four weeks. This
last time that I went, I was doing the one
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on one with this guy. He came to my Variety show.
We've like become friends since, like acquaintance friends, And after
our one on one, he was like, hey, we've been
playing for a little while. I was one like, I'm
not want to give unsolicited advice, but like, I've been
watching you play the last few weeks, and I was
wondering if I could like give you a couple of
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tips on how to improve your game. And I was
like absolutely yes, Like I wish you didn't wait four
weeks to do that, you know what I mean. But
would it have been helpful to me in my progression
in tennis if every time I hit the ball, he's like,
you should have done this, you should have done that.
That's not a productive way to help somebody. And I
appreciate it, and we literally sat there and went over
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like a couple of techniques and then I literally improved
within the next five minutes.
Speaker 1 (42:11):
Fucking Carla Fetter over here.
Speaker 3 (42:14):
Yeah, oh that's time and place. Though it sounds like
it's someone trying to do that if they were playing
doubles with you in the middle of you know, right, it.
Speaker 2 (42:21):
Would just frustrate me because you're focused on everything that
I could be doing differently, and now I'm in my
head and.
Speaker 3 (42:26):
Now and you're in a situation where you're even kind
of welcoming advice. Imagine if you're like, well, the difference
between us is not that much larger, but this other
person won't shut the fuck. Yeah, clearly you need to
win so bad, or you need this thing to go
your way or us to have a chance at winning,
but you are going to disrupt whatever community standard and
be like, you know, it's better if you play nearer
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the net. I'm like, yeah, again, if someoney that to
me more than four times, I would make up trauma
that happened to me to try, like, you know, every
family member I had molested me, that's why, Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2 (42:57):
But I also feel like it's an ego thing right,
And I feel like sometimes you know, you were supposed
to do something different. So it's annoying when someone says
you should have done this thing and it's like, yeah, no,
I just didn't do it.
Speaker 3 (43:07):
I know, I'm a fuck yeah, I just you.
Speaker 1 (43:10):
Know what this happened to mean? I forgot I did this.
There's an indoor pickleball place in Glendo. I wrote my
one wheel there. I know, ladies, I am single, and
uh yeah. I played it this guy who was very
self serious the same thing open play, and I remember
I took his notes and I was like, fair enough,
he was clearly better than me. But every time he
missed a shot, I was like, you fuck it right.
(43:30):
It does make you dislike the person when it's unsolicited. Yeah,
you just be like, hey, can I throw you a
tip real quick? Like that's super fair, and like, you know,
I think you got to respect the other person. And ultimately,
even though I do think the guy should have finished
the game, it's like it's obnoxious, like guys have to
work on this. The gym. Guys like, just like how
hard does it? Just asked permission?
Speaker 2 (43:52):
Yeah, and I don't even think he left mid game.
It says by the second game, I was done, So
it seems like he left between games. He didn't storm
off in the middle of the game.
Speaker 3 (44:00):
He just was like, I'm not for an out and
then he was like I'm grabbing my shit.
Speaker 1 (44:03):
Go yeah, yeah, yeah. I think I think I am
going to ultimately say that, like it's like we need
to do the government needs to do a PSA. It's
not going to happen in this administration, but it's just
like PSA administratorly because you know what I think, I
think it is true. I think a lot of guys,
like in the gym you got the gym bros, you
(44:23):
got the pickleball bros. There often is a knowledgeable bro.
But I think what a lot of the bros don't
realize is like when when people lose confidence and they
lose fun, that is more harmful to them than knowledge
or skills or information. So just creating that bridge, you're like, hey,
can I actually offer you a tip, and just showing
that you are willing to consider that and like show
(44:46):
them some like consent or like consideration that's going to
actually open them up, maintain the fun, create a good
vibe where we're all on the same team. And actually
make your advice be that much more successful if they're
willing to take. Yeah, that's what we need a PSA for.
Speaker 2 (45:02):
I agree. That's parent that's literally good parenting. It's when
you don't keep picking out the problematic things. Oh you
should have done that, Oh you should have done that,
or you should have done that makes somebody feel incompetent
not empowered.
Speaker 1 (45:16):
Sure, feelings are. Feelings are part of it, you know,
like emotions are part of it managing coaching, like you
need people to feel confident and good otherwise they suck.
They be sucking maybe sucking. Duok, Sorry why Carla why?
Speaker 3 (45:35):
I've also been on the other side of me that,
where you're like, you are the person that could offer
someone incredible un solicited advice, and you even do it gently.
You're like, Hey, I know I don't want to be
the person to critics side whatever, but I feel like
I can help you in this moment. And you tell
them something and then they go, are you seriously giving
me advice right now? And I'm like, because you suck
(45:56):
at this and I'm good at you. Do you need
me to spell that part out too? Like that's not
what's happening. Here though, I think the other part if
the acknowledgment is like we're six months apart or something, Yeah.
Speaker 1 (46:07):
Well I'll pick a ball movese fast and it's only
been around for approximately three months, so right, Yeah, I
don't know. I guess. On the other hand, I do think, like,
you know, if you're going to play a competitive thing,
you got to realize people are going to be competitive.
If you're going to be gotta be a little open
to it. It can be a way for people to connect.
I mean, this is another thing I've realized. Sometimes people
(46:29):
are just shitty at connecting and that's what they're ultimately
trying to do. I don't think that applies to this,
but like in other context, and it's like sometimes you
got to just be like, oh yeah, I'll listen to
your bullshit because they're trying to be friends with you
and they might just be shit at Nope.
Speaker 2 (46:44):
I disagree with that. I mean I put it in
the context of like comedian and going to stand up mics,
and it's like going to a mic that it doesn't
serve you at all. People are giving you advice that
doesn't even like pertain to you, and then you're supposed
to just listen there no like I can go to
all mic that is better that I like more, that
doesn't annoy.
Speaker 1 (46:59):
Me and give me until I feel like you're talking
about the most toxic group of people. You're literally talking
about the mentors, the mentor.
Speaker 2 (47:07):
No, you're right, But also with this, like he can
leave and go find a different group to play with
that he likes playing with better, Like that's what you do.
You don't have to sit there and.
Speaker 1 (47:17):
Well, I just also feel like, I don't know, it's
just hard for me. It's the fact that he left
is hard for me. But A I t a for
walking off mid pickleball because my doubles partner wouldn't stop
coaching me. Ultimately, I do think Mike was being a dick,
and like I think we're having some factual dispute about
if he got left mid game. By the second game,
(47:37):
I was done, it does seem like he was gonna
be trapped with this guy for the whole day. So
I think I'll line up with you guys and say
nta and Mike is and y T all right, folks,
my jokes, that's the show. Thanks much for listening, and
we'll see you guys.
Speaker 3 (47:52):
Soon by
Hi, everybody. Welcome to the A Ta Pod. I'm Danny Vega,
joined by the old squad Radu and Carla. Hi all,
they're back, folks. It's good to see you guys. We're
vibing out, enjoying life. She Friday morning.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
It's Friday.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
It's Friday. Whoa no doing a thing today? So there's
a gym what's called an instructor gymnastics instructor that I
met over at our social club, and she got that
slack line. I was always been curious about that. You know.
They put this kind of like thing in between two trees. Okay,
And I bought a new toy.
Speaker 3 (00:45):
Would you buy?
Speaker 1 (00:46):
Well, it's it might be the most roastable product I own.
Now I bought. This is a real oxymoron for you.
I bought an electric unicycle.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Oh I saw that.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
Here's the kicker. It has two wheels, so technically it's
a bicycle, I guess, but yeah, the two Yeah, it's
a trainer. So the two wheels are next to each other,
so you still have to like balance on it, but
it's a lot easier. So it's like training wheels for
an electrics a seat.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
Why is it two wheels? Instead of one big wheel.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
Because it's like a trainer, so you learn the basic
skills on two wheels, you still have to balance because
they're close together, so it's kind of like one giant
wheel in a way.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
But then you remove a wheel.
Speaker 3 (01:30):
No, no, aingod question, good question.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
You're training to look like more of a clown a
real electric unicycle.
Speaker 3 (01:38):
You're training to have no more dignity as you're doing
your public transit.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
Exactly, exactly.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
I guess. I just wonder why it's two small wheels
instead of one big.
Speaker 1 (01:45):
Wheel, because two small wheels kindly two legs, so it
kind of balances too. Little skis also.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
Already has one big wheel, so he got more to that.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Well, the one wheel is like a snowboard and the
one wheel is self balance. It's boring, but basically the
one wheels easier. That's all you really need to know.
Oh interesting, we're gonna ride that shit at the park.
You guys are welcome to come with cool I got
a cooler with some fucking costco seltzer. Whoa, whoa, Yeah,
I'm trying to I'm trying to get it.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
Shoot your shot.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
But yeah, my other update is I went, I went
and I rode a bicycle. Okay, this electric bicycle over
there by the La River, the saddest river known to man.
Great path, it's really the La Canal. It is a
great path. And yeah, they're like free coffee if you
ride our electric bicycle. And this thing weighs one hundred
and sixty pounds and it goes sixty miles an hour.
(02:38):
And I was like, yeah, I guess. And so you
had to wear a motorcycle helmet and then you have
team chat Onyx motorcycles. I guess I'll promote them. Why not?
They're cool and you so you could chat while we're
on the bikes. Sure, but yeah with other people on bikes. Yeah,
so the owner whatever like took me out and like
I'm literally like okay, so I literally leave my one
without the store. And then next thing I know, I'm
(03:00):
like riding on a big surface street going fifty miles
an hour on a bicycle. You and him, yeah, and
I'm following him and he's like having full and I'm
like yeah, bro, but it's like kind of crazy because
you're going fifty miles per hour on a bike. Yeah,
So thank god I'm not big dead.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
But was this Spoke Bicycles where they did that.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
It's near that Okay. I actually went to Spoke to
buy an acoustic bicycle and They're like, we don't sell
bikes and I was like, fuck me.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
You're called a bike shop on yep, how dare they
do repairs?
Speaker 1 (03:32):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (03:33):
What is an acoustic bicycle?
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (03:36):
Okay, okay bike?
Speaker 1 (03:38):
Yeah, so anyway, those are my little.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
Adventure John Mayer's bike. That's what it is.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
That's cute. But yeah, that's that's the update. Are we
gonna jump right into this bad boy? You got anything
else going on? A juice any drama? I'm back on
hinge people I did, I could get kicked off. I
bought as you're not supposed to join once you get banned.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
But wait so you got banned?
Speaker 1 (04:00):
Yeah? I got banned because of my video. Oh yeah,
I remember the fake out video. It's like, no blue
haired girls, no tattoo girls, no girls to talk to
their parents every day. No girls are dm ing me
right now? But you should him said band fuck you.
I said, I got a burner number. You can't stop me.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
Back on New Picks.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
Carlo's at one of the picks, I use the foil
pick with your beauty.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
Your profile.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
I'm not on your profile.
Speaker 2 (04:25):
Oh yeah, that's a great pick.
Speaker 1 (04:26):
Actually, I got a couple of matches. I'm like, maybe
i'm better looking now, lost a couple pounds.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
They're like, but who's that girl in green?
Speaker 1 (04:33):
Who's that's good? Cola got a picture of jess raw
Du pretending to be him on an old profile. Yeah,
that's killing.
Speaker 3 (04:41):
Actually, yeah, I'm gonna get a lot of older folks.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
I didn't have a lot of luck on Hinge. I'm
not gonna lie. I mean, I just feel like apps
are money pits now. It's like they are. There's paywalls,
it's you really want to see you who likes you?
Pay twenty five dollars a week. It's like, your literal
app is supposed to be to match people. Why do
I have to pay you more to do that.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
I got a match in the first twenty four hours,
and that's crazy for me.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
I mean, I got matches, but they weren't people that
I was like, super like, plenty of people like me.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
I was just like, when I use Hinge before, I'd
maybe I'd swipe all week and I may get a
match every two weeks. So I was like guess who's
swimming in it now.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
Boys, get back to us in three weeks because they're
gonna stop feeding you those they like. I feel like
they drop the matches and oh I'm hot later.
Speaker 1 (05:30):
Now feed my delusion.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
I'm not saying you're unmatchable. I'm saying that Hinge is corruptible.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
They're all corrupt. No, but I've done them all. I've
done the hinge and done the bumble. I've done the
tender to get one match. I'm happy and she's no,
I got two matches. Oh my god, I forgot. I
had a conversation this morning. This girl is actually really cute,
but Lise really far. It's never gonna happen for us.
Where does she live ocean side? I was like, yeah,
I'm gonna take a Pacific surf liner for two hours
to see what you're like.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
Well, now you have in a unicycle cycling over there
for more reason to get one of those fucking extreme bikes.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
Bro, there's nothing like a ninety dollars uber to a
date that you know.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
Inside, I'd be lucky there.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
Now. I don't support them, but robot car.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
Yeah, so guys, Oh my god, this is such a
juicy little Epperino. Holy fuck our second story of the
day aik for bringing hazel nut coffee over. It's giving
horedit terry. Some of you know our we're relegating this.
I think it was on the bonus before. But yeah,
I want to see because we got we got our
(06:38):
little little leftist Cammie in the house where I do,
and I got I got to challenge a lot on this, Carla.
I don't know where you're gonna go on it, but
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a shed. My neighbor can see the back of it
over the fence. It's six over the fence almost two feet. Well,
that's almost a question. I got a new shed at Costco.
(08:29):
I put it in my backyard. Urban area townhouses, little
yards in the back, fenced in. I put my shed
against the fence, but it's taller than the fence. It's
sticking up and visible. He is my next door neighbor,
so we share a fence in the back. I put
the shed on the side of my yard with the
sheds back facing toward his backyard. It's about two feet
(08:49):
above the height of the fence, and it's five point
five feet wide, made of gray plastic. I did some
research today and found that I technically needed a permit
from the neighborhood to get any kind of structure sure,
which I didn't get. Never in a million years thought
a four by six shed from Costco would need a permit,
But it seems like I could easily get one retroactively
if needed. I'd rather not do it because it's paperwork
(09:11):
and inspection, but I will if I need to. My
neighbor saw me today on the street and said he'd
love me to do something about the shed. It's a
real eye sore. I told him we could put some
ivy on it if that help. I'm tempted to just
not accommodate him on this, basically tell him the pound
hand is that a dick? Move? Aa t A.
Speaker 3 (09:30):
It is so funny to use a term like pound
sand for something like.
Speaker 1 (09:35):
Just deal with the view sand.
Speaker 3 (09:37):
Oh you don't like rocks, you don't like the view
from my house, We'll go have sex with the dirt.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
Oh you think of it that way. I thought of
his making glass was not part of the glass. Pound
sand means pound yourself, go fuck the dirt.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
Oh, that's not what I took to see there. I
take a hike on the beach.
Speaker 3 (09:58):
Well, what are you doing on that hike? Fucking the rocks?
Speaker 1 (10:01):
It's true, Wow, pound sand. It's much better than It's
much cleaner.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
Way cleaner than put some sand in your head.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
I mean it's worse. I'd rather fuck myself than fuck sand.
Bro jesus Ooh some sand is soft.
Speaker 2 (10:16):
Yeah, I don't know. I feel like the whole thing.
Is that right? He needed a permit that he just ignored. Yeah,
that pisses me off, especially like I my friend just
moved to an Hoa. She was like, I would never
live I thought I'd never live in Hoa ever. Ever,
I don't want somebody to delegate what they what I
can and can't do with my property or whatever, which
(10:41):
none of our properties really ares anyways. But she moved there.
She loves it. She hasn't any issues. But part of
it is like the color she can paint her house,
like all this other stuff. So I can see how
I would be a pissed off neighbor if I was
being a good neighbor and I was trying to follow
the rules and I didn't have a shed because I
(11:04):
knew that I had to get a permit bobby blahity blah,
And then this motherfucker goes and gets a shed. But
if the neighbor's only worried about the eye sore of
it all, it's like it's two feet it's not.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
That much interesting. Okay, Rody, what's your initial take?
Speaker 3 (11:22):
Fuck? Neighbors live in the country.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
So much for leftism, folks. The right has won. He
lost for Rod dou people.
Speaker 3 (11:32):
I like living next to neighbors, but they like the
idea that your neighbor has any say over how your
life should work or whatever. Is insane. Unless I'm doing
something that extends onto your house or something, you know, whatever.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
It does, it's visible from the backyard. They have small backyards,
so now whenever they go outside, they got to look
at your fucking shed. Oh no, that's annoying.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
It's ugly, it is annoying. I just feel like two
feet is not that much. Like if it was like
it protrudes five six feet above the fence, that would
be like, okay, now there's a wall. But if it's
only two feet above the fence, it is like, grow
some fucking bamboo on your fence.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
It's an ice sore.
Speaker 3 (12:10):
If you got a permit. What could be done? If
you got a permit? They they just have to eat
it right. Well, first of all.
Speaker 1 (12:15):
From a kind of philosophy, a TA perspective, I'm gonna
make a couple arguments here. One is that I don't
think that disobeying in HOA automatically makes you an asshole,
and so I'm going to argue that that is not
gonna hurt his case.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
You don't think so, you don't think moving to an
HOA community and then ignoring the guidelines while everybody else
so base an asshole move.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
I think he found out and then he said it's
not a big deal, so he has to get the permit,
So kind of sounds like it is allowed. I don't
think you're an asshole because you didn't know the rule
and then you got to get a permit retroactively.
Speaker 3 (12:56):
Right.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
I think it's tough to ding on that, even though
I don't like ope and I have a much stronger perspective,
I'm like, you went, you went to Costco? Okay, Now,
from what we can tell, I think this is also
a very reasonable conclusion. This person bought this shed without
really thinking about it. Right, they went to fucking Costco,
which is not a shed store. They'll have a shed
(13:20):
to mass produce shed. I go to Costco a lot.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
They have everything, well, they.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
Have everything, but they don't usually have multiple of the
same thing. Maybe certain food items like Seltzers. No, not really,
they'll have a couple because the whole premise of Costco
is we're gonna sell you a fuck ton at once
because we made a deal with the manufacturer to sell
fuck tonight. So Costco doesn't have super specific shit. Costco
(13:45):
doesn't have vintage glass were true unless they think they
could sell a majillion of them, because that's the whole
premise of Costco.
Speaker 2 (13:51):
But they have sheds.
Speaker 1 (13:53):
But my point is the sheds that they're selling are
for any dick, Tom and Harry, Is that right?
Speaker 3 (13:59):
Is that the phrase dick here?
Speaker 1 (14:00):
Tom Dick and harre excuse me, sorry, sorry, tom uh
can get a good shed for their backyard, right arago.
I think it's reasonable that this shed is not really
made for an urban townhouse environment. It's just the shed
that Costco happened a half. Isn't that fair to say? Sure,
thank you? And this person went to Costco and they thought, oh,
(14:22):
go to shut, go to shut. They got the fucking shed.
It protrudes above the fence and they thought, oh good
note for me, and the neighbors said, well it looks bad,
and it's like, yeah, you could have just done one
second of research googled it possibly got a shed cheaper
or at a very reasonable close price, maybe a little
more expensive, and not created an iceore.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
True, Yeah, that's true for sure.
Speaker 1 (14:49):
My I feel like you guys agreed here like that
has no effect on.
Speaker 3 (14:52):
My standard for an ice sore is just so much smaller,
I guess than you know what I mean. I'm like,
it needs to be a swastika, it needs to be
a flag.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
Who says, but that's also really valid because I do
feel like for me this is an info thing, like
how big are the yards? I want to see what
you're But how far away is the house.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
It's very near sky.
Speaker 2 (15:16):
For instance, I'm still in this fucking apartment house search.
There was a place we really really liked, but one
of the bedrooms, because it was a first floor apartment,
one of the bedrooms, the neighbors put up a stupid
like pop up carport, shitty white plastic carport ten thing,
so that was the view out of one of the
bedrooms was literally a white tent.
Speaker 1 (15:38):
And it's like thoughtless.
Speaker 2 (15:40):
But I'm saying, if that house was further away and
there was space between the window and the tent where
I could at least see other things, it wouldn't be
as bad as it literally being up against the window.
Speaker 1 (15:50):
I just feel like this is the definition of an asshole.
Speaker 2 (15:53):
I wanted a thing, it wasn't considerate.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
He wasn't considerate. It honestly, doesn't even sound like he
considered the shed all that hard. He just got a
new shed, doesn't doesn't. There's no nothing here about how
the shed was so important and the shed is going
to cause solve some kind of vital problem, just like
I got shit on my property and if you don't
like it, it's mine. It's like, that's why we have
to have hoa's because people are very stubborn and they
(16:16):
want to do crazy, insane shit. And for me, this
is just textbook asshole. But my guest disagreed. That's why
we're relitigating this.
Speaker 3 (16:25):
Yeah, I mean I do believe in like some sense
of community stuff like if I'm making a noise that
bothers you, if I'm making a smell that bothers you
or whatever, But just having to look at something I
don't find that to be like, well, it's.
Speaker 1 (16:39):
Not enough a violation.
Speaker 3 (16:40):
What if you got two shit? I think if I'm
blocking out the sun, oh okay, yeah you understand. Like
if I'm like causing enough, like you can you can
be like, yeah, I once had a tremendous view and
now I don't sure. Yeah there's people that litigate each
other and sue and do whatever. Yeah, what were you
looking at? Another planned community? That suck? So now my
shed is maybe that worse for you?
Speaker 2 (17:02):
What two feet look like like this?
Speaker 1 (17:05):
Yeah, but that's not a lot. But you're gonna have
to constantly. I mean, for me, I'm just like, that's
what an asshole is. It's someone who instead of just
taking a little bit of thought, and just being like, oh,
it's good enough for me. It's just two feet. Well
it's like, yeah, it's two feet that annoys someone else,
Like why don't you spend two minutes and just see
if you can get a different shed? Like, aren't about it?
Speaker 2 (17:23):
But what if he did do his research and he
just chose to do that anyway, I doubt that.
Speaker 3 (17:28):
It'll make a lot of little sheds, Like you're just
kind of you're stuck with the minimum entry requirement or whatever.
So if his fence is small or something, everything's going
to be an ice.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
I feel like he could have looked into alternate solutions,
maybe not a full blown shed, but a little fucking
and what are those things called?
Speaker 2 (17:44):
He's saying it's four feet tall shit.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
Five point five feet wide, and then he says four
by six, so I guess it's five point five by
four by six.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
So forth.
Speaker 1 (17:52):
So it's six feet tall, five point five feet wide,
and four feet deep.
Speaker 3 (17:56):
A six foot shit is so small?
Speaker 2 (17:58):
Yeah, that's really not like the fence needs to be taller.
Speaker 3 (18:01):
What's the what's the shed for? You got to jerk
off somewhere when your wife's mad.
Speaker 1 (18:05):
Could just be storage, which is valid and so he
can hoard his bullshit and ruin my fucking view. I
just feel like this is the mark of an asshole
for me, and nobody agrees with me.
Speaker 3 (18:16):
There's things you're allowed to do in your yard. If like,
let's say he had kids. You see you put up
a trampoline which has high netting. You know what I mean. Yeah,
it doesn't create as much of a nice story as.
Speaker 1 (18:25):
See that, but even that is high net trampoline. I
think they create more of an ice.
Speaker 3 (18:31):
Maybe, but it's you can kind of see through it
a little bit sometimes. I see that.
Speaker 1 (18:34):
To me would be more like, bro, I got two kids.
They're begging me a trampoline. You know, it's not against
any rules. My neighbors don't like it, but I'm like,
those are my kids. I'd be like, see, to me,
that's a tough call, but they're your kids, and that's
technically then the rules and their kids and they want
to trebling. Kids love trampolines. They're gonna benefit from that
every day. That to me is an argument. But to
me to be just like I got a shed and
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I like it and I need it and I'm done,
I'm like, that's yes, you are an asshole.
Speaker 2 (18:59):
But you don't know that. He just doesn't give it
more information.
Speaker 1 (19:02):
I don't think it's info. I think there's no reason
to think that they put any thought into it because
they went to Costco. If they went to if they
said a single line of like, this is the perfect
shed to get a shed that's this size, nobody makes
small sheds, it would cost twice as much. I'd be
on their side. But they got nothing like that.
Speaker 3 (19:19):
He's got a lot of the Costco shopper mentality.
Speaker 2 (19:22):
I know. I'm not in.
Speaker 3 (19:23):
It's been in there long enough to know what these
people are like. I have a Costco carb, but I
couldn't tell you anything about Costco people.
Speaker 2 (19:31):
Oh, Costco people are hard.
Speaker 3 (19:33):
I don't understand it.
Speaker 1 (19:35):
I really do love me a Costco order.
Speaker 3 (19:38):
That's what you're supposed to be dating, right, if you're like,
get off the apps and just hang.
Speaker 2 (19:42):
Out families there it's all.
Speaker 3 (19:44):
Families, and then fifteen percent people hoping to be in families,
but they're not yet, and they're already they're already living
like they're in families. So go out there and date
the fucking scary broads.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
They say you should go to the grocery store at
eight am on a Saturday, and those are the healthy
people there.
Speaker 1 (20:00):
You go. Yeah, health shed does not block any light.
The yards are not.
Speaker 2 (20:04):
Huge, it doesn't block any light.
Speaker 1 (20:10):
Wow, he got downloaded to oblivion. Redd It didn't like him,
But my guests are on his side.
Speaker 3 (20:14):
So weird.
Speaker 1 (20:14):
I don't understand how this.
Speaker 2 (20:16):
Here's the thing. I feel like if he was like
it was seven feet tall, like if it was more
of a nuisance, I would be like, that's fucked up.
But it's two feet it's too fucking over the fence.
Speaker 1 (20:31):
That's aesthetic such as It's not the lack of a
permit that makes you an asshole. You said you could
do the paper where and get the permit. It's the
attitude of wanting to tell your neighbor to pounce sand
if your neighbor had something sticking up in his yard
that you thought was ugly, when you wanted to try
to accommodate you and make it less of an eyesore,
stopping an asshole, and work collectively on a solution, make
life better for those around you, not worse.
Speaker 2 (20:52):
I agree with that.
Speaker 1 (20:53):
Oh, he responds, You're right, this is probably the advice
I needed. He has a history of being a pain
in the ass. Last year, I was doing substruction asked
if I could run an extension cord through his yard
bias fence for around six feet. He never goes out there,
and he said, no, bro, you want to run an
extension cord through my yard around six feet because I
never go out No, I don't want an ugly extension card. Oh,
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it's just an extentsion cord. No, like temporary, it's for
a construction destructure.
Speaker 3 (21:21):
So you so you are?
Speaker 2 (21:24):
You want me to accommodate the extension cord.
Speaker 3 (21:26):
You want me to accommodate your eyes, But you won't
let me run my electricity through your yard.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
For If it was a day, I'd be like, yeah,
of course, for a day, who cares. But it's construction
that takes months. But care you could run your cord
through my fucking yard. Now, see to me, that's unreasonable.
You're asking me to do something for months.
Speaker 3 (21:46):
It could be three hours. He's nobody knows how construction.
Speaker 2 (21:51):
The construction company regardless.
Speaker 1 (21:53):
But I don't want a chord in my yard. That's
not a solution.
Speaker 3 (21:57):
If it's a we don't we don't know how long
is it's construction. There you can do a half day remodel.
There are things you can half day remodel. You work construction. No,
that's right, you're not Mexican.
Speaker 1 (22:08):
I've never everyone agrees with me except guess negative.
Speaker 2 (22:13):
Oop is reaching his brain.
Speaker 1 (22:15):
That got negative. Yeah, no, he's fully right till now
he's got negative two hundred and forty votes on that.
Speaker 3 (22:20):
But yeah, you know, no, that's insane to me. If
a neighbor's like even if a neighbor's like, yo, I
have a month of construction, run your thing. Fine, sorry,
because I'm gonna ask a month.
Speaker 1 (22:30):
You're gonna run a cord in my yard. You don't
got an outlet, you can't do an extension cord.
Speaker 3 (22:35):
You can't run a small urban environment where there's condos
or whatever. Who knows.
Speaker 1 (22:39):
I'm like, I feel like you can figure out a
better solution. I need to use the neighbor's power us.
You're running a chord.
Speaker 3 (22:48):
It's weird.
Speaker 2 (22:49):
I don't think it's weird. I think that the neighbor
has every right to say yes or no, like that's
their choice. But it doesn't seem very bothersome to just
let someone run a chord. That's like me asking a
can I run an extension cord along this wall right here?
That's not that's not a huge thing.
Speaker 3 (23:07):
I do feel like they're not giving us the time,
so we're stuck on like who knows if it's a day,
if it's a month, if it's whatever.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
Well that's the other thing. Though you could say yeah, sure,
and then two weeks later, if you're bothered by it,
you'd be like, hey, actually, I would prefer if you
didn't do that anymore.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
I think I would say if somebody said can I
run a chord and do a weird thing? I'd be like,
what's your problem? Like why don't we talk about what
you're trying to do here? Because that just seems like
a weird solution, And why would I have to have
a cord in my yard?
Speaker 2 (23:31):
I mean, being in production, I've definitely been in situations
where even at the co working space, we have like
plugs everywhere now, but a lot of times you have
to be like, hey, can I like put this under
the I'm going under the table to put this thing
in between your legs.
Speaker 1 (23:46):
But for construction, it's kind of like, yeah, you're going
to hire people professionals and I'm supposed to just it's strange.
It's unusual as far as I know. But look, I
do agree that it could be accommodated with some reasoning.
Speaker 2 (23:59):
What do they say? The price of community is annoyance.
Speaker 1 (24:01):
That's what we're saying. Ata I got a shed. My
neighbor can see the back of it over the fence
and sticks over the fence almost two feet. I feel
like they do have history which we uncovered, and I
just feel like this is an attitude that is stupid,
and I think it's assholeish to be like, oh whatever.
It's like, dude, the one people, the group of people
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you want to be on your in your graces are
the people that are close to you every single day.
Why why wouldn't you take the time defense?
Speaker 2 (24:32):
The guy isn't giving him grace either.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
Yeah, I feel like the extension court ask was a
completely different thing.
Speaker 2 (24:38):
Well, he also said that he's been an issue to
other people and in the neighborhood in general. Didn't you
say that, I don't remember in the comments said no,
that's no, No, that's.
Speaker 1 (24:47):
What that's not what I is that when you said.
Speaker 2 (24:49):
No, Op responded to that comment and said the whole
thing about the extension court is that he's been an
issue in general or something like that.
Speaker 1 (24:58):
I don't think that's what I said.
Speaker 2 (25:00):
I'm saying that's what you read.
Speaker 1 (25:01):
I don't think that's what I read.
Speaker 2 (25:03):
Read the comment again and finding.
Speaker 1 (25:05):
It for the record. It isn't overhanging onto his property.
It's all on my property. I didn't know I needed
a permit. The shed doesn't block any light. No, this
is probably the advice I need that one. Yeah, he
has a history of being a pain in the ass. Boom,
yeah to him, doesn't say anything about other people. Last
year I was doing construction, ask so I could run
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a court. There's nothing about other people.
Speaker 2 (25:28):
History of being a pain in the ass. Says in
general to me.
Speaker 3 (25:33):
Yeah, I don't know why. Why would you accommodate someone
if you're like, you know what, they don't care about
me any capacity. But let me make sure I'm going
to go return my shed because they said they don't
like how it looks.
Speaker 1 (25:43):
I don't feel like these are equal asks.
Speaker 2 (25:46):
They're not equal ass.
Speaker 3 (25:48):
But one is like where they're just showing you this
person is not going to do anything to accommodate you.
And but but they do want to be accommodated at
all times. Why community is still built.
Speaker 1 (25:59):
On the new information and the fact that the chord
thing couldn't have been at least a conversation. I would
have a conversation over there. You to have a conversation
if it was like, literally, there is no way we
can do this that's reasonable except to run a chord.
And then I'd be like, fine, we can run the
fucking chord. But it does feel like one of those
things where it's like, well, if we ran a chord
over the neighbor's place, we could save thirty nine dollars.
Speaker 3 (26:22):
It's like, I don't think it's no, no, no. If
you're asking a neighbor, we just have to clear this up.
If you're asking a neighbor to run an extension court
through their yard, it's because you have to. You're not
as we're not doing it to save money.
Speaker 1 (26:33):
You are not doing it to I want to know more.
Do it?
Speaker 3 (26:36):
But you know you're being unreasonable.
Speaker 1 (26:38):
You know this excuse you. They still did the construction, well, sure,
but it could have been a huge pain. You know,
if you're asking to say it and they had every
reason to say it, I.
Speaker 3 (26:49):
Think it's assumed. I think if it's like if I
had to go ask a neighbor for this unreasonable thing
it had to happen.
Speaker 1 (26:54):
Can we meet it? Can we meet it? Everyone sucks here?
Speaker 3 (26:56):
No?
Speaker 2 (26:56):
Sure, No great, I'll meet you at everyone so I do.
I don't like the way he said the whole pound
sand thing. I think you could still like, not like someone.
Speaker 1 (27:03):
I think the other neighbor, I'm sorry, I think might
be an asshole too. On cord Gate. I'll give you
that it should have been at least a conversation. It
seems like it wasn't.
Speaker 3 (27:10):
Seems like it was like, nope, right, if my shed
says death to America or something on it, you have
a lot of rights to.
Speaker 1 (27:17):
Tell you're at not the asshole in the neighbor. Is
the neighbor's the asshole? Completely all right? At least I
brought Carla over after a fucking narging with so many
goddamn people on wasting my life. Aita for bringing hazel
nut coffee over. I eighteen f bought coffee before going
over to my friend eighteen m's house for a study Sash.
He and my boyfriend eighteen were already there. After a while,
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I got up to go to the toilet. Well, my
back was turned my friend's little sister ate who was
allergic to hazel and that tried to drink my coffee.
I knew because my boyfriend, who knows how I like
my coffee, yelled, you can't have that, making me turn
around right when she put it back on the table.
When I explained to her that the coffee has hazel,
not my friend got very upset, saying I shouldn't bring
over something that could endanger her. I just didn't think
what happened, since she's always asked before eating of my
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sweets and candies a TA so her, have you get
seen hereditary?
Speaker 2 (28:08):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (28:09):
Yeah, no, no, you gotta see it.
Speaker 2 (28:12):
Yeah. I don't think you have to, but are you
kidding me?
Speaker 1 (28:17):
You should? Rune of all people should see it anyway.
Speaker 2 (28:19):
Look, yeah, I think you would like it. Yeah, until
you don't.
Speaker 1 (28:24):
Yeah. I think this one's interesting because we talk a
lot about allergies and when it comes. If this was
an adult, I'd be like, go fuck yourself dot org slash, seriously,
fuck yourself, pound sand. But I'm not talking about an adult.
We're talking about an eight year old.
Speaker 2 (28:40):
Eight is old enough.
Speaker 1 (28:42):
Eight is old enough.
Speaker 2 (28:44):
I would say that eight is old enough to know
that you shouldn't just go around drinking things and eating
things out of other people's cups and plates. That's fairal I.
Speaker 1 (28:53):
I, I just don't agree with it. I don't know
what eight's old enough for.
Speaker 3 (28:59):
I was the second grade rose eight.
Speaker 1 (29:00):
If I was drinking better second grade?
Speaker 3 (29:03):
Yeah, if I was drinking, if I was drinking out
of adults cups at that age or whatever, someone would
have punched me in the face. Yeah, that's how I
grew up.
Speaker 1 (29:12):
Well, No, that's not what was that. That's not what
was said here.
Speaker 2 (29:15):
You don't just go drinking people's things and then get.
Speaker 3 (29:18):
Mad at them because maybe they poisoned me. Yeah, in
a delicious treat.
Speaker 1 (29:23):
When I don't see that. She drank from op's cup.
Speaker 2 (29:28):
So she tried to No, that's what you said.
Speaker 1 (29:31):
Tried to tried to drink my coffee, is what they said. Well,
it's possible that she would have used the coffee maker.
I could also it sounds like she brought it.
Speaker 3 (29:41):
She brought a coffee.
Speaker 2 (29:43):
She's a coffee from a coffee.
Speaker 1 (29:45):
Bought coffee before going over to my friend's house for
a study session. Okay, yeah, no, Okay, my bad, all right,
So I misunderstood it. I read it as she brought
the beans over there.
Speaker 2 (29:57):
That would be crazy.
Speaker 3 (29:58):
That would be tons of eight old.
Speaker 1 (30:01):
Enough to know that you can't drink from a cup
of someone's coffee.
Speaker 2 (30:05):
Yes, yeah, and also just not like my niece just
turned seven in June. And maybe it's just the way
people are raised, but I feel like even me being
her aunt, she wouldn't just drink out of my cup
out of nowhere. She would be like, can I try that?
Or what are you drinking? Like, she wouldn't just like
grab someone's cup and drink it. Yeah, that's weird, and
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that's like that's like a sign of like bad parenting.
I think that kids can also be kids and like
do kids little things. I think eating something maybe is
a little different. Yeah, like if you have a plate
that's open, it's like that'd be different.
Speaker 1 (30:43):
Okay, So okay, so that that's kind of what I
initially pictured the coffee.
Speaker 3 (30:46):
That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (30:47):
That would I think great. I think if we can
hit that point, I could be happy. That would be
a huge pro If you brought over like a plate
of brownies with that syrup and then you put a master.
Speaker 2 (30:58):
Yeah, that would be so fucked up.
Speaker 1 (31:00):
That would be fucked up.
Speaker 2 (31:01):
That would be so fucked up.
Speaker 1 (31:02):
Yeah, don't do that to a fucking eight year old.
Speaker 2 (31:04):
Yeah, okay, good, but he is plenty old enough. My
other thing is if she has a severe allergy, she
should also know better than to like just be drinking
willy nilly.
Speaker 3 (31:16):
I had to double strike for this little bastard girl, little.
Speaker 1 (31:20):
Bastard eight year old. Yeah, it does seem a little wild.
I mean, I guess, I don't know. I do feel
like eight is pretty young. I don't I don't know
any kids, so I have no idea what an eight
year old acts like.
Speaker 2 (31:34):
But I guess, and I think all eight year olds
act differently. I don't think everyone is my niece, who's
very well behaved.
Speaker 1 (31:39):
As I know, an eight year old is a little baby.
Speaker 3 (31:44):
One hundred years ago, eight year old was the age
of employment. Do you understand fact? I think it is true, absolutely,
But went up to Sinclaire's right in the jungle or whatever,
they are eight eight year old's losing their fingers and
meat processing plants left and right. They're eight year olds,
and the coal mines there. In fact and a different time,
there are entire books talking about how like there are
child laborers that are way more effective at working in
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minds and whatever do that smaller breathing capacity.
Speaker 1 (32:08):
Right, it's what we all saw snowpier Serer. You see Snowpierser. No,
what is that ruin the whole movie?
Speaker 3 (32:13):
I love child the movie.
Speaker 1 (32:14):
Yeah, they make a show.
Speaker 2 (32:16):
Yeah, I didn't watch the show.
Speaker 1 (32:18):
It's about capitalism. You would love ye, And yeah, there
is child labor and it's pretty brilliant. Anyway, Look, I
think we agree on this, and I don't know about
how kids work in their ages and whatnot. I guess
I do feel like if you're gonna bring the stuff
that kills the kid and they are a kid, I
do feel like you can be like, hey, just let
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you know, this is hazelnut, so be careful, doesn't get
on your skin. I don't know, just but if it's not.
Speaker 2 (32:44):
Your like sibling, that's maybe not the first thing you think.
Speaker 1 (32:46):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (32:47):
Yeah, I feel like you could be more exactly, you
could be like way more thoughtful and be like, well,
maybe I just shouldn't bring it at all.
Speaker 1 (32:53):
But like also just like safety first. It just because
they are eight your brain's on fullyda Belle. They can
be impulsive.
Speaker 2 (33:01):
We can on the eighteen year old's brain isn't fulidivios.
Speaker 1 (33:03):
We can all be impulsive. I'll tell you what I did.
I put my fucking fingertips on the pressure cooker, got
a little little finger burn, fucking sucked her for like
three hours.
Speaker 2 (33:12):
Low key. Sometimes you got to touch the stove to
know that it burns.
Speaker 3 (33:15):
Did it look fun to touch?
Speaker 1 (33:16):
And you really don't have to know what some people do.
Speaker 2 (33:19):
Some kids do need to touch the stove to see
that it burns, because you can tell them over and
over again, that's hot, that's hot, that's hot. Now it's
not exactly now it's not act karla or not even
that though it's not. It's just.
Speaker 3 (33:35):
What were you doing? Were're just trying to prove to
yourself you don't feel pain.
Speaker 1 (33:38):
It's really convoluted. But now, I didn't think it would
be that hot because it was on keep warm, Oh
instant pot, I'm suing you because warm. It's not one
hundred and forty degrees you sick fox?
Speaker 2 (33:50):
Was it like freshly on? Keep warm?
Speaker 3 (33:53):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (33:53):
So keep hot, keep warm, means food safe.
Speaker 2 (33:56):
Yeah, but not after it was just on hot.
Speaker 1 (33:59):
No, it wasn't on hot. Keep warm means food stating.
Speaker 2 (34:01):
I know what was on high and then you changed
to keep warm.
Speaker 3 (34:04):
No, no, it was on cold.
Speaker 1 (34:06):
Trust me, I'm extremely familiar with how instant pots work
because I was trying to use one as a proofing
machine to make my sour dough fucking consistent. Whoa fucking
sour dough, evil fucking bread that I'm obsessed with.
Speaker 2 (34:19):
It has sour in the name.
Speaker 1 (34:21):
Yeah, does that make sense? Sour? Oh, it's being sour.
I know she's such a She's such a I love
what I have to explain it A t ever bringing
handel in a coffee over. I think we agree.
Speaker 3 (34:34):
It's no.
Speaker 1 (34:38):
All right, guys. I don't know if we've done this before,
but I even texted some pickleballers about this. It's our
big pickleball situation. Whoa A I t a for walking
off mid pickleball game because my doubles partner wouldn't stop
coaching me. I thirty four am play a lot of pickleball.
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It's my thing. I've got a regular group. We mess around,
keep it competitive, but you'll I went to this open
play thing. Last weekend, got paired with some dude let's
call him Mike for doubles, never played with them before.
First few points are fine, but then he starts with
the tips like ooh, you should have dinked that, or ooh,
try stepping in more on your serf, or you're crowding
the net a little. Every single point. I'm like, bro,
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it's not a clinic. I actually told him I'm good, bro,
just not to sound rude. He says, totally, but he
kept doing it. By the second game, I was done.
I grabbed my stuff and left. No drama, just got
up and left. Now people at the courts are saying
I was overreacting and that he was just being helpful. IDK.
I feel like he killed the whole vibe and made
it weird. Maybe I could have sucked it up, but
honestly just ruined the fun aita.
Speaker 2 (35:45):
No, nobody likes unsolicited advice, especially from strangers. If it
was your partner or something, it'd be like, okay, like
I'm familiar with this person, maybe I can like respect
them and take the bits. But like a complete stranger,
like one or two times here is fine. But every
single point is overkill.
Speaker 1 (36:06):
Over every single point is It's ridiculous.
Speaker 2 (36:09):
That's ridiculous.
Speaker 3 (36:11):
I would be after four of those, I would start
be like, hey, man, you're going bald. I started doing
back at them, Hey you should wear better shoes. You
thought about you need a better response to the ATA
I do, are you?
Speaker 1 (36:31):
Yeah, it's.
Speaker 2 (36:33):
Nothing about pickleball is chill. I refuse to believe that
this was a chill environment.
Speaker 1 (36:37):
Pickleballers people get into it.
Speaker 2 (36:39):
Man, they're two into way.
Speaker 1 (36:41):
It's really and there's nothing funnier than me and someone
taking it serious whiffleball.
Speaker 3 (36:46):
Seriously, if I can give you any advice, brother, you're
gonna want to hit the pickle part of the ball first.
Speaker 1 (36:51):
I've done this. I played pickleball and it was in
my dad's old folks community and shocker, old Arizona people.
Right where you're going, I'm like, what am I doing?
I'm trying to have fun with you. Fucking it, You're
gonna be dead and not fun.
Speaker 2 (37:04):
Pickball is not I do think.
Speaker 1 (37:06):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (37:07):
It's hard for me.
Speaker 1 (37:09):
It's a little hard for.
Speaker 2 (37:10):
Me because my other thing is this person isn't like
a new pickleballer. Right when I went to go play
pickleball for my first time my friend. We played with
like random people, and then I paired up with this
other guy and he was giving me tips and I
was like, cool, I've never played before, happily taking these
tips because I don't know anything. This person plays a lot.
So it's just insulting for your own partner to be
like you should have done this. It's like, that's not
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helpful because I actually do know what I'm doing, and
sometimes you just don't do the right thing. Like everybody
can always do something better. That doesn't that's not helpful.
Speaker 1 (37:43):
Yeah, I mean for these it just does feel a
little bit like I don't really love these notes. I
feel like rule based notes are legitimate.
Speaker 2 (37:54):
Totally right right across the line.
Speaker 1 (37:57):
Yeah, like you might not want to stand there because
I could be we could lose a point because of that.
But saying like you should have dinked that, I'm like, oh, well, thanks,
I guess I should have done something different, thank you.
Oh yeah it didn't work out. You're so helpful anyway.
I texted my dad, who loves pickle ball as established.
He said, it's borderline as far as walking off like that,
(38:17):
that makes him the asshole. I think you should have
made it clear to the partner, Hey, if you do
that one more time, I'm out of here. Not only that,
but I would say it's so loud the opponent's also
hurt it that way. If he walks out, then everyone
knows who the real.
Speaker 3 (38:29):
Asshole, right, right, right? But that's posturing. There's a posturing
there where you're like, I don't want to be seen
as the asshole. Yeah, there's another part component entirely where
you're like, I don't want to make I don't want
to bring everyone into my thing. I have a problem
with this person. They're just directing it at me, whether
or not anyone. Because then then it really becomes of like, oh,
now I've soured the mood for everybody. This one person's thing.
(38:52):
I've turned it into like I'm clearly upset and I'm leaving.
Keep your mouth shutt and go. It's fine. Yeah, I
think it's totally fine.
Speaker 2 (38:59):
You owe nothing to these peop but you don't even
know them.
Speaker 1 (39:01):
The fact that they get to say that's fey, that's
not a great you're saying. Just deal with that. It's
just one guy. Play the game out, don't.
Speaker 3 (39:09):
Know not play the game. No, if you want to leave,
if you want to grab yourself, please, that's better than
making a big show leave.
Speaker 2 (39:17):
I don't think it's dramatic. I think he tried to
stay and deal with it. And then it's like if
I'm somebody calling out your every move when you're just
trying to have fun and now you're being coached by
someone that's looking annoying.
Speaker 1 (39:28):
I don't know it was a thirty four year old man.
I'm like, something you would be annoying.
Speaker 2 (39:34):
I'd be like, yeah, stop, that's what I'm saying. So
leaving if you're annoyed is like, I literally owe this
person nothing. Why am I going to stay in the
situation that's annoying.
Speaker 1 (39:42):
In the game for everyone? Just finish the game.
Speaker 2 (39:46):
Tons of people there can sub in.
Speaker 3 (39:48):
There might be, but I'll tell you this, I would
make it way. If I'm sitting there and this guy
won't stop, I'm going to make it way worse.
Speaker 2 (39:55):
I'd also be like time to switch teams.
Speaker 3 (39:58):
Potentially you can't do that.
Speaker 1 (39:59):
There's there's some structure with it. Anyway. I texted Drew
the Mailbox Roaster. He said, these guys are both assholes.
Thirty four M try thirty four l loser. Don't let
him get to you. Gotta let the guy be a
dick and finish. He should read the stoics. He let
it ruin the game for him and then ruin the
game for the other side. I also suspect he was
(40:22):
playing bad. Yeah, I think the other guy might have
been better. And guys can do this, which tries me nuts.
Speaker 3 (40:28):
Absolutely.
Speaker 1 (40:29):
It's like, yeah, I mean unsolicited advice. It's like fucking annoying.
Speaker 3 (40:33):
Here's the real thing. You could tell one of them
was better pickleball, but the guy that was giving advice
clearly wasn't amazing, because if he was, he would have
just sucked it up and been like, I'll eat up
the difference and win this game.
Speaker 1 (40:43):
Yeah. Well, that's the thing with Double's pickleball that he
just hit to the weaker player. Classic strategy. I don't know.
Speaker 2 (40:50):
I've been playing tennis with a group of people on
Monday nights.
Speaker 1 (40:53):
Dubs are singles.
Speaker 2 (40:55):
We do like a mix of the two, but usually
it's like singles or two on one. I forget what it's.
Speaker 1 (41:01):
Called word kinky tennis.
Speaker 2 (41:04):
Yeah, yeah, what we do the elimination, So it's usually
one on one. Anyways, all is to say, I've been
going last few weeks and all the people there are
significantly better than me, right, And so I get a
little intimidated because then I have all this pressure and
then I actually do worse because I'm trying to do
better and blah blah blah. It's been four weeks. This
last time that I went, I was doing the one
(41:24):
on one with this guy. He came to my Variety show.
We've like become friends since, like acquaintance friends, And after
our one on one, he was like, hey, we've been
playing for a little while. I was one like, I'm
not want to give unsolicited advice, but like, I've been
watching you play the last few weeks, and I was
wondering if I could like give you a couple of
(41:45):
tips on how to improve your game. And I was
like absolutely yes, Like I wish you didn't wait four
weeks to do that, you know what I mean. But
would it have been helpful to me in my progression
in tennis if every time I hit the ball, he's like,
you should have done this, you should have done that.
That's not a productive way to help somebody. And I
appreciate it, and we literally sat there and went over
(42:06):
like a couple of techniques and then I literally improved
within the next five minutes.
Speaker 1 (42:11):
Fucking Carla Fetter over here.
Speaker 3 (42:14):
Yeah, oh that's time and place. Though it sounds like
it's someone trying to do that if they were playing
doubles with you in the middle of you know, right, it.
Speaker 2 (42:21):
Would just frustrate me because you're focused on everything that
I could be doing differently, and now I'm in my
head and.
Speaker 3 (42:26):
Now and you're in a situation where you're even kind
of welcoming advice. Imagine if you're like, well, the difference
between us is not that much larger, but this other
person won't shut the fuck. Yeah, clearly you need to
win so bad, or you need this thing to go
your way or us to have a chance at winning,
but you are going to disrupt whatever community standard and
be like, you know, it's better if you play nearer
(42:46):
the net. I'm like, yeah, again, if someoney that to
me more than four times, I would make up trauma
that happened to me to try, like, you know, every
family member I had molested me, that's why, Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2 (42:57):
But I also feel like it's an ego thing right,
And I feel like sometimes you know, you were supposed
to do something different. So it's annoying when someone says
you should have done this thing and it's like, yeah, no,
I just didn't do it.
Speaker 3 (43:07):
I know, I'm a fuck yeah, I just you.
Speaker 1 (43:10):
Know what this happened to mean? I forgot I did this.
There's an indoor pickleball place in Glendo. I wrote my
one wheel there. I know, ladies, I am single, and
uh yeah. I played it this guy who was very
self serious the same thing open play, and I remember
I took his notes and I was like, fair enough,
he was clearly better than me. But every time he
missed a shot, I was like, you fuck it right.
(43:30):
It does make you dislike the person when it's unsolicited. Yeah,
you just be like, hey, can I throw you a
tip real quick? Like that's super fair, and like, you know,
I think you got to respect the other person. And ultimately,
even though I do think the guy should have finished
the game, it's like it's obnoxious, like guys have to
work on this. The gym. Guys like, just like how
hard does it? Just asked permission?
Speaker 2 (43:52):
Yeah, and I don't even think he left mid game.
It says by the second game, I was done, So
it seems like he left between games. He didn't storm
off in the middle of the game.
Speaker 3 (44:00):
He just was like, I'm not for an out and
then he was like I'm grabbing my shit.
Speaker 1 (44:03):
Go yeah, yeah, yeah. I think I think I am
going to ultimately say that, like it's like we need
to do the government needs to do a PSA. It's
not going to happen in this administration, but it's just
like PSA administratorly because you know what I think, I
think it is true. I think a lot of guys,
like in the gym you got the gym bros, you
(44:23):
got the pickleball bros. There often is a knowledgeable bro.
But I think what a lot of the bros don't
realize is like when when people lose confidence and they
lose fun, that is more harmful to them than knowledge
or skills or information. So just creating that bridge, you're like, hey,
can I actually offer you a tip, and just showing
that you are willing to consider that and like show
(44:46):
them some like consent or like consideration that's going to
actually open them up, maintain the fun, create a good
vibe where we're all on the same team. And actually
make your advice be that much more successful if they're
willing to take. Yeah, that's what we need a PSA for.
Speaker 2 (45:02):
I agree. That's parent that's literally good parenting. It's when
you don't keep picking out the problematic things. Oh you
should have done that, Oh you should have done that,
or you should have done that makes somebody feel incompetent
not empowered.
Speaker 1 (45:16):
Sure, feelings are. Feelings are part of it, you know,
like emotions are part of it managing coaching, like you
need people to feel confident and good otherwise they suck.
They be sucking maybe sucking. Duok, Sorry why Carla why?
Speaker 3 (45:35):
I've also been on the other side of me that,
where you're like, you are the person that could offer
someone incredible un solicited advice, and you even do it gently.
You're like, Hey, I know I don't want to be
the person to critics side whatever, but I feel like
I can help you in this moment. And you tell
them something and then they go, are you seriously giving
me advice right now? And I'm like, because you suck
(45:56):
at this and I'm good at you. Do you need
me to spell that part out too? Like that's not
what's happening. Here though, I think the other part if
the acknowledgment is like we're six months apart or something, Yeah.
Speaker 1 (46:07):
Well I'll pick a ball movese fast and it's only
been around for approximately three months, so right, Yeah, I
don't know. I guess. On the other hand, I do think, like,
you know, if you're going to play a competitive thing,
you got to realize people are going to be competitive.
If you're going to be gotta be a little open
to it. It can be a way for people to connect.
I mean, this is another thing I've realized. Sometimes people
(46:29):
are just shitty at connecting and that's what they're ultimately
trying to do. I don't think that applies to this,
but like in other context, and it's like sometimes you
got to just be like, oh yeah, I'll listen to
your bullshit because they're trying to be friends with you
and they might just be shit at Nope.
Speaker 2 (46:44):
I disagree with that. I mean I put it in
the context of like comedian and going to stand up mics,
and it's like going to a mic that it doesn't
serve you at all. People are giving you advice that
doesn't even like pertain to you, and then you're supposed
to just listen there no like I can go to
all mic that is better that I like more, that
doesn't annoy.
Speaker 1 (46:59):
Me and give me until I feel like you're talking
about the most toxic group of people. You're literally talking
about the mentors, the mentor.
Speaker 2 (47:07):
No, you're right, But also with this, like he can
leave and go find a different group to play with
that he likes playing with better, Like that's what you do.
You don't have to sit there and.
Speaker 1 (47:17):
Well, I just also feel like, I don't know, it's
just hard for me. It's the fact that he left
is hard for me. But A I t a for
walking off mid pickleball because my doubles partner wouldn't stop
coaching me. Ultimately, I do think Mike was being a dick,
and like I think we're having some factual dispute about
if he got left mid game. By the second game,
(47:37):
I was done, it does seem like he was gonna
be trapped with this guy for the whole day. So
I think I'll line up with you guys and say
nta and Mike is and y T all right, folks,
my jokes, that's the show. Thanks much for listening, and
we'll see you guys.
Speaker 3 (47:52):
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