EP325 How to find your voice and self-advocate, even if you’re conflict-avoidant (with Neelu Kaur)

Self-advocacy can feel like a challenge, especially if you’re conflict-avoidant, culturally conditioned to prioritize group harmony, or simply unsure how to speak up without fear of being labeled “difficult.” In this episode, we’ll explore how to advocate for yourself effectively while balancing cultural expectations, professional norms, and personal boundaries.

Neelu Kaur brings her unique expertise to the discussion. With a business degree and a masters in Social & Organizational Psychology along with her experience as a coach and master practitioner certified in NeuroLinguistic Programming, Yoga, and Ayurveda, Neelu has a really unique and comprehensive framework for tackling this topic.

You’ll learn:

• How cultural upbringing in collectivist vs. individualist societies influences our ability to speak up.
• Why advocating for yourself isn’t selfish—it’s a collective act that paves the way for others.
• The concept of being “a part of and apart from” group efforts to gain recognition for your contributions.
• How to shift from problem-framed to outcome-framed questions to open up possibilities.
• Practical tips for navigating conflict-avoidance and building confidence in difficult conversations.
• Why modeling self-advocacy as educators is essential for empowering students.
• How mindfulness, movement, and non-attachment can ground you before challenging situations.

Whether you’re negotiating for resources, managing peer dynamics, or striving to be heard or advance in a professional space, this episode provides the tools you need to find your voice and advocate for what matters most.

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