February 22, 2025 • 7 mins
Social anxiety is not about being shy or people not wanting to be social. People with social anxiety beats up on themselves before others get a chance to do it.
It is a condition where an excessive amount of fear is generated by the anticipation of rejection.
Either way, it can be harmful to the spirit. In this episode, a quick look at the book How to Be Your Self by Ellen Hendriksen, Ph.D.
Either way, it can be harmful to the spirit. In this episode, a quick look at the book How to Be Your Self by Ellen Hendriksen, Ph.D.
If you need support contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988 or 1-800-273-8255, the Trevor Project at 1-866-488-7386 or text “START” to 741-741.
Resources Mentioned:
If you need information about Social Anxiety Disorder, the Anxiety and Depression Association of America has a free PDF on the condition and suggestions on treatment options.
The Insight Timer app has a course by Dr. Hendriksen called Rising Above Social Anxiety.
The Yale Medicine website has an explainer page on Social Anxiety.
Bookshop.org is a way to support independent bookstores. You purchase the book online via the website and an independent store will benefit from the purchase.
Disclaimer:
Links to other sites are provided for information purposes only and do not constitute endorsements.
Always seek the advice of a qualified health provider with questions you may have regarding a medical or mental health disorder.
This blog and podcast is intended for informational and educational purposes only. Nothing in this program is intended to be a substitute for professional psychological, psychiatric or medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.
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(00:02):
(Transcribed by TurboScribe.ai. Go Unlimited to remove this message.) In this episode, a quick look at the
book, How to Be Yourself by Ellen Hendrickson,
PhD.
Welcome to the Anxiety Road podcast.
This is the involuntary journey finding treatment options
and resources for people that have anxiety, panic
attacks, and phobias too.
(00:22):
This podcast is treatment agnostic.
My name is Gina Haskett.
Social anxiety can be a soul-killing experience.
You want to give that presentation.
You want to go travel.
And you definitely want to go to a
Buckwild debauch-level party.
And that is B-U-C-K, wild,
(00:44):
debauch-level party.
Or not.
But you want to have the ability to
make that choice.
People with social anxiety have a built-in
security guard that keeps them from doing that.
If you're new here, this is the podcast
that looks at the medical, behavioral health, meditation,
relaxation, and x equals z unknown, treatment options
(01:07):
and resources for those of us that have
an anxiety condition or a mental health disorder.
As a reminder, I can't buy every book
in the world.
I want to, but I don't have the
space or the budget.
So the approach I'm taking is similar to
the one that I would employ if I
walked into a bookstore.
(01:28):
I'll look at the cover.
I'll read a few pages or listen to
audio samples.
I also try to learn more about the
author.
Who are they?
What is their background?
And how do they express themselves when they're
not selling a book?
And because I don't want to be tracked
all over creation, I use the browser DuckDuckGo
(01:51):
to stop or reduce tracking cookies.
I do other things too, but that's a
topic for another time.
The book I want to share with you
is called How to Be Yourself by Ellen
Hendrickson, Ph.D. and it's geared toward people
that have social anxiety or social phobia.
(02:13):
Social anxiety is a persistent fear.
These folks have a hypercritical view of themselves
if they try to speak up, attend events,
or be in situations where they're the focus
of attention.
Some of the symptoms can include blushing, trembling,
sweating, rapid heartbeat, chest pain, nausea, and dizziness.
(02:38):
According to the Anxiety Depression Association of America,
people with social anxiety tend to have few
or no social or romantic relationships.
It makes them feel powerless, alone, or even
ashamed.
Many are terrified that they will be negatively
evaluated or that they will embarrass or humiliate
(02:59):
themselves.
When I went to find information about the
author, I visited her website.
Dr. Hendrickson is on the faculty of Boston
University's Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders.
In addition to the book, she has another
book that she has written called How to
(03:19):
Be Enough, Self-Acceptance for Self-Critics and
Perfectionists.
She has been interviewed on multiple podcasts and
media outlets.
So, from what I was able to get
from the samples of the book, and I
viewed that on the Barnes & Noble's website,
(03:40):
it's a fairly easy read with plain language
explanations of the problem.
There's also a kind of a quiz that
helps you figure out if social anxiety resonates
with you.
The book provides actionable steps and suggestions on
how to deal with it.
I also listened to an audiobook sample.
(04:00):
Her voice is warm and supportive, with a
touch of humor when needed.
I almost forgot to mention, Dr. Hendrickson is
a fellow traveler on the road.
She has her own experience with social anxiety.
So, in terms of resources, if you're just
starting out on your educational journey about social
(04:23):
anxiety, the Anxiety and Depression Association of America
has a free PDF on the condition and
suggestions for treatment.
And that would be the ADAA brochure on
social anxiety, and you can find it on
their website at ADAA.org.
Now, there is an app called Insight Timer.
(04:46):
They have a lot of meditation and self
-help courses.
The Insight Timer has a course by Dr.
Hendrickson called Rising Above Social Anxiety.
And that will, I believe you have to
join as a member, and then if you
want to take the course, that's about $30.
If you want to find the book, as
(05:09):
always in this time of turbulence, let's consciously
support our libraries.
Check to see if your library has a
copy.
In the United States, you might find the
book at your local bookstore or your local
independent bookstore, and certainly online.
There is a version of the book on
Audible, and that one is labeled as an
(05:32):
Amazon original version of the audiobook.
And Barnes & Noble has a copy, and
I believe that's where I also read a
much larger version of the introduction to the
book.
So, yes, you can obtain it from those
vendors, but there are many more book vendors
that you could get the book from.
(05:54):
The bottom line, no book can totally treat
a mental health condition, but a good book
might support you and give you the information
you need to make an informed decision.
I think that this could be a very
good starting point for those of you who
have social anxiety.
I'll catch you next time on the Anxiety
Road.
(06:15):
You can visit anxietyroadpodcast.com for links and
other information resources.
You can listen, download, or subscribe to the
podcast via any of the free podcasting apps
out there.
You can listen to the show via Apple
Podcasts, Amazon, Ghana, Pandora, or on the web
at listennotes.com.
(06:36):
Links to other sites are provided for information
purposes only and do not constitute endorsements.
Always seek the advice of a qualified health
care provider with questions you may have regarding
a medical or mental health disorder.
This podcast is intended for information and education
purposes only and nothing in the program is
(06:57):
intended to be a substitute for professional psychological,
psychiatric, or medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.
(Transcribed by TurboScribe.ai. Go Unlimited to remove this message.) In this episode, a quick look at the
book, How to Be Yourself by Ellen Hendrickson,
PhD.
Welcome to the Anxiety Road podcast.
This is the involuntary journey finding treatment options
and resources for people that have anxiety, panic
attacks, and phobias too.
(00:22):
This podcast is treatment agnostic.
My name is Gina Haskett.
Social anxiety can be a soul-killing experience.
You want to give that presentation.
You want to go travel.
And you definitely want to go to a
Buckwild debauch-level party.
And that is B-U-C-K, wild,
(00:44):
debauch-level party.
Or not.
But you want to have the ability to
make that choice.
People with social anxiety have a built-in
security guard that keeps them from doing that.
If you're new here, this is the podcast
that looks at the medical, behavioral health, meditation,
relaxation, and x equals z unknown, treatment options
(01:07):
and resources for those of us that have
an anxiety condition or a mental health disorder.
As a reminder, I can't buy every book
in the world.
I want to, but I don't have the
space or the budget.
So the approach I'm taking is similar to
the one that I would employ if I
walked into a bookstore.
(01:28):
I'll look at the cover.
I'll read a few pages or listen to
audio samples.
I also try to learn more about the
author.
Who are they?
What is their background?
And how do they express themselves when they're
not selling a book?
And because I don't want to be tracked
all over creation, I use the browser DuckDuckGo
(01:51):
to stop or reduce tracking cookies.
I do other things too, but that's a
topic for another time.
The book I want to share with you
is called How to Be Yourself by Ellen
Hendrickson, Ph.D. and it's geared toward people
that have social anxiety or social phobia.
(02:13):
Social anxiety is a persistent fear.
These folks have a hypercritical view of themselves
if they try to speak up, attend events,
or be in situations where they're the focus
of attention.
Some of the symptoms can include blushing, trembling,
sweating, rapid heartbeat, chest pain, nausea, and dizziness.
(02:38):
According to the Anxiety Depression Association of America,
people with social anxiety tend to have few
or no social or romantic relationships.
It makes them feel powerless, alone, or even
ashamed.
Many are terrified that they will be negatively
evaluated or that they will embarrass or humiliate
(02:59):
themselves.
When I went to find information about the
author, I visited her website.
Dr. Hendrickson is on the faculty of Boston
University's Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders.
In addition to the book, she has another
book that she has written called How to
(03:19):
Be Enough, Self-Acceptance for Self-Critics and
Perfectionists.
She has been interviewed on multiple podcasts and
media outlets.
So, from what I was able to get
from the samples of the book, and I
viewed that on the Barnes & Noble's website,
(03:40):
it's a fairly easy read with plain language
explanations of the problem.
There's also a kind of a quiz that
helps you figure out if social anxiety resonates
with you.
The book provides actionable steps and suggestions on
how to deal with it.
I also listened to an audiobook sample.
(04:00):
Her voice is warm and supportive, with a
touch of humor when needed.
I almost forgot to mention, Dr. Hendrickson is
a fellow traveler on the road.
She has her own experience with social anxiety.
So, in terms of resources, if you're just
starting out on your educational journey about social
(04:23):
anxiety, the Anxiety and Depression Association of America
has a free PDF on the condition and
suggestions for treatment.
And that would be the ADAA brochure on
social anxiety, and you can find it on
their website at ADAA.org.
Now, there is an app called Insight Timer.
(04:46):
They have a lot of meditation and self
-help courses.
The Insight Timer has a course by Dr.
Hendrickson called Rising Above Social Anxiety.
And that will, I believe you have to
join as a member, and then if you
want to take the course, that's about $30.
If you want to find the book, as
(05:09):
always in this time of turbulence, let's consciously
support our libraries.
Check to see if your library has a
copy.
In the United States, you might find the
book at your local bookstore or your local
independent bookstore, and certainly online.
There is a version of the book on
Audible, and that one is labeled as an
(05:32):
Amazon original version of the audiobook.
And Barnes & Noble has a copy, and
I believe that's where I also read a
much larger version of the introduction to the
book.
So, yes, you can obtain it from those
vendors, but there are many more book vendors
that you could get the book from.
(05:54):
The bottom line, no book can totally treat
a mental health condition, but a good book
might support you and give you the information
you need to make an informed decision.
I think that this could be a very
good starting point for those of you who
have social anxiety.
I'll catch you next time on the Anxiety
Road.
(06:15):
You can visit anxietyroadpodcast.com for links and
other information resources.
You can listen, download, or subscribe to the
podcast via any of the free podcasting apps
out there.
You can listen to the show via Apple
Podcasts, Amazon, Ghana, Pandora, or on the web
at listennotes.com.
(06:36):
Links to other sites are provided for information
purposes only and do not constitute endorsements.
Always seek the advice of a qualified health
care provider with questions you may have regarding
a medical or mental health disorder.
This podcast is intended for information and education
purposes only and nothing in the program is
(06:57):
intended to be a substitute for professional psychological,
psychiatric, or medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.
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