Ask the Planner with Desirée Adams: A Wedding and Event Planning Podcast

Ask the Planner with Desirée Adams: A Wedding and Event Planning Podcast

The Ask the Planner podcast gives sophisticated couples like you expert tips on how to style, plan, and execute a thoughtfully curated wedding. Every week join your host Desirée Adams as she interviews leading wedding industry experts and discusses the often-overlooked details that take weddings from pretty parties to heirloom occasions. Hear how to manage vendors, avoid surprises, and plan your day with honest advice from a pro. New episodes drop every Monday. If you want to binge on past episodes or learn more about the show, visit can also send questions or suggestions or future topics or guest suggestions via your Apple Podcast review, our hotline (585) 210-3467, or email Don't forget to follow the show on Instagram and Tik Tok at @asktheplannerpodcast!


May 22, 2023 52 mins

Can you believe it? It’s our 100th episode! Thank you for being here whether it’s your first time or your 100th time - thank you for tuning in. In today’s episode, we’re talking about it ALL! From wedding horror stories to some controversial hot takes, it’s going to be one fun episode. Also, as I mentioned in past episodes, I’m actually reversing the roles for today’s episode. Instead of interviewing a guest, I’m actually joined by...

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 Today, we're going to explore that "what's next" feeling you might be having after you've booked your "main" wedding vendors. It's a huge accomplishment to have found and booked those vendors, and as a wedding planner, I know that it can bring a HUGE sigh of relief feeling like "the hard part is over". However, it's important to remember that there are still a million little t...

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So much thought and planning goes into your wedding aesthetic. The flowers, the stationery, the tables, etc. But what about you and your wedding party? Obviously one of the most important aspects of the day is your people! Your squad. And what they’re wearing makes a big impact on your overall wedding aesthetic.

But there are so many brands and directions you can take - same dresses, different dresses, prints, what’s flattering on s...

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May 1, 2023 26 mins

Today, I’m sharing EVERYTHING you need to do while you’re in the home stretch of wedding planning - including the things that typically aren’t covered on a wedding planning checklist (because at this point, you kind of feel like you’ve done everything).

These “home stretch” tasks are going to make the biggest difference on your wedding day. But that’s why you listen to this podcast right? So you never have to worry about missing a t...

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During your wedding you will have a ton of photos taken of you. For some people this can be very nerve-wracking if they’re self-conscious about their appearance - including their smile. And let’s be honest, your smile is in almost every single photo of you. So if you don’t have good teeth, this can be a problem. 

On today’s episode, we’re talking about your teeth and how to make sure your smile looks its very best on the wedding day...

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From letterpress to blind press, escort cards versus place cards, the wedding stationery world can be a confusing place if you’re not familiar with the terminology. On today’s episode, I talk to a stationery expert and together we give you a crash course on all things wedding paper. 

No matter where you are in your wedding planning journey, or even if you’re a vendor listening along - you’re going to want to listen to today’s episod...

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Believe it or not, not all couples who get married go on a honeymoon. Work, financial, and career commitments, among other things cause couples to skip the honeymoon altogether.

While you might think that’s not a big deal, skipping the honeymoon can actually have a significantly negative affect on your marriage and your relationship.

On today’s episode, we’re talking to a real expert on the topic of honeymoons, paying for the honeymo...

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Hello loverve’s! You know here on Ask the Planner Podcast we never shy away from a hot take, and oh boy do we have one for you today. Today we are addressing the vendors who say “it’s okay if you don’t have a planner - I can help with that”. I know these professionals have good intentions, I believe that they couldn’t be more wrong - and it’s not just because we’re planners! It’s also because I value the work that THEY do and want ...

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 Although we like to believe we make wedding planning an exciting and joyful experience, we also know that planning a wedding can feel overwhelming and stressful, especially at the beginning when it feels like every single decision needs to be made at once. One of the most important decisions you will make early on in the wedding planning process is choosing your wedding venue, but before you do that, you should book your wedding p...

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This episode was packed with so many amazing tips from our guest. 

  • Meet Beth Helmstetter [02:00]
  • What is the first thing couples should consider when planning a destination wedding? [07:00]
  • Should couples talk to a destination wedding planner before or after picking a location? [09:10]
  • Do you recommend working with a local wedding planner versus a planner that travels to the location? [11:19]
  • What advice do you have for vendors that...
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We asked you all what you wanted to hear on the podcast and today’s topic came in a few times: how in the world should we be dealing with advice from in-laws and literally everyone else? And hey, maybe even your own parents are the overbearing ones? In today’s episode, I’m going to share a few thoughts when it comes to dealing with unsolicited opinions - especially when they feel more like demands. If that’s what you need right now...

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On today’s episode of the Ask the Planner podcast, we’re hearing from someone who has carved her own path and created a unique niche in the wedding and event industry. Whether you’re getting married and looking for a way to manage the stress and pressures of wedding planning or you’re a vendor in the industry wondering how to get to the next level, you’re going to benefit from this episode.

This episode was packed with so ...

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February 27, 2023 30 mins

If I know you, you’ve likely Googled the top wedding venues in your area. And if you're being honest with yourself, you're bored. You know the top 5 wedding venues in your area, and you may have even toured a few places that you feel neutral towards, but nothing has quite felt like “the one” yet.

Buckle in, friends, because today’s episode is for you. The ones who are looking for “something different” and don’t want their ...

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On today’s episode of the Ask the Planner podcast, we’re talking about a new, holistic way to approach your wedding beauty. And no, it’s not what you think. Whether you’re planning your wedding, already picked your beauty team, or you’re a vendor in the wedding space, you’re going to love hearing all that my guest has to share on beauty, skin care, and looking and feeling your best on the wedding day, and just life in general. So g...

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Today I’m taking you behind the scenes of a real wedding. You’re going to experience first-hand what goes into a wedding weekend – the obstacles we have to endure – and also what we did to get around them.

I took you behind the scenes with me in Season 2 and you loved it, so we’re doing it again!

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  • Prep for the Rehearsal Dinner [2:30]
  • What happ...
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Today on Ask the Planner Podcast, we’re talking about something that comes much later in the planning process but needs to be budgeted for and confirmed much earlier on. Flower Preservation. If you’re anything like me, you LOVE flowers and you want your wedding day flowers to live on after your wedding because they were so beautiful.

However, flower preservation isn’t something you can easily add at the last-minute because flower pr...

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January 30, 2023 22 mins

We’re sharing the top 5 most important questions to ask on a venue tour. Whether you’re just starting the venue search process or you’ve got your venue selected, these important questions will still be helpful as you continue planning all the logistics for the big day, so let’s get to it.

EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS: Top 5 Questions to Ask on a Venue Tour

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Today on Ask the Planner Podcast, we’re talking to a Professional Bridesmaid. This goes beyond the movie 27 dresses with Katherine Heigle. So don’t go anywhere. You’re going to love today’s episode. We’re discussing a topic that may not be known to you - hiring a professional bridesmaid for your wedding.

This episode was packed with so many amazing tips from our guest. 

  • Meet Jen Glantz [02:49]
  • What was it like starting the company...
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January 16, 2023 18 mins

For this episode, we’re reviewing the Top wedding planning podcast episodes of Season 2 and 3 of the Ask the Planner Podcast. If you’re new to the show and want to know which episodes to download first or you’ve been around for a while and want to re-fresh yourselves on our most popular episodes or want to know which ones to go back to, this is the episode for you. 

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In today's episode we discuss all there is to know about planning a tented wedding. Many couples think a tented backyard wedding is a simpler and more economical option. Today we’re going to discuss the ins and outs of tented weddings, hidden costs, and things to look out for.

Whether you’re a couple in the beginning of your wedding venue search or you’re a wedding vendor, this episode is packed with useful tips, so let’s get t...

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