Working as a Death Doula and Managing Death Anxiety with Niki DiGaetano (BPR #306)

In today’s episode of Backpacker Radio presented by The Trek, brought to you by LMNT, we are joined by Niki DiGaetano, known on trail as Phoenix. In addition to being a long distance backpacker, the bulk of today’s conversation centers around Niki’s work as a death doula. We learn, of course, what that work entails, how her experiences working with those at the end of their lives have reframed how she lives hers, advice for those currently processing the death of a loved one, dealing with anxieties around death, and much more.

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Interview with Niki DiGaetano

• Niki's Website
• Niki's Instagram

Time stamps & Questions

00:05:10 - Reminders: Sign up for the Trek’s newsletter, listen to our episodes ad-free on Patreon, and apply to blog for the Trek!

00:08:40 - Introducing Niki

00:10:19 - What is a death doula?

00:12:07 - How did you get into this field?

00:15:10 - How do you not get weighed down by the work?

00:17:05 - What does the training look like?

00:21:10 - What is the top piece of advice you have for preparing for a loved one’s passing?

00:23:10 - How do you help people cope with death anxiety?

00:25:30 - How often are people prepared for death?

00:29:42 - How does religion and spirituality play into your work?

00:31:30 - What do you think comes next?

00:35:50 - What advice do you have for people in the grieving process?

00:38:50 - What do you think about the 5 Stages of Grief?

00:41:30 - What are the common regrets of people who are dying?

00:45:30 - How has your work intersected with hiking long trails?

00:47:47 - Tell us about your past relationship

00:55:20 - How did the trail help you grow?

00:56:00 - How did you meet your current partner?