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In Episode 1, we dive into the most dangerous of the “smoke” pillars—emotional residue—what we call the black smoke. Through personal and biblical examples, we uncover how shame, blame, and unforgiveness quietly cloud our vision and pull us off course.
You’ll hear:
* A real-life story about “residue” that won’t wash away—and how it mirrors hidden hurts in life
* How Adam and Eve’s first response to sin reveals the roots of shame and blame
* Why unforgiveness is the “weed in the grass” that fuels emotional residue
* How King David and Peter carried residue that affected their decisions and callings
* The key to clearing the black smoke so we can lead, parent, and serve from a place of clarity
If you’ve ever felt stuck, resentful, or weighed down by past hurts, this episode will help you identify the unseen residue—and learn how to truly let it go.
📖 From Chapter 8: Facing the Mirror in the book.🙏 Let’s clear the smoke and walk in the lane God intended.
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SPEAKER_01 (00:17):
Use an example of what that black smoke or what
the emotional residue looks likein life, because I don't it's
it's not in the book.
SPEAKER_00 (00:24):
Yeah, absolutely.
I'll give a personal example.
Okay, then I'll give ascriptural example, and then
that should help identify both.
Both of these aren't in thebook.
So this is fresh.
Okay.
So we'll talk about thescriptural side.
So what happened when I wasstudying the emotional residue?
I'm like, what is this, right?
Like what's what's the meat ofthis?
(00:46):
What is, and so even why I callit it.
It's it's like when I'm cookingat or let's use my wife, I don't
cook at home.
I don't even know why I saidthat.
My wife is cooking at home.
She uh she usually gives me aperiod of time to wash the
dishes.
And if I don't, I get it.
So during that period, when Isucceed, like she'll have a
(01:07):
cooking pan, it's done.
I'll clean the pan, all good,set it up on the counter so it
can dry.
And then she comes back and shewas like, You didn't do a good
job.
I'm like, What do you mean Ididn't a good job?
I did a really good job.
Like, look at this, go look atit.
She goes, touch it, feel it.
And then what I notice is likethere's always this oil residue
I can't get rid of, right?
And so it's like in life, man,you know, looking back to the
(01:31):
depths of Adam and Eve, itstarts the emotional residue
kicked off with sin.
I'm just gonna say it rightthere.
That's why this thing is sodeep, because it is about our
salvation, it is about oursinful nature, it is about all
this is connected to even howyou operate as a leader, how you
operate as a parent, how youoperate as a business owner.
(01:53):
It doesn't matter if you'releading something, you can't,
you gotta get rid of thatresidue on the pan.
Yeah, and so we go look at Adamand Eve, man, from the
beginning.
You know, the first thing thathappened, man, is when they
disobeyed, they sinned.
What did they do?
They ran in shame and hid,right?
God was walking around, he waslike, Where are you at?
Where are you at, Adam?
You know, like and they werehiding, you know, and so shame
(02:15):
is part of our sinful nature,and shame is a vulnerability.
SPEAKER_01 (02:19):
Think about it.
SPEAKER_00 (02:20):
It's like open doors, like, oh, I'm shame.
You know, like it's very open,but when shame is open, that's
an opportunity to get hurt.
You know, you're an open door.
It's like as soon as shamehappens, you can get hurt.
And so what happened is duringthat shame, what happens to
cover that hurt?
Here's where smoke, this iswhere smoke happens.
(02:40):
I'm gonna cover that hurt.
I'm so open and ashamed rightnow.
I'm ashamed, I'm shamed, right?
I'm naked in a shame.
I need to cover that.
What do we do?
We accuse.
What did you do?
Oh, I didn't do nothing.
That was her.
That was the very firstaccusation.
Accusing somebody of shooting anarrow.
And then once you shoot thatarrow of accusation, it's called
(03:03):
let's use a different name.
It's when shame goes to blame.
So you blame somebody, boom,blame.
And what happens is you justcreated your first flashpoint
residue.
And in what happens right there,that's when some when you blame
somebody or accuse somebody,that's the root of the enemy,
man.
And what happens is somebody canget offended, somebody can get
(03:26):
hurt, somebody can catch anoffense.
And as soon as you do that,you're starting to birth what's
called what?
Unforgiveness.
Unforgiveness is the underlineof emotional residue.
Unforgiveness is the the weed inthe grass.
Unforgiveness is the smoke thatcovers us.
(03:47):
And no matter what you thinkyou're doing, as a leader or a
pastor, if you're riding aroundwith some unforgiveness, you got
no, it doesn't matter like whatlight you think you're running,
that lightness is actuallydarkness.
So the cure to clear the fog isyou have to walk in forgiveness
when it comes to emotionalresidue.
And that was scary.
Like really looking.
(04:08):
So as a leader, man, when I comeinto my personal life now, man,
I'm looking at like, okay, like,wow, it do I have resentment?
Do I have even with my wife,with, with an employee, with
with like, am I carryingsomething?
Because if I'm carrying that, Icould be operating totally in a
different lane.
SPEAKER_01 (04:27):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (04:27):
And don't even know it.
So I can, if I'm operating inunforgiveness, all things new is
a lie.
And I didn't even, so that'svery important for me now to
really be honest with my andthis is deep.
SPEAKER_01 (04:38):
That's good for a business owner.
SPEAKER_00 (04:39):
It's like, man, unforgiveness matter.
Heck yeah, it matters.
SPEAKER_01 (04:42):
Yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (04:42):
Heck yeah, it matters.
It matters so much becauseyou'll go be down the lane and
don't even like God doesn'thonor unforgiveness, He forgives
it.
You know?
And so I was like, okay, nowthis is where I was like having
fun.
Fun's the right word, but like,okay, I want to unpack this now.
Like, okay, so let me look atpeople that failed in the Bible,
like leaders, right?
(05:02):
So I'll go and I'm researchingDavid.
I'm like, okay, where's theseflashpoints?
Like in in people.
And I go look up like Peter whenhe, you know, he failed with
Jesus.
And so I'm like trying to likelook between the lines now.
It's like, is there flashpointshappening in the Bible?
And like, like, and we justmissed them, like to understand
like where this bitterness andunforgiveness roots from before
(05:26):
a mistake.
And I started like God startedshowing me.
And so, like looking at David,for example, when he fell, you
know, with Bathsheba.
So, what we where we start thestory obviously is in Samuel,
where you know, when kings go towar, he stayed behind, they call
it idleness.
Right.
And so I even went deeper.
I went the story before.
SPEAKER_01 (05:46):
Okay.
SPEAKER_00 (05:46):
And the story before, there was uh a king, Han
Hanan, Hunan or Hanan, that hisfather, King, died.
So David, as respect, sent somesoldiers over to his land to
show respect to the father.
Hannon or Hunan basically cutthe pants off the buttocks,
shaved the beard half, and sentthem back.
Total embarrassment.
(06:07):
And what do you think Dave did?
David did.
King David stayed back, which heusually goes out to war because
he's probably shamed, and hesent all his soldiers out to
kill him.
You don't shame me like that.
I'm King David.
You know, and that was the storythat happened right before
Bathsheba.
So he had he carried, I mean, hehad some reconciliation, but he
(06:27):
carried an emotional residue.
You see where I'm going withthis?
Oh, yeah, yeah.
He had an emotional residue now,and now he's idle, kings are
going to war.
That's where that statement camefrom.
It was a season when kings go towar, but David was chilling.
So idleness kicked in because ofemotional residue, and then he
fell into the the rest of thestory of Bathsheba.
Let's go look at Peter.
(06:48):
Peter was in the Last Supper,and you remember when Jesus was
going around saying, you know,hey, you're gonna deny me three
times?
Yeah, there was one of thedisciples in there that
questioned him, like actuallyquestioned, like, oh, who's
gonna be the one?
Yeah, you know, you rememberlike somebody's like, Who's
gonna be the one?
Yeah, and then it ended up beingPeter later when Jesus
resurrected and came and visitedthem on the on the shore, and
(07:11):
then he talked to Peter andactually reinstated him with the
three.
Peter had the nerve to ask him,Well, what about this guy?
Wow, yeah, because he was stillcarrying an emotional residue,
yeah, all the way still to thepoint of being reinstated, which
is crazy.
Like, like just understandinglike us as people, it's normal.
We we since Adam and Eve, it'sin us, man.
(07:32):
We're we're we're we'revulnerable, we can get hurt, you
know.
And when the arrows are shot atus, yes, we're gonna get hurt,
but understanding that Jesuscame here to die on the cross
and he conquered death in orderto save us.
Like, what is he saving us from?
He's saving us from the sin andthat unforgiveness, man.
And so just understanding thatat that deep level was very
(07:55):
vital to understand when we'rewe're rising up as leaders,
business owners, pastors,parents, the two that I just
said, man.
Are we performing or are weserving and able to identify
that you gotta clear the smoke,you gotta clear the residue, the
emotional residue, you gottaclear, you know, are you
(08:16):
misaligning your efforts?
You gotta like look at thesethree pillars and make sure like
we're leading with the clearglass, you know, so we can see
where we're going, man, and knowthat it's in God's lane.
Knowing it we're following theassignment and not affirmation.
There's a little the quote fromLacrae that he says, if we live
for people's acceptance, we'lldie by their rejection.
You know, and so you know, it'sit's we're set up for failure
(08:39):
when we're throwing expectationsout there.
Yeah, yeah.
You know, and looking foraffirmations and and certain
things.
Use an example of what that black smoke or what
the emotional residue looks likein life, because I don't it's
it's not in the book.
SPEAKER_00 (00:24):
Yeah, absolutely.
I'll give a personal example.
Okay, then I'll give ascriptural example, and then
that should help identify both.
Both of these aren't in thebook.
So this is fresh.
Okay.
So we'll talk about thescriptural side.
So what happened when I wasstudying the emotional residue?
I'm like, what is this, right?
Like what's what's the meat ofthis?
(00:46):
What is, and so even why I callit it.
It's it's like when I'm cookingat or let's use my wife, I don't
cook at home.
I don't even know why I saidthat.
My wife is cooking at home.
She uh she usually gives me aperiod of time to wash the
dishes.
And if I don't, I get it.
So during that period, when Isucceed, like she'll have a
(01:07):
cooking pan, it's done.
I'll clean the pan, all good,set it up on the counter so it
can dry.
And then she comes back and shewas like, You didn't do a good
job.
I'm like, What do you mean Ididn't a good job?
I did a really good job.
Like, look at this, go look atit.
She goes, touch it, feel it.
And then what I notice is likethere's always this oil residue
I can't get rid of, right?
And so it's like in life, man,you know, looking back to the
(01:31):
depths of Adam and Eve, itstarts the emotional residue
kicked off with sin.
I'm just gonna say it rightthere.
That's why this thing is sodeep, because it is about our
salvation, it is about oursinful nature, it is about all
this is connected to even howyou operate as a leader, how you
operate as a parent, how youoperate as a business owner.
(01:53):
It doesn't matter if you'releading something, you can't,
you gotta get rid of thatresidue on the pan.
Yeah, and so we go look at Adamand Eve, man, from the
beginning.
You know, the first thing thathappened, man, is when they
disobeyed, they sinned.
What did they do?
They ran in shame and hid,right?
God was walking around, he waslike, Where are you at?
Where are you at, Adam?
You know, like and they werehiding, you know, and so shame
(02:15):
is part of our sinful nature,and shame is a vulnerability.
SPEAKER_01 (02:19):
Think about it.
SPEAKER_00 (02:20):
It's like open doors, like, oh, I'm shame.
You know, like it's very open,but when shame is open, that's
an opportunity to get hurt.
You know, you're an open door.
It's like as soon as shamehappens, you can get hurt.
And so what happened is duringthat shame, what happens to
cover that hurt?
Here's where smoke, this iswhere smoke happens.
(02:40):
I'm gonna cover that hurt.
I'm so open and ashamed rightnow.
I'm ashamed, I'm shamed, right?
I'm naked in a shame.
I need to cover that.
What do we do?
We accuse.
What did you do?
Oh, I didn't do nothing.
That was her.
That was the very firstaccusation.
Accusing somebody of shooting anarrow.
And then once you shoot thatarrow of accusation, it's called
(03:03):
let's use a different name.
It's when shame goes to blame.
So you blame somebody, boom,blame.
And what happens is you justcreated your first flashpoint
residue.
And in what happens right there,that's when some when you blame
somebody or accuse somebody,that's the root of the enemy,
man.
And what happens is somebody canget offended, somebody can get
(03:26):
hurt, somebody can catch anoffense.
And as soon as you do that,you're starting to birth what's
called what?
Unforgiveness.
Unforgiveness is the underlineof emotional residue.
Unforgiveness is the the weed inthe grass.
Unforgiveness is the smoke thatcovers us.
(03:47):
And no matter what you thinkyou're doing, as a leader or a
pastor, if you're riding aroundwith some unforgiveness, you got
no, it doesn't matter like whatlight you think you're running,
that lightness is actuallydarkness.
So the cure to clear the fog isyou have to walk in forgiveness
when it comes to emotionalresidue.
And that was scary.
Like really looking.
(04:08):
So as a leader, man, when I comeinto my personal life now, man,
I'm looking at like, okay, like,wow, it do I have resentment?
Do I have even with my wife,with, with an employee, with
with like, am I carryingsomething?
Because if I'm carrying that, Icould be operating totally in a
different lane.
SPEAKER_01 (04:27):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (04:27):
And don't even know it.
So I can, if I'm operating inunforgiveness, all things new is
a lie.
And I didn't even, so that'svery important for me now to
really be honest with my andthis is deep.
SPEAKER_01 (04:38):
That's good for a business owner.
SPEAKER_00 (04:39):
It's like, man, unforgiveness matter.
Heck yeah, it matters.
SPEAKER_01 (04:42):
Yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (04:42):
Heck yeah, it matters.
It matters so much becauseyou'll go be down the lane and
don't even like God doesn'thonor unforgiveness, He forgives
it.
You know?
And so I was like, okay, nowthis is where I was like having
fun.
Fun's the right word, but like,okay, I want to unpack this now.
Like, okay, so let me look atpeople that failed in the Bible,
like leaders, right?
(05:02):
So I'll go and I'm researchingDavid.
I'm like, okay, where's theseflashpoints?
Like in in people.
And I go look up like Peter whenhe, you know, he failed with
Jesus.
And so I'm like trying to likelook between the lines now.
It's like, is there flashpointshappening in the Bible?
And like, like, and we justmissed them, like to understand
like where this bitterness andunforgiveness roots from before
(05:26):
a mistake.
And I started like God startedshowing me.
And so, like looking at David,for example, when he fell, you
know, with Bathsheba.
So, what we where we start thestory obviously is in Samuel,
where you know, when kings go towar, he stayed behind, they call
it idleness.
Right.
And so I even went deeper.
I went the story before.
SPEAKER_01 (05:46):
Okay.
SPEAKER_00 (05:46):
And the story before, there was uh a king, Han
Hanan, Hunan or Hanan, that hisfather, King, died.
So David, as respect, sent somesoldiers over to his land to
show respect to the father.
Hannon or Hunan basically cutthe pants off the buttocks,
shaved the beard half, and sentthem back.
Total embarrassment.
(06:07):
And what do you think Dave did?
David did.
King David stayed back, which heusually goes out to war because
he's probably shamed, and hesent all his soldiers out to
kill him.
You don't shame me like that.
I'm King David.
You know, and that was the storythat happened right before
Bathsheba.
So he had he carried, I mean, hehad some reconciliation, but he
(06:27):
carried an emotional residue.
You see where I'm going withthis?
Oh, yeah, yeah.
He had an emotional residue now,and now he's idle, kings are
going to war.
That's where that statement camefrom.
It was a season when kings go towar, but David was chilling.
So idleness kicked in because ofemotional residue, and then he
fell into the the rest of thestory of Bathsheba.
Let's go look at Peter.
(06:48):
Peter was in the Last Supper,and you remember when Jesus was
going around saying, you know,hey, you're gonna deny me three
times?
Yeah, there was one of thedisciples in there that
questioned him, like actuallyquestioned, like, oh, who's
gonna be the one?
Yeah, you know, you rememberlike somebody's like, Who's
gonna be the one?
Yeah, and then it ended up beingPeter later when Jesus
resurrected and came and visitedthem on the on the shore, and
(07:11):
then he talked to Peter andactually reinstated him with the
three.
Peter had the nerve to ask him,Well, what about this guy?
Wow, yeah, because he was stillcarrying an emotional residue,
yeah, all the way still to thepoint of being reinstated, which
is crazy.
Like, like just understandinglike us as people, it's normal.
We we since Adam and Eve, it'sin us, man.
(07:32):
We're we're we're we'revulnerable, we can get hurt, you
know.
And when the arrows are shot atus, yes, we're gonna get hurt,
but understanding that Jesuscame here to die on the cross
and he conquered death in orderto save us.
Like, what is he saving us from?
He's saving us from the sin andthat unforgiveness, man.
And so just understanding thatat that deep level was very
(07:55):
vital to understand when we'rewe're rising up as leaders,
business owners, pastors,parents, the two that I just
said, man.
Are we performing or are weserving and able to identify
that you gotta clear the smoke,you gotta clear the residue, the
emotional residue, you gottaclear, you know, are you
(08:16):
misaligning your efforts?
You gotta like look at thesethree pillars and make sure like
we're leading with the clearglass, you know, so we can see
where we're going, man, and knowthat it's in God's lane.
Knowing it we're following theassignment and not affirmation.
There's a little the quote fromLacrae that he says, if we live
for people's acceptance, we'lldie by their rejection.
You know, and so you know, it'sit's we're set up for failure
(08:39):
when we're throwing expectationsout there.
Yeah, yeah.
You know, and looking foraffirmations and and certain
things.
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