Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love

Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love

Welcome to the Charisma Quotient hosted by dating, makeover and confidence expert, Kimmy Seltzer. Each week, learn from Kimmy and other experts about how to build confidence from the outside, in. She’s consulted thousands of people to revamp their style, boost their confidence and most importantly, find love. Her lighthearted, down-to-earth and practical approach brings a fun and knowledgeable style to the podcast. She alternates the podcast with solo episodes highlighting various topics, interviewing experts, reading questions and answering them with surprising answers and live coaching sessions.

Episodes

October 9, 2025 62 mins

Ready to transform your dating life—whether you're just jumping in, coming back after a hiatus, or navigating dating's "second act"? In Episode 414 of The Charisma Quotient, “Dating Real Talk: Where Reality TV Meets Real Life Love,” Kimmy shares episode 1 of her new live show “Dating Real Talk - your destination for all things love, attraction, and confidence, blending the juicy drama of reality TV with actionable, emp...

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Have you ever wondered why you keep repeating the same patterns in your dating life? Do you find yourself pulling away when things get close, hiding parts of yourself, or confusing sexual attraction for true intimacy? What if old trauma or hidden shame is quietly running the show without you even realizing it? In Episode 413 of The Charisma Quotient, “Healing Trauma, Releasing Shame & Embracing Your Sensuality: Intevie...

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Welcome back to one of our favorite segments on The Charisma Quotient: Where are They Now? In Episode 412 of The Charisma Quotient, “ICYMI: A Real Golden Bachelorette Finds Love: Where Are They Now with Leslie,” Kimmy sits down with former client Leslie, a widow who embarked on a journey to find love in her second act. Leslie's incredible transformation and her ultimate love story will leave you feeling inspired and ho...

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Have you ever wondered why dating feels like a high-stakes interview or why the pressure to “find the one” can be so exhausting? What if there were a way to approach dating that feels lighter, more playful, and actually attracts better connections? In Episode 411 of The Charisma Quotient, “What Is Quantum Dating? Why Everyone’s Talking About It and How to Try It,” Kimmy invites you to rethink everything you know about ...

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Have you felt self-conscious or anxious on dates, unsure how to break free from the constant chatter of self-doubt and body image worries? What if emotional eating and your food habits weren’t just about the food, but were actually acting as shields keeping real, intimate connections out of reach? In Episode 410 of The Charisma Quotient, “Emotional Eating & Dating Confidence: Interview with Amber Romaniuk” Kimmy sits d...

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Have you ever wondered what it truly means to date with intention—and not just to find a partner, but to rediscover playfulness, joy, and your own self-worth?  In Episode 409 of The Charisma Quotient, “Intentional Dating at Any Age: Coaching with Kimmy” Kimmy does a live coaching session with  Joni, a vibrant 69-year-old woman embarking on a new chapter after a major life transition—moving to a new country and reimagin...

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Do you ever wonder why first impressions spark connections—or cause instant shut-downs? Are you struggling to translate your real-life personality into your digital presence?  In Episode 408 of The Charisma Quotient, “Communication Secrets That Spark Attraction: Interview with Jess Jensen” Kimmy welcomes executive communications strategist Jess Jensen, founder of Copilot Communications, for a dynamic conversation that ...

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Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce made headlines this week thanks to the heartwarming reaction of Travis and his brother, Jason Kelce, as they celebrated Taylor’s new album, The Life of a Showgirl. Relationship therapist Esther Perel weighed in, highlighting the concept of “compersion” in a recent Instagram reel that’s been buzzing online in relation to Travis’ celebration of her.If you hav...

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Have you ever looked back at a breakup and wondered: Did I really miss those red flags, or was I ignoring what I didn’t want to see? Do your relationships seem to fall into similar patterns—leaving you with the same heartbreak, just with a new face? In Episode 407 of The Charisma Quotient, “The 6 Dirty “F” words and Identifying Red Flags in Relationships: Interview with Sarah Intelligator ” Kimmy sits down with acclaim...

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Are you navigating the dating world in your 40s—or beyond—and wondering why things feel so different? You’re not alone! In Episode 406 of The Charisma Quotient, “Dating In Your 40's (And Beyond):  Special Dateable Edition” Kimmy is invited onto the dynamic Dateable Podcast with hosts Julie and Yue. The conversation dives deep into the world of dating in your 40s, 50s, 60s, and beyond 

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Feeling like your dating life is stuck in a rut? You’re not alone! In Episode 405 of The Charisma Quotient, “ICYMI: Top 6 Tips to Up Your Dating Game” Kimmy guides you through the essential steps to transform your love life from the outside in. Whether you’re returning to the dating scene after a long break or wrestling with low confidence, Kimmy shares actionable tips, eye-opening mindset shifts, and real-life success...

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Have you ever felt pulled toward someone by an invisible force, only to watch the connection fizzle out over time? Or wondered why you keep attracting the same type of partner, despite your best intentions to date differently? In Episode 404 of The Charisma Quotient, “Cosmic Compatibility:  Secrets to Lasting Love with Carol Allen” Kimmy talks with renowned Vedic astrologer and relationship coach, Carol Allen, to decod...

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What does it really mean to be empowered as a woman in today’s world—and how does it show up in your relationships, dating life, and even your own sense of self?  In Episode 403 of The Charisma Quotient, “Empowered Dating: Interview with Brad Walsh” Kimmy dives deep with Brad Walsh, professional photographer and host of the Empowerography podcast, to unpack the hidden challenges and unique strengths of women navigating...

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Sometimes sex feels like love or chemistry but that is not the only kind of intimacy there is.  But you might get caught in a cycle where you are leading with sex to get a connection and in the end not finding the right partner for you.  And then, you might shut down and be nervous about showing your flirty, sexy side after being hurt.  In Episode 402 of The Charisma Quotient, “When Sex Feels Like Love: Breaking the Cycle of Fast-T...

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Have you ever felt like you were on the outside looking in—guarded by fear, overwhelmed by old patterns, or unsure how to take that first step back into dating after heartbreak or disappointment? In Episode 401 of The Charisma Quotient, “Dating Without Attachment: Lisa’s Dating Transformation Journey” In this powerful episode of the Charisma Quotient, Kimmy is joined by the inspiring Lisa, whose courageous journey from...

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Join Kimmy as she celebrates 400 episodes of client coaching calls, solo episodes, talking with experts, and hearing success stories from people who have worked with Kimmy In Episode 400 of The Charisma Quotient, “400th Episode Special: Confidence Hacks That Turn Dates Into Love” we’re looking back at some of our favorite episodes throughout the years around the themes of getting past fears, increasing confidence and c...

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Have you ever wanted to strike up a conversation with a stranger—at a coffee shop, in line at the store, or on a first date—but felt totally tongue-tied or worried you’d seem awkward? In Episode 399 of The Charisma Quotient, “Beyond the Swipe: How to Meet People in Real Life with Jena Kingsley” Kimmy sits down with the fearless and funny Jena Kingsley. Jena is a comedian, writer, and the viral sensation behind daring, ...

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Do you ever wonder how your self-worth is secretly impacting your dating life? Are you stuck in the same painful patterns—chasing the unavailable, feeling unworthy, or never quite connecting with the right match? In Episode 398 of The Charisma Quotient, “How Self-Worth Sabotages Your Dating Life:  Coaching with Kimmy” Kimmy coaches Jessica, a single mom and nurse who’s struggling with insecurity, self-concept, and a cy...

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Have you ever found yourself thinking, “Why do I keep attracting the wrong people?”
Or maybe you’re out there dating, putting yourself out there, but it just never seems to click or you think there are no good men or women out there left?  In Episode 397 of The Charisma Quotient, “Why you keep attracting the wrong people:  Uncovering your love blocks with Orna and Matthew Walters” Kimmy welcomes Orna and Matthew Walter...

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Ever feel like no matter how much you’ve accomplished, lasting love is still just out of reach? In Episode 396 of The Charisma Quotient, “5 Hidden Shields That Block Love After 40" Kimmy peels back the layers on the “hidden love shields” that so many successful, independent later-in-life daters unknowingly wear as armor—and reveals how these silent protectors can be the very barriers keeping true intimacy at bay.

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