Is it Okay to WANT to see EVIDENCE OF CHANGE (Sad I CAN’T TRUST YOU now) – 5.25S

Summary: Rebuilding Trust through Tangible Evidence of Change after Lies In this episode, we respond to a wife’s question about the importance of seeing tangible evidence in her husband's growth process. We discuss the importance of PROACTIVE steps in behavior change, and share our own personal story after Jay had lied over 1000 times. The episode explores various ways to rebuild trust, like taking notes during counseling sessions and talking about that with the wife. It also includes several Biblical perspectives on the importance of bearing fruit as evidence of genuine repentance and change. 00:00 Intro & Question 00:35 Solution: A quick way to explain it to him* 01:07 How Jay explains it to clients / Solution: Different ways he rebuilt trust* 02:14 Marriage Counselor said, "If you had a crystal ball" 02:46 Evidence of true heart change (Saul to Paul) 03:25 On being like Thomas Edison 04:38 She will tell you... over time / Jay was too smart for his own good 05:34 Take Notes / How not doing so can impact wives 07:39 Solution: What to look for* 09:47 Why Counselors won't share his progress (& one option) 11:48 Bible says it's okay to want evidence (examples) -- https://thecouplecure.com/contact-me/ - Jay and Lori's website https://pornpainhealed.com/contact-me/ - Lori's site for betrayed partners https://porniskillingme.com/contact-me/ - Jay's site for porn addiction recovery #betrayal #relationships #pornaddiction #marriageadvice