March 19, 2024 • 25 mins
Lauren gives a transparent, hilarious, and WAY the f@#k too long explanation of why she is putting the podcast on hiatus at the end of March!
Info and resources mentioned:
- The pod's website is comingoutpod.com. That's where you'll find a link to search episodes by keyword, as well as multiple resources on the "Resources" page (including the virtual queer community Google doc and "Lauren’s List of Lighthearted LGBTQ+ Stuff with Positive Queer Portrayals!" media list).
- Other queer, female-helmed podcasts that Lauren recommends include Bad Queers, Two Dykes And A Mic, and Lez Hang Out.
- Last but not least, the pod's AMAZING engineer/editor Averie Severs can be found on Instagram at @averie_severs!
And stay tuned for two more new episodes on March 20th and 27th...
Info and resources mentioned:
- The pod's website is comingoutpod.com. That's where you'll find a link to search episodes by keyword, as well as multiple resources on the "Resources" page (including the virtual queer community Google doc and "Lauren’s List of Lighthearted LGBTQ+ Stuff with Positive Queer Portrayals!" media list).
- Other queer, female-helmed podcasts that Lauren recommends include Bad Queers, Two Dykes And A Mic, and Lez Hang Out.
- Last but not least, the pod's AMAZING engineer/editor Averie Severs can be found on Instagram at @averie_severs!
And stay tuned for two more new episodes on March 20th and 27th...
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Hey, y'all, it's Lauren,and I will jump right to it.
So, like the title of thisI don't know mini episode said, I
am going to be putting the podcaston hiatus. I am somebody who hates
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change and gets freaked out by it. I assume some of you are like
that as well. So I wantedto just like talk through it, give
a full, transparent explanation, explaineverything that I know at the moment,
and just yeah, I don't know. I just I wrestled so hard with
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like how to share this, andI feel so awkward doing this. I'm
literally reading off like a bulleted liston my laptop because I want so much
to say everything that's on my mindabout it. So yeah, the first
thing, I don't know for howlong I want to be honest about that.
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It's gonna be going. I'm goingto be starting the hiatus at the
end of this month, so therewill be two more episodes coming out,
and I am not doing any kindof like a final episode or anything like
that, because I cannot imagine ascenario where I don't do more episodes eventually.
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I don't know what that will looklike. I don't know if,
like if I bring the podcast back, Like, do do I do that
when I've finally found someone who Ifeel like they would be a good a
co host and it's like another iterationof it, or do I bring it
back and it's no longer every weekbecause that has been so hard to do
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on my own. I don't know, like do I do boratic episodes again?
I'm trying to be like super honestthat I don't know answers to these
questions at the moment. But whatI do know is that I didn't I
didn't do a final episode because thisis not this is not like an an
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ending. Yeah, I cannot imaginenot doing some episodes during Pride months this
June. You know, there's alwayslike National coming Out Day. I can't
imagine like not releasing something for that. And just in general, like there
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are still so there are so manymore people who I want to speak to
and more people's stories that I wantto tell. I get emails. It's
literally it's just about once a day, or at least once every other day
from people either pitching themselves as guestsor usually you know it's like managers pitching
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guests. Uh, and just thereare so many more people out there who
I want to speak to. Soyeah, that's that's on my mind.
Also, I'm so close to threehundred episodes, Like my OCD is literally
not going to allow me to juststop forever. At two hundred and ninety
two, I can't handle that.So at some point I will get up
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to three hundred and there will bea three hundred episode. Now I know
there was there was a world whereI could have just ended the podcast when
Nicole left, like that would havebeen a reasonable thing to do, and
at the time that that happened,I was I was not ready to do
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that. There was never any questionin my mind when she left it that
I wanted it to continue, andso that's what I did, And honestly,
I am so glad that I did, because I have done so many
episodes over the past eight months thatare incredibly special to me. There were
also, like so many firsts inthese past eight months that were so cool.
(04:09):
As you know, I was soexcited to have on the POD's first
ever Furree guest. I had onour first ever Singaporean guest, just like
this isn't officially a first, butin the first five years of the pod,
we had only ever had one intersexguest. In the past eight months,
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I've had on two more. Sojust like the time, the guests
and the episodes that I've done overthese past eight months have been like so
valuable and so important to me.And I'm glad that I didn't end it
when Nicole was leaving. I'm I'mproud of like the rebrand of the name,
and I love the logo that myfriend did. I revamped the whole
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website. I'm so proud of that. So yeah, I if people are
hearing this and like, if youwere gonna end eight months later, why
didn't you just end it then?I had no idea that I would be
putting it on a hiatus eight monthslater, which brings us to why is
Lauren doing this? So the primarytwo reasons are incredibly boring. The reasons
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are money and time. Money.Okay, I want to be transparent,
So Nicole used to do all ofthe editing. Since she left, I
have had to pay an engineer todo that. I'm gonna shout out my
engineer and give her contact info atthe end of this rambly announcement because she
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is so incredible and I've loved workingwith her, and just if anyone out
there is doing a podcast or thinkingof starting a podcast, I'm gonna give
her info at the end. Butbut she needs to be paid what she
is worth. And let me tellyou, it is very expensive to get
a podcast. That it is sobasically I jumped from five years of Nicole
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and I not having to pay anyoneto do it to all of a sudden
having to pay a lot of moneyper month to get it done, and
that it's a lot, a lotmore than gets brought in by the Patreon
and ads, and it's it hasbeen. If I'm being honest, I
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have taken a financial hit from thathappening, which I don't regret. But
that's just that's just the fact ofit. Transparency about sponsorships, because I'm
sure you hear like Hello Fresh andlike and like Tushi and like these kind
of big name companies and you're like, don't you have enough money? Uh
So, because I'm not like myfavorite Murder or like you know, Mark
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Marin or anything like that. ThoseI'm I love those sponsorships. I love
doing. Ads are really fun forme to do. They they don't pay
a lot and I won't give outyou know, like specific monetary value.
Uh, but just because you're hearingan ad for like months and months,
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I get paid one time for foryou know, the duration that that ad
plays. So basically whatever, wedon't need to get into the nitty gritty.
The point I've trying to make isI was I was operating at a
loss, as I believe they sayin the business world, because the amount
that it was costing me to havethe podcast edited and engineered every month was
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significantly more than I was bringing infrom from ads and and the Patreon and
stuff like that. So yeah,I wanted to be transparent about the money
side of things. Uh. Theother thing, yeah, is is time
or as as we say in themodern age, bandwidth. Basically, uh,
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it is. You'll be shocked tolearn it is so much more work
to do a podcast by yourself thanwith a partner. It's just it's down
to me to do like all ofthe correspondence book, all of the guests.
It's also just you know, youget used to like working with a
partner and suddenly you're doing it allby yourself. And it's just like even
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just like writing episodes, episode descriptions, takes me like so much longer because
it used to be like I'd writea draft and then shoot it over to
Nicole and she'd be like change,change, change change. I'd be like,
oh, great, done. Andnow it's like no one is giving
me that input. So it's justme like staring at an episode description and
being like is it good? Sojust like little things that you don't even
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really think of until you're suddenly doingeverything by yourself. Also, I've,
as I'm sure many of you know, I have not had a steady job
for a super long time since literallylike week two of lock Down. I
haven't ad a study job, whichspeaks to the money part of it.
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But also I just started doing I'vestarted a job. It's not my dream
job. It's like it's one ofthose weird like you log into a platform
and it logs your hours and youdo work. But but I'm so happy
to have it. It pays decently, but it is one of those jobs
again where you log into a platformand it keeps track of your hours and
pays you accordingly, and realistically,I need to free up more time to
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be able to do it and toget more money, and to God,
willing move out of my apartment thisyear, which is something I wanted to
do last year and wasn't able to. But yeah, this is all a
long way of saying I need tofree up some more time in my life
to do like work stuff. Andjust also I am feeling burned out.
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If I'm being honest, I thinkthat's super relatable right now. A lot
of us are feeling really, reallyreally burned out. Yeah, just repeating
myself, going from five years ofhaving a co host and then suddenly like
thrown into doing it myself has beenexhausting in a lot of ways. So
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yeah, Flans needs a break.And you can tell because when I start
talking about myself in the third person, it means I need a break.
So that those are the two bigreasons. And I'm not giving like specific
like I'll be back on this dateand in this format because I want to
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be realistic about the fact that Idon't know what my needs are going to
be. I want to see likewhat this job is looking like. And
I'm still applying to like real morereal concrete jobs that I want to get.
So yeah, I just I haven'tmade any of those decisions, but
I haven't made any of those decisionsyet, but I am cognizant of the
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fact that I need a break andI'm listening to my body and mind and
all that good stuff, and I'mtrying to respect that for my own you
know, like health and wellbeing andall that boring stuff. Okay, So
again, I hate change. Itfreaks me out. I assume you get
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freaked out by change if you areanything like me. So what am I
leaving? What am I leaving youwith? During this this TBD very vague
hiatus. Okay, So here's somethings I want you to know. The
Pods web page coming uppod dot com, which again I revamped when I rebranded,
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And I don't want to brag,but I'm like really proud of it
because I'm not a graphic designer ora web designer, but I think it
looks really good. But anyway,that's neither here nor there. The point
is the Pods web page has inepisodes link and it that link to take
you to a website where you cansearch every episode description by keyword. And
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I don't know if people know that, but I feel like that's a really
important thing to know, especially ifyou're a newer listener and you're like,
holy crap, there's almost three hundredepisodes. That's a lot. You can
search for specific keywords if you wantto find specific episodes, if you've been
listening for forever and you just can'tremember, like, ah, what was
that episode? I really love.This is how you do it, search
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by keyword at this link. Yeah. So, I just want people to
know that there is a wealth ofepisodes that are going anywhere that still exists.
If you're a newer listener, thishiatus is a great time to start
at the very beginning. Listen tothose episodes. If you've been listening for
forever and you're like, how's itgoing away, I'm going to go into
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the withdrawal and get the shakes,go back listen to old episodes. Yeah.
I Also, I'm going to bekeeping the Twitter and the Instagram active.
They will obviously not be as active, but I am still going to
try to highlight things that are,you know, happening in the news,
or let's be realistic, it's mehappening in pop culture. If a hot
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actress comes out, you bet yourass there's gonna be tweets about that.
I can't not do that. Yeah, I will try to let y'all know
when you know former guests have likeprojects or exciting things happening. So yeah,
Twitter, Instagram still active, youwill still be able to reach me
through there. You will always beable to reach me through the Gmail,
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which is coming out pod at gmaildot com. Also, I've said this
on previous episodes, but it's worthrepeating. I want y'all out there to
know I read everything that comes in. Some of you have written the most
beautiful, just like lovely stories,like some people have told me they're coming
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out stories, or just written likea quick thing to be like, Hey,
this podcast is meant so much tome, and I want you to
know that I read every single oneof these. I do not reply to
all of them. I try,I genuinely do, but it it is
so hard because there's also all theemails for the guests in organizing, there's
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all the logistical emails, So Iam not always able to honor all of
the beautiful, non time sensitive,nologistical emails that come in. And sometimes
I do this thing that I imaginea lot of you can relate to,
where something is so meaningful and beautifuland like emotional that I'm like, oh
my god, And you know,I read it at like three in the
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morning or whatever crazy hour I'm up, and I'm like, oh my god,
I need to, like I needto set aside time to like really
reply to this and do it justice. And then I never end up doing
it. I assume we've all beenthere. It sucks, but I want
to be honest about that. Butthe reason why I'm saying this is because
I want you to know that ifyou write me something, it is not
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just like going out into the ether. So if there's ever anything you need
to get off your chest or youwant me to know, or just like
you're not out to anybody and youwant to you have to tell somebody,
you can tell me. It willget read. The Instagram thing is weird
with the frickin Twitter tube to alesser degree with that hidden folder. But
when I do remember, I checkthat hitden folder, So even if it's
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like something like that, I willeventually read it. And the ones that
go straight to Gmail, I readall of those. And it's just important
to me that you know that.And again, I'm so sorry that I
am not able to personally reply toeverything, but just know that your words
are getting read and they are reallyjust like deeply, deeply important to me
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and I'm so grateful. Okay,couple other things, going back to my
bulleted list on my laptop. Ohoh this is big. Okay, if
you are a patron, please cancelyour membership. I cannot take money from
you while I am not putting outnew episodes. That is not right.
You may have also noticed since Istarted doing the pod solo, I stopped
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mentioning the patreon at the end.I always shout out the patrons, but
I stopped being like, hey,go here if you want to give money,
because I was painfully aware of thefact that Nicole and I were very
well intentioned but not good at keepingup that patreon. And I never rebranded
the patreon to have the new nameor add new perks or anything. I
just it was we bit off morethan we could chewt. It was overwhelming,
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and so when I took over asthe only host, I no longer
like pushed it because it didn't feelright to do that. And now that
I'm going to be taking a hiatusfrom episodes, I absolutely do not want
y'all who are still patrons giving memoney while I'm not putting out new content.
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I'm not closing the Patreon because ithas like outtakes on it, and
I am now that I'm doing thishiatus, I am going to post I
have fucking part of my language.I have over a year of outtakes that
I still have not posted. Again. This is one of those things that
it is like so time consuming toget them up on the Patriot and all
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this stuff. So there will benew content coming out in the form of
a whole bunch of backlogged outtakes andthose will be free to everybody. I'm
unlocking all the Patreon content. Soyeah, I will let y'all know about
that via social media when I havementioned want to got those outtakes posted.
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But yeah, stop giving me money. If you're a patron who is still
giving me money, that is importantto me that I am not taking your
money while I am not producing newepisodes. Let's talk resources. Hell yeah,
so the website comingoup dot com.Uh. The website has a Google
doc of virtual community resources that Istarted during lockdown and have since like tried
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to add to as much as Ican. It's a work in progress,
like a lot of things on thewebsite. Speaking of work in progress,
the website also has a media listthat is specifically geared towards positive queer content,
So not a lot of stuff onthere, or almost no stuff where
like somebody dies or it's a reallydifficult coming out story that's like painful and
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the family rejects them, and stuffthat is not the purpose of the media
list. It's a coming out podcast. I want y'all to have positive connotations
for it, for that sort ofjourney. So yeah, so if you're
interested, there is a media listup there under resources, and a bunch
of other stuff under the resources tabon the website to explore. Also,
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I want to let you know aboutother podcasts that you may or may not
be aware of, other specifically queerfemale helmed podcasts, since I will not
be doing my queer female helm podcasts. Okay, So there's Bad Queers,
which I really like because it issort of I mean, they cover like
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so much, but sort of theirmission statement is it's a podcast for folks
who feel like they're like bad atbeing queer, which, as I'm sure
you know, has always been mystruggle. I feel like I don't fit
any of the stereotypes and all thatstuff, and so the two hosts of
Bad Queers feel similarly, and sothat's what I recommend. Two Dikes and
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a Mic is a very funny podcast. If you are missing my irreverent,
hilarious style, I recommend Two Dikesin a Mic. And as always,
Le's Hangout is just in all timer. A lot of you, I'm sure
discovered this podcast via less Hangout,but if you are, you know,
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coming to it later or something,Le's Hangout is one to absolutely subscribe to.
Lee and Ellie help Nicole and meso much in getting the pod up
and running. I found my editorthrough them, so yeah, I just
huge shout out to let us hangout. Definitely incorporate them into your podcasting
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if you do not already. Okay, and speaking of podcasts, here's my
shout out to my phenomenal engineer slasheditor. Her name is Avery Severs.
She is a queer woman. Shelives in Canada, which is so cool.
You all know that I think Canadais better than America, so that's
exciting for me. Now, ifyou are somebody who has a podcast or
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is thinking of starting one and wouldpotentially like to contact Avery, you can
do that through Instagram. Her instais at Avery Underscore Severs. That is
spelled a v e r i eunderscore s e v e r s.
Honestly, you should follow Avery anyway, even if you are not doing a
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podcast, because she posts like reallycool burlesque photos and content and it's just
cool to follow cool queer women,especially if they're a Canadian. If you
hit her up on Instagram and youdon't hear back, assume it went to
that weird hidden folder I was talkingabout earlier. You can contact me directly
if you haven't been able to reachher. I don't want to say her
Gmail publicly, just in case,but I do obviously have it so I
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can connect you guys if if you'reinterested. But yeah, she is just
so good. I cannot tell youhow hard it was to go from from
having Nicole edit it and like we'rejust we were for five years in such
a zone with like the way Iwould give notes and then like she would
like like give her notes, andthen it was just like a well oiled
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machine, and switching that over waslike so scary and hard. And if
you notice like a big jump inthe quality of the podcast around November or
December. It's because a buddy ofmine was doing the editing for I was
I was paying him, but hehe was my editor, and we just
did it work that well together andit wasn't as good. And then finally
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I found Avery, and it like, I just cannot recommend her enough.
And it's been so easy to workwith her. It's like she's inside my
brain and understands everything that I'm goingfor with my weird, rambly explaining edit
notes. So yeah, I justreally recommend her, y'all. I've reached
the end of my bulleted list onmy laptop. There is no doubt in
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my mind that as soon as Iturn out this recording I will think of
nine other things that I want tosay. But that's life. But yeah,
I just want to impress upon youthat this was so hard for me
to decide to do this. Thispodcast is. I think it may honestly
be the thing in my entire lifethat I'm proudest of. I'm not a
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hunter for such sure, but itis. It's up there, and it
might be then I'm one thing Iit is. It is in addition to
Piero, the love of my life, And yeah, so it was just
really hard for me to have toacknowledge that I need a break from it,
uh for financial reasons and for likebandwidth, emotional, mental stress,
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busyness, all that stuff reasons.Uh, but it's that's where I'm at,
and I want to you know,like take care of myself and keep
putting out quality content. And Inever want to get into a place with
a podcast where I like resent thatI, you know, have to do
it every week or that it feelslike a chore. It has not gone
to that point. I am makingsure to stop before I get there,
but it's I am feeling worn out. So yeah, So again, hiatus
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not end all, be all.I don't have clear cut answers for uh
if it will come back with likethe same regularity or what it will look
like y'all. What if I,oh my god, what if I find
like in a amazing hot girlfriend andthen we start I bring it back in
we're co hosting, like anything couldhappen, is what I'm saying. But
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I'm genuinely super excited about the remainingtwo episodes and again purposely not doing a
final wrap up episode because if nothingelse, I am getting to three hundred.
I am not stopping at two ninetytwo. So yeah, there will
be more episodes. I will keepyou all posted on them. Thank you
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so much to every single person wholistens, whether you like just started last
week and you're like I just started, why the fuck is she putting in
that iatus, or you've been listeningfor over five years, Thank you.
I am so grateful to you.I adure all of you, and thank
you for hopefully beg you for understandingwhy I'm doing this. And yeah,
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I will still be present on socialmedia and all that stuff, so yeah,
I think that said. God,I'm bad at ending things. Thank
you all for listening, and uhyeah, two more episodes coming at you
soon. Bye,
Hey, y'all, it's Lauren,and I will jump right to it.
So, like the title of thisI don't know mini episode said, I
am going to be putting the podcaston hiatus. I am somebody who hates
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change and gets freaked out by it. I assume some of you are like
that as well. So I wantedto just like talk through it, give
a full, transparent explanation, explaineverything that I know at the moment,
and just yeah, I don't know. I just I wrestled so hard with
(00:43):
like how to share this, andI feel so awkward doing this. I'm
literally reading off like a bulleted liston my laptop because I want so much
to say everything that's on my mindabout it. So yeah, the first
thing, I don't know for howlong I want to be honest about that.
(01:07):
It's gonna be going. I'm goingto be starting the hiatus at the
end of this month, so therewill be two more episodes coming out,
and I am not doing any kindof like a final episode or anything like
that, because I cannot imagine ascenario where I don't do more episodes eventually.
(01:30):
I don't know what that will looklike. I don't know if,
like if I bring the podcast back, Like, do do I do that
when I've finally found someone who Ifeel like they would be a good a
co host and it's like another iterationof it, or do I bring it
back and it's no longer every weekbecause that has been so hard to do
(01:53):
on my own. I don't know, like do I do boratic episodes again?
I'm trying to be like super honestthat I don't know answers to these
questions at the moment. But whatI do know is that I didn't I
didn't do a final episode because thisis not this is not like an an
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ending. Yeah, I cannot imaginenot doing some episodes during Pride months this
June. You know, there's alwayslike National coming Out Day. I can't
imagine like not releasing something for that. And just in general, like there
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are still so there are so manymore people who I want to speak to
and more people's stories that I wantto tell. I get emails. It's
literally it's just about once a day, or at least once every other day
from people either pitching themselves as guestsor usually you know it's like managers pitching
(02:58):
guests. Uh, and just thereare so many more people out there who
I want to speak to. Soyeah, that's that's on my mind.
Also, I'm so close to threehundred episodes, Like my OCD is literally
not going to allow me to juststop forever. At two hundred and ninety
two, I can't handle that.So at some point I will get up
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to three hundred and there will bea three hundred episode. Now I know
there was there was a world whereI could have just ended the podcast when
Nicole left, like that would havebeen a reasonable thing to do, and
at the time that that happened,I was I was not ready to do
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that. There was never any questionin my mind when she left it that
I wanted it to continue, andso that's what I did, And honestly,
I am so glad that I did, because I have done so many
episodes over the past eight months thatare incredibly special to me. There were
also, like so many firsts inthese past eight months that were so cool.
(04:09):
As you know, I was soexcited to have on the POD's first
ever Furree guest. I had onour first ever Singaporean guest, just like
this isn't officially a first, butin the first five years of the pod,
we had only ever had one intersexguest. In the past eight months,
(04:30):
I've had on two more. Sojust like the time, the guests
and the episodes that I've done overthese past eight months have been like so
valuable and so important to me.And I'm glad that I didn't end it
when Nicole was leaving. I'm I'mproud of like the rebrand of the name,
and I love the logo that myfriend did. I revamped the whole
(04:54):
website. I'm so proud of that. So yeah, I if people are
hearing this and like, if youwere gonna end eight months later, why
didn't you just end it then?I had no idea that I would be
putting it on a hiatus eight monthslater, which brings us to why is
Lauren doing this? So the primarytwo reasons are incredibly boring. The reasons
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are money and time. Money.Okay, I want to be transparent,
So Nicole used to do all ofthe editing. Since she left, I
have had to pay an engineer todo that. I'm gonna shout out my
engineer and give her contact info atthe end of this rambly announcement because she
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is so incredible and I've loved workingwith her, and just if anyone out
there is doing a podcast or thinkingof starting a podcast, I'm gonna give
her info at the end. Butbut she needs to be paid what she
is worth. And let me tellyou, it is very expensive to get
a podcast. That it is sobasically I jumped from five years of Nicole
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and I not having to pay anyoneto do it to all of a sudden
having to pay a lot of moneyper month to get it done, and
that it's a lot, a lotmore than gets brought in by the Patreon
and ads, and it's it hasbeen. If I'm being honest, I
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have taken a financial hit from thathappening, which I don't regret. But
that's just that's just the fact ofit. Transparency about sponsorships, because I'm
sure you hear like Hello Fresh andlike and like Tushi and like these kind
of big name companies and you're like, don't you have enough money? Uh
So, because I'm not like myfavorite Murder or like you know, Mark
(06:51):
Marin or anything like that. ThoseI'm I love those sponsorships. I love
doing. Ads are really fun forme to do. They they don't pay
a lot and I won't give outyou know, like specific monetary value.
Uh, but just because you're hearingan ad for like months and months,
(07:11):
I get paid one time for foryou know, the duration that that ad
plays. So basically whatever, wedon't need to get into the nitty gritty.
The point I've trying to make isI was I was operating at a
loss, as I believe they sayin the business world, because the amount
that it was costing me to havethe podcast edited and engineered every month was
(07:34):
significantly more than I was bringing infrom from ads and and the Patreon and
stuff like that. So yeah,I wanted to be transparent about the money
side of things. Uh. Theother thing, yeah, is is time
or as as we say in themodern age, bandwidth. Basically, uh,
(07:59):
it is. You'll be shocked tolearn it is so much more work
to do a podcast by yourself thanwith a partner. It's just it's down
to me to do like all ofthe correspondence book, all of the guests.
It's also just you know, youget used to like working with a
partner and suddenly you're doing it allby yourself. And it's just like even
(08:22):
just like writing episodes, episode descriptions, takes me like so much longer because
it used to be like I'd writea draft and then shoot it over to
Nicole and she'd be like change,change, change change. I'd be like,
oh, great, done. Andnow it's like no one is giving
me that input. So it's justme like staring at an episode description and
being like is it good? Sojust like little things that you don't even
(08:43):
really think of until you're suddenly doingeverything by yourself. Also, I've,
as I'm sure many of you know, I have not had a steady job
for a super long time since literallylike week two of lock Down. I
haven't ad a study job, whichspeaks to the money part of it.
(09:05):
But also I just started doing I'vestarted a job. It's not my dream
job. It's like it's one ofthose weird like you log into a platform
and it logs your hours and youdo work. But but I'm so happy
to have it. It pays decently, but it is one of those jobs
again where you log into a platformand it keeps track of your hours and
pays you accordingly, and realistically,I need to free up more time to
(09:31):
be able to do it and toget more money, and to God,
willing move out of my apartment thisyear, which is something I wanted to
do last year and wasn't able to. But yeah, this is all a
long way of saying I need tofree up some more time in my life
to do like work stuff. Andjust also I am feeling burned out.
(09:54):
If I'm being honest, I thinkthat's super relatable right now. A lot
of us are feeling really, reallyreally burned out. Yeah, just repeating
myself, going from five years ofhaving a co host and then suddenly like
thrown into doing it myself has beenexhausting in a lot of ways. So
(10:16):
yeah, Flans needs a break.And you can tell because when I start
talking about myself in the third person, it means I need a break.
So that those are the two bigreasons. And I'm not giving like specific
like I'll be back on this dateand in this format because I want to
(10:37):
be realistic about the fact that Idon't know what my needs are going to
be. I want to see likewhat this job is looking like. And
I'm still applying to like real morereal concrete jobs that I want to get.
So yeah, I just I haven'tmade any of those decisions, but
I haven't made any of those decisionsyet, but I am cognizant of the
(11:00):
fact that I need a break andI'm listening to my body and mind and
all that good stuff, and I'mtrying to respect that for my own you
know, like health and wellbeing andall that boring stuff. Okay, So
again, I hate change. Itfreaks me out. I assume you get
(11:20):
freaked out by change if you areanything like me. So what am I
leaving? What am I leaving youwith? During this this TBD very vague
hiatus. Okay, So here's somethings I want you to know. The
Pods web page coming uppod dot com, which again I revamped when I rebranded,
(11:43):
And I don't want to brag,but I'm like really proud of it
because I'm not a graphic designer ora web designer, but I think it
looks really good. But anyway,that's neither here nor there. The point
is the Pods web page has inepisodes link and it that link to take
you to a website where you cansearch every episode description by keyword. And
(12:05):
I don't know if people know that, but I feel like that's a really
important thing to know, especially ifyou're a newer listener and you're like,
holy crap, there's almost three hundredepisodes. That's a lot. You can
search for specific keywords if you wantto find specific episodes, if you've been
listening for forever and you just can'tremember, like, ah, what was
that episode? I really love.This is how you do it, search
(12:26):
by keyword at this link. Yeah. So, I just want people to
know that there is a wealth ofepisodes that are going anywhere that still exists.
If you're a newer listener, thishiatus is a great time to start
at the very beginning. Listen tothose episodes. If you've been listening for
forever and you're like, how's itgoing away, I'm going to go into
(12:48):
the withdrawal and get the shakes,go back listen to old episodes. Yeah.
I Also, I'm going to bekeeping the Twitter and the Instagram active.
They will obviously not be as active, but I am still going to
try to highlight things that are,you know, happening in the news,
or let's be realistic, it's mehappening in pop culture. If a hot
(13:11):
actress comes out, you bet yourass there's gonna be tweets about that.
I can't not do that. Yeah, I will try to let y'all know
when you know former guests have likeprojects or exciting things happening. So yeah,
Twitter, Instagram still active, youwill still be able to reach me
through there. You will always beable to reach me through the Gmail,
(13:33):
which is coming out pod at gmaildot com. Also, I've said this
on previous episodes, but it's worthrepeating. I want y'all out there to
know I read everything that comes in. Some of you have written the most
beautiful, just like lovely stories,like some people have told me they're coming
(13:54):
out stories, or just written likea quick thing to be like, Hey,
this podcast is meant so much tome, and I want you to
know that I read every single oneof these. I do not reply to
all of them. I try,I genuinely do, but it it is
so hard because there's also all theemails for the guests in organizing, there's
(14:16):
all the logistical emails, So Iam not always able to honor all of
the beautiful, non time sensitive,nologistical emails that come in. And sometimes
I do this thing that I imaginea lot of you can relate to,
where something is so meaningful and beautifuland like emotional that I'm like, oh
my god, And you know,I read it at like three in the
(14:37):
morning or whatever crazy hour I'm up, and I'm like, oh my god,
I need to, like I needto set aside time to like really
reply to this and do it justice. And then I never end up doing
it. I assume we've all beenthere. It sucks, but I want
to be honest about that. Butthe reason why I'm saying this is because
I want you to know that ifyou write me something, it is not
(14:58):
just like going out into the ether. So if there's ever anything you need
to get off your chest or youwant me to know, or just like
you're not out to anybody and youwant to you have to tell somebody,
you can tell me. It willget read. The Instagram thing is weird
with the frickin Twitter tube to alesser degree with that hidden folder. But
when I do remember, I checkthat hitden folder, So even if it's
(15:22):
like something like that, I willeventually read it. And the ones that
go straight to Gmail, I readall of those. And it's just important
to me that you know that.And again, I'm so sorry that I
am not able to personally reply toeverything, but just know that your words
are getting read and they are reallyjust like deeply, deeply important to me
(15:46):
and I'm so grateful. Okay,couple other things, going back to my
bulleted list on my laptop. Ohoh this is big. Okay, if
you are a patron, please cancelyour membership. I cannot take money from
you while I am not putting outnew episodes. That is not right.
You may have also noticed since Istarted doing the pod solo, I stopped
(16:10):
mentioning the patreon at the end.I always shout out the patrons, but
I stopped being like, hey,go here if you want to give money,
because I was painfully aware of thefact that Nicole and I were very
well intentioned but not good at keepingup that patreon. And I never rebranded
the patreon to have the new nameor add new perks or anything. I
just it was we bit off morethan we could chewt. It was overwhelming,
(16:30):
and so when I took over asthe only host, I no longer
like pushed it because it didn't feelright to do that. And now that
I'm going to be taking a hiatusfrom episodes, I absolutely do not want
y'all who are still patrons giving memoney while I'm not putting out new content.
(16:51):
I'm not closing the Patreon because ithas like outtakes on it, and
I am now that I'm doing thishiatus, I am going to post I
have fucking part of my language.I have over a year of outtakes that
I still have not posted. Again. This is one of those things that
it is like so time consuming toget them up on the Patriot and all
(17:12):
this stuff. So there will benew content coming out in the form of
a whole bunch of backlogged outtakes andthose will be free to everybody. I'm
unlocking all the Patreon content. Soyeah, I will let y'all know about
that via social media when I havementioned want to got those outtakes posted.
(17:33):
But yeah, stop giving me money. If you're a patron who is still
giving me money, that is importantto me that I am not taking your
money while I am not producing newepisodes. Let's talk resources. Hell yeah,
so the website comingoup dot com.Uh. The website has a Google
doc of virtual community resources that Istarted during lockdown and have since like tried
(17:59):
to add to as much as Ican. It's a work in progress,
like a lot of things on thewebsite. Speaking of work in progress,
the website also has a media listthat is specifically geared towards positive queer content,
So not a lot of stuff onthere, or almost no stuff where
like somebody dies or it's a reallydifficult coming out story that's like painful and
(18:22):
the family rejects them, and stuffthat is not the purpose of the media
list. It's a coming out podcast. I want y'all to have positive connotations
for it, for that sort ofjourney. So yeah, so if you're
interested, there is a media listup there under resources, and a bunch
of other stuff under the resources tabon the website to explore. Also,
(18:45):
I want to let you know aboutother podcasts that you may or may not
be aware of, other specifically queerfemale helmed podcasts, since I will not
be doing my queer female helm podcasts. Okay, So there's Bad Queers,
which I really like because it issort of I mean, they cover like
(19:07):
so much, but sort of theirmission statement is it's a podcast for folks
who feel like they're like bad atbeing queer, which, as I'm sure
you know, has always been mystruggle. I feel like I don't fit
any of the stereotypes and all thatstuff, and so the two hosts of
Bad Queers feel similarly, and sothat's what I recommend. Two Dikes and
(19:29):
a Mic is a very funny podcast. If you are missing my irreverent,
hilarious style, I recommend Two Dikesin a Mic. And as always,
Le's Hangout is just in all timer. A lot of you, I'm sure
discovered this podcast via less Hangout,but if you are, you know,
(19:51):
coming to it later or something,Le's Hangout is one to absolutely subscribe to.
Lee and Ellie help Nicole and meso much in getting the pod up
and running. I found my editorthrough them, so yeah, I just
huge shout out to let us hangout. Definitely incorporate them into your podcasting
(20:11):
if you do not already. Okay, and speaking of podcasts, here's my
shout out to my phenomenal engineer slasheditor. Her name is Avery Severs.
She is a queer woman. Shelives in Canada, which is so cool.
You all know that I think Canadais better than America, so that's
exciting for me. Now, ifyou are somebody who has a podcast or
(20:34):
is thinking of starting one and wouldpotentially like to contact Avery, you can
do that through Instagram. Her instais at Avery Underscore Severs. That is
spelled a v e r i eunderscore s e v e r s.
Honestly, you should follow Avery anyway, even if you are not doing a
(20:59):
podcast, because she posts like reallycool burlesque photos and content and it's just
cool to follow cool queer women,especially if they're a Canadian. If you
hit her up on Instagram and youdon't hear back, assume it went to
that weird hidden folder I was talkingabout earlier. You can contact me directly
if you haven't been able to reachher. I don't want to say her
Gmail publicly, just in case,but I do obviously have it so I
(21:22):
can connect you guys if if you'reinterested. But yeah, she is just
so good. I cannot tell youhow hard it was to go from from
having Nicole edit it and like we'rejust we were for five years in such
a zone with like the way Iwould give notes and then like she would
like like give her notes, andthen it was just like a well oiled
(21:44):
machine, and switching that over waslike so scary and hard. And if
you notice like a big jump inthe quality of the podcast around November or
December. It's because a buddy ofmine was doing the editing for I was
I was paying him, but hehe was my editor, and we just
did it work that well together andit wasn't as good. And then finally
(22:07):
I found Avery, and it like, I just cannot recommend her enough.
And it's been so easy to workwith her. It's like she's inside my
brain and understands everything that I'm goingfor with my weird, rambly explaining edit
notes. So yeah, I justreally recommend her, y'all. I've reached
the end of my bulleted list onmy laptop. There is no doubt in
(22:30):
my mind that as soon as Iturn out this recording I will think of
nine other things that I want tosay. But that's life. But yeah,
I just want to impress upon youthat this was so hard for me
to decide to do this. Thispodcast is. I think it may honestly
be the thing in my entire lifethat I'm proudest of. I'm not a
(22:55):
hunter for such sure, but itis. It's up there, and it
might be then I'm one thing Iit is. It is in addition to
Piero, the love of my life, And yeah, so it was just
really hard for me to have toacknowledge that I need a break from it,
uh for financial reasons and for likebandwidth, emotional, mental stress,
(23:18):
busyness, all that stuff reasons.Uh, but it's that's where I'm at,
and I want to you know,like take care of myself and keep
putting out quality content. And Inever want to get into a place with
a podcast where I like resent thatI, you know, have to do
it every week or that it feelslike a chore. It has not gone
to that point. I am makingsure to stop before I get there,
but it's I am feeling worn out. So yeah, So again, hiatus
(23:44):
not end all, be all.I don't have clear cut answers for uh
if it will come back with likethe same regularity or what it will look
like y'all. What if I,oh my god, what if I find
like in a amazing hot girlfriend andthen we start I bring it back in
we're co hosting, like anything couldhappen, is what I'm saying. But
(24:08):
I'm genuinely super excited about the remainingtwo episodes and again purposely not doing a
final wrap up episode because if nothingelse, I am getting to three hundred.
I am not stopping at two ninetytwo. So yeah, there will
be more episodes. I will keepyou all posted on them. Thank you
(24:29):
so much to every single person wholistens, whether you like just started last
week and you're like I just started, why the fuck is she putting in
that iatus, or you've been listeningfor over five years, Thank you.
I am so grateful to you.I adure all of you, and thank
you for hopefully beg you for understandingwhy I'm doing this. And yeah,
(24:53):
I will still be present on socialmedia and all that stuff, so yeah,
I think that said. God,I'm bad at ending things. Thank
you all for listening, and uhyeah, two more episodes coming at you
soon. Bye,
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