I matched with the frontman of a band I used to sing my heart out to, one of our most prolific songwriters. A brief romance unfolded, then ended without a single word. Here’s what I learned about the duality of musicians and the heartbreak of mistaking his lyrics for the person I thought he was.
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Ghosting isn’t new, but being ghosted by one of our generation’s most well-known songwriters, the frontman of a band I used to sing my heart out to, is.
I’m Kyle Lamont, a live music journalist and critic and after weeks of thoughtful messages and a couple of dates with a man known for his lyrical courage, I believed that if it ended, it would at least end with some words. It didn’t.
I was wrecked. Baffled. And most of all, disappointed by the fact that I had lost sight of something so fundamental: the person and the performer are not the same.
Worse, his music, a formative part of my life, now haunts me. Torch songs I loved are now hollow, a reminder of what once was and what could have been.
I’ve spent years traveling to music venues across the country, documenting stories from venue owners, bands, and fans to show the interconnectedness of travel and live music. This heartbreaking experience has shown me how love and loss are part of concert culture too.
"Ghosted by a Rockstar. Haunted by His Music" blends personal essay and music criticism, offering a window into my work as a relentlessly curious and passionate concert journalist.
Live music is empathetic. So is my storytelling. Thank you for being here. Thank you for hearing me.
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Written, edited and produced by Kyle Lamont
Music by Kristin Sevaldsen. Her track, “Fishermans Farewell” was heard while I was Lost at Sea and courtesy of d'Label Records
Support her work at https://kristinsevaldsen.com/
Mastering by Electric Pete McGill
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Created and hosted by Kyle Lamont, Concert Cast explores concert culture through energetic music journalism. With interviews, personal stories, and curated local music soundtracks, Lamont brings listeners closer to their favorite artists and legendary venues offering a unique take on the live music experience. Recognized as a Spotify Editor’s Pick in 2022.
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