Courtship Code

Courtship Code

Join Relationship coach, author and experienced matchmaker, Zara J., every week as she delivers courtship and dating advice for ambitious, high achieving, and successful women looking to break up with past relationship trauma and low self worth, and learn how to embody feminine energy, authenticity, and court compatible men for commitment. Using a combination of spirituality, psychology, and matchmaking techniques, Zara created the Captivating Courtship Code. Resources: Www.captivatingcourtship.com Instagram: @zarajcaptivatingcourtship Like, Subscribe, leave a Review and Share!

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May 6, 2025 22 mins

If you're a high-achieving Muslim woman with an anxious attachment style, chances are you've found yourself in the same painful cycle — deep emotional connections that feel like the start of something real… but never lead to marriage. In this episode, we unpack the #1 reason you keep attracting situationships and how your emotional openness can actually attract the wrong men if you don’t know how to qualify them for long-te...

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In this powerful episode, we dive deep into the unique challenges faced by anxiously attached Muslim women in their journey to marriage. If you're tired of cycles of situationships and heartbreak, this episode is for you. We explore the three essential shifts you must make to break free and manifest the love you deserve:

  1. Get Clear on Your Vision of Love: Learn how to define what a healthy, fulfilling marriage looks like for ...

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 Courtship can feel like a lonely road—especially for Muslim women navigating it with strong values, big dreams, and a desire to do things the right way. Whether you’re feeling like no one around you “gets it,” tired of getting advice that doesn’t align with your faith or goals, or silently questioning if you’re the only one struggling—this episode is your reminder: you’re not alone.

In this episode of Patterned, we explore:

✨ Why i...

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If you're fresh out of a breakup or caught in a cycle of almost-relationships, this episode is your roadmap to healing, alignment, and real commitment.

In this powerful episode, I’m sharing the 6 transformative steps to go from heartbreak to high-value courtship — and eventually, to becoming a bride. These steps will help you stop wasting time on situationships, rebuild your confidence, and position yourself for intentional love...

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In today’s episode of the Captivating Courtship Podcast, we’re diving into one of the biggest mistakes high-achieving women make in the first 30 days of courtship—and how it silently sabotages meaningful connection.

If you’ve ever felt the need to prove your worth, push the relationship forward, or dismiss men too quickly—this episode will speak directly to your heart.

Discover how masculine “doing” energy shows up in the early stage...

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In this episode, we explore why high-value Muslim women never beg for love—and why you shouldn’t either. If you've ever found yourself overextending, emotionally chasing, or trying to prove your worth in courtship, this conversation will help you realign with your value. Discover how to embody confidence, trust in divine timing, and create space for the love that’s already written for you.

  • What it really means to "beg f...

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If you’re a high-achieving Muslim woman struggling with courtship, feeling frustrated by inconsistent men, and wondering why you keep getting ghosted, rejected, or why things never seem to move forward, this episode is for you.

In this episode, we uncover:

  • The real reason you feel stuck in cycles of disappointment in love

  • Why trying to control courtship is actually pushing marriage further away

  • How to embody Captivating Queen Energ...

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Have you ever found yourself deeply connected to a man—feeling the attraction, the chemistry, and the emotional bond—only to realize months or even years later that he’s still not ready to marry?

You keep waiting, hoping, and trying to make things work, but deep down, you know this relationship isn’t leading to marriage. This is the #1 mistake keeping high-achieving Muslim women stuck in confusion: staying in relationships that aren...

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If you’re a high-achieving woman, you’ve built a successful career, your finances are in order, and you’ve checked off personal milestones—but when it comes to love, things aren’t falling into place. You keep attracting emotionally unavailable men, relationships that fizzle out, or connections that leave you questioning,Why does this keep happening to me?

In today’s episode, we’re uncovering:

  • The real reason high-achieving women ...

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In this episode of The Courtship Code Podcast, we speak with Sauda, a mom of 4 and divorcee who join The Captivating Courtship Code coaching after her second divorce simply to restore her confidence that resulted in meeting her now husband and attracting marriage within a year of coaching.


Sauda details how her conservative Muslim upbringing impacted her previous marriages and how she learned to take a new approach to courtship, s...

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Limiting beliefs can keep you stuck in a cycle of pain and self-doubt. For Muslim women, these beliefs might be influenced by cultural and societal expectations, making them even more challenging to overcome. Limiting beliefs are those negative thoughts that hold you back. They might sound like, "I’m not good enough," or "I’ll never find love again." These beliefs often stem from past experiences and can be deeply ingrained. The ...
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Whether you saw it coming or it hit you out of nowhere, the end of a relationship can leave you feeling lost and in pain. Understanding why breakups happen and how to navigate them can be the first step towards healing and personal growth. Today, we'll explore the psychological and emotional aspects of breakups, why they happen, and how you can start the healing process. Today’s Episode will help to gain more clarity and the fir...
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LoveMes are hopeless romantics, codependents, who seek validation through feeling needed. LoveMes love the idea of love, and find themselves swept into romantic fantasies with little required from a potential partner in order to feel committed or valued. LoveMes love a relationship project, a partner they believe they can improve and make better, simply being a support system to fix a partner’s life. They try to see the good in p...
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Avoiders are committed to their independence, fear of rejection, and the belief that their must authentic selves would never be fully valued or loved. They uphold a shell of their identity in order to protect themselves from judgment and avoid their discomfort with their full truth, not from a place of arrogance but from fear of rejection. Avoiders have a difficult time with emotional intimacy and typically feel overwhelmed when re...
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The Sexual Love Loop relationship pattern has an anxious attachment style and is a pattern type that oftentimes uses sexual attraction and desirability as a way to leverage power and validation during the dating and courtship process. While this may seem common for some, the guilt, shame and abandonment cycle that someone with the Sexual Love Loop experiences post encounter is what makes this a painful self-sabotaging relationship ...
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Most adapters toggle between anxious and avoidant behaviors and think of relationships like reality shows, full of drama and better to watch and observe than to participate. They are students of relationships (romantic, friendships, social activities) more than actively engaging in them. If you’re an adapter, you may have a tendency to take on other people’s problems and find yourself adapting to negative mindsets and beliefs whe...
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Those with the Too Good Love Loop relationship pattern tend to be very confident on the surface, while deep down inside secretly struggling with low self-worth particularly when it comes to getting emotional needs met. Vulnerability, empathy and communicating relationship needs are some of the core wounds and challenges a Too Good must face while navigating the dating and courtship process. In this episode you will learn all abou...
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In this episode we have a deep dive conversation with a CCC alum who shares her unique journey to love and marriage. She shares how the knowing who your person is doesn't mean you won't have to do the inner work to align with your journey to love and marriage. You will learn how this couple turned their breakup into a major breakthrough and learned to navigate healing and commitment for their love story. Take the FREE Love Loop as...
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If you have been feeling unmotivated with dating and courtship, been ghosted, or not getting past 4-6 weeks of the dating and courtship process you may be in the courtship Burnout loop. When you are in a dating and courtship burnout loop you will find yourself consistently having to start over from short-lived dating experiences, feeling not good enough for the partners you meet, or feeling lost and confused about where to meet th...
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