August 1, 2025 • 48 mins
Hey lady! Let’s be real, life lately has felt like it’s on one. Trying to keep up with the pace of life can feel like a never-ending pursuit with no finish line. If life has been landing haymakers and making your cup feel rather empty, Dr. Dom and Terri are here to offer you a warm hug in the form of affirmations. Let these 10 doses of kindness soothe your soul and remind you that tough times don’t last always.
Affirmations are a powerful tool that need nothing more than an open mind and an open heart to provide comfort and healing. And, once you put them in steady practice they can amplify peace in your life and even transform negative patterns internally. So, lady take the intensity out of your week by grabbing your favorite beverage of choice and getting cozy. Close your eyes and repeat after us. Allow yourself to be deeply held with these simple truths.
Lady, we love you for real! Should you want to deepen your affirmation practice be sure to check out Dr. Dom’s book of affirmations Daily Affirmations.
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"I am alive and well."
– Jhene Aiko
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Affirmations are a powerful tool that need nothing more than an open mind and an open heart to provide comfort and healing. And, once you put them in steady practice they can amplify peace in your life and even transform negative patterns internally. So, lady take the intensity out of your week by grabbing your favorite beverage of choice and getting cozy. Close your eyes and repeat after us. Allow yourself to be deeply held with these simple truths.
Lady, we love you for real! Should you want to deepen your affirmation practice be sure to check out Dr. Dom’s book of affirmations Daily Affirmations.
Quote of the Day:
"I am alive and well."
– Jhene Aiko
Goal Map Like a Pro Workbook
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary
Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
On this week's episode of Cultivating her Space.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
I am not available for anything that drains me. Protecting
my peace is a form of self love. Hey lady,
have you ever felt like the world just doesn't get you? Well,
we do.
Speaker 3 (00:22):
Welcome to Cultivating her Space, the podcast dedicated to uplifting
and empowering women like you.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
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Speaker 2 (01:02):
Now, let's get into this week's episode of Cultivating her Space.
It's doctor dom here from the Cultivating her Space podcast.
Are you currently a resident of the state of California
and contemplating starting your therapy journey? Well, if so, please
reach out to me at doctor Dominique Brusard dot com.
(01:25):
That's d R D O M I N I q
U E B r o U s s ar d
dot com to schedule a free fifteen minute consultation. I
look forward to hearing from you our quote of the day,
(01:46):
I am alive and well. I'm gonna say that one
more time for the folks from the back, or maybe
if you need to pause, then let it fit on
you for a moment. I am, I'm alive and well.
So this quote is part of a gratitude meditation from
(02:09):
Janee Aiko and if you haven't heard it, lady, we
highly suggest that you go and check it out. I
personally heard it through the Peloton app and that has
become one of my go to morning meditations to start
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my mourning from a space of gratitude. And so I'll
say it one more time, I am alive and well.
Rit when you hear this, because you hadn't, you weren't
familiar with this meditation prior to us preking for this episode.
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So when you hear this and you checks out that meditation,
what comes up for you?
Speaker 1 (02:58):
Okay? Girls? So much comes up for me.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
It actually makes me think about two other quotes that
I'm going to kind of add on to it. And
when I hear this, it kind of I feel like
it kind of reminds me to be present right, like
I'm alive, like in this moment right now, like I'm
alive and well.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
And the well part.
Speaker 3 (03:16):
I was thinking about that because I went through a
bit of a rough patch recently and I was like, well,
I didn't feel well.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
But that's where the other two quotes come in.
Speaker 3 (03:23):
And to kind of add on to that, there's a
quote that a friend in college shared where she said,
I forgot where she got it from, but she said,
where there's life, there's hope. And so I'm like, okay,
I can walk with that. And then there's a less
brand quote that I'll add on to that that says
if you can look up, you can get up. And
so I'm like adding them all together into that particular quote,
So I am alive and well, kind of going into
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when there's where there's life, there's hope, and then if
you can look up, you can get up. And in
that sense, like when I think about that quote, I
can see how, Okay, I'm alive, I'm well, there's an
opportunity for me to get to where I want to go.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
What comes up from you when I hear that?
Speaker 2 (04:02):
I love that I love that because to me, when
I would meditate to this particular, this particular affirmation and
the overall message that is through that that particular meditation. Yeah,
it's similar of the quotes that you added on right
that like, it's an expression of gratitude that you are present,
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you are here, And if you are present and you
are here, then you have a lot to be grateful
for in that alone. And where there's gratitude, there's room
for you to do things. Even if you aren't feeling
you're one hundred percent, you can still say it to
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get until you get to that point where you are
feeling at one hundred percent.
Speaker 1 (04:53):
Oh, I love that. I love that so much, lady.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
So, if you have been watching the new Loose on
social media, just if you have been alive, right, and
if you are listening to this episode right, we're talking
about being alive and well. Life has been moving fast
right for many of us. You may be feeling heavy
or like you just need a soft place to land.
If that's you, this episode is for you. So we
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are slowing things down and wrapping you in words that
feel like warmth, that feel like a hug. And today
we're going to be sharing ten affirmations again to make you,
you and your day feel like you're getting a hug
from us personally. So it's going to be the kind
that reaches your spirit, not just your ears. And each
one of these affirmations ideally is going to speak to
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a part of our lives that we all navigate so
self worth, healing, rest, love, purpose, and trust. And we're
not just saying these words, we're unpacking why they matter,
how they've carried us, and how you can use them
to come back home to yourself. And I do want
to state that this is not about toxic positivity. It's
about true telling, softness and reminders that you already are worthy,
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you already are powerful, and you already are held even
on your hard days.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
So get cozy, grab your tea or drink of choice,
take a deep breath, and let's speak life together.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
All right, all right, all right, So our first affirmation
I am enough, exactly as I am. My power has
never depended on anyone else's permission. I'm gonna say that
one more time so that as you're listening to this,
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it may even be helpful for you to pause and
close your eyes, place your hand on your belly or
your heart and say the affirmation, I am enough exactly
as I am. My power has never depended on anyone
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else's permission. So, lady, as you hear that affirmation, and
as you have set that affirmation out loud, we also
want you to think about where in your life do
you feel like you're still waiting for permission, waiting for
someone else to tell you that it's okay to be
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you to do that thing. So, as we're going through
these affirmations and we have these follow up questions, take
a moment and write down your reflections and bookmark this
particular episode so that you can come back to it
anytime you need it.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
I love this quote so much, or this affirmation so much,
because I feel like, when I was younger, I felt
this is something my younger self needed to hear, because
I remember being in seasons of life where I was
looking outside of myself for enoughness or for worthiness. And
now at this age, I'm more, you know, we're like
I feel like when you hit this a certain age
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and you've done healing work and you're on your growth
journey and healing journey, you begin to just really sort
of take in the wisdom that you make that maybe
maybe it didn't hit you. I probably heard this before
when I was younger, but I didn't hit the same.
And so just knowing like everything you need is with them,
like you really are enough.
Speaker 1 (08:20):
I was watching an.
Speaker 3 (08:21):
Interview today and I don't know where this quote came from,
but the interview we said something like people used to
laugh at me because I was different, and now I
laugh at them because they're all the same. And I
think about, we're in this world where we're taught you
have to assimilate. You have to everybody's you know, especially
on social media. Your body has to look this way,
you got to speak this way, and people are like
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doing things to look like everyone else. Some people are
at least, And I think this is just a reminder
that it's important to be you, like you shouldn't be
like anyone else, like a snowflake, right, Like when you
think about a snowflake, they're all different shape, sizes, and
they come with these different forms and it's for a
purpose and a reason. And so just remembering that you
are enough no matter where you are in your journey.
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And yeah, your power doesn't depend on anyone else outside
of you. So that's our first one. Now we're going
to dive into number two. Number two is I honor
my past, but I do not live there. I am
healing forward with grace and compassion.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (09:26):
So, dom I want to share what comes up for
me as I read this particular affirmation, and I want
to hear what it makes you think about because I
was recently. I was talking to a friend today and
I was thinking about who I was shoot a year ago,
but more specifically, I would say maybe like ten to
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ten to fifteen years ago, and there were certain experiences
that I was indulging in, and there were just a
certain lifestyle that I was living, certain things I was doing,
and when I think about who I am today, I
couldn't see myself doing those.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Things like now. And I wasn't.
Speaker 3 (10:00):
Looking back from a place of judgment, but it was
more so like Wow, I needed all of that to
grow and to be to learn the lessons and have
the experiences to give me an appreciation for where I
am now but also understand what I desire, what I
don't want, and also that kind of shaped me into
the woman that I am. And so I think it's
important to remember, like judging ourselves for our past that
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doesn't do us, it doesn't really do us any good, right,
And so just appreciating the experience and what it taught
us and how it supported us in getting to where
we are today. I think it's a healthier perspective to have.
And just having grace and compassion and forgiveness for yourself
is just so key. So that's something that came up
for me as I read that affirmation.
Speaker 1 (10:40):
What comes up for you? I love that?
Speaker 2 (10:43):
And I think the other piece of that that comes
up is this question of a lady you going ahead
and ask yourself this question, what part of your past
are you still carrying that you're ready to set down?
Speaker 1 (10:57):
Right?
Speaker 2 (10:58):
So, because the first part of this after says, I
honor my past, but I do not live there. And
so to me, what comes up around that is recognizing
that part of your healing is releasing that your past
and letting go of the emotions that may be tied
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to it that might be preventing you from moving forward. Right.
And So, because I think about oftentimes when we're talking
about this, we're talking about things from our past that
may have been harmful or hurtful versus the good memories,
right like ideally, you want to you want to hold
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on to those things that brought you joy right, that
made you feel seen, heard, loved, and valued, and you
want to be able to release the things that aren't,
because if you allow yourself to live in those spaces,
then you can't grow. Then it is hard to move forward.
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And so it's those things that were harmful or hurtful
to me. I'm not gonna live in that space. Yeah,
I'm gonna I'm not gonna judge myself for being for
what happened at that time. I'm gonna let all of
that go so that I can move forward.
Speaker 1 (12:33):
I love that.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
So then that takes us to our third affirmation. Abundance
flows to me with ease, I attract aligned opportunities and overflowed.
So I'm gonna say that one more time, Abundance flows
to me with ease, I attract aligned opportunities and overflow.
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The lady, when you hear that and you say that
out loud, remember that it's about alignment. And if you're
feeling that things are in a struggle or feeling difficult,
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then that's a sign that things are not in alignment.
And so then it's an opportunity to go within and
ask yourself, what are the things that I might be
doing or that I might be attracted that it's causing misalignment,
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because sometimes when things are misaligned, it's not it's not
always from a negative space. It could be that we
are misaligned because we are not clear on what it
is that we want and need, and so we are
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behaving in a way that is attracting things to us
that is not what we desire, not what we want.
But once we change that behavior to truly align with
what it is that we want and desire, opportunities will
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start to flow that feel right for us.
Speaker 3 (14:32):
Okay, so you're just gonna be preaching on the episode basically?
Speaker 1 (14:36):
Is that what you're doing?
Speaker 3 (14:37):
Because girl, you got me over here taking notes down
because you make me think about so many different things. Okay,
so I just wrote down a couple bullet points for myself,
so I don't forget that was so powerful.
Speaker 2 (14:46):
Tom.
Speaker 3 (14:47):
One of the things that you just talked about is
basically like aligning your energy with what you desire versus
and sometimes what that means, Lady, I don't know this
may sound wild to you, but sometimes that means be
de Lulu about your future at least, right, Like, sometimes
you have to be delusional because and people are you know,
people say that facetiously online these days, but it's really
about having faith in my opinion, right. And one of
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the things I've been asking myself is how does wealthy
terry show up?
Speaker 1 (15:13):
Like what does it look like? For what does she do?
Speaker 3 (15:15):
Like I envision a world of who my future self
is and how she shows up and having the certain
income that I desire and having the certain lifestyle that
I desire, And I ask myself, how does she show up?
Because sometimes if things are not looking the way that
I want them to look, my energy might be in
a different space, right, like coming from an energy of
desperation or an energy of you know, forcing. And it's like,
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if I continue to do that, I'm going to continue
to attract that type of thing toward me. And so
I love that you mentioned that. I think another reminder
within this affirmation is that what's for you is never
going to miss you, whether it's job opportunity, maybe a
relationship didn't work out. If that thing is not in
your life right now, it probably wasn't for you, and
you may not understand why it didn't work out right now,
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but in hindsight it'll probably all make sense. So I
think that's another thing to keep in mind. And then
something else I thought about is what we believe is
going to be true for us, right, Like you ever
been with someone and you have the same experience, but
you just have different perspectives of it, and whatever you
are perceiving that is true for you, that is your truth.
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And then the other person, whatever they're perceiving, whatever they're perceiving,
that's their truth as well. And so whatever you believe,
whatever narrative, whatever story you're telling yourself, that becomes your truth.
And so it's important to remember even though you might
be looking at your bank account or you might be
looking around you're like, well, I don't see the abundance. Okay,
Well let's tap into the energy of what we desire.
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And even if you have a moment where you are misaligned,
remember that every minute of every day can be a
fresh start for you. We don't have to wait until
Jebuary first, Like every minute. Let me say you, I
was having a rough moment last week and I switched
that shit around.
Speaker 1 (17:02):
I said, Okay, hold.
Speaker 3 (17:03):
Up, I don't want to I don't want to feel
this right now, it's not something that I need to
dig into, which is like a random thought that popped
in and I was like, I don't even where did
this come from. I'm gonna reach for a different type
of thought, right, And so as we dig into this affirmation,
remember that it's important to also identify what does abundance
mean to you? So that was a powerful one. Don's
over here, preacher. We're gonna move on to number four. Now.
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At number four, is I am worthy of love? I'm
gonna say that one more time. Number four, Is I
am worthy of a love that honors my softness and
protects my strength? I feel like I gotta sit with
that and say that again for the people in the back.
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I am worthy of a love that honors my softness
and protects my strength. Okay, let me just say this, Don.
I'm we talked about this. I am very much into
pop culture, right, and although I'm into the whole celebrity
you know stuff, I realized that we don't understand, like
we don't know the behind the scenes of celebrity celebrities lives, right,
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But I do want to share something that I've observed
and something that people are talking about that. I think
can really illustrate this particular point here, at least from
a surface level.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
Okay, So just walk with me.
Speaker 3 (18:18):
Walk with me, lady as we go through this, and
then don might love to hear your perspective on this
as well. So, Dom, you know about Tianna Taylor and
Aaron Pierre, right.
Speaker 1 (18:27):
Their relationship.
Speaker 3 (18:29):
Okay, So she apparently he's been working with her on
her new project, and I've been watching some of their interviews,
and I followed her career ever since she was on
what was that Sweet sixteen back in the day, right
when she was on Sweet sixteen. So I followed her
career and I just as an observer, right, I don't
know her personally, but as an observer, I've seen I
saw how she showed up in her relationship with her
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ex husband Emon Schumpert.
Speaker 2 (18:52):
Right.
Speaker 3 (18:53):
And there's a different energy to Tianna Taylor. She's also
a sagittarian. So shout out to my sage sister, I
kind of you know, I feel like I get her
a little because we said it's over here. But she
has a very strong presence. She's so talented, right, beautiful woman,
and you can see the difference in the way that
she shows up with her current man versus her ex.
And I think that when you are in a space
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where you are being loved in a way where you
can be vulnerable, where you can be soft, and you
don't have to put on that you know, be in
that masculine energy, I think that's a powerful thing. So
I just wanted to tie that in because it made me.
I thought about it when I saw this affirmation. But
I think this kind of goes back to what we said.
What you believe for yourself to be true is going
to be true, and so knowing and stating that you
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are worthy of this love is so important. But I
think the most important thing with this affirmation is that
it starts with you.
Speaker 1 (19:41):
So even if you don't.
Speaker 3 (19:42):
Have that love in your life right now, show up
and give yourself that love. I remember when I was
in my dating journey, I was sending to myself Hello,
beautiful text messages in the morning, like to myself because
I wanted to give myself what I desired. You know,
I think that's important for us to be able to
love ourselves and the way that we want someone knows
to love us, and also to mirror that to show
them that's mouthful.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
And I think you know, I think what comes up
for me is that when you, as you grow and evolve,
the relationships that you have also may grow and it
may look will look different as you grow and evolve. Right,
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And so how she is showing up now in this
season is then reflected in the type of relationship that
she has, Yes, And so I think that applies to
all of us, right, that that how we are in
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this moment, will our relationships will reflect that? And so
to me for this particular, this particular affirmation is one
that will hopefully all allow us to attract.
Speaker 3 (21:03):
Love that.
Speaker 2 (21:06):
Honors our softness and our strength. And I also want
to emphasize that that's not only applicable to romantic relationships, right,
that hopefully we are also attracting our friendships, like all
of our relationships, yeah, are allowing us to be soft
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and honor and respect our strength.
Speaker 1 (21:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:36):
And so and that's if that's what you're choosing in
this moment in this season, right, So you can even
so part of what question to ask yourself is what
is it that you want in need? Like how do
you want to be loved in this particular season? And
then what do you need to do to attract that?
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So then that takes us to affirmation number five. I
slow down, I breathe. I trust that I am safe
in my body and in this moment. So I'm gonna
say that one more time. I slow down, I breathe.
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I trust that I am safe in my body and
in this moment. So immediately what comes up for me
is the specificity around this particular affirmation that you are
safe in your body, because there are times when everything
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around us may feel chaotic, but the real question for
us is are we safe within ourselves? Because if we
have slowed down, if we are focused on our breath,
and do you feel safe within our own body, then
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all will be well for us. Everything around us could
be in pure chaos, but if we feel grounded and
safe within ourselves, we.
Speaker 1 (23:15):
Are going to be okay. Yes, Laud.
Speaker 3 (23:18):
And this reminds me of it's probably all of our favorites,
the quote or saying where they say put your mask
on first, and you have to fill your cup because
we cannot pour it from an empty cup, and this
particular affirmation, it's actually the second half of it is
something that my therapist and I it was an affirmation
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or mantra that my therapist and I were working through
when I was trying to conceive, because when I was
in my infertility journey, one of the things that came
up was like a lot of childhood trauma and how
I didn't realize it, but I did not feel safe
in my body, and so I felt like that was
preventing my body from being able to have this environment.
Speaker 1 (23:58):
To hold this baby.
Speaker 3 (23:59):
And so I did a lot of breadth work and
a lot of healing work, and that was something that
I really leaned into. It's like reminding myself that I'm
safe now, like I'm okay, and I just going back
to filling our cup. Is so important to make sure
that we're good, especially as caregivers and whether it's mothers
or just family members, people who do a lot for
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other people. We need to make sure that we're good
so that we can show up for ourselves first and
then be there for others that need us as well.
So definitely something to keep in mind. Yeah, all right,
let's move on to number six. So number six is
my voice matters, my story matters, my gifts are sacred
and meant to be shared. Wow, this is a really
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good one. Just sitting with that for a minute, I
feel like, for me when this comes, well, I think
about this dome, this is okay. I have a lot
of different thoughts about this okay. So when I think
about this particular affirmation, it just makes me think about
a time in my journey where I was debating on
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if I wanted to share my parts of my story.
And I think back to about thirteen years ago or
so when I first created my blog when I was
in grad school, and I remember sharing, like some of
the first few blog posts about being abused, like some
of the very sensitive topics, but I felt called to
share it. But I also felt some shame and some
anxiety because I was like, what is my family going
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to think?
Speaker 2 (25:24):
Right?
Speaker 3 (25:24):
What is my mom going to say about the stories
I'm sharing? And what I was reminded of as I
began to share my stories that we all have a
story one and there were so many people around the world,
so many women came out and were thanking me for
being so transparent and sharing these deep stories about my
suicidal ideations and about depression and things that I felt
a little shame about but also felt compelled to share
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at the same time. So, lady, this is a reminder
of course, share your story when like you know yourself
best right, and you should ideally be working with you know,
your intuition, your spiritual guide, whoever, your whatever, whatever you're
going to for support and for answers, like you work
with your support system to ensure that it's the time
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and space and you do it in a way that
feels right for you.
Speaker 1 (26:09):
But just know, like your voice does matter.
Speaker 3 (26:12):
And the prompt that we can offer for this particular
affirmation is what story are you finally ready to share?
Speaker 1 (26:20):
Whether you share it.
Speaker 3 (26:20):
In a journal with a friend, in a small group
community setting, or on a podcast, whatever that is, Like,
what story is that for you? Because I think there's
so much freedom and liberation not I think, I know
there's so much liberation that comes when we share our
stories and use our voice, and it really does help
to liberate other people as well.
Speaker 2 (26:40):
Yes, and I do think, yeah, I love that last
statement of sharing your story helps liberate other people and
gives other people the capacity to then or the permission,
going back to one of our earlier affirmations of giving people,
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it gives others permissions to say, oh, yes, me too. Yes,
I oh, yes, now I maybe maybe I don't feel
shame or judgment now because someone else has shared and
I see that I am not alone. And at the
end of the day, the majority of us in this
world want nothing more than to not feel alone. Yes,
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and so when you share your story, whatever whatever that
story might be, there is always going to be someone
else that connects with that. So then that takes us
to affirmation number seven. I am not available for anything
that drains me. Protecting my peace is a form of
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self love.
Speaker 1 (27:53):
I need read it again, Read it again.
Speaker 2 (27:57):
Please available for anything that drains me. Protecting my peace
is a form of self love. Cool child. Okay, So lady,
ask yourself, what are you giving too much of yourself
to right now? When you look at your cup and
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where you are putting your time, efforts, talent, and energy.
Is there a part of your life that you are
giving too much of yourself to right now? And why
is that? Because I do want to honor and acknowledge
that there are times, so there are times where it
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is needed. Yes, okay, So I don't want us to
use this as a well doctor Diamond Terry said, then,
because I feel like this drains me. I ain't got
to do it. That's not what we're saying. We are
saying to be be mind, will be intentional.
Speaker 1 (29:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (29:03):
And that there and recognizing that, yes, there are some
things in life that we have to do that rightfully
will drain us. But the real question is are we
doing things that we don't have to do that are
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draining us? Yeah? Or are we doing things that naturally
are going to drain us but we're we're giving, we're
being over the top with it, which is causing even
more strength. Yeah. And so you know, and I recognize that,
particularly for us as black women, how we show up
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is always above and beyond right. And so let's really
step back and be intentional of out out and when
we choose to show up. Are the things that we
are showing up for aligned with our goals and our values?
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Is it something that we have to do? And if
it's not, why are we doing.
Speaker 1 (30:22):
A men to that dom.
Speaker 3 (30:24):
I'm glad that I'm glad that you made that distinction
because I was thinking about something that came up recently,
a family situation that I felt conflicted about, and I
was like, I don't know if I want to do Okay,
really quick, lady, this is this is real life right now. Okay,
So Dom, can you hear my neighbors, because these people
are allowed to tell outside, can you hear them?
Speaker 1 (30:44):
Okay? I know, thankfully. Okay, I was gonna say, I'm
about to get it.
Speaker 3 (30:47):
If you're watching us, you see me looking over like
I'm looking like, what the fuck?
Speaker 1 (30:51):
What's going on?
Speaker 3 (30:52):
I thought I had to get up and close the window.
But okay, are y'all way back to the show?
Speaker 1 (30:55):
Back to the show.
Speaker 3 (30:56):
But I was going to say, there was a moment,
a family situation that came up, and I felt conflicted
about it, and I wanted to support, but I also
wanted to be mindful of my energy, and I was like,
what what could possibly be required or what could possibly
be asked of me?
Speaker 1 (31:11):
At this moment? Feels like it could be draining.
Speaker 3 (31:13):
So I love that you brought up values because at
the same time, showing up and the way that I
did was aligned with my values. But I set boundaries
and I reinforced those boundaries so that I wasn't it
wasn't this like continuously draining thing. So I set up,
I went to do what I had to do, set
some boundaries and I was able to align with my
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values and show up in that way and not feel
like it was too much for me where you know
it was debilitating, right, So I love that you made
that point. I think another thing to remember we probably
have episodes about this, I'm pretty sure, but like saying
no without guilt, We've definitely done episodes about setting boundaries
and saying no, So go back to those episode, lady.
And the last thing I want to say about this
particular affirmation is that it's important for us to be
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aware or at least try to understand and what it
feels like to have peace in our bodies, Like what
does it feel like for my body to be at peace?
Because I remember growing up, I didn't realize I had anxiety.
I didn't know that's what it was. But I had
appetite issues and anxiety for like all these other things
for so long. And it wasn't until I got to
a space where my life it was away from my
family actually, when I moved away and I was able
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to like, I was like, this is I have peace now,
Like I have tranquility, I have wow, Like this.
Speaker 1 (32:26):
Is foreign, I have this thing and this is beautiful, right.
Speaker 3 (32:28):
And the funny thing is I went home last year
and I was around certain people and immediately my nervous
system shifted, and I was like, oh my gosh. And
because peace is like a part of my daily life
when you know where I'm at now, where I live,
and how I built my life. When I was in
that other environment, it was like I immediately knew I
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didn't feel safe. My body was acting a certain way,
and I was like, Okay, I'm happy. I'm only here
for a short minute of time, like I'm going to
set some boundaries as I see fit and take time
for myself. But it was it's so important to understand,
like what is the baseline of peace, so that when
something comes into your life and it's trying to drain
you or disrupt that piece, you can identify it more easily.
Speaker 1 (33:10):
If that makes sense.
Speaker 2 (33:11):
Yes, yes, yes, absolutely that does. And so yeah, I
I as you're saying that, I'm like, yes, that that's
another way in which you're we are able to identify
how our bodies respond. Lets us know, is this something
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that's right for me to be engaging in m H.
Speaker 3 (33:38):
All right now talking about bodies, speaking of bodies, all right,
let's get into affirmation number eight.
Speaker 1 (33:44):
Okay, get ready for this.
Speaker 3 (33:46):
Affirmation Number eight is I love and honor my body
in every season.
Speaker 1 (33:53):
She is mine and she is magic. Okay, so this
one right here.
Speaker 3 (34:01):
Yeah, I've been watching a lot of interviews lately, and
I was watching an interview of I forget whose interview
it was that. I was watching an interview from a
new mom who was talking about when she was pregnant
and how she loved her pregnant body. It was so
beautiful and I could totally resonate with this because I, yeah,
I loved my pregnant body.
Speaker 1 (34:21):
It was like, ooh, I got this bomb. It was
so cute.
Speaker 3 (34:23):
And after I had the baby and I still felt
like I had a pregnant body and I did not
have the snap back that people be posting about on
social media.
Speaker 1 (34:30):
It was a very different experience. There were so.
Speaker 3 (34:32):
Many changes with my body in that season that were
so foreign to me, and I was just like, wait,
what is happening. I didn't recognize myself for my body,
and so even though I was in transition, I think
it's just important for us to remember, like we should
just be loving our body at every season, at every stage, right,
no matter what it looks like. And if there's something
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that we do want to change, I think it's okay
for us to you know, make those adjustments in a.
Speaker 1 (34:58):
Healthy way, right.
Speaker 3 (35:00):
But I just think that kind of going back to
what we said earlier, our energy, whatever we're feeling right,
wherever our energy is, wherever our attention is, that's where
energy is going to flow. So if we're in a
space of you know, hating our body, I know what
it's like to not want to look in the mirror
and all those things.
Speaker 1 (35:16):
That's going to work kind of like perpetuating those feelings.
And so I think just trying to be gentle with ourselves,
finding little things that we like. You know, I have
been working out in the gym and my body has transferred,
like I've transformed my body since having my daughter, but
there are still parts of my body, specifically this wrinkly
little like mommy pouch that just isn't really going away.
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And I find myself in the mirror and sometimes depending
on the day, like i'll see myself judging it, I'm
actually like touching it right now, and then I'll look
at it and I'm just like I love this like
I love it because it's me, it's mine. And also
like my body did something so powerful by you know,
going through all the fertility treatments I had and then
having this baby. And so even though I'm in a
space where I am working on all to and changing
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this part by being in the gym, working on my diet,
I'm still loving the me right now as I manifest
the me that I see in my future. If that
makes sense.
Speaker 2 (36:10):
Yeah, yes, And I think it's important to acknowledge to
be real with ourselves around Okay, Yes, this particular peace,
this particular aspect of my body right now, I'm not
in love with and just like just like a romantic relationship,
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there's a difference between being in love and loving someone, right,
And so there may be maybe our entire body or
maybe parts of our body that we love, but we
are not in love with, and the in love with
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comes and goes. What would hopefully remain constant for us
is the love overall of for our bodies and what
our bodies can do. Yeah, And so then that takes
us to affirmation number nine. Rest is my birthright, joy
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is my medicine. I do not have to earn either. Oh,
that is one that I am constantly working on the
first part of it. The rest is my birthright and
that that I don't and that I don't have to
earn it. That you know there have been moments. How
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how I know that I have gotten better at it
is that I've had moments where I've said, oh, I
need to do ABC and D, like I have my checklists,
the task that I need to get done. And previous
me would have said, all right, well, once you get
ABC D done, then you can rest right yes, and
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current me says, Nah, if the space that I'm in
right now that I need rest, I'm gonna take my rest.
ABC and D are gonna still be waiting for me,
whether I rest or not. So how about I get
this rest in let me and I will get to A, B,
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C and D when it's when I need to, when
it's time, because there is time to do the thing,
and right now the time is rest.
Speaker 3 (38:38):
That is so good, Dom, and I love that you've
read this affirmation because I know we've had numerous conversations
about you and your bedtime and your.
Speaker 1 (38:45):
Rest and Donald an't play about her rest.
Speaker 3 (38:47):
But I literally had that thought today, Don, because it's
been a long day. Right, we're recording, we're doing our thing,
making sure we get an episode out for this week,
and I was thinking about all the stuff that needs
to get done this week, and I'll all right, so
after we in recording, I gotta do this, this, this,
And I was like, wait, no, like when have I
actually had a moment to just chill? And like the
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prompt for this particular information lady is when was the
last time you gave yourself permission to do nothing? And
I rarely do that, And so I ended up moving
things around on the calendar and I asked myself, this
is really need to get done, Like tonight do I
have to do this thing? Like I'm so grateful that
I don't have a role or responsibilities where I'm like
a doctor or I'm you know, solving a world crisis
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where like people need me in that capacity. This shit
can wait, like I'm gonna put it. It's gonna get
done on another day. And yes, it's so important for
us to honor our rest. Rest is our birthright. And
I love that you gave that example dom of not
having to Like you didn't use the word proof, but
would you say earn it? I think, yes, you earn
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your rest. Yes, okay, I love that. All right, y'all,
we're gonna get on to our final affirmation number ten,
So get ready for this.
Speaker 1 (40:00):
Pretend is everything.
Speaker 3 (40:02):
Is unfolding for my highest good even when I can't
see it.
Speaker 1 (40:08):
Oh wow, shall we read it again?
Speaker 2 (40:11):
Yes, Yes, let's do it again.
Speaker 1 (40:13):
Let's do it again.
Speaker 3 (40:14):
Everything is unfolding for my highest good even when I
can't see it. I'm gonna be honest. I mentioned this
in the episode earlier that I've had. I've had quite
a few rough patches this past year, and you probably
have to, right, like many of us have.
Speaker 1 (40:28):
The world is what you said, Dom, what you call
the world? You said a cluster fuck.
Speaker 2 (40:34):
That's my favorite way to describe the world.
Speaker 3 (40:36):
A shit show, a shit show, a dumpster file, like
all these things right, like the world. But I love
another quote that I'm off to shares is like focusing
on what we can control, right. And So when I
think about this, there have been moments in my journey
where I'm like, bruh, I don't see how this is
unfolding for my good, Like what the fuck is going on?
Speaker 1 (40:57):
Like I'm just it's I don't get it.
Speaker 2 (40:59):
Right.
Speaker 3 (41:00):
But if I'm being honest, I think about all of
the toughest days of my life where I really thought
that it was like the end, where I was like,
I don't know how I'm gonna come out of this.
I don't know how I'm gonna survive this. And I survived.
And if you are here right now and you're listening
to this, and you here's this message. You have survived
all of your toughest days, and I think there's some
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value in that. And I will honestly say, from my
personal experience, everything that I've experienced, every struggle, even the
most challenging of experiences, even some of the most adverse conditions,
Now that I'm far removed from them, I can see
how it was either developing me or providing me with
lessons or tools that I now am able to leverage
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in my daily life. And I can see now that
every single thing I went through it was working out
for my good, even though I didn't see at the moment.
Speaker 1 (41:52):
So I guess the message here is.
Speaker 3 (41:55):
Just keep pushing, keep going a little further, keep on
keeping on, and one day the hope and my true
belief is that it'll all make sense or you'll have
more clarity, or you'll have some lessons, or there will
be some type of some type of something positive, not
even positive, I don't want to use that word. Something
that you can gain from use of the pain, something
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useful from the pain.
Speaker 1 (42:18):
There we go, Thank you, dom.
Speaker 2 (42:20):
Yes, yes, I think that that's an important thing to
think about, is that you know this, particularly this last
part of this affirmation, that even when I can't yet
see it, and to me, that's about faith, right, that
it's about trusting the process, which is another quote that
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I love. That it may not look so good right now,
and it might not feel maybe it doesn't even feel
good right now, but that eventually all will be revealed
and it will make sense that the things are happening
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in the way that they're supposed to, in the timing
that they're supposed to, even if it doesn't seem like
it in the moment, and that there are ways in
which our lives evolve that are outside of our understanding
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in the moment, because if we had the full understanding
in the moment, we would probably make different choices that
would not be to our benefit. And so we are
provided with what we need in that moment and when
it's meant for us to get the full picture, we
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receive it sometimes that that could be five minutes later,
five years, or five days gates. But it's revealed when
it's supposed to do. Yeah, and so, lady, what I
would like to do now is take a moment and
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read go through all ten affirmation so that you can,
if it's more beneficial for you, after you listen to
this episode, you can take this specific clip with all
the affirmation and have this specific clip on repeat. All right,
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I am enough exactly as I am. My power has
never depended on anyone else's permission. I honor my path,
but I do not live there. I am healing forward
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with grace and compassion. Abundance flow to me with eve
I attract aligned opportunities and overflow. I am worthy of
a love that honors my softness and protects my strength.
I slow down, I breathe. I trust that I am
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safe in my body and in this moment, my voice matters,
my story matters, My gifts are sacred and meant to
be shared. I am not available for anything that drains me.
Protecting my peace is the form of self love. I
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love and honor my body in every season. She is
mine and she is magic. Rest is my birthright, Joy
is my medicine. I do not have to earn either.
Everything is unfolding for my highest good, even when I
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can't yet see it.
Speaker 1 (46:03):
So beautiful Lady.
Speaker 3 (46:05):
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I am alive and well. I'm gonna say that one
more time for the folks from the back, or maybe
if you need to pause, then let it fit on
you for a moment. I am, I'm alive and well.
So this quote is part of a gratitude meditation from
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Janee Aiko and if you haven't heard it, lady, we
highly suggest that you go and check it out. I
personally heard it through the Peloton app and that has
become one of my go to morning meditations to start
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my mourning from a space of gratitude. And so I'll
say it one more time, I am alive and well.
Rit when you hear this, because you hadn't, you weren't
familiar with this meditation prior to us preking for this episode.
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So when you hear this and you checks out that meditation,
what comes up for you?
Speaker 1 (02:58):
Okay? Girls? So much comes up for me.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
It actually makes me think about two other quotes that
I'm going to kind of add on to it. And
when I hear this, it kind of I feel like
it kind of reminds me to be present right, like
I'm alive, like in this moment right now, like I'm
alive and well.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
And the well part.
Speaker 3 (03:16):
I was thinking about that because I went through a
bit of a rough patch recently and I was like, well,
I didn't feel well.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
But that's where the other two quotes come in.
Speaker 3 (03:23):
And to kind of add on to that, there's a
quote that a friend in college shared where she said,
I forgot where she got it from, but she said,
where there's life, there's hope. And so I'm like, okay,
I can walk with that. And then there's a less
brand quote that I'll add on to that that says
if you can look up, you can get up. And
so I'm like adding them all together into that particular quote,
So I am alive and well, kind of going into
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when there's where there's life, there's hope, and then if
you can look up, you can get up. And in
that sense, like when I think about that quote, I
can see how, Okay, I'm alive, I'm well, there's an
opportunity for me to get to where I want to go.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
What comes up from you when I hear that?
Speaker 2 (04:02):
I love that I love that because to me, when
I would meditate to this particular, this particular affirmation and
the overall message that is through that that particular meditation. Yeah,
it's similar of the quotes that you added on right
that like, it's an expression of gratitude that you are present,
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you are here, And if you are present and you
are here, then you have a lot to be grateful
for in that alone. And where there's gratitude, there's room
for you to do things. Even if you aren't feeling
you're one hundred percent, you can still say it to
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get until you get to that point where you are
feeling at one hundred percent.
Speaker 1 (04:53):
Oh, I love that. I love that so much, lady.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
So, if you have been watching the new Loose on
social media, just if you have been alive, right, and
if you are listening to this episode right, we're talking
about being alive and well. Life has been moving fast
right for many of us. You may be feeling heavy
or like you just need a soft place to land.
If that's you, this episode is for you. So we
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are slowing things down and wrapping you in words that
feel like warmth, that feel like a hug. And today
we're going to be sharing ten affirmations again to make you,
you and your day feel like you're getting a hug
from us personally. So it's going to be the kind
that reaches your spirit, not just your ears. And each
one of these affirmations ideally is going to speak to
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a part of our lives that we all navigate so
self worth, healing, rest, love, purpose, and trust. And we're
not just saying these words, we're unpacking why they matter,
how they've carried us, and how you can use them
to come back home to yourself. And I do want
to state that this is not about toxic positivity. It's
about true telling, softness and reminders that you already are worthy,
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you already are powerful, and you already are held even
on your hard days.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
So get cozy, grab your tea or drink of choice,
take a deep breath, and let's speak life together.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
All right, all right, all right, So our first affirmation
I am enough, exactly as I am. My power has
never depended on anyone else's permission. I'm gonna say that
one more time so that as you're listening to this,
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it may even be helpful for you to pause and
close your eyes, place your hand on your belly or
your heart and say the affirmation, I am enough exactly
as I am. My power has never depended on anyone
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else's permission. So, lady, as you hear that affirmation, and
as you have set that affirmation out loud, we also
want you to think about where in your life do
you feel like you're still waiting for permission, waiting for
someone else to tell you that it's okay to be
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you to do that thing. So, as we're going through
these affirmations and we have these follow up questions, take
a moment and write down your reflections and bookmark this
particular episode so that you can come back to it
anytime you need it.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
I love this quote so much, or this affirmation so much,
because I feel like, when I was younger, I felt
this is something my younger self needed to hear, because
I remember being in seasons of life where I was
looking outside of myself for enoughness or for worthiness. And
now at this age, I'm more, you know, we're like
I feel like when you hit this a certain age
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and you've done healing work and you're on your growth
journey and healing journey, you begin to just really sort
of take in the wisdom that you make that maybe
maybe it didn't hit you. I probably heard this before
when I was younger, but I didn't hit the same.
And so just knowing like everything you need is with them,
like you really are enough.
Speaker 1 (08:20):
I was watching an.
Speaker 3 (08:21):
Interview today and I don't know where this quote came from,
but the interview we said something like people used to
laugh at me because I was different, and now I
laugh at them because they're all the same. And I
think about, we're in this world where we're taught you
have to assimilate. You have to everybody's you know, especially
on social media. Your body has to look this way,
you got to speak this way, and people are like
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doing things to look like everyone else. Some people are
at least, And I think this is just a reminder
that it's important to be you, like you shouldn't be
like anyone else, like a snowflake, right, Like when you
think about a snowflake, they're all different shape, sizes, and
they come with these different forms and it's for a
purpose and a reason. And so just remembering that you
are enough no matter where you are in your journey.
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And yeah, your power doesn't depend on anyone else outside
of you. So that's our first one. Now we're going
to dive into number two. Number two is I honor
my past, but I do not live there. I am
healing forward with grace and compassion.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (09:26):
So, dom I want to share what comes up for
me as I read this particular affirmation, and I want
to hear what it makes you think about because I
was recently. I was talking to a friend today and
I was thinking about who I was shoot a year ago,
but more specifically, I would say maybe like ten to
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ten to fifteen years ago, and there were certain experiences
that I was indulging in, and there were just a
certain lifestyle that I was living, certain things I was doing,
and when I think about who I am today, I
couldn't see myself doing those.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Things like now. And I wasn't.
Speaker 3 (10:00):
Looking back from a place of judgment, but it was
more so like Wow, I needed all of that to
grow and to be to learn the lessons and have
the experiences to give me an appreciation for where I
am now but also understand what I desire, what I
don't want, and also that kind of shaped me into
the woman that I am. And so I think it's
important to remember, like judging ourselves for our past that
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doesn't do us, it doesn't really do us any good, right,
And so just appreciating the experience and what it taught
us and how it supported us in getting to where
we are today. I think it's a healthier perspective to have.
And just having grace and compassion and forgiveness for yourself
is just so key. So that's something that came up
for me as I read that affirmation.
Speaker 1 (10:40):
What comes up for you? I love that?
Speaker 2 (10:43):
And I think the other piece of that that comes
up is this question of a lady you going ahead
and ask yourself this question, what part of your past
are you still carrying that you're ready to set down?
Speaker 1 (10:57):
Right?
Speaker 2 (10:58):
So, because the first part of this after says, I
honor my past, but I do not live there. And
so to me, what comes up around that is recognizing
that part of your healing is releasing that your past
and letting go of the emotions that may be tied
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to it that might be preventing you from moving forward. Right.
And So, because I think about oftentimes when we're talking
about this, we're talking about things from our past that
may have been harmful or hurtful versus the good memories,
right like ideally, you want to you want to hold
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on to those things that brought you joy right, that
made you feel seen, heard, loved, and valued, and you
want to be able to release the things that aren't,
because if you allow yourself to live in those spaces,
then you can't grow. Then it is hard to move forward.
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And so it's those things that were harmful or hurtful
to me. I'm not gonna live in that space. Yeah,
I'm gonna I'm not gonna judge myself for being for
what happened at that time. I'm gonna let all of
that go so that I can move forward.
Speaker 1 (12:33):
I love that.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
So then that takes us to our third affirmation. Abundance
flows to me with ease, I attract aligned opportunities and overflowed.
So I'm gonna say that one more time, Abundance flows
to me with ease, I attract aligned opportunities and overflow.
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The lady, when you hear that and you say that
out loud, remember that it's about alignment. And if you're
feeling that things are in a struggle or feeling difficult,
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then that's a sign that things are not in alignment.
And so then it's an opportunity to go within and
ask yourself, what are the things that I might be
doing or that I might be attracted that it's causing misalignment,
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because sometimes when things are misaligned, it's not it's not
always from a negative space. It could be that we
are misaligned because we are not clear on what it
is that we want and need, and so we are
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behaving in a way that is attracting things to us
that is not what we desire, not what we want.
But once we change that behavior to truly align with
what it is that we want and desire, opportunities will
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start to flow that feel right for us.
Speaker 3 (14:32):
Okay, so you're just gonna be preaching on the episode basically?
Speaker 1 (14:36):
Is that what you're doing?
Speaker 3 (14:37):
Because girl, you got me over here taking notes down
because you make me think about so many different things. Okay,
so I just wrote down a couple bullet points for myself,
so I don't forget that was so powerful.
Speaker 2 (14:46):
Tom.
Speaker 3 (14:47):
One of the things that you just talked about is
basically like aligning your energy with what you desire versus
and sometimes what that means, Lady, I don't know this
may sound wild to you, but sometimes that means be
de Lulu about your future at least, right, Like, sometimes
you have to be delusional because and people are you know,
people say that facetiously online these days, but it's really
about having faith in my opinion, right. And one of
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the things I've been asking myself is how does wealthy
terry show up?
Speaker 1 (15:13):
Like what does it look like? For what does she do?
Speaker 3 (15:15):
Like I envision a world of who my future self
is and how she shows up and having the certain
income that I desire and having the certain lifestyle that
I desire, And I ask myself, how does she show up?
Because sometimes if things are not looking the way that
I want them to look, my energy might be in
a different space, right, like coming from an energy of
desperation or an energy of you know, forcing. And it's like,
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if I continue to do that, I'm going to continue
to attract that type of thing toward me. And so
I love that you mentioned that. I think another reminder
within this affirmation is that what's for you is never
going to miss you, whether it's job opportunity, maybe a
relationship didn't work out. If that thing is not in
your life right now, it probably wasn't for you, and
you may not understand why it didn't work out right now,
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but in hindsight it'll probably all make sense. So I
think that's another thing to keep in mind. And then
something else I thought about is what we believe is
going to be true for us, right, Like you ever
been with someone and you have the same experience, but
you just have different perspectives of it, and whatever you
are perceiving that is true for you, that is your truth.
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And then the other person, whatever they're perceiving, whatever they're perceiving,
that's their truth as well. And so whatever you believe,
whatever narrative, whatever story you're telling yourself, that becomes your truth.
And so it's important to remember even though you might
be looking at your bank account or you might be
looking around you're like, well, I don't see the abundance. Okay,
Well let's tap into the energy of what we desire.
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And even if you have a moment where you are misaligned,
remember that every minute of every day can be a
fresh start for you. We don't have to wait until
Jebuary first, Like every minute. Let me say you, I
was having a rough moment last week and I switched
that shit around.
Speaker 1 (17:02):
I said, Okay, hold.
Speaker 3 (17:03):
Up, I don't want to I don't want to feel
this right now, it's not something that I need to
dig into, which is like a random thought that popped
in and I was like, I don't even where did
this come from. I'm gonna reach for a different type
of thought, right, And so as we dig into this affirmation,
remember that it's important to also identify what does abundance
mean to you? So that was a powerful one. Don's
over here, preacher. We're gonna move on to number four. Now.
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At number four, is I am worthy of love? I'm
gonna say that one more time. Number four, Is I
am worthy of a love that honors my softness and
protects my strength? I feel like I gotta sit with
that and say that again for the people in the back.
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I am worthy of a love that honors my softness
and protects my strength. Okay, let me just say this, Don.
I'm we talked about this. I am very much into
pop culture, right, and although I'm into the whole celebrity
you know stuff, I realized that we don't understand, like
we don't know the behind the scenes of celebrity celebrities lives, right,
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But I do want to share something that I've observed
and something that people are talking about that. I think
can really illustrate this particular point here, at least from
a surface level.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
Okay, So just walk with me.
Speaker 3 (18:18):
Walk with me, lady as we go through this, and
then don might love to hear your perspective on this
as well. So, Dom, you know about Tianna Taylor and
Aaron Pierre, right.
Speaker 1 (18:27):
Their relationship.
Speaker 3 (18:29):
Okay, So she apparently he's been working with her on
her new project, and I've been watching some of their interviews,
and I followed her career ever since she was on
what was that Sweet sixteen back in the day, right
when she was on Sweet sixteen. So I followed her
career and I just as an observer, right, I don't
know her personally, but as an observer, I've seen I
saw how she showed up in her relationship with her
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ex husband Emon Schumpert.
Speaker 2 (18:52):
Right.
Speaker 3 (18:53):
And there's a different energy to Tianna Taylor. She's also
a sagittarian. So shout out to my sage sister, I
kind of you know, I feel like I get her
a little because we said it's over here. But she
has a very strong presence. She's so talented, right, beautiful woman,
and you can see the difference in the way that
she shows up with her current man versus her ex.
And I think that when you are in a space
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where you are being loved in a way where you
can be vulnerable, where you can be soft, and you
don't have to put on that you know, be in
that masculine energy, I think that's a powerful thing. So
I just wanted to tie that in because it made me.
I thought about it when I saw this affirmation. But
I think this kind of goes back to what we said.
What you believe for yourself to be true is going
to be true, and so knowing and stating that you
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are worthy of this love is so important. But I
think the most important thing with this affirmation is that
it starts with you.
Speaker 1 (19:41):
So even if you don't.
Speaker 3 (19:42):
Have that love in your life right now, show up
and give yourself that love. I remember when I was
in my dating journey, I was sending to myself Hello,
beautiful text messages in the morning, like to myself because
I wanted to give myself what I desired. You know,
I think that's important for us to be able to
love ourselves and the way that we want someone knows
to love us, and also to mirror that to show
them that's mouthful.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
And I think you know, I think what comes up
for me is that when you, as you grow and evolve,
the relationships that you have also may grow and it
may look will look different as you grow and evolve. Right,
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And so how she is showing up now in this
season is then reflected in the type of relationship that
she has, Yes, And so I think that applies to
all of us, right, that that how we are in
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this moment, will our relationships will reflect that? And so
to me for this particular, this particular affirmation is one
that will hopefully all allow us to attract.
Speaker 3 (21:03):
Love that.
Speaker 2 (21:06):
Honors our softness and our strength. And I also want
to emphasize that that's not only applicable to romantic relationships, right,
that hopefully we are also attracting our friendships, like all
of our relationships, yeah, are allowing us to be soft
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and honor and respect our strength.
Speaker 1 (21:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:36):
And so and that's if that's what you're choosing in
this moment in this season, right, So you can even
so part of what question to ask yourself is what
is it that you want in need? Like how do
you want to be loved in this particular season? And
then what do you need to do to attract that?
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So then that takes us to affirmation number five. I
slow down, I breathe. I trust that I am safe
in my body and in this moment. So I'm gonna
say that one more time. I slow down, I breathe.
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I trust that I am safe in my body and
in this moment. So immediately what comes up for me
is the specificity around this particular affirmation that you are
safe in your body, because there are times when everything
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around us may feel chaotic, but the real question for
us is are we safe within ourselves? Because if we
have slowed down, if we are focused on our breath,
and do you feel safe within our own body, then
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all will be well for us. Everything around us could
be in pure chaos, but if we feel grounded and
safe within ourselves, we.
Speaker 1 (23:15):
Are going to be okay. Yes, Laud.
Speaker 3 (23:18):
And this reminds me of it's probably all of our favorites,
the quote or saying where they say put your mask
on first, and you have to fill your cup because
we cannot pour it from an empty cup, and this
particular affirmation, it's actually the second half of it is
something that my therapist and I it was an affirmation
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or mantra that my therapist and I were working through
when I was trying to conceive, because when I was
in my infertility journey, one of the things that came
up was like a lot of childhood trauma and how
I didn't realize it, but I did not feel safe
in my body, and so I felt like that was
preventing my body from being able to have this environment.
Speaker 1 (23:58):
To hold this baby.
Speaker 3 (23:59):
And so I did a lot of breadth work and
a lot of healing work, and that was something that
I really leaned into. It's like reminding myself that I'm
safe now, like I'm okay, and I just going back
to filling our cup. Is so important to make sure
that we're good, especially as caregivers and whether it's mothers
or just family members, people who do a lot for
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other people. We need to make sure that we're good
so that we can show up for ourselves first and
then be there for others that need us as well.
So definitely something to keep in mind. Yeah, all right,
let's move on to number six. So number six is
my voice matters, my story matters, my gifts are sacred
and meant to be shared. Wow, this is a really
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good one. Just sitting with that for a minute, I
feel like, for me when this comes, well, I think
about this dome, this is okay. I have a lot
of different thoughts about this okay. So when I think
about this particular affirmation, it just makes me think about
a time in my journey where I was debating on
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if I wanted to share my parts of my story.
And I think back to about thirteen years ago or
so when I first created my blog when I was
in grad school, and I remember sharing, like some of
the first few blog posts about being abused, like some
of the very sensitive topics, but I felt called to
share it. But I also felt some shame and some
anxiety because I was like, what is my family going
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to think?
Speaker 2 (25:24):
Right?
Speaker 3 (25:24):
What is my mom going to say about the stories
I'm sharing? And what I was reminded of as I
began to share my stories that we all have a
story one and there were so many people around the world,
so many women came out and were thanking me for
being so transparent and sharing these deep stories about my
suicidal ideations and about depression and things that I felt
a little shame about but also felt compelled to share
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at the same time. So, lady, this is a reminder
of course, share your story when like you know yourself
best right, and you should ideally be working with you know,
your intuition, your spiritual guide, whoever, your whatever, whatever you're
going to for support and for answers, like you work
with your support system to ensure that it's the time
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and space and you do it in a way that
feels right for you.
Speaker 1 (26:09):
But just know, like your voice does matter.
Speaker 3 (26:12):
And the prompt that we can offer for this particular
affirmation is what story are you finally ready to share?
Speaker 1 (26:20):
Whether you share it.
Speaker 3 (26:20):
In a journal with a friend, in a small group
community setting, or on a podcast, whatever that is, Like,
what story is that for you? Because I think there's
so much freedom and liberation not I think, I know
there's so much liberation that comes when we share our
stories and use our voice, and it really does help
to liberate other people as well.
Speaker 2 (26:40):
Yes, and I do think, yeah, I love that last
statement of sharing your story helps liberate other people and
gives other people the capacity to then or the permission,
going back to one of our earlier affirmations of giving people,
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it gives others permissions to say, oh, yes, me too. Yes,
I oh, yes, now I maybe maybe I don't feel
shame or judgment now because someone else has shared and
I see that I am not alone. And at the
end of the day, the majority of us in this
world want nothing more than to not feel alone. Yes,
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and so when you share your story, whatever whatever that
story might be, there is always going to be someone
else that connects with that. So then that takes us
to affirmation number seven. I am not available for anything
that drains me. Protecting my peace is a form of
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self love.
Speaker 1 (27:53):
I need read it again, Read it again.
Speaker 2 (27:57):
Please available for anything that drains me. Protecting my peace
is a form of self love. Cool child. Okay, So lady,
ask yourself, what are you giving too much of yourself
to right now? When you look at your cup and
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where you are putting your time, efforts, talent, and energy.
Is there a part of your life that you are
giving too much of yourself to right now? And why
is that? Because I do want to honor and acknowledge
that there are times, so there are times where it
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is needed. Yes, okay, So I don't want us to
use this as a well doctor Diamond Terry said, then,
because I feel like this drains me. I ain't got
to do it. That's not what we're saying. We are
saying to be be mind, will be intentional.
Speaker 1 (29:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (29:03):
And that there and recognizing that, yes, there are some
things in life that we have to do that rightfully
will drain us. But the real question is are we
doing things that we don't have to do that are
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draining us? Yeah? Or are we doing things that naturally
are going to drain us but we're we're giving, we're
being over the top with it, which is causing even
more strength. Yeah. And so you know, and I recognize that,
particularly for us as black women, how we show up
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is always above and beyond right. And so let's really
step back and be intentional of out out and when
we choose to show up. Are the things that we
are showing up for aligned with our goals and our values?
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Is it something that we have to do? And if
it's not, why are we doing.
Speaker 1 (30:22):
A men to that dom.
Speaker 3 (30:24):
I'm glad that I'm glad that you made that distinction
because I was thinking about something that came up recently,
a family situation that I felt conflicted about, and I
was like, I don't know if I want to do Okay,
really quick, lady, this is this is real life right now. Okay,
So Dom, can you hear my neighbors, because these people
are allowed to tell outside, can you hear them?
Speaker 1 (30:44):
Okay? I know, thankfully. Okay, I was gonna say, I'm
about to get it.
Speaker 3 (30:47):
If you're watching us, you see me looking over like
I'm looking like, what the fuck?
Speaker 1 (30:51):
What's going on?
Speaker 3 (30:52):
I thought I had to get up and close the window.
But okay, are y'all way back to the show?
Speaker 1 (30:55):
Back to the show.
Speaker 3 (30:56):
But I was going to say, there was a moment,
a family situation that came up, and I felt conflicted
about it, and I wanted to support, but I also
wanted to be mindful of my energy, and I was like,
what what could possibly be required or what could possibly
be asked of me?
Speaker 1 (31:11):
At this moment? Feels like it could be draining.
Speaker 3 (31:13):
So I love that you brought up values because at
the same time, showing up and the way that I
did was aligned with my values. But I set boundaries
and I reinforced those boundaries so that I wasn't it
wasn't this like continuously draining thing. So I set up,
I went to do what I had to do, set
some boundaries and I was able to align with my
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values and show up in that way and not feel
like it was too much for me where you know
it was debilitating, right, So I love that you made
that point. I think another thing to remember we probably
have episodes about this, I'm pretty sure, but like saying
no without guilt, We've definitely done episodes about setting boundaries
and saying no, So go back to those episode, lady.
And the last thing I want to say about this
particular affirmation is that it's important for us to be
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aware or at least try to understand and what it
feels like to have peace in our bodies, Like what
does it feel like for my body to be at peace?
Because I remember growing up, I didn't realize I had anxiety.
I didn't know that's what it was. But I had
appetite issues and anxiety for like all these other things
for so long. And it wasn't until I got to
a space where my life it was away from my
family actually, when I moved away and I was able
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to like, I was like, this is I have peace now,
Like I have tranquility, I have wow, Like this.
Speaker 1 (32:26):
Is foreign, I have this thing and this is beautiful, right.
Speaker 3 (32:28):
And the funny thing is I went home last year
and I was around certain people and immediately my nervous
system shifted, and I was like, oh my gosh. And
because peace is like a part of my daily life
when you know where I'm at now, where I live,
and how I built my life. When I was in
that other environment, it was like I immediately knew I
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didn't feel safe. My body was acting a certain way,
and I was like, Okay, I'm happy. I'm only here
for a short minute of time, like I'm going to
set some boundaries as I see fit and take time
for myself. But it was it's so important to understand,
like what is the baseline of peace, so that when
something comes into your life and it's trying to drain
you or disrupt that piece, you can identify it more easily.
Speaker 1 (33:10):
If that makes sense.
Speaker 2 (33:11):
Yes, yes, yes, absolutely that does. And so yeah, I
I as you're saying that, I'm like, yes, that that's
another way in which you're we are able to identify
how our bodies respond. Lets us know, is this something
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that's right for me to be engaging in m H.
Speaker 3 (33:38):
All right now talking about bodies, speaking of bodies, all right,
let's get into affirmation number eight.
Speaker 1 (33:44):
Okay, get ready for this.
Speaker 3 (33:46):
Affirmation Number eight is I love and honor my body
in every season.
Speaker 1 (33:53):
She is mine and she is magic. Okay, so this
one right here.
Speaker 3 (34:01):
Yeah, I've been watching a lot of interviews lately, and
I was watching an interview of I forget whose interview
it was that. I was watching an interview from a
new mom who was talking about when she was pregnant
and how she loved her pregnant body. It was so
beautiful and I could totally resonate with this because I, yeah,
I loved my pregnant body.
Speaker 1 (34:21):
It was like, ooh, I got this bomb. It was
so cute.
Speaker 3 (34:23):
And after I had the baby and I still felt
like I had a pregnant body and I did not
have the snap back that people be posting about on
social media.
Speaker 1 (34:30):
It was a very different experience. There were so.
Speaker 3 (34:32):
Many changes with my body in that season that were
so foreign to me, and I was just like, wait,
what is happening. I didn't recognize myself for my body,
and so even though I was in transition, I think
it's just important for us to remember, like we should
just be loving our body at every season, at every stage, right,
no matter what it looks like. And if there's something
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that we do want to change, I think it's okay
for us to you know, make those adjustments in a.
Speaker 1 (34:58):
Healthy way, right.
Speaker 3 (35:00):
But I just think that kind of going back to
what we said earlier, our energy, whatever we're feeling right,
wherever our energy is, wherever our attention is, that's where
energy is going to flow. So if we're in a
space of you know, hating our body, I know what
it's like to not want to look in the mirror
and all those things.
Speaker 1 (35:16):
That's going to work kind of like perpetuating those feelings.
And so I think just trying to be gentle with ourselves,
finding little things that we like. You know, I have
been working out in the gym and my body has transferred,
like I've transformed my body since having my daughter, but
there are still parts of my body, specifically this wrinkly
little like mommy pouch that just isn't really going away.
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And I find myself in the mirror and sometimes depending
on the day, like i'll see myself judging it, I'm
actually like touching it right now, and then I'll look
at it and I'm just like I love this like
I love it because it's me, it's mine. And also
like my body did something so powerful by you know,
going through all the fertility treatments I had and then
having this baby. And so even though I'm in a
space where I am working on all to and changing
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this part by being in the gym, working on my diet,
I'm still loving the me right now as I manifest
the me that I see in my future. If that
makes sense.
Speaker 2 (36:10):
Yeah, yes, And I think it's important to acknowledge to
be real with ourselves around Okay, Yes, this particular peace,
this particular aspect of my body right now, I'm not
in love with and just like just like a romantic relationship,
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there's a difference between being in love and loving someone, right,
And so there may be maybe our entire body or
maybe parts of our body that we love, but we
are not in love with, and the in love with
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comes and goes. What would hopefully remain constant for us
is the love overall of for our bodies and what
our bodies can do. Yeah, And so then that takes
us to affirmation number nine. Rest is my birthright, joy
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is my medicine. I do not have to earn either. Oh,
that is one that I am constantly working on the
first part of it. The rest is my birthright and
that that I don't and that I don't have to
earn it. That you know there have been moments. How
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how I know that I have gotten better at it
is that I've had moments where I've said, oh, I
need to do ABC and D, like I have my checklists,
the task that I need to get done. And previous
me would have said, all right, well, once you get
ABC D done, then you can rest right yes, and
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current me says, Nah, if the space that I'm in
right now that I need rest, I'm gonna take my rest.
ABC and D are gonna still be waiting for me,
whether I rest or not. So how about I get
this rest in let me and I will get to A, B,
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C and D when it's when I need to, when
it's time, because there is time to do the thing,
and right now the time is rest.
Speaker 3 (38:38):
That is so good, Dom, and I love that you've
read this affirmation because I know we've had numerous conversations
about you and your bedtime and your.
Speaker 1 (38:45):
Rest and Donald an't play about her rest.
Speaker 3 (38:47):
But I literally had that thought today, Don, because it's
been a long day. Right, we're recording, we're doing our thing,
making sure we get an episode out for this week,
and I was thinking about all the stuff that needs
to get done this week, and I'll all right, so
after we in recording, I gotta do this, this, this,
And I was like, wait, no, like when have I
actually had a moment to just chill? And like the
(39:09):
prompt for this particular information lady is when was the
last time you gave yourself permission to do nothing? And
I rarely do that, And so I ended up moving
things around on the calendar and I asked myself, this
is really need to get done, Like tonight do I
have to do this thing? Like I'm so grateful that
I don't have a role or responsibilities where I'm like
a doctor or I'm you know, solving a world crisis
(39:30):
where like people need me in that capacity. This shit
can wait, like I'm gonna put it. It's gonna get
done on another day. And yes, it's so important for
us to honor our rest. Rest is our birthright. And
I love that you gave that example dom of not
having to Like you didn't use the word proof, but
would you say earn it? I think, yes, you earn
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your rest. Yes, okay, I love that. All right, y'all,
we're gonna get on to our final affirmation number ten,
So get ready for this.
Speaker 1 (40:00):
Pretend is everything.
Speaker 3 (40:02):
Is unfolding for my highest good even when I can't
see it.
Speaker 1 (40:08):
Oh wow, shall we read it again?
Speaker 2 (40:11):
Yes, Yes, let's do it again.
Speaker 1 (40:13):
Let's do it again.
Speaker 3 (40:14):
Everything is unfolding for my highest good even when I
can't see it. I'm gonna be honest. I mentioned this
in the episode earlier that I've had. I've had quite
a few rough patches this past year, and you probably
have to, right, like many of us have.
Speaker 1 (40:28):
The world is what you said, Dom, what you call
the world? You said a cluster fuck.
Speaker 2 (40:34):
That's my favorite way to describe the world.
Speaker 3 (40:36):
A shit show, a shit show, a dumpster file, like
all these things right, like the world. But I love
another quote that I'm off to shares is like focusing
on what we can control, right. And So when I
think about this, there have been moments in my journey
where I'm like, bruh, I don't see how this is
unfolding for my good, Like what the fuck is going on?
Speaker 1 (40:57):
Like I'm just it's I don't get it.
Speaker 2 (40:59):
Right.
Speaker 3 (41:00):
But if I'm being honest, I think about all of
the toughest days of my life where I really thought
that it was like the end, where I was like,
I don't know how I'm gonna come out of this.
I don't know how I'm gonna survive this. And I survived.
And if you are here right now and you're listening
to this, and you here's this message. You have survived
all of your toughest days, and I think there's some
(41:24):
value in that. And I will honestly say, from my
personal experience, everything that I've experienced, every struggle, even the
most challenging of experiences, even some of the most adverse conditions,
Now that I'm far removed from them, I can see
how it was either developing me or providing me with
lessons or tools that I now am able to leverage
(41:46):
in my daily life. And I can see now that
every single thing I went through it was working out
for my good, even though I didn't see at the moment.
Speaker 1 (41:52):
So I guess the message here is.
Speaker 3 (41:55):
Just keep pushing, keep going a little further, keep on
keeping on, and one day the hope and my true
belief is that it'll all make sense or you'll have
more clarity, or you'll have some lessons, or there will
be some type of some type of something positive, not
even positive, I don't want to use that word. Something
that you can gain from use of the pain, something
(42:17):
useful from the pain.
Speaker 1 (42:18):
There we go, Thank you, dom.
Speaker 2 (42:20):
Yes, yes, I think that that's an important thing to
think about, is that you know this, particularly this last
part of this affirmation, that even when I can't yet
see it, and to me, that's about faith, right, that
it's about trusting the process, which is another quote that
(42:41):
I love. That it may not look so good right now,
and it might not feel maybe it doesn't even feel
good right now, but that eventually all will be revealed
and it will make sense that the things are happening
(43:07):
in the way that they're supposed to, in the timing
that they're supposed to, even if it doesn't seem like
it in the moment, and that there are ways in
which our lives evolve that are outside of our understanding
(43:28):
in the moment, because if we had the full understanding
in the moment, we would probably make different choices that
would not be to our benefit. And so we are
provided with what we need in that moment and when
it's meant for us to get the full picture, we
(43:50):
receive it sometimes that that could be five minutes later,
five years, or five days gates. But it's revealed when
it's supposed to do. Yeah, and so, lady, what I
would like to do now is take a moment and
(44:13):
read go through all ten affirmation so that you can,
if it's more beneficial for you, after you listen to
this episode, you can take this specific clip with all
the affirmation and have this specific clip on repeat. All right,
(44:35):
I am enough exactly as I am. My power has
never depended on anyone else's permission. I honor my path,
but I do not live there. I am healing forward
(44:55):
with grace and compassion. Abundance flow to me with eve
I attract aligned opportunities and overflow. I am worthy of
a love that honors my softness and protects my strength.
I slow down, I breathe. I trust that I am
(45:20):
safe in my body and in this moment, my voice matters,
my story matters, My gifts are sacred and meant to
be shared. I am not available for anything that drains me.
Protecting my peace is the form of self love. I
(45:40):
love and honor my body in every season. She is
mine and she is magic. Rest is my birthright, Joy
is my medicine. I do not have to earn either.
Everything is unfolding for my highest good, even when I
(46:00):
can't yet see it.
Speaker 1 (46:03):
So beautiful Lady.
Speaker 3 (46:05):
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