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May 8, 2023 59 mins

We’re closing out Season 7 with one of our favorite people! Therapist and author Aundi Kolber is back to talk about her new book, Strong like Water: Finding the Freedom, Safety, and Compassion to Move through Hard Things--and Experience True Flourishing. We talk about why feeling safe matters, what our window of tolerance is, how the idea of our container can help, and how to navigate those things by trying softer.

Things we mention in this episode/other resources:

- Aundi’s first book, Try Softer: A Fresh Approach to Move Us out of Anxiety, Stress, and Survival Mode--and into a Life of Connection and Joy

- The Try Softer Guided Journey: A Soulful Companion to Healing

- CXMH ep. 89 - Trying Softer, Self Compassion, & Moving from Survival to Joy (feat. Aundi Kolber)

- CXMH ep. 42 - Everyday Grief & Learning to Feel Feelings (feat. Aundi Kolber)

- CXMH ep. 32 - Trauma, Attachment, & Creating Safety (feat. Aundi Kolber)

- CXMH ep. 144 - Embodiment, Healing, & Working With Our Bodies (feat. Dr. Hillary McBride)

- CXMH ep. 124 - Nervous Systems, Bottom-Up Safety, & Learning from Each Other (feat. Nia Baker)

- CXMH ep. 153 - How to Be a Trauma-Informed Community (feat. Dr. Amy Marschall)

Connect with Aundi on her website, on Facebook, on Instagram, or on Twitter.

Buy Strong like Water: Finding the Freedom, Safety, and Compassion to Move through Hard Things--and Experience True Flourishing on Amazon. Buy her other books on Amazon.

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Connect with Robert on his website, Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram.

Connect with Holly on her website, Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram, or buy her book The Soul of the Helper: Seven Stages to Seeing the Sacred Within Yourself So You Can See It in Others.

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Intro/Outro music for this episode is ‘Fall Down’ by Rivers & Robots.

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