Define U Radio

Define U Radio

Have you ever wondered what real people really talk about when the gloves are off? Do you think you are the only one who thinks like you do about the world today? Are you ready to hear adult conversations? In today’s world, the ignorant and biased people are loud. They don’t represent the “silent” majority’s views or how we really feel. On After Dark, I have conversations with friends of the show about life, love and more. Sometimes, we agree and are on the same page. Other times we disagree, but either way everyone’s opinion is respected and represented here. Valencia is an author, speaker, and a business owner. Most of all, she is a wife, mother and a black woman maneuvering everything from foster parenting to dealing with racism to questioning systematic programming by the media. "Have conversations that mean something!” Join the conversation every Wednesday at 9pm cst for new episodes (unless we are on a mental health break) and start a conversation with your friends, family, and foes.

Episodes

March 17, 2021 39 mins
Ever wondered how real friendships and sisterhoods start? The next two episodes explores the dynamics of the sisterhood between the host, Valencia Griffin-Wallace and Queen Co hosts, Lyvonne Copeland and Shannon Ward. Sisterhoods aren't made overnight. Finding those that understand you, support you and lovingly guide you the right way is what we all need. As we look back on who we were and how we came together, most will find ...
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Ever wondered how real friendships and sisterhoods start? The next two episodes explores the dynamics of the sisterhood between the host, Valencia Griffin-Wallace and Queen Co hosts, Lyvonne Copeland and Shannon Ward. We share the parts of our story people most forget...the pain. The show takes an interesting turn as we ask each other questions and realize how years later, we are more connected than ever before. There is a pa...
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Are you using your current relationship to get over your last? Are you considering giving someone another chance? Queen friend of the show, Donna Barnes joins the conversation about getting hurt rebounding and giving a past relationship a do over. Have you been a rebound and did it go to something bigger? Join the conversation to hear things to consider before you go or stay Key Topics and Things Mentioned: What exactly is...
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How do you know when a relationship is over? Do you make a speedy exit or try to work it out because of responsibilities? Queen friend of the show, Donna Barnes joins the conversation about relationships and love. We also discuss cheating and who we think cheats more. If you have ever wondered should you leave or stay, this is the show for you. Women often try to make it work especially if children are involved. Or is that a s...
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Are you letting the opinions and pressures from the outside change who you are on the inside? This special Valentines episode is all about loving, uplifting and supporting black women in their greatness. Message clips from special peoples in the host, co hosts and others who have something to say. This is the episode that will make you love yourself more even when you are struggling with media messages, personal low self este...
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In getting the love you want; how much are you willing to compromise? In this episode, the queens discuss everything from salacious women to relationships that change over time. Relationships right now are different. Between pandemic babies and you are not the one during this pandemic, relationships are changing some for better and others for worse. Can men and women be friends if they are in relationships with others? The qu...
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What is the difference between the people you commit to and people you don’t? As you get older, love changes because we as people change. In this episode, the queens share there thoughts on love before and during the pandemic. We discuss our love languages and how that has changed in the past year. Should a relationship be 50/50 or 100/100? What is the difference? Shannon shares what has and will make her commit to a relationsh...
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Does negative behavior run in your family? Are you the curse breaker? How much of your behavior is nurture vs nature? Friend of the show, Donna Barnes joins the conversation about generational curses. How much does how you are raised play a part in who you become? Maybe a lot or maybe a little. We also discuss how society judges children who come from certain environments. Valencia shares how being a control freak probably ...
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Have you had "the talk" with your children about racism? In this episode, the queens discuss having to the talk with their children about racism and being black in America. Did 2020 show more racism or was it just brought more to the forefront by people who don't experience it? We also discuss "forgiveness" when racist acts take place and where we stand. In today's world, everyone should be having the talk not only with their ch...
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The conversation focuses on releasing and letting go of the things that happened in 2020. On this episode of After Dark host, Valencia discusses mental health with therapist, Donna Barnes. Donna gives shares how to release and then refocus on our own personal mental health. She also stresses the importance of acknowledging the stress that children may be going through and how to discuss it. 2020 affected everyone differently es...
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The conversation gets hot on this episode of After Dark, co-hosts Lyvonne and Shannon, join host Valencia to ring in the new year. Lyvonne shares how the loss of a family member taught her a valuable lesson that she needed to learn. Shannon took her lessons and applied it to leveling up on her finances. Valencia shares how she started growing tomatoes and it taught her valuable life lessons. We also realize that we were more prep...
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What did you learn in 2020?2020 was the year of revelation! It revealed the cracks in the system and in our lives (personally and professionally). In this episode, the host Valencia, breaks down the past lessons we should have learned and how to make...
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Would you support another Black Panther movie?After the sudden and shocking death of Chadwick Boseman, some of us wonder is this the end of the Black Panther movies.  Even though Chadwick Boseman played other iconic characters such as Thurgood Marshall,...
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What does the pandemic have to do with the surge in domestic violence?Being in a domestic violence situation is hard enough without the current state of events.  Now more than ever, victims are suffering.  We can blame the stay at home orders, the loss...
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Are we born into sin?  What religion is right?  How much of the Bible is true?Is religion used to keep people in bondage? We touch on sin, different churches, the visions of Nat Turner and so much more.  This is Part 2 of a mini series on Religion vs...
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Christian, Muslim, Atheist, Agnostic.....none of the above. Today people are running from the church and looking for the meaning to life in other ways.  Are they justified? Is religion a tool of oppression? Why do we believe what we believe?  In this...
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Is cheating a reason to leave the relationship?  Who cheats more men or women? Is there ever "acceptable" cheating?With social media being a part of our everyday lives, cheating has gotten easier.  In this After Dark Conversation, host Valencia talks...
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Are we surprised by the verdict in the Breonna Taylor case? Does our vote REALLY matter? Are well still in awe of Obama? In this After Dark Conversation, host Valencia discusses the verdict and payment in the Breonna Taylor case, the current political...
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Does videos like WAP add to the oversexualization of black women? Why does strong equal masculine?  How can we build ourselves without relying on media to set the bar?In this After Dark Conversation, host Valencia talks to her friend Shannon Ward about...
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How do you deal with racism without internalizing hate?  It is hard, but possible.In this After Dark Conversation, host Valencia talks to her friend counselor Donna Barnes a about a situation, dealing with racism and how not to go off but still be...
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