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June 13, 2025 41 mins

He Died to Himself and She Decided Intimacy Needed to Change: Rebekah's Story

Rebekah didn’t sign up for marriage coaching.

She wasn’t looking for help. In fact, when her husband first discovered us, she politely declined any involvement. He had found the podcast and was quietly listening, learning, and applying. She wasn’t ready.

But he didn’t push.
He didn’t demand.
He just loved her.

And that—his sacrificial, consistent, Christlike love—is what eventually opened her heart.

When the Husband Leads and Goes First

“He died to himself,” Rebekah said, describing her husband Noah’s transformation. “He was willing to love me even if I didn’t love him back.”

It didn’t happen overnight. Noah committed to the Men’s Program during Rebekah’s pregnancy, often implementing everything he learned from recordings because he was unable to attend the live Group Coaching Calls due to work.

He walked out the truth. And over time, Rebekah noticed.

“I felt deeply that he was doing that for me,” she shared. “And that softened my heart.”

 

Being Intimidated by Intimacy

Rebekah’s journey around intimacy was painful.
It was often physically painful.
She didn’t enjoy it.
She felt shy around it and blushed when the topic came up.
She felt disconnected—from herself, from her husband, even from her own body.

She also knew what was at stake.

“Intimacy was already hard… but with kids, it could disappear completely,” she said. “I didn’t want that. For me. Or for our son.”

She began to see how her challenges weren’t just affecting her—it was impacting her family. And when she realized how her own view of her body and sexuality could shape her child’s experience, she knew something needed to change.

God Opened the Door for A Change of Heart in Intimacy

“I had already been recommending DYM to others,” she laughed. “But I hadn’t done it myself. And I realized… maybe this was my turn.”

What she discovered wasn’t just practical help. It was healing.

 

Learning to Feel Safe

One of Rebekah’s breakthroughs came in understanding safety—not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually.

Through the program, she learned how to identify when her body was in fight-or-flight mode—and how to speak truth over herself: “My husband loves me. I’m safe. This is how he expresses love.”

By renewing her mind with Scripture and applying our tools, she started to relax, receive, and even enjoy intimacy!

And the community of women around her helped normalize what once felt foreign.

Learning Healthy Boundaries—and Becoming a Daughter

One coaching call stood out above the rest. The topic was boundaries—not as walls, but as the way we act like we truly are children of God.

“I realized I wasn’t treating myself like I was God’s daughter,” Rebekah said, her voice trembli

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