August 3, 2025 • 34 mins
Come and listen to our Host, Tina Spoletini, as she chats with today's guest, Arlene Nelson, for our "Boss Babe Summer: Leveling Up in Life & Career" Podcast Series.
Mix motivation, business tips, and interviews with female entrepreneurs on how to use summer energy to plan ahead, reflect, or pivot.
Arlene Nelson is a Reiki Master, EFT and NLP Practitioner who helps others reconnect with their power through healing and self-celebration. She specializes in supporting single women navigating retirement with confidence, clarity, and joy. Arlene believes healing is a journey of self-honouring, where every step forward deserves celebration. Her work inspires others to rise, release, and remember the wisdom within.
• Arlene is launching a podcast on August 15th focused on helping single women overcome retirement fears
• Financial anxiety is common before retirement, but expenses often decrease significantly without commuting and work-related costs
• Creating a "morning power hour" can jump-start your day with intention and self-care
• It's important to give yourself permission to rest and play without guilt
• Self-acceptance and embracing authenticity become easier with age
• Letting go of past hurts through practices like EFT (tapping) facilitates emotional healing
• Retirement is an opportunity to pursue education and personal growth on your own terms
• Being worthy of new challenges doesn't diminish with age
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/arlene.nelson.165
Special Offer: Enjoy a complementary 30-minute session with Arlene Nelson—whether you're stepping into retirement or simply seeking to balance your nervous system for greater clarity in life. This personalized session is designed to help you ground, reset, and move forward with confidence, no matter where you are on your journey.
Podcast due to come out after August 4th. It’s called A New Chapter; The Single Girls Guide to Retirement
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for all of us.
Are you ready to bloom to yourbest self?
Let's dive in.
Today I'm chatting with ArleneNelson.
Arlene is a Reiki master, eftand NLP practitioner who helps
others reconnect with theirpower through healing and
self-celebration.
She specializes in supportingsingle women navigating
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retirement with confidence,clarity and joy.
Arlene believes healing is ajourney of self-honoring where
every step forward deservescelebration.
Her work inspires others torise, release and remember the
wisdom within.
Welcome, arlene.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
Thank you, it's great to be here.
Speaker 2 (01:59):
Thank you, thank you.
So first I want to start off.
Why don't you tell me a littlebit more about yourself?
Speaker 3 (02:14):
Well, I am living right now an ever-changing
lifestyle.
I'm going from just a coach andReiki master into podcasting
and I'm getting all this set upthis summer.
So it's a really excitingsummer for me.
I'm exciting.
I think I'm going to belaunching my.
No, I don't think I am going tobe launching my podcast August
15.
So that's lots of work and lotsof excitement and and I was kind
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of I don't want to use the wordpushed, but you know, let's do
this and I just went ahead anddid it and I felt so good when
it was done and I made that,made that decision.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
That's awesome, so excited for you.
So tell us a little bit aboutyour podcast.
What's it going to be about?
Speaker 3 (02:55):
Well, my podcasts are going to be right now.
I'm looking for single womengoing into retirement, working
with their fears whether it bearound money or loneliness or
find out the root cause of whatthe what that one fear is and
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work on that and help them along, just like I went through it
three years ago, and I don'twant to see anybody go through
that again and go through thatlike I did.
Yeah, to go into retirementhappy and and excited and
looking for something to do.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Right and relaxed right.
I mean, this is like that, butthat's a stage of your life
where you get to be relaxed.
You get to do what's fun foryou, right?
Because I mean, let's face it,we all work so hard to get to
retirement, right?
We don't want it to be astruggle once we're there.
So that's great, that's awesome.
So, obviously, boss, babe,summer to you is podcast
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creation and all the fun stuffthat goes with that um how are
you using, then, the season torecharge and refocus yourself?
Speaker 3 (04:10):
well, I was kind of just everything was on my plate
all at once and mishmashedtogether and finally I took a
step back and thought, okay,today I'm working on this,
tomorrow I'm working on that,and it's okay to take a day and
play In summertime absolutely,take it, absolutely.
(04:35):
So sometimes I might have anafternoon free and I don't have
anything planned and I will justgo outside and spend the
afternoon Good for you, and sois this like your retirement,
like I'm assuming, then, thatyou have gone into retirement
already.
I have, I have.
Speaker 2 (04:52):
And so your retirement is still working.
Speaker 3 (04:54):
Yes, it's doing what I love.
It's doing what I love, right,it's not work.
And also working with myself,um and and also um.
Also, I have to sometimes thinkwhy am I doing this at this age
?
This is crazy, and I'm thinking.
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But I'm not that age.
I'm thinking young, right, Ihave some aches and pains, so do
more yoga and eat better, right.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
I just had this conversation with a cousin of
mine.
We both are 54 this year.
And we were like where did that?
Like how, how did we get here?
Our parents were this age.
Right, we're not as old as ourparents.
But when you look at ourparents, you know like they're
well into their 70s and we'relike, wow, wow, like we're
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getting there right.
Speaker 3 (05:50):
I know Well, I'll tell you I had a tough time in
January.
The beginning of the year was alittle bit rough for me due to
some siblings' illness and stufflike that, and I also turned 70
in January.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
well, well, you look great, you look, thank you okay.
So I I don't mean that as a asan insult, but what does 70 look
like?
Speaker 3 (06:15):
I think you look great I well, I, I feel great, I
look great.
But that number for our firstfew days it was like, oh my god,
am I?
Am I worthy enough to do thisnow?
Am I worthy enough to move on?
Am I worthy enough to go travelthree months somewhere and work
somewhere else in the tropics,and stuff like that?
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Yes, I am, and well right.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
What exactly?
Why not exactly?
Speaker 3 (06:43):
yeah and um, and for those, for those girls, those
young single girls well, they'reyoung single girls going into
retirement.
For me now, I know it wasalways the money issue.
Do I have enough money?
Blah, blah, blah.
And yes, you have some pensions, but I survived.
You don't spend as much moneywhen you retire you have some
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pensions, but I survived.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
You don't spend as much money when you retire, and
I don't think anybody takes thatinto consideration.
No, right, yeah, because now,like you said, the last time we
chatted, you know you hadmentioned that.
You know you're not paying forgas because you're not driving
to work right so, therefore,you're not buying.
You're also not buying clothes.
That you're, you know.
I mean you still need to buyclothes because you need to
still feel good, right, andclothing has a lot to do with
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that.
Right, we still need to wearthe clothes that we love, but we
don't need to be wearing, youknow, five different outfits
every single week exactly, yeah,exactly, and and it's.
Speaker 3 (07:42):
There's just so many factors going into that and and,
uh, you know the the first, thefew months, well, probably a
year before I did retire, I waslike, well, checking with the
government, how much am I goingto make?
And nobody would give you ananswer.
And it's like, well, we can'tgive you an answer until it's
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your last paycheck.
And well, what about a ballparkfigure?
So I just said, whatever I'mgoing, it is what it is.
At the end, if I have to get ajob, I have to get a job.
What do you mean?
I have to get a job?
I already have a business,right?
Speaker 2 (08:17):
And then that, yeah, so you opened yours.
Now I know you did somecoaching training, you and I
know you did some coachingtraining.
You and I trained with the samecompany.
How did you like?
Speaker 3 (08:33):
were you coaching already before you retired or
did you start that after?
Yes, I was, I was.
I was an EFT practitioner,tapping, okay, and I just the I
love the tapping and I went fromI was an acupressure massage
therapist and, okay, yeah, youknow what I've earned?
My dues of using my hands andthen putting up with the
(08:54):
soreness, so, and I love workingwith the meridians.
So that's what tapping is istapping on the end meridians,
which is really very, verypowerful.
Yeah, yeah, I didn't have.
I wasn't confident with thecoaching I had.
I needed more.
I wanted to educate myself andmore coaching and how to deal
with with clients.
(09:15):
So that's when I took um, tookthe coaching course, and I loved
it so much that I've signed up.
I'm going for my master's thisfall.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
Oh, wow, good for you Look at you, Miss Ambitious.
I love it.
Speaker 3 (09:32):
Somebody asked me one time when I retired so what are
you going to do?
I said I'm going to take everyfree course I can take and
educate myself some more Goodfor you, and educate myself some
more Good for you.
And yeah.
But then it gets to the point.
(09:52):
It's like, well, maybe if Itake this one more course for a
little bit of money, this willthis will be my answer, that'll
be it for me and yeah, I wouldhave to take that.
You know, I was going throughthe FOMO thing, afraid of
missing out on anything, andthen finally, a couple of months
ago, I had to.
I did a self-coaching scriptfor myself and I thought, okay,
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what's wrong with you saying no?
You know what?
Honestly, I don't think anybodyreally cares.
Nobody's going to care that yousay no, but you do.
So take, say no and take thatafternoon and go to the park,
exactly.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
You still need to enjoy like life, right?
I mean, it's here we, we haveto live life.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
Why live it?
Speaker 2 (10:38):
you know always, like you know at the grind right,
like we're not.
Humans were not made to workand stress all day, every day,
no right.
And so we need to.
We need to like really what'sthe word I'm looking for?
We really need to like, acceptthat right and embrace that
(10:58):
right.
We deserve rest.
Yeah right, my in-laws alwayssay rest is dead.
That's that's.
One of the first things Ilearned when I went into my
husband's family was rest isdead.
They don't believe in, you know, taking time to rest.
And I remember thinking, oh mygod, what am I getting myself
into?
Right, because I feel like I'mthe queen of rest.
(11:20):
I mean, if I have theopportunity to go sit down with
my feet up, I'm gonna take itright, but I mean it doesn't we
the opportunity to go sit downwith my feet up.
I'm going to take it, but itdoesn't.
We can't live life like thateither.
We need to balance it to somedegree.
Speaker 3 (11:31):
Right, Exactly, and it's sad, because it takes a
tragedy sometimes for you torealize that Now.
I didn't have a tragedy.
I think it was kind oftraumatic and I had to get a
knee replacement because Iinjured it and fell.
But I felt so blessed that inthis day and age they could fix
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it for me and make me feel good,and that's when I learned to
rest without guilt.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
Yes and yeah, like you said, unfortunately, like
something like that has tohappen before we start to
realize it.
And yet there's still somepeople that still refuse right.
They're like no, I cannot restright.
Exactly, there's shit to bedone, I gotta get to it.
Yeah so yeah yeah, good for younow.
Obviously your, your life is, Imean your career.
(12:25):
Career now is taking a bit of ajump.
What?
Speaker 3 (12:29):
are you doing?
Speaker 2 (12:29):
this summer to kind of set yourself up for that to
really happen in a strong,powerful way.
Speaker 3 (13:07):
I am.
I think which I haven't done ina long time is I.
You don't have a purpose.
You'll get up in the morningand you've got a list of things
to do, but you don't know whereto start.
And so this summer, I amallowing myself that one hour to
get motivated, becauseotherwise the day will be half
over and I don't know.
(13:28):
There was nothing done.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
Yeah, I can see that.
I can see that.
And so what does that look likefor you Like?
Is it like while you're layingin bed that you take that hour,
or do you get up, you dosomething?
You know, like, what is yourmorning routine?
Speaker 3 (13:41):
look like Well my morning routine is, um, I hate
to say this, but yes, I grab myphone.
That I honestly am trying tobreak.
Morning routine is and I don'tdo that very long anymore.
(14:04):
I just sometimes, most times, Ijust grab it now because the
alarm's gone off, or I justcheck something, or I check the
weather or something like that.
But then I get up because Ihave a little critter that needs
to be fed and will let me know.
But now, instead of crawlingback into bed or something like
that, I allow myself to do um,some.
(14:27):
I.
I have this five minute journalthat I bought at uh chapters
long time ago and it's the firstthing you do in the morning is
you say an affirmation and set agoal for three things you want
to accomplish in the day, andthen at evening you finish it
off.
By what did you learn from that?
Speaker 2 (14:48):
and and oh, I think I have that book actually, yeah
and, and I have been backworking on that again.
Speaker 3 (14:56):
I used to do it faithfully, but I do that again
now and then I drag myself to mystationary bike and I think,
five minutes, I'm doing fiveminutes.
While I do my five minutes, I,I tap, oh we tap, and so what
does that do for you?
Speaker 2 (15:16):
when you tap, is that like, does that release, like
stagnant energy, or does it getyou pumped up for the day, like?
Speaker 3 (15:23):
exactly you set your intent and it definitely
balances your nervous system.
And then, of of course, at thesame time you're by doing the
bike, you're getting yourmetabolism built up and,
honestly, when I go there forfive minutes, that's the only
way I can do it.
I have a hard time doing that,I'll admit it, and usually by
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five minutes.
Then I'm on to 10 minutes andthen next thing I know I've done
15 minutes.
I thought, okay, 15 minutes now.
Now I definitely have to do 15minutes of something else during
the day, whether I do weightsor go for a walk outside.
Speaker 2 (16:00):
But I love that, I love that and so you do that
every morning.
You know you start off with I'mgoing to do five minutes and
then lots of times, not all thetime.
Lots of times it turns into 10or 15 minutes.
Well, that's good.
And then.
So that gives you movementright and I think first thing in
the morning it seems to helpwith circulation throughout the
day well it.
Speaker 3 (16:20):
It definitely gets your metabolism going and and
some dopamine going.
Like you're bright, you feelbetter about yourself yeah, I
love that, yeah, and it doeswork.
And don't beat yourself up ifyou don't feel like doing it or
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if you don't do it like, makesure you get back right into it
and then celebrate what you'vedone.
Give yourself a pat on the back, do Do something.
Speaker 2 (16:51):
Yeah, that's a good that's.
You know, that's really goodadvice, because we're all we can
all be so hard on ourselves,right Like, oh shit, I didn't do
it.
And the thing is, one day turnsinto two days, two days turns
into a week, and then a weekturns into a month, and once you
get on that, then it's harderto make that routine happen
again.
So that's yeah, that's reallygood.
Celebrate what you did do.
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What is one summer habit orritual you have that keeps you
in your true power?
Speaker 3 (17:25):
What oh my goodness, Habit that keeps me?
I think it is the habit of.
It's okay to take a day andplay.
I think that's one habit and Ihad to develop that habit
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because it's really easy to sitdown.
This is July Christmas in July,it's easy to sit down.
This is July Christmas in July,it's easy to sit down watch a
Hallmark movie isn't that thetruth?
you've seen three times anyway,and know how it's gonna end.
But it's kind of it's kind ofone of those things.
It's, you know, it just relaxesyou, but it can.
(18:08):
It can get a little too far.
So I've really tried to developthe habit of getting outside
and I love that, and it's okayto go outside when it's raining.
If you're not going anywherelater, who cares if your hair
gets wet?
Who cares if your hairspraysticks to your head or if you
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have to wear a hat on your headlike you're getting outside.
Speaker 2 (18:32):
Yeah, I understand that.
Yeah, I went to Costco lastweek with my husband and it was
pouring and I'm like, seriously,why am I here, right?
And I got out of the car and Ijust put my hat you know my rain
jacket on and it covered myhair and I'm like, well, it's
gonna go big and curly, but youknow I'm here.
And I'm like, well, it's gonnago big and curly, but you know
I'm here, I'm gonna do it rightyou know what.
Speaker 3 (18:52):
And that goes back to , uh, to the pictures of of your
children taking a view that youdidn't like about probably, I'd
say close to eight years agonow.
It was like this is me and Ijust decided that, yeah, it's
not the greatest picture, butthat was me in the moment, right
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nobody cares.
Speaker 2 (19:19):
And at the end of the day you know, like I know my
mom has been like she doesn'tlike taking pictures of herself,
right, she?
you know she loves takingpictures, but not of herself and
you know, I remember havingthis argument with her, like
when you pass on, like after youdie.
I want to be able to show mykids my mom, right, they want to
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remember you, and one of thebest ways of doing that is
through photographs, right?
If we don't have any of you,we're not going to.
You know, if we don't have anyof you, we're not going to.
You know, like we don't havethem like we're always going to
remember, I mean we remember ourimportant people, but at the
same time, like sometimes, youwant to look at a picture and,
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oh, remember when we did that.
If you're never in thosepictures, we're not going to
remember every detail, right?
And so I always think of that,right, I mean if you're looking
at me the way I am today.
I don't want you to remember mein any other way.
This is who I am Exactly, butit's you know we are our hardest
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critic, right?
You look at yourself in apicture and you're like, oh God,
I look terrible, right, eventhough that's what everybody
else is seeing and they don'thave any options.
Right, they don't get to seelike, oh, tina, you need to go
comb your hair, or, tina, youknow like you really should wipe
that face.
Like you know, like I don'tknow I, we're just really hard
on ourselves.
Speaker 3 (20:43):
We are.
Speaker 2 (20:46):
We are.
So, yeah, I totally get that.
If you could tell your youngerself something, Arlene, one
thing about launching a business, what would it be?
Speaker 3 (21:00):
don't dwell on what other people say.
Be yourself, love that, beauthentic.
Because I look back to myyounger self and and I mean I
think I think I'm the only onein the world that was bullied
because of my weight or whatever.
But that's not true.
Everybody was bullied forsomething, for something.
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That is so true, isn't it?
And it's so sad and just beyourself and move on anyway.
Speaker 2 (21:34):
And, at the end of the day, when you're being
bullied, you're being bulliedbecause you're being yourself,
and other people can't acceptthe fact that you're being
yourself.
Speaker 3 (21:44):
Exactly.
Speaker 2 (21:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:46):
That's so true.
I love that.
I mean it's sad.
It is a sad world to think thatthat's what's happening out
there.
But that is what it comes downto, isn't it?
And I feel maybe you know thiseven more, but do you feel that
as time goes on and we look backat what life was back then, we
are more familiar with that,like we understand that better,
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right?
Speaker 3 (22:10):
yes, sometimes, sometimes when I look back at
some of of the kids that bulliedme and I have to really be
careful because some of thosekids are not doing well, either
health-wise or job-wise, or Imean kids, they're the same age
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as me now but and I have toreally hold back and say, well,
look at you, right, right, lookwhat you did to your system by
bullying, you know, right, rightbut, I always tell myself when
I think back to those peoplehurt people hurt people, and so
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they were struggling withsomething that we didn't know
about, right?
Speaker 2 (23:02):
so I think that you know it's not that they
necessarily did it to themselves, but you know, they were
emotionally, they were goingthrough a lot Right, and they
took it out on us yes, right,and that you know was unfair and
wrong, but they didn't know,they don't know how to deal with
life, they don't know how todeal with the pain that they're
in, right, and so they take itout on other people.
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I always remind myself that,right, I always remind myself
that that you know, it reallywasn't about me, it was about
them.
Speaker 3 (23:32):
I know, and that's what I do too, and I did a self.
Well, you know what a selfcoaching script is.
Yes, you know, I actually didone on myself about five years
ago with EFT about, um, myfeelings, uh, towards these
people now and how that was, wasnot good for me and my energy
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to feel that way to send themlove instead.
I love that I, I really and andthat certainly that certainly
calmed my nervous system downtowards that.
Speaker 2 (24:10):
Of course it just makes you feel better Because,
at the end of the day, youcannot control what they're
doing.
You can't control what they'refeeling, what they're doing.
You only have control over yourown thoughts and feelings.
Speaker 3 (24:21):
And they can't control me sending them love
either.
Speaker 2 (24:24):
Exactly, exactly.
So the best thing you can dofor them is to forgive them,
give them space to do their ownhealing and walk, you know, like
take yourself away fromwhatever it was that was going
on.
Oh, that's so sweet, I lovethat.
What do you have like a go tosummer productivity hack?
Speaker 3 (24:48):
um, I, I don't.
I, I think probably it would bemy morning power hour.
No, I, I just, I just want totake that that hour to myself
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because it's seriously.
And and then of course Isometimes uh, like, oh, I want
to do this from six to seven andI'm going, what am I doing?
I'm retired.
I could do it from seven toeight, or eight to nine if I
want why does it have to be sixo'clock?
Speaker 2 (25:25):
you're right, right, like it's whenever I wake up.
I'm going to take the firsthour to myself you know I try to
.
Speaker 3 (25:31):
I try to wake up and be out of bed by you know eight
o'clock or something, because Ithink that's a good, good time.
I think so yeah and uh,especially in the wintertime
when it's dark, you know.
And yeah, so I I quit beatingmyself up for that because I was
.
I was like, oh, I did thisagain.
Well, the day's gone, I may aswell just lay around and do
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nothing.
Speaker 2 (25:54):
Yeah Right, isn't that the truth?
I, yeah, I've got myself doingthat for sure.
So, let's fast forward to theend of the summer.
What would you say?
What would make you say that?
Yes, I leveled up Um.
Speaker 3 (26:13):
I think launching my podcast, learning and taking
more courses and things likethat and you know what, taking
the course, but accepting thatI'm worthy of starting a podcast
(26:36):
.
Speaker 2 (26:38):
I love that and you are worthy yeah we all are.
Yes, I cannot wait till itcomes out.
I'm definitely going to besigning up to listen to that.
What impact do you hope yourwork is making right now?
Speaker 3 (26:54):
I right now.
I hope the impact is um helpingpeople, teaching and educating
people how they can balancetheir own nervous systems and
educate them on how to do it andto keep that up and make it a
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habit of taking care ofthemselves, because they deserve
it and, you know, overcomingtheir fears or just even
handling their fears and hittingit head on.
I love this.
Speaker 2 (27:33):
Yeah, I love this because, mean, I mean you're,
you're retired, so you've livedan entire lifetime of watching
people go through the careerchanges, going like going
through it yourself and watchingother people going through it,
while raising a family, whilegoing through like the the stuff
(27:55):
that life brings us, and nowyou get to sit back and go.
Okay, now it's time to like,let that shit go Right.
And you, you have that.
I don't know you're so calm tolike you're, you're so relaxed,
like it.
I feel like there's no pressure.
You know like you're going tobring that into everyone's life.
(28:16):
You know we don't.
There's no pressure now, likenow, you don't have any time
restraints, right, like you know, you can get up when you want,
you can go to bed when you want.
You can, you know, enjoy lifeand still do the hard stuff
exactly.
Speaker 3 (28:31):
I love it, absolutely .
Yeah, and it took me.
It took me quite a few years ofself-coaching and self-care to
be this relaxed.
Speaker 2 (28:47):
So it's not something that you like, you were not.
Speaker 3 (28:50):
You're not, naturally like come and relax.
I had to work on that.
No, I had to.
I had to work on that.
There was nothing.
I think probably what comes tomind is road rage and and I mean
there was road, that I mean butjust little things like why did
that person cut that off?
(29:10):
Why are they zigzagging through?
And then I catch them at thelight and I think I think my
(29:39):
first.
I think one of the big things,important things I learned was
when I took my Reiki mastercourse and I remember we were
talking and my Reiki master saidif somebody's tailgating you
and it's making you nervous,visualize you're sending long of
the out of your taillights tothem and she says and they'll
back off.
Speaker 2 (29:45):
And you know I've done it and they do all right.
Oh, my goodness, that is socool.
You know so.
I remember hearing once thatyou know when you get, when road
rage is not about like theperson that's making you angry,
it's all about you.
It is how you're accepting ityeah.
And, and I remember and this waslike years and years ago, and I
remember thinking my kids werevery little actually, so this
(30:08):
was probably 15, 20 years agoand I remember thinking, you
know, it's true, like I can sithere, I can have my music on, I
can be talking with my kids orthey're watching a show, and I'm
, you know, it's true, like Ican sit here, I can have my
music on, I can be talking withmy kids or they're watching a
show, and I'm, you know, what doI care?
What they're doing outside ofmy car, right?
I mean yes, okay, carelessdriving is an issue, but if I'm
(30:29):
paying attention and I'm, youknow, on top of things, I'm
going to be prepared.
So now I usually just sit backand I'm whatever.
You want to be an idiot, goahead, be an idiot, I get.
You know, my kids are younger,but they're all driving and so
they're, you know.
Notice my younger one.
He's honking the horn and andI'm like what, what is that
going to do for you?
Exactly, yeah, and we don'tthink about that, right, we
(30:51):
don't think about, you know,like road rage is.
I mean, it's getting pretty badout there.
The thing is you're like,you're almost scared to like
look at the driver beside youtoday.
But at the end of the day, youknow, like I said, we are in
control of our own thoughts andfeelings only, like we don't
have control over anyone else.
(31:12):
If, if we control ourselves andkeep ourselves happy and calm
and relaxed.
You know, that's the best wecan do for the world.
Yeah, yeah.
Well, thank you so much forjoining me today, Arlene.
Speaker 3 (31:25):
This has been so awesome.
Oh, thank you.
This has been such fun.
Speaker 2 (31:29):
Yeah.
So do you have anything thatyou want to offer to our
listeners, or do you havesomething that you know, maybe a
link?
Speaker 3 (31:40):
You probably wouldn't have a link, but maybe give us
the name of your podcast.
Um, we just kind of decidedlast night.
Speaker 2 (31:45):
I think it's going to be um, well, we haven't really
decided on it for sure, but it'scoming up august 15th and it's
going to come out on um all thelike podcast um apps yes, this
will be good, yeah, yeah that'llbe good, and then by the time
this episode is released, itmight even be out and we can add
(32:10):
that to our show exactly, andfor I I do have an offer for
anyone who wants to talk.
Speaker 3 (32:20):
I have a 30 minute free session and to get to know
each other and, if they want, Iwould love to invite them to be
on my podcast, because everybodyhas a story, a beautiful story.
Everybody has a story, abeautiful story.
Also, I do have that 30 minutes.
(32:42):
We can also discuss, if youwant, coaching, learn, eft,
anything to help you along withwith with your journey.
Speaker 2 (32:53):
Awesome, I love it.
I love it.
Thank you so much.
We will have that all in theshow notes.
So we will all come back.
Speaker 3 (33:00):
Yes, perfect.
Thank you so much.
Speaker 2 (33:01):
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Welcome to Confidence in Bloom, where bold women rise
, shine and own their power.
We all face that pesky innercritic what I call the
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We don't let that noise win.
This is a space to celebratethe fierce, fabulous women who
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Because, let's be real, themost powerful thing any woman
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I'm Tina Spoletini, your hostwith the Divas that Care Network
, and I will bring you realstories from women who reclaimed
their voice, embraced theirworth and are lighting the way
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for all of us.
Are you ready to bloom to yourbest self?
Let's dive in.
Today I'm chatting with ArleneNelson.
Arlene is a Reiki master, eftand NLP practitioner who helps
others reconnect with theirpower through healing and
self-celebration.
She specializes in supportingsingle women navigating
(01:40):
retirement with confidence,clarity and joy.
Arlene believes healing is ajourney of self-honoring where
every step forward deservescelebration.
Her work inspires others torise, release and remember the
wisdom within.
Welcome, arlene.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
Thank you, it's great to be here.
Speaker 2 (01:59):
Thank you, thank you.
So first I want to start off.
Why don't you tell me a littlebit more about yourself?
Speaker 3 (02:14):
Well, I am living right now an ever-changing
lifestyle.
I'm going from just a coach andReiki master into podcasting
and I'm getting all this set upthis summer.
So it's a really excitingsummer for me.
I'm exciting.
I think I'm going to belaunching my.
No, I don't think I am going tobe launching my podcast August
15.
So that's lots of work and lotsof excitement and and I was kind
(02:35):
of I don't want to use the wordpushed, but you know, let's do
this and I just went ahead anddid it and I felt so good when
it was done and I made that,made that decision.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
That's awesome, so excited for you.
So tell us a little bit aboutyour podcast.
What's it going to be about?
Speaker 3 (02:55):
Well, my podcasts are going to be right now.
I'm looking for single womengoing into retirement, working
with their fears whether it bearound money or loneliness or
find out the root cause of whatthe what that one fear is and
(03:16):
work on that and help them along, just like I went through it
three years ago, and I don'twant to see anybody go through
that again and go through thatlike I did.
Yeah, to go into retirementhappy and and excited and
looking for something to do.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Right and relaxed right.
I mean, this is like that, butthat's a stage of your life
where you get to be relaxed.
You get to do what's fun foryou, right?
Because I mean, let's face it,we all work so hard to get to
retirement, right?
We don't want it to be astruggle once we're there.
So that's great, that's awesome.
So, obviously, boss, babe,summer to you is podcast
(03:59):
creation and all the fun stuffthat goes with that um how are
you using, then, the season torecharge and refocus yourself?
Speaker 3 (04:10):
well, I was kind of just everything was on my plate
all at once and mishmashedtogether and finally I took a
step back and thought, okay,today I'm working on this,
tomorrow I'm working on that,and it's okay to take a day and
play In summertime absolutely,take it, absolutely.
(04:35):
So sometimes I might have anafternoon free and I don't have
anything planned and I will justgo outside and spend the
afternoon Good for you, and sois this like your retirement,
like I'm assuming, then, thatyou have gone into retirement
already.
I have, I have.
Speaker 2 (04:52):
And so your retirement is still working.
Speaker 3 (04:54):
Yes, it's doing what I love.
It's doing what I love, right,it's not work.
And also working with myself,um and and also um.
Also, I have to sometimes thinkwhy am I doing this at this age
?
This is crazy, and I'm thinking.
(05:17):
But I'm not that age.
I'm thinking young, right, Ihave some aches and pains, so do
more yoga and eat better, right.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
I just had this conversation with a cousin of
mine.
We both are 54 this year.
And we were like where did that?
Like how, how did we get here?
Our parents were this age.
Right, we're not as old as ourparents.
But when you look at ourparents, you know like they're
well into their 70s and we'relike, wow, wow, like we're
(05:48):
getting there right.
Speaker 3 (05:50):
I know Well, I'll tell you I had a tough time in
January.
The beginning of the year was alittle bit rough for me due to
some siblings' illness and stufflike that, and I also turned 70
in January.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
well, well, you look great, you look, thank you okay.
So I I don't mean that as a asan insult, but what does 70 look
like?
Speaker 3 (06:15):
I think you look great I well, I, I feel great, I
look great.
But that number for our firstfew days it was like, oh my god,
am I?
Am I worthy enough to do thisnow?
Am I worthy enough to move on?
Am I worthy enough to go travelthree months somewhere and work
somewhere else in the tropics,and stuff like that?
(06:37):
Yes, I am, and well right.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
What exactly?
Why not exactly?
Speaker 3 (06:43):
yeah and um, and for those, for those girls, those
young single girls well, they'reyoung single girls going into
retirement.
For me now, I know it wasalways the money issue.
Do I have enough money?
Blah, blah, blah.
And yes, you have some pensions, but I survived.
You don't spend as much moneywhen you retire you have some
(07:06):
pensions, but I survived.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
You don't spend as much money when you retire, and
I don't think anybody takes thatinto consideration.
No, right, yeah, because now,like you said, the last time we
chatted, you know you hadmentioned that.
You know you're not paying forgas because you're not driving
to work right so, therefore,you're not buying.
You're also not buying clothes.
That you're, you know.
I mean you still need to buyclothes because you need to
still feel good, right, andclothing has a lot to do with
(07:30):
that.
Right, we still need to wearthe clothes that we love, but we
don't need to be wearing, youknow, five different outfits
every single week exactly, yeah,exactly, and and it's.
Speaker 3 (07:42):
There's just so many factors going into that and and,
uh, you know the the first, thefew months, well, probably a
year before I did retire, I waslike, well, checking with the
government, how much am I goingto make?
And nobody would give you ananswer.
And it's like, well, we can'tgive you an answer until it's
(08:02):
your last paycheck.
And well, what about a ballparkfigure?
So I just said, whatever I'mgoing, it is what it is.
At the end, if I have to get ajob, I have to get a job.
What do you mean?
I have to get a job?
I already have a business,right?
Speaker 2 (08:17):
And then that, yeah, so you opened yours.
Now I know you did somecoaching training, you and I
know you did some coachingtraining.
You and I trained with the samecompany.
How did you like?
Speaker 3 (08:33):
were you coaching already before you retired or
did you start that after?
Yes, I was, I was.
I was an EFT practitioner,tapping, okay, and I just the I
love the tapping and I went fromI was an acupressure massage
therapist and, okay, yeah, youknow what I've earned?
My dues of using my hands andthen putting up with the
(08:54):
soreness, so, and I love workingwith the meridians.
So that's what tapping is istapping on the end meridians,
which is really very, verypowerful.
Yeah, yeah, I didn't have.
I wasn't confident with thecoaching I had.
I needed more.
I wanted to educate myself andmore coaching and how to deal
with with clients.
(09:15):
So that's when I took um, tookthe coaching course, and I loved
it so much that I've signed up.
I'm going for my master's thisfall.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
Oh, wow, good for you Look at you, Miss Ambitious.
I love it.
Speaker 3 (09:32):
Somebody asked me one time when I retired so what are
you going to do?
I said I'm going to take everyfree course I can take and
educate myself some more Goodfor you, and educate myself some
more Good for you.
And yeah.
But then it gets to the point.
(09:52):
It's like, well, maybe if Itake this one more course for a
little bit of money, this willthis will be my answer, that'll
be it for me and yeah, I wouldhave to take that.
You know, I was going throughthe FOMO thing, afraid of
missing out on anything, andthen finally, a couple of months
ago, I had to.
I did a self-coaching scriptfor myself and I thought, okay,
(10:15):
what's wrong with you saying no?
You know what?
Honestly, I don't think anybodyreally cares.
Nobody's going to care that yousay no, but you do.
So take, say no and take thatafternoon and go to the park,
exactly.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
You still need to enjoy like life, right?
I mean, it's here we, we haveto live life.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
Why live it?
Speaker 2 (10:38):
you know always, like you know at the grind right,
like we're not.
Humans were not made to workand stress all day, every day,
no right.
And so we need to.
We need to like really what'sthe word I'm looking for?
We really need to like, acceptthat right and embrace that
(10:58):
right.
We deserve rest.
Yeah right, my in-laws alwayssay rest is dead.
That's that's.
One of the first things Ilearned when I went into my
husband's family was rest isdead.
They don't believe in, you know, taking time to rest.
And I remember thinking, oh mygod, what am I getting myself
into?
Right, because I feel like I'mthe queen of rest.
(11:20):
I mean, if I have theopportunity to go sit down with
my feet up, I'm gonna take itright, but I mean it doesn't we
the opportunity to go sit downwith my feet up.
I'm going to take it, but itdoesn't.
We can't live life like thateither.
We need to balance it to somedegree.
Speaker 3 (11:31):
Right, Exactly, and it's sad, because it takes a
tragedy sometimes for you torealize that Now.
I didn't have a tragedy.
I think it was kind oftraumatic and I had to get a
knee replacement because Iinjured it and fell.
But I felt so blessed that inthis day and age they could fix
(11:53):
it for me and make me feel good,and that's when I learned to
rest without guilt.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
Yes and yeah, like you said, unfortunately, like
something like that has tohappen before we start to
realize it.
And yet there's still somepeople that still refuse right.
They're like no, I cannot restright.
Exactly, there's shit to bedone, I gotta get to it.
Yeah so yeah yeah, good for younow.
Obviously your, your life is, Imean your career.
(12:25):
Career now is taking a bit of ajump.
What?
Speaker 3 (12:29):
are you doing?
Speaker 2 (12:29):
this summer to kind of set yourself up for that to
really happen in a strong,powerful way.
Speaker 3 (13:07):
I am.
I think which I haven't done ina long time is I.
You don't have a purpose.
You'll get up in the morningand you've got a list of things
to do, but you don't know whereto start.
And so this summer, I amallowing myself that one hour to
get motivated, becauseotherwise the day will be half
over and I don't know.
(13:28):
There was nothing done.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
Yeah, I can see that.
I can see that.
And so what does that look likefor you Like?
Is it like while you're layingin bed that you take that hour,
or do you get up, you dosomething?
You know, like, what is yourmorning routine?
Speaker 3 (13:41):
look like Well my morning routine is, um, I hate
to say this, but yes, I grab myphone.
That I honestly am trying tobreak.
Morning routine is and I don'tdo that very long anymore.
(14:04):
I just sometimes, most times, Ijust grab it now because the
alarm's gone off, or I justcheck something, or I check the
weather or something like that.
But then I get up because Ihave a little critter that needs
to be fed and will let me know.
But now, instead of crawlingback into bed or something like
that, I allow myself to do um,some.
(14:27):
I.
I have this five minute journalthat I bought at uh chapters
long time ago and it's the firstthing you do in the morning is
you say an affirmation and set agoal for three things you want
to accomplish in the day, andthen at evening you finish it
off.
By what did you learn from that?
Speaker 2 (14:48):
and and oh, I think I have that book actually, yeah
and, and I have been backworking on that again.
Speaker 3 (14:56):
I used to do it faithfully, but I do that again
now and then I drag myself to mystationary bike and I think,
five minutes, I'm doing fiveminutes.
While I do my five minutes, I,I tap, oh we tap, and so what
does that do for you?
Speaker 2 (15:16):
when you tap, is that like, does that release, like
stagnant energy, or does it getyou pumped up for the day, like?
Speaker 3 (15:23):
exactly you set your intent and it definitely
balances your nervous system.
And then, of of course, at thesame time you're by doing the
bike, you're getting yourmetabolism built up and,
honestly, when I go there forfive minutes, that's the only
way I can do it.
I have a hard time doing that,I'll admit it, and usually by
(15:44):
five minutes.
Then I'm on to 10 minutes andthen next thing I know I've done
15 minutes.
I thought, okay, 15 minutes now.
Now I definitely have to do 15minutes of something else during
the day, whether I do weightsor go for a walk outside.
Speaker 2 (16:00):
But I love that, I love that and so you do that
every morning.
You know you start off with I'mgoing to do five minutes and
then lots of times, not all thetime.
Lots of times it turns into 10or 15 minutes.
Well, that's good.
And then.
So that gives you movementright and I think first thing in
the morning it seems to helpwith circulation throughout the
day well it.
Speaker 3 (16:20):
It definitely gets your metabolism going and and
some dopamine going.
Like you're bright, you feelbetter about yourself yeah, I
love that, yeah, and it doeswork.
And don't beat yourself up ifyou don't feel like doing it or
(16:41):
if you don't do it like, makesure you get back right into it
and then celebrate what you'vedone.
Give yourself a pat on the back, do Do something.
Speaker 2 (16:51):
Yeah, that's a good that's.
You know, that's really goodadvice, because we're all we can
all be so hard on ourselves,right Like, oh shit, I didn't do
it.
And the thing is, one day turnsinto two days, two days turns
into a week, and then a weekturns into a month, and once you
get on that, then it's harderto make that routine happen
again.
So that's yeah, that's reallygood.
Celebrate what you did do.
(17:11):
What is one summer habit orritual you have that keeps you
in your true power?
Speaker 3 (17:25):
What oh my goodness, Habit that keeps me?
I think it is the habit of.
It's okay to take a day andplay.
I think that's one habit and Ihad to develop that habit
(17:48):
because it's really easy to sitdown.
This is July Christmas in July,it's easy to sit down.
This is July Christmas in July,it's easy to sit down watch a
Hallmark movie isn't that thetruth?
you've seen three times anyway,and know how it's gonna end.
But it's kind of it's kind ofone of those things.
It's, you know, it just relaxesyou, but it can.
(18:08):
It can get a little too far.
So I've really tried to developthe habit of getting outside
and I love that, and it's okayto go outside when it's raining.
If you're not going anywherelater, who cares if your hair
gets wet?
Who cares if your hairspraysticks to your head or if you
(18:28):
have to wear a hat on your headlike you're getting outside.
Speaker 2 (18:32):
Yeah, I understand that.
Yeah, I went to Costco lastweek with my husband and it was
pouring and I'm like, seriously,why am I here, right?
And I got out of the car and Ijust put my hat you know my rain
jacket on and it covered myhair and I'm like, well, it's
gonna go big and curly, but youknow I'm here.
And I'm like, well, it's gonnago big and curly, but you know
I'm here, I'm gonna do it rightyou know what.
Speaker 3 (18:52):
And that goes back to , uh, to the pictures of of your
children taking a view that youdidn't like about probably, I'd
say close to eight years agonow.
It was like this is me and Ijust decided that, yeah, it's
not the greatest picture, butthat was me in the moment, right
(19:16):
nobody cares.
Speaker 2 (19:19):
And at the end of the day you know, like I know my
mom has been like she doesn'tlike taking pictures of herself,
right, she?
you know she loves takingpictures, but not of herself and
you know, I remember havingthis argument with her, like
when you pass on, like after youdie.
I want to be able to show mykids my mom, right, they want to
(19:42):
remember you, and one of thebest ways of doing that is
through photographs, right?
If we don't have any of you,we're not going to.
You know, if we don't have anyof you, we're not going to.
You know, like we don't havethem like we're always going to
remember, I mean we remember ourimportant people, but at the
same time, like sometimes, youwant to look at a picture and,
(20:02):
oh, remember when we did that.
If you're never in thosepictures, we're not going to
remember every detail, right?
And so I always think of that,right, I mean if you're looking
at me the way I am today.
I don't want you to remember mein any other way.
This is who I am Exactly, butit's you know we are our hardest
(20:23):
critic, right?
You look at yourself in apicture and you're like, oh God,
I look terrible, right, eventhough that's what everybody
else is seeing and they don'thave any options.
Right, they don't get to seelike, oh, tina, you need to go
comb your hair, or, tina, youknow like you really should wipe
that face.
Like you know, like I don'tknow I, we're just really hard
on ourselves.
Speaker 3 (20:43):
We are.
Speaker 2 (20:46):
We are.
So, yeah, I totally get that.
If you could tell your youngerself something, Arlene, one
thing about launching a business, what would it be?
Speaker 3 (21:00):
don't dwell on what other people say.
Be yourself, love that, beauthentic.
Because I look back to myyounger self and and I mean I
think I think I'm the only onein the world that was bullied
because of my weight or whatever.
But that's not true.
Everybody was bullied forsomething, for something.
(21:23):
That is so true, isn't it?
And it's so sad and just beyourself and move on anyway.
Speaker 2 (21:34):
And, at the end of the day, when you're being
bullied, you're being bulliedbecause you're being yourself,
and other people can't acceptthe fact that you're being
yourself.
Speaker 3 (21:44):
Exactly.
Speaker 2 (21:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:46):
That's so true.
I love that.
I mean it's sad.
It is a sad world to think thatthat's what's happening out
there.
But that is what it comes downto, isn't it?
And I feel maybe you know thiseven more, but do you feel that
as time goes on and we look backat what life was back then, we
are more familiar with that,like we understand that better,
(22:09):
right?
Speaker 3 (22:10):
yes, sometimes, sometimes when I look back at
some of of the kids that bulliedme and I have to really be
careful because some of thosekids are not doing well, either
health-wise or job-wise, or Imean kids, they're the same age
(22:33):
as me now but and I have toreally hold back and say, well,
look at you, right, right, lookwhat you did to your system by
bullying, you know, right, rightbut, I always tell myself when
I think back to those peoplehurt people hurt people, and so
(22:58):
they were struggling withsomething that we didn't know
about, right?
Speaker 2 (23:02):
so I think that you know it's not that they
necessarily did it to themselves, but you know, they were
emotionally, they were goingthrough a lot Right, and they
took it out on us yes, right,and that you know was unfair and
wrong, but they didn't know,they don't know how to deal with
life, they don't know how todeal with the pain that they're
in, right, and so they take itout on other people.
(23:25):
I always remind myself that,right, I always remind myself
that that you know, it reallywasn't about me, it was about
them.
Speaker 3 (23:32):
I know, and that's what I do too, and I did a self.
Well, you know what a selfcoaching script is.
Yes, you know, I actually didone on myself about five years
ago with EFT about, um, myfeelings, uh, towards these
people now and how that was, wasnot good for me and my energy
(23:57):
to feel that way to send themlove instead.
I love that I, I really and andthat certainly that certainly
calmed my nervous system downtowards that.
Speaker 2 (24:10):
Of course it just makes you feel better Because,
at the end of the day, youcannot control what they're
doing.
You can't control what they'refeeling, what they're doing.
You only have control over yourown thoughts and feelings.
Speaker 3 (24:21):
And they can't control me sending them love
either.
Speaker 2 (24:24):
Exactly, exactly.
So the best thing you can dofor them is to forgive them,
give them space to do their ownhealing and walk, you know, like
take yourself away fromwhatever it was that was going
on.
Oh, that's so sweet, I lovethat.
What do you have like a go tosummer productivity hack?
Speaker 3 (24:48):
um, I, I don't.
I, I think probably it would bemy morning power hour.
No, I, I just, I just want totake that that hour to myself
(25:09):
because it's seriously.
And and then of course Isometimes uh, like, oh, I want
to do this from six to seven andI'm going, what am I doing?
I'm retired.
I could do it from seven toeight, or eight to nine if I
want why does it have to be sixo'clock?
Speaker 2 (25:25):
you're right, right, like it's whenever I wake up.
I'm going to take the firsthour to myself you know I try to
.
Speaker 3 (25:31):
I try to wake up and be out of bed by you know eight
o'clock or something, because Ithink that's a good, good time.
I think so yeah and uh,especially in the wintertime
when it's dark, you know.
And yeah, so I I quit beatingmyself up for that because I was
.
I was like, oh, I did thisagain.
Well, the day's gone, I may aswell just lay around and do
(25:52):
nothing.
Speaker 2 (25:54):
Yeah Right, isn't that the truth?
I, yeah, I've got myself doingthat for sure.
So, let's fast forward to theend of the summer.
What would you say?
What would make you say that?
Yes, I leveled up Um.
Speaker 3 (26:13):
I think launching my podcast, learning and taking
more courses and things likethat and you know what, taking
the course, but accepting thatI'm worthy of starting a podcast
(26:36):
.
Speaker 2 (26:38):
I love that and you are worthy yeah we all are.
Yes, I cannot wait till itcomes out.
I'm definitely going to besigning up to listen to that.
What impact do you hope yourwork is making right now?
Speaker 3 (26:54):
I right now.
I hope the impact is um helpingpeople, teaching and educating
people how they can balancetheir own nervous systems and
educate them on how to do it andto keep that up and make it a
(27:14):
habit of taking care ofthemselves, because they deserve
it and, you know, overcomingtheir fears or just even
handling their fears and hittingit head on.
I love this.
Speaker 2 (27:33):
Yeah, I love this because, mean, I mean you're,
you're retired, so you've livedan entire lifetime of watching
people go through the careerchanges, going like going
through it yourself and watchingother people going through it,
while raising a family, whilegoing through like the the stuff
(27:55):
that life brings us, and nowyou get to sit back and go.
Okay, now it's time to like,let that shit go Right.
And you, you have that.
I don't know you're so calm tolike you're, you're so relaxed,
like it.
I feel like there's no pressure.
You know like you're going tobring that into everyone's life.
(28:16):
You know we don't.
There's no pressure now, likenow, you don't have any time
restraints, right, like you know, you can get up when you want,
you can go to bed when you want.
You can, you know, enjoy lifeand still do the hard stuff
exactly.
Speaker 3 (28:31):
I love it, absolutely .
Yeah, and it took me.
It took me quite a few years ofself-coaching and self-care to
be this relaxed.
Speaker 2 (28:47):
So it's not something that you like, you were not.
Speaker 3 (28:50):
You're not, naturally like come and relax.
I had to work on that.
No, I had to.
I had to work on that.
There was nothing.
I think probably what comes tomind is road rage and and I mean
there was road, that I mean butjust little things like why did
that person cut that off?
(29:10):
Why are they zigzagging through?
And then I catch them at thelight and I think I think my
(29:39):
first.
I think one of the big things,important things I learned was
when I took my Reiki mastercourse and I remember we were
talking and my Reiki master saidif somebody's tailgating you
and it's making you nervous,visualize you're sending long of
the out of your taillights tothem and she says and they'll
back off.
Speaker 2 (29:45):
And you know I've done it and they do all right.
Oh, my goodness, that is socool.
You know so.
I remember hearing once thatyou know when you get, when road
rage is not about like theperson that's making you angry,
it's all about you.
It is how you're accepting ityeah.
And, and I remember and this waslike years and years ago, and I
remember thinking my kids werevery little actually, so this
(30:08):
was probably 15, 20 years agoand I remember thinking, you
know, it's true, like I can sithere, I can have my music on, I
can be talking with my kids orthey're watching a show, and I'm
, you know, it's true, like Ican sit here, I can have my
music on, I can be talking withmy kids or they're watching a
show, and I'm, you know, what doI care?
What they're doing outside ofmy car, right?
I mean yes, okay, carelessdriving is an issue, but if I'm
(30:29):
paying attention and I'm, youknow, on top of things, I'm
going to be prepared.
So now I usually just sit backand I'm whatever.
You want to be an idiot, goahead, be an idiot, I get.
You know, my kids are younger,but they're all driving and so
they're, you know.
Notice my younger one.
He's honking the horn and andI'm like what, what is that
going to do for you?
Exactly, yeah, and we don'tthink about that, right, we
(30:51):
don't think about, you know,like road rage is.
I mean, it's getting pretty badout there.
The thing is you're like,you're almost scared to like
look at the driver beside youtoday.
But at the end of the day, youknow, like I said, we are in
control of our own thoughts andfeelings only, like we don't
have control over anyone else.
(31:12):
If, if we control ourselves andkeep ourselves happy and calm
and relaxed.
You know, that's the best wecan do for the world.
Yeah, yeah.
Well, thank you so much forjoining me today, Arlene.
Speaker 3 (31:25):
This has been so awesome.
Oh, thank you.
This has been such fun.
Speaker 2 (31:29):
Yeah.
So do you have anything thatyou want to offer to our
listeners, or do you havesomething that you know, maybe a
link?
Speaker 3 (31:40):
You probably wouldn't have a link, but maybe give us
the name of your podcast.
Um, we just kind of decidedlast night.
Speaker 2 (31:45):
I think it's going to be um, well, we haven't really
decided on it for sure, but it'scoming up august 15th and it's
going to come out on um all thelike podcast um apps yes, this
will be good, yeah, yeah that'llbe good, and then by the time
this episode is released, itmight even be out and we can add
(32:10):
that to our show exactly, andfor I I do have an offer for
anyone who wants to talk.
Speaker 3 (32:20):
I have a 30 minute free session and to get to know
each other and, if they want, Iwould love to invite them to be
on my podcast, because everybodyhas a story, a beautiful story.
Everybody has a story, abeautiful story.
Also, I do have that 30 minutes.
(32:42):
We can also discuss, if youwant, coaching, learn, eft,
anything to help you along withwith with your journey.
Speaker 2 (32:53):
Awesome, I love it.
I love it.
Thank you so much.
We will have that all in theshow notes.
So we will all come back.
Speaker 3 (33:00):
Yes, perfect.
Thank you so much.
Speaker 2 (33:01):
I appreciate that.
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Spoiler they don't even looklike that.
You are enough worthy ofunconditional love, especially
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We pour love out to everyonearound us, so it's time to give
(33:24):
that same love to you.
If you're ready to step intoyour power and boost your
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