October 18, 2025 • 31 mins
Come and listen to our Host, Tina Spoletini, as she chats with today's guest, Angela Wilson, for our "Season of Shift: Women on the Edge of Reinvention" Podcast Series.
This series spotlights women who used this reflective season (Oct–Dec) to make major life pivots—career changes, endings, spiritual awakenings, and brave beginnings.
Meet Angela Wilson, an international best-selling author, captivating speaker, and the Founder of Angela Unlimited.
Through her work, Angela empowers women to explore and embody their Unlimited Life - a life brimming with wealth in all its forms. She is passionately dedicated to guiding women on how to find their authentic voice, live out loud, and embrace the richness of the life that awaits them.
Driven by her own quest for greater meaning, Angela courageously confronted the question, "Isn’t there more to life than this?" and resoundingly answered, "Yes, there is."
Angela Wilson is an international best-selling author, dynamic speaker, and Founder of Angela Unlimited. She empowers women to discover their authentic voice, live boldly, and embrace a life rich in meaning and abundance. Inspired by her own journey of asking, “Isn’t there more to life than this?” Angela now helps others confidently answer, “Yes, there is.”
Website: www.angelaunlimited.com
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https://www.linkedin.com/in/angela-wilson-036676a8/https://www.instagram.com/angelaunlimited/
We explore reinvention as a continual practice, not a single event, with Angela Wilson’s practical tools for redefining success, hearing your authentic voice, and taking small bold steps that stick. We share stories, reframes, and first moves for women ready to live out loud.
• whole wealth as success across meaning, money, time and joy
• redefining success by season and proportion
• naming the inner critic, ego, inner child and intuition
• giving protective voices new roles that serve growth
• expanding comfort zones with micro‑risks
• midlife awareness and reclaiming time and voice
• letting go of old stories and harvesting what serves
• future self design as a decision tool
• community and mentorship as first steps
• practical rituals to build daily confidence
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SPEAKER_03 (00:31):
Welcome to Confidence in Bloom, where bold
women rise, shine, and own theirpower.
We all face that pesky innercritic, what I call the itty
bitty shitty committee,whispering self-sabotaging
doubts and untrue trash talkthat holds us back.
But here, we don't let thatnoise win.
This season, we're celebratingthe season of shift: women on
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the edge of reinvention.
It's for every woman standing atthe crossroads, ready to rewrite
her story, reignite her spark,and rise into the next version
of herself.
This is a space to honor thefierce, fabulous women who've
broken free from fear, crushedlimiting beliefs, and stepped
into their full, unstoppableselves.
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Because let's be real, the mostpowerful thing any woman can
wear is her confidence.
I'm Tina Spolettini, your hostwith a DivaSat Care Network,
bringing you real stories fromwomen who reclaim their voice,
embraced their worth, and arelighting all the way all the way
for all of us.
Ready to bloom into your nextchapter?
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Let's dive in.
Today I'm chatting with AngelaWilson.
Angela is an internationalbest-selling author, dynamic
speaker, and the founder ofAngela Unlimited.
She empowers women to discovertheir authentic voice, live
boldly, and embrace a life richin meaning and abundance.
Inspired by her own journey ofasking, isn't there more to life
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than this?
Angela now helps othersconfidently answer, yes, there
is.
So welcome, Angela.
Oh, so great to be here, Tina.
Yeah, so great to have you back.
unknown (02:11):
Thanks.
SPEAKER_03 (02:11):
Yeah.
So now, I mean, we've changed,we've changed sort of how we
work the podcast now.
We're we're gonna be doingthemes per season.
So I'm really interested in thewhole reinvention, right?
I mean, we've all we've all kindof been there, whether we've you
know recognized it or not,right?
And some women sort of plan itout.
Uh some of us just happen tolike kind of look back and go,
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holy crap, I'm not the person Iwas 10 years ago, right?
So that's kind of where we'regonna go.
Um, now you when you were on theum podcast, uh, I believe it was
last fall.
Like yeah, I think the fall of2024.
I can't remember exactly.
You know, time goes by so fast,it's so hard to tell nowadays.
(02:55):
But we talked about like youhelp women with their wealth.
Yeah, that's correct.
It whole wealth, so wealthy inevery single aspect of their
life, of their life, right?
And so obviously, you've seenand you've sort of supported and
guided many women through thewhole reinvention.
Um, can you maybe tell me alittle bit about, you know, what
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does it mean for you?
And how did you first discoverwhat reinvention is and how did
you sort of blend that in withyour clients?
Absolutely.
SPEAKER_02 (03:27):
So I think re I think we reinvent ourselves all
the time.
So I don't think there's likeany single spot.
I think there's biggerreinventions and then there's
the smaller reinventions thatwe're doing all the time because
we're continually growing andit's a continuous journey.
So I had a huge reinvention ofmyself from the standpoint of I,
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you know, didn't know who I wasat all and was in a very
horrible relationship, got outof that, which is was fantastic
to get out of, and had to findout who I was.
And that's really kind of whereI decided that I wanted to help
other women so that they couldactually go through the go
through the the reinventiontransformation process without
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going through some of the bumpsthat I went through.
And so I really wanted to dothat.
And you know, when I look back,my gosh, I'm not I'm not the
same person I was at all.
And you know, that's been many,many years now since that
happened.
Goodness, that's well over 15 ormore years now.
And it's it's really that, youknow, it's coming out and being
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more confident.
Like I would have never everbeen here talking to you on on a
podcast because I didn't use myvoice at all.
And so that's one of the thingsthat I love about the women that
I work with is I get them to usetheir voice and I get them to
really start thinking about whatis it that you truly desire in
your life?
What is your dream?
What is the life that justlights you up?
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And that's what we go after.
And so I've seen some greattransformations from women that
have gone from being, you know,successful and had great
businesses and been in greatcareers, and then really gone,
it's not feeding my soul.
I really want to be me now, andhave them step out.
And one client that pops into myhead, you know, she's now
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traveling the way she reallywanted to travel.
She has more freedom in her lifebecause she was just solely in
her business and that's all shedid.
And now she's doing things forherself and all kinds of amazing
things in the world.
So I think when we when we getinto that spot of transformation
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and reinvention, it's that whatdo you really desire and go
after that?
SPEAKER_03 (05:43):
Right, right.
And so, and and I it makes mewonder.
So, this client that you werejust speaking of, you know, she
you know, she threw herself intoher business and was focusing
just on her business, but nowshe's realized, you know, I need
to worry about me, right?
What about me?
I it makes me question, youknow, the whole word the
success, right?
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When we look back, we when welook back at a past life like
that, do we still considerourselves successful?
Right.
Because I mean, I'm justlooking, I'm thinking that this
lady was getting probablywhatever she wanted out of her
business, right?
And then she realized, but whatabout me?
And and that's like, am Ifailing myself?
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Right.
Because I mean, I I don't know.
I mean, you know this ladybetter than I do, obviously, but
you know, it makes me wonder,you know, there's many women out
there, and it's not just women,there's also men that do that,
right?
But I mean, here we talk aboutwomen.
It makes me like I that's kindof what I wonder now is are
these women looking at successin a through a different eye, or
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does it mean something differentto them today?
SPEAKER_02 (06:52):
The ladies I work with, yes.
Yeah, because uh because whatfor for me, I uh success is one
of those words that it can be sotriggering for so many people
because it's again, it's one ofthose, it's a label that's been
put on us for us to go after.
And it's so what's the what'sthe opposite of success?
Failure.
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And so, you know, it it's thatreal tug of war.
And so that's why when I workwith the ladies that I work
with, it's like, what do youdesire?
What are your dreams?
Let's go after those, as opposedto I have to meet this goal to
be successful, to do da da da dada da.
And this particular lady that Iwas talking about, you know, she
working so hard in her business.
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And she said, Oh my gosh,Angela, I didn't, I didn't make
my goal.
I didn't make my revenue goalfor the year.
And I said, What do you mean?
So we had a whole conversation,and I said, Okay, just a second.
Stop and think about it.
You had life events happen toyou this year that made it that
you couldn't work as much asmuch.
And I said, So really thinkabout it.
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How many months did you actuallywork out of the year?
And she said, Well, you knowwhat?
It was like eight out of theyear.
And I said, Okay, let's takethat goal that you set and let's
divide that by 12 times eight.
Did you meet that?
And she goes, Oh, I was way overthat.
And I said, I count that assuccess because you still were
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way over the goal in the amountof time you had to work because
life threw you some curveballs.
Life is always gonna throw uscurveballs, and that's why I
said we reinvent ourselves allthe time.
SPEAKER_03 (08:28):
That is so true, and when you're running your own
business, right, life happenstoo, right?
Life still happens, whether youhave your own business or you
don't.
So you need to be able, you needto be prepared for that bit of a
stall, right?
Because you you you it happens,right?
You know, so yeah, I love that,I love that.
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I love that.
And so now with the women thatyou're working with, I mean,
you're helping them find theirtrue authentic voice.
Absolutely, yes.
And and I I'm gonna assume thatthat's not easy because you
know, as a woman myself, I knowthat we're always trying to
please other people, right?
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Now we're not all peoplepleasers, and I don't, and I
don't mean that in that kind ofa way, but we have other
responsibilities, other duties.
Whether we create those dutiesourselves or those
responsibilities, we still havethem, right?
We have families to raise, wehave friends to make happy, we
have, you know, socialobligations and other
obligations outside of ourbusiness.
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How do you like do you does yourown experience come into um your
conversation with these women sothat they learn, right?
I mean, because sometimes yousay, Well, what's what do you
really want?
And they're like, I don't evenknow.
SPEAKER_02 (09:47):
And you know what that is, that is an answer I get
a I don't know.
Yeah, I've I've been I've been amom for so long, I've been a
wife for so long, I've been adaughter for so long, I've been
a you name it, right?
And that's so one of the thingsthat that I do is because again,
use using my experience, becauseit we all have this beautiful
wisdom in us in us, and so forme, it's that let's use that
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wisdom to help other people.
And so for me, it was reallythat okay, I knew through the
process that I had to go throughfor myself to become my
authentic self and use my voiceout there, that it really was I
had to get to the spot that Iwas living life by my own story
and no one else's story.
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So it really was about going,okay, I can't listen anymore to
the you're not good enough,you're not worthy enough, you're
not, because I had all of thosevoices, I call that inner
chatter.
And so when you have thatplaying really, really loud,
it's really, it's so hard tohear your authentic voice.
It's so hard to get in touchwith you who you are at your at
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your core.
And so for the ladies that havethat going on, that's one of the
things that I that I help themwith.
And we and I take them through awhole process of figuring out
what is what is your story andnot the ones that have been
told.
Because if I was still listeningto all those stories that I've
been told, as I said, I wouldn'tbe here with you today.
SPEAKER_03 (11:15):
I yeah, absolutely wouldn't be.
And we all know, like we allknow that those voices, they
come from somewhere, they're notjust flying out of the sky, they
are coming from somewhere, butthey're not necessarily
realistic, right?
They're not, you know, they'respeaking.
Okay, so we I call it the ittybitty shitty committee, right?
There's many, there's manyvoices, right?
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I mean, there's you know, nowthe the four main voices would
be our inner critic, our innerchild, and our ego, right?
Those are the three really loudones.
And then we have the intuition.
The intuition is usually moresubtle, right?
But the the the inner critic andthe ego, I mean, they want you
safe, right?
They're gonna they want to keepyou where you are because you're
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comfortable, right?
And the inner child is usuallythe hurt one, right?
So they're the one that's gonnabe, you know, like don't do that
because you're just gonna gethurt again, and and yada yada.
I mean, we could go on forhours, right, to talk about
that.
But the truth is we need tolisten to them, we need to give
them like we need to give themuh, I don't know what the word
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is, but we need to give themthat spot so that they're heard,
right?
They need they need the space,they need to be heard, they need
to be recognized to some degree,right?
But we also need to give them ajob, right?
SPEAKER_02 (12:33):
Absolutely, because if you just tamp them down and
you keep shoving them down,they're gonna get louder.
SPEAKER_03 (12:39):
Oh, they're gonna explode at some point.
They're gonna explode, and thenyou're gonna feel crazy, right?
So you you know, listen to them,give them, give them, you know,
the space to say what they gottasay, and then recognize that
you've heard them.
Like, thank you, thank you forcoming out, thank you for
protecting me.
But I gotta try this, I gotta dothis, right?
For me.
SPEAKER_02 (12:57):
Absolutely, absolutely.
I gotta do this.
So, you know what?
Why don't why don't you go playover there for right now?
We can chat later, but for now,this is this is what where I
need to be.
And the and I'm glad that yousaid about the you know, the the
ego trying its job is protectionto keep us safe and to keep us
in that comfort zone.
And so, you know, it really isthat it's all about stepping
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outside of that comfort zone,though.
If you really want to go afteryour dreams and after after that
authentic, authentic, uh sorry,my it's not coming up right at
the moment.
Authentic voice.
There we go.
There we go.
You just need it out there for asecond.
Um, but if you're gonna stepinto that, you're gonna step
outside of your comfort zone.
Absolutely.
And so here's here's the thing.
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So, do you want to live yourlife by playing small and stay
in that comfort zone?
Or would you like to take somesteps toward living what I call
your unlimited life?
And actually, that's the lifethat you love, the life that you
create, the life that you'rereally so involved in that your
energy level is just likeamazing.
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And that's a journey to getthere for sure for every step
that you take just outside ofyour comfort zone, that means
you've stretched that littlebit.
So you're no longer in thattight little spot that you were,
you're now further out, furtherout, further out.
So again, small steps because ifyou I always say if you try to
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make huge, massive steps all atonce, your ego is gonna freak
and it's gonna it's gonna gointo so much protection that
you're not gonna do it.
SPEAKER_03 (14:34):
Right, exactly.
And keep in mind, so the egodoesn't want to be out of the
comfort zone because thenthey're in foreign land, right?
So then that those voices aregonna be like, what have you
done?
Right.
So stretching that that boundaryof your comfort zone is really
where that safety net is.
You're you're showing thosevoices, the you know, the ones
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that are trying to keep yousafe, you're showing them that
you're capable, right?
You do hard things, but you alsoknow your boundaries, right?
Because let's face it, whenwe're younger in our 20s, we
just go, right?
We just do what we got to do.
That's where those voices getstrong, right?
That's when when we're in our30s, they're like, what?
Okay, you're not doing thatagain.
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You tried that, it didn't work.
Look at what you're made, likewhat it made you feel, right?
And so your comfort zone thenstarts to kind of close up,
right?
And so now we have to learn howto expand that comfort zone
without going over the wall,right?
SPEAKER_02 (15:34):
Absolutely.
Then there is a spot too, and soI work with with women for the
most part that are 45 and up.
Most of them are more 50 at 50and up because they're in that
that season of change area whereyou know empty nest, um, you
know, various other things couldbe going on, right?
And you do hit a point too whereall of a sudden it's like, uh
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no, this is this is now my time.
And I think that that's part ofthe difference too, because the
women that I work with, they'reat that stage where they're
like, no, I'm not doing thatanymore.
I'm going this way, and I'mreally ready for the change, and
I want to change, and I want togo after the life that I that I
truly love because I'm done withthis.
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And I think that that's therecomes that that space of I don't
want to use the word pivotbecause it's not really a pivot,
but it it's almost like a I'mgonna you stand in your knowing
and you start standing theregoing, Yes, okay, here I am, and
I don't have to listen to thisanymore.
SPEAKER_03 (16:39):
Yeah.
The word awareness, yes, theword awareness is coming to me.
Yeah, right.
Because we are now aware, likethere's that there's a time
where we're like, okay, I haveto look after myself because my
kids have moved on.
My, you know, you know, lifelife is moving in a situation or
in a place where I'm like, I'mkind of on my own here, right?
I mean, you're not, I mean, Iknow for myself I wasn't alone.
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My husband is still here, mykids are still here, but
everyone's doing their ownthing.
And I felt kind of like, so nowwhat?
Right.
But then we become aware of thefact that, hey, I don't have to
sit around and wait for thesepeople to have time for me or
you know, have the energy forme.
I can still do my own thingwhile they're doing their thing
and still be there for them atthe same time, right?
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And so squaredness is reallywhere we make that, oh, so I can
try this or I should try this,right?
Absolutely.
I don't like to should, right?
That's kind of a square word,but but you know, it gives us
the opportunity to try somethingdifferent.
SPEAKER_02 (17:39):
It does, and it also gives us the opportunity to as
women, we go through a lot ofphases that it's you know, we
put ourselves at the at thebottom of the list because
everything else comes comesahead of us, everything else
comes ahead of us.
And I truly firmly believe thatputting yourself first is
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actually the biggest act of loveyou can do for everybody else in
your life, because then you cangive from yourself fully.
SPEAKER_03 (18:07):
Because if you're giving from yourself as you're
empty, then you're giving empty,and you're not giving everything
you know that you're you can,like you're capable of it.
SPEAKER_02 (18:18):
Exactly, yes, exactly.
And it's so so taking care ofourselves and really enriching
ourselves is not selfish in anystretch of the imagination,
however, society has said thatit is, and that's what we hear
as we as we grow up, that you'rejust not supposed to do that,
yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (18:37):
And we're living in a world where if everyone else
can be who they are, so can we.
Absolutely.
Yeah.
Now we we I mean, as we'retalking about, as we reinvent
ourselves, it also requiresletting go of old versions.
I mean, I think that's kind ofwhat we were speaking of.
Um, what what did you have torelease to step into your
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unlimited life?
SPEAKER_02 (19:00):
I had to reason I had to release a lot because I
heard I had a lot of storiesgoing on of how unworthy I was,
how unvaluable I was, how so Ihad to release those.
And and as I said, this is ajourney.
So there's still as I'm going,I've released so much.
And you know, I'm in this spacenow where I am living the life
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that I love, and I amabsolutely, you know, I'm I'm
confident, I'm out theretalking, I'm you know, assisting
other people.
And yet at times, because I amhuman, those little what I call
I call them gremlins, the littlegremlins show back up and go,
who are you?
Who are you to to think you cando that?
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And that's when I stop and I go,who am I not to do this?
Because that's the other side ofit.
Who am I not to do this?
That really, and again, youknow, that comes out of a lot of
the learnings that I that I'vetaken on as I've got the wisdom
that I've gained, and you know,and I make sure that I'm I have
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a lot of very valued peoplearound me that when I'm having
one of those days, I'm like,excuse me, I need to have a
conversation because you know,the the Angela that's in my head
right now is not a very niceperson.
And I need to talk to somebodyso that they can quiet that as
well.
I can quiet it really good formyself a lot of the times, but
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every now and again it's like,oh, that's a little too loud.
I I need I need help too.
SPEAKER_03 (20:29):
We all need to be.
And I find like with myself,it's with certain people that
those voices become louder.
And yes, I look at like when Iusually what I do is I'll sit
around the table or wherever Iam and I'll look at all these
people and go, yeah, but theseare also the people that made
that big strong boundary in yourhead that didn't allow you to
move forward, right?
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Whether they did it on purposeor with intention, it doesn't
even matter, right?
It's how your inner critic oryour ego accepted and translated
that for you, right?
So it's not that they'revillains in any way, right?
It's just that how theircharacter created yours.
And so I just sort of sit backand go, okay, whatever they
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meant, they meant, but this ismy world.
Like I need to make my life, youknow, happy or whatever it is
that I'm looking for, right?
And so, you know, then I that'swhen that discussion with with
my critty, my committee comesout, right?
Or okay, let's have adiscussion, let's have let's
have a board meeting, right?
I love that.
Let's have a board meeting rightnow.
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Right, because that's we need tohave that discussion with
ourselves.
We need to understand wherewe're coming from, where we want
to go, and how we're gonna getthere.
And that's how we do it, right?
Absolutely.
Yeah, I love it.
SPEAKER_02 (21:45):
Absolutely, and yeah, and it's interesting.
So one of one of theconversations that that does go
on for me is if my ego startsgetting really riled up, I'm
like, okay, just a second.
I I I call the I call my ego,those are my soldiers.
I'm like, okay, thank you forprotecting me.
And the job that you did wasamazing.
But right now you need to standdown because we're on a
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different path now.
SPEAKER_03 (22:09):
We're not anymore.
SPEAKER_02 (22:10):
And you've got a way different job to do now.
And then that allows me to moveforward because as soon as I do
that, the big voice is goingrah-rah rah, it it stops because
you're addressing itdifferently.
Because you've given it adifferent job, right?
SPEAKER_03 (22:26):
Yeah, it's now I mean, it sounds crazy.
Like the first time someone toldme to do this, I'm like, what
are you talking about?
That's just me, right?
But then when I started to kindof just sit back and listen at
first, just to become more awareof that conversation that I was
having in my head that I didn'teven realize was going on,
right?
And so, you know, just take thatmoment, just take, you know, if
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it's a minute or 10 minutes,whatever you need, take that
minute just to listen and thencreate a game plan, right?
So, okay, how are we gonnahandle this?
Right now, Angela, you encouragewomen to live out loud.
What does that look like inpractice for someone who's used
to playing small?
SPEAKER_02 (23:10):
That it's really about taking small steps to move
outside of that comfort zone andto really, I love that you said
about again about the voicesbecause it is about gaining
awareness of what is going oninside and really filtering and
figuring out is it true or is itnot true?
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Because a lot of timeseverything that's being said is
not true.
So once you can start doingthat, so it's really so I I get
the I get ladies to really getin touch with who they are and
to understand when it is thevoice in your head, as I said, I
call it inner chatter.
So is it your inner chatterthat's talking, or is it
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actually your heart that'stalking?
And there is a big distinctionwhen you really start to notice,
and so I work with them a lot onthat, and you know, again, it's
it comes down a lot to choice,and that's one of the things
that I work with women a lot onis you have choice, even when
you don't think you have choice,you do have choice, and not
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choosing is a choice, and so youcan stay inside your comfort
zone because that's hey, ifthat's where you want to stay,
that's fine.
However, you have a choice tomove out and beyond that, and
that's where you know you'll getthat that feeling of, oh no,
there's something more, I wantto go after more, and that's
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what we really do.
And it's but it all starts bylistening to who you are, and
then really deciding what iswhat is my future, what does my
future self look like?
I do a lot with future self asas well, um with clients and and
myself as part of part of my mypractice as well.
(24:57):
Um, because it's that you know,we've been so as little ones, we
daydream, we play, um, and thenwe get out of that.
Yeah, why does that happen?
Right, it happens because we gettold.
I don't know if you got toldthat I got told this a lot.
Stop daydreaming, get your headout of the clouds, yeah.
(25:20):
Grow up, right?
Exactly.
You can't possibly do that.
Yeah, that's too grandiose,yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (25:28):
Or you that's for little kids, right?
Exactly.
Little kids have fun, right?
Exactly, yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_02 (25:35):
But no, we're some that's one of the big things.
It's like how are you gonnainfuse more fun in your life?
How are you gonna infuse more ofyou into your life?
Because that you we're here tocreate the life that we're that
we love, and that's what we'rehere to live.
We're not here to live small.
We we weren't put on this planetto place to play small.
(25:55):
We came in as sparkly littleones, knowing no boundaries.
I actually said this in a talkjust recently.
I said, we came in, and if wewere told we we didn't know any
boundaries, so therefore welearned to walk and we learned
how to talk.
If we had boundaries, wewouldn't do that.
And I said to the ladies I wastalking to, I said, I know you
(26:16):
can all walk and talk,therefore, you can do any
anything you truly desire to do.
Yeah, it's just you've put thebrakes on.
So when you're going after yourdreams, like I said, when you're
going after your dreams, youcan't have your foot on the gas
and your foot on the brake atthe same time when you're
driving because you're not goinganywhere.
Yeah, so you gotta release themoff.
(26:37):
That's your comfort zone, isboth feet on the on those
paddles.
When you start releasing, nowyou start moving forward, and
just you can just do a littlebit at a time, it's all good.
SPEAKER_03 (26:48):
Yeah, it's all good, exactly, exactly.
And and keep in mind, like whenwe were, you know, growing up,
whoever was raising us, theywere teaching what they taught
were taught, right?
And so you know, yeah, like theywere they didn't tell us to be
fierce and powerful and becausethey were told not to, right?
(27:08):
But we're living in an age nowwhere you know we have to accept
ourselves for who we are, therest of the world is being
accepted.
Why can't we accept ourselves?
Right, absolutely, yeah.
So for women standing on theedge of their own reinvention,
Angela, what is the first stepthat you would encourage them to
take toward embracing that life?
SPEAKER_02 (27:31):
The first step is really you don't have to do this
alone.
That's the first step is get inwhether it's community, whether
it's a trusted friend, whetherit's a coach, whether whatever
it is.
That is because when you try todo it alone, all the naysayers
(27:52):
out there, their voices get willget louder because you're still
listening to to the chatterthat's going on.
So that would be the first stepI would do is I would find a
trusted community mentor friendthat you can just be yourself
with.
SPEAKER_03 (28:07):
Yes.
SPEAKER_02 (28:08):
That's that's the absolute first step if you're
trying to reinvent yourself.
And I was so blessed that I thatI found those in my life and to
be able to do that.
And then really from there, it'sI'm gonna say allow yourself to
open to the possibilities ofwhat could happen, and not not
(28:33):
to put the filter of, oh, Idon't think I can do that.
So it is about starting torelease that fear, and you know,
it's it's interesting becausethe time of year that we're at
in the northern hemisphere iswe're we're going into the
harvest season.
So think of what the harv thinkof what the farmers do, right?
They separate the wheat from thechaff.
(28:54):
So this is this is the perfecttime if you're starting to
reinvent yourself.
Is what do you really want totake forward with you that just
feels so good?
And what is it that you reallydon't want to put your energy to
anymore?
And that's the stuff you get todiscard.
Yeah, and we get to do this allthe time.
That's why I said we're in acontinuous reinvention all the
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time.
SPEAKER_03 (29:15):
Yes, I love that.
I really love that because, likeyou said, I mean, we can compare
ourselves to a garden or to aharvest, right?
And we are we're always pickingaway at the weeds, we're picking
away at the you know, the crapthat we no longer need, no
longer serves us, right?
And so if we do that regularly,you know, we will be the person
that we are meant to be, right?
(29:36):
If we allow ourselves.
Yes, that was great.
Now, do you have I I'm assumingyou have a uh Facebook group or
um, you know, where someone ourlisteners can join you and maybe
get that little bit ofencouragement from you.
SPEAKER_02 (29:52):
Well, the best the best way is to if you go onto my
website, which isangileunlimited.com, then you
can jump on.
SPEAKER_03 (30:00):
my calendar and have a phone conversation with me and
we can get that that way and theother thing too you can sign up
I send out newsletters and andwhat have you and yeah I love
that well thank you so much forjoining me today this was great
oh it was so much fun I lovewhen we get a chance to chat
yeah yeah it's always awesomethank you so much thanks Tina
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Welcome to Confidence in Bloom, where bold
women rise, shine, and own theirpower.
We all face that pesky innercritic, what I call the itty
bitty shitty committee,whispering self-sabotaging
doubts and untrue trash talkthat holds us back.
But here, we don't let thatnoise win.
This season, we're celebratingthe season of shift: women on
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the edge of reinvention.
It's for every woman standing atthe crossroads, ready to rewrite
her story, reignite her spark,and rise into the next version
of herself.
This is a space to honor thefierce, fabulous women who've
broken free from fear, crushedlimiting beliefs, and stepped
into their full, unstoppableselves.
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Because let's be real, the mostpowerful thing any woman can
wear is her confidence.
I'm Tina Spolettini, your hostwith a DivaSat Care Network,
bringing you real stories fromwomen who reclaim their voice,
embraced their worth, and arelighting all the way all the way
for all of us.
Ready to bloom into your nextchapter?
(01:35):
Let's dive in.
Today I'm chatting with AngelaWilson.
Angela is an internationalbest-selling author, dynamic
speaker, and the founder ofAngela Unlimited.
She empowers women to discovertheir authentic voice, live
boldly, and embrace a life richin meaning and abundance.
Inspired by her own journey ofasking, isn't there more to life
(01:58):
than this?
Angela now helps othersconfidently answer, yes, there
is.
So welcome, Angela.
Oh, so great to be here, Tina.
Yeah, so great to have you back.
unknown (02:11):
Thanks.
SPEAKER_03 (02:11):
Yeah.
So now, I mean, we've changed,we've changed sort of how we
work the podcast now.
We're we're gonna be doingthemes per season.
So I'm really interested in thewhole reinvention, right?
I mean, we've all we've all kindof been there, whether we've you
know recognized it or not,right?
And some women sort of plan itout.
Uh some of us just happen tolike kind of look back and go,
(02:34):
holy crap, I'm not the person Iwas 10 years ago, right?
So that's kind of where we'regonna go.
Um, now you when you were on theum podcast, uh, I believe it was
last fall.
Like yeah, I think the fall of2024.
I can't remember exactly.
You know, time goes by so fast,it's so hard to tell nowadays.
(02:55):
But we talked about like youhelp women with their wealth.
Yeah, that's correct.
It whole wealth, so wealthy inevery single aspect of their
life, of their life, right?
And so obviously, you've seenand you've sort of supported and
guided many women through thewhole reinvention.
Um, can you maybe tell me alittle bit about, you know, what
(03:18):
does it mean for you?
And how did you first discoverwhat reinvention is and how did
you sort of blend that in withyour clients?
Absolutely.
SPEAKER_02 (03:27):
So I think re I think we reinvent ourselves all
the time.
So I don't think there's likeany single spot.
I think there's biggerreinventions and then there's
the smaller reinventions thatwe're doing all the time because
we're continually growing andit's a continuous journey.
So I had a huge reinvention ofmyself from the standpoint of I,
(03:47):
you know, didn't know who I wasat all and was in a very
horrible relationship, got outof that, which is was fantastic
to get out of, and had to findout who I was.
And that's really kind of whereI decided that I wanted to help
other women so that they couldactually go through the go
through the the reinventiontransformation process without
(04:08):
going through some of the bumpsthat I went through.
And so I really wanted to dothat.
And you know, when I look back,my gosh, I'm not I'm not the
same person I was at all.
And you know, that's been many,many years now since that
happened.
Goodness, that's well over 15 ormore years now.
And it's it's really that, youknow, it's coming out and being
(04:32):
more confident.
Like I would have never everbeen here talking to you on on a
podcast because I didn't use myvoice at all.
And so that's one of the thingsthat I love about the women that
I work with is I get them to usetheir voice and I get them to
really start thinking about whatis it that you truly desire in
your life?
What is your dream?
What is the life that justlights you up?
(04:53):
And that's what we go after.
And so I've seen some greattransformations from women that
have gone from being, you know,successful and had great
businesses and been in greatcareers, and then really gone,
it's not feeding my soul.
I really want to be me now, andhave them step out.
And one client that pops into myhead, you know, she's now
(05:15):
traveling the way she reallywanted to travel.
She has more freedom in her lifebecause she was just solely in
her business and that's all shedid.
And now she's doing things forherself and all kinds of amazing
things in the world.
So I think when we when we getinto that spot of transformation
(05:36):
and reinvention, it's that whatdo you really desire and go
after that?
SPEAKER_03 (05:43):
Right, right.
And so, and and I it makes mewonder.
So, this client that you werejust speaking of, you know, she
you know, she threw herself intoher business and was focusing
just on her business, but nowshe's realized, you know, I need
to worry about me, right?
What about me?
I it makes me question, youknow, the whole word the
success, right?
(06:04):
When we look back, we when welook back at a past life like
that, do we still considerourselves successful?
Right.
Because I mean, I'm justlooking, I'm thinking that this
lady was getting probablywhatever she wanted out of her
business, right?
And then she realized, but whatabout me?
And and that's like, am Ifailing myself?
(06:27):
Right.
Because I mean, I I don't know.
I mean, you know this ladybetter than I do, obviously, but
you know, it makes me wonder,you know, there's many women out
there, and it's not just women,there's also men that do that,
right?
But I mean, here we talk aboutwomen.
It makes me like I that's kindof what I wonder now is are
these women looking at successin a through a different eye, or
(06:48):
does it mean something differentto them today?
SPEAKER_02 (06:52):
The ladies I work with, yes.
Yeah, because uh because whatfor for me, I uh success is one
of those words that it can be sotriggering for so many people
because it's again, it's one ofthose, it's a label that's been
put on us for us to go after.
And it's so what's the what'sthe opposite of success?
Failure.
(07:13):
And so, you know, it it's thatreal tug of war.
And so that's why when I workwith the ladies that I work
with, it's like, what do youdesire?
What are your dreams?
Let's go after those, as opposedto I have to meet this goal to
be successful, to do da da da dada da.
And this particular lady that Iwas talking about, you know, she
working so hard in her business.
(07:35):
And she said, Oh my gosh,Angela, I didn't, I didn't make
my goal.
I didn't make my revenue goalfor the year.
And I said, What do you mean?
So we had a whole conversation,and I said, Okay, just a second.
Stop and think about it.
You had life events happen toyou this year that made it that
you couldn't work as much asmuch.
And I said, So really thinkabout it.
(07:56):
How many months did you actuallywork out of the year?
And she said, Well, you knowwhat?
It was like eight out of theyear.
And I said, Okay, let's takethat goal that you set and let's
divide that by 12 times eight.
Did you meet that?
And she goes, Oh, I was way overthat.
And I said, I count that assuccess because you still were
(08:18):
way over the goal in the amountof time you had to work because
life threw you some curveballs.
Life is always gonna throw uscurveballs, and that's why I
said we reinvent ourselves allthe time.
SPEAKER_03 (08:28):
That is so true, and when you're running your own
business, right, life happenstoo, right?
Life still happens, whether youhave your own business or you
don't.
So you need to be able, you needto be prepared for that bit of a
stall, right?
Because you you you it happens,right?
You know, so yeah, I love that,I love that.
(08:50):
I love that.
And so now with the women thatyou're working with, I mean,
you're helping them find theirtrue authentic voice.
Absolutely, yes.
And and I I'm gonna assume thatthat's not easy because you
know, as a woman myself, I knowthat we're always trying to
please other people, right?
(09:10):
Now we're not all peoplepleasers, and I don't, and I
don't mean that in that kind ofa way, but we have other
responsibilities, other duties.
Whether we create those dutiesourselves or those
responsibilities, we still havethem, right?
We have families to raise, wehave friends to make happy, we
have, you know, socialobligations and other
obligations outside of ourbusiness.
(09:30):
How do you like do you does yourown experience come into um your
conversation with these women sothat they learn, right?
I mean, because sometimes yousay, Well, what's what do you
really want?
And they're like, I don't evenknow.
SPEAKER_02 (09:47):
And you know what that is, that is an answer I get
a I don't know.
Yeah, I've I've been I've been amom for so long, I've been a
wife for so long, I've been adaughter for so long, I've been
a you name it, right?
And that's so one of the thingsthat that I do is because again,
use using my experience, becauseit we all have this beautiful
wisdom in us in us, and so forme, it's that let's use that
(10:11):
wisdom to help other people.
And so for me, it was reallythat okay, I knew through the
process that I had to go throughfor myself to become my
authentic self and use my voiceout there, that it really was I
had to get to the spot that Iwas living life by my own story
and no one else's story.
(10:33):
So it really was about going,okay, I can't listen anymore to
the you're not good enough,you're not worthy enough, you're
not, because I had all of thosevoices, I call that inner
chatter.
And so when you have thatplaying really, really loud,
it's really, it's so hard tohear your authentic voice.
It's so hard to get in touchwith you who you are at your at
(10:55):
your core.
And so for the ladies that havethat going on, that's one of the
things that I that I help themwith.
And we and I take them through awhole process of figuring out
what is what is your story andnot the ones that have been
told.
Because if I was still listeningto all those stories that I've
been told, as I said, I wouldn'tbe here with you today.
SPEAKER_03 (11:15):
I yeah, absolutely wouldn't be.
And we all know, like we allknow that those voices, they
come from somewhere, they're notjust flying out of the sky, they
are coming from somewhere, butthey're not necessarily
realistic, right?
They're not, you know, they'respeaking.
Okay, so we I call it the ittybitty shitty committee, right?
There's many, there's manyvoices, right?
(11:36):
I mean, there's you know, nowthe the four main voices would
be our inner critic, our innerchild, and our ego, right?
Those are the three really loudones.
And then we have the intuition.
The intuition is usually moresubtle, right?
But the the the inner critic andthe ego, I mean, they want you
safe, right?
They're gonna they want to keepyou where you are because you're
(12:00):
comfortable, right?
And the inner child is usuallythe hurt one, right?
So they're the one that's gonnabe, you know, like don't do that
because you're just gonna gethurt again, and and yada yada.
I mean, we could go on forhours, right, to talk about
that.
But the truth is we need tolisten to them, we need to give
them like we need to give themuh, I don't know what the word
(12:20):
is, but we need to give themthat spot so that they're heard,
right?
They need they need the space,they need to be heard, they need
to be recognized to some degree,right?
But we also need to give them ajob, right?
SPEAKER_02 (12:33):
Absolutely, because if you just tamp them down and
you keep shoving them down,they're gonna get louder.
SPEAKER_03 (12:39):
Oh, they're gonna explode at some point.
They're gonna explode, and thenyou're gonna feel crazy, right?
So you you know, listen to them,give them, give them, you know,
the space to say what they gottasay, and then recognize that
you've heard them.
Like, thank you, thank you forcoming out, thank you for
protecting me.
But I gotta try this, I gotta dothis, right?
For me.
SPEAKER_02 (12:57):
Absolutely, absolutely.
I gotta do this.
So, you know what?
Why don't why don't you go playover there for right now?
We can chat later, but for now,this is this is what where I
need to be.
And the and I'm glad that yousaid about the you know, the the
ego trying its job is protectionto keep us safe and to keep us
in that comfort zone.
And so, you know, it really isthat it's all about stepping
(13:21):
outside of that comfort zone,though.
If you really want to go afteryour dreams and after after that
authentic, authentic, uh sorry,my it's not coming up right at
the moment.
Authentic voice.
There we go.
There we go.
You just need it out there for asecond.
Um, but if you're gonna stepinto that, you're gonna step
outside of your comfort zone.
Absolutely.
And so here's here's the thing.
(13:42):
So, do you want to live yourlife by playing small and stay
in that comfort zone?
Or would you like to take somesteps toward living what I call
your unlimited life?
And actually, that's the lifethat you love, the life that you
create, the life that you'rereally so involved in that your
energy level is just likeamazing.
(14:04):
And that's a journey to getthere for sure for every step
that you take just outside ofyour comfort zone, that means
you've stretched that littlebit.
So you're no longer in thattight little spot that you were,
you're now further out, furtherout, further out.
So again, small steps because ifyou I always say if you try to
(14:25):
make huge, massive steps all atonce, your ego is gonna freak
and it's gonna it's gonna gointo so much protection that
you're not gonna do it.
SPEAKER_03 (14:34):
Right, exactly.
And keep in mind, so the egodoesn't want to be out of the
comfort zone because thenthey're in foreign land, right?
So then that those voices aregonna be like, what have you
done?
Right.
So stretching that that boundaryof your comfort zone is really
where that safety net is.
You're you're showing thosevoices, the you know, the ones
(14:55):
that are trying to keep yousafe, you're showing them that
you're capable, right?
You do hard things, but you alsoknow your boundaries, right?
Because let's face it, whenwe're younger in our 20s, we
just go, right?
We just do what we got to do.
That's where those voices getstrong, right?
That's when when we're in our30s, they're like, what?
Okay, you're not doing thatagain.
(15:16):
You tried that, it didn't work.
Look at what you're made, likewhat it made you feel, right?
And so your comfort zone thenstarts to kind of close up,
right?
And so now we have to learn howto expand that comfort zone
without going over the wall,right?
SPEAKER_02 (15:34):
Absolutely.
Then there is a spot too, and soI work with with women for the
most part that are 45 and up.
Most of them are more 50 at 50and up because they're in that
that season of change area whereyou know empty nest, um, you
know, various other things couldbe going on, right?
And you do hit a point too whereall of a sudden it's like, uh
(15:57):
no, this is this is now my time.
And I think that that's part ofthe difference too, because the
women that I work with, they'reat that stage where they're
like, no, I'm not doing thatanymore.
I'm going this way, and I'mreally ready for the change, and
I want to change, and I want togo after the life that I that I
truly love because I'm done withthis.
(16:19):
And I think that that's therecomes that that space of I don't
want to use the word pivotbecause it's not really a pivot,
but it it's almost like a I'mgonna you stand in your knowing
and you start standing theregoing, Yes, okay, here I am, and
I don't have to listen to thisanymore.
SPEAKER_03 (16:39):
Yeah.
The word awareness, yes, theword awareness is coming to me.
Yeah, right.
Because we are now aware, likethere's that there's a time
where we're like, okay, I haveto look after myself because my
kids have moved on.
My, you know, you know, lifelife is moving in a situation or
in a place where I'm like, I'mkind of on my own here, right?
I mean, you're not, I mean, Iknow for myself I wasn't alone.
(17:02):
My husband is still here, mykids are still here, but
everyone's doing their ownthing.
And I felt kind of like, so nowwhat?
Right.
But then we become aware of thefact that, hey, I don't have to
sit around and wait for thesepeople to have time for me or
you know, have the energy forme.
I can still do my own thingwhile they're doing their thing
and still be there for them atthe same time, right?
(17:24):
And so squaredness is reallywhere we make that, oh, so I can
try this or I should try this,right?
Absolutely.
I don't like to should, right?
That's kind of a square word,but but you know, it gives us
the opportunity to try somethingdifferent.
SPEAKER_02 (17:39):
It does, and it also gives us the opportunity to as
women, we go through a lot ofphases that it's you know, we
put ourselves at the at thebottom of the list because
everything else comes comesahead of us, everything else
comes ahead of us.
And I truly firmly believe thatputting yourself first is
(17:59):
actually the biggest act of loveyou can do for everybody else in
your life, because then you cangive from yourself fully.
SPEAKER_03 (18:07):
Because if you're giving from yourself as you're
empty, then you're giving empty,and you're not giving everything
you know that you're you can,like you're capable of it.
SPEAKER_02 (18:18):
Exactly, yes, exactly.
And it's so so taking care ofourselves and really enriching
ourselves is not selfish in anystretch of the imagination,
however, society has said thatit is, and that's what we hear
as we as we grow up, that you'rejust not supposed to do that,
yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (18:37):
And we're living in a world where if everyone else
can be who they are, so can we.
Absolutely.
Yeah.
Now we we I mean, as we'retalking about, as we reinvent
ourselves, it also requiresletting go of old versions.
I mean, I think that's kind ofwhat we were speaking of.
Um, what what did you have torelease to step into your
(18:57):
unlimited life?
SPEAKER_02 (19:00):
I had to reason I had to release a lot because I
heard I had a lot of storiesgoing on of how unworthy I was,
how unvaluable I was, how so Ihad to release those.
And and as I said, this is ajourney.
So there's still as I'm going,I've released so much.
And you know, I'm in this spacenow where I am living the life
(19:23):
that I love, and I amabsolutely, you know, I'm I'm
confident, I'm out theretalking, I'm you know, assisting
other people.
And yet at times, because I amhuman, those little what I call
I call them gremlins, the littlegremlins show back up and go,
who are you?
Who are you to to think you cando that?
(19:44):
And that's when I stop and I go,who am I not to do this?
Because that's the other side ofit.
Who am I not to do this?
That really, and again, youknow, that comes out of a lot of
the learnings that I that I'vetaken on as I've got the wisdom
that I've gained, and you know,and I make sure that I'm I have
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a lot of very valued peoplearound me that when I'm having
one of those days, I'm like,excuse me, I need to have a
conversation because you know,the the Angela that's in my head
right now is not a very niceperson.
And I need to talk to somebodyso that they can quiet that as
well.
I can quiet it really good formyself a lot of the times, but
(20:25):
every now and again it's like,oh, that's a little too loud.
I I need I need help too.
SPEAKER_03 (20:29):
We all need to be.
And I find like with myself,it's with certain people that
those voices become louder.
And yes, I look at like when Iusually what I do is I'll sit
around the table or wherever Iam and I'll look at all these
people and go, yeah, but theseare also the people that made
that big strong boundary in yourhead that didn't allow you to
move forward, right?
(20:50):
Whether they did it on purposeor with intention, it doesn't
even matter, right?
It's how your inner critic oryour ego accepted and translated
that for you, right?
So it's not that they'revillains in any way, right?
It's just that how theircharacter created yours.
And so I just sort of sit backand go, okay, whatever they
(21:12):
meant, they meant, but this ismy world.
Like I need to make my life, youknow, happy or whatever it is
that I'm looking for, right?
And so, you know, then I that'swhen that discussion with with
my critty, my committee comesout, right?
Or okay, let's have adiscussion, let's have let's
have a board meeting, right?
I love that.
Let's have a board meeting rightnow.
(21:33):
Right, because that's we need tohave that discussion with
ourselves.
We need to understand wherewe're coming from, where we want
to go, and how we're gonna getthere.
And that's how we do it, right?
Absolutely.
Yeah, I love it.
SPEAKER_02 (21:45):
Absolutely, and yeah, and it's interesting.
So one of one of theconversations that that does go
on for me is if my ego startsgetting really riled up, I'm
like, okay, just a second.
I I I call the I call my ego,those are my soldiers.
I'm like, okay, thank you forprotecting me.
And the job that you did wasamazing.
But right now you need to standdown because we're on a
(22:08):
different path now.
SPEAKER_03 (22:09):
We're not anymore.
SPEAKER_02 (22:10):
And you've got a way different job to do now.
And then that allows me to moveforward because as soon as I do
that, the big voice is goingrah-rah rah, it it stops because
you're addressing itdifferently.
Because you've given it adifferent job, right?
SPEAKER_03 (22:26):
Yeah, it's now I mean, it sounds crazy.
Like the first time someone toldme to do this, I'm like, what
are you talking about?
That's just me, right?
But then when I started to kindof just sit back and listen at
first, just to become more awareof that conversation that I was
having in my head that I didn'teven realize was going on,
right?
And so, you know, just take thatmoment, just take, you know, if
(22:48):
it's a minute or 10 minutes,whatever you need, take that
minute just to listen and thencreate a game plan, right?
So, okay, how are we gonnahandle this?
Right now, Angela, you encouragewomen to live out loud.
What does that look like inpractice for someone who's used
to playing small?
SPEAKER_02 (23:10):
That it's really about taking small steps to move
outside of that comfort zone andto really, I love that you said
about again about the voicesbecause it is about gaining
awareness of what is going oninside and really filtering and
figuring out is it true or is itnot true?
(23:33):
Because a lot of timeseverything that's being said is
not true.
So once you can start doingthat, so it's really so I I get
the I get ladies to really getin touch with who they are and
to understand when it is thevoice in your head, as I said, I
call it inner chatter.
So is it your inner chatterthat's talking, or is it
(23:54):
actually your heart that'stalking?
And there is a big distinctionwhen you really start to notice,
and so I work with them a lot onthat, and you know, again, it's
it comes down a lot to choice,and that's one of the things
that I work with women a lot onis you have choice, even when
you don't think you have choice,you do have choice, and not
(24:16):
choosing is a choice, and so youcan stay inside your comfort
zone because that's hey, ifthat's where you want to stay,
that's fine.
However, you have a choice tomove out and beyond that, and
that's where you know you'll getthat that feeling of, oh no,
there's something more, I wantto go after more, and that's
(24:37):
what we really do.
And it's but it all starts bylistening to who you are, and
then really deciding what iswhat is my future, what does my
future self look like?
I do a lot with future self asas well, um with clients and and
myself as part of part of my mypractice as well.
(24:57):
Um, because it's that you know,we've been so as little ones, we
daydream, we play, um, and thenwe get out of that.
Yeah, why does that happen?
Right, it happens because we gettold.
I don't know if you got toldthat I got told this a lot.
Stop daydreaming, get your headout of the clouds, yeah.
(25:20):
Grow up, right?
Exactly.
You can't possibly do that.
Yeah, that's too grandiose,yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (25:28):
Or you that's for little kids, right?
Exactly.
Little kids have fun, right?
Exactly, yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_02 (25:35):
But no, we're some that's one of the big things.
It's like how are you gonnainfuse more fun in your life?
How are you gonna infuse more ofyou into your life?
Because that you we're here tocreate the life that we're that
we love, and that's what we'rehere to live.
We're not here to live small.
We we weren't put on this planetto place to play small.
(25:55):
We came in as sparkly littleones, knowing no boundaries.
I actually said this in a talkjust recently.
I said, we came in, and if wewere told we we didn't know any
boundaries, so therefore welearned to walk and we learned
how to talk.
If we had boundaries, wewouldn't do that.
And I said to the ladies I wastalking to, I said, I know you
(26:16):
can all walk and talk,therefore, you can do any
anything you truly desire to do.
Yeah, it's just you've put thebrakes on.
So when you're going after yourdreams, like I said, when you're
going after your dreams, youcan't have your foot on the gas
and your foot on the brake atthe same time when you're
driving because you're not goinganywhere.
Yeah, so you gotta release themoff.
(26:37):
That's your comfort zone, isboth feet on the on those
paddles.
When you start releasing, nowyou start moving forward, and
just you can just do a littlebit at a time, it's all good.
SPEAKER_03 (26:48):
Yeah, it's all good, exactly, exactly.
And and keep in mind, like whenwe were, you know, growing up,
whoever was raising us, theywere teaching what they taught
were taught, right?
And so you know, yeah, like theywere they didn't tell us to be
fierce and powerful and becausethey were told not to, right?
(27:08):
But we're living in an age nowwhere you know we have to accept
ourselves for who we are, therest of the world is being
accepted.
Why can't we accept ourselves?
Right, absolutely, yeah.
So for women standing on theedge of their own reinvention,
Angela, what is the first stepthat you would encourage them to
take toward embracing that life?
SPEAKER_02 (27:31):
The first step is really you don't have to do this
alone.
That's the first step is get inwhether it's community, whether
it's a trusted friend, whetherit's a coach, whether whatever
it is.
That is because when you try todo it alone, all the naysayers
(27:52):
out there, their voices get willget louder because you're still
listening to to the chatterthat's going on.
So that would be the first stepI would do is I would find a
trusted community mentor friendthat you can just be yourself
with.
SPEAKER_03 (28:07):
Yes.
SPEAKER_02 (28:08):
That's that's the absolute first step if you're
trying to reinvent yourself.
And I was so blessed that I thatI found those in my life and to
be able to do that.
And then really from there, it'sI'm gonna say allow yourself to
open to the possibilities ofwhat could happen, and not not
(28:33):
to put the filter of, oh, Idon't think I can do that.
So it is about starting torelease that fear, and you know,
it's it's interesting becausethe time of year that we're at
in the northern hemisphere iswe're we're going into the
harvest season.
So think of what the harv thinkof what the farmers do, right?
They separate the wheat from thechaff.
(28:54):
So this is this is the perfecttime if you're starting to
reinvent yourself.
Is what do you really want totake forward with you that just
feels so good?
And what is it that you reallydon't want to put your energy to
anymore?
And that's the stuff you get todiscard.
Yeah, and we get to do this allthe time.
That's why I said we're in acontinuous reinvention all the
(29:14):
time.
SPEAKER_03 (29:15):
Yes, I love that.
I really love that because, likeyou said, I mean, we can compare
ourselves to a garden or to aharvest, right?
And we are we're always pickingaway at the weeds, we're picking
away at the you know, the crapthat we no longer need, no
longer serves us, right?
And so if we do that regularly,you know, we will be the person
that we are meant to be, right?
(29:36):
If we allow ourselves.
Yes, that was great.
Now, do you have I I'm assumingyou have a uh Facebook group or
um, you know, where someone ourlisteners can join you and maybe
get that little bit ofencouragement from you.
SPEAKER_02 (29:52):
Well, the best the best way is to if you go onto my
website, which isangileunlimited.com, then you
can jump on.
SPEAKER_03 (30:00):
my calendar and have a phone conversation with me and
we can get that that way and theother thing too you can sign up
I send out newsletters and andwhat have you and yeah I love
that well thank you so much forjoining me today this was great
oh it was so much fun I lovewhen we get a chance to chat
yeah yeah it's always awesomethank you so much thanks Tina
(30:21):
thanks for listening toconfidence in Bloom where we
celebrate the amazing brilliantand beautiful woman you already
are this season of shift is yourinvitation to rise reinvent and
reconnect with the woman you'rebecoming you don't need to look
like a superstar movie star or amoose supermodel spoiler alert
they don't even look like thatyou are already enough worthy of
(30:44):
love success and a life thatfeels as good as it looks we
give so much love to everyoneelse it's time to pour some of
that in of that love back intoyou if you're ready to reclaim
your confidence and step intoyour next chapter I'm offering
personalized coaching threefocus sessions to help you build
unshakable confidence defineyour personal brand and create a
(31:07):
signature style that reflectswho you truly are because chic
does come in every shape andsize and reinvention has no
expiration date.
Want to be a guest here onConfidence in Bloom?
Let's connect find me onInstagram at Infobloomstyling
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