August 3, 2025 • 45 mins
Come and listen to our Host, Tina Spoletini, as she chats with today's guest, Kimberly Jolivet, for our "Boss Babe Summer: Leveling Up in Life & Career" Podcast Series.
Mix motivation, business tips, and interviews with female entrepreneurs on how to use summer energy to plan ahead, reflect, or pivot.
Today we’re diving deep with the incredible Kimberly Jolivet—a seasoned expert in reflexology, astrology, and energy healing. With over 30 years of experience, she helps women decode what their body and soul are trying to say. Kimberly, welcome to the show!
Discover the profound conversation between bodily wisdom and spiritual insight with reflexology and astrology expert Kimberly Jolivet. Drawing from over thirty years of experience, Kimberly reveals how our feet serve as storytellers, conveying messages about physical health and emotional wellbeing that we might otherwise miss.
The summer season sparks a unique energy activation, particularly in the heart and solar plexus chakras. This cosmic alignment creates the perfect conditions for building confidence and finding your "inner roar" - energy that can sustain you through challenging times ahead. Rather than viewing summer merely as vacation time, Kimberly suggests using this period for deep reflection, creative development, and intentional self-discovery.
One of the most transformative mindset shifts discussed is moving away from people-pleasing toward authentic self-expression. "I don't compromise me within the compromising with others," Kimberly shares, describing how honoring her own boundaries has created deeper, more meaningful connections in her life. This principle extends to her parenting philosophy, where teaching children to advocate for their own needs creates healthier, more confident adults.
The conversation delves into powerful self-care practices that transcend superficial indulgence. Simple rituals like moisturizing your feet become profound acts of self-acknowledgment: "You're taking five minutes to acknowledge that the body has merit, that the body exists, that I exist." These everyday practices build a foundation for greater self-awareness and intuitive decision-making.
Looking forward, Kimberly reveals her current project developing a specialized tarot deck integrated with her holistic approach to wellness. This creative endeavor combines different healing modalities to help people become advocates for their own healing journey - decoding what their bodies and souls are trying to communicate.
Ready to decode your own body's messages and step into greater confidence? Connect with Kimberly through social media or explore personalized coaching with host Tina to build your confidence, define your personal brand, and create your signature style.
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Welcome to Confidence in Bloom, where bold women rise
, shine and own their power.
We all face that pesky innercritic what I call the
itty-bitty, shitty committee,whispering self-sabotaging
doubts and untrue trash talkthat holds us back.
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This is a space to celebratethe fierce, fabulous women who
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stepped into their full,unstoppable selves.
Because, let's be real, themost powerful thing any woman
can wear is her confidence.
I'm Tina Spoletini, your hostwith the Divas that Care Network
, and I bring you real storiesof women who reclaimed their
voice, embraced their worth andare lighting the way for all of
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us.
Are you ready to bloom intoyour best self?
Let's dive in.
Today we're diving deep with theincredible Kimberly Jolivet, a
seasoned expert in reflexology,astrology and energy healing.
With over 30 years ofexperience.
She helps women decode whattheir body and soul are trying
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to say.
Kimberly, welcome to Confidencein Bloom.
Hey, all right, let's getstarted.
Let's okay.
So to start us off, let's startwith.
What does the Boss Babe Summerlook like for you this year?
Speaker 3 (01:57):
Boss Babe, summer Ah, traveling adventures.
Actually, we have committed tobeing tourists in our own
province this year, so a lot oftimes people, when they live
somewhere or they've been therea while, they you don't do the
same things when you livesomewhere a while than if you go
visit somewhere.
So we actually decided to takea step back and we are going to
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do things that are like oh,that's what tourists do or avoid
it and yeah, we've totallycommitted to that and it's been
so fun and we're discoveringdifferent things and exploring.
So, having the freedom to dothat and make that decision for
yourself and or your family,that is awesome.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
I love that.
I love that.
I know I live in the RockyMountains and you know the only
time I saw them before I wasmarried was when we had visitors
from you know, out of countrythat came to visit right, and
then when my husband loves totravel, so he would you know,
let's, let's go to bat for theday right, and I used to find
that so strange, because whodoes that right?
Speaker 3 (03:02):
but clearly, yeah, there's a lot of things on our
our plate that we're doing thatwe would normally avoid.
Um yeah yeah, in all fairness,we've gone to Peggy's Cove
pretty much every month of theyear.
Um, it's great.
In the winter there's notourists, I bet.
So we we decided like, insteadof going to Peggy's Cove because
you know you can have six orten bus loads of people there
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and it's really crowded andwe've been there, done that
We've decided that there'shiking trails just off, like the
main tourist attraction, forexample, that we haven't done
yet.
So we're going to go dosomething we haven't done and
going to explore some of thosewalking trails around that same
area.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
That's a great idea.
Speaker 3 (03:46):
Yeah, yeah.
So we're totally stoked for it.
I don't know, we're just, itseems, so geeky in a way and
nerdy, but to be able to say Ilive here and I got to explore
all of these things that youwouldn't normally think it's.
It's such an appreciation forthe history, the culture, the
diversity.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
And why can't you enjoy in the beauty of it?
I mean you live there right Ifyou live there.
That's part of it, right.
That's part of why you chose tobe there.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
Yeah, so why not?
I know we're so excited aboutit.
Yeah, this opens up otherplaces, like for other summers,
but this summer we've decided tohit our own province up.
I love that.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
I think that's awesome.
So how do you see um like thesummer season energetically?
Are there certain chakras orthemes that it activates for
women in particular?
Speaker 3 (04:36):
That's a really actually wow.
I love that question.
Well, I, I guess for me and you, talking about chakra centers,
when I, when I see, uh, thesummer season, I think Cancer,
leo, virgo, right, and theastrologer in me automatically
goes to those three signs andwith that, in the energy centers
within the body, I mean that isincredibly solar and lunar.
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So it's like the solar plexusand the heart chakra because
Cancer sits in the heart chakra,the solar plexus and the heart
chakra because cancer sits inthe heart chakra mainly.
I mean there's otheroverlapping areas and stuff, but
the Leo and Virgo both sit inthe solar plexus and so it's
about confidence.
It's about bringing out yourinner shine, and not just your
inner shine Think of a full moonwhere the sun completely
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reflects on the moon itself andjust bringing out that
vulnerability.
You've put all the work in andnow it's your time to shine so
energetically.
It's about literally findingthat inner roar oh, I love that.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Yeah, that's super cool.
I'm cancer, I'm a cancer, so Iget.
When you said you know,something about cancer sits in
the heart, I'm like, yeah, Ithink with my heart and
sometimes that gets me introuble, right right.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
I just I, I just I.
Love it, though, because it'salso a time to connect with the
feelings and those of us are soin our heads, or people who are
so in their heads, and womenlike that that it's.
It's literally a time yourclients stop showing up, not
because they don't love you, butbecause they're on vacation
with their family, so I actuallysee the summer as a dive into
the books I've.
I've signed up for educationthis summer.
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I'm reading books that Ihaven't had time to
renegotiating, planning the nextyou know year layout ahead,
Like it's.
It's a lot of well, really gowith the flow, kind of stuff.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (06:19):
That power, that confidence to carry you through,
let's say, the cold wintermonths.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
Yeah, and we want to be busy when it's cold out.
We don't want to be sittingaround waiting, right?
I love that Now as areflexology.
Tell us what's something thatour feet can reveal about how
we're showing up or not showingup in our lives.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
I love that you asked that question.
It makes me think of one of myclients.
She's mid-70s and she probablyhas the most perfect feet I've
ever seen, like healthy,everything.
And she is adamant.
Like she went on vacation withher boyfriend and they went to a
beach and she was like we'rewalking around, it was foggy, so
it was chilly, but she said Iinstantly made us stop and take
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our shoes off to ground our feetin to the beach while they were
walking around and she,barefoot gardens and she's like
I don't know, she takes care ofher feet like she takes care of
her body and honestly I swearthis woman is my hero and I want
to feed her at that stage inlife.
And what we're not doing for ourfeet is I see outside feet
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quite a bit.
You know we don't moisturizethem sometimes and especially I
know in the drier climates thatfeet tend to dry out a little
quicker, the same as our body.
And and to stop and ask, youknow I know a lot of people
think applying moisturizer issuch a a silly thing or a girly
thing, but the reality is isthat is a big bundle of
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self-care if you applymoisturizer to your feet or you
apply it to your body.
You're taking that five minutesto acknowledge that the body
has merit, that the body exists,that I exist.
And it's interesting I don'tknow about other people, but I'm
I'm weird Like I'll put lotionon.
Uh, you know, consciouslythinking of I have to take care
of the physical and I'll realizethat, hey, I like this part of
me.
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No-transcript, that's where theyspill the tea.
They can tell you that yourbody needs moisturizer.
They can tell you where you'rehurting and when to slow down
because they hurt.
And once you argue with yourfeet, the body kind of follows.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
Isn't that the truth?
And if your feet hurt,everything hurts.
And then it's funny that youknow I mean, growing up I, I
lived that right my feet wouldalways hurt.
And then you're like oh God, myfeet hurt, I'm not doing that
Right.
And when you think about it,yeah, Everything that's in our
bodies ends in our feet.
Yeah, Right, and so it kind ofmakes sense.
Of course, everything hurts,Everything is tired.
Speaker 3 (09:08):
Yeah, yeah, I love that Great.
So, yeah, you put your feet upand you know you can watch your
favorite show at the end of theday.
Give your feet a little rubthere's no wrong way to rub your
feet but you, you give yourselfthat the five or 10 minutes on
your feet.
At the end of the day, you'd besurprised how it changes your
whole physical and mentaloutlook when you go the next day
.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
I love it.
I love it.
So what mindset shift hashelped you level up in your
business or your life recently?
Speaker 3 (09:37):
Wow, I think I knew you had that question.
You know what I find reallyinteresting about those thinking
about it through the isolationand the loss and the grief and
really being forced insidemyself.
What's helped me to level up isactually applying my own
lessons to my own life.
Already been doing that, but Ireally dove in and sort of shut
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everything else out and doveinto the reflection of who I am,
what I wanted, what I desired,and as I came out of it and
realizing that I'm in a positionnow where I don't well, I do
compromise, but I don'tcompromise me within the
compromising with others, and itis okay if what I desire and
what the other person desiresdoesn't line up, because it's
okay.
Big hug, you go your path, I'llgo mine, because the right
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people will work with you andyou'll be able to work with them
without having to give up yourown morals or beliefs or you
know your own integrity.
And it at first appears to be alittle bit lonelier, but I
would honestly say it's a lot.
It's got a deeper foundationbecause the people who I do
connect with, we're real witheach other.
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I respect the, the differencesof opinions.
Uh, even the differences allowme to grow Um and and I guess,
essentially erasing that peoplepleasing.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
Yeah, and then you're looking also at, you know it's
quantity over quality, right, orquality over quantity, right.
I mean, you're looking at youdon't need to have, you know, 10
people around you.
What you need are the peoplethat are going to make the most
difference in your life.
Yeah, I love that.
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (11:19):
And how are they supposed to make me happy?
You know not that otherpeople's responsibility is to do
so, but if I don't know whatmakes me happy and I don't speak
, it's not on somebody else toguess my needs Exactly Now.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
Yeah, you're right, I mean, we don't we?
We don't need to, um, what'sthe word I'm looking for?
Like nobody else is going tomake you happy, but in order for
you to be happy, you need tohave the right people around you
.
Right, I mean?
As humans, we need connection,and who we connect with is what
matters.
Right, I mean, that's the way Isee it.
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Yeah, because you know, I meanas a parent, we're always
telling our kids what will makeyou happy, right, in one way or
another.
And you know, like, I have adaughter who's looking for her
life partner and I'm, like youknow she's like, when am I ever
going to find someone who makesme happy?
Well, first you need to makeyourself happy right that person
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has to add to that happiness.
He's not going to create thathappiness right, and and I don't
know that at 23 we understandthat right, I think.
Speaker 3 (12:26):
I don't think we were ever taught in our generation
yeah, well, exactly yeah, wewere always taught that if, if
we did good, our parents werewere happy and we did what they
wanted and they were happy, wethen were rewarded with our own
time or to go people who learnto please the room around us.
So, as long as everybody elseis happy, then, therefore, I can
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then carve out what I need formyself.
Yeah, it's so true, yeah, and myson is so different because he
does these crazy things.
And I look at him and I'm likeoh my God, I can't believe he
did that.
And then I was like wait aminute, I'm raising him not to
compromise his peace for otherpeople.
I'm like damn.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
I wish I had both ways right, you can.
Speaker 3 (13:15):
Yeah, I get it.
Yeah, so it's like it's aninner, inner struggle, because
I'm watching him and I'm like,man, I want to be that now as a
fully grown adult, and I'm like,oh, it's because I'm raising
him to say I need this, thismakes me happy, this is where my
peace sits, and sacrificehimself.
So.
So you know, these tools doreally work and um is it hard to
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watch when they're kids, right?
Speaker 2 (13:38):
when you know that they're just making an ass out
of themselves, right?
And you're looking at themgoing oh my god, I can't believe
I'm allowing this.
Right, then you then.
It's a personal thing, right?
Speaker 3 (13:47):
but at the same time, they're growing from it and
they're so happy yeah, and theydon't have regrets, like even
disagreements he has with hisfriends.
The beauty of it is there's noregrets in it.
Yeah, I love that.
He is his friends, know whothey are, and they're like okay,
we had an argument, all right,we need two days, and they take
two days and they come back.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
They're like hey, how you doing that's good, well,
that's, and that's the way itshould be.
But I will say boys aredifferent, right girls?
Unfortunately, us women, wehold on to stuff that we should
not right, yes, yeah, and that'sthat's where I mean.
Speaker 3 (14:18):
I say you know, elevating and and going beyond,
or however you worded it, was somuch nicer, raising the
vibration within the business.
Um, half of that was justletting it doesn doesn't matter.
Yeah, yeah, exactly, exactly.
Most of it didn't matter, andone part of my story is that the
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work I'm doing now with thetree of life and the fact that
I've been able to have workbooksand all my new presentations
and the tarot card deck that'scurrently in development, that
aligns with all of this.
I literally found all thatmaterial when I moved in with my
new partner, thinking, oh, Ineed to make some space for him
in a closet Right.
And I went through my notesover the last 20 years and
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realized I had the entireprogram already built on various
times over the years.
So by letting go of some space,I actually discovered this
entire entire theme for what Ido and how I help people this
entire entire theme for what Ido and how I help people.
Speaker 2 (15:19):
I love that.
Yeah, that was my next question.
What is one recent mistake orlearning moment?
Right?
Yeah, that actually moved youforward and look at that.
Just you know, I mean, I don'tknow, that that's.
Speaker 3 (15:26):
It's a learning moment for sure right, it was a
learning moment because I'mholding on to all this crap
right now.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
I need to move it.
Now.
What do I do, right?
Yeah, you created a new programand you know you're probably
gonna you know create somethingeven bigger and better, you know
, in the coming year, becauseyou have all the information
right in front of you yeah, yeah, it was that discovery, finding
that cornerstone of it to beable to move forward with it.
Speaker 3 (15:50):
And so it was really.
If you doubt yourself and thisis a lot of times I talk to
people it's like we already haveall the information in us, and
the reason we share our storiesis because our story is our
survival story, is how to manualfor someone else, and if we
don't share how we did it, thenthat person might not have the
tools to make it through Right,and everybody's is different.
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And so I had just accumulatedmy knowledge over the years and
I knew I wanted to blend um, theastrology, reflexology, of
course, the energy work, but Iwas lost as to how.
But when I found all thesepieces, it's, it became clear to
me.
And so now, yeah, the feet tellyou the story about their body
like they spill the tea.
They, they tell me secrets.
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You can tell me all you want onyour health form, but your feet
are still going to tell mewhat's really going on.
And your chart, to me, is justyour guidance system that you
brought with you for thislifetime.
So why don't we check in withyour personal guidance system
and check in with what thebody's telling you and then
elevate your energy so that youcan step through your chakras
your way.
So elevate your energy so thatyou can step through your
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chakras your way.
So how I vibrate through theheart might not be how you
vibrate through the heart, butright to do it the same way
because we're very differentpeople.
Speaker 2 (17:00):
Yeah, I love that.
So I have a question on that.
So I love how you said thatyour feet tell me.
You know, your feet tell mewhat's going on in your body.
So I go for reflexology nowvery like regularly,
consistently, and she has beentelling me that, yeah, she said
I can tell there's things goingon, you know, in this part of
your body and I'm like, what areyou talking about?
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Like like I still don't get it,like I get that, you know, you
know this is the kidney, thislike I get all that part.
But you know, she said that,you know it's.
She called it um, um, I forgetthe word but there's like little
, it's like bumpy in certainareas.
And I'm like what like bumpy?
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Like when I touch my feet, it'sthey're smooth, right, I mean
sure, they're a little bit onthe dry side, it's summertime,
right, but they're, they'resmooth, there's no bumps in
there.
And she's like, oh, yes, thereit's gritty and yeah there's
grainy, there's grapey, there'sall these different words.
Speaker 3 (18:02):
And it's so neat because I can go over the same
part of a foot for one clientand it it's I don't know.
It's it's kind of like notsandpaper, but you know, when
you run your finger oversandpaper you feel those, the,
the bumps, right, yeah, so youkind of feel that.
And then another one you canactually feel like they're big
rocks in there.
Wow, with the training, andthis is why it's different, like
there's no wrong way to rub afoot.
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So you get somebody's foot, yougive them a nice little rub and
the body feels better.
But we are.
What makes us different thansomebody who just rubs your foot
, for example, is we're actuallytrained to pay attention to the
variations.
I even look when I push on aclient's foot.
What color is under my thumbwhen I push on it, the color it
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turns behind my thumb is alsoanother detail now, because of
what I do, whether I incorporatethe astrology or not, but most
of my clients are starting toincorporate it is.
There are certain areas thatthere are certain emotional, if
something's going on in thekidneys, random example, just
picking something out of the hat, I think.
Cause you said kidneys, um, Ialso talk to them about
frustrations, resentment,connections with others.
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What are they not filtering out?
Are you breathing in and notbreathing out?
Because if we're not letting itout, you're storing it in your
body somewhere.
So we start the emotionalconversations and one client we
we got just asking thesequestions and just what was
showing up on her feet?
It turned out that she didn'ttrust herself because the last
relationship she had hurt herreally badly, that she was even
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afraid to make a friend, becauseit wasn't that people were bad,
it was that she's afraid ofmaking the wrong decisions oh my
goodness that just comes upfrom the conversation.
Right, and I did have her chart,so it's like you know there's a
little bit there.
I knew the questions to ask,but knowing the questions to ask
and talking to the clientsduring this, it's not just the
feet and releasing what's goingon in the physical, it's
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allowing the client to push onthat emotional point and drop
away from those emotions thatthey're holding in their body.
Because you see, if you filterout resentment, like your
kidneys filter out the urine,right, the toxicities in our
body that we eliminate, wefilter out that same emotion in
the same way.
Our kidneys aren't workingdouble time anymore.
Speaker 2 (20:11):
My God, our bodies are so amazing.
They are like about neck pain.
Speaker 3 (20:14):
How many times you see people carrying the weight
of the world on their shouldersand they're hunched over and
their neck hurts right I seethat a lot too.
Yeah, so it's about getting thepain off the neck.
So it's not always justphysical.
But the physical body is acontainer.
So think of a glass or a cup.
Right, you can only put so muchliquid or energy into that
container.
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Yeah, and so our bodies, yourbody and my body are no
different.
Yeah, so we just have to adjustthe energy or the emotion to
fit the container and let gowhat doesn't need to be held on.
Speaker 2 (20:46):
Wow, that's just amazing.
It's like I mean we can talkabout this forever, but I want
to talk about summer, right?
I?
Want to talk about what's goingon in the summer.
So let's see, let me know ifthere's.
You know, is there somethingthat you're doing, like a move
of some kind that's going to beover the summer, that's going to
set you up for, like the fall,you know, so that you can go
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into the fall strong and hard?
Speaker 3 (21:12):
Yes, falls strong and hard.
Yes, it's odd, these lastcouple weeks I've put on a
couple presentations for uranusand gemini, because it's a new
eight-year cycle astrologicallyand, of course, uh, social media
is going to pop up over thenext few weeks, with mercury
going retrograde.
Oh, I love always a dreaded,dreaded.
But I'm excited because, withthis energy, what it means is
that we're being allowed tointernalize these new ideas
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coming to the surface.
So when, when you ask what am Idoing?
Well, I am doing it.
I am jumping in feet first,without thinking, and just sort
of stirring up my own pot andwith that, like diving deep into
creating, completing thecreation of the artwork for the
tarot cards that I have going on, and being a tarot card reader
on top of everything, eventhough I don't announce it in my
services, I've done it foryears.
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These cards are in alignmentwith the work that I'm
developing.
So by the time I have a printedcopy, which I'm hoping is this
fall, the card can be used likea regular tarot deck.
Oh, let's pull your cards forfun, but I also have in the
works a companion guide with it,and so these cards are.
You can pull a card and thenthere's all of this work you
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could do with that particularcard that you pull up.
So it's got questions.
It's got the body questions,emotional questions, the mental
questions, spiritual questionsto help you really uncover who
you are.
So building that is what I'mdoing this summer, so I mean it
looks good, there's a lot ofbehind the scenes Of summer.
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So I mean, it looks like there'sa lot of behind the scenes.
Of course, the layout for thebook that goes with all of this
is going on this summer.
Plus, I've taken medicalastrology classes over the
summer to enhance the medicalconnection between the body and
the chart as well.
So there isn't one thing I'mnot doing that really isn't
towards elevating or, you know,raising that vibration with what
I'm doing, because my belief isis the more you know yourself,
uniquely, individually you, thebetter you become.
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And it's like shedding allthese layers, these masks that
we wear, especially women overthe generations that I work on.
They start to peel back themask and then they don't know
who they are.
But this allows you to know whoyou are, being in the best body
you're ever in, and I knowwe're told that, oh, by 50, it's
all downhill from there and I'mseeing people removing the mass
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.
Speaker 2 (23:19):
There's no weight, right, well, and I think that
that part of that is, we have itin our heads that you know,
once you've grown, your kidsyou've done, you know your
purpose in life, right, lifecomes to an end, but the truth
is, I mean, that's only like achapter of your life.
It's a big part of your lifefor sure.
Right, because you know, I meanyour kids are part of your life
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forever.
I hope, right, like that's.
I mean that's my hope with mykids, right.
But but you know, once they'vemoved on to their own life, now
you get to be free again.
Right, with that, you know likethey're, just, you know like a
I don't want to say tag along,because that sounds almost like
negative, but you know they're,they're just an add, addition to
they're, in addition to yourhappiness, the rest of your life
(24:03):
, yeah, yeah, I love that yeah.
Speaker 3 (24:05):
so it's imagining and working through the stages
where and with what I've taughtover the years is you come first
, your, your partner is two andthen everybody else is third.
And the reason behind that whyI don't say put kids first is
because for everybody who doesput their children absolutely
first, they are depleted, theyare run out.
When the kids move out, theydon't know who they are or what
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they're going to do, and that'smost of the time when illnesses
really do begin to settle intothe body.
Can you imagine being so okaywith your own happiness, who you
are, securing your relationship, loving your kids up, living
your best life, that when theyleave, it becomes a new part of
the story rather than somethingyou're losing?
Speaker 2 (24:46):
Absolutely.
And you know that book Ihaven't read it, really, but I'm
that the body keeps the score,um, you know that's.
That's a lot to do with thatright.
When you put so much of yourattention and your love I mean
I'm not saying that, you know,good parents shouldn't be good
parents, right but when you puteverything you have into your
(25:07):
kids, when they decide that theyneed to be independent and on
their own, you won't be able toaccept that right, because you
won't want to let go of thatright.
I mean, I did witness a littlebit of that myself.
You know, when my twins starteddriving, I was like, oh my God,
now what do I do?
You know, everything I did,every reason I got out of bed in
(25:28):
the morning, was because ofthem, and now they're telling me
they don't need me to drivethem anywhere.
I was done, right.
It's taken me a long time to,you know, be in that position
that you were just explaining,right, where you know like
they're.
They're now.
Just, you know they're anaddition to my life, they're not
my life anymore.
Right, part of me has regretfor that, because of that this
(25:52):
right.
But then I think you knoweverything I did I did for them
and they are the people they arebecause of that 100% like.
Speaker 3 (25:59):
This is not saying anyone did it right or wrong, or
wherever you're at in your ownjourney is okay, but learning
there you right and yeah, youknow, the biggest thing I I have
is like I was like that rightfrom the get go with my son
because I was terrified of beinga parent.
It was not a goal I ever hadRight, so I always made sure I
(26:20):
was taken care of.
And now I have a son who haswatched me say my needs are
important.
Well, little Mr Confident overthere is 11 and a half years old
now.
Uh, he lets me know what hisneeds are and it's like, you
know you want to be mad, but atthe same time you're like no, I
(26:41):
have to have full respect forthat, because you know what
you're right.
You have every right to fightand be an advocate for what you
need exactly.
So, okay, fair enough, yourneeds, my needs on the table.
Where are the common needs?
We take care of those first,easily, and then after that we
make sure that everybody's needsare met.
Yeah, but how would I know whathis needs were?
And I sit there and one of thethings that catches me off guard
(27:03):
with this is that when I wasgrowing up, I didn't even know
what needs were.
Speaker 2 (27:08):
And whoever like thought about what do you need?
Speaker 3 (27:12):
Right, right thought about what do you need right?
Right, it was.
As an adult.
I still struggle saying, okay,I kind of need this right
because it is such a flow and alearning flow and we do it
together.
We actually have reallyuncomfortable conversation let's
put that in quotesuncomfortable conversations
because we have a safe spacetogether to discuss that's, and
that's how it should be.
Speaker 2 (27:33):
I remember hearing from my mom you know, you ask
too many questions right to mykids and I remember thinking how
the hell am I supposed to knowwhat they need, what they want
and what they're thinking, if Idon't ask questions?
Because she didn't give meoptions?
She said you need this, you'regonna do this, and that was it
right, and so I just went withthat.
(27:54):
But when I had kids, I'm like Ididn't want that.
I didn't want that for them,right?
I wanted that thing forthemselves, right?
And I didn't even realize thedifference until she would point
out to me you asked too manyquestions, yeah and that's okay
because there's no wrong way.
Speaker 3 (28:10):
It's.
Each generation before us, likeour grand grandmothers, for
example, only did what they knewExactly, and then our moms only
did what they knew, and thenwe're only doing what we knew.
It just it sort of seems to bethere's a shift, that, okay,
we're learning things a littlebit differently.
So we're trying to take what wewere raised as.
So you know all of ourparameters now and our oh, we
(28:32):
should do this or should do that, and I mean I'm not a big fan
of the word should, as it isright, but it comes up from that
and I'm trying to change thenarrative so that my son has a
different story and I'm perfect.
Oh good God, no, have I told mykid he's in my face and he needs
to.
You know, maybe get out of myroom and not so many nice words
because he's interfering with mytime.
(28:52):
Yeah, I've done that a lot andI've been told.
It's not good to say and I'mlike dude, I'm 24-7 with this
kid.
I mean we homeschool together,we're together all the time.
Me meeting 20 minutes in myroom without his face is
important.
Speaker 2 (29:07):
Yeah, and sometimes he doesn't understand when I say
it.
Nicely, I totally get that.
Speaker 3 (29:13):
Yeah.
So what that is, though, isbecause I'm not okay, I'm
overwhelmed, I'm stimulated.
Maybe I'm dealing with thingshe doesn't realize.
You know, I've got my own work,his lesson plans, daily life,
all of this stuff, and maybe I'moverwhelmed and I don't know
how to express it to him, but bytaking 20 minutes to myself,
(29:37):
relaxing, coming down, I becomeokay, and when I'm okay, I'm
happier with him.
So taking 20 minutes andkicking him out of my room and
just go away right, is actuallya very much a preservative for
me, because I can change mybehavior in that time to myself,
and then we go about our day alot happier 100%, and I totally
get that.
Speaker 2 (29:51):
And no mother, no mother is going to disagree with
you.
Speaker 3 (29:54):
we all we all need that space.
I've just learned to take itright because you know he might
need or no.
Actually, I should reallyrephrase that if he needed
something from me, okay, a trueneed, of course I'm going to be
there, like this is not what I'msaying, but normally his needs
are he wants me to get somethingfor him, or he wants like it's
his wants.
So teaching him the differencebetween wants and need is really
(30:17):
important as well.
Speaker 2 (30:18):
Absolutely.
Speaker 3 (30:19):
Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (30:20):
Even us grownups, there's some times where we
don't know the difference.
Speaker 3 (30:23):
Right yeah.
Speaker 2 (30:25):
I totally get that so yeah, so let's go back to
summer here.
What is one thing that youmight be intentionally saying no
to, just with the intention ofmaking space for growth for the
next year?
Speaker 3 (30:42):
Oh, intentionally saying no to Um.
That's really interesting.
One of the first things I wantto say is uh, clients and in a
way, because in the summer Ivery specifically make sure to
take days off right, so we cando summer activities.
So I do say no to the clientsto be better prepared.
(31:04):
Now I don't say no, don't comesee me.
What I say is these days I'mnot available, Right, Right, Um,
I'm also saying no to invitesand I'm going to say networking
events as well personal invitesand, of course, professional
invites that do not align withwhere I want to be intentional
(31:29):
on that, especially this summer,but a lot of summers I will,
because I want to.
When fall picks up again andstarts to get busy and things
happen, I want to know where Istand, because if I know where I
stand with putting my energyout into things, then it's very
(31:49):
easy to align with that and goto where you need to go.
So, yeah, I'm saying no to afew things over the summer.
Speaker 2 (31:53):
Yeah, I love that.
And the thing is, you know,everybody is like summer is the
party season, it's the funseason, right?
So, even though those eventsare still happening, right, if
there's something you'd ratherbe doing sometimes, you know
it's better for your mentalhealth alone.
You know to say no, I can'ttoday.
(32:16):
Right, I need to be.
You know to say no, I can'ttoday.
Right, I need to be, you know,sitting on the deck with you
know, some tea or a glass ofwine or whatever.
Whatever it's going to be right, just so that you can go the
next day or whenever it isyou're going into work.
The next time you can go infull, yeah, right yeah, yeah it.
Speaker 3 (32:30):
It's absolutely that like.
It has to align Again, it hasto not disturb my peace, and
that's how I look at a lot ofwhat I say yes or no to, and if
something even makes me feel alittle bit anxious and this
isn't about oh, I'm scared, I'mnot going to push past my bubble
, right?
No, no, I'm no things that pushpast my bubble, but this is
(32:51):
more of it doesn't feel rightinside, and so I am saying no to
anything that is trying tooverride my own intuition.
Speaker 2 (33:00):
Right, Good for you, and that's and that's.
It has to align with your, your, your true goals, right.
I mean that's at the end of it.
So let's fast forward to theend of summer, which you know,
I'm sure, where you are.
Cause here, every summer fliesby right, it's like a blink of
an eye and, oh my gosh, it's,you know, back to school already
.
Yeah, let's fast forward to theend of this summer.
(33:21):
And what would you say made youcan make you say yes, I leveled
up this year.
Speaker 3 (33:37):
I leveled up this year.
Oh, you know, it's interesting,I think, if starting to see,
starting to see communicationagain, just with all I went
through with losing Facebook andmoving and all of that stuff,
it's almost as though the peopleI used to interact with they're
just gone.
I used to have a very active andvery full like social media and
events that I'd host online orin person.
(33:58):
They they would be, you know,like decent numbers, show up and
I think for me, that would sayyes is that if to start seeing
that conversation happeningagain, um, to see people wanting
to interact, because I I lovesharing about what I do and I
love helping people to get moreinvolved with their own healing
(34:18):
and themselves, and this work istaking along the way that
people can actually becomeadvocates for their own body in
the medical doctor's office,knowing the right two questions
to ask to maximize your timethis is what this work leads you
to, and so I love that.
That right and so being able tohave those conversations.
And for me, it's not even abouthaving, you know, a million
(34:39):
clients and all of them payingbecause money, believe it or not
.
I think money is a side effectof working, not the goal, and so
yeah, for me, the what wouldmake me feel like I've leveled
up would be seeing thoseconversations surface.
Speaker 2 (34:55):
Right on, I love that .
I love that.
I feel the same Like, yes, weneed money, we all need money,
right, but that doesn'tnecessarily have to be what
you're working for, right.
Like I feel like, well, I knowmyself personally, I guess I
can't really speak for anyoneelse but for me, yes, I need the
money, right, I need to stillfeed the family, I still need to
(35:17):
, you know, pay the bills andeverything.
But it's for me, it's more aboutwho can I help, like I want to
help women, right, so many of usare going through the day, you
know, like kind of dragging ourfeet, moaning and groaning,
thinking this is the best lifegets Right To me.
I'm like, why does it have tobe that way, right?
(35:39):
Why do we have to think thatyou know, we've done?
Like the exciting part of ourlife is over now, right, why
can't this be the exciting partof our life?
Right Now?
I get to have my you know mychildren as my friends life.
Right now I get to have my youknow my children as my friends.
Right, because they're adultsnow.
So why can't I enjoy that?
Why do I have to look at mykids and go my god, look at what
(35:59):
they're doing with their life,right?
No, you raise them the best youcould.
Now you get to sit back andwatch them.
You know, make that fruitfulright, whatever that is right
whatever that is Right, whateverthat is.
Yeah, yeah.
So for me that's what you know,when I go into work in the
morning, that's my purpose,right Like let's make this the
(36:19):
best life we can.
You know, I know that that's alittle bit cliche now.
You know I remember hearingback and I think it was probably
the 90s.
You know Oprah Winfrey started.
You know, living your best life.
You know, and you knoweveryone's sort of been on that
route to.
You know, make it your bestlife.
But the truth is we've all Ithink everyone has been working
(36:40):
towards their best life, whetherthey know?
Speaker 3 (36:42):
yeah, we don't, whether they know it or not, and
the thing is, is that my bestlife might not look like what
the joneses are setting outacross the street and I I find
that a lot of my confidencetends to come from the fact that
I don't compare myself to that.
Is that what they want?
Of course, it's good for them,but if I go for that, that's not
(37:03):
what I want.
And no, it's like comparingapples and steaks.
It's not even apples andoranges Right, because they're
entirely different categoriesall together.
Speaker 2 (37:15):
Well, we're all different, right, Like we are
one of us.
Yeah, we are.
Speaker 3 (37:18):
So it's learning to accept those differences in
people and leveling up to is isbeing able to look at someone
and know that you would neverlive the life they live, but
still being happy that theyfound their happiness.
Yeah, right, and that's what,for me, I really truly work on,
and so I that's where I goinward and consciously make the
decision Does this make me happy?
(37:39):
Now here's a funny thing.
Does it make me happy right now?
Like is funny example first cupof coffee, first sip of the
first cup of coffee.
Oh, yeah, that makes me happyand I enjoy that moment.
I even take like, oh,ceremonious, a little like I'll
be the first cup of coffee.
Now, if I make a second pot andhave three more cups out of the
second pot, I'm not enjoyingthat last cup as much and I
(38:01):
really need to double checksomething, and I don't do this
all the time, but there are somedays, right, but I have to sit
there and go.
Does this make me happy rightnow?
And it's like no, it's justsomething trying to juice up
that happy feeling and checkingin right there, saying maybe not
the second pot, find somethingelse, yes, in that, right, and
so that's what it is is that youknow, I've no women who buy
(38:23):
shoes like to the point I'm likeI swear their closet is a shoe
store and that's okay, becauseif that's what makes them happy,
good.
But to me, I own one flip flops, one runners, and and I'm like
you need more than that Cause Idon't even want to wear those
half the time Exactly, isn'tthat right?
And it doesn't make me lessthan and I share this, because
just because you like somethingdifferent than people you know
(38:45):
or others around you does notmake you less than no.
Speaker 2 (38:50):
And the thing is, liking what everybody else likes
just makes you another likeform of a robot.
Right, like, be your own person, be like, explore, like, be
your uniqueness, be your ownuniqueness yeah, I agree.
Speaker 3 (39:03):
Yeah, and that's why I love cause I.
I mean, for me, leveling up iswhen I watch clients level up,
when I watch them find their ahamoment, when they that light
bulb turns on and they startreally moving towards things
that bring them joy, or makinghuge life changes and
transformational changes thatallow them to incorporate
everything of who they are,while peeling away the mask.
(39:23):
That that brings me more joy,you know, than I would say even
any paycheck ever could.
Speaker 2 (39:30):
Yeah, I have to agree , I love that too.
So let's now.
The next few questions that Ihave here are going to be very
quick, so, just so.
What is your morning routine inthree words?
Speaker 3 (39:44):
Get up, make sandwiches and sit at my desk.
Speaker 2 (39:48):
Who is your boss, babe?
Role model.
Speaker 3 (39:53):
Oh my gosh, do I have to narrow it down?
I can, actually.
Here's a couple One in theastrological world.
She passed away a few years ago.
She was in her early nineties,literally, was working away at
her desk with more astrologyresearch and you know, know it.
Just she passed.
(40:13):
Um, that is my goal, I.
I would love to work until Icannot work no more, and and
that would be my happy place.
And the other one, oddly enough,um, it's Britney Spears.
Wow, I've been watching her, asmost of us have publicly most
of our lives.
I think she's in and around thesame age range as I am and I've
(40:36):
seen her chart, and always whenyou learn with astrology,
you're supposed to picksomebody's chart and follow
their life.
And I have to admit the finessethat she's pulled off with
everything she's experienced,thinking of all the weights and
the emotions and the traumasthat she's been through.
The reality is, um, I couldn'thave done it as good as she did
without people watching me, andthat's the difference, because
(41:00):
you carry the weight of theworld watching you while still
going through that.
Yeah, was she perfect?
No, could she have done thingsbetter?
Probably, but then again, socould I, so could anyone.
Speaker 2 (41:10):
Yes, she is just another human.
That is one thing I've neveridolized any celebrity of any
kind.
I mean, yes, I have myfavorites, for sure, but I also
aim to see them as humansbecause they, at the end of the
day, they came into this earththe same way the rest of us did,
right, they're gonna leave theway the rest of us do, right, so
(41:30):
, or the rest of us will, right,and so to me they're just
humans and they just live adifferent kind of life, right?
Speaker 3 (41:36):
they do.
Yeah, but she never gave up onher passion, and she for her,
for what she wanted.
And looking at back overhistory and the music she was
forced to do versus what shewanted to do, and watching as
she broke free from it, youcould almost see her pendulum
swing and where she sits now,it's like, oh, the stories she
would have.
She's lived life right.
(41:58):
And that's me?
It's like, yeah, I've lived.
My story is a bit wonky, but Ihave lived and I didn't have to
do it, with the whole worldwatching right, that is so true,
I've never really thought of itlike that.
Speaker 2 (42:11):
One.
Well, I got two more questions.
But what is if you have a wordof the summer?
One word for the summer?
Speaker 3 (42:24):
Rewire.
Speaker 2 (42:26):
Ooh, I like that.
I like that word.
If you could tell your youngerself one thing before launching
your business, what would it be?
Speaker 3 (42:37):
Stop listening to everybody else.
I think all the paths I wentdown that never worked, with
things that you should do this,do or go this way, or this is
what you need to do.
No, just trust you, you had allthe right answers.
Speaker 2 (42:50):
I love that.
I love that.
Okay, so if anybody wants tounderstand their own hidden
messages a little more deeply,where can they connect with you?
Speaker 3 (42:59):
They can connect with me through my website because
my reflexology, astrology andenergy work is all combined and
can be done online, so I don'teven need to touch your feet to
work with the reflexology.
Speaker 2 (43:10):
So, basically, the website would be the best, but I
am on all the socials as wellawesome, and I will be adding
those all onto the social or theshow notes at the end of the
show awesome.
Well, thank you so much forjoining me today, kimberly.
I know like the wholereflexology alone is a
conversation for me.
I think that it's amazing, butI I want, I would like to know
(43:32):
more about astrology.
So I think we'll have to chat alittle bit more about that,
because I know the last time Ihad you on the show, I'm like I
really don't know a whole lot.
I don't even know if I want toknow.
But now I want to know.
Like I've seen a little bitmore over the past year or
however long it's been since wechatted last, and so now I'm
(43:52):
like I'm a little bit intrigued.
I don't know that I believe allof it, but I'm intrigued by
what it can tell you.
Speaker 3 (43:58):
So yeah, and that's why, like, I use it in a way
that it brings it into thephysical body.
Um, it has been over 20 yearssince you've seen me at a
psychic fair or anything.
I I really try to use astrologyin day-to-day language, how you
could apply it to what's infront of you.
And it's not something I don'tuse it as a predictive tool, not
even.
It's something that it helpsyou get to know yourself and
understand who you are, so youmake the best choices for
(44:21):
yourself and understand that.
This is why this feels betterfor me.
Speaker 2 (44:25):
And, of course, now the body stuff, right Like it
might of course, like you put itall together and it's like, oh
my gosh, I love this.
Well, thank you so much forjoining me.
You're welcome.
Thanks for listening toConfidence and Bloom, where we
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We pour love out to everyonearound us, so it's time to give
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If you're ready to step intoyour power and boost your
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Welcome to Confidence in Bloom, where bold women rise
, shine and own their power.
We all face that pesky innercritic what I call the
itty-bitty, shitty committee,whispering self-sabotaging
doubts and untrue trash talkthat holds us back.
But here we don't let thatnoise win.
This is a space to celebratethe fierce, fabulous women who
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Because, let's be real, themost powerful thing any woman
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I'm Tina Spoletini, your hostwith the Divas that Care Network
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voice, embraced their worth andare lighting the way for all of
(01:19):
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Are you ready to bloom intoyour best self?
Let's dive in.
Today we're diving deep with theincredible Kimberly Jolivet, a
seasoned expert in reflexology,astrology and energy healing.
With over 30 years ofexperience.
She helps women decode whattheir body and soul are trying
(01:40):
to say.
Kimberly, welcome to Confidencein Bloom.
Hey, all right, let's getstarted.
Let's okay.
So to start us off, let's startwith.
What does the Boss Babe Summerlook like for you this year?
Speaker 3 (01:57):
Boss Babe, summer Ah, traveling adventures.
Actually, we have committed tobeing tourists in our own
province this year, so a lot oftimes people, when they live
somewhere or they've been therea while, they you don't do the
same things when you livesomewhere a while than if you go
visit somewhere.
So we actually decided to takea step back and we are going to
(02:21):
do things that are like oh,that's what tourists do or avoid
it and yeah, we've totallycommitted to that and it's been
so fun and we're discoveringdifferent things and exploring.
So, having the freedom to dothat and make that decision for
yourself and or your family,that is awesome.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
I love that.
I love that.
I know I live in the RockyMountains and you know the only
time I saw them before I wasmarried was when we had visitors
from you know, out of countrythat came to visit right, and
then when my husband loves totravel, so he would you know,
let's, let's go to bat for theday right, and I used to find
that so strange, because whodoes that right?
Speaker 3 (03:02):
but clearly, yeah, there's a lot of things on our
our plate that we're doing thatwe would normally avoid.
Um yeah yeah, in all fairness,we've gone to Peggy's Cove
pretty much every month of theyear.
Um, it's great.
In the winter there's notourists, I bet.
So we we decided like, insteadof going to Peggy's Cove because
you know you can have six orten bus loads of people there
(03:25):
and it's really crowded andwe've been there, done that
We've decided that there'shiking trails just off, like the
main tourist attraction, forexample, that we haven't done
yet.
So we're going to go dosomething we haven't done and
going to explore some of thosewalking trails around that same
area.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
That's a great idea.
Speaker 3 (03:46):
Yeah, yeah.
So we're totally stoked for it.
I don't know, we're just, itseems, so geeky in a way and
nerdy, but to be able to say Ilive here and I got to explore
all of these things that youwouldn't normally think it's.
It's such an appreciation forthe history, the culture, the
diversity.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
And why can't you enjoy in the beauty of it?
I mean you live there right Ifyou live there.
That's part of it, right.
That's part of why you chose tobe there.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
Yeah, so why not?
I know we're so excited aboutit.
Yeah, this opens up otherplaces, like for other summers,
but this summer we've decided tohit our own province up.
I love that.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
I think that's awesome.
So how do you see um like thesummer season energetically?
Are there certain chakras orthemes that it activates for
women in particular?
Speaker 3 (04:36):
That's a really actually wow.
I love that question.
Well, I, I guess for me and you, talking about chakra centers,
when I, when I see, uh, thesummer season, I think Cancer,
leo, virgo, right, and theastrologer in me automatically
goes to those three signs andwith that, in the energy centers
within the body, I mean that isincredibly solar and lunar.
(04:58):
So it's like the solar plexusand the heart chakra because
Cancer sits in the heart chakra,the solar plexus and the heart
chakra because cancer sits inthe heart chakra mainly.
I mean there's otheroverlapping areas and stuff, but
the Leo and Virgo both sit inthe solar plexus and so it's
about confidence.
It's about bringing out yourinner shine, and not just your
inner shine Think of a full moonwhere the sun completely
(05:19):
reflects on the moon itself andjust bringing out that
vulnerability.
You've put all the work in andnow it's your time to shine so
energetically.
It's about literally findingthat inner roar oh, I love that.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Yeah, that's super cool.
I'm cancer, I'm a cancer, so Iget.
When you said you know,something about cancer sits in
the heart, I'm like, yeah, Ithink with my heart and
sometimes that gets me introuble, right right.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
I just I, I just I.
Love it, though, because it'salso a time to connect with the
feelings and those of us are soin our heads, or people who are
so in their heads, and womenlike that that it's.
It's literally a time yourclients stop showing up, not
because they don't love you, butbecause they're on vacation
with their family, so I actuallysee the summer as a dive into
the books I've.
I've signed up for educationthis summer.
(06:05):
I'm reading books that Ihaven't had time to
renegotiating, planning the nextyou know year layout ahead,
Like it's.
It's a lot of well, really gowith the flow, kind of stuff.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (06:19):
That power, that confidence to carry you through,
let's say, the cold wintermonths.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
Yeah, and we want to be busy when it's cold out.
We don't want to be sittingaround waiting, right?
I love that Now as areflexology.
Tell us what's something thatour feet can reveal about how
we're showing up or not showingup in our lives.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
I love that you asked that question.
It makes me think of one of myclients.
She's mid-70s and she probablyhas the most perfect feet I've
ever seen, like healthy,everything.
And she is adamant.
Like she went on vacation withher boyfriend and they went to a
beach and she was like we'rewalking around, it was foggy, so
it was chilly, but she said Iinstantly made us stop and take
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our shoes off to ground our feetin to the beach while they were
walking around and she,barefoot gardens and she's like
I don't know, she takes care ofher feet like she takes care of
her body and honestly I swearthis woman is my hero and I want
to feed her at that stage inlife.
And what we're not doing for ourfeet is I see outside feet
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quite a bit.
You know we don't moisturizethem sometimes and especially I
know in the drier climates thatfeet tend to dry out a little
quicker, the same as our body.
And and to stop and ask, youknow I know a lot of people
think applying moisturizer issuch a a silly thing or a girly
thing, but the reality is isthat is a big bundle of
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self-care if you applymoisturizer to your feet or you
apply it to your body.
You're taking that five minutesto acknowledge that the body
has merit, that the body exists,that I exist.
And it's interesting I don'tknow about other people, but I'm
I'm weird Like I'll put lotionon.
Uh, you know, consciouslythinking of I have to take care
of the physical and I'll realizethat, hey, I like this part of
me.
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No-transcript, that's where theyspill the tea.
They can tell you that yourbody needs moisturizer.
They can tell you where you'rehurting and when to slow down
because they hurt.
And once you argue with yourfeet, the body kind of follows.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
Isn't that the truth?
And if your feet hurt,everything hurts.
And then it's funny that youknow I mean, growing up I, I
lived that right my feet wouldalways hurt.
And then you're like oh God, myfeet hurt, I'm not doing that
Right.
And when you think about it,yeah, Everything that's in our
bodies ends in our feet.
Yeah, Right, and so it kind ofmakes sense.
Of course, everything hurts,Everything is tired.
Speaker 3 (09:08):
Yeah, yeah, I love that Great.
So, yeah, you put your feet upand you know you can watch your
favorite show at the end of theday.
Give your feet a little rubthere's no wrong way to rub your
feet but you, you give yourselfthat the five or 10 minutes on
your feet.
At the end of the day, you'd besurprised how it changes your
whole physical and mentaloutlook when you go the next day
.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
I love it.
I love it.
So what mindset shift hashelped you level up in your
business or your life recently?
Speaker 3 (09:37):
Wow, I think I knew you had that question.
You know what I find reallyinteresting about those thinking
about it through the isolationand the loss and the grief and
really being forced insidemyself.
What's helped me to level up isactually applying my own
lessons to my own life.
Already been doing that, but Ireally dove in and sort of shut
(10:06):
everything else out and doveinto the reflection of who I am,
what I wanted, what I desired,and as I came out of it and
realizing that I'm in a positionnow where I don't well, I do
compromise, but I don'tcompromise me within the
compromising with others, and itis okay if what I desire and
what the other person desiresdoesn't line up, because it's
okay.
Big hug, you go your path, I'llgo mine, because the right
(10:28):
people will work with you andyou'll be able to work with them
without having to give up yourown morals or beliefs or you
know your own integrity.
And it at first appears to be alittle bit lonelier, but I
would honestly say it's a lot.
It's got a deeper foundationbecause the people who I do
connect with, we're real witheach other.
(10:50):
I respect the, the differencesof opinions.
Uh, even the differences allowme to grow Um and and I guess,
essentially erasing that peoplepleasing.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
Yeah, and then you're looking also at, you know it's
quantity over quality, right, orquality over quantity, right.
I mean, you're looking at youdon't need to have, you know, 10
people around you.
What you need are the peoplethat are going to make the most
difference in your life.
Yeah, I love that.
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (11:19):
And how are they supposed to make me happy?
You know not that otherpeople's responsibility is to do
so, but if I don't know whatmakes me happy and I don't speak
, it's not on somebody else toguess my needs Exactly Now.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
Yeah, you're right, I mean, we don't we?
We don't need to, um, what'sthe word I'm looking for?
Like nobody else is going tomake you happy, but in order for
you to be happy, you need tohave the right people around you
.
Right, I mean?
As humans, we need connection,and who we connect with is what
matters.
Right, I mean, that's the way Isee it.
(11:55):
Yeah, because you know, I meanas a parent, we're always
telling our kids what will makeyou happy, right, in one way or
another.
And you know, like, I have adaughter who's looking for her
life partner and I'm, like youknow she's like, when am I ever
going to find someone who makesme happy?
Well, first you need to makeyourself happy right that person
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has to add to that happiness.
He's not going to create thathappiness right, and and I don't
know that at 23 we understandthat right, I think.
Speaker 3 (12:26):
I don't think we were ever taught in our generation
yeah, well, exactly yeah, wewere always taught that if, if
we did good, our parents werewere happy and we did what they
wanted and they were happy, wethen were rewarded with our own
time or to go people who learnto please the room around us.
So, as long as everybody elseis happy, then, therefore, I can
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then carve out what I need formyself.
Yeah, it's so true, yeah, and myson is so different because he
does these crazy things.
And I look at him and I'm likeoh my God, I can't believe he
did that.
And then I was like wait aminute, I'm raising him not to
compromise his peace for otherpeople.
I'm like damn.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
I wish I had both ways right, you can.
Speaker 3 (13:15):
Yeah, I get it.
Yeah, so it's like it's aninner, inner struggle, because
I'm watching him and I'm like,man, I want to be that now as a
fully grown adult, and I'm like,oh, it's because I'm raising
him to say I need this, thismakes me happy, this is where my
peace sits, and sacrificehimself.
So.
So you know, these tools doreally work and um is it hard to
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watch when they're kids, right?
Speaker 2 (13:38):
when you know that they're just making an ass out
of themselves, right?
And you're looking at themgoing oh my god, I can't believe
I'm allowing this.
Right, then you then.
It's a personal thing, right?
Speaker 3 (13:47):
but at the same time, they're growing from it and
they're so happy yeah, and theydon't have regrets, like even
disagreements he has with hisfriends.
The beauty of it is there's noregrets in it.
Yeah, I love that.
He is his friends, know whothey are, and they're like okay,
we had an argument, all right,we need two days, and they take
two days and they come back.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
They're like hey, how you doing that's good, well,
that's, and that's the way itshould be.
But I will say boys aredifferent, right girls?
Unfortunately, us women, wehold on to stuff that we should
not right, yes, yeah, and that'sthat's where I mean.
Speaker 3 (14:18):
I say you know, elevating and and going beyond,
or however you worded it, was somuch nicer, raising the
vibration within the business.
Um, half of that was justletting it doesn doesn't matter.
Yeah, yeah, exactly, exactly.
Most of it didn't matter, andone part of my story is that the
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work I'm doing now with thetree of life and the fact that
I've been able to have workbooksand all my new presentations
and the tarot card deck that'scurrently in development, that
aligns with all of this.
I literally found all thatmaterial when I moved in with my
new partner, thinking, oh, Ineed to make some space for him
in a closet Right.
And I went through my notesover the last 20 years and
(14:59):
realized I had the entireprogram already built on various
times over the years.
So by letting go of some space,I actually discovered this
entire entire theme for what Ido and how I help people this
entire entire theme for what Ido and how I help people.
Speaker 2 (15:19):
I love that.
Yeah, that was my next question.
What is one recent mistake orlearning moment?
Right?
Yeah, that actually moved youforward and look at that.
Just you know, I mean, I don'tknow, that that's.
Speaker 3 (15:26):
It's a learning moment for sure right, it was a
learning moment because I'mholding on to all this crap
right now.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
I need to move it.
Now.
What do I do, right?
Yeah, you created a new programand you know you're probably
gonna you know create somethingeven bigger and better, you know
, in the coming year, becauseyou have all the information
right in front of you yeah, yeah, it was that discovery, finding
that cornerstone of it to beable to move forward with it.
Speaker 3 (15:50):
And so it was really.
If you doubt yourself and thisis a lot of times I talk to
people it's like we already haveall the information in us, and
the reason we share our storiesis because our story is our
survival story, is how to manualfor someone else, and if we
don't share how we did it, thenthat person might not have the
tools to make it through Right,and everybody's is different.
(16:13):
And so I had just accumulatedmy knowledge over the years and
I knew I wanted to blend um, theastrology, reflexology, of
course, the energy work, but Iwas lost as to how.
But when I found all thesepieces, it's, it became clear to
me.
And so now, yeah, the feet tellyou the story about their body
like they spill the tea.
They, they tell me secrets.
(16:33):
You can tell me all you want onyour health form, but your feet
are still going to tell mewhat's really going on.
And your chart, to me, is justyour guidance system that you
brought with you for thislifetime.
So why don't we check in withyour personal guidance system
and check in with what thebody's telling you and then
elevate your energy so that youcan step through your chakras
your way.
So elevate your energy so thatyou can step through your
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chakras your way.
So how I vibrate through theheart might not be how you
vibrate through the heart, butright to do it the same way
because we're very differentpeople.
Speaker 2 (17:00):
Yeah, I love that.
So I have a question on that.
So I love how you said thatyour feet tell me.
You know, your feet tell mewhat's going on in your body.
So I go for reflexology nowvery like regularly,
consistently, and she has beentelling me that, yeah, she said
I can tell there's things goingon, you know, in this part of
your body and I'm like, what areyou talking about?
(17:21):
Like like I still don't get it,like I get that, you know, you
know this is the kidney, thislike I get all that part.
But you know, she said that,you know it's.
She called it um, um, I forgetthe word but there's like little
, it's like bumpy in certainareas.
And I'm like what like bumpy?
(17:41):
Like when I touch my feet, it'sthey're smooth, right, I mean
sure, they're a little bit onthe dry side, it's summertime,
right, but they're, they'resmooth, there's no bumps in
there.
And she's like, oh, yes, thereit's gritty and yeah there's
grainy, there's grapey, there'sall these different words.
Speaker 3 (18:02):
And it's so neat because I can go over the same
part of a foot for one clientand it it's I don't know.
It's it's kind of like notsandpaper, but you know, when
you run your finger oversandpaper you feel those, the,
the bumps, right, yeah, so youkind of feel that.
And then another one you canactually feel like they're big
rocks in there.
Wow, with the training, andthis is why it's different, like
there's no wrong way to rub afoot.
(18:23):
So you get somebody's foot, yougive them a nice little rub and
the body feels better.
But we are.
What makes us different thansomebody who just rubs your foot
, for example, is we're actuallytrained to pay attention to the
variations.
I even look when I push on aclient's foot.
What color is under my thumbwhen I push on it, the color it
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turns behind my thumb is alsoanother detail now, because of
what I do, whether I incorporatethe astrology or not, but most
of my clients are starting toincorporate it is.
There are certain areas thatthere are certain emotional, if
something's going on in thekidneys, random example, just
picking something out of the hat, I think.
Cause you said kidneys, um, Ialso talk to them about
frustrations, resentment,connections with others.
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What are they not filtering out?
Are you breathing in and notbreathing out?
Because if we're not letting itout, you're storing it in your
body somewhere.
So we start the emotionalconversations and one client we
we got just asking thesequestions and just what was
showing up on her feet?
It turned out that she didn'ttrust herself because the last
relationship she had hurt herreally badly, that she was even
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afraid to make a friend, becauseit wasn't that people were bad,
it was that she's afraid ofmaking the wrong decisions oh my
goodness that just comes upfrom the conversation.
Right, and I did have her chart,so it's like you know there's a
little bit there.
I knew the questions to ask,but knowing the questions to ask
and talking to the clientsduring this, it's not just the
feet and releasing what's goingon in the physical, it's
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allowing the client to push onthat emotional point and drop
away from those emotions thatthey're holding in their body.
Because you see, if you filterout resentment, like your
kidneys filter out the urine,right, the toxicities in our
body that we eliminate, wefilter out that same emotion in
the same way.
Our kidneys aren't workingdouble time anymore.
Speaker 2 (20:11):
My God, our bodies are so amazing.
They are like about neck pain.
Speaker 3 (20:14):
How many times you see people carrying the weight
of the world on their shouldersand they're hunched over and
their neck hurts right I seethat a lot too.
Yeah, so it's about getting thepain off the neck.
So it's not always justphysical.
But the physical body is acontainer.
So think of a glass or a cup.
Right, you can only put so muchliquid or energy into that
container.
(20:34):
Yeah, and so our bodies, yourbody and my body are no
different.
Yeah, so we just have to adjustthe energy or the emotion to
fit the container and let gowhat doesn't need to be held on.
Speaker 2 (20:46):
Wow, that's just amazing.
It's like I mean we can talkabout this forever, but I want
to talk about summer, right?
I?
Want to talk about what's goingon in the summer.
So let's see, let me know ifthere's.
You know, is there somethingthat you're doing, like a move
of some kind that's going to beover the summer, that's going to
set you up for, like the fall,you know, so that you can go
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into the fall strong and hard?
Speaker 3 (21:12):
Yes, falls strong and hard.
Yes, it's odd, these lastcouple weeks I've put on a
couple presentations for uranusand gemini, because it's a new
eight-year cycle astrologicallyand, of course, uh, social media
is going to pop up over thenext few weeks, with mercury
going retrograde.
Oh, I love always a dreaded,dreaded.
But I'm excited because, withthis energy, what it means is
that we're being allowed tointernalize these new ideas
(21:33):
coming to the surface.
So when, when you ask what am Idoing?
Well, I am doing it.
I am jumping in feet first,without thinking, and just sort
of stirring up my own pot andwith that, like diving deep into
creating, completing thecreation of the artwork for the
tarot cards that I have going on, and being a tarot card reader
on top of everything, eventhough I don't announce it in my
services, I've done it foryears.
(21:55):
These cards are in alignmentwith the work that I'm
developing.
So by the time I have a printedcopy, which I'm hoping is this
fall, the card can be used likea regular tarot deck.
Oh, let's pull your cards forfun, but I also have in the
works a companion guide with it,and so these cards are.
You can pull a card and thenthere's all of this work you
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could do with that particularcard that you pull up.
So it's got questions.
It's got the body questions,emotional questions, the mental
questions, spiritual questionsto help you really uncover who
you are.
So building that is what I'mdoing this summer, so I mean it
looks good, there's a lot ofbehind the scenes Of summer.
(22:39):
So I mean, it looks like there'sa lot of behind the scenes.
Of course, the layout for thebook that goes with all of this
is going on this summer.
Plus, I've taken medicalastrology classes over the
summer to enhance the medicalconnection between the body and
the chart as well.
So there isn't one thing I'mnot doing that really isn't
towards elevating or, you know,raising that vibration with what
I'm doing, because my belief isis the more you know yourself,
uniquely, individually you, thebetter you become.
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And it's like shedding allthese layers, these masks that
we wear, especially women overthe generations that I work on.
They start to peel back themask and then they don't know
who they are.
But this allows you to know whoyou are, being in the best body
you're ever in, and I knowwe're told that, oh, by 50, it's
all downhill from there and I'mseeing people removing the mass
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.
Speaker 2 (23:19):
There's no weight, right, well, and I think that
that part of that is, we have itin our heads that you know,
once you've grown, your kidsyou've done, you know your
purpose in life, right, lifecomes to an end, but the truth
is, I mean, that's only like achapter of your life.
It's a big part of your lifefor sure.
Right, because you know, I meanyour kids are part of your life
(23:41):
forever.
I hope, right, like that's.
I mean that's my hope with mykids, right.
But but you know, once they'vemoved on to their own life, now
you get to be free again.
Right, with that, you know likethey're, just, you know like a
I don't want to say tag along,because that sounds almost like
negative, but you know they're,they're just an add, addition to
they're, in addition to yourhappiness, the rest of your life
(24:03):
, yeah, yeah, I love that yeah.
Speaker 3 (24:05):
so it's imagining and working through the stages
where and with what I've taughtover the years is you come first
, your, your partner is two andthen everybody else is third.
And the reason behind that whyI don't say put kids first is
because for everybody who doesput their children absolutely
first, they are depleted, theyare run out.
When the kids move out, theydon't know who they are or what
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they're going to do, and that'smost of the time when illnesses
really do begin to settle intothe body.
Can you imagine being so okaywith your own happiness, who you
are, securing your relationship, loving your kids up, living
your best life, that when theyleave, it becomes a new part of
the story rather than somethingyou're losing?
Speaker 2 (24:46):
Absolutely.
And you know that book Ihaven't read it, really, but I'm
that the body keeps the score,um, you know that's.
That's a lot to do with thatright.
When you put so much of yourattention and your love I mean
I'm not saying that, you know,good parents shouldn't be good
parents, right but when you puteverything you have into your
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kids, when they decide that theyneed to be independent and on
their own, you won't be able toaccept that right, because you
won't want to let go of thatright.
I mean, I did witness a littlebit of that myself.
You know, when my twins starteddriving, I was like, oh my God,
now what do I do?
You know, everything I did,every reason I got out of bed in
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the morning, was because ofthem, and now they're telling me
they don't need me to drivethem anywhere.
I was done, right.
It's taken me a long time to,you know, be in that position
that you were just explaining,right, where you know like
they're.
They're now.
Just, you know they're anaddition to my life, they're not
my life anymore.
Right, part of me has regretfor that, because of that this
(25:52):
right.
But then I think you knoweverything I did I did for them
and they are the people they arebecause of that 100% like.
Speaker 3 (25:59):
This is not saying anyone did it right or wrong, or
wherever you're at in your ownjourney is okay, but learning
there you right and yeah, youknow, the biggest thing I I have
is like I was like that rightfrom the get go with my son
because I was terrified of beinga parent.
It was not a goal I ever hadRight, so I always made sure I
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was taken care of.
And now I have a son who haswatched me say my needs are
important.
Well, little Mr Confident overthere is 11 and a half years old
now.
Uh, he lets me know what hisneeds are and it's like, you
know you want to be mad, but atthe same time you're like no, I
(26:41):
have to have full respect forthat, because you know what
you're right.
You have every right to fightand be an advocate for what you
need exactly.
So, okay, fair enough, yourneeds, my needs on the table.
Where are the common needs?
We take care of those first,easily, and then after that we
make sure that everybody's needsare met.
Yeah, but how would I know whathis needs were?
And I sit there and one of thethings that catches me off guard
(27:03):
with this is that when I wasgrowing up, I didn't even know
what needs were.
Speaker 2 (27:08):
And whoever like thought about what do you need?
Speaker 3 (27:12):
Right, right thought about what do you need right?
Right, it was.
As an adult.
I still struggle saying, okay,I kind of need this right
because it is such a flow and alearning flow and we do it
together.
We actually have reallyuncomfortable conversation let's
put that in quotesuncomfortable conversations
because we have a safe spacetogether to discuss that's, and
that's how it should be.
Speaker 2 (27:33):
I remember hearing from my mom you know, you ask
too many questions right to mykids and I remember thinking how
the hell am I supposed to knowwhat they need, what they want
and what they're thinking, if Idon't ask questions?
Because she didn't give meoptions?
She said you need this, you'regonna do this, and that was it
right, and so I just went withthat.
(27:54):
But when I had kids, I'm like Ididn't want that.
I didn't want that for them,right?
I wanted that thing forthemselves, right?
And I didn't even realize thedifference until she would point
out to me you asked too manyquestions, yeah and that's okay
because there's no wrong way.
Speaker 3 (28:10):
It's.
Each generation before us, likeour grand grandmothers, for
example, only did what they knewExactly, and then our moms only
did what they knew, and thenwe're only doing what we knew.
It just it sort of seems to bethere's a shift, that, okay,
we're learning things a littlebit differently.
So we're trying to take what wewere raised as.
So you know all of ourparameters now and our oh, we
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should do this or should do that, and I mean I'm not a big fan
of the word should, as it isright, but it comes up from that
and I'm trying to change thenarrative so that my son has a
different story and I'm perfect.
Oh good God, no, have I told mykid he's in my face and he needs
to.
You know, maybe get out of myroom and not so many nice words
because he's interfering with mytime.
(28:52):
Yeah, I've done that a lot andI've been told.
It's not good to say and I'mlike dude, I'm 24-7 with this
kid.
I mean we homeschool together,we're together all the time.
Me meeting 20 minutes in myroom without his face is
important.
Speaker 2 (29:07):
Yeah, and sometimes he doesn't understand when I say
it.
Nicely, I totally get that.
Speaker 3 (29:13):
Yeah.
So what that is, though, isbecause I'm not okay, I'm
overwhelmed, I'm stimulated.
Maybe I'm dealing with thingshe doesn't realize.
You know, I've got my own work,his lesson plans, daily life,
all of this stuff, and maybe I'moverwhelmed and I don't know
how to express it to him, but bytaking 20 minutes to myself,
(29:37):
relaxing, coming down, I becomeokay, and when I'm okay, I'm
happier with him.
So taking 20 minutes andkicking him out of my room and
just go away right, is actuallya very much a preservative for
me, because I can change mybehavior in that time to myself,
and then we go about our day alot happier 100%, and I totally
get that.
Speaker 2 (29:51):
And no mother, no mother is going to disagree with
you.
Speaker 3 (29:54):
we all we all need that space.
I've just learned to take itright because you know he might
need or no.
Actually, I should reallyrephrase that if he needed
something from me, okay, a trueneed, of course I'm going to be
there, like this is not what I'msaying, but normally his needs
are he wants me to get somethingfor him, or he wants like it's
his wants.
So teaching him the differencebetween wants and need is really
(30:17):
important as well.
Speaker 2 (30:18):
Absolutely.
Speaker 3 (30:19):
Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (30:20):
Even us grownups, there's some times where we
don't know the difference.
Speaker 3 (30:23):
Right yeah.
Speaker 2 (30:25):
I totally get that so yeah, so let's go back to
summer here.
What is one thing that youmight be intentionally saying no
to, just with the intention ofmaking space for growth for the
next year?
Speaker 3 (30:42):
Oh, intentionally saying no to Um.
That's really interesting.
One of the first things I wantto say is uh, clients and in a
way, because in the summer Ivery specifically make sure to
take days off right, so we cando summer activities.
So I do say no to the clientsto be better prepared.
(31:04):
Now I don't say no, don't comesee me.
What I say is these days I'mnot available, Right, Right, Um,
I'm also saying no to invitesand I'm going to say networking
events as well personal invitesand, of course, professional
invites that do not align withwhere I want to be intentional
(31:29):
on that, especially this summer,but a lot of summers I will,
because I want to.
When fall picks up again andstarts to get busy and things
happen, I want to know where Istand, because if I know where I
stand with putting my energyout into things, then it's very
(31:49):
easy to align with that and goto where you need to go.
So, yeah, I'm saying no to afew things over the summer.
Speaker 2 (31:53):
Yeah, I love that.
And the thing is, you know,everybody is like summer is the
party season, it's the funseason, right?
So, even though those eventsare still happening, right, if
there's something you'd ratherbe doing sometimes, you know
it's better for your mentalhealth alone.
You know to say no, I can'ttoday.
(32:16):
Right, I need to be.
You know to say no, I can'ttoday.
Right, I need to be, you know,sitting on the deck with you
know, some tea or a glass ofwine or whatever.
Whatever it's going to be right, just so that you can go the
next day or whenever it isyou're going into work.
The next time you can go infull, yeah, right yeah, yeah it.
Speaker 3 (32:30):
It's absolutely that like.
It has to align Again, it hasto not disturb my peace, and
that's how I look at a lot ofwhat I say yes or no to, and if
something even makes me feel alittle bit anxious and this
isn't about oh, I'm scared, I'mnot going to push past my bubble
, right?
No, no, I'm no things that pushpast my bubble, but this is
(32:51):
more of it doesn't feel rightinside, and so I am saying no to
anything that is trying tooverride my own intuition.
Speaker 2 (33:00):
Right, Good for you, and that's and that's.
It has to align with your, your, your true goals, right.
I mean that's at the end of it.
So let's fast forward to theend of summer, which you know,
I'm sure, where you are.
Cause here, every summer fliesby right, it's like a blink of
an eye and, oh my gosh, it's,you know, back to school already
.
Yeah, let's fast forward to theend of this summer.
(33:21):
And what would you say made youcan make you say yes, I leveled
up this year.
Speaker 3 (33:37):
I leveled up this year.
Oh, you know, it's interesting,I think, if starting to see,
starting to see communicationagain, just with all I went
through with losing Facebook andmoving and all of that stuff,
it's almost as though the peopleI used to interact with they're
just gone.
I used to have a very active andvery full like social media and
events that I'd host online orin person.
(33:58):
They they would be, you know,like decent numbers, show up and
I think for me, that would sayyes is that if to start seeing
that conversation happeningagain, um, to see people wanting
to interact, because I I lovesharing about what I do and I
love helping people to get moreinvolved with their own healing
(34:18):
and themselves, and this work istaking along the way that
people can actually becomeadvocates for their own body in
the medical doctor's office,knowing the right two questions
to ask to maximize your timethis is what this work leads you
to, and so I love that.
That right and so being able tohave those conversations.
And for me, it's not even abouthaving, you know, a million
(34:39):
clients and all of them payingbecause money, believe it or not
.
I think money is a side effectof working, not the goal, and so
yeah, for me, the what wouldmake me feel like I've leveled
up would be seeing thoseconversations surface.
Speaker 2 (34:55):
Right on, I love that .
I love that.
I feel the same Like, yes, weneed money, we all need money,
right, but that doesn'tnecessarily have to be what
you're working for, right.
Like I feel like, well, I knowmyself personally, I guess I
can't really speak for anyoneelse but for me, yes, I need the
money, right, I need to stillfeed the family, I still need to
(35:17):
, you know, pay the bills andeverything.
But it's for me, it's more aboutwho can I help, like I want to
help women, right, so many of usare going through the day, you
know, like kind of dragging ourfeet, moaning and groaning,
thinking this is the best lifegets Right To me.
I'm like, why does it have tobe that way, right?
(35:39):
Why do we have to think thatyou know, we've done?
Like the exciting part of ourlife is over now, right, why
can't this be the exciting partof our life?
Right Now?
I get to have my you know mychildren as my friends life.
Right now I get to have my youknow my children as my friends.
Right, because they're adultsnow.
So why can't I enjoy that?
Why do I have to look at mykids and go my god, look at what
(35:59):
they're doing with their life,right?
No, you raise them the best youcould.
Now you get to sit back andwatch them.
You know, make that fruitfulright, whatever that is right
whatever that is Right, whateverthat is.
Yeah, yeah.
So for me that's what you know,when I go into work in the
morning, that's my purpose,right Like let's make this the
(36:19):
best life we can.
You know, I know that that's alittle bit cliche now.
You know I remember hearingback and I think it was probably
the 90s.
You know Oprah Winfrey started.
You know, living your best life.
You know, and you knoweveryone's sort of been on that
route to.
You know, make it your bestlife.
But the truth is we've all Ithink everyone has been working
(36:40):
towards their best life, whetherthey know?
Speaker 3 (36:42):
yeah, we don't, whether they know it or not, and
the thing is, is that my bestlife might not look like what
the joneses are setting outacross the street and I I find
that a lot of my confidencetends to come from the fact that
I don't compare myself to that.
Is that what they want?
Of course, it's good for them,but if I go for that, that's not
(37:03):
what I want.
And no, it's like comparingapples and steaks.
It's not even apples andoranges Right, because they're
entirely different categoriesall together.
Speaker 2 (37:15):
Well, we're all different, right, Like we are
one of us.
Yeah, we are.
Speaker 3 (37:18):
So it's learning to accept those differences in
people and leveling up to is isbeing able to look at someone
and know that you would neverlive the life they live, but
still being happy that theyfound their happiness.
Yeah, right, and that's what,for me, I really truly work on,
and so I that's where I goinward and consciously make the
decision Does this make me happy?
(37:39):
Now here's a funny thing.
Does it make me happy right now?
Like is funny example first cupof coffee, first sip of the
first cup of coffee.
Oh, yeah, that makes me happyand I enjoy that moment.
I even take like, oh,ceremonious, a little like I'll
be the first cup of coffee.
Now, if I make a second pot andhave three more cups out of the
second pot, I'm not enjoyingthat last cup as much and I
(38:01):
really need to double checksomething, and I don't do this
all the time, but there are somedays, right, but I have to sit
there and go.
Does this make me happy rightnow?
And it's like no, it's justsomething trying to juice up
that happy feeling and checkingin right there, saying maybe not
the second pot, find somethingelse, yes, in that, right, and
so that's what it is is that youknow, I've no women who buy
(38:23):
shoes like to the point I'm likeI swear their closet is a shoe
store and that's okay, becauseif that's what makes them happy,
good.
But to me, I own one flip flops, one runners, and and I'm like
you need more than that Cause Idon't even want to wear those
half the time Exactly, isn'tthat right?
And it doesn't make me lessthan and I share this, because
just because you like somethingdifferent than people you know
(38:45):
or others around you does notmake you less than no.
Speaker 2 (38:50):
And the thing is, liking what everybody else likes
just makes you another likeform of a robot.
Right, like, be your own person, be like, explore, like, be
your uniqueness, be your ownuniqueness yeah, I agree.
Speaker 3 (39:03):
Yeah, and that's why I love cause I.
I mean, for me, leveling up iswhen I watch clients level up,
when I watch them find their ahamoment, when they that light
bulb turns on and they startreally moving towards things
that bring them joy, or makinghuge life changes and
transformational changes thatallow them to incorporate
everything of who they are,while peeling away the mask.
(39:23):
That that brings me more joy,you know, than I would say even
any paycheck ever could.
Speaker 2 (39:30):
Yeah, I have to agree , I love that too.
So let's now.
The next few questions that Ihave here are going to be very
quick, so, just so.
What is your morning routine inthree words?
Speaker 3 (39:44):
Get up, make sandwiches and sit at my desk.
Speaker 2 (39:48):
Who is your boss, babe?
Role model.
Speaker 3 (39:53):
Oh my gosh, do I have to narrow it down?
I can, actually.
Here's a couple One in theastrological world.
She passed away a few years ago.
She was in her early nineties,literally, was working away at
her desk with more astrologyresearch and you know, know it.
Just she passed.
(40:13):
Um, that is my goal, I.
I would love to work until Icannot work no more, and and
that would be my happy place.
And the other one, oddly enough,um, it's Britney Spears.
Wow, I've been watching her, asmost of us have publicly most
of our lives.
I think she's in and around thesame age range as I am and I've
(40:36):
seen her chart, and always whenyou learn with astrology,
you're supposed to picksomebody's chart and follow
their life.
And I have to admit the finessethat she's pulled off with
everything she's experienced,thinking of all the weights and
the emotions and the traumasthat she's been through.
The reality is, um, I couldn'thave done it as good as she did
without people watching me, andthat's the difference, because
(41:00):
you carry the weight of theworld watching you while still
going through that.
Yeah, was she perfect?
No, could she have done thingsbetter?
Probably, but then again, socould I, so could anyone.
Speaker 2 (41:10):
Yes, she is just another human.
That is one thing I've neveridolized any celebrity of any
kind.
I mean, yes, I have myfavorites, for sure, but I also
aim to see them as humansbecause they, at the end of the
day, they came into this earththe same way the rest of us did,
right, they're gonna leave theway the rest of us do, right, so
(41:30):
, or the rest of us will, right,and so to me they're just
humans and they just live adifferent kind of life, right?
Speaker 3 (41:36):
they do.
Yeah, but she never gave up onher passion, and she for her,
for what she wanted.
And looking at back overhistory and the music she was
forced to do versus what shewanted to do, and watching as
she broke free from it, youcould almost see her pendulum
swing and where she sits now,it's like, oh, the stories she
would have.
She's lived life right.
(41:58):
And that's me?
It's like, yeah, I've lived.
My story is a bit wonky, but Ihave lived and I didn't have to
do it, with the whole worldwatching right, that is so true,
I've never really thought of itlike that.
Speaker 2 (42:11):
One.
Well, I got two more questions.
But what is if you have a wordof the summer?
One word for the summer?
Speaker 3 (42:24):
Rewire.
Speaker 2 (42:26):
Ooh, I like that.
I like that word.
If you could tell your youngerself one thing before launching
your business, what would it be?
Speaker 3 (42:37):
Stop listening to everybody else.
I think all the paths I wentdown that never worked, with
things that you should do this,do or go this way, or this is
what you need to do.
No, just trust you, you had allthe right answers.
Speaker 2 (42:50):
I love that.
I love that.
Okay, so if anybody wants tounderstand their own hidden
messages a little more deeply,where can they connect with you?
Speaker 3 (42:59):
They can connect with me through my website because
my reflexology, astrology andenergy work is all combined and
can be done online, so I don'teven need to touch your feet to
work with the reflexology.
Speaker 2 (43:10):
So, basically, the website would be the best, but I
am on all the socials as wellawesome, and I will be adding
those all onto the social or theshow notes at the end of the
show awesome.
Well, thank you so much forjoining me today, kimberly.
I know like the wholereflexology alone is a
conversation for me.
I think that it's amazing, butI I want, I would like to know
(43:32):
more about astrology.
So I think we'll have to chat alittle bit more about that,
because I know the last time Ihad you on the show, I'm like I
really don't know a whole lot.
I don't even know if I want toknow.
But now I want to know.
Like I've seen a little bitmore over the past year or
however long it's been since wechatted last, and so now I'm
(43:52):
like I'm a little bit intrigued.
I don't know that I believe allof it, but I'm intrigued by
what it can tell you.
Speaker 3 (43:58):
So yeah, and that's why, like, I use it in a way
that it brings it into thephysical body.
Um, it has been over 20 yearssince you've seen me at a
psychic fair or anything.
I I really try to use astrologyin day-to-day language, how you
could apply it to what's infront of you.
And it's not something I don'tuse it as a predictive tool, not
even.
It's something that it helpsyou get to know yourself and
understand who you are, so youmake the best choices for
(44:21):
yourself and understand that.
This is why this feels betterfor me.
Speaker 2 (44:25):
And, of course, now the body stuff, right Like it
might of course, like you put itall together and it's like, oh
my gosh, I love this.
Well, thank you so much forjoining me.
You're welcome.
Thanks for listening toConfidence and Bloom, where we
celebrate the amazing, brilliantand beautiful woman you already
are.
You don't have to look like amovie star or supermodel and
spoiler they don't even looklike that.
(44:47):
You are enough worthy ofunconditional love, especially
from yourself.
We pour love out to everyonearound us, so it's time to give
that same love to you.
If you're ready to step intoyour power and boost your
confidence, I'm offeringpersonalized coaching three
focus sessions designed to helpyou build your confidence,
(45:07):
define your personal brand andstart creating your own
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Remember, she comes in everyshape and size and the most
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Want to be a guest here onConfidence in Bloom?
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(45:29):
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