ERP 473: How to Experience More Embodied Pleasure Sexually – An Interview with Susan Taylor

About this Episode

Are you feeling disconnected from your own pleasure, physically present but emotionally absent during intimate moments? For many, the path to sexual fulfillment can feel blocked by a haze of stress, routine, numbness, or the pressure to reach a specific end goal. In a world where busyness and performance often take center stage, it’s all too easy to lose touch with the authentic, embodied experiences that deepen intimacy and bring lasting joy to our relationships.

In this episode, listeners are guided through the steps to rediscover and reclaim embodied pleasure in their sexual and relational lives. The conversation dives into practical, somatic approaches that help individuals and couples slow down, tune in, and get curious about what truly makes them feel alive—moving beyond goal-oriented sex to something richer and more connected. Expert insights and real-life stories illuminate how noticing sensations, embracing vulnerability, and practicing new skills can unlock not just sexual satisfaction but a greater sense of confidence, communication, and intimacy overall.

Susan Morgan Taylor, MA, is a leading somatic sex therapist who helps couples deepen their intimacy and create lasting, fulfilling connections. With over 25 years of experience in somatic healing, she developed The Pleasure Keys Process™, a powerful approach to reigniting sexual and emotional harmony in relationships. After a personal awakening from a sexless marriage, Susan became passionate about helping others remove obstacles to pleasure, love, and orgasm. She is also the creator of the Pleasure Keys Retreats and host of the Sex Talk Café Podcast. When not working, she enjoys hiking and singing karaoke in the mountains of Western North Carolina.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

Episode Highlights 

03:49 The role of somatic awareness in sexual connection.

09:18 Unlocking the first step toward pleasure.

13:53 Susan’s personal journey from sexless marriage to full-body orgasm.

19:13 Overcoming tension and numbness to rediscover sexual sensitivity.

22:55 Redefining orgasm: Moving beyond the goal-oriented experience.

27:11 Embracing discomfort and obstacles to deepen intimacy.

35:29 Notice, name, negotiate: a framework for couples facing sexual mismatch.

37:45 Radical accountability and communication in sexual relationships.

43:09 Prioritizing pleasure: initiation, desire, and direct versus indirect routes.

47:30 How direct pleasure sensitivity impacts every area of life.

52:01 Understanding polarity, giving and receiving, and closing reflections.

Mentioned

The Pleasure Keys eBook (link) (ebook)

ERP 287: How To Engage In The Art Of Giving And Receiving: Using The Wheel Of Consent – An Interview With Dr. Betty Martin

Evolve in Love (program)

Connect with Susan Taylor

Websites: pathwaytopleasure.com

Facebook: facebook.com/susantaylorma

Instagram: instagram.com/susanmorgantaylor

Podcast: sextalkcafe.net

Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins

Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship 

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