ERP 479: Super Psyched About Love: Applying the Science of Connection to Couplehood — An Interview with Dr. Adam Dorsay

About this Episode

Are you truly alive in your relationships, or just going through the motions? In a world overflowing with distractions, many of us drift into autopilot—checking boxes, chasing benchmarks, and hoping real connection will fall into place. But without genuine presence and intention, lasting intimacy becomes elusive, leaving us depleted, disconnected, and wondering why meaningful fulfillment always seems out of reach.

In this episode, discover how the science of connection can transform the way you approach your closest bonds. Through a blend of psychological insight and practical wisdom, you’ll learn why authentic connection is at the heart of emotional well-being, how to bring mindfulness and curiosity into your daily interactions, and why appreciating yourself and those around you isn’t just nice but vital. Tune in for actionable strategies to break free from autopilot, nurture deeper intimacy, and truly feel alive while you’re living.

Adam Dorsay is a licensed psychologist and host of the notable podcast SuperPsyched. He recently released his book Super Psyched: Unleash the Power of the 4 Types of Connection and Live the Life You Love.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

Episode Highlights 

08:43 The essential role of connection: Defining disconnection in mental health.

11:58 Cultural distractors and the brain’s bias against authentic connection.

15:10 Making mindful choices: Savoring life’s simple moments.

17:31 Beginner’s mind in relationships: Staying curious with long-term partners.

22:18 Experiencing awe: microdosing wonder and expanding consciousness.

25:03 The power of appreciation: How gratitude fuels authentic connection.

27:21 Authenticity, integrity, and the impact on genuine presence.

33:12 The four circles of relating to self and others.

35:47 Aligning choices with your values.

37:39 Simple ways to reconnect with others.

41:26 Reclaiming joy and presence in everyday life.

Mentioned

SuperPsyched: Dr. Dorsay’s Award-Winning Podcast

Super Psyched (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Super Psyched (book page)

Emotions: The Data Men Miss | Adam Dorsay | TEDxSantaClaraUniversity (YouTube link) (video)

Friendships in Adulthood: 5 Things to Know | Adam Dorsay | TEDxSanLuisObispo (YouTube link) (video)

How to Fall in Love with Questions (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

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