Like many high achieving women whose lives had been disrupted by the pandemic and uncertainty, she found herself bored and lonely. She started searching dating sites and having fun-loving conversations with men. And though, at her admission, she knew better, she got involved when she connected with a man who roused her interest. It had issues from the beginning, yet she was besieged with feelings of desperation that kept her entangled.
Brya’s story unfortunately is a common one especially in these socially distant times. Though she was 26 years old at the time of our taping, hers is a story shared with me by women in their 30s, 40s, 50s and yes, 60s.
What makes smart women pursue relationships with wrong men? What makes them stay? Listen as Brya and I talk about it and God’s intervention: perfect grace for imperfect believers.
Brya shares 4 red flags and a dream that she ignored. She was so blinded by her desire to have a man. Thank goodness for grace. She is still healing. Essential to it was forgiving herself. She’s not there yet, but is steadily moving in that direction. Every step creates a Space of Grace, the name of her podcast.
Brya is a NYS certified School Counselor, Educational Leader, dynamic speaker, writer, podcaster, worshiper, and brand strategist. She is also imperfect and doesn’t get things right all the time. Yet, her imperfect journey led her to a deeper, richer purpose: to help people know that God’s love is greater than their imperfections.
Brya has a Bachelor of Arts degree in Sociology with a minor in Psychology from Saint John Fisher College and a Masters of Science degree in School Counseling from Roberts Wesleyan College. She is currently studying Educational Leadership at Canisius College to pursue administration in the field of education. She has been blessed to be a NYS Certified School Counselor, speaker, writer, worshiper, podcaster, brand strategist, and whatever else God decides to put along her path to bring glory to Him.
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