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What if you knew you are enough? What would your life look like?
What would love look like? Thisis the enough at the broadcast where we're
redefining what makes you enough in life? And now here's your host Susatte n
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Hello everybody, it's your life coachand relationship solutionists Suzette Vernon and welcome to
my Enough Factor podcast. As always, I'm so glad you tuned in because,
out of all the podcasts that youcould be listening to right now,
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you decided to listen to and thatis pretty special to me. You're the
reason why I keep showing up weekafter a week to provide content that will
help you to redefine what makes youenough in life and in love on your
own terms, because that's what I'mabout. Other terms just did not work
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for me, and in order forme to navigate my way out of stuck,
I had to discover what my termswere. And so each week I
amplify what I've identified as three criticalfactors. I call them three critical factors
of enoughness, and they are yourvoice, your value, and your vision.
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I have found that with amplifying thosehey, you can break the cycle
of fail relationships and attract real deal, great love into your life. This
episode is one that was inspired bya reply I got when I was talking
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to someone I had never met before. I was telling them about my upcoming
encore of my Love on Your Termsmasterclass that's going to be happening in November,
and she said that she was gratefulthat I shared that information with her,
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and that the life free training soundedgood. But this is the part
that really grabbed me. She said, these three words love scares me.
And I started thinking about how manyother people I had talked to that in
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some way, we're saying the samething. They had not been in a
relationship for a long time, orthey had just gotten out of a relationship,
and the idea of love sounds good, but it scares them half to
death. And so I started thinkingabout how romantic relationship trauma is a mental
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health crisis that is not getting theattention that it should get. There are
so many women out there that,by all intents and purposes, are very
successful. They're running companies, they'redoing great things. They are raising fantastic
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kids that are going on to bedoctors and lawyers and doing great things in
the world. But when you reallyhave a real talk with them about their
romantic life, their relationships. Theyreally do want love in their lives,
but they're scared to death. Someof them are even praying that God send
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them good men. But when youask them if they're prepared for it,
and or if that good man wereto show up today, they sit and
they say, you know what,I would really be scared. I'd be
scared that I would do something wrong. I'd just be scared. And I
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asked them, I said, well, would you recognize a good man?
And they pause and they say,I hope so. But when I asked
them deeper questions, they don't evenknow how to recognize a good man.
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They're praying for a man for Godto send them, a man that they
wouldn't even recognize if God sent them, because there have been situations in their
lives where they thought God had sentthem their significant other, only to find
out later they got it wrong,and so now they don't trust themselves anymore.
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That's part of the reason why Iwanted to encore my love on your
terms, masterclass, one reason beingthat some people just simply weren't able to
come. They intended to, butsomething came up life came up, work
came up, and they weren't ableto attend, and so I thought about
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them. But I also thought aboutthe people I was yet to me,
like the woman that I described thatI just met her. She didn't know
me, I didn't know her,but as I told her about the training,
the live training, she said thatit would sound like a really great
idea, but then she was afraidof love. And I said, you
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know what, You're not the onlyone. Basically, don't feel bad.
I run into women all the timethat when we really get down to the
nitty gritty, they're afraid of thevery thing they want. They want true
love, they want real partnership,but they're afraid because they made mistakes in
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the past. They're afraid because theymight be like me. I didn't know
anything about love. I knew Iwanted it, but beyond attraction, I
didn't know about love. And sadly, what was model for me for the
most part, was not good.Love was dramatic. Love was something that
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was overwhelming to the point that youcouldn't eat, you couldn't sleep, you
couldn't think, you couldn't rationalize,and a lot of times when people were
going through difficulty or situations where they'renot they weren't being treated will They said,
it's because I love him, well, why do you keep taking him
back? It's because I love himwell? Why do you keep putting up
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with that? It's because I lovehim? And so love has really gotten
a bad route, and so manyof us high achieving women over forty sadly
haven't been taught anything differently, sowe spend years running away from the thing
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that we really want. We wantit, but if the truth be told,
we don't trust it. We don'ttrust ourselves, we don't trust men.
And so that's why I wanted todo it again and again and again,
because there are women out there thatreally, really really deserve to be
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treated well, deserve to have lovein their lives, deserve to know what
it's like to have a good manin their loves who really really cares.
But as long as they're afraid hecould show up tomorrow, and they sabotage
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themselves because they're scared. And nowa special announcement. If you've tried to
do love on their terms and itdidn't work, I've got the answer.
Love on your Terms a three fiveday master class that takes you out of
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the passengers seat and into the driver'sseat. Where you want to learn more
and to sign up, go toSusatte solutions dot com. That's at Suette
solutions dot com. It's free,it's now, that's a Sustte solutions dot
Com. I look forward to seeyou there, And so I'm hoping that
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the woman that I talked to willactually come to the masterclass. It's going
to be a week long one withfive days of content, but then some
other bonus sessions that we have plannedto really enhance what they've learned, to
really supplement what they've learned, toreinforce what they've learned, so they can
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feel more prepared to really enter therelationship space. And so if you're listening,
I hope that you, even ifyou came to the first one that
we did, that you'll come tothe encore. In the words of one
of my past clients who attended severalof my workshops, she said the reason
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why she kept coming back was becauseshe knew she'd hear things a little differently
each time, because every time yougrow and you evolve, you hear things
differently. And so I'm hoping thateven if you came to the first one,
You'll come to the second one withan open heart and a willing spirit,
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knowing you're going to hear it differentlythis time. The first time opened
you up a little bit, andthis time will open you up a little
bit more. And so I amexcited about offering it again. I am
excited about it being an encore,and also I'm excited that it's going to
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be at a time when, fora lot of people, holidays are the
loneliest time, and we're about toenter into the holiday season. We're in
October, and you know, there'sHalloween, but then right after that there's
Thanksgiving, and right after that it'sChristmas. And to be honest with you,
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even before Halloween, we're already startingto get advertisements, you know,
about Christmas and about specials and aboutyou know, different incentives to get people
to start thinking about the Christmas season. And while Christmas is my favorite holiday,
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Thanksgiving it's my second, but Christmasis my absolute favorite, I do
realize that there are people out therethat for them, the holidays is a
very lonely time. They look atfalla la la lifetime, and they look
at the Hallmark Christmas movies and anda common theme that runs throughout all the
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movies is love and romance and findingthat special someone in the magic of the
holidays, and how things just seemto turn out better. You know that
broken relationships, the one that gotaway. They might be home for the
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holidays and they run into someone fromtheir past, and at first it's a
bumpy road, but then they findout that whatever happened in their relationship did
not stop them from loving each otherand and things just seemed to magically work
out around the holidays. And Iwish that were the case all the time.
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But sadly, for some the holidaysbrings them right back in contact with
the same mindset that caused them toreach out to people that weren't good for
them. It only seems to greasethe wheels of the cycle. Loneliness drives
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them to enter into magical thinking andand somehow another, the person that was
an ex comes back into their lives, and they get all nostalgic about the
holidays, and they fall into situationshipsof friends with benefits or it's complicated situations
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and here we are again, Andthen they feel the guilt and the shame
that comes from feeling like I gotplayed again. But the sad thing is
I played myself. I talked myselfinto thinking it would be different this time.
And it's because of the nostalgia ofthe holidays and watching the movies and
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you know, and thinking that maybe, just maybe it'll be different this time.
And I don't want that to happento you. I don't want that
to happen to you. I don'twant you to fall for the banana and
the tailpipe again. I don't wantyou to get lulled by the euphoria of
the holidays into accepting something that's notgoing to be good for you. And
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so I really feel like this masterclassis coming at the perfect time. It's
coming into November November seventh through theeleventh for the content, and then some
bonus sessions and some other things thatI have planned even through the weekend that
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can really reinforce what you've learned.And so I invite you to really check
it out. It's right on mywebsite, sust Solutions dot com. I
have it also in the description ofthis podcast, and check it out,
and if it resonates with you,going and register, Going and grab your
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virtual seat and I look forward toseeing you and sharing with you and connecting
with you, and hoping that thisholiday season will be different because you'll have
something healthy to think about. Youwill have done some work that will give
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you something inside of you that willhelp stir you to courage, and that
will give you something more compelling thanyour loneliness and your longing, and that
we will help you to get inalignment with what your soul truly desires and
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give you the insights and the toolsthat will help you to be successful.
So that's what's going on, andI'm hoping that what I share will really
help you to have some hope,not ill placed hope, but some hope
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that maybe, just maybe The reasonwhy you're hearing this now is because the
universe, who I call God,has really heard your prayer and it's really
trying to order your steps so thatyou can actually get what it is you've
been praying for, that you canactually experience real love. Because I have
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to tell you it is possible.I was a magnet for unavailable men.
It seemed like if I really wasattracted to anybody, they weren't the right
man, and I was going toonly be entering into the cycle of failed
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relationships, and I would do itover and over and over again. I
would oki duke myself and talk myselfinto it, and I would experience the
same disappointment, the same heartbreak,the same shame that came from ya got
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played again. I played myself again. Why would I keep playing myself?
You know that kind of guilt andshame and then you beat yourself up.
I was doing that kind of stuffwell into my late forties, and it
wasn't until my fifties that things reallychanged that I was able to connect the
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dots in the right way. Andbecause I don't want you to have to
spend another day feeling guilty and feelingshame and being fooled because you don't know
what you don't know, I don'twant it to happen to you. And
so because I found my way outof the cycle, it truly is my
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passion and my purpose to help bringas many women out of this insanity called
fail relationships, out of this insanityof talking yourself into situationships and friends with
benefits, and it's complicated situations,and then because you're emotionally invested, it's
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not as easy to get out asit was to get in. I don't
want it to keep happening to smartwomen, smart high achieving women who are
gifts to this world. I don'twant you to be a public success and
a price of a failure. Idon't want you to be afraid, like
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the woman I talked to, tobe afraid of love, because love is
not scary. It's what we don'tresolve in our romantic lives that's scary.
If we don't resolve what it isthat we don't know, we'll keep believing
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lies and keep being stuck in cycles. But I'm here to let you know
you don't have to. You don'thave to, so I want you to
check it out. I want youto go to Suzette solutions dot com.
That's su z as in Zebra ET T E solutions dot com. Check
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it out, and if it resonateswith you going and register, I'll be
happy to welcome you. I'll behappy to connect with you. I'll be
happy to walk with you in thisjourney of self discovery. And I can
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tell you that the people that participatedin my initial one, they will tell
you that their lives were changed justfrom being in that five days so you
don't have to suffer in silence,you don't have to suffer in isolation,
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you don't have to be afraid oflove. There is help, but you
got to accepted right And one ofthe ways that you can accept it is
to sign up for my masterclass.It's called love on your Terms, and
it's time for you to get clearon your terms so that you don't have
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to be afraid in your relationships.Well that's it for this episode of Enough
back To podcast. Tune in nextweek where I will give you even more
encouragement to move forward in your relationshipson your terms. Okay, and as
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I like to remind you in party, you are one hundred percent worthy,
You're one hundred percent worth it.You are one hundred percent enough. By
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