February 13, 2025 • 32 mins
The episode examines the culture of youth sports and the high expectations placed on children to become professional athletes. Through personal stories and statistical insights, we discuss the sacrifices families make, the pressures on children, and the importance of seeking balance in prioritizing family dynamics, interests, and faith.
• Exploring the idolization of youth sports
• Discussing the statistical odds of going pro
• Acknowledging the family sacrifices involved
• Examining the mental health impact on young athletes
• Urging for a balance among a variety of activities
• Highlighting the importance of family time and faith
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Of course.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
Hello and welcome to another exciting episode of
Faith, family and Fishing.
Welcome.
We are a podcast aimed atrestoring family to any listener
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That's a terrible whatever.
That's what it is.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
You know what it is Said, what we said so this
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episode is going to tackle Ithink what is one of the?
Speaker 2 (00:41):
biggest idols, especially here, you know, in
america, especially here inflorida.
Um, so let's just jump rightinto it, because there'll be
plenty to talk about this couldbe a multi-part let me start by
asking this is your child thenext league mvp?
Oh and, and I mean be honestthey might be right, they very
(01:05):
well could be but probablystatistically, because that's
what we're, that's what we'regoing to use to produce some
facts to go over this all right,so I'm going to talk a little
bit about like when I wasgrowing up, um.
For those of you that don't know, I played sports my entire life
, um, sports was a huge part ofmy life, so please don't take
this episode as bashing ortrashing or yeah, um, but one of
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the things especially we'vetold our kids is this are you
playing the sport because it'sfun or are you playing it
because you think it's going totake you somewhere?
And I think there's a bigdifference between those two
things, as well as the phenomthat we see now.
(01:54):
I mean, you go to any ballpark,you know, and I'll tell you
guys from the get, go right outthe gate, baseball is going to
get picked on the most Baseball,softballball, pretty much same
thing, um, but any saturday andsunday you go to any ballpark
and you will literally seehundreds, if not thousands,
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depending on how big the thetournament is right of young, Of
young athletes who no other wayto even say it have dedicated
their life Literally To a sport.
Yes, so to jump into that realquick, we're going to look at
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some probability statistics.
Okay, I like statistics, so thefirst one is from Ohio State
University and I know I saidbaseball is going to get picked
on, but this one dealsspecifically with football.
All right.
And this is, like I said, fromOhio State University, the Ohio
State University.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
The Ohio State University.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
From their College of Public Health.
They did.
It's called Odds of High SchoolPlayers Going Pro.
This is not Little League Right.
This is not rec ball.
This is not Little League Right.
This is not rec ball.
This is not travel ball.
This is you are on a highschool team, your chances of
going pro for football, which isthe most popular sport in the
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United States.
Okay, all right, the next statsI get into.
I'll break down that.
But football is by far the mostpopular sport in the united
states.
Okay, um, so this information isfrom 2016, so understand these
numbers are are a little bitbigger right now, okay, um, but
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in 2016 there were a total of1,083,308 participants in high
school football.
Wow, now that counts alldivisions, but that's how many
there were.
Okay.
Of that, of that 1,083,308,73,660 went on to play in
(04:05):
college.
Oh okay, Not even 10%.
That is 6.8% of all high schoolathletes.
Okay, of those 73,660, 251 wenton to play professional.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
Wow, wow.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
So less than 1%, isn't it?
Of total high school players,it is 0.023% Wow.
That's crazy.
It's not even a whole percent,yeah.
Like we are talking about 251out of a million.
Wow Okay.
I mean, even if you look atjust going from college to
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professional, I mean you'retalking about 251 out of 73,000.
Yeah, I mean, that's only twoand a half percent.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
Gosh Roughly, I mean mean it's not exactly right I go
like the odds of that it's alot of slimming up playing to
only have 251.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
So so remember that 0.023.
Okay, now we're going to gothrough other sports.
All right, these aren't as well.
Broke down, um, and this one isfrom baseballwebcom, so high
school athletes.
All right it that was anotherone.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
That was my thumb, sure it was well.
See, look, I did it again.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
Oh gosh, how hey I wanted to do how to fart in bed
you did.
Okay, that's true um, anyway,all right.
So this is high school athletes.
For basketball, there are 549000.
For baseball, there are 455,300.
You ready?
Speaker 1 (06:05):
Yep.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
For football there are 983,600.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
Wow, that's huge.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
So when I go, hey, football is the most popular
sport it is.
I mean you're talking aboutalmost doubling.
You are double baseball Anyway.
So if you play other sports youdo have a higher percentage
because there's fewer kids Rightso.
So for basketball, all right,you have a point zero, three
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percent of going from highschool to the pros.
And baseball, you have a pointfive percent.
Wow.
Of going from high school to thepros.
All right Now, I say all ofthat because it is very apparent
as we look at family.
Sorry, it is very apparentthere is a religion.
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Oh yeah.
And it is sports.
Speaker 3 (07:05):
Uh huh, is a religion ?
Oh yeah, and it is sports, uhhuh.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
However, when you mathematically break down the
probability of your child,specifically, specifically and
and I'm not saying you don'thave a phenom you might have a
right right.
But when you mathematicallybreak down that probability, you
are talking about such minutenumbers.
I mean, when you're sittinghere going out of a million
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players, 251 of them are goingto make it to the league, right,
and even when you look at that251, how many of them are making
that into a career, right?
You know especially and I'mgoing to talk about football a
lot because that's what I grewup playing, I mean football and
baseball, track weightlifting,but football was like my primary
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right right how many are goingto make that a career?
because it only takes one hitone injury willis mcgahee.
I'll never forget it.
2000 or or 2001,.
Somewhere in there, the U rightUniversity of Miami.
He's playing in the BCSchampionship.
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Willis McGahee is projected togo first round.
He was a running back for theUniversity of Miami Is projected
to go first round.
He's sitting here looking downmillions of dollars of contracts
right.
Just one of the best players inthe nation.
Definitely going to be one ofthose 251 players.
Right, it's towards the end ofthe game.
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Miami has this huge lead.
Willis McGahee is running downthe sideline.
A cornerback came running in,dove, hit him in the leg, busted
his knee.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
Oh, my God.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
Now he winds up getting surgery.
He winds up going later in thedraft.
He does wind up getting draftedby a team, but he was never the
same.
Speaker 1 (09:03):
Ever, Same thing with Bo Jackson.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
Well, yeah, but yes and no.
But he was like.
He was like.
Bo Jackson could have arguablygone down as one of the greatest
athletes to ever play any sport.
But his longevity was cut shortbecause of one tackle baseball.
I mean even because because Iget it football's a violent
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sport, like I get it.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
But even if you look at baseball, you tear a rotor
cuff right rotator cuff whateverrotors are cars and you've been
working on the car, oh you knowyou, you trip over.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
I mean there's been players that have tripped over a
base toward their acl yeahright and and it's like, oh, I'm
done right and I go, and yet weput so much stock into this.
I mean, think about it.
We know personally families wehave been that family that every
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minute you have of spare timeis given to practice, to a
tournament, to something, not tocount the amount of money that
gets spent Time.
So yeah, I, I mean growing upmy sister did travel ball, um,
so every summer, every weekend,my mom and my sister were gone
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right, it was hotels and intournaments and and all of this
stuff.
And I go, and again, for what?
Speaker 1 (10:35):
right, and I think people have a hard time when
they say for what they're like,well for the kids, Right, but
for what?
At what cost?
Because it doesn't only.
It's not just that particularkid.
You have other kids that arebeing impacted by it.
I mean, and you know you and Ihave had conversations with kids
that have been impacted by it,you know there's siblings, well,
even our kids, yeah, yes, andthat's what I'm going to do,
(10:57):
cause I don't want to shameanyone.
No, like I mean, we've had thosehard conversations.
The Holy Spirit can be your.
Right your guide.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
Right, but but like, even with our family, you know,
we've had our over and over andover.
Hey, like we can do this, butunderstand saying yes to this is
saying no to that yeah, it'ssaying no to everything else.
(11:24):
So you know, surfing and andpaddleboarding and and all of
the other things we dounderstand that's going to be a
no right because of this evenwhen JT played football.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
I mean there were times, at one time we had to
drive to Lakanto.
I mean we, you know a schoolnight you know, we have plans
and we're gonna go do stuff andit's like oh, he's got it you
know, found out that day and itwasn't a scheduled game, right?
Speaker 2 (11:51):
so, everyone, this is a three hour drive, three hours
right.
Speaker 1 (11:55):
So it impacts everybody, and you, I, I don't
think I know for me.
I know as far as our kids go.
Like one child may have feltneglected because all the time
attention and resources weregoing to the other child and I'm
glad.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
I'm glad you brought that up, okay, because I want to
talk about that, because let'stalk about the flip side of it.
So, like my family, we were asports right.
You had to pick something, youhad to do something.
My mom, you know, did anamazing job of going.
Hey, if you have too much sparetime on your hands you're just
gonna get in trouble um, and I,and I agree with that.
(12:35):
I understand that idle mind isthe devil's playground but on
the flip side, you know me andyou have had conversations where
you're like I look back and go.
I wish I would have played, oryou know, at least played a
sport, something weightlifting,um, and I go when we look at the
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two sides of that same coin.
Right, you know, you sit hereand go.
You can overdo something justas much as you can underdo
something.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
Right, I think they should be doing some thing,
maybe not necessarily sports, ifthat's not their thing, but
they should have some activitythat is growing their interest
and, you know, encouraging that,something, something.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
I agree, but I go.
They shouldn't have just oneactivity.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
No, because what happens when that activity is
over?
What happens after that injury?
What happens when that season's?
Done what happens when yougraduate, you don't get a
scholarship, you don't go pro.
What is happening to themmentally?
Because there is.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
You put all your eggs in one basket.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
There is going to be.
There will be something afterthat's going to, and we've seen
it, we've talked to people, youknow they had no idea what to do
with their life because theirentire life, as the world was
going around around them, all itwas was the sport.
So then they didn't know whatto do.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
To even branch out from that.
You know, I've talked with alot of married couples right
where their whole marriage wasgeared around raising children.
Yes, and then the children moveaway and it's like they don't
even know each other becausethey didn't take time during
their marriage to date.
(14:14):
One another right, you know, itwas just like hey, you know, we
got married, we had kids, andthen, 18 years later, here we
are going.
You know, 20 years later,whatever you know, here we are
going.
Um, do we even have anything incommon?
right you know, and it is thesame thing like parents today,
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families today, one of thethings I see is like you want to
be so specialized mm-hmmbecause that's what everyone's
doing, and I get it.
You're just trying to give yourkid that extra edge up you know,
and I and I go and I understandthat, but but understand, like,
what happens when that doesn'twork out right?
What happens when, for me, forinstance, mm-hmm.
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Honestly, I hit going into mysenior year of high school and I
was like I don't want to dothis anymore and I was
completely lost because what todo everything I had done up to
that point was to prepare forcontinuing to, to play right.
So when I decided I don't wantto do this anymore, I was like,
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okay, who am I?
I remember, after I, after Iquit football, um, I went to one
game.
Um, since that, yeah, yeah, youdon't really watch it, and and
I went like sitting in thestands looking at the sidelines,
seeing all my former teammatesand going this sucks.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:42):
Like who am I now?
Speaker 1 (15:44):
Yeah, that really impacted you.
Speaker 2 (15:45):
And yeah, I mean it took me a couple of years to
like bring my identity over andfind out that there was more
than just the athlete, right,because up to that point, that's
all I was was that athlete.
And then you know, so it did.
It took me years to go, okay,well, who am I now that I'm not
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an athlete?
Speaker 1 (16:08):
Right.
Speaker 2 (16:08):
Now that I'm not on the team, now that I'm not, you
know, doing that.
Right.
Who am I now?
That right?
Who am I now?
And and I go, and that's whereI would really caution a lot of
parents um to take a step not tonot do no, no but take a step
back and go.
Okay, for starters, one are youtrying to live your dreams,
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like through your child?
Are you sitting here and going?
Hey, I could have went to theleague or I remember how much
fun I had.
Speaker 1 (16:40):
So I'm going to.
I want you to have that muchfun.
Are you putting something onthem that they can't carry, a
weight that they can't bear, andthen you're actually doing
damage in the long run right.
Taking it back to even a deeperlevel.
You know if you're.
How many times have we talkedto people and I mean, you know
what it's like.
I can't.
I can't attend church per se.
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We have a tournament everyweekend.
I can't come to the wednesdayservice.
My kids can't do youth group.
My kid whatever right, I go.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
What?
Because again saying yes tothis?
Speaker 1 (17:10):
is saying no to that right so, and and there are some
families that are sportsfamilies, that they do bible
study on the road, they dolisten to church online, like
they do what they can to to youknow what they can um.
There are families that youknow love jesus and do all the
things um, but that's typicallynot what happens no, it's not
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because that that things have toget put to the side and put
away for you to focus on thesport.
Speaker 2 (17:41):
And honestly, that is the biggest thing right, you're
fine Is what is your priority,what's your goal?
What's the end game?
You know, in Matthew 633, jesussays seek first the kingdom of
God, and all these things willbe added to you and for most of
us, we look at that as apriority list.
Okay, so first is Jesus, secondis, you know, my spouse third
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is my kids my you know, and soon.
That's not what Jesus is sayingReally.
What he's saying is seek me,don't worry about everything
else.
Speaker 1 (18:21):
Right, I'll fill in all the gaps.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
Right Like, seek me first, don't worry about all
this.
Speaker 1 (18:26):
Does this?
Speaker 2 (18:27):
Because if you look at the verses right before that,
that's what he's talking about,right Like even the lilies of
the field even though they'rejust grass, are they not as
splendid as Solomon field?
Even though they're just grass,are they not as splendid?
As.
Solomon, you know the, the, themost rich king to ever have
lived it.
Are they not more splendid thanthat?
Look at the birds of the air,right, does not the father feed
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them?
See, we get wrapped up in, youknow.
And really, that's what boilsdown to is it's a lack of faith,
it's a lack of trust, it's alack of sitting here and going,
god's going to take care of meand it's sitting here and going
and I and I go.
What are you saying to your kidwhen you're like hey, this is
the, this is the one thing.
So what happens when that onething?
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Goes away right what happenswhen they're not one of those
251 players that get.
What happens when?
Speaker 1 (19:15):
they go.
I really just don't want to dothis anymore.
I'm tired, right.
I just want to hang out with myfriends.
Speaker 2 (19:20):
I want to whatever and I go, and yet you've put all
your faith, all your hope, allyour trust into this one thing
and that idol is going to letyou down right.
Speaker 1 (19:31):
That pedestal is going to drop right and it's
going to be messy and and and.
Speaker 2 (19:37):
Yeah, they could become one of those 251 players,
absolutely, 100%.
You know they could become theleague MVP.
Yeah, maybe.
And I mean, do you really wantto roll the dice on that, though
?
Right, like, and when they areso sucked into this one thing
that they don't even experienceanything else?
Speaker 1 (19:57):
There are people that are doing a disservice.
They don't go on familyvacations because they have to
go to the tournament.
So again, I do go.
Look at the other siblings andI go.
Speaker 2 (20:04):
Your other kids are paying for this as well, in a
different way depending on maybe, yes, you know, um, I know for
me, like when my mom and mysister you know, because by that
point in our life, it was justme and my younger sister at the
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house.
So when my mom and my youngersister would go to these
tournaments a lot of times, thatwould give me and my dad, you
know time, just me and him, andjust like when you go shrimping,
which would always which wouldalways turn into, yeah, us doing
work around the house I have uhthe girls and I have a girls
night right so yeah, sure, thereare things that come up, of
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course well, I don't, but I justwant to say I don't want to
like bash.
Speaker 1 (20:49):
I mean I go, I get it .
Speaker 2 (20:51):
I'm just saying be aware, yes pay attention, see if
there's anything that you'remissing because you are, because
saying yes to this is saying noto everything else.
Right, and that goes for anyfishing.
For me now, right, like I go,you know I I take people fishing
and and a lot of times, likeyou know, especially when I'm
taking a dad and their kids out,you know you're on the way back
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and and you know the dad's like, oh man, like this was so much
fun, this was so relaxing rightand then next they're, you know,
shooting you a text.
Hey, you know, I'm getting myfirst fishing pole.
Like which pole should I get?
What you know and all of this,and you can see, oh, like you
now have this brand new thing inyour life that you would have
never experienced because youwere so locked in to everything
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else going on right in um, sevenhabits of highly effective
people.
Right, steven covey is, is in,uh, the chapter.
I'm trying to remember whichhabit it goes to, but, um, and
then, of course, off the top ofmy head, i'm'm going to forget.
Does it be proactive?
Begin with the end of mind.
Begin with the end of mind.
Um, you know he gives theillustration of climbing.
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You know spending all this timeclimbing the ladder you know
the corporate ladder only to getto the top and realize you're
on the wrong wall.
Speaker 1 (22:08):
Right and, and I go that one hit me like a ton of
bricks.
Speaker 2 (22:12):
I remember when, when you were reading it, and then I
read the book and I was like,oh, yeah, oh my, because it was
like you know things in our lifestarted shifting yeah, you, you
get to the top and you're like,oh, this ain't even where I
wanted to be um, I had a buddyyou know he got.
He got a scholarship to go playum at a school and you know, I
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think he was gone like two orthree weeks and then next thing,
you know, he was back and wewere like, oh, you guys like on
break or like you know what'shappening, and he's like man,
you don't understand.
Like when you go to college,you know, when you go to that
next level, it's different.
He's like man, you live withthe football team, you eat with
the football team, you go toclass with the football team
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like everything revolves aroundfootball.
You're up in the morning doingworkouts.
You're going to class.
You're you're watching film,you're, you know, you're you're
hitting a workout.
You're like everything revolvesaround football.
He's like man, I just right, hegot to the top of that wall and
was like this is not what Iwanted this is not the wall I
wanted to be on and, and youknow again, you know, for all of
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all of us out here that go, ohwell, you know, from the time
they walk, they got to starttraining, right, I mean,
honestly, I went to school withone of those 251 players, right,
like you know, my freshman yearhe was a senior.
Um, one of the kids on thefootball team wound up going and
playing um for the browns andthen for the bucks, wound up
winning a super bowl like uh,went to the pro bowl a couple
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times, um, you know he was oneof those he was one of those 251
players.
yeah, he didn't even startplaying the game, though, until
he was in ninth grade.
So I go, here's the deal.
Like, like, take someone likeShaq, right, dude, you're seven,
four, 320 pounds, you're goingto make it.
You're a basketball player.
Like, what else can you do?
You know the big show.
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Okay, he's a wrestler, and Iknow that's not what we were
talking about, but you take thebig show again.
Speaker 1 (24:09):
You're going to do something.
Speaker 2 (24:14):
You're seven, four 350 pounds like, or 450 pounds.
You know he was a used carsalesman and they were like this
ain't for you.
Like you know, he's sittinghere going.
I hated it because we go onthese test drives and I wouldn't
be able to fit in the car youknow, and, and, but I liked
being around people.
I like performing.
I like you know, and, and, loand behold, becomes a wrestler
right right I go if we look atpsalm 139 and we see, before you
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were, you know, before you wereborn, like I knit you together
in your mother's womb.
I gave you what you're going toneed to be successful and I go.
So if you really think thatgiving up your entire summer,
giving up all possible time youhave to do something else, is
the only way, here's the deal.
If it's going to be, it'll be,it will be Right.
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And again, I'm a huge proponentof working hard.
Speaker 1 (25:02):
And sport, like, yeah , you like sports.
A huge proponent.
Well, just with anything, right, it teaches you so much, right.
Speaker 2 (25:06):
Sharpen the saw, work hard you, whatever you're,
again the book of Ecclesiastes,whatever your hand finds to do
do with all your might right.
Work hard.
The soul of the slugger cravesand gets nothing Right.
The soul of the diligent isrichly supplied.
Work hard.
I'm all for hard work, but Isit here and go.
If all you are experiencing isthat one thing and your finances
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are going towards this onething, and your time is going
towards this one thing, and yourtime is going towards this one
thing, and you are so wrapped upin this one thing, you better
be beyond certain that this isgoing to pan out right because
you're wasting a lot of yourtime with that right instead of
going.
Hey, let's broaden this.
I go honestly, like we.
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You know our kids have doneeverything from horseback riding
to hunting, fishing, diving.
Speaker 1 (26:00):
Volleyball, softball football.
Speaker 2 (26:02):
Like we went, hey, like we want to give you.
Speaker 1 (26:04):
Every opportunity.
Speaker 2 (26:06):
To experience a vast range of things, and then that
way, you can sit here and go.
Okay, this is what I fell inlove with this is what I keep
coming back to, this is what itis for me, and then we can hone
in on that and I go because,again, I love my kids dearly and
(26:27):
support them in everything theydo, and maybe one of them will
be that one that makes it to theleague.
Speaker 1 (26:35):
Hopefully pays for their college, if that's what
they want to do.
Speaker 2 (26:39):
Right, but I sit here and go.
Speaker 1 (26:41):
I don't even know if my they may not even want to go
to college Right, right, right.
Speaker 2 (26:45):
You know, like I know , one of our kids goes back and
forth with that and, let's behonest, we're not those parents
that are sitting here going.
You have to go to college.
Speaker 1 (26:55):
And we're not those parents that are sitting here
going you have to go to college,no, and we're educators, which
is funny, right, but I go.
Speaker 2 (26:58):
I mean there are a lot of ways to make money in
this world.
Speaker 1 (27:00):
Go to a trade school.
Find that, don't require yougoing a hundred thousand dollars
in the day an entrepreneur dosomething right if college is
what you need to do, what youwant to do then you got to go,
do you?
Want to go be a sports medicinedoctor, you better go to school
.
Speaker 2 (27:11):
You know you're not gonna go earn some certificate
online and go work on people whyquacks exist, and that's what I
mean I go like, but we put somuch into that and there's so
much and you miss out on so muchin life, because your life
becomes that yes, and there'ssuch a I don't know.
Speaker 1 (27:30):
I would look at the mental strain.
That happens to kids too and itwears them down and you know
they just don't know how tofunction outside of that.
Speaker 2 (27:38):
And let your kid be a kid.
Yeah, you know like, yeah, dorec ball.
Do you know?
Do league ball, like.
But why sit here and go, hey,for the next six months, like,
here's your diet, here's yourprivate trainer, here's your
your diet, here's your privatetrainer, here's your like.
Because I'm gonna be honestsomething the vast majority of
(27:58):
you, 99.977 of you you'rewasting your money right I mean
even if you look at just goingfrom high school to pro or high
school to college, right, I meansix percent, so ninety four
(28:18):
percent of you are wasting yourmoney.
Speaker 1 (28:21):
Wow, that's crazy.
Speaker 2 (28:23):
Right.
Speaker 1 (28:24):
And again, just check yourself Is this for you, for
your dreams, for your memories?
Living?
Speaker 2 (28:30):
vicariously.
There's so many ways to makememories with your kids.
Yeah, Go in the water.
I mean, come on, that Memoriesliving vicariously, man.
There's so many ways to makememories with your kids.
Yeah, go in the water.
I mean, come on, that's myheart right Go snorkeling.
Speaker 1 (28:39):
I mean, we live in.
Speaker 2 (28:39):
Florida.
I can literally be in the waterevery day of the year.
Even with this cold winter wejust had, I can literally be in
the water every day of this year.
Yeah, you'll be fine and I go.
There are a billion differentways.
I just found a state park herein Florida that has a herd of
wild buffalo.
Oh, really, and I went.
(29:00):
Yep, I know where we're goingthis summer.
Speaker 1 (29:01):
Oh wow, that's fantastic.
Speaker 2 (29:04):
And it's down by the Everglades, so guess where it
all just connects, right.
Right.
And I go.
The other thing.
I mean think about it when itcomes to kids.
They're young once.
Speaker 1 (29:17):
Right.
Speaker 2 (29:18):
I look at our oldest now you know he's going to be 18
this year and I look at him andI go, man.
Speaker 1 (29:23):
My brain can't even wrap itself around that
sometimes Right.
We're old.
I just look at him, I go, Istill see my baby.
Speaker 2 (29:30):
But on the same hand I go all those memories like,
yeah, but on the same hand.
Speaker 1 (29:34):
I go all those memories Like yeah.
Speaker 2 (29:35):
I don't get to relive those you know like hey, you
want to climb on my hand?
Touch the ceiling.
Speaker 1 (29:40):
I was just thinking about that.
Go ahead, try to lift them out.
Speaker 2 (29:43):
I mean I could if I had to but like I could get them
out of a burning building.
Yeah, yeah.
Yeah, hand anymore, touch theceiling, daddy, let me touch the
(30:04):
ceiling, and that's what I mean, like, but we spend so much
time just focused on we gotpractice and got a tournament,
and we got this and we got thisand we got the.
When are you sitting here andgoing?
Hey, like, because we say thisis important with our words, but
what are you showing youractions?
Speaker 1 (30:10):
right, do you have family dinners together, do you
guys?
Spend quality time togetherright like.
Speaker 2 (30:16):
Miss a game here and there, miss a practice like no,
if you're gonna make acommitment, be committed, and
and that's a different, you knowthat's it, that's fine.
Speaker 1 (30:24):
You know how I feel about if you need a mental break
, go take a mental break Iunderstand that, but I also know
the lesson that goes with.
Hey, I made a commitment butyou and I have talked about your
lack of ability to restproperly oh, I get it so I get
it.
Speaker 2 (30:39):
I'll help you with that but like growing up, man,
you were sick, like you didn'tget all, like you didn't get out
of bed.
You were sick.
You were too sick to go toschool, you were too sick to go
play, like and I go, it's thesame thing, right, like I go.
But why do we put so much stockinto that?
Really stop and think aboutthose numbers and go.
(31:01):
Is the pace of your life worthit?
Speaker 1 (31:05):
right.
Your health, your strength,your energy, your kids health,
your, you know, family time,your marriage.
What's gonna wind?
Speaker 2 (31:10):
up happening is you're gonna wake up one day and
it's going to be done andinstead of going hey, I gave up
one day a week, you know, oneday on the weekend.
Speaker 1 (31:20):
And your kid may move on in life and be fine with all
those things.
But again, what are you goingto be left with now?
Like your kid might end upbeing fine?
Speaker 2 (31:28):
Well, I know some parents that are sitting here
going.
I'm going to be left with aretirement.
Speaker 1 (31:31):
Well, that's true.
Fingers crossed, Yep yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:36):
And you have a nine or a 0.023% of getting that done
.
You know how you have a hundredpercent retirement actually
work and save your money.
Speaker 1 (31:44):
Yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 2 (31:47):
So I go and, honestly , maybe your kid is going to be
the next MVP.
Yeah, who am I?
I don't know, I don't know.
Your kid is going to be thenext MVP.
Yeah, who am I?
I don't know, I don't know yourkid.
Speaker 1 (31:56):
But check your heart, check your thoughts, check your
mind, check the why.
Speaker 2 (32:00):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (32:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (32:03):
So until next week.
Hopefully this helped you.
Hopefully this gave yousomething to think about.
Hopefully you're sitting heregoing.
Am I missing out on life?
Could my life be better?
Speaker 1 (32:14):
Right.
Speaker 2 (32:14):
If I wasn't so obsessed with worshiping the
idol of my child or the idol ofsports, lost dreams or the idol
of sports, or whatever the casemay be.
But until then, we love you.
Speaker 1 (32:27):
Love you guys.
Speaker 2 (32:28):
Share the episode with someone and we can't wait
to talk to you again.
Bye.
Of course.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
Hello and welcome to another exciting episode of
Faith, family and Fishing.
Welcome.
We are a podcast aimed atrestoring family to any listener
.
That's a terrible whatever.
That's what it is.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
You know what it is Said, what we said so this
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episode is going to tackle Ithink what is one of the?
Speaker 2 (00:41):
biggest idols, especially here, you know, in
america, especially here inflorida.
Um, so let's just jump rightinto it, because there'll be
plenty to talk about this couldbe a multi-part let me start by
asking this is your child thenext league mvp?
Oh and, and I mean be honestthey might be right, they very
(01:05):
well could be but probablystatistically, because that's
what we're, that's what we'regoing to use to produce some
facts to go over this all right,so I'm going to talk a little
bit about like when I wasgrowing up, um.
For those of you that don't know, I played sports my entire life
, um, sports was a huge part ofmy life, so please don't take
this episode as bashing ortrashing or yeah, um, but one of
(01:31):
the things especially we'vetold our kids is this are you
playing the sport because it'sfun or are you playing it
because you think it's going totake you somewhere?
And I think there's a bigdifference between those two
things, as well as the phenomthat we see now.
(01:54):
I mean, you go to any ballpark,you know, and I'll tell you
guys from the get, go right outthe gate, baseball is going to
get picked on the most Baseball,softballball, pretty much same
thing, um, but any saturday andsunday you go to any ballpark
and you will literally seehundreds, if not thousands,
(02:16):
depending on how big the thetournament is right of young, Of
young athletes who no other wayto even say it have dedicated
their life Literally To a sport.
Yes, so to jump into that realquick, we're going to look at
(02:36):
some probability statistics.
Okay, I like statistics, so thefirst one is from Ohio State
University and I know I saidbaseball is going to get picked
on, but this one dealsspecifically with football.
All right.
And this is, like I said, fromOhio State University, the Ohio
State University.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
The Ohio State University.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
From their College of Public Health.
They did.
It's called Odds of High SchoolPlayers Going Pro.
This is not Little League Right.
This is not rec ball.
This is not Little League Right.
This is not rec ball.
This is not travel ball.
This is you are on a highschool team, your chances of
going pro for football, which isthe most popular sport in the
(03:17):
United States.
Okay, all right, the next statsI get into.
I'll break down that.
But football is by far the mostpopular sport in the united
states.
Okay, um, so this information isfrom 2016, so understand these
numbers are are a little bitbigger right now, okay, um, but
(03:38):
in 2016 there were a total of1,083,308 participants in high
school football.
Wow, now that counts alldivisions, but that's how many
there were.
Okay.
Of that, of that 1,083,308,73,660 went on to play in
(04:05):
college.
Oh okay, Not even 10%.
That is 6.8% of all high schoolathletes.
Okay, of those 73,660, 251 wenton to play professional.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
Wow, wow.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
So less than 1%, isn't it?
Of total high school players,it is 0.023% Wow.
That's crazy.
It's not even a whole percent,yeah.
Like we are talking about 251out of a million.
Wow Okay.
I mean, even if you look atjust going from college to
(04:55):
professional, I mean you'retalking about 251 out of 73,000.
Yeah, I mean, that's only twoand a half percent.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
Gosh Roughly, I mean mean it's not exactly right I go
like the odds of that it's alot of slimming up playing to
only have 251.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
So so remember that 0.023.
Okay, now we're going to gothrough other sports.
All right, these aren't as well.
Broke down, um, and this one isfrom baseballwebcom, so high
school athletes.
All right it that was anotherone.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
That was my thumb, sure it was well.
See, look, I did it again.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
Oh gosh, how hey I wanted to do how to fart in bed
you did.
Okay, that's true um, anyway,all right.
So this is high school athletes.
For basketball, there are 549000.
For baseball, there are 455,300.
You ready?
Speaker 1 (06:05):
Yep.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
For football there are 983,600.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
Wow, that's huge.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
So when I go, hey, football is the most popular
sport it is.
I mean you're talking aboutalmost doubling.
You are double baseball Anyway.
So if you play other sports youdo have a higher percentage
because there's fewer kids Rightso.
So for basketball, all right,you have a point zero, three
(06:36):
percent of going from highschool to the pros.
And baseball, you have a pointfive percent.
Wow.
Of going from high school to thepros.
All right Now, I say all ofthat because it is very apparent
as we look at family.
Sorry, it is very apparentthere is a religion.
(07:01):
Oh yeah.
And it is sports.
Speaker 3 (07:05):
Uh huh, is a religion ?
Oh yeah, and it is sports, uhhuh.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
However, when you mathematically break down the
probability of your child,specifically, specifically and
and I'm not saying you don'thave a phenom you might have a
right right.
But when you mathematicallybreak down that probability, you
are talking about such minutenumbers.
I mean, when you're sittinghere going out of a million
(07:30):
players, 251 of them are goingto make it to the league, right,
and even when you look at that251, how many of them are making
that into a career, right?
You know especially and I'mgoing to talk about football a
lot because that's what I grewup playing, I mean football and
baseball, track weightlifting,but football was like my primary
(07:50):
right right how many are goingto make that a career?
because it only takes one hitone injury willis mcgahee.
I'll never forget it.
2000 or or 2001,.
Somewhere in there, the U rightUniversity of Miami.
He's playing in the BCSchampionship.
(08:11):
Willis McGahee is projected togo first round.
He was a running back for theUniversity of Miami Is projected
to go first round.
He's sitting here looking downmillions of dollars of contracts
right.
Just one of the best players inthe nation.
Definitely going to be one ofthose 251 players.
Right, it's towards the end ofthe game.
(08:34):
Miami has this huge lead.
Willis McGahee is running downthe sideline.
A cornerback came running in,dove, hit him in the leg, busted
his knee.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
Oh, my God.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
Now he winds up getting surgery.
He winds up going later in thedraft.
He does wind up getting draftedby a team, but he was never the
same.
Speaker 1 (09:03):
Ever, Same thing with Bo Jackson.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
Well, yeah, but yes and no.
But he was like.
He was like.
Bo Jackson could have arguablygone down as one of the greatest
athletes to ever play any sport.
But his longevity was cut shortbecause of one tackle baseball.
I mean even because because Iget it football's a violent
(09:28):
sport, like I get it.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
But even if you look at baseball, you tear a rotor
cuff right rotator cuff whateverrotors are cars and you've been
working on the car, oh you knowyou, you trip over.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
I mean there's been players that have tripped over a
base toward their acl yeahright and and it's like, oh, I'm
done right and I go, and yet weput so much stock into this.
I mean, think about it.
We know personally families wehave been that family that every
(10:03):
minute you have of spare timeis given to practice, to a
tournament, to something, not tocount the amount of money that
gets spent Time.
So yeah, I, I mean growing upmy sister did travel ball, um,
so every summer, every weekend,my mom and my sister were gone
(10:26):
right, it was hotels and intournaments and and all of this
stuff.
And I go, and again, for what?
Speaker 1 (10:35):
right, and I think people have a hard time when
they say for what they're like,well for the kids, Right, but
for what?
At what cost?
Because it doesn't only.
It's not just that particularkid.
You have other kids that arebeing impacted by it.
I mean, and you know you and Ihave had conversations with kids
that have been impacted by it,you know there's siblings, well,
even our kids, yeah, yes, andthat's what I'm going to do,
(10:57):
cause I don't want to shameanyone.
No, like I mean, we've had thosehard conversations.
The Holy Spirit can be your.
Right your guide.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
Right, but but like, even with our family, you know,
we've had our over and over andover.
Hey, like we can do this, butunderstand saying yes to this is
saying no to that yeah, it'ssaying no to everything else.
(11:24):
So you know, surfing and andpaddleboarding and and all of
the other things we dounderstand that's going to be a
no right because of this evenwhen JT played football.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
I mean there were times, at one time we had to
drive to Lakanto.
I mean we, you know a schoolnight you know, we have plans
and we're gonna go do stuff andit's like oh, he's got it you
know, found out that day and itwasn't a scheduled game, right?
Speaker 2 (11:51):
so, everyone, this is a three hour drive, three hours
right.
Speaker 1 (11:55):
So it impacts everybody, and you, I, I don't
think I know for me.
I know as far as our kids go.
Like one child may have feltneglected because all the time
attention and resources weregoing to the other child and I'm
glad.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
I'm glad you brought that up, okay, because I want to
talk about that, because let'stalk about the flip side of it.
So, like my family, we were asports right.
You had to pick something, youhad to do something.
My mom, you know, did anamazing job of going.
Hey, if you have too much sparetime on your hands you're just
gonna get in trouble um, and I,and I agree with that.
(12:35):
I understand that idle mind isthe devil's playground but on
the flip side, you know me andyou have had conversations where
you're like I look back and go.
I wish I would have played, oryou know, at least played a
sport, something weightlifting,um, and I go when we look at the
(12:57):
two sides of that same coin.
Right, you know, you sit hereand go.
You can overdo something justas much as you can underdo
something.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
Right, I think they should be doing some thing,
maybe not necessarily sports, ifthat's not their thing, but
they should have some activitythat is growing their interest
and, you know, encouraging that,something, something.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
I agree, but I go.
They shouldn't have just oneactivity.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
No, because what happens when that activity is
over?
What happens after that injury?
What happens when that season's?
Done what happens when yougraduate, you don't get a
scholarship, you don't go pro.
What is happening to themmentally?
Because there is.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
You put all your eggs in one basket.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
There is going to be.
There will be something afterthat's going to, and we've seen
it, we've talked to people, youknow they had no idea what to do
with their life because theirentire life, as the world was
going around around them, all itwas was the sport.
So then they didn't know whatto do.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
To even branch out from that.
You know, I've talked with alot of married couples right
where their whole marriage wasgeared around raising children.
Yes, and then the children moveaway and it's like they don't
even know each other becausethey didn't take time during
their marriage to date.
(14:14):
One another right, you know, itwas just like hey, you know, we
got married, we had kids, andthen, 18 years later, here we
are going.
You know, 20 years later,whatever you know, here we are
going.
Um, do we even have anything incommon?
right you know, and it is thesame thing like parents today,
(14:34):
families today, one of thethings I see is like you want to
be so specialized mm-hmmbecause that's what everyone's
doing, and I get it.
You're just trying to give yourkid that extra edge up you know,
and I and I go and I understandthat, but but understand, like,
what happens when that doesn'twork out right?
What happens when, for me, forinstance, mm-hmm.
(14:55):
Honestly, I hit going into mysenior year of high school and I
was like I don't want to dothis anymore and I was
completely lost because what todo everything I had done up to
that point was to prepare forcontinuing to, to play right.
So when I decided I don't wantto do this anymore, I was like,
(15:19):
okay, who am I?
I remember, after I, after Iquit football, um, I went to one
game.
Um, since that, yeah, yeah, youdon't really watch it, and and
I went like sitting in thestands looking at the sidelines,
seeing all my former teammatesand going this sucks.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:42):
Like who am I now?
Speaker 1 (15:44):
Yeah, that really impacted you.
Speaker 2 (15:45):
And yeah, I mean it took me a couple of years to
like bring my identity over andfind out that there was more
than just the athlete, right,because up to that point, that's
all I was was that athlete.
And then you know, so it did.
It took me years to go, okay,well, who am I now that I'm not
(16:07):
an athlete?
Speaker 1 (16:08):
Right.
Speaker 2 (16:08):
Now that I'm not on the team, now that I'm not, you
know, doing that.
Right.
Who am I now?
That right?
Who am I now?
And and I go, and that's whereI would really caution a lot of
parents um to take a step not tonot do no, no but take a step
back and go.
Okay, for starters, one are youtrying to live your dreams,
(16:32):
like through your child?
Are you sitting here and going?
Hey, I could have went to theleague or I remember how much
fun I had.
Speaker 1 (16:40):
So I'm going to.
I want you to have that muchfun.
Are you putting something onthem that they can't carry, a
weight that they can't bear, andthen you're actually doing
damage in the long run right.
Taking it back to even a deeperlevel.
You know if you're.
How many times have we talkedto people and I mean, you know
what it's like.
I can't.
I can't attend church per se.
(17:01):
We have a tournament everyweekend.
I can't come to the wednesdayservice.
My kids can't do youth group.
My kid whatever right, I go.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
What?
Because again saying yes tothis?
Speaker 1 (17:10):
is saying no to that right so, and and there are some
families that are sportsfamilies, that they do bible
study on the road, they dolisten to church online, like
they do what they can to to youknow what they can um.
There are families that youknow love jesus and do all the
things um, but that's typicallynot what happens no, it's not
(17:34):
because that that things have toget put to the side and put
away for you to focus on thesport.
Speaker 2 (17:41):
And honestly, that is the biggest thing right, you're
fine Is what is your priority,what's your goal?
What's the end game?
You know, in Matthew 633, jesussays seek first the kingdom of
God, and all these things willbe added to you and for most of
us, we look at that as apriority list.
Okay, so first is Jesus, secondis, you know, my spouse third
(18:05):
is my kids my you know, and soon.
That's not what Jesus is sayingReally.
What he's saying is seek me,don't worry about everything
else.
Speaker 1 (18:21):
Right, I'll fill in all the gaps.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
Right Like, seek me first, don't worry about all
this.
Speaker 1 (18:26):
Does this?
Speaker 2 (18:27):
Because if you look at the verses right before that,
that's what he's talking about,right Like even the lilies of
the field even though they'rejust grass, are they not as
splendid as Solomon field?
Even though they're just grass,are they not as splendid?
As.
Solomon, you know the, the, themost rich king to ever have
lived it.
Are they not more splendid thanthat?
Look at the birds of the air,right, does not the father feed
(18:47):
them?
See, we get wrapped up in, youknow.
And really, that's what boilsdown to is it's a lack of faith,
it's a lack of trust, it's alack of sitting here and going,
god's going to take care of meand it's sitting here and going
and I and I go.
What are you saying to your kidwhen you're like hey, this is
the, this is the one thing.
So what happens when that onething?
(19:08):
Goes away right what happenswhen they're not one of those
251 players that get.
What happens when?
Speaker 1 (19:15):
they go.
I really just don't want to dothis anymore.
I'm tired, right.
I just want to hang out with myfriends.
Speaker 2 (19:20):
I want to whatever and I go, and yet you've put all
your faith, all your hope, allyour trust into this one thing
and that idol is going to letyou down right.
Speaker 1 (19:31):
That pedestal is going to drop right and it's
going to be messy and and and.
Speaker 2 (19:37):
Yeah, they could become one of those 251 players,
absolutely, 100%.
You know they could become theleague MVP.
Yeah, maybe.
And I mean, do you really wantto roll the dice on that, though
?
Right, like, and when they areso sucked into this one thing
that they don't even experienceanything else?
Speaker 1 (19:57):
There are people that are doing a disservice.
They don't go on familyvacations because they have to
go to the tournament.
So again, I do go.
Look at the other siblings andI go.
Speaker 2 (20:04):
Your other kids are paying for this as well, in a
different way depending on maybe, yes, you know, um, I know for
me, like when my mom and mysister you know, because by that
point in our life, it was justme and my younger sister at the
(20:24):
house.
So when my mom and my youngersister would go to these
tournaments a lot of times, thatwould give me and my dad, you
know time, just me and him, andjust like when you go shrimping,
which would always which wouldalways turn into, yeah, us doing
work around the house I have uhthe girls and I have a girls
night right so yeah, sure, thereare things that come up, of
(20:46):
course well, I don't, but I justwant to say I don't want to
like bash.
Speaker 1 (20:49):
I mean I go, I get it .
Speaker 2 (20:51):
I'm just saying be aware, yes pay attention, see if
there's anything that you'remissing because you are, because
saying yes to this is saying noto everything else.
Right, and that goes for anyfishing.
For me now, right, like I go,you know I I take people fishing
and and a lot of times, likeyou know, especially when I'm
taking a dad and their kids out,you know you're on the way back
(21:15):
and and you know the dad's like, oh man, like this was so much
fun, this was so relaxing rightand then next they're, you know,
shooting you a text.
Hey, you know, I'm getting myfirst fishing pole.
Like which pole should I get?
What you know and all of this,and you can see, oh, like you
now have this brand new thing inyour life that you would have
never experienced because youwere so locked in to everything
(21:39):
else going on right in um, sevenhabits of highly effective
people.
Right, steven covey is, is in,uh, the chapter.
I'm trying to remember whichhabit it goes to, but, um, and
then, of course, off the top ofmy head, i'm'm going to forget.
Does it be proactive?
Begin with the end of mind.
Begin with the end of mind.
Um, you know he gives theillustration of climbing.
(22:02):
You know spending all this timeclimbing the ladder you know
the corporate ladder only to getto the top and realize you're
on the wrong wall.
Speaker 1 (22:08):
Right and, and I go that one hit me like a ton of
bricks.
Speaker 2 (22:12):
I remember when, when you were reading it, and then I
read the book and I was like,oh, yeah, oh my, because it was
like you know things in our lifestarted shifting yeah, you, you
get to the top and you're like,oh, this ain't even where I
wanted to be um, I had a buddyyou know he got.
He got a scholarship to go playum at a school and you know, I
(22:33):
think he was gone like two orthree weeks and then next thing,
you know, he was back and wewere like, oh, you guys like on
break or like you know what'shappening, and he's like man,
you don't understand.
Like when you go to college,you know, when you go to that
next level, it's different.
He's like man, you live withthe football team, you eat with
the football team, you go toclass with the football team
(22:54):
like everything revolves aroundfootball.
You're up in the morning doingworkouts.
You're going to class.
You're you're watching film,you're, you know, you're you're
hitting a workout.
You're like everything revolvesaround football.
He's like man, I just right, hegot to the top of that wall and
was like this is not what Iwanted this is not the wall I
wanted to be on and, and youknow again, you know, for all of
(23:19):
all of us out here that go, ohwell, you know, from the time
they walk, they got to starttraining, right, I mean,
honestly, I went to school withone of those 251 players, right,
like you know, my freshman yearhe was a senior.
Um, one of the kids on thefootball team wound up going and
playing um for the browns andthen for the bucks, wound up
winning a super bowl like uh,went to the pro bowl a couple
(23:42):
times, um, you know he was oneof those he was one of those 251
players.
yeah, he didn't even startplaying the game, though, until
he was in ninth grade.
So I go, here's the deal.
Like, like, take someone likeShaq, right, dude, you're seven,
four, 320 pounds, you're goingto make it.
You're a basketball player.
Like, what else can you do?
You know the big show.
(24:03):
Okay, he's a wrestler, and Iknow that's not what we were
talking about, but you take thebig show again.
Speaker 1 (24:09):
You're going to do something.
Speaker 2 (24:14):
You're seven, four 350 pounds like, or 450 pounds.
You know he was a used carsalesman and they were like this
ain't for you.
Like you know, he's sittinghere going.
I hated it because we go onthese test drives and I wouldn't
be able to fit in the car youknow, and, and, but I liked
being around people.
I like performing.
I like you know, and, and, loand behold, becomes a wrestler
right right I go if we look atpsalm 139 and we see, before you
(24:37):
were, you know, before you wereborn, like I knit you together
in your mother's womb.
I gave you what you're going toneed to be successful and I go.
So if you really think thatgiving up your entire summer,
giving up all possible time youhave to do something else, is
the only way, here's the deal.
If it's going to be, it'll be,it will be Right.
(24:59):
And again, I'm a huge proponentof working hard.
Speaker 1 (25:02):
And sport, like, yeah , you like sports.
A huge proponent.
Well, just with anything, right, it teaches you so much, right.
Speaker 2 (25:06):
Sharpen the saw, work hard you, whatever you're,
again the book of Ecclesiastes,whatever your hand finds to do
do with all your might right.
Work hard.
The soul of the slugger cravesand gets nothing Right.
The soul of the diligent isrichly supplied.
Work hard.
I'm all for hard work, but Isit here and go.
If all you are experiencing isthat one thing and your finances
(25:31):
are going towards this onething, and your time is going
towards this one thing, and yourtime is going towards this one
thing, and you are so wrapped upin this one thing, you better
be beyond certain that this isgoing to pan out right because
you're wasting a lot of yourtime with that right instead of
going.
Hey, let's broaden this.
I go honestly, like we.
(25:52):
You know our kids have doneeverything from horseback riding
to hunting, fishing, diving.
Speaker 1 (26:00):
Volleyball, softball football.
Speaker 2 (26:02):
Like we went, hey, like we want to give you.
Speaker 1 (26:04):
Every opportunity.
Speaker 2 (26:06):
To experience a vast range of things, and then that
way, you can sit here and go.
Okay, this is what I fell inlove with this is what I keep
coming back to, this is what itis for me, and then we can hone
in on that and I go because,again, I love my kids dearly and
(26:27):
support them in everything theydo, and maybe one of them will
be that one that makes it to theleague.
Speaker 1 (26:35):
Hopefully pays for their college, if that's what
they want to do.
Speaker 2 (26:39):
Right, but I sit here and go.
Speaker 1 (26:41):
I don't even know if my they may not even want to go
to college Right, right, right.
Speaker 2 (26:45):
You know, like I know , one of our kids goes back and
forth with that and, let's behonest, we're not those parents
that are sitting here going.
You have to go to college.
Speaker 1 (26:55):
And we're not those parents that are sitting here
going you have to go to college,no, and we're educators, which
is funny, right, but I go.
Speaker 2 (26:58):
I mean there are a lot of ways to make money in
this world.
Speaker 1 (27:00):
Go to a trade school.
Find that, don't require yougoing a hundred thousand dollars
in the day an entrepreneur dosomething right if college is
what you need to do, what youwant to do then you got to go,
do you?
Want to go be a sports medicinedoctor, you better go to school
.
Speaker 2 (27:11):
You know you're not gonna go earn some certificate
online and go work on people whyquacks exist, and that's what I
mean I go like, but we put somuch into that and there's so
much and you miss out on so muchin life, because your life
becomes that yes, and there'ssuch a I don't know.
Speaker 1 (27:30):
I would look at the mental strain.
That happens to kids too and itwears them down and you know
they just don't know how tofunction outside of that.
Speaker 2 (27:38):
And let your kid be a kid.
Yeah, you know like, yeah, dorec ball.
Do you know?
Do league ball, like.
But why sit here and go, hey,for the next six months, like,
here's your diet, here's yourprivate trainer, here's your
your diet, here's your privatetrainer, here's your like.
Because I'm gonna be honestsomething the vast majority of
(27:58):
you, 99.977 of you you'rewasting your money right I mean
even if you look at just goingfrom high school to pro or high
school to college, right, I meansix percent, so ninety four
(28:18):
percent of you are wasting yourmoney.
Speaker 1 (28:21):
Wow, that's crazy.
Speaker 2 (28:23):
Right.
Speaker 1 (28:24):
And again, just check yourself Is this for you, for
your dreams, for your memories?
Living?
Speaker 2 (28:30):
vicariously.
There's so many ways to makememories with your kids.
Yeah, Go in the water.
I mean, come on, that Memoriesliving vicariously, man.
There's so many ways to makememories with your kids.
Yeah, go in the water.
I mean, come on, that's myheart right Go snorkeling.
Speaker 1 (28:39):
I mean, we live in.
Speaker 2 (28:39):
Florida.
I can literally be in the waterevery day of the year.
Even with this cold winter wejust had, I can literally be in
the water every day of this year.
Yeah, you'll be fine and I go.
There are a billion differentways.
I just found a state park herein Florida that has a herd of
wild buffalo.
Oh, really, and I went.
(29:00):
Yep, I know where we're goingthis summer.
Speaker 1 (29:01):
Oh wow, that's fantastic.
Speaker 2 (29:04):
And it's down by the Everglades, so guess where it
all just connects, right.
Right.
And I go.
The other thing.
I mean think about it when itcomes to kids.
They're young once.
Speaker 1 (29:17):
Right.
Speaker 2 (29:18):
I look at our oldest now you know he's going to be 18
this year and I look at him andI go, man.
Speaker 1 (29:23):
My brain can't even wrap itself around that
sometimes Right.
We're old.
I just look at him, I go, Istill see my baby.
Speaker 2 (29:30):
But on the same hand I go all those memories like,
yeah, but on the same hand.
Speaker 1 (29:34):
I go all those memories Like yeah.
Speaker 2 (29:35):
I don't get to relive those you know like hey, you
want to climb on my hand?
Touch the ceiling.
Speaker 1 (29:40):
I was just thinking about that.
Go ahead, try to lift them out.
Speaker 2 (29:43):
I mean I could if I had to but like I could get them
out of a burning building.
Yeah, yeah.
Yeah, hand anymore, touch theceiling, daddy, let me touch the
(30:04):
ceiling, and that's what I mean, like, but we spend so much
time just focused on we gotpractice and got a tournament,
and we got this and we got thisand we got the.
When are you sitting here andgoing?
Hey, like, because we say thisis important with our words, but
what are you showing youractions?
Speaker 1 (30:10):
right, do you have family dinners together, do you
guys?
Spend quality time togetherright like.
Speaker 2 (30:16):
Miss a game here and there, miss a practice like no,
if you're gonna make acommitment, be committed, and
and that's a different, you knowthat's it, that's fine.
Speaker 1 (30:24):
You know how I feel about if you need a mental break
, go take a mental break Iunderstand that, but I also know
the lesson that goes with.
Hey, I made a commitment butyou and I have talked about your
lack of ability to restproperly oh, I get it so I get
it.
Speaker 2 (30:39):
I'll help you with that but like growing up, man,
you were sick, like you didn'tget all, like you didn't get out
of bed.
You were sick.
You were too sick to go toschool, you were too sick to go
play, like and I go, it's thesame thing, right, like I go.
But why do we put so much stockinto that?
Really stop and think aboutthose numbers and go.
(31:01):
Is the pace of your life worthit?
Speaker 1 (31:05):
right.
Your health, your strength,your energy, your kids health,
your, you know, family time,your marriage.
What's gonna wind?
Speaker 2 (31:10):
up happening is you're gonna wake up one day and
it's going to be done andinstead of going hey, I gave up
one day a week, you know, oneday on the weekend.
Speaker 1 (31:20):
And your kid may move on in life and be fine with all
those things.
But again, what are you goingto be left with now?
Like your kid might end upbeing fine?
Speaker 2 (31:28):
Well, I know some parents that are sitting here
going.
I'm going to be left with aretirement.
Speaker 1 (31:31):
Well, that's true.
Fingers crossed, Yep yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:36):
And you have a nine or a 0.023% of getting that done
.
You know how you have a hundredpercent retirement actually
work and save your money.
Speaker 1 (31:44):
Yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 2 (31:47):
So I go and, honestly , maybe your kid is going to be
the next MVP.
Yeah, who am I?
I don't know, I don't know.
Your kid is going to be thenext MVP.
Yeah, who am I?
I don't know, I don't know yourkid.
Speaker 1 (31:56):
But check your heart, check your thoughts, check your
mind, check the why.
Speaker 2 (32:00):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (32:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (32:03):
So until next week.
Hopefully this helped you.
Hopefully this gave yousomething to think about.
Hopefully you're sitting heregoing.
Am I missing out on life?
Could my life be better?
Speaker 1 (32:14):
Right.
Speaker 2 (32:14):
If I wasn't so obsessed with worshiping the
idol of my child or the idol ofsports, lost dreams or the idol
of sports, or whatever the casemay be.
But until then, we love you.
Speaker 1 (32:27):
Love you guys.
Speaker 2 (32:28):
Share the episode with someone and we can't wait
to talk to you again.
Bye.
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