Feminist Wellness

Ever have that moment where you realize you've been living your entire life for everyone else? You’re not alone, and you’re not broken. You’ve just been emotionally outsourcing.

In this book series bonus, I name the pattern, share why it develops, and explain how it shapes everything from your relationships to your sense of self. And I’ll tell you how my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing, can help you start coming home to yourself...

It's my birthday month, and I'm doing what any Leo Somatics nerd with a microphone and a brand new book would do. I'm giving you the gifts.

If you pre-order End Emotional Outsourcing by August 18th, 2025, you're automatically entered to win a 30-minute, one-on-one coaching session with moi, not publicly available. Bring your most tangled thought habits, your most scrunched up somatics. Or, a 90-minute breathwork session to help you...

#337: Money shapes more than just our bank accounts - it touches how we show up in relationships, how we value ourselves, and whether we feel secure enough to set boundaries with those who support us financially.

This week, I sit down with financial therapist and author of Feel-Good Finance: Untangle Your Relationship with Money for Better Mental, Emotional, and Financial Well-Being, Aja Evans, to explore the intersection of money a...

For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning.

You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come togeth...

#336: Modern friendship isn't what it used to be. We're navigating a world where identity is more complex, where we have unlimited choice in who we befriend, and where the burden of maintaining connections falls entirely on our individual shoulders. 

Friendship expert, speaker, journalist, and author of Modern Friendship: How to Nurture Our Most Valued Connections, Anna Goldfarb, also known as "The Friendship Explainer," reveal...

#335: This week, I’m joined by Human Design Expert, Master Coach, Behavioral Specialist, and host of The Human Design Podcast, Emma Dunwoody. Emma shares her personal journey from a diagnosis of lifelong mental illness to becoming a Human Design expert, and how this system helped her understand not just her behaviors, but the energetic blueprint underneath them all.

Join us as we explore Human Design as a synthesis of four ancient w...

#334: Have you ever looked at your life - your career, relationships, achievements - and wondered why success doesn't feel as fulfilling as you thought it would? You’re not alone. Through the relentless pursuit of more, many of us have unknowingly built ourselves beautiful cages instead of the freedom we were seeking.

In this week's powerful episode, I sit down with certified executive coach, speaker, and author Keren Eldad to discu...

#333: The phrase "no one is coming to save you" gets thrown around social media like gospel truth, wrapped in empowerment packaging that sounds like it should light a fire under you.

Maybe it even worked for a moment when you needed to snap awake and take charge of your own life. But there's something deeply problematic lurking beneath this seemingly motivational message.

Join me this week as I unpack why this messaging is parti...

#332: This episode is for the folks who look like they've got it together, who've checked most of the boxes: the career, the home, the relationships. You're productive, responsible, kind, maybe even the one people come to for help. But when it's quiet, really quiet, there's this persistent low buzz of disconnection.

This week, I want you to know that you don't need to earn your healing or wait for a crisis to change. You’ll hear why...

I had the most amazing conversation with Busayo Ayodele, who was in Anchored last year, and I just couldn’t wait to share it.

We had such a fun conversation, and everything she shared about her experience was just so inspiring, so moving, made my heart feel so explode-y. The way Busayo grew in Anchored is everything I dream of. It's the reason why I built Anchored.

So, in case you’re thinking, “I can’t change. I will never stop liv...

#331: After over a decade of coaching women through codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits, I'm seeing a heartbreaking pattern: the people who most need community support and nervous system regulation are talking themselves out of the very programs designed to help them.

Whether it's the fear of being a burden, worrying you'll fall into old patterns of over-functioning, or believing you need to fix yourself before de...

#330: If you've ever found yourself constantly scanning other people's faces for approval, shapeshifting to keep the peace, or feeling completely disconnected from what you actually want, this episode is for you.

You might call this people-pleasing or being too sensitive, but something much more profound is going on here: you’re living with emotional outsourcing.

Tune in this week as I break down how emotional outsourcing develo...

#329: This week, I sit down with Carey Cramer, an Anchored program alum, to explore their transformative journey through attachment healing and relational growth.

Over the past two and a half years since completing the program, Carey has developed a completely new way of showing up in relationships - one marked by presence, trust, and authentic connection.

Through our conversation, Carey shares how the combination of thought wor...

#328: Do you struggle to make decisions, not because you're unsure of your desires, but because you're constantly weighing everyone else's?

This isn't just indecision; it's emotional outsourcing, a pattern where we disconnect from our own authentic wants in favor of what others expect.

Tune in this week as I share how, through practical somatic practices and nervous system work, we can begin reconnecting with our authentic desir...

#327: Imagine cutting veggies after a long day when your partner bursts in venting about their coworker. You care deeply, but right now, your shoulders tense, your jaw locks, and you're just not available – though you never say so. Instead, you nod, make the right noises, and count the seconds until it ends. Later, you're both left feeling vaguely disconnected, with a subtle rupture hanging in the air between you.

This disconnection...

#326: Have you ever felt that sharp sting of resentment when watching someone set a boundary with ease or embrace their imperfections without shame? That irritation you feel might be pointing to something deeper – the very freedoms you deny yourself every day.

Join me this week to learn how our childhood pain shapes patterns that masquerade as virtues, making them nearly impossible to detect without compassionate awareness. You’ll l...

#325: How often do you find yourself seeking validation from others, feeling like your worth depends on what they think of you? 

I recently had a fascinating conversation with Abbie Attwood, an anti-diet, fat-positive, weight-inclusive nutritionist whose practice is grounded in self-compassion and intuitive approaches to healing relationships with food, movement, and body image. In this episode, we dive into what I call emotion...

#324: Have you ever wondered what it's like to break free from emotional outsourcing patterns that keep you stuck in life?

Today, I'm joined by Paula Greenwood, an Anchored alum who shares her transformative journey from feeling trapped in negative thought loops to creating a life aligned with her true passions. 

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/324

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