Telling the Truth Isn't Enough

We’ve all heard the phrase “honesty is the best policy.” But after betrayal, many couples find that simply telling the truth doesn’t always bring the healing they hoped for. In fact, sometimes the way truth is shared causes even more pain, confusion, and distance.

In this episode of From Crisis to Connection, Geoff and Jody explore why truth on its own isn’t enough to rebuild trust—and how it must be paired with safety, accountability, and compassion to actually repair a relationship.

You’ll hear:

• Why the way truth is shared can do more harm than good

• How betrayed partners experience “cold truth” that destabilizes rather than heals

• Why recovering partners often confuse telling their story with telling the truth

• How structure, timing, and accountability create safer truth-telling

• Why full healing requires equal ground, where both partners know the same truth

Geoff and Jody unpack the tension between the betrayed partner’s right to know and the recovering partner’s responsibility to share honestly and safely. You’ll learn why disclosure must be structured—not controlled—and how thoughtful truth-telling becomes the foundation for rebuilding trust.

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Join the Courageous Together™ Program

Courageous Together™ isn’t just another course, it’s a trauma-informed roadmap that holds both of you in the healing process. If you’ve ever wondered “Where do we even start?” After betrayal, this program gives you the clarity and structure you need. It meets the betrayed partner’s need for safety while guiding the recovering partner toward real accountability, creating a path forward that neither of you has to figure out on your own.

You’ll have access to:

• A structured healing framework with step-by-step guidance

• Video lessons and worksheets to build safety, accountability, and connection

• The option to join live group circles and support calls with me

• A private, secure community of others walking the same path

Learn more and join us inside Courageous Together: www.geoffsteurer.com/courageous-together

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About Geoff Steurer

I am a licensed marriage and family therapist and Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS) with 25+ years of experience helping individuals and couples heal from the devastation of sexual betrayal and broken trust. I am the founder of the Courageous Together program, co-host of the From Crisis to Connection podcast, and co-author of Love You, Hate the Porn. My work integrates trauma-informed care, attachment theory, and practical tools for creating lasting safety and connection. I’ve been married to my wife, Jody, since 1996 and we are the parents of four children.

About Jody Steurer

Jody is the co-host of the From Crisis to Connection podcast, where she brings her thoughtful, common-sense perspective to conversations about healing, trust, and connection. She earned her bachelor’s degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA-certified coach. Jody has years of experience in corporate training, small business leadership, and family life, and raisin