Today we’re talking about one of my favorite topics — what it really means to connect, collaborate, and let go of control as our kids grow into themselves as they enter the transformative teen years. My guest is Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart, a pediatric psychologist and parent coach who helps overwhelmed parents raise confident, emotionally healthy kids and teens, and the author of the brand new book, Love the Teen You Have: A Practical Guide to Transforming Conflict Into Connection. In our conversation, Ann-Louise shares insights from her book and offers a powerful reframing of what it means to parent through the teen years. We talk about shifting from control to curiosity—especially when raising neurodivergent kids—along with individuation, cognitive dissonance, and why living a fulfilling life as a parent is one of the best ways to model healthy behaviors for our teens. She also reminds us that it’s never too late to repair, reconnect, and love the teen we have right now.
About Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart
Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart is a pediatric psychologist, parent coach, speaker, and author who helps overwhelmed parents raise confident, emotionally healthy kids and teens. As the founder of A New Day Pediatric Psychology, she empowers families to move from chaos to connection using practical tools rooted in clinical expertise and real-life parenting. She is the author of an upcoming book launching October 28, 2025 titled, Love the Teen You Have: A Practical Guide to Transforming Conflict Into Connection. She has been featured in The New York Times, Parents, HuffPost, and on The Today Show. Her dynamic, relatable style has made her a trusted voice for parents nationwide.
Things you'll learn from this episode
Why it’s never too late to repair and rebuild connection with your teen
How curiosity helps parents better understand what’s really driving their teen’s behavior
Why focusing on connection over control leads to stronger, more trusting relationships
How individuation is a healthy and necessary part of adolescence for both teens and parents
Why modeling a fulfilling, authentic life can positively influence your child’s growth
How resetting expectations and embracing collaboration can transform communication and repair past ruptures
Resources mentioned
Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart’s author website
Love the Teen You Have: A Practical Guide to Transforming Conflict Into Connection by Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart
A New Day Pediatric Psychology (Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart’s practice)
Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart on Instagram
Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart on Facebook
Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart’s YouTube channel
Chris Voss & The Art of Negotiation (Masterclass)
Lighthouse Parenting: Raising your Child with Loving Guidance for an Enduring Bond by Dr. Ken Ginsburg
Maggie Dent on How to Parent, Love & Support Today’s Teens (Full-Tilt Parenting)
Education Leader Chris Balme on Navigating the Tricky Middle School Years (Full-Tilt Parenting)
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