In today's episode of God, Sex, and Money, Raul and Vivian talk about the importance of knowing why you want to either start a marriage or a business, and making sure if it's for the right reasons. Finding the good in all the pain you experience in life and praying to become a stronger person in life. Raul and Vivian speak from experiences, not to tell you what to do, and hope you take awareness from the topics they mention.
Topic: Why do you want to start a business or marriage? Pain is strength.
(4:35) Why do you want to be an entrepreneur? If it's because you want more freedom, or you want to be your own boss it's the wrong reason. In reality you won't have freedom you have to invest money and all of your time. If you don't have the right mindset going into the business, and journey of being an entrepreneur you will fail. (5:22) People think your marriage will change for the better, you think you’ll have more time for each other. But it won’t you have to realize how much time and work it will take. (5:44) Business is not a fairytale, a glamorous lifestyle isn't always reality.
When you go from an expensive lifestyle to something you're not used to it causes a mental shift. (6:03) Losing all your money as an entrepreneur is not uncommon. If you make the money as an entrepreneur it always goes up and down the market shifts, you take risks, and if you don't have the stomach or wisdom for it you'll fail. (6:38) When men lose in business they beat themselves up, and when they go home and your partner beats you down it hurts your ego. It kills your relationships, health, and self-esteem. (7:40) When you're in a relationship and you lose money your partner isn't waiting for the money to comeback, they're waiting for you and your purpose to be fulfilled. It can't be just about the money. (8:07) Why should you get married? Marrying an entrepreneur a lot of times is seen with different expectations. You get married to someone because you love the person. Same thing with a business you start it because it's your livelihood something you enjoy and your purpose. (8:47) Find a business that makes you happy and gets you excited to wake up. If it drains you and you aren't excited to wake up and go you have to shift your dreams and find your purpose. (9:30) A happy marriage is far from a fairytale a lot of people have the wrong expectations about it. How do you shift and get excited to wake up to the same person every day?
Everyday you find something new to love in the other person and continue to grow in your relationship. Find the beauty in your partner. (10:38) You start a business because you are fighting for freedom not because it's going to give you freedom. You marry someone because you can't live without the person not because you expect them to make you happy. (11:17) When you have high expectations you end up feeling like you can't handle what's been given to you. (11:47) Don't make marriage so complicated, don't have high expectations. Give everything you have and expect nothing. It's so simple to have good communication and get a long. (13:15) When someone brings more pain than pleasure sometimes you can't stick around. A lot of people don't know whether it's something that's worth sticking around for. How do you know if after the pain it will get better?
A lot of people deal with the pain they get accustomed because it’s not as bad. After not being able to deal with it anymore you have to go out and seek help. Fix it and find the root of it then things will